DO NOT Bring Your Natural Hair to my Event CHITCHAT || Let's Talk About Our Beauty Standards
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- Today we are going to talk about our beauty standards in the Black ( African American, African, UK, Caribbean, etc ) community.
This chit chat was prompted by a statement that was made. A young women made the statement : "Do no bring your natural hair to my event." Rightfully so she went viral but for all the wrong reasons. However, she is the not the only person with this mindset when it comes to natural hair; her statements prompted this chit chat but we need to look beyond her because she is apart of a larger issue.
A women pastor made the statement " Who natural hair help?" She made this comment in regards to finding a mate. Her views are problematic as well, including her wanting you to conceal who you are to attract a mate.
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It saddens me that some women think natural hair is a trend. So when did something you were born with become a trend. It's like saying your skin and your finger prints are a trend. Let's be clear the real trends are faux lashes, makeup, wigs & weaves. I am so tired of looking at them. But I will never be tired of looking at natural hair because its so unique and versatile.
I wish I could like your comment one million times!💯
One of the reasons I love my natural hair, I can do the same style 2 days in row and it will always come out different, the versatility.
You are correct natural hair or rather the hair that grows out of our heads in not a trend. I would say how the media portrays it or accepts it is a trend. " Natural hair" in social media, on tv, celebrities, comes and goes, and then the masses follow.
For instance a lot of women went natural during the pandemic, and when the world opened back up they went back to relaxers. It was something to try while they were at home and no one really saw them.
I find it ludicrous that black men can wear their natural hair without a problem, but as soon as black women wear their natural hair out, the entire world is in an uproar.
Yes, there is definitely a double-standard for Black men! You hit it on the nail!
It’s because when the black woman wear her natural hair she is proudly wearing her crown!🌸
This is a very good point.
I see young black men with dreads, man buns, braids with shaved sides, but yet they will not date or be with a black women who is natural and will have negative things to say.
You embrace your natural hair but your mate cannot ?
Tynester547. 3mo ago😊
It. On. The nail.😊
Yesss I love this panel and discussion please do this more!!
All of the ladies were wonderful and thank you.
We have something in the works for a coupe of months from now. 😊
Loved this! However I think even within the natural hair movement, which has been so powerful, there has been a stratification as it pertains to length. Almost every natural hair influencer talks about growing hair to waist length or tailbone length as if it’s some prize to be won and we do not glorify short or medium lengths as much. It makes it seem as though only long hair is beautiful. It appears to be so ingrained that influencers don’t even realize their biases coming through when they speak about length. It’s just some food for thought! Again, great video. I enjoyed it!💕
I love your comment so much!! As a natural hair content creator, I’m always speaking about long natural hair and healthy natural hair as if they are one and the same; but to your point, they’re not! Great food for thought and something I will definitely consider as I continue to grow my platform. Thank you for sharing! 💕🙌🏾
Thank you for watching the live!
Great observation and something to think about.
I've been attending african functions for the last 4 years with my Sierra Leonian friend. While yes they do dress extravagantly well the first thing I notice is all the bad wigs and weaves. I am typically one in a handful that wears their natural hair. Now I understand how this narrative (don't wear your natural hair . . .) is deeply rooted. What happened to dressing in your Sundays Best? I wonder how she would explain that!
I’m West African and all the events I go to women are drop dead gorgeous. There’s a mix of naturals, relaxed, weaves, and wigs.
I think she wants you in your Sunday's best, but it needs to include a wig. This is why in the live I said if I were to ever speak to her I would challenge her to explain her statement or give more details. On Saturday we all looked equally beautiful and our hair was "done," but in different ways.
Jenn had a twist out.
Fine Naturals was wrapped up lol.
Coily was half up half down.
And I had mini twists and they were styled.
When she says natural hair I wonder if she was more or so referring to texture. I think for a lot of people 4c hair doesn't always look done and styled and comes across as messy, but as we have seen from Lupita and Teyonah Parris this is not the case.
It was enjoyable revisiting this! I've followed Jenn for years, but the other ladies are new to me. It's refreshing to see Mya laughing and engaging; it's a side of her I haven't seen before. We'd definitely be friends in real life, haha!
Hello Kelsie! Thank you. This live was really enjoyable for me!
I'm sad I missed the live because of work, but this was a great program.
Thank you! I hope you can catch the next one.
@@KlassicallyKept Ooo a next one?! I hope so ^_^
Announce the date and time before, please. Thanks🎉❤
I found this live very interesting. I am from New york and never ever thought about my hair or had anyone say anything about it.
Hey Ann.
That is wonderful.
And this is why I wanted to have this discussion; you have not had any problems. As we discovered on Sunday all four of us have head different experiences when it comes to our natural hair.
Wow. This was so amazing. It definitely needs to happen again. ❤
Thank you! We have something in the works for the next couple of months
This was a very interesting discussion! I do understand the ease of management thing, I get that but if that’s the case then you do usually see the ‘ease of management’ girls wear their hair at least sometimes. I believe this largely boils down to insecurity but women don’t want to admit it. I have been blessed to know how to style my own hair, for years I did my own box braids, crochet, laid my own wigs, etc but I never put the same effort into learning how to just maintain my own hair bc I felt plain when I tried to wear my hair. When I decided to stop wearing weave about 2 years ago, it was honestly a painful and humbling process. I went through a phase of not feeling attractive, feeling ‘basic’ as the girls say, feeling like I looked like a child bc I’m wearing twists and buns, all those things and I believe that’s what most women are afraid to go through. I work in a corporate setting as well and NONE of the black women wear their own hair and it was the black women looking at me crazy when I began wearing my natural hair. There are literally a few women at my job whose natural hair I have never seen and we’ve been working together for 5 years, that’s just absolutely crazy to me, that is an issue of insecurity and no one can convince me otherwise. As I began to go deeper into my relationship with God, I began to want to love and appreciate the me that He created, not the me that I could fix myself up to be. That’s when I began to notice an issue in the black community, women always wearing weave, crazy amounts of makeup, getting their bodies and faces altered all while pushing the guise of confidence but so few are willing to actually admit that one would only hide under wigs, beat faces daily, risking their lives for bbl’s etc., because you are insecure about who you are or how you will be accepted without those additions. No matter how you try to swing it, you are not presenting YOU with all of the additives. I also see and understand the challenges a lot of black women feel surrounding the fact that alot of black men tend to desire women of other races and I think that has created this strange mental struggle within a lot of us because we feel the need to stay in the race but we must face it, we aren’t white, we aren’t Latina and we aren’t going to look like them. We are black women, different yet very special and set apart in our own way and at some point we’re going to have to march toward owning and finding appreciation in that. I’m sorry I know this was a long comment 😆🙈
DO NOT apologize, this was very well said.
I am so glad that you were able to strengthen your relationship with God and out of that you began to love your natural hair !
@@KlassicallyKept Yesss! It was quite a process but I’m so happy that I stuck with it. I love your channel btw… take care ❤️❤️
I think interracial relationships are sticky if a parent is still indoctrinated to hate natural hair. I say this because natural hair is on a spectrum and the children's hair can be different textures, some loose and some tight. So if a parent is showing love to the looser textured hair it can get problematic.
I actually see this happen alot in interracial relationships. There's a reason that we see most black and white biracial couples let their son's hair grow very long; but we all know if the black parent had a fully black son, they most likely wouldn't do that. It's absolutely about the texture, but you'll never be able to get them to admit it though!👀
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 agree
I have seen this play out within an interracial family dynamic. Usually it seems the young man is aloud to do whatever with his hair and his curl pattern is looser and the young girl's hair is a "struggle."
@@KlassicallyKept agree
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682wow I’ve just realised most mixed men have long hair. Like they don’t have shape ups or nothing mainly cornrows or single plaits. Could this be due to texture?
I want to thank you & the other Beautiful Melanated women on your panel for trail blazing this topic. It's simple for me = Total Separation from self h8ing Melanated women/people.
I've been rocking my natural for a couple of months now = wash n go. What I love about my hair is the volume, the health, the definition & the shine 😍, but what I love most is *The Freedom* to be exactly who The Most High YAHUAH made me to be = Gloriously made in HIS *Image.* HalleluYAH!!! 💃🏿
Say loud and proud! You know I love big hair !
I remember when I cut off my relaxed ends, I felt free as well!
This conversation was very Refreshing. It was just the other day i was told to fix my hair. My hair was blown out and let loose at the time. I was upset because my hair was fairly straight and i was still getting hateful comments. So it's not really my hair but the fact that i am black and preferred not to relax my hair. I get this often here in Guyana and all hateful comments are from black people.
And to note I love my natural hair because it's actually easier for me. I enjoy spending 6 hours on a weekend just focused on myself. I never did that with any other type of hair. When my hair is relaxed or blown out I'm always fighting with it, combing it everyday and trying to keep it moisturized. My natural hair is soft and feels great for an entire week even if i don't remoisturize.
Leshanna.
I agree, I find doing my hair very therapeutic. I do not miss sitting in the hair salon ALL day. I can do my hair in the comfort of my own home and watch Girlfriends lmbo ( I could not get her name right ).
It is unfortunate that you received hateful comments and questions about your hair not being done. But it is wonderful that you have the beauty in your hair.
@@KlassicallyKept Thank you Mya
I was 4 when i got my first relaxer. I’m 36 and i just went natural going on three years this year. I knew i had come into loving myself. When my dad had had bday party two years afo and i wore my natural curls! I love my natural hair and i will never go back to relaxer!
Wow 4, I cannot even imagine! I am so glad you have come to realize and appreciate your natural beauty!
I LOVED IT!!! Please do this again 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for this discussion! Overall, one has to decide who they are in terms of being natural & if they are strong enough to deal with the misconceptions & disdain that others will have no problem in sharing about black hair, skin. etc.. Personally, I think black women struggle with not only the texture of the hair, but also the length. People are more accepting of longer hair that can be styled in more ways. Shorter, natural hair can be less versatile, so some may not be comfortable or know how to style it to look "presentable". Also, some women suffer scalp concerns that cause them to not embrace their natural hair.
I have found this to be true as well.
I can pull my hair back into a ponytail or style it in a bun and be fine, no one would be the wiser. For women we cannot or for the women who rock their twa's or twist outs they can often be questioned or ridiculed.
Someone touched on this during the live but you do have to be confident when it comes to wearing your natural hair , as it will come with questions, concerns, and comments.
Catching the replay from Germany 🇩🇪 I‘ve been a subscriber since the summer of 2021 and I love your channel so much Mya! I don’t typically comment but I really enjoyed the panel and will definetly follow the others ladies ☺️
Thank you Joelle! Pease do , they make wonderful content.
Wowwwwwww not my 4 favorite CZcamsrs all in one spot! Such a great topic of conversation and I loved everyone’s perspective on the matter. I know you said this could be a behind the scenes thing, but y’all should definitely continue on with another talk panel ❤❤
Thank you!
We have something in the works !
Watching this while trying my FIRST mini twist !!🥰
Yes! I know they turned out lovely !
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My dads gf put a Gehri curl in my hair and all I have to say is there is a scene in players club when a woman convinces another women to come out of the bathroom and talk that mirrors that memory 😂
That's terrible. I hop you were able to recover.
When my mother came home, it didn't get violent but she never trusted her again.
The discussion was very robust and thought provoking. Thank you!!!!!
Thank you!
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Hi this is Lavenia from Modesto California 😊
Hello Lavenia! I hope you enjoyed the live.
While I appreciate it that you all are of African origin, I truly wished you'd made the effort to get an African influencer from Ghana (which is where the lady you're discussing is ACTUALLY from) or Nigeria to be part of the conversation.
Because, the reasons you give is not the reasons our young women wear wigs or weaves back in Nigeria, or Congo, or Ghana.
Having said that, every commentary on that podcast has CONVENIENTLY not said anything about the "minimalist makeup she talked about. And that's why I don't see NATURAL HAIR as a MOVEMENT. Because, we all can't be screaming hair acceptance,yet we don't accept our NATURAL FACE! If we're going to embrace our makeup as God created us, why are we using tones of paints to cover up our thick noses, our thick lips,etc.
It sounds political to me.
Over all, it was an interesting conversation you all had.
Enjoyed this live🎉
(Rev 7:9,10;21:3-6)
Thank you! I very much enjoyed it myself.
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