Byll gaytes the man who said “if we do a really good job with vacc-ines, we can lower the world pop-ulation by 10, maybe 15%” in his 2010 Ted talk 😫🤦🏻♂️
Yeah really, I realized I apply a lot of these concepts while I'm at work as a manager of a lumber distribution facility. Taking control of some of these encounters especially with personel and customers is key in business.
From what I've noticed in real life, master manipulative people have a few very common traits : 1. Never say what they really think, they only say what they know you would like to hear 2. They come across as kind and good intentioned (it is the mask they wear) 3. They never get visibly angry and never argue directly Master manipulators never show signs of ill intentions, this is what makes it even more insidious.
@@freyintears Do you usually act and say things so that you gain people's trust and they do what you want? I will give you an example. My colleague from my previous work place (I worked there for 6 years and loved the job before she came in). She appeared nice and sweet and even offered to help with some things such as house hunting (which I didn't accept anyway as I like to do these things myself). Anyway for about 6 months I genuinely believed she was a sweet person. Then people's behaviour towards me at work started to change. Apparently she had befriended them too and knew exactly how to make them tick. She took about 20 phone numbers and would call them after work or before. I found out she would say things about me in an innocent way like for example.. She would pretend she is down and when people would ask her why she would lie that it's because of me, because I don't do my job properly and she has to work more. But then she would go ahead and say that she loved me and she didn't want to cause me trouble! I've known these people for years and many would believe all the suggestions and ideas she would implant in their heads. Oh yeah also one day the director asked me if I was happy with my job. I said yes, I still like what I do, why? He said he heard that I wasn't happy with my job anymore. Basically she told him this in an apparently 'well-intentioned' way so that she would implant in his mind that I have become desinterested. She knew damn well that every single one of her actions would cause me trouble but she did them so innocently, saying in the meantime that she cared about me. Another example, when I had proof in emails that would contradict what she wanted people to believe, she would delete the emails from clients, they would just disappear the next day. And everyone believed she was nice and well-intentioned.
@@k.b.6844 yikes. I'd confront someone like this. I had a shitty older coworker like this too that told management she thought I should be demoted (I told my friend and coworker this who told me this woman had constant cash loss issues because of her shortcomings/incompetence and who would make remarks about my appearance because I had showered before work and my hair was still wet. Like no dug my hair is wet, I know that) I refused to speak with her after she told me she told management that she thought I needed a demotion and when she'd say hi only then would I bullshit a friendly hello back. I never wanted to be at that job and am so happy I don't work there anymore lol a few of my coworkers through out my 2 years there were miserable. 3/4 of them were awful but thankfully they all quit or got moved before I left.
@@iLoveTheBamx well at least your old coworker admitted that she spoke to management about you. This woman never openly admitted to saying anything but I found out it was her from some people. That's the thing with master manipulators, it's not in your face. And I did confront her twice and she played the victim or the innocent..as if nothing had happened. I've also noticed that with these people, confronting them makes you seem like the bad guy because by that point, they already turned everyone against you..
The silent treatment, being unable to say no to them or talking in circles are the most common signs I’ve experienced! They’re so painfully obvious, and yet so effective - these videos are extremely helpful with recognizing these manipulation tactics! Thank you!
@@Skypop11037 But honestly, if feel like I don't wanna talk to someone because they did something that angered me, I think it's not that manipulativ. Some people like to talk about everything and some choose to not talk in certain situations...
I spent the last 8 years of my life believing I was manipulative, when in actuality I was gaslit by a narcissist into believing so. Nearly this entire video resonates with what I believe about myself, except that I wear my flaws on my sleeve and am VERY quick to apologize. I'm starting to feel this entire thing finally unravel itself backwards, and I can't even begin to describe how better off I am.
It's a crazy feeling, isn't it? In my case, the manipulator was a parent and I didn't start making the realizations until adulthood. And yes, being gaslit into feeling like you're a bad person or a manipulator is a terrible feeling. I hope that you can easily transition into the kind of healing and love and peace that you need to get past this ❤️❤️❤️
Conversely, the people that actually do behave these ways, and the ones that are told so, tend to want to believe anything with the slightest sense of legitimacy, to convince themself that they are being gaslit/not gaslighting someone. Gaslighting is such a horrible concept, as there´s no way of deducing whether it´s the case, without a long and very self-reflective open conversation about what´s going on to prompt the feeling of "gaslighting". More often than not, people will use it to validate something that goes against objective reality, usually with an extremely shortsighted view to their intentions only. This all goes as much for the person supposedly gaslighting, to the person supposedly being gaslightet. One of the best ways to deal with this, is not to stigmatize another person one way or the other with the term, and have a long and introspective and open conversation about intend, actions, and consequenses etc.
I’m in a similar boat to you. I’m sure my dad is a narcissist. I can’t tell if my last relationship the girl, or I was a narcissist but we brought out a lot of these behaviors. Some of my past relationships I’ve also brought some of these like “okay but if we…” not realizing I was doing that to get my way, instead thinking I’m just explaining different possibilities. It’s heart breaking to realize the subtle things you’ve done in the past or recently. At least when you realize some of these things you can work on changing them.
I would like to point out that the act of ignoring someone is not always manipulative. If someone is verbally abusing you and you didn't do anything to antagonize them, then ignoring that person actually is a reasonable response to verbal abuse. On the other hand, if you did something to antagonize the person and then ignore their response to it, preventing them from healthy resolution of their feelings, then yes, that's manipulative abuse.
I couldn't agree more with this. Sad truth is in a lot of super religious or conservative places, many children are being manipulated by their greedy selfish ass parents, but being brainwashed that ignoring and or running away from the toxic parents/family are a bad thing, sinful. So a lot of people don't and won't get help, and living in a excruciating situation.
@@corpsepuppy427 No, the difference is getting someone to react and shutting down their ability to get a response that would allow them to be calm and not overreact versus getting someone to just stop mistreating you. The second one isn't manipulation that's more trying to avoid being abused. If you were to pick at someone and then refuse to respond to their anger when they get upset and don't acknowledge them in any way and just ignore them, it's kind of abusive. Ignoring someone can be manipulation, but not always, and that's the point. I think not making that clear might mislead people into thinking that all times a person might ignore another is manipulative or abusive rather than it's only abusive depending on what's going on. @Vincent Lenart A lot of people are like this, and a lot of people go through this, and I've experienced it, too, more than once. I understand. I hope you can get away from it. @Cat Level I'm not religious so I wouldn't know about religious households.
It makes problems, too. People generally don't like being manipulated. Some people may not pick up that you're doing it, but people who have survived things like narcissistic abuse (or are themselves manipulators) will see through your tricks. I recently called out a former friend on his bad behavior (including manipulative BS), he responded by disappearing for a few weeks and then trying to tell all my friends that I'm secretly a bad person. Ironic.
I just saved myself from a 6 year intimate relationship with a MM. When I ended it, he told me he thought it was a great decision that I was ‘taking control of my life’. And, hoped we could still be friends. He always said we could talk about anything, that I could ask anything but we never did. This was so accurate on all 10 signs!
Is- is that Rashta in the thumbnail or am I just imagining it? That's so fitting, I don't hate her but she definitely is a manipulator. I love this channel so much! Edit: What I meant was I hate her actions not her as a person, though I'm starting to.With her past I can't blame her wanting to keep the safety she has, but her actions are still inexcusable. Sovieshu though- Edit: 1K?! I'm famous now, hehe Edit: 1.9K?? Jeez you all are inflating my non existent ego, ah thanks for the heart!
@@peterparker8462 truuuu Duke ergi has rashes(auto correct did that not me, im just letting is happen. If my keyboard thinks she's a rash, who am I to contradict 😌) wrapped around his little finger. I'm waiting for him to drop the act and watch how she tries to scramble out of the situation
I used to speak my mind in the heat of the moment in most times just to quickly regret doing so. Now I tend to do the "Silent treatment" not because I want to be passive aggressive but I don't want to speek before I think about it. Great video!
Actually that's only narcissists. Masters manipulators trick you into the opposite, thinking that you reach to a conclusion but it was their conclusion not yours
My mother used to give me the silent treatment for days ever since I was 10. I would get on my knees and beg for her to just speak to me again. But eventually it just became normal and I find myself almost doing it to others, I have to stop myself because I remember how it felt. For awhile I thought I was secretly manipulative like her.
Thats terrible that happened to you. That kind of behavior by a parent is emotional abuse intended to punish for not meeting some unspoken or unreasonable expectation. Its not fair to you.
@@taibatahir9704 That's where you just slap some sense into your mother for making you uncomfortable with the silent treatment. Otherwise, your dada would do so on your behalf.
@@MetalSStar196 my dad once caught her behaving like that and got angry on her but later she got angry on me that I'm pretending to be the victim and making my own parents fight... But now I've started to put distance between me and her . Like I don't care as much as I did before for the silent treatment, with time I will get better hopefully I'm making myself priority now I don't care what she feels I need to take care of what I feel now ..I'm exhausted and I can't take it anymore I love her but I need to love myself too ... Thank you for support it matters alot ❤️ all the support I get from online helps me to get better for myself ..
_Timestamps_ 0:55 - They don’t always seem intimidating 1:24 - They assume that humans are inherently evil 1:48 - They find a practical necessity for manipulation 2:22 - They like to embellish stories 2:47 - Their phrasing is ambiguous 3:15 - They use passive - agressiveness 3:52 - They often use others for personal gain 4:22 - You are scared to say no to them 4:49 - They talk in circles 5:24 - They are diagnosed with a personality disorder Hope this helped :)
There's tons of people out here that are so thankful for this channel.. it's changing lives everyday. The insight to apply what is said to our daily lives is simply remarkable. Thank all of you who put your time and effort into this. Your amazing..thank you so much
You are so wise. And people dont see this. I been emotionally and mentally abuse. and i find it hard for me to express my self so i say nothing. And i love to be alone cause i find peace in being alone. Cause i hate dealing with people. When im alone i know i have nothing to worry about. There's nothing external that can hurt me. There's no option for nothing external to hurt me. Cause its not there. But when something there it has a potential to do as it please. If its not there i have nothing to worry about.
But what is, if the person who is silent treating you also acts verbally passive-aggressive towards you (e.g. saying they would like to kill you, and then denying they did)? Is it a Form of manipulation or something else?
“Charisma has three points. The nature of a hero or prophet, the ability to simply make you feel good when you’re around them, and the intelligence to eloquently talk about all sorts of things,” - Saiga Jouji (Psycho Pass) Ever thought of making a Profiling video as I think this video is somewhat close to the meaning.
@@Psych2go You've caught my interest about writing about profiling or a better way to say being "Clinical Psychology", but I must say I'm not that bright when it comes to something like this. Well, I technically already got parts written, but not like a script and I'm not sure myself when it comes to profiling somebody as I tried to self teach myself about it and it didn't work out. I guess you could say it's a rough draft.
To the person who've suffered emotionally from manipulation, best to learn from it and move on. My experience tells me it isn't worth battling with manipulators because they will manipulate their way to winning. It won't make you less of a person to give up or avoid interactions on a manipulator. Manipulators mix well with manipulators and the earlier you recognize this, the better.
well but when the manipulator manipulates you, how are you learning from it? those "master manipulators" are most likely so good at what theyre doing that you wont notice unless they want you to. And afterwards you wont really learn from it bc its hard to cope for people who aint manipulating others. Also i must say this video isnt really true in my opinion. Manipulators, and even the really good ones tend to not manipulate everyone they know. Only the people they dont look at as "pure" are getting anal fucked with an 30" horse dildo lmao.
and also. Manipulators dont mix well with manipulators. Only if theyre both relativly bad at it. People who are very good with manipulating tend to go others out of the way bc they can read all they do or think when they talk.
@@Malik-hh4zq Thanks for sharing your opinion but what I said is aligned with my years of experience. If it isn't aligned with yours, then okay. Learning from the experience means being aware that they exist, early signs, and knowing better how to deal with it.
@@Malik-hh4zq this is so true. The manipulators always find a dumb side-kick who does all the dirty work at the cost of their own growth and progress. Sometimes these people never realise their own stupidity and others are too scared to point it out.
Thank you Psych2go, this video was really helpful for me. I dated a diagnosed sociopath. He would always dodge my important questions about him, and always ignored me when i stated things i would like from him in the relationship, like communication, and i see that it was a sign of how he was very manipulative. He would even make me question my own beliefs and morals. Now i understand more.
The algorithm needs a subscription, believe it or not, charm is used to manipulate a situation, are humans evil, misleading others is fun, do you believe every word you hear, it's called exaggeration or embellishment, the passive aggresive used slander to cope with the truth, the pressure will cause a reaction, deflect personnel questions to avoid it,it's a disorder if it ruins your life🆘🚩💲✅⛔
There's another good one an old "friend" used to use: he would sit there and pump up someone's ego by telling them how awesome they are, and everything they say is funny, and pretended he resonates with them so perfectly.. Subsequently, they'd drop thier guard
And then talk smack about them after they leave and make you feel like you're an accomplice for taking part in that conversation, at least that's what one of my ex friends did.
...This one bothers me a bit. See, I *love* complementing others and encourage them when they talk about something. But I do this because I genuinely like creating positive environments and making others feel better, not because I want them to “drop their guard”.
@Randomnamegeneratir it's all about intent. Someone being friendly to their crush is manipulation (as they want to be seen as nice). Dressing up for a job interview is manipulation (changing how you are seen to look good). Those kind of things aren't harmful, unless the user abuses it, hurting others intentionally. That's why compliments given to help people feel better aren't inherently bad unless the complimenter is intentionally using them to benefit in some selfish/harmful way
A manipulator can pretty much be summarized as one word: a coward. Someone who hides behind a shield of lies and deceit and avoids the consequences of their reality. You can tell they didn’t grow up with decent parenting in their life. Which is just as equally sad as them having to rely on cowardly behaviors in the first place. Honestly, they’re more of a disappointment than anything.
@@nifLeftynot really because they would go in and out of their way to control their victims such as killing and possibly sexual abuse because I don't know what coward what commit both of these crimes in order to control their victim
Blame the parents lol some people are beyond help, you can talk until you're blue in the face and still never change a manipulative person's/child's mind. Grow up.
It's my most favourite anime. But there's an underrated masterpiece anime, *Monster* (it's completely realistic even if it's name is Monster) and it's antagonist, *Johan Liebert* , might be the best manipulator ever created.
@@TheManOfTomorrow after watching death note I really wanted to see more anime like this but couldn't find any cause most of em are underrated... I'll definitely watch these anime you've mentioned... Plz tell if there are more like that
The simple thing to do is to treat everyone based on how they act. Because at the end of the day, we'll never really know whether they were truly manipulative, or it's just their personality. So we act based on how they act. That way we won't make a mistake. We won't mistreat them. We won't hurt anyone. And we won't hurt ourselves either. That's the best way to resolve anything. Respond properly, correctly, and not overdo it.
Heinley is actually at least as bad as Rashta It's just that Rashta is portrayed as the big bad guy in the series. She is in a kinda desperate position. Besides, she is pretty badly manipulated by Ergy and Rotteshu as she is surprisingly naive Sovie is just a bit stupid and very bad at communicating. As his marriage with Navier was a political one, finding a concubine was actually something that was seen as perfectly OK. Navier even tells Heinley that she will be ok with him finding a concubine Heinley. Where do I even start? - he is planning a war against the Eastern empire, while courting (later marrying) the empress of the Eastern empire - something about him doesn’t feel genuine - some have commented that he always smiles to people - he has a tendency to hold back the truth from Navier - he pushes her sexual and romantic borders to what is absolutely not ok - yes, he looks adorable, quirky and all that, but wasn't that the point of one of the points here? By how charming he is, I would bet HE is the main master manipulator in the series
Just want to note that manipulation can also be unintentional, a lot of people end up using manipulative techniques without realizing especially socially. I believe so long as they're not making it a trend or intentionally doing it to harm you it's not necessarily something to hugely worry about. In fact, it is very common in family dynamics, someone may sway you to do as they wish with your best interests in mind too unintentionally purely out of wanting the best for you. I'm not excusing people who are blatantly manipulative and actively use it as a means to get what they want. But more avoid being too critical of others who may exhibit these traits on a subconscious level. It's very easy to get lost and start distrusting all those around you, I know I have a tendency to have trust issues around others. Best wishes to all of you, and if you are being quite rudely manipulated on a consistent basis, cut that person out of your life or don't fear saying no to them, try not to resort to emotional responses either, most people will tug you in their direction to get a reaction out of you, invoke a response and in that control, they can provoke the response they want.
True manipulators don’t get caught for being a manipulator If you find someone who is truly manipulating you (on purpose) they most likely wanted you to know.
@@vappuluoma2918 maybe talk slowly while saying your opinion? Maybe tell her while standing up to show her that I mean it? Idk ask someone who knows what to do
@@vappuluoma2918 My mum is also one... She doesnt effect me anymore because I'm used to it. If she says something like i feed you everyday or I provide sheltor for you or something, just think about how that is the bare minimum for what a parent has to do for their child and how the law never says that a child needs to respect an adult.
I believe that humans are born egoistic and that the best thing to do ist teaching then that helping one another ist the fastest way of achieving your own goals.
a typical baby is a master manipulator. they need to be selfish to survive. Think of the weaker, less manipulative, baby birds that get pushed out of their nest.
Not true. There are innately good and bad people. It is fixed right from our birth. Coz the same experiences shape up a narcissist and a codependent. The choice you make is based on your own values that you are born with. This is why only some people can live by values like honesty, kindness...and others see it as a weakness. Our values are innate and even if it is taught to us by parents and teachers we will abide by it only if it's in us. And psychopaths are born not made by the environment. They have a dysfunctional brain right from birth.
I work with this type of person. For a time it was like torture, dude always tried to embarass me in front of other co-workers (especially when we had new ones for training), but later on I guess he realized that I'm not an enemy. We had many moments where I was just seconds from snapping, when it was noticeable, he suddenly stopped. This willingness to do psychological damage - instead of physical as you would normally expect out of someone who wants to hurt others - seems so devious to me. The guy is basically like a Chihuahua. Big talk, all the time, doesn't shut up. He must've went through a lot, but I'm not feeling sorry for him a bit after all I went through with him. I never really disliked anyone, I always tried to find something on a person to like, find a way to connect. With him, there's only co-existence. If anyone who's reading this is struggling with a similar person, know that what helped me was seeking a therapist and sharing it with my other co-workers. (In your case, it can be friends, family, classmates, anyone) Until I told them, I thought I was in the wrong, but I know I'm not. And I know you are not either. Share what you're feeling with someone, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and know that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
The thing is... As a borderline that have a boderline mom and a boderline grandmother, I hate manipulation and I hate that people assume that I am trying to manipulate them. I almost never lie (if I try people just know, I am a terrible liar), and I try to always be empathetic, admit my mistakes, I never assume people are trying to be evil, I think they only don't think as me. But, I am really sensitive, cry easily and explain my reason and way of thinking in a deep way... And as I am a boderline and my bf know, he, sometimes, think that I am trying to manipulate him with my feelings! I hate that so much! I am just expressing how I feel! I not even trying to make him do what I want, I am just explaining my side. So I really hate this word and hate the assumption that borderline are manipulative. This is really confuse and make me feel terrible. I feel that If I tell people how I feel they assume that is a manipulation... This is really terrible.
i feel that. I do that to others cause im afraid what they might think so i just pretend to yk get to them, but then i realized its bad to change yourself just because you want to be with them or vibe with them
7 out of 10. This video is no joke. Met a guy who seemed so shy, introverted and innocent. He had a good IT job and dressed normally but WOW what a monster he turned out to be. He emotionally abused me so hard I got sick and nearly died and while I was recovering, he continued and I was close to suicide but he accidentally stopped it by showing up right then. He ofc continued even after that, despite having pleaded that he hadnt understood how bad I was hurting and blaha. In reality he would tell me the most awful things about me and then smirk and wait for a reaction (he never got one, my intuition told me not to react so I waited until he left to break down) When I confronted him about it and asked why he told me he was after my reaction, he would blame it on the tv. "I saw it on hannibal, I didnt mean anything by it" Manipulative people are MONSTERS. They have NO empathy which is why they can lie so easily, no empathy and NO consciousness.
@@purplevanilla Yup, he loved horrormovies and watching documentaries about serial killers aswell and after a binge on that he told me "Okay, Im a psychopath, I admit it" He wasnt, he was schizophrenic with covert narcissism although my psychologist (had to go to therapy afetrwards, I was like a ragdoll emotionally when he was done with me) also put the diagnosis psychopath or antisocial personality disorder. However they lacked the deep education in the differences between narcissism and psychopathy in my opinion as most swedish psychologists do. As far as Ive read, he was a clear as day covert narcissist. "Boho..everybodys so mean to me but if I schred you, thats okay because I'm better than everyone else" To this day, and I am 47 years old, I have NEVER met anyone as disturbed as him.
What I find particularly difficult, is when others perceive you as manipulative, but you sincerely don't do so on purpose. Ultimately it feels like you're involuntarily toxic to the people around you. For instance, as someone with ASD, social interactions are very hard and draining on me. Especially when I have to put on a mask to act socially desirable. As such, when I'm in my private, comfort environment, it becomes outright impossible for me to "fake" anymore. Meaning the loved ones who see me in my direct environment tend to see me at my worst; when I'm crying, when I'm clearly angry or moody, completely drained of energy or freaking out about stuff. Sometimes that gets me accused of manipulation in order to get my way, or to get sympathy from others. But by all means, other than just avoiding everyone altogether, I don't know what I can do to "not" make them feel that way. I hate having them see me that way as much as it must be unpleasant for them, but I cannot prevent it. Also, when I truly have a breakdown, I reach a point where I become outright mute. It's weird and scary to me as well, it's like I forget how to talk. Like I can think of words, but they won't come out of my mouth. I just become completely unresponsive. These breakdowns always happen in situations where there's a lot of stress and anxiety, so often during fights with others. These people then take it as "me giving them the silent treatment" while again, it's not like I deliberately "ignore" them. Even when I explain my issues to someone, it is something that's incomprehensible to them, so such situations keep on being upsetting to them regardless. Overall it's truly frustrating when you want to work through your issues, fail to do so, and know you're impacting the loved ones around you negatively in the process.
Since you’re self aware that you are difficult to have a friendship with because of these draining traits, you can use that self awareness as a launching pad to make slow incremental change. Perhaps a therapist would be better, but lots of times friends are willing to stick it out if there’s improvement, because they genuinely want what’s best for you, they just have their limits (everyone does). What this would mean is when you know you have behaved in a way that exhausts, stresses, or otherwise negatively affected your friends, you must spend at least an equal if not greater amount of time where it’s not about you. You ask them about their life, problems, feelings, what they need. You listen and empathize, you offer help and keep your thoughts away from you and your issues and give them the floor. This will recharge the friendship battery so it’s not so one sided. They will feel cared for if you take the actions necessary to care for them. If you don’t do this, you will start to see they care for you less and less. It’s hard to continue to care about someone and offer support when it’s not experienced as reciprocal. If YOU were venting about a difficult relationship that you had with someone where the other persons mental health was in worse condition than yours, and so you had to deal with all sorts of issues due to the health difference, your friends would notice the affect it had on you over time and compel you to leave because it would be negatively affecting YOUR mental health, even if the person you were with wasn’t a bad person. That is what friends should do for each other. Help us see pictures clearly and push us to make the right decision even when it’s not easy. You may believe that you care about your friends but that won’t matter if they can’t feel it, and you will know that they feel it when you make the effort truly and fully. If you don’t they will eventually conclude that either you can’t reciprocate or you don’t consider the friendship worth the effort to keep. And they’ll be right. Relationships to other people that are healthy and mutually beneficial are the best way to get your mental health under control. They will not be offered to you as gifts because they can’t. You have to be actively making them healthy even in your state of low health. It’s hard, but it’s worth trying, and you will get better and better at it with practice. Good luck.
Ultimately being manipulative (or being perceived as such) is not beneficial to myself either, seeing as it only fills me with guilt toward loved ones, and self-hatred over being like this and impacting others with it.
Form boundaries. Say I need time to myself please don't take it personal. Or this is me. Like me or not. Why are you wearing a mask..for who. If someone doesn't excepting of you then your around the wrong friends
Maybe you’re already doing this, but getting professional help (consistently) is one way you can show your loved ones that you are at least trying not to hurt them anymore.
@@chikaka2012 I've been in very intensive therapy for some 8-9 years now I think. Tried a variety of things; A psychologist, cognitive-behavioural therapist, hippotherapy, 2 different psychiatrists, had a longer period intake in a mental health hospital, and support from other specialized instances, to no avail. Your advice is good and definitely something that aids in showing your loved ones "see, I'm trying!" But the drawback is that, overtime you lose faith that any of these things really help you (I've been trying for so long, so many different things, and nothing has changed), and you really seek out therapy for the sole reason of "this way others can't tell me -you are not even trying-"
My so called friend is a manipulator. He once implied he was gay maybe to identify whether or not Im gay as well. Now, I no longer see signs of it. We've had numerous conversations where he narrated his manipulation skills and he also implied how much he knows of social situations. He never makes eye contact with me and always cuts me off when I speak. The guy is a great storyteller as well. I think my other classmates are also in it as well all targeting me. But it doesn't take me long to realize. Now, I'll play along and see how they'll manipulate me so I can learn something from them. You won't be harmed from manipulation if you know how to extract good in it. I just act oblivious but deep inside I read them really well. They do not realize I am only using them as an environment to develop myself. Now, I'll just act weak and play with them
Thank you for explaining. Because my daughter has been diagnosed with Bipolar. And I'm with Generalized anxiety disorder. Both are mood disorder, right?
@@raynatha4450 General anxiety disorder is an anxiety disorder which is different from mood disorders. It's more commonly a vague label used temporarily until your therapist can narrow down the cause of the anxiety. It can be related to phobias, past or present abuse, and/or PTSD, as well as with co-existing illnesses. Any sort of big traumatic experience can cause anxiety because of the sudden and violent event shocks all of your systems and can create anxiety from the fear of it happening again or having flashbacks of the experience (which can affect the lymphatic system among others, causing the mental stress to translate into physiological bodily stress), so it's just like being in a constant state of hyper vigilance or being overly sensitive to any number of stimuli triggers that will throw you into an anxiety attack in a worst case scenario. So it's best to get into see a therapist appropriate to your needs as soon as possible so you can skip to the important part and figure out how to identify, discuss, and resolve the problematic bits. And remember, therapy is a safe place to express yourself in confidence and that your feelings and experiences are 100% valid and real. 😊💚 I was misdiagnosed as "Unipolar" or "major depressive disorder" depending on what doctor I had seen. Took me years before I was finally diagnosed with BPD. It's difficult to get a formal diagnosis unless a person displays a minimum of 5 out of 9 criteria requirements for the diagnosis. BPD is a mood and emotional dysregulation disorder. Due to the dysregulation, this makes us impulsive and hyper emotional/sensitive towards others with a irrational fear of abandonment. My brother was diagnosed with type 2 Bipolar when he was younger. He's doing much better now, but it was rough in the beginning for him. He would be in a manic phase and giddy, then crash and sit bawling his eyes out. But his would last weeks with his manic phases while my emotions would change within hours of each other in emotional highs and lows.
@@raynatha4450 and you're quite welcome 😁 I hope I was able to help and I hope that you have a great night. Be kind to yourself, anxiety can and will go away once you get it sorted out through medication and work out your shadow work with talk therapy. Resolve the mental and heal the physical. This is purest goal of the field of psychology. 😊 Our brains are funny like that.
@@missfoxglove8989 I can't thank you enough for your explanations. It's really an eye opening. And I'm more aware now to deal with my daughter with her bipolar behaviour. For this 6 years already I'm battling GAD, it was right after I got serious reaction of allergic to a certain medicine. I got anaphylaxis reaction where I was almost had breathing failure. Since then, I experienced so many "phobias". Before, I was a quite brave person. After that, brave is an act that I have to choose forcefully to survive day by day. I'm under my psychiatry medication treatment now. And got anti depressant and anti anxiety pills. It helps me to stay calmer and relax. Hope one day I can be healed completely. And no more medication. Anw, hope you stay safe and healthy, my friend. :)
@FerzzyYou're quite welcome! 😊 well mood disorders can be managed through mood stabilizing medications as well as cognitive behavioral therapy to help reframe negative thoughts so that the patient can work on their self-awareness, building up their positive self-talk and self-esteem. With personality disorders, they require intensive Dialectical behavioral therapy so that they can learn to better handle their own behaviors, self-talk, and how they can learn to interact in an ethical manner toward others outside of themselves. DBT is specifically designed for personality disorders treatment. It's a 3 month long group therapy where each patient is there to help support themselves and each other and to hold each other accountable for their actions in an honest manner with ourselves and others. (I'm a patient in this particular therapy style). From my experience, it's very useful and does work so long as the patient sticks it out and actually wants to better themselves. Which is true for all therapy types; it will only work if *you* want it to work and you're open to change occurring internally within you.
1. They don’t always seem intimidating 2. They assume that humans are inherently evil 3. They find a practical necessity for manipulation 4. They like to embellish stories 5. Their phrasing is ambiguous 6. They use passive aggressiveness 7. They often use others for personal gain 8. You’re scared to say no to them 9. They talk in circles 10. They’re diagnosed with a personality disorder Hope everyone is doing well, and if you’re not, keep your head up, you will be soon ❤️
If someone tries to make you think that they deserve anything from you or get angry if you dont do something, or act like they are entitled to certain things. That is most likely a manipulative "friend"
I'm guessing it is the manic side of bipolar. Although, manic people are often the ones to give away all their money, which is the opposite of what a manipulator would do. personally, I fit a bunch of the manipulator traits, but I don't see my depressed anti-social self with no friends as being a manipulator. Maybe I am a manipulator that is extremely bad at it?
the "hate-you-when-you're-here" but "can't-live-without-you-when-you're-gone-please-come-back-or-i'll-kill-myself" kind of symptom/tactic? have only read about BPD, so i'm armchair guessing (take this reply with salt)
Got to be honest, this master manipulator role often landed to me in many cases. Yes, someone has to do this sort of job at times.. It doesn't always seem bad... Most of the time, despite my protests, I am dragged into a position where people insisted me to lead them. I don't like leadership but mostly I am dragged into it. So yeah, I often ask what their expectations, and I just don't offer my opinion unless needed.. I usually ask others with wide smile and politely and they would just go with my plan... And when I had a conflict with some selfish people in the community, most people backed me up even when I did not rally everyone to do it. But then again, I don't want to do everything for my own gain. Yes, I could be manipulative but I do that in accordance to people's expectations. And yes I keep asking others what they think as well... Sometimes being manipulative is needed in order to get people agree for a greater good. By the way, I suppose master manipulator can also be seen as "master strategist" too because part of strategize process is... To manipulate the factors against us to be used for our gain
@@amandaslough125 I would say I was IN the stage for 1-2 years and it took about the same amount of time to get out of it. I still have my moments though. It you’re trying to learn how to avoid being manipulative it’s good to surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and work with you where you’re at.
Growing up with a master manipulator as a parent left me with a series of disorders. If you're a minor and suspect your parents might be one, reach out and never give up even if you aren't taken seriously at first.
I had a friend who always said “everyone just uses everyone” which mad him think it was good to use other people. That made me mad cause no, I don’t have friends because I have an intent to use them. He would excuse his manipulating by the argument that he was “helping” me. I feel guilty cause he manipulated me for about 6 months or so and I just pretended i wasn’t aware Mkay I usually hate those comments who thank for the likes but bro I was just venting so ty
It's sad how some people can just mask helping with manipulating just to gain information or leverage. The phrase "have you ever told someone something fearing they would use it against you" is pretty messed up and makes you think twice about trusting anyone
Some people probably adapted these habits from their surrounding (like family, parents school environment), their own insecurity, or their need for attention caused by abandonment or ignorance since their childhood. Give them a little empathy, tho its not on you to make them change, or wait for them to change, just hold them accountable if you can, and the rest is up to them whether they realize it or not.
You're lying, you don't have friends because you're anti social. And also, there are forms of manipulation which do not harm anyone at all not financially,not mentally nor physically. Maybe try those instead of this "will to manipulate"
These are my notes gained from this video, please critique. Don't always seem intimidating. • Many don't. • Charm. • Perpetuate abuse. • Reeling back in. • Mask negative feelings. Assume people are naturally evil. • Believe people are dishonest. • Believe people are naturally going to take advantage of one another. Find practical necessities for manipulation. • Bending ethics. • Misleading others. • Taking advantage of others for a greater benefit. • Justify their manipulation, often with personal ease. Like embellishing stories. • Gain empathy. • Sway emotions. Ambiguous phrasing. • Example: "Your choice, but…" • Sway others into other forms of thinking. • Others steered into doing things their way. • Accommodating attitude. Passive-aggressiveness. • Example: Silent treatment. • Cause emotionally painful. • Snide comments. • Spread gossip. Use others for personal gain. • Example: Use others as shields, even against minor threats. Scared to say no to them. • Apply pressure to change minds. • Make people wary of the consequences. Talk in circles. • Dodge questions. • Change subjects. • Convince others they are wrong in order to avoid accepting fault. • Very intentional and precise with language. • Attempt to have the conversation progress naturally while still serving their own desires. Have a personality disorder. • Can rise from a combination of personality disorders. • Examples include: Borderline Personality Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive PD, Bipolar Disorder, Antisocial PD. • Can harm or sabotage long term relationships.
All my respect for using manipulative manga and manwha characters as examples. Seeing Rashta and Malty gave me joy. I LOVE these little Easter eggs ✨ Your content is amazing. I'm always impressed with the quality of the videos. Thank you for making psychology more accessible ❤️
There's an entire profession that is built on manipulation in its entirety: marketing. Going by the comments here with so many references to anime and game characters, I think the manipulators are doing a splendid job of playing people for fools.
I felt like a manipulator before, but i am not sure, if it is just because of me being an INTP. I mean, observing structures, for example social structures and being fascinated by trying to crack the code or understanding the system in combination with an own set of morals which often do not follow common belief seems like a solid foundation for a manipulator. If you add "thinking of yourself as smarter than others", that seems almost predetermined...
Hello, another INTP here. While you think you've been a manipulator at some point in your life, throughout my life I've been trying to help people identify a manipulator. Personally, I really appreciate and honor honesty. so when I sense some lie or falsehood from someone, a manipulation in action, i always question their statement and avoid interacting with them if they can't be honest about their intentions. Our difference is probably how we use the knowledge of social structure. While you play the game, i prefer to warn people not to play the game.
@@r-7498 WAAAAAAIIT I do the same without realising, likeee, some people are too blind that they are being manipulted just because the person they are talking with looks pure and funny and sweet.
I just wanna share that I've dated someone that has all of these traits mentioned!! I'm so proud to say that I got out of it myself, and I even stood up for myself! I might have let him control me, but I really could care less anymore!! I'm about to graduate from college in 2 more months after what happened to me after all of it happened long ago!!! I also really wanna say if I did it, anyone can!! Proud to be me!!! (:
Felt same way around but it was my girlfriend. I recently broke up with her and got out of it but we're still besties and see each other everysay. Dk how I feel about it kinda feels like I'm getting manipulated still.
You're amazing you got out of it by yourself!!! I also dated someone who is manipulative and I developed a trauma bond with them consistently manipulating me. I stayed with them fpr a year and 8 month until I finally broke that cycle of emotional and mental abuse!! I'm now so much better :)
They convince you into believing that they are the perfect match you could ask for, someone who's ready to do anything for the relationship just to make you say yes
Oh, I became the scapegoat of a person just like this. Her peers still believe I'm the manipulator because she told them so. Man, she has all 10 traits lol
Idk saying people with personality disorders is a sign you’re dealing with a. Manipulator is further pushing a stigma that a lot of people with these disorders have to deal with
they clearly said it's not a pre-requisite to have a personality disorder to be a manipulator. It's just that manipulators may often be people having personality disorders.
@@WellnessBringer And? How does that push a stigma? I might die if I drive a car? Does that make cars bad? I get where you coming from but I feel your pulling at thin air here and when you do others see your comment and think its a real issue (edit: it is a real issue but I don't think this is how we solve it, its important to talk about it in its full form). 2nd edit: I could be wrong about all this lol, just woke up.
After 9 years she kicked me out. Brutal & heartless. She claimed I'm abusive. Looking back I remember her saying "My ex said I am a master manipulator" But of course I made the mistake thinking she wouldn't do it to me, and that there was something wrong with him. Oh my. I'm still healing.
Lived with a few of these manipulator types. This video has it spot on. I always tried to see things from the point of view of others, but it took me years to realise that some of the people close to me are just genuinely unpleasant.
The thing you said about manipulators usually being 'innocent' fits Trashta _perfectly_ because istg that girl cries every other episode about something stupid-
I was insulted when my psychologist suggested I was a master manipulator. I never saw myself that way since I never did anything nefarious or evil. He did say it’s not always a bad thing. I just use it to help myself in specific situations 🤷🏻♂️
i had this “friend” that always acted like another girl was her best friend, then would talk behind her back. She would call her dramatic when she got a splinter and got off the trampoline, not shedding a tear. but when we brought up the time she cried when my mom wasn’t home with food and she cried, she said it was because she was a “fatty” then we would have to tell her “no don’t say that!” (these stories happened when we were 9-12.)
I had a friend in highschool who ticked most of these off. She was passive aggressive, used people as shields, did basically anything that would make her the victim. and she wasn't intimidating in the slightest. I wonder what would happen to you if you had a crush on someone like this?
Some people probably adapted these habits from their surrounding (like family, parents school environment), their own insecurity, or their need for attention caused by abandonment or ignorance since their childhood. Give them a little empathy, tho its not on you to make them change, or wait for them to change, just hold them accountable if you can, and the rest is up to them whether they realize it or not.
My ex friends called me manipulative but my real friends know I am to dumb to even know what being manipulative is let alone being a master manipulator :) This video was very interesting your channel is awesome
Each one of these points is actually neutral unless all used together except passive aggressive, using, pressure, talking in circles or having a disorder.
0:58 So... is no one going to talk about how they referenced Malty from Rising of the Shield Hero? Very good example of a charming manipulator. Edit: 2:11 Yanfei reference from Genshin Impact.
My mom fits perfectly in this description, and I've noticed it since i was little, and that probably was the reason I've always tough it was normal to do so. These days i'm 21, and even tho i learned to feel bad when manipulating someone without their knowledge, I've discovered that, i don't really feel as bad if manipulating someone blatantly, w/some people easily being able to point out what i'm doing, and it still works, arguably better than if you tried w/out their knowledge. i guess people appreciate honesty, even if the intent is to manipulate.
3:55 love the Remarried Empress reference!! Yeah I saw a few people who said that if Trashta was the MC we would hate Navier, but I disagree because she is very manipulative and we would've known from the start if that's the case.
@@puresadness5405 so I'm actually not so sure, but since there was a Remarried Empress reference from Webtoon, I think this character is the MC from a Webtoon called "Your Throne". I hope this helps. 🙂
Recently I stopped talking to a friend who had a lot of these tendencies, at the beginning of our friendship I always felt inferior to her, and when she would deploy these techniques I never really realised it. Later on though, after I started building up my confidence and a backbone, I did start calling her out whenever she was manipulative. At one point she tried guilt tripping me, which I called out, then she tried gaslighting and lying to me about it which I also called her out on. After that point it kind of wasn't the same. After she left my city, where she was staying for a couple weeks, she started taking hours to respond which was very unlike her and started lying about what she was doing and so I called her out on it and told her if she didn't want to talk to me then the least she could is just tell me, and the amount of excuses and lies she made. Like oh I'm just not in a social mood, or I haven't had any time, etc. And she finally admitted at the end that she didn't care about me anymore or want to talk to me anymore these days, and that was it. We stopped talking, then like 3 days later she sent me a TikTok out of nowhere and never said anything. At first I was kind of relieved because I still wanted to be friends with her. I valued the time I spent with her, I liked her personality when she wasn't manipulative and acted childish and excited about different things, so I responded and I sent her a TikTok back but she never responded so I got annoyed and deleted those messages and simply asked her if she sent that TikTok by mistake and she still hasn't responded 4 days later. Is this another manipulative technique to see if she still has my attention or could have this been a genuine accident and if so why wouldn't she say it was or why wouldn't have she deleted it after she sent it if it was by accident?
Oof yeah I definitely have some of those habits but I've learned that it came from heavy manipulative parents/family. I can tell when I am being manipulative, then I correct myself for a second. I'm happy to say that through the years, I've finally fully came out and stood up to my habits, embraced them, and am un-teaching myself to do them. So proud of the baddies out there, growing from their trauma
Lol if u have time then read it,I feel I texted too much im sry.But I just don't know how to get to the point real quick and I feel ppl won't bother enough to care or read long texts when it's abt urself or irl so I don't really share anything or nothing at all unless I feel the need to or unless I'm close with them and I think that's normal maybe ,mainly cuz I had trust issues so I have this idc personality so I'm always misunderstood to think abt me only when actually i care a LOT esp with parents bcz I just want some privacy and acceptance on how I think diff but def not for all but for some.
1:31 Medea (From Your Throne webtoon)? 2:17 Yanfei (From Genshin Impact videogame)? 4:00 Trashta and Sovieshit (From remarried empress webtoon)? 6:29 Among us! Also great video, I love my sister but I can see how mainipulative she can be with people outside from familiy and it kinda scares me bc I'm not even sure if she's being herself when she's around me
I feel it's important to note that manipulation can be a good thing in certain situations. Case in point manipulating a manipulator into showing their true colors in order to get their victim to wake up to the truth. If u have the power then use it for good and only when other methods fail
Exactly..Its more of some intelligence I feel when u use it for good.. But how do use it for good lol jst wanna know bcz sometimes it tends to be good and sometimes bad,so how do u know?
@@israhmanal8296 thats where discretion and restraint are important. like violence, manipulation should be used only when ABSOLUTLY NECESARY. if youre not certain then dont do it instead do more digging exhaust other options learn more about the situation. because if you dont keep that particular monster in check it WILL destroy everything you care about.
I had a sleep paralysis with hallucinations and I was really scared of sleeping again, I simply just couldn't stop thinking, but I saw your videos and your voice calmed me, and I got some rest. Thank u soo much.
These kind of video wouldn't need to exist if the world wasn't that bad... But we need it, so, we have to accepting that, we have to accept this world, even if sometimes it seems to be complete shit
Well we humans have more emotions for example dogs dont feel guilt. Animals cant feel shame, self pity and they dont have mixed emotions. They dont have love-hate relationships too. So when out of control they manifest into something like that
@@nolene1821 i haven't done any research, but I don't think that's true. Oftentimes my cat will act remorseful if I catch it doing something it shouldn't. I tell it "bad girl" in an upset tone and often it'll run, then come back a few minutes later for pettings, which she doesn't really ask for often. Maybe she's just a master manipulator lol. Dogs may not have a love hate relationship with their owner, but I've seen owners mistreat a dog just for it to still stay loyal and obedient to the owner. Its odd.
having been raised by a manipulative mother, i've learned to tell when someone's trying to manipulate me, it's actually easy for me to identify, but i show some of these signs in myself because i know how to avoid letting manipulation get under my skin
some people are so damned good at manipilation that you won't even know you've been taken across till it's over. your money is gone and so are they, be careful . when you say no they say why not. this is when you simply say "i choose not to". that usually stops them.
Great video! Just to clear up a misconception though, bipolar disorder is not a personality disorder. It is a mood disorder. For some reason it is often confused for borderline personality disorder but the two are actually completely different.
Came here to check whether i was actually manipulative or not, cuz I've been thinking that for a long time...I AM 🙂 I've noticed it from the past 2-3 years that I've become more introverted also I am on a higher level of observation compared to others around me, I notice almost everything around me. I am often seen as a quiet person people often misunderstand me for someone who wouldn't do or say anything, and yeah i wouldn't either but just not anything physically (i clearly know everyone's triggers and sometimes get the urge to do something, i know it sounds evil but i could call it my reaallyy guilty of a pleasure, to play with people's minds). I KNOW how i can easily manipulate ANYONE around me into my favour and can even make them go crazy. But since i am well aware of the consequences I don't use it against them. It happens rarely, but the last time it happened i was feeling a little bit guilty, i don't mean any harm to people around me but sometimes i loose my conscience and am no longer in control of my thoughts, they take over my mind like black clouds in the sky 😵💫 I'm sorry if this seems totally random (which it is 😅) but it all just came to my mind so i thought maybe share it with someone to see if anyone else relates. (If someone can tell about how to control it please do....) Thank you if you cared to read till the end ❤🙏🏻
How is everyone doing today?
Great...
Decent
Up and down, but I’m grateful for the ride 💓
sick bro
Working but I’m out in one hour! Other than that I’m good!
"The true manipulator never has a reputation for manipulating" - Gill Bates
Gill Bates that's funny 😅
Haha so glad I just got out of a manipulative relationship - makes all this current nonsense MUCH easier to navigate 😁
It's like smugglers or thieves, if you're known, you're not doing it right
Byll gaytes the man who said “if we do a really good job with vacc-ines, we can lower the world pop-ulation by 10, maybe 15%” in his 2010 Ted talk 😫🤦🏻♂️
yup
Sounds like master manipulators would fit the role of bosses very well.
They do
It's their job
Yeah really, I realized I apply a lot of these concepts while I'm at work as a manager of a lumber distribution facility. Taking control of some of these encounters especially with personel and customers is key in business.
Are you talking about the toxic bosses where they are thinking for purely self gain?
@@Psych2go there are other kinds?
From what I've noticed in real life, master manipulative people have a few very common traits :
1. Never say what they really think, they only say what they know you would like to hear
2. They come across as kind and good intentioned (it is the mask they wear)
3. They never get visibly angry and never argue directly
Master manipulators never show signs of ill intentions, this is what makes it even more insidious.
Very true
Isn't that just trying to not be rude??? Idk bc it's what I usually do
@@freyintears Do you usually act and say things so that you gain people's trust and they do what you want?
I will give you an example. My colleague from my previous work place (I worked there for 6 years and loved the job before she came in). She appeared nice and sweet and even offered to help with some things such as house hunting (which I didn't accept anyway as I like to do these things myself). Anyway for about 6 months I genuinely believed she was a sweet person. Then people's behaviour towards me at work started to change. Apparently she had befriended them too and knew exactly how to make them tick. She took about 20 phone numbers and would call them after work or before. I found out she would say things about me in an innocent way like for example.. She would pretend she is down and when people would ask her why she would lie that it's because of me, because I don't do my job properly and she has to work more. But then she would go ahead and say that she loved me and she didn't want to cause me trouble! I've known these people for years and many would believe all the suggestions and ideas she would implant in their heads.
Oh yeah also one day the director asked me if I was happy with my job. I said yes, I still like what I do, why? He said he heard that I wasn't happy with my job anymore. Basically she told him this in an apparently 'well-intentioned' way so that she would implant in his mind that I have become desinterested. She knew damn well that every single one of her actions would cause me trouble but she did them so innocently, saying in the meantime that she cared about me. Another example, when I had proof in emails that would contradict what she wanted people to believe, she would delete the emails from clients, they would just disappear the next day. And everyone believed she was nice and well-intentioned.
@@k.b.6844 yikes. I'd confront someone like this. I had a shitty older coworker like this too that told management she thought I should be demoted (I told my friend and coworker this who told me this woman had constant cash loss issues because of her shortcomings/incompetence and who would make remarks about my appearance because I had showered before work and my hair was still wet. Like no dug my hair is wet, I know that) I refused to speak with her after she told me she told management that she thought I needed a demotion and when she'd say hi only then would I bullshit a friendly hello back. I never wanted to be at that job and am so happy I don't work there anymore lol a few of my coworkers through out my 2 years there were miserable. 3/4 of them were awful but thankfully they all quit or got moved before I left.
@@iLoveTheBamx well at least your old coworker admitted that she spoke to management about you. This woman never openly admitted to saying anything but I found out it was her from some people. That's the thing with master manipulators, it's not in your face. And I did confront her twice and she played the victim or the innocent..as if nothing had happened. I've also noticed that with these people, confronting them makes you seem like the bad guy because by that point, they already turned everyone against you..
The silent treatment, being unable to say no to them or talking in circles are the most common signs I’ve experienced! They’re so painfully obvious, and yet so effective - these videos are extremely helpful with recognizing these manipulation tactics! Thank you!
What does talking in circles mean please ?
@@dana-ky5mg Not getting to the point or successfully avoiding the subject (that they were probably asked about)
@@Jansku1111 i see thanks!
I remember that I used the silent treatment ( without knowing it was a manipulation tactic) because I was angry. Now I know better.
@@Skypop11037 But honestly, if feel like I don't wanna talk to someone because they did something that angered me, I think it's not that manipulativ.
Some people like to talk about everything and some choose to not talk in certain situations...
I spent the last 8 years of my life believing I was manipulative, when in actuality I was gaslit by a narcissist into believing so. Nearly this entire video resonates with what I believe about myself, except that I wear my flaws on my sleeve and am VERY quick to apologize. I'm starting to feel this entire thing finally unravel itself backwards, and I can't even begin to describe how better off I am.
It's a crazy feeling, isn't it?
In my case, the manipulator was a parent and I didn't start making the realizations until adulthood. And yes, being gaslit into feeling like you're a bad person or a manipulator is a terrible feeling.
I hope that you can easily transition into the kind of healing and love and peace that you need to get past this ❤️❤️❤️
Conversely, the people that actually do behave these ways, and the ones that are told so, tend to want to believe anything with the slightest sense of legitimacy, to convince themself that they are being gaslit/not gaslighting someone.
Gaslighting is such a horrible concept, as there´s no way of deducing whether it´s the case, without a long and very self-reflective open conversation about what´s going on to prompt the feeling of "gaslighting".
More often than not, people will use it to validate something that goes against objective reality, usually with an extremely shortsighted view to their intentions only.
This all goes as much for the person supposedly gaslighting, to the person supposedly being gaslightet.
One of the best ways to deal with this, is not to stigmatize another person one way or the other with the term, and have a long and introspective and open conversation about intend, actions, and consequenses etc.
I'm glad it's not just me that felt this way!
I’m in a similar boat to you. I’m sure my dad is a narcissist. I can’t tell if my last relationship the girl, or I was a narcissist but we brought out a lot of these behaviors. Some of my past relationships I’ve also brought some of these like “okay but if we…” not realizing I was doing that to get my way, instead thinking I’m just explaining different possibilities. It’s heart breaking to realize the subtle things you’ve done in the past or recently. At least when you realize some of these things you can work on changing them.
It will be the best day of your life when you let go these kind of people from your life.
I would like to point out that the act of ignoring someone is not always manipulative. If someone is verbally abusing you and you didn't do anything to antagonize them, then ignoring that person actually is a reasonable response to verbal abuse. On the other hand, if you did something to antagonize the person and then ignore their response to it, preventing them from healthy resolution of their feelings, then yes, that's manipulative abuse.
This is currently being done to me. It's excruciating.
I couldn't agree more with this. Sad truth is in a lot of super religious or conservative places, many children are being manipulated by their greedy selfish ass parents, but being brainwashed that ignoring and or running away from the toxic parents/family are a bad thing, sinful. So a lot of people don't and won't get help, and living in a excruciating situation.
@@CatLevel ill get out of that sitipuation one day
It is manipulating always.
@@corpsepuppy427 No, the difference is getting someone to react and shutting down their ability to get a response that would allow them to be calm and not overreact versus getting someone to just stop mistreating you. The second one isn't manipulation that's more trying to avoid being abused. If you were to pick at someone and then refuse to respond to their anger when they get upset and don't acknowledge them in any way and just ignore them, it's kind of abusive. Ignoring someone can be manipulation, but not always, and that's the point. I think not making that clear might mislead people into thinking that all times a person might ignore another is manipulative or abusive rather than it's only abusive depending on what's going on.
@Vincent Lenart A lot of people are like this, and a lot of people go through this, and I've experienced it, too, more than once. I understand. I hope you can get away from it.
@Cat Level I'm not religious so I wouldn't know about religious households.
Manipulation is easy, the hard part is being a good person and not do it even though you know damn well it would save you problems.
Well said
Facts
It's much easier when you decide life isn't fun when you don't care for anyone.
Yep but that's society
It makes problems, too. People generally don't like being manipulated. Some people may not pick up that you're doing it, but people who have survived things like narcissistic abuse (or are themselves manipulators) will see through your tricks. I recently called out a former friend on his bad behavior (including manipulative BS), he responded by disappearing for a few weeks and then trying to tell all my friends that I'm secretly a bad person. Ironic.
I just saved myself from a 6 year intimate relationship with a MM. When I ended it, he told me he thought it was a great decision that I was ‘taking control of my life’. And, hoped we could still be friends. He always said we could talk about anything, that I could ask anything but we never did. This was so accurate on all 10 signs!
Is- is that Rashta in the thumbnail or am I just imagining it? That's so fitting, I don't hate her but she definitely is a manipulator. I love this channel so much!
Edit: What I meant was I hate her actions not her as a person, though I'm starting to.With her past I can't blame her wanting to keep the safety she has, but her actions are still inexcusable. Sovieshu though-
Edit: 1K?! I'm famous now, hehe
Edit: 1.9K?? Jeez you all are inflating my non existent ego, ah thanks for the heart!
I think you mean Trasha 😏
Oh I knew she reminded me of someone and it’s her.
I thought the girl on the thumbnail looked familiar.
OMG FELLOW FELLOW EMPRESS FANS,
but yeah I'm pretty sure that's trashta
YES!!!!
In short, if they act like Rashta, they're a God at manipulating.
From: The Remarried Empress
Actually, I don't think that she's that good, just that Sovieshu is soo easy. Duke Ergi on the other hand...
*trashta
@@-a-1889 i find it hilarious that the spanish fans call her "Rata"
@@peterparker8462 truuuu Duke ergi has rashes(auto correct did that not me, im just letting is happen. If my keyboard thinks she's a rash, who am I to contradict 😌) wrapped around his little finger. I'm waiting for him to drop the act and watch how she tries to scramble out of the situation
@@lonlons4668 ratata :D
First sign:
His name is Light Yagami/Kira.
HAHAHAHA THIS IS TOO PERFECT 😂
The second sign is that he eats potato chips too deliberately
@@guacamoleman3253 Third sign: He tends to have a killer smile.
@@HaloJumper7 hes studying way too much than usual.
@@doulikemyname1685 Fourth sign: Everything he does is just as he planned.
I used to speak my mind in the heat of the moment in most times just to quickly regret doing so.
Now I tend to do the "Silent treatment" not because I want to be passive aggressive but I don't want to speek before I think about it.
Great video!
Whoever is the animator, narrator, the people who run down this channel, etc. please know that ilyall
so much
i love her voice
Her voice is smooth
Manyyy
i never thought that i would see trashta as a thumbnail for psych2go 👁👄👁
Same.
Me too!
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Same but I not complaining. She totally belongs in the thumbnail of this vid!
Call her Rashta
Heinley is the douchebag
You will never leave a tough discussion with a manipulator/narcissist and be like, “We really got somewhere with that talk.”.
My ex husband. Bleh!
Yuuuuuup
Hit the nail on the head OMG.
So fucking true.
Actually that's only narcissists. Masters manipulators trick you into the opposite, thinking that you reach to a conclusion but it was their conclusion not yours
Sometimes I come here just to listen to your voice 😂 it’s so warm and comforting. Thank you.
If somebody is a master manipulator you will most likely never find out he/she is manipulating you
Or you only find out in hindsight.
Well I've lived with her for fourteen years
exactly!
Idk but I got allot of good from manipulating bad people
Or encourage others to manipulate you. Plausible Denial.
My mother used to give me the silent treatment for days ever since I was 10. I would get on my knees and beg for her to just speak to me again. But eventually it just became normal and I find myself almost doing it to others, I have to stop myself because I remember how it felt. For awhile I thought I was secretly manipulative like her.
Thats terrible that happened to you. That kind of behavior by a parent is emotional abuse intended to punish for not meeting some unspoken or unreasonable expectation. Its not fair to you.
Relatable... My mom do that too but because I hate it I'm always self aware of my actions I don't want to become another her
@@taibatahir9704 That's where you just slap some sense into your mother for making you uncomfortable with the silent treatment. Otherwise, your dada would do so on your behalf.
@@MetalSStar196 my dad once caught her behaving like that and got angry on her but later she got angry on me that I'm pretending to be the victim and making my own parents fight... But now I've started to put distance between me and her . Like I don't care as much as I did before for the silent treatment, with time I will get better hopefully I'm making myself priority now I don't care what she feels I need to take care of what I feel now ..I'm exhausted and I can't take it anymore I love her but I need to love myself too ... Thank you for support it matters alot ❤️ all the support I get from online helps me to get better for myself ..
Please, don't do it to anyone. It's a learned behaviour. You can unlearn it.
_Timestamps_
0:55 - They don’t always seem intimidating
1:24 - They assume that humans are inherently evil
1:48 - They find a practical necessity for manipulation
2:22 - They like to embellish stories
2:47 - Their phrasing is ambiguous
3:15 - They use passive - agressiveness
3:52 - They often use others for personal gain
4:22 - You are scared to say no to them
4:49 - They talk in circles
5:24 - They are diagnosed with a personality disorder
Hope this helped :)
Thanks
thank you so so much i love the comments that have a timestamp on them
thanks lovee
Thank a lot
Thanks a million. That saves time. No pun intended. 🤭
There's tons of people out here that are so thankful for this channel.. it's changing lives everyday. The insight to apply what is said to our daily lives is simply remarkable. Thank all of you who put your time and effort into this. Your amazing..thank you so much
"They often use others for personal gain"
ME: OH MY GOSH! IT'S SOVIESHIT AND TRASHTA!!!!
Omg YESSS the WEBTOON of the Remarried Empress!! I freaking love it
The thumbnail gave me vibes of her and I’m like huh , that’s cool 😂
LOL last place I thought I would see this 😂😂😂
Just commented saying that the thumbnail looks like her lol. I love The Remarried Empress.
OMG I KNEW I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE WHO NOTICED THIS
Is that trashta?? Perfect reference
It does look like her
I was wondering the same thing! But tbh Trashta barely has the skill to be a passable manipulator by herself.
Omg I was just wondering who the thumbnail was. And I think it is Trashta!
Omg trashta from remarried empress
I WSS THINKING THE SAME
These are great tips! I’ve been trying to become a better manipulator, and this video has been a big help. Great stuff!
wow..it's nice haha
Silent treatment can also be a trauma response because the person is afraid to voice their true feelings
That’s different
You are so wise. And people dont see this. I been emotionally and mentally abuse. and i find it hard for me to express my self so i say nothing. And i love to be alone cause i find peace in being alone. Cause i hate dealing with people. When im alone i know i have nothing to worry about. There's nothing external that can hurt me. There's no option for nothing external to hurt me. Cause its not there. But when something there it has a potential to do as it please. If its not there i have nothing to worry about.
True
But what is, if the person who is silent treating you also acts verbally passive-aggressive towards you (e.g. saying they would like to kill you, and then denying they did)?
Is it a Form of manipulation or something else?
@@AccessDenied_Name Yes, what you describe is manipulation, abuse.
“Charisma has three points. The nature of a hero or prophet, the ability to simply make you feel good when you’re around them, and the intelligence to eloquently talk about all sorts of things,” - Saiga Jouji (Psycho Pass)
Ever thought of making a Profiling video as I think this video is somewhat close to the meaning.
Yes, that would be a great idea! Now we just need a dedicated writer for that. Are you interested Eric?
@@Psych2go You've caught my interest about writing about profiling or a better way to say being "Clinical Psychology", but I must say I'm not that bright when it comes to something like this. Well, I technically already got parts written, but not like a script and I'm not sure myself when it comes to profiling somebody as I tried to self teach myself about it and it didn't work out.
I guess you could say it's a rough draft.
Crying from happiness cause it's so rare to see someone quote Saiga Sensei and Psyco-Pass in random videos like this!😭❤
@@Eric_Nguyen. It sounds like you have everything you need to write a script. Go for it! As an Anime fan, I'd love to see this happen.
To the person who've suffered emotionally from manipulation, best to learn from it and move on. My experience tells me it isn't worth battling with manipulators because they will manipulate their way to winning. It won't make you less of a person to give up or avoid interactions on a manipulator. Manipulators mix well with manipulators and the earlier you recognize this, the better.
well but when the manipulator manipulates you, how are you learning from it? those "master manipulators" are most likely so good at what theyre doing that you wont notice unless they want you to. And afterwards you wont really learn from it bc its hard to cope for people who aint manipulating others. Also i must say this video isnt really true in my opinion. Manipulators, and even the really good ones tend to not manipulate everyone they know. Only the people they dont look at as "pure" are getting anal fucked with an 30" horse dildo lmao.
and also. Manipulators dont mix well with manipulators. Only if theyre both relativly bad at it. People who are very good with manipulating tend to go others out of the way bc they can read all they do or think when they talk.
@@Malik-hh4zq Thanks for sharing your opinion but what I said is aligned with my years of experience. If it isn't aligned with yours, then okay. Learning from the experience means being aware that they exist, early signs, and knowing better how to deal with it.
@@Malik-hh4zq this is so true. The manipulators always find a dumb side-kick who does all the dirty work at the cost of their own growth and progress. Sometimes these people never realise their own stupidity and others are too scared to point it out.
@@Malik-hh4zq That's not true, manipulators use manipulators when it benefits them. They use each other.
Thank you Psych2go, this video was really helpful for me. I dated a diagnosed sociopath. He would always dodge my important questions about him, and always ignored me when i stated things i would like from him in the relationship, like communication, and i see that it was a sign of how he was very manipulative. He would even make me question my own beliefs and morals. Now i understand more.
Would you like to hear something he'd say ?
" Does asking the right question make you question your beliefs "
OH MY GAWDD Is that Trashta, from the webtoon The Remarried Empress, indicated at 3:57 ??? goshhh that was real smooth
Yeaahh, that's what I thought too. Btw its good to see a remarried empress fan here(•ө•)♡
The algorithm needs a subscription, believe it or not, charm is used to manipulate a situation, are humans evil, misleading others is fun, do you believe every word you hear, it's called exaggeration or embellishment, the passive aggresive used slander to cope with the truth, the pressure will cause a reaction, deflect personnel questions to avoid it,it's a disorder if it ruins your life🆘🚩💲✅⛔
It's so cool to see more Remarried Empress fans! I absolutely love it and got my friends hooked on it
I saw it and I was like, "yasss I watch this channel and they know remarried empress?!?"
My thoughts exactly! Such a good webtoon
Love the Rise of the Shield Hero and Remarried Empress reference.
Omg i was thinking trashta sooo much
TRASHTA.
Also a reference to yanfei from genshin impact at 2:12
Trashta and Sovieushit the shit couple UvU
Yeah I don't like the pink haired sht girl from the shield hero I don't remember that girl's name but I don't even want to remember
There's another good one an old "friend" used to use: he would sit there and pump up someone's ego by telling them how awesome they are, and everything they say is funny, and pretended he resonates with them so perfectly.. Subsequently, they'd drop thier guard
And then talk smack about them after they leave and make you feel like you're an accomplice for taking part in that conversation, at least that's what one of my ex friends did.
...This one bothers me a bit. See, I *love* complementing others and encourage them when they talk about something. But I do this because I genuinely like creating positive environments and making others feel better, not because I want them to “drop their guard”.
@Randomnamegeneratir If you're looking to scam someone, compliments and fictional vulnerable scenarios requiring urgent attention would work best.
@@Maria.Mirabella i agree. I feel like i should not even give a compliment at all
@Randomnamegeneratir it's all about intent. Someone being friendly to their crush is manipulation (as they want to be seen as nice). Dressing up for a job interview is manipulation (changing how you are seen to look good). Those kind of things aren't harmful, unless the user abuses it, hurting others intentionally. That's why compliments given to help people feel better aren't inherently bad unless the complimenter is intentionally using them to benefit in some selfish/harmful way
A manipulator can pretty much be summarized as one word: a coward. Someone who hides behind a shield of lies and deceit and avoids the consequences of their reality. You can tell they didn’t grow up with decent parenting in their life. Which is just as equally sad as them having to rely on cowardly behaviors in the first place.
Honestly, they’re more of a disappointment than anything.
*Truly Mr/Ms/Mrs Self-Proclaimed **_Dark Empath,_** your intelligence and wisdom is **_unquestionable._*
Dang, aha--
Considering theyre taking large risks to get what they want that would make them anything but a coward
@@nifLeftynot really because they would go in and out of their way to control their victims such as killing and possibly sexual abuse because I don't know what coward what commit both of these crimes in order to control their victim
Blame the parents lol some people are beyond help, you can talk until you're blue in the face and still never change a manipulative person's/child's mind. Grow up.
And this is why I’m not friends with this girl anymore. She’s a GOOD manipulator
I feel in the same way
Who?
Please
Were you able to tell in the beginning?
@@Psych2go now i get it loolooll
People who watched death note... Ohh yeah it's all coming together
omg i love death note :D
Glad someone else picked up on it too lmao
Love that show one of my favorite anime
It's my most favourite anime.
But there's an underrated masterpiece anime, *Monster* (it's completely realistic even if it's name is Monster) and it's antagonist, *Johan Liebert* , might be the best manipulator ever created.
@@TheManOfTomorrow after watching death note I really wanted to see more anime like this but couldn't find any cause most of em are underrated... I'll definitely watch these anime you've mentioned... Plz tell if there are more like that
LOVE the Remarried Empress reference 🧡✨
Glad you like these references!
Should have been Heinley
@@SotraEngine4 no.
@@SotraEngine4 uhh Heinley is not a manipulator like Trashta
Me too
The simple thing to do is to treat everyone based on how they act. Because at the end of the day, we'll never really know whether they were truly manipulative, or it's just their personality. So we act based on how they act. That way we won't make a mistake. We won't mistreat them. We won't hurt anyone. And we won't hurt ourselves either. That's the best way to resolve anything. Respond properly, correctly, and not overdo it.
Me: *sees the title* ...hm.
Also Me: *sees character* Ohhh Christ, here we go again with the Empress of the Thotlands.
Is this really Trashta ??
@@alicel1738 Yes. Is she 🙄
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who saw that.
@@alicel1738 lmao
I was like, IS THAT TRASHTA ????
Omg is that Rashta and Soveishu? You guys are amazing lmao
my exact thought when I saw the thumbnail 😂
Ikr lol, they’re pretty cultured
Credit to the animator!
Yep I saw this rashta at the thumbnail I was like awww cute and I read the tittle so I clicked
Heinley is actually at least as bad as Rashta
It's just that Rashta is portrayed as the big bad guy in the series. She is in a kinda desperate position. Besides, she is pretty badly manipulated by Ergy and Rotteshu as she is surprisingly naive
Sovie is just a bit stupid and very bad at communicating. As his marriage with Navier was a political one, finding a concubine was actually something that was seen as perfectly OK. Navier even tells Heinley that she will be ok with him finding a concubine
Heinley. Where do I even start?
- he is planning a war against the Eastern empire, while courting (later marrying) the empress of the Eastern empire
- something about him doesn’t feel genuine
- some have commented that he always smiles to people
- he has a tendency to hold back the truth from Navier
- he pushes her sexual and romantic borders to what is absolutely not ok
- yes, he looks adorable, quirky and all that, but wasn't that the point of one of the points here? By how charming he is, I would bet HE is the main master manipulator in the series
Just want to note that manipulation can also be unintentional, a lot of people end up using manipulative techniques without realizing especially socially. I believe so long as they're not making it a trend or intentionally doing it to harm you it's not necessarily something to hugely worry about. In fact, it is very common in family dynamics, someone may sway you to do as they wish with your best interests in mind too unintentionally purely out of wanting the best for you. I'm not excusing people who are blatantly manipulative and actively use it as a means to get what they want.
But more avoid being too critical of others who may exhibit these traits on a subconscious level. It's very easy to get lost and start distrusting all those around you, I know I have a tendency to have trust issues around others. Best wishes to all of you, and if you are being quite rudely manipulated on a consistent basis, cut that person out of your life or don't fear saying no to them, try not to resort to emotional responses either, most people will tug you in their direction to get a reaction out of you, invoke a response and in that control, they can provoke the response they want.
True manipulators don’t get caught for being a manipulator
If you find someone who is truly manipulating you (on purpose) they most likely wanted you to know.
My little brother was a master manipulator. He’s adopted and had trauma from his biological family. Thank God that the trauma is gone!
How did he overcome the trauma?
My mom is one:( idk what to do
@@vappuluoma2918 maybe talk slowly while saying your opinion? Maybe tell her while standing up to show her that I mean it? Idk ask someone who knows what to do
@@vappuluoma2918 My mum is also one... She doesnt effect me anymore because I'm used to it. If she says something like i feed you everyday or I provide sheltor for you or something, just think about how that is the bare minimum for what a parent has to do for their child and how the law never says that a child needs to respect an adult.
@@Psych2go unconditional love from his new family!
I believe humans are born innocent and good, and it's our environment that shapes us.
I believe that humans are born egoistic and that the best thing to do ist teaching then that helping one another ist the fastest way of achieving your own goals.
I believe in both. We're just very complex little suckers.
a typical baby is a master manipulator. they need to be selfish to survive. Think of the weaker, less manipulative, baby birds that get pushed out of their nest.
Yes, not like babies were set out to end the world.
Not true. There are innately good and bad people. It is fixed right from our birth. Coz the same experiences shape up a narcissist and a codependent. The choice you make is based on your own values that you are born with. This is why only some people can live by values like honesty, kindness...and others see it as a weakness. Our values are innate and even if it is taught to us by parents and teachers we will abide by it only if it's in us. And psychopaths are born not made by the environment. They have a dysfunctional brain right from birth.
I work with this type of person. For a time it was like torture, dude always tried to embarass me in front of other co-workers (especially when we had new ones for training), but later on I guess he realized that I'm not an enemy. We had many moments where I was just seconds from snapping, when it was noticeable, he suddenly stopped. This willingness to do psychological damage - instead of physical as you would normally expect out of someone who wants to hurt others - seems so devious to me. The guy is basically like a Chihuahua. Big talk, all the time, doesn't shut up. He must've went through a lot, but I'm not feeling sorry for him a bit after all I went through with him. I never really disliked anyone, I always tried to find something on a person to like, find a way to connect. With him, there's only co-existence. If anyone who's reading this is struggling with a similar person, know that what helped me was seeking a therapist and sharing it with my other co-workers. (In your case, it can be friends, family, classmates, anyone) Until I told them, I thought I was in the wrong, but I know I'm not. And I know you are not either. Share what you're feeling with someone, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and know that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
fake story
Thank you!!!!!
The thing is... As a borderline that have a boderline mom and a boderline grandmother, I hate manipulation and I hate that people assume that I am trying to manipulate them. I almost never lie (if I try people just know, I am a terrible liar), and I try to always be empathetic, admit my mistakes, I never assume people are trying to be evil, I think they only don't think as me. But, I am really sensitive, cry easily and explain my reason and way of thinking in a deep way... And as I am a boderline and my bf know, he, sometimes, think that I am trying to manipulate him with my feelings! I hate that so much! I am just expressing how I feel! I not even trying to make him do what I want, I am just explaining my side. So I really hate this word and hate the assumption that borderline are manipulative. This is really confuse and make me feel terrible. I feel that If I tell people how I feel they assume that is a manipulation... This is really terrible.
i feel that. I do that to others cause im afraid what they might think so i just pretend to yk get to them, but then i realized its bad to change yourself just because you want to be with them or vibe with them
7 out of 10. This video is no joke. Met a guy who seemed so shy, introverted and innocent. He had a good IT job and dressed normally but WOW what a monster he turned out to be. He emotionally abused me so hard I got sick and nearly died and while I was recovering, he continued and I was close to suicide but he accidentally stopped it by showing up right then. He ofc continued even after that, despite having pleaded that he hadnt understood how bad I was hurting and blaha. In reality he would tell me the most awful things about me and then smirk and wait for a reaction (he never got one, my intuition told me not to react so I waited until he left to break down) When I confronted him about it and asked why he told me he was after my reaction, he would blame it on the tv. "I saw it on hannibal, I didnt mean anything by it"
Manipulative people are MONSTERS. They have NO empathy which is why they can lie so easily, no empathy and NO consciousness.
wow im inspired by how strong you are to have overcome this terrible situation. youre amazing
@@memessquad4333 Thank you so much, sweetie.
So you are basically telling me that your IT friend is a fan of Hannibal?
@@purplevanilla Yup, he loved horrormovies and watching documentaries about serial killers aswell and after a binge on that he told me "Okay, Im a psychopath, I admit it" He wasnt, he was schizophrenic with covert narcissism although my psychologist (had to go to therapy afetrwards, I was like a ragdoll emotionally when he was done with me) also put the diagnosis psychopath or antisocial personality disorder. However they lacked the deep education in the differences between narcissism and psychopathy in my opinion as most swedish psychologists do.
As far as Ive read, he was a clear as day covert narcissist. "Boho..everybodys so mean to me but if I schred you, thats okay because I'm better than everyone else" To this day, and I am 47 years old, I have NEVER met anyone as disturbed as him.
What I find particularly difficult, is when others perceive you as manipulative, but you sincerely don't do so on purpose. Ultimately it feels like you're involuntarily toxic to the people around you.
For instance, as someone with ASD, social interactions are very hard and draining on me. Especially when I have to put on a mask to act socially desirable. As such, when I'm in my private, comfort environment, it becomes outright impossible for me to "fake" anymore. Meaning the loved ones who see me in my direct environment tend to see me at my worst; when I'm crying, when I'm clearly angry or moody, completely drained of energy or freaking out about stuff. Sometimes that gets me accused of manipulation in order to get my way, or to get sympathy from others. But by all means, other than just avoiding everyone altogether, I don't know what I can do to "not" make them feel that way. I hate having them see me that way as much as it must be unpleasant for them, but I cannot prevent it.
Also, when I truly have a breakdown, I reach a point where I become outright mute. It's weird and scary to me as well, it's like I forget how to talk. Like I can think of words, but they won't come out of my mouth. I just become completely unresponsive. These breakdowns always happen in situations where there's a lot of stress and anxiety, so often during fights with others. These people then take it as "me giving them the silent treatment" while again, it's not like I deliberately "ignore" them. Even when I explain my issues to someone, it is something that's incomprehensible to them, so such situations keep on being upsetting to them regardless.
Overall it's truly frustrating when you want to work through your issues, fail to do so, and know you're impacting the loved ones around you negatively in the process.
Since you’re self aware that you are difficult to have a friendship with because of these draining traits, you can use that self awareness as a launching pad to make slow incremental change. Perhaps a therapist would be better, but lots of times friends are willing to stick it out if there’s improvement, because they genuinely want what’s best for you, they just have their limits (everyone does). What this would mean is when you know you have behaved in a way that exhausts, stresses, or otherwise negatively affected your friends, you must spend at least an equal if not greater amount of time where it’s not about you. You ask them about their life, problems, feelings, what they need. You listen and empathize, you offer help and keep your thoughts away from you and your issues and give them the floor. This will recharge the friendship battery so it’s not so one sided. They will feel cared for if you take the actions necessary to care for them. If you don’t do this, you will start to see they care for you less and less. It’s hard to continue to care about someone and offer support when it’s not experienced as reciprocal. If YOU were venting about a difficult relationship that you had with someone where the other persons mental health was in worse condition than yours, and so you had to deal with all sorts of issues due to the health difference, your friends would notice the affect it had on you over time and compel you to leave because it would be negatively affecting YOUR mental health, even if the person you were with wasn’t a bad person. That is what friends should do for each other. Help us see pictures clearly and push us to make the right decision even when it’s not easy. You may believe that you care about your friends but that won’t matter if they can’t feel it, and you will know that they feel it when you make the effort truly and fully. If you don’t they will eventually conclude that either you can’t reciprocate or you don’t consider the friendship worth the effort to keep. And they’ll be right. Relationships to other people that are healthy and mutually beneficial are the best way to get your mental health under control. They will not be offered to you as gifts because they can’t. You have to be actively making them healthy even in your state of low health. It’s hard, but it’s worth trying, and you will get better and better at it with practice. Good luck.
Ultimately being manipulative (or being perceived as such) is not beneficial to myself either, seeing as it only fills me with guilt toward loved ones, and self-hatred over being like this and impacting others with it.
Form boundaries. Say I need time to myself please don't take it personal. Or this is me. Like me or not. Why are you wearing a mask..for who. If someone doesn't excepting of you then your around the wrong friends
Maybe you’re already doing this, but getting professional help (consistently) is one way you can show your loved ones that you are at least trying not to hurt them anymore.
@@chikaka2012 I've been in very intensive therapy for some 8-9 years now I think. Tried a variety of things; A psychologist, cognitive-behavioural therapist, hippotherapy, 2 different psychiatrists, had a longer period intake in a mental health hospital, and support from other specialized instances, to no avail.
Your advice is good and definitely something that aids in showing your loved ones "see, I'm trying!" But the drawback is that, overtime you lose faith that any of these things really help you (I've been trying for so long, so many different things, and nothing has changed), and you really seek out therapy for the sole reason of "this way others can't tell me -you are not even trying-"
This is painfully relatable. My father's like this. And only now that I'm an adult did I understand my mother's sentiments of him.
My so called friend is a manipulator. He once implied he was gay maybe to identify whether or not Im gay as well. Now, I no longer see signs of it.
We've had numerous conversations where he narrated his manipulation skills and he also implied how much he knows of social situations. He never makes eye contact with me and always cuts me off when I speak. The guy is a great storyteller as well. I think my other classmates are also in it as well all targeting me. But it doesn't take me long to realize. Now, I'll play along and see how they'll manipulate me so I can learn something from them. You won't be harmed from manipulation if you know how to extract good in it.
I just act oblivious but deep inside I read them really well. They do not realize I am only using them as an environment to develop myself.
Now, I'll just act weak and play with them
He is NOT a good manipulator bcz he is not able to hide from you that he manipulates you
Bipolar isn't a personality disorder, it is a mood disorder. Like Major Depressive disorder.
Thank you for explaining. Because my daughter has been diagnosed with Bipolar. And I'm with Generalized anxiety disorder. Both are mood disorder, right?
@@raynatha4450 General anxiety disorder is an anxiety disorder which is different from mood disorders. It's more commonly a vague label used temporarily until your therapist can narrow down the cause of the anxiety. It can be related to phobias, past or present abuse, and/or PTSD, as well as with co-existing illnesses. Any sort of big traumatic experience can cause anxiety because of the sudden and violent event shocks all of your systems and can create anxiety from the fear of it happening again or having flashbacks of the experience (which can affect the lymphatic system among others, causing the mental stress to translate into physiological bodily stress), so it's just like being in a constant state of hyper vigilance or being overly sensitive to any number of stimuli triggers that will throw you into an anxiety attack in a worst case scenario.
So it's best to get into see a therapist appropriate to your needs as soon as possible so you can skip to the important part and figure out how to identify, discuss, and resolve the problematic bits. And remember, therapy is a safe place to express yourself in confidence and that your feelings and experiences are 100% valid and real. 😊💚
I was misdiagnosed as "Unipolar" or "major depressive disorder" depending on what doctor I had seen. Took me years before I was finally diagnosed with BPD. It's difficult to get a formal diagnosis unless a person displays a minimum of 5 out of 9 criteria requirements for the diagnosis. BPD is a mood and emotional dysregulation disorder. Due to the dysregulation, this makes us impulsive and hyper emotional/sensitive towards others with a irrational fear of abandonment.
My brother was diagnosed with type 2 Bipolar when he was younger. He's doing much better now, but it was rough in the beginning for him. He would be in a manic phase and giddy, then crash and sit bawling his eyes out. But his would last weeks with his manic phases while my emotions would change within hours of each other in emotional highs and lows.
@@raynatha4450 and you're quite welcome 😁 I hope I was able to help and I hope that you have a great night. Be kind to yourself, anxiety can and will go away once you get it sorted out through medication and work out your shadow work with talk therapy. Resolve the mental and heal the physical. This is purest goal of the field of psychology. 😊 Our brains are funny like that.
@@missfoxglove8989 I can't thank you enough for your explanations. It's really an eye opening. And I'm more aware now to deal with my daughter with her bipolar behaviour. For this 6 years already I'm battling GAD, it was right after I got serious reaction of allergic to a certain medicine. I got anaphylaxis reaction where I was almost had breathing failure. Since then, I experienced so many "phobias". Before, I was a quite brave person. After that, brave is an act that I have to choose forcefully to survive day by day. I'm under my psychiatry medication treatment now. And got anti depressant and anti anxiety pills. It helps me to stay calmer and relax. Hope one day I can be healed completely. And no more medication. Anw, hope you stay safe and healthy, my friend. :)
@FerzzyYou're quite welcome! 😊 well mood disorders can be managed through mood stabilizing medications as well as cognitive behavioral therapy to help reframe negative thoughts so that the patient can work on their self-awareness, building up their positive self-talk and self-esteem.
With personality disorders, they require intensive Dialectical behavioral therapy so that they can learn to better handle their own behaviors, self-talk, and how they can learn to interact in an ethical manner toward others outside of themselves. DBT is specifically designed for personality disorders treatment. It's a 3 month long group therapy where each patient is there to help support themselves and each other and to hold each other accountable for their actions in an honest manner with ourselves and others. (I'm a patient in this particular therapy style). From my experience, it's very useful and does work so long as the patient sticks it out and actually wants to better themselves. Which is true for all therapy types; it will only work if *you* want it to work and you're open to change occurring internally within you.
in all honesty, i feel like everyone is a manipulator but in their own way haha
isn’t that thinking everyone is inherently evil 👀
@@kayeratonin yes i-
That's true
Agreed.
true words of a manipulator!
1. They don’t always seem intimidating
2. They assume that humans are inherently evil
3. They find a practical necessity for manipulation
4. They like to embellish stories
5. Their phrasing is ambiguous
6. They use passive aggressiveness
7. They often use others for personal gain
8. You’re scared to say no to them
9. They talk in circles
10. They’re diagnosed with a personality disorder
Hope everyone is doing well, and if you’re not, keep your head up, you will be soon ❤️
If someone tries to make you think that they deserve anything from you or get angry if you dont do something, or act like they are entitled to certain things. That is most likely a manipulative "friend"
Me, who has all the traits:
-It isn’t what it looks like I swear-
Wtf same 😂
If that's the case you NEED HELP 🗣️⁉️
@@dygkunuralya765
-I’m not like that I swear- 😭
SAME
Same, pretty much. My only excuse is that I feel completely incapable of handling people in any other way.
No way, that last one really made it clear to me. She kept telling me her bpd2 was the reason why she made questionable choices and acted impulsively
I’m curious to know why bipolar disorder. A mood disorder, makes people prone to being a “master manipulator”.
Bruh I kinda show signs of those
Addicts are often master manipulators as well. Often users of harder drugs are typically that type.
I'm guessing it is the manic side of bipolar. Although, manic people are often the ones to give away all their money, which is the opposite of what a manipulator would do.
personally, I fit a bunch of the manipulator traits, but I don't see my depressed anti-social self with no friends as being a manipulator. Maybe I am a manipulator that is extremely bad at it?
the "hate-you-when-you're-here" but "can't-live-without-you-when-you're-gone-please-come-back-or-i'll-kill-myself" kind of symptom/tactic?
have only read about BPD, so i'm armchair guessing (take this reply with salt)
Got to be honest, this master manipulator role often landed to me in many cases. Yes, someone has to do this sort of job at times.. It doesn't always seem bad...
Most of the time, despite my protests, I am dragged into a position where people insisted me to lead them. I don't like leadership but mostly I am dragged into it.
So yeah, I often ask what their expectations, and I just don't offer my opinion unless needed..
I usually ask others with wide smile and politely and they would just go with my plan...
And when I had a conflict with some selfish people in the community, most people backed me up even when I did not rally everyone to do it.
But then again, I don't want to do everything for my own gain. Yes, I could be manipulative but I do that in accordance to people's expectations. And yes I keep asking others what they think as well...
Sometimes being manipulative is needed in order to get people agree for a greater good.
By the way, I suppose master manipulator can also be seen as "master strategist" too because part of strategize process is... To manipulate the factors against us to be used for our gain
can we take a minute to appreciate how calming her voice is !
I love her voice
This was definitely a blast from the past. I used to be one of those manipulative people. I’m glad I’ve moved on from that stage in my life.
Good for you! ^^
I am happy you made a change!!! There is hope for people..
Do you have an idea how long you were in said stage and about how long it took you to learn how to leave it?
@@amandaslough125 I would say I was IN the stage for 1-2 years and it took about the same amount of time to get out of it. I still have my moments though. It you’re trying to learn how to avoid being manipulative it’s good to surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and work with you where you’re at.
What's more worse is when they take full advantage of your vulnerability. Its always the first impression that deceives you.
The intro is a great way of manipulating viewers into subscribing. What a great example!
Growing up with a master manipulator as a parent left me with a series of disorders. If you're a minor and suspect your parents might be one, reach out and never give up even if you aren't taken seriously at first.
I had a friend who always said “everyone just uses everyone” which mad him think it was good to use other people. That made me mad cause no, I don’t have friends because I have an intent to use them. He would excuse his manipulating by the argument that he was “helping” me. I feel guilty cause he manipulated me for about 6 months or so and I just pretended i wasn’t aware
Mkay I usually hate those comments who thank for the likes but bro I was just venting so ty
It's sad how some people can just mask helping with manipulating just to gain information or leverage. The phrase "have you ever told someone something fearing they would use it against you" is pretty messed up and makes you think twice about trusting anyone
There are still good people in the world who care even for the manipulators
Some people probably adapted these habits from their surrounding (like family, parents school environment), their own insecurity, or their need for attention caused by abandonment or ignorance since their childhood. Give them a little empathy, tho its not on you to make them change, or wait for them to change, just hold them accountable if you can, and the rest is up to them whether they realize it or not.
Your weird
You're lying, you don't have friends because you're anti social.
And also, there are forms of manipulation which do not harm anyone at all not financially,not mentally nor physically. Maybe try those instead of this "will to manipulate"
It's crazy to think that people can be so manipulative and then they realize that you yourself can be manipulative too. "Thanks ego"
Checkmate
These are my notes gained from this video, please critique.
Don't always seem intimidating.
• Many don't.
• Charm.
• Perpetuate abuse.
• Reeling back in.
• Mask negative feelings.
Assume people are naturally evil.
• Believe people are dishonest.
• Believe people are naturally going to take advantage of one another.
Find practical necessities for manipulation.
• Bending ethics.
• Misleading others.
• Taking advantage of others for a greater benefit.
• Justify their manipulation, often with personal ease.
Like embellishing stories.
• Gain empathy.
• Sway emotions.
Ambiguous phrasing.
• Example: "Your choice, but…"
• Sway others into other forms of thinking.
• Others steered into doing things their way.
• Accommodating attitude.
Passive-aggressiveness.
• Example: Silent treatment.
• Cause emotionally painful.
• Snide comments.
• Spread gossip.
Use others for personal gain.
• Example: Use others as shields, even against minor threats.
Scared to say no to them.
• Apply pressure to change minds.
• Make people wary of the consequences.
Talk in circles.
• Dodge questions.
• Change subjects.
• Convince others they are wrong in order to avoid accepting fault.
• Very intentional and precise with language.
• Attempt to have the conversation progress naturally while still serving their own desires.
Have a personality disorder.
• Can rise from a combination of personality disorders.
• Examples include: Borderline Personality Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive PD, Bipolar Disorder, Antisocial PD.
• Can harm or sabotage long term relationships.
All my respect for using manipulative manga and manwha characters as examples. Seeing Rashta and Malty gave me joy.
I LOVE these little Easter eggs ✨
Your content is amazing. I'm always impressed with the quality of the videos. Thank you for making psychology more accessible ❤️
yes i immediately recognised them and felt so nice. i also got reminded of duke elgy but i dont mind it much cuz it was trashta whom he manipulated
also there is yanfei from genshin but she is not a manipulator
I was so surprised when I saw Trashta here,that b*tch is famous
yesss, trashta! i noticed too- i wish they post S3 soon~ ^^
@@AngelaX111 you can read the web novel if you wanna see rashta getting her karma.
There's an entire profession that is built on manipulation in its entirety: marketing. Going by the comments here with so many references to anime and game characters, I think the manipulators are doing a splendid job of playing people for fools.
Knowing this actually aggravates my trust issues.
Interesting point there. Do you agree that not all manipulation or marketing is bad? For example, ethical marketing?
@@Psych2go if it benefit all sides then why not?
sorry for barging in
@@Psych2go I think of "ethical marketing" less of applied ethics, but rather an oxymoron.
@@redsusoverparadise2700 very well said.
Who needs this video when you have your school and family to train on
Agreed
Actually, bipolar disorder is not a personality disorder. It often gets confused with borderline personality disorder.
I felt like a manipulator before, but i am not sure, if it is just because of me being an INTP. I mean, observing structures, for example social structures and being fascinated by trying to crack the code or understanding the system in combination with an own set of morals which often do not follow common belief seems like a solid foundation for a manipulator. If you add "thinking of yourself as smarter than others", that seems almost predetermined...
Are you diagnosed?
Hello, another INTP here. While you think you've been a manipulator at some point in your life, throughout my life I've been trying to help people identify a manipulator. Personally, I really appreciate and honor honesty. so when I sense some lie or falsehood from someone, a manipulation in action, i always question their statement and avoid interacting with them if they can't be honest about their intentions.
Our difference is probably how we use the knowledge of social structure. While you play the game, i prefer to warn people not to play the game.
I am an INTP too but the things you wrote dont really make sense or I just dont get it.
@@r-7498 WAAAAAAIIT I do the same without realising, likeee, some people are too blind that they are being manipulted just because the person they are talking with looks pure and funny and sweet.
I know right, I'm an intp and I feel the same way. Some ppl are blind thought
I just wanna share that I've dated someone that has all of these traits mentioned!! I'm so proud to say that I got out of it myself, and I even stood up for myself! I might have let him control me, but I really could care less anymore!! I'm about to graduate from college in 2 more months after what happened to me after all of it happened long ago!!! I also really wanna say if I did it, anyone can!! Proud to be me!!! (:
Felt same way around but it was my girlfriend. I recently broke up with her and got out of it but we're still besties and see each other everysay. Dk how I feel about it kinda feels like I'm getting manipulated still.
You're amazing you got out of it by yourself!!! I also dated someone who is manipulative and I developed a trauma bond with them consistently manipulating me. I stayed with them fpr a year and 8 month until I finally broke that cycle of emotional and mental abuse!! I'm now so much better :)
They convince you into believing that they are the perfect match you could ask for, someone who's ready to do anything for the relationship just to make you say yes
My ability to gaslight people will never cease to amaze me. Turns out, it was never them, it was me all along !
JAJAJAJA Y PONEN A RASTHA EN LA MINIATURA, LO AMO XD
Bro wym trashtas the worst
@@silver9204 Cassy means by they like how Psych2go put Trashta in the thumbnail
SII, JUSTÓ PENSABA QUE ERA ELLA JKSJSJSJJS
Pensaba que andaba viendo personajes de mis comics donde no los habia, pero al parecer todos vieron lo mismo que yo xD
Jajajaja por eso vine
Oh, I became the scapegoat of a person just like this. Her peers still believe I'm the manipulator because she told them so. Man, she has all 10 traits lol
Idk saying people with personality disorders is a sign you’re dealing with a. Manipulator is further pushing a stigma that a lot of people with these disorders have to deal with
I disagree. I didn't get that impression from this video at all.
they clearly said it's not a pre-requisite to have a personality disorder to be a manipulator. It's just that manipulators may often be people having personality disorders.
@@WellnessBringer And? How does that push a stigma? I might die if I drive a car? Does that make cars bad? I get where you coming from but I feel your pulling at thin air here and when you do others see your comment and think its a real issue (edit: it is a real issue but I don't think this is how we solve it, its important to talk about it in its full form). 2nd edit: I could be wrong about all this lol, just woke up.
Good point Hazy, these people need help and empathy not further judgement and stigma.
After 9 years she kicked me out. Brutal & heartless. She claimed I'm abusive. Looking back I remember her saying "My ex said I am a master manipulator" But of course I made the mistake thinking she wouldn't do it to me, and that there was something wrong with him. Oh my. I'm still healing.
Lived with a few of these manipulator types. This video has it spot on. I always tried to see things from the point of view of others, but it took me years to realise that some of the people close to me are just genuinely unpleasant.
I love the fact that you used Myne from The Shield Hero as an example of a manipulator...Not many people knew Shield Hero
The thing you said about manipulators usually being 'innocent' fits Trashta _perfectly_ because istg that girl cries every other episode about something stupid-
Omg from remarried empress found a fan 🥳🥳🥳🥳
Manipulators always disguise themselves as victims. This is why whenever u see a person with nothing but good reputation, u should be instantly alert.
I was insulted when my psychologist suggested I was a master manipulator. I never saw myself that way since I never did anything nefarious or evil. He did say it’s not always a bad thing. I just use it to help myself in specific situations 🤷🏻♂️
Sounds like something the devil would say.
Look his name xdd
i had this “friend” that always acted like another girl was her best friend, then would talk behind her back. She would call her dramatic when she got a splinter and got off the trampoline, not shedding a tear. but when we brought up the time she cried when my mom wasn’t home with food and she cried, she said it was because she was a “fatty” then we would have to tell her “no don’t say that!” (these stories happened when we were 9-12.)
Go back in time and smack em bro
I had a friend in highschool who ticked most of these off. She was passive aggressive, used people as shields, did basically anything that would make her the victim. and she wasn't intimidating in the slightest.
I wonder what would happen to you if you had a crush on someone like this?
Some people probably adapted these habits from their surrounding (like family, parents school environment), their own insecurity, or their need for attention caused by abandonment or ignorance since their childhood. Give them a little empathy, tho its not on you to make them change, or wait for them to change, just hold them accountable if you can, and the rest is up to them whether they realize it or not.
@@aur9035 Yeah, I think I remember me telling my mom about it when I was about 10, and she said the girl’s mom was a bit of a brat in school.
My ex friends called me manipulative but my real friends know I am to dumb to even know what being manipulative is let alone being a master manipulator :) This video was very interesting your channel is awesome
Each one of these points is actually neutral unless all used together except passive aggressive, using, pressure, talking in circles or having a disorder.
love the how trashta is there as an example of a master manipulator
0:58
So... is no one going to talk about how they referenced Malty from Rising of the Shield Hero? Very good example of a charming manipulator.
Edit: 2:11 Yanfei reference from Genshin Impact.
Finally no one is talking about that
yup I too noticed malty
Thank you for noticing!
Yes
EXACTLY
My mom fits perfectly in this description, and I've noticed it since i was little, and that probably was the reason I've always tough it was normal to do so. These days i'm 21, and even tho i learned to feel bad when manipulating someone without their knowledge, I've discovered that, i don't really feel as bad if manipulating someone blatantly, w/some people easily being able to point out what i'm doing, and it still works, arguably better than if you tried w/out their knowledge. i guess people appreciate honesty, even if the intent is to manipulate.
3:55 love the Remarried Empress reference!! Yeah I saw a few people who said that if Trashta was the MC we would hate Navier, but I disagree because she is very manipulative and we would've known from the start if that's the case.
does 1:28 have a reference? if there is I would like to know the title..
@@puresadness5405 so I'm actually not so sure, but since there was a Remarried Empress reference from Webtoon, I think this character is the MC from a Webtoon called "Your Throne". I hope this helps. 🙂
@@ellachuddy5665 thank you
@@puresadness5405 Probably Medea from Your Throne by SAM
@@goinggoinggone3394 yes, thank you very much! 💕
Recently I stopped talking to a friend who had a lot of these tendencies, at the beginning of our friendship I always felt inferior to her, and when she would deploy these techniques I never really realised it. Later on though, after I started building up my confidence and a backbone, I did start calling her out whenever she was manipulative. At one point she tried guilt tripping me, which I called out, then she tried gaslighting and lying to me about it which I also called her out on. After that point it kind of wasn't the same. After she left my city, where she was staying for a couple weeks, she started taking hours to respond which was very unlike her and started lying about what she was doing and so I called her out on it and told her if she didn't want to talk to me then the least she could is just tell me, and the amount of excuses and lies she made. Like oh I'm just not in a social mood, or I haven't had any time, etc. And she finally admitted at the end that she didn't care about me anymore or want to talk to me anymore these days, and that was it. We stopped talking, then like 3 days later she sent me a TikTok out of nowhere and never said anything. At first I was kind of relieved because I still wanted to be friends with her. I valued the time I spent with her, I liked her personality when she wasn't manipulative and acted childish and excited about different things, so I responded and I sent her a TikTok back but she never responded so I got annoyed and deleted those messages and simply asked her if she sent that TikTok by mistake and she still hasn't responded 4 days later. Is this another manipulative technique to see if she still has my attention or could have this been a genuine accident and if so why wouldn't she say it was or why wouldn't have she deleted it after she sent it if it was by accident?
This world is beginning to be filled with narcissistic and manipulative people, to the point where it's impossible to find nice people.
Oof yeah I definitely have some of those habits but I've learned that it came from heavy manipulative parents/family. I can tell when I am being manipulative, then I correct myself for a second. I'm happy to say that through the years, I've finally fully came out and stood up to my habits, embraced them, and am un-teaching myself to do them. So proud of the baddies out there, growing from their trauma
Lol if u have time then read it,I feel I texted too much im sry.But I just don't know how to get to the point real quick and I feel ppl won't bother enough to care or read long texts when it's abt urself or irl so I don't really share anything or nothing at all unless I feel the need to or unless I'm close with them and I think that's normal
maybe ,mainly cuz I had trust issues so I have this idc personality so I'm always misunderstood to think abt me only when actually i care a LOT esp with parents bcz I just want some privacy and acceptance on how I think diff but def not for all but for some.
1:31 Medea (From Your Throne webtoon)?
2:17 Yanfei (From Genshin Impact videogame)?
4:00 Trashta and Sovieshit (From remarried empress webtoon)?
6:29 Among us!
Also great video, I love my sister but I can see how mainipulative she can be with people outside from familiy and it kinda scares me bc I'm not even sure if she's being herself when she's around me
1:02 is also a reference to Malty a character from The Rising of the Shield Hero anime
2:09 is a reference to BTS song Butter
Yes 4:00 is a reference to remarried empress
I feel it's important to note that manipulation can be a good thing in certain situations. Case in point manipulating a manipulator into showing their true colors in order to get their victim to wake up to the truth. If u have the power then use it for good and only when other methods fail
Exactly..Its more of some intelligence I feel when u use it for good..
But how do use it for good lol jst wanna know bcz sometimes it tends to be good and sometimes bad,so how do u know?
@@israhmanal8296 thats where discretion and restraint are important. like violence, manipulation should be used only when ABSOLUTLY NECESARY. if youre not certain then dont do it instead do more digging exhaust other options learn more about the situation. because if you dont keep that particular monster in check it WILL destroy everything you care about.
I had a sleep paralysis with hallucinations and I was really scared of sleeping again, I simply just couldn't stop thinking, but I saw your videos and your voice calmed me, and I got some rest. Thank u soo much.
Thats a cool story
@@arian6565 not a cool story, i was soo in pain.
What happened?
@@dominiquemathews7766 it was because of my sleeping schedule, I was really stressed.
@@oppabitches4965 I know but u told it so cool
These kind of video wouldn't need to exist if the world wasn't that bad... But we need it, so, we have to accepting that, we have to accept this world, even if sometimes it seems to be complete shit
after a long analysis of your profile picture and pseudo, i have come to the conclusion you are a man of culture
Sad truth
Well we humans have more emotions for example dogs dont feel guilt. Animals cant feel shame, self pity and they dont have mixed emotions. They dont have love-hate relationships too.
So when out of control they manifest into something like that
Thank you for those wise words, fellow Sonic fan! 🦔
@@nolene1821 i haven't done any research, but I don't think that's true. Oftentimes my cat will act remorseful if I catch it doing something it shouldn't. I tell it "bad girl" in an upset tone and often it'll run, then come back a few minutes later for pettings, which she doesn't really ask for often. Maybe she's just a master manipulator lol.
Dogs may not have a love hate relationship with their owner, but I've seen owners mistreat a dog just for it to still stay loyal and obedient to the owner. Its odd.
Used to live with a master of these skills. Known everywhere as a sweet & kind person.
Took lots of notes, now very useful in managing the office.
having been raised by a manipulative mother, i've learned to tell when someone's trying to manipulate me, it's actually easy for me to identify, but i show some of these signs in myself because i know how to avoid letting manipulation get under my skin
some people are so damned good at manipilation that you won't even know you've been taken across till it's over. your money is gone and so are they, be careful . when you say no they say why not. this is when you simply say "i choose not to". that usually stops them.
They love to keep asking and trying to convince you otherwise
The remarried empress reference was so good and witty!
Yeah, I immediately recognized Rashta in the thumbnail. XD
Great video! Just to clear up a misconception though, bipolar disorder is not a personality disorder. It is a mood disorder. For some reason it is often confused for borderline personality disorder but the two are actually completely different.
YEA. Bipolar gets a bad rap.
Came here to check whether i was actually manipulative or not, cuz I've been thinking that for a long time...I AM 🙂 I've noticed it from the past 2-3 years that I've become more introverted also I am on a higher level of observation compared to others around me, I notice almost everything around me. I am often seen as a quiet person people often misunderstand me for someone who wouldn't do or say anything, and yeah i wouldn't either but just not anything physically (i clearly know everyone's triggers and sometimes get the urge to do something, i know it sounds evil but i could call it my reaallyy guilty of a pleasure, to play with people's minds). I KNOW how i can easily manipulate ANYONE around me into my favour and can even make them go crazy. But since i am well aware of the consequences I don't use it against them. It happens rarely, but the last time it happened i was feeling a little bit guilty, i don't mean any harm to people around me but sometimes i loose my conscience and am no longer in control of my thoughts, they take over my mind like black clouds in the sky 😵💫
I'm sorry if this seems totally random (which it is 😅) but it all just came to my mind so i thought maybe share it with someone to see if anyone else relates. (If someone can tell about how to control it please do....)
Thank you if you cared to read till the end ❤🙏🏻