Andrea Gibson - The Year of No Grudges (Official Video)

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  • čas přidán 21. 04. 2020
  • Andrea Gibson writes about this poem, "THE YEAR OF NO GRUDGES":
    "THE YEAR OF NO GRUDGES" was written as a love letter to a friend Andrea was furious at. Several months ago, in the thick of anger, I reluctantly began writing down what I most appreciated about my friend. By the time I stopped typing I was so overwhelmed by gratitude I had no room in my heart for a single grudge against him. I'm sharing this poem now as a writing/feeling prompt for you, and for myself, in hopes that we move through our days vigilantly awake to the fact that none of us are ever promised a tomorrow. Whatever needs healing, today is the perfect day. (Music by Chris Pureka)
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    About Andrea:
    Andrea Gibson (they/them/their) is one of the most stirring and influential spoken word artists of our time. Best known for their live performances, in which they regularly sell out large capacity rock clubs and concert halls, Gibson has changed the landscape of what it means to attend a “poetry show” altogether. Gibson’s poems center around LGBTQ issues, gender, feminism, and mental health, as well as gun reform and the dismantling of oppressive social systems. Their live shows, in which they are often accompanied by musicians, have become loving and supportive ecosystems for audiences to feel seen, heard, and held through Gibson’s art.
    Gibson is the author of six books. Lord of the Butterflies (Button Poetry), which sold almost 20,000 copies in its debut year, was the winner of the Independent Publisher’s Award in 2019 as well as a Goodreads Choice Awards Finalist. Take Me With You (Penguin, 2018), an illustrated collection of Gibson’s most memorable quotes, was also a Goodreads Finalist. In 2019, they co-authored their first ever non-fiction book, How Poetry Can Change Your Heart (Chronicle Books).
    In addition to their publishing accolades, Andrea has released seven full-length albums, combining their socially active spoken word with musical collaborations. They are the winner of the first ever Women’s World Poetry Slam Championship (2008) and frequent World Poetry Slam Finalist.
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Komentáře • 104

  • @FrankMalaba
    @FrankMalaba Před 4 měsíci +4

    3 years later. And I'm still coming back to this masterpiece...

  • @vanshpuri8921
    @vanshpuri8921 Před 4 lety +53

    "like a three year old has colored you in. Like you've got too many feelings to stay inside the lines of your own skin"

  • @sudipabhattacharya13
    @sudipabhattacharya13 Před 4 lety +60

    "Beauty is in the eye of anyone who sees what's missing, but can't stop pointing to what's still there."
    - A line that I'm gonna carry forever.
    Thank you for this poem.

  • @tashondamorgan2368
    @tashondamorgan2368 Před 3 lety +20

    Every time I sit on a bridge, thinking of jumping... I put you on. Because when I listen to your words over and over, I know I’m not alone and that someone so powerful, understands.

  • @carollupus
    @carollupus Před 4 lety +28

    Once again you're leaving me speechless

  • @90klh
    @90klh Před 4 lety +13

    Andrea Gibson makes me cry in the best way, that good "oh my God someone feels this too" kind of cry. And i refuse to acknowledge how ugly my crying is.

  • @carolinecardullo6463
    @carolinecardullo6463 Před 4 lety +26

    I've listened to this at least 6 times tonight......your definition of love is superb.......my heart is still pounding since the first time i listened to this hours ago........you are simply amazing....thank for sharing your gift

    • @90klh
      @90klh Před 4 lety +2

      I feel like she may never read this, because why would someone who feels so much risk wandering into the ugly thicket of comments- but i wish we could send her these kinds of comments on the kind of days anyone who knows Gibson's poetry knows s/he suffers - cuz s/he's done more for peace and sobriety than any public figure :/

  • @annestp.1643
    @annestp.1643 Před rokem +2

    I am sitting at my table, right now. Bawling. I watched your interview on Style like u, and felt such an immense feeling of gratitude and love. I felt alive and fearless for a moment. And went on with watching some videos of you, because you just make people feel good, you make people feel. And as I listen to this one and the description of this one, I am thrown right into this grief that I have been carrying around for over a year. I have been holding onto grudges and anger and sadness missing the person I thought would always be there. But within all of her rights, she ended our friendship and I have been busy trying to hate her. Now I understand I just have to really love her and let her go. I can chose to see what's still there, not what is missing.
    (And this is the longest CZcams Comment I ever wrote and will ever write)

  • @lo373
    @lo373 Před 4 lety +10

    your words sound like a hug. thank you for sharing your warmth

  • @umamukhopadhyay2921
    @umamukhopadhyay2921 Před 4 lety +17

    ...when I get to heaven
    I will refuse to call it heaven
    If who put me through hell isn't there.

  • @pritambanerjee1377
    @pritambanerjee1377 Před 4 lety +23

    A part of my soul had dropped inside the abyss of darkness, a darkness of unforgiving black hole, after I lost Cohen..But then, Andrea, I found you.. You help me survive everyday..every moment my depression swallows me whole, I listen to u and comfort myself that butterflies will eventually win in this sky of spitfires..
    Thank you..for ur graceful creation..

  • @javier987
    @javier987 Před 3 měsíci

    Came for music, stayed for the message, ty ❤

  • @AjayGhone
    @AjayGhone Před 3 lety +3

    I could live by this piece of work for the rest of my life, I want to.
    The way Andrea manages to unravel all the knots in my head in less than 5 minutes and put me a warm blanket, smiling, is just pure magic. And this happens everytime I search for something new from her. Every single time?! Wow.
    God bless Andrea and her life and each and everyone in the world trying hard and give them enough wisdom and grace to try softer.
    With love from Pune, India.

  • @airohwalker2478
    @airohwalker2478 Před 4 lety +7

    This came at the perfect timing. It showed up to me right after a fight with the love of my life. Thank you

  • @moonmushroom6996
    @moonmushroom6996 Před 4 lety +10

    "When I get to heaven I will refuse to call it heaven, if who put me through hell isn't there"

    • @muhlemfikebhekiwethemba7293
      @muhlemfikebhekiwethemba7293 Před 3 lety

      What does this line mean tho.😭I don’t want to interpret it wrongly.

    • @moonmushroom6996
      @moonmushroom6996 Před 3 lety +2

      @@muhlemfikebhekiwethemba7293 she's saying heaven wouldn't be heaven without her......even though she put her through hell. Did I explain ok?

    • @malissahyatt2425
      @malissahyatt2425 Před 3 lety

      Just heard that line. I'm dead now.

  • @jeadalay2378
    @jeadalay2378 Před 4 lety +10

    wow, extraordinary.

  • @Gracekube
    @Gracekube Před 4 lety +16

    this was the warm word hug I needed

  • @marfromwi11423
    @marfromwi11423 Před 2 měsíci

    OMG ANDREA … you read my mind and then made it poetry. From “try softer” which will be my intention for every day, to bring in heaven and refusing to call it heaven, and it isn’t heaven unless the person who treated me worst isn’t there. I just went through the worst friendship betrays, of my life so far (and I am 70) It was betrayal + gaslighting so it never happened or if it did I told her to, or I made it happen, or it happened but she made restitution or it never happened at all. And then, combined it with I believed somethung thst never happened, so she “lovingly” went to other people, concerned about my well being because I did break once before, after all. And then Loving Spirit showed me no w alike I am to her, how much I wanted to maim her spirit, and how near I need to be to Loving Spirit to be able to make her a video of gratitude for her gifts to me in friendship though I must say we are on a break for now. I did not know when I listened that the subject was grudge, and I am glad I didn’t, because I would have recoiled from the play button. You shoe me poetry is sacred and speaks while trying sifter. May you be … we’ll all of it, today.

    • @marfromwi11423
      @marfromwi11423 Před 2 měsíci

      Sorry for the typos, I cannot find edit button. Sort of like my life. But if there is one, feel free to tell me where it is, for both my post and for life. That would be helpful

  • @dEfLiFtEr1
    @dEfLiFtEr1 Před 4 lety +6

    very intense love poem. thank you.

  • @deIcorazon
    @deIcorazon Před 2 lety

    thank you thank you thank you

  • @CristinaComunian
    @CristinaComunian Před 2 lety

    "...like you got too many feelings to stay inside the lines of your own skin." Amen.

  • @zinavitols312
    @zinavitols312 Před 4 lety +6

    This healed parts of me I didn't even realise that needed healing, and refocused my navigation. Thank you Andrea.
    (responsible for at least 100 listens over the past 3 weeks, for myself and others I've shared with)

  • @dugongsdoitbetter
    @dugongsdoitbetter Před rokem

    Thank you.

  • @sophiac6972
    @sophiac6972 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you. Just thank you.

  • @Zoe-ze8ol
    @Zoe-ze8ol Před 4 lety +4

    i preformed your poem ashes in my theater class AND IT WAS SO AMAZING i look up to you so much😭

  • @jakebaugh3595
    @jakebaugh3595 Před 4 lety +7

    It's been worth the wait! AMAZING!

  • @whatgenderami
    @whatgenderami Před 4 lety +1

    “so sometimes you look like a human scribble” 😭😭😭😭 hit me in the feels

  • @cedrickbinuya1851
    @cedrickbinuya1851 Před 4 lety +1

    the poem is as phenomenal as my grandmother's hands clasped on my own. Thank you, Andrea Gibson. *I love you for this.*

  • @saiine
    @saiine Před 4 lety +6

    G'Damn Andrea - the best writing I've heard in 2020. Keep it up!

  • @RAINBOWDASH-sv9wl
    @RAINBOWDASH-sv9wl Před 4 lety +5

    The day this was posted I fell even more in love with your poetry Andrea. You’ve inspired me so much over the last five years. And this poem calms my soul. So thank you. I can’t wait to see you in person at your next poetry reading.

  • @zahmed6813
    @zahmed6813 Před 4 lety +1

    I’m crying...

  • @lindsaybuchel2399
    @lindsaybuchel2399 Před 4 lety +1

    Love. Love. Love.

  • @bepald-wilpums
    @bepald-wilpums Před 4 lety +7

    This really touched me today. Thank you for the words you share with us

  • @84trillion
    @84trillion Před 4 lety +7

    I needed this today. Thank you for sharing it.

  • @gstan4298
    @gstan4298 Před 3 lety +2

    What a way to start 2021 by finding a new writer that I just fell in love with!

  • @hunadinmaleka7370
    @hunadinmaleka7370 Před 4 lety +1

    Oh Andrea 💕

  • @o.b.itwistedrose1091
    @o.b.itwistedrose1091 Před 4 lety +1

    Andrea bending our soul with his words like trees dancing to the wind.

  • @alisonbriley2668
    @alisonbriley2668 Před 4 lety +1

    This is...the most beautiful thing I’ve ever connected with. You are incredible. Inspirational. Thank you for saving me. I hope you and Peanut are well.

  • @kavyaagarwal5545
    @kavyaagarwal5545 Před 3 lety

    I'm ugly crying and it only feels more liberating every time I hear this over.

  • @crystalducken103
    @crystalducken103 Před 2 lety

    I would like to read this over and over again and let it sink in my soul…

  • @andreaallen141
    @andreaallen141 Před 3 lety +2

    I think almost everyone tries hard to do good.
    And just finds out too late,
    they should have tried softer.

    I've never in my whole life been level -headed
    But the older I get,
    The more level hearted.
    And I
    think we make gods who look like us for a reason.
    I think in spite of it all, we trust we could...
    Be believed in

    When I don’t believe in myself, I try to remember I have walked on water like seven hundred times
    in Maine in the dead of winter

    Where I come from you can drive a pickup truck from one side of the lake to the other,
    And people have an unusually large amount of missing teeth and fingers
    but you can still sell them whitening strips and wedding rings like crazy
    Because where I come from,
    Beauty is in the eye of anyone who sees what’s missing
    But can't stop pointing to what's still there.
    If there is no definition for love yet
    I think that’s a good one.


    I'm writing this on a day you did me wrong
    I'm just a half second outside the furnace of my rage
    And I'm trying to focus the steeple of my attention
    On all the teeth you still have
    Instead of the ones I know you’d happily
    Knock out yourself
    If it would keep you from biting anyone again.
    And that’s how mistakes work if you're loving the right kind of people.
    And you are the right kind of people,
    You’ve walked on water so many times
    You know grace is slippery.
    Theres literally nothing anyone is more likely to fall from
    Some sound advice I give myself like twice a second,
    Wear knee pads on the way to your ego, Andrea
    Being right is boring.
    Rightness... comforts only the tiniest parts of us
    And when it comes to hearts
    I want always to be a size queen
    Because that’s how I found you-
    Lifting the spirits of everyone around you
    Like hot air balloons
    Just from the way you burn to be a better person today, than you’d been the day before
    Burning to be better is my favorite quality on anyone
    And you are on fire
    Like a gay men’s choir singing the half time show of a football game.
    I have been dancing in the end zone since the day
    You taught me
    How to break every promise I have made to my pain
    Taught me my wounds won't ever ever be bigger than I am
    Thank goodness for you
    Champion of the unkillable yes
    Dandelion, refusing to be picked for the bouquet


    Five minutes into our first conversation, you knew
    I could take a punch better than I could take a compliment
    And you talked to me about that once, and bam
    I was angel gossip
    There were god rumors flying around my suddenly un-heavied head
    I love you,
    Because you’ve never had a mirror face
    Because the truth is nothing you could ever try to fake
    So Sometimes you look like a human scribble,
    Like a three-year-old has,
    Colored you in,
    like you got too many feelings to stay inside the lines of
    Your own skin, but that friend...
    That is the masterpiece I Love You
    Because we both showed up to kindness tryouts with notes from the school nurse
    That said we were too hurt to participate
    But we learned how wrong we were
    And weren't those the best days?
    When we learned how
    wrong we were
    And so got to grow into our goodness
    Throwing the peach pits of our old selves
    Into the garden to grow sweetness
    Sugar, I pick you
    To be the captain of my chosen family tree
    I pick you, to throw the party
    When I leave this world, knowing
    I'm gonna run death like a stop sign
    And keep going.
    Im going to pick you to finish all my half-written poems
    Even though you’re -terrible- at writing poetry
    I’d pick you to finish this one especially
    This list of compliments,
    You’d be a hypocrite
    Not to take, so take it,
    Before I remember,
    I’m mad at you asshole...butt wad,
    only human on the whole planet
    Who knows what I mean when I say god
    That I mean everyone
    Down here
    Who understands,
    That when I get to heaven
    I will refuse to call it heaven
    If who put me through hell isn’t there.

  • @mellweis2162
    @mellweis2162 Před 4 lety +1

    Your words! Are healing! And you have a certain way to express the depth behind love, and pain like no other!

  • @zoelynn7563
    @zoelynn7563 Před 4 lety +1

    Every poem from Andrea has a place in my soul. Every word so thoughtful and soft. Thank you for this poem.

  • @kirstenschaefer1342
    @kirstenschaefer1342 Před 4 lety +2

    Beautiful

  • @OUTSPOKENWALLFLOWER4444
    @OUTSPOKENWALLFLOWER4444 Před 9 měsíci

    💗💗💗💗

  • @LarissaBotnari
    @LarissaBotnari Před 4 lety +2

    So... incredibly... great !!!

  • @Sjean0731
    @Sjean0731 Před 4 lety

    Just wow. Exactly what I needed.

  • @ric_de_la_rosa
    @ric_de_la_rosa Před 4 lety

    This is incredible art. Thank you for publishing it for us all to share.

  • @rosebuckner3831
    @rosebuckner3831 Před 2 měsíci

    Oh my....

  • @allthingshraddha
    @allthingshraddha Před 4 lety +1

    Every single time. A masterpiece.

  • @parulmahajan5163
    @parulmahajan5163 Před 4 lety

    Thank you for choosing to live, to wait, to come into my life as an angel ❤️

  • @socladriana
    @socladriana Před 2 lety

    I need to play this at 0.5 speed because the beauty is so intense it overwhelms me. So happy the book is out, it's on my Xmas wish list and can't wait to savour it and cry over it.

  • @liamkilmartin1623
    @liamkilmartin1623 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you.. really loved this

  • @ladybugradio1988
    @ladybugradio1988 Před 4 lety +1

    This piece is so beautiful.

  • @andreaallen141
    @andreaallen141 Před 3 lety

    I love this and everything you write. I've memorized quite a few.

  • @sa-dramaholics8664
    @sa-dramaholics8664 Před 3 lety

    this is really beautiful Andrea, i love how you can put everything you feel in words..

  • @leesarenee5757
    @leesarenee5757 Před 4 lety +1

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @rickykilmer1331
    @rickykilmer1331 Před 4 lety

    Beautiful. Tears that are not sad are so real. You have me seeing all tears. Thank you. Wow.

  • @jordanbaileynyc
    @jordanbaileynyc Před 4 lety

    ooooooooooh boy wow. I'm speechless. truly. Thank you.

  • @shatabdiborah8053
    @shatabdiborah8053 Před 4 lety +1

    Jesus this is so good, I am crying

  • @MegaAbongile
    @MegaAbongile Před 4 lety +1

    Why do i love everything from Andrea sooo much 😭😭😭😭

  • @niasnonsenseniche
    @niasnonsenseniche Před 4 lety

    This is perfection

  • @willstutsman8541
    @willstutsman8541 Před 2 lety

    This affected me like no other poem I have ever heard in my years on this planet. Love is such a complicated thing I think you express it so well.

  • @wakingtheworld
    @wakingtheworld Před 2 lety

    Oh Andrea, your poems always leave me speechless... So many incredible lines and sentiments wrapped up in this one, that others have quoted below... Blessings from over the pond

  • @mattyb9152
    @mattyb9152 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much for writing all of these beautiful poems. You’ve changed my life.

  • @saturn1431
    @saturn1431 Před 4 lety +1

    As always you made me cry and inspired me so much god.

  • @danagrl64
    @danagrl64 Před 2 lety

    You have described me, captured me, scribbled me in crayon! So thoroughly am I finally understood I resembled an emoji with large eyes filled with tears not yet shed; as I stand near a microwave pretending to cook tea uncertain of this emotion unearthed, “seen”.

  • @eestrole1902
    @eestrole1902 Před 3 lety +1

    ♡♡♡

  • @robertvollan7014
    @robertvollan7014 Před 2 lety

    A beautiful poem and a beautiful testament to your friendship with Buddy

  • @shreeloves
    @shreeloves Před 4 lety

    Thank you so much 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @ayusheeghoshal49
    @ayusheeghoshal49 Před 4 lety +1

    OMG. I LOVE YOU ❤️

  • @anupamagurung6911
    @anupamagurung6911 Před 4 lety +3

    💓💓💓💓💓

  • @jenmcgraw573
    @jenmcgraw573 Před 3 lety

  • @free_melie
    @free_melie Před 4 lety +1

    I love this!!! :) xoxoxo

  • @nuttyfroot
    @nuttyfroot Před 4 lety +1

    Omg 😭

  • @thelastcube.
    @thelastcube. Před 3 lety

    wow

  • @gretenfresser87
    @gretenfresser87 Před 4 lety

    As always - you wrote an beautiful poem.
    Still hoping that one day you will come to Germany

    • @holunderbluetenstaub
      @holunderbluetenstaub Před 3 lety +1

      She has been to Berlin several times, I can really recommand it! Have been there three times and its always great. If you want to travel to Berlin for the next one and need a place to sleep, let me know :) I would love to finally have someone to go there with ;)

  • @AudreyJDiCarlo
    @AudreyJDiCarlo Před 3 lety

    Love you

    • @AudreyJDiCarlo
      @AudreyJDiCarlo Před 3 lety

      Maybe I love the humanity I feel in you, how my heart connects to what you share

  • @virginiav5603
    @virginiav5603 Před 4 lety +1

    This is ah-maze-ingggg

  • @sleepiyu9647
    @sleepiyu9647 Před 3 lety

    😭😭😭😭😭

  • @malissahyatt2425
    @malissahyatt2425 Před 3 lety

    How many times will it take to type "W.O.W" to fill up the comments section just to get across my love for that last line??????????

  • @dipto9292
    @dipto9292 Před 4 lety +1

  • @user-bj4uu8hf8u
    @user-bj4uu8hf8u Před 5 měsíci

    lol lol size queen for hearts

  • @user-sj9hn3ib8i
    @user-sj9hn3ib8i Před rokem

    Being right is boring

  • @rickyclack1486
    @rickyclack1486 Před 4 lety +2

    He is lucky to have you..and the few teeth he has left

  • @anaantolicgledec465
    @anaantolicgledec465 Před 2 měsíci

    ❤🎉😢😂❤

  • @CynthiaHogan354
    @CynthiaHogan354 Před 28 dny

    🥹

  • @makennaburton259
    @makennaburton259 Před 4 lety

    Lots of recycled phrases and concepts. Still beautiful but hoping for more

  • @DreamChuckie
    @DreamChuckie Před rokem

    @lavenderxlovely

  • @sii479
    @sii479 Před 4 lety

    thank you thank you thank you thank you

  • @summer-zc1vg
    @summer-zc1vg Před 4 lety +2

    ❤️❤️❤️