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- čas přidán 18. 08. 2024
- As the title states, we had a chemical pregnancy.
Not started to bleed yet but my numbers have been dropping.
Looks like June for a transfer with donor eggs.
Married mother of 3 and surrogate. Both traditional (using own eggs) and gestational (carrying others embryos via IVF).
My youngest is currently undergoing diagnosis for autism.
I also do the usually family vlogger type things from chatty vlogs and DITL to hauls and reviews.
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So sorry =[ All my love with you all. You have let NOBODY down. You have given your IPs HOPE. You have never, ever let them down. You are one of few people on this planet who is willing to go through IVF and all the shit that goes with it, for the sake of someone else. You did everything you could and don't think for a second that you have failed them. I have so much faith in you and I know you will deliver so much joy to people in the future. You are amazing, Lisa. You really are. I have so much respect and admiration for you. xx
Thank you. This is so touching.
It's not how I feel but I guess you see the worst about yourself. I'd be a bit of an egotist if I thought like this. lol. But I really appreciate you and your words. Praying we get there but regardless of the outcome, I will give it my all.
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And that is all you can do, and so much more than most would do
I would think just telling them you are sorry for the loss (not that it's your fault but the same as if she was the one physically having the loss) and letting her know you are ready when they are for another round. That would be reassuring to me. The bond you have is there, keep it strong. Be strong for her, let her borrow some of your strength. Love you to pieces!
Thank you love.
A tiny teeny little soul very very loved and so wanted, too special it seems to meet just yet.....sent to wait patiently for their mum and dad to meet them later but to forever hold in their hearts. Sending love to everyone x
Thank you. That's beautiful.
so sorry to hear this, i really feel for you. What you are doing is amazing, I really admire you. I wish you and your IP's all the luck in the world, I really do. You will do it, you're so positive xxx
Thank you. I don't always feel positive but we will get there. Or fight really hard trying.
I'm so sorry. It is hard. Not being able to conceive naturally....wanting a baby so badly....IVF....the emotional roller coaster that it all puts you on. After over 4 years of trying we did IVF and I had a chemical miscarriage. I was so sad and felt like I did something to make it happen, or didn't do something or did too much. But everything does happen for a reason. I truly believe that. And it is hard to see what the reason is during it all. But there is a plan. Your IP's will have their baby. We were blessed with our twins after the chemical pregnancy and I couldn't imagine my life any other way. Keep the faith and hope is what I would tell your IP's. Hugs to you all!
Thank you!
I have felt the same. I over think a lot as it is. But you do wonder, did I do something? It not do something? Did I relax too much, and do too much when I knew it worked?
I was so happy. So excited. Full of hope and relief. I hate letting people down. But I guess it doesn't matter what I did or didn't do. What's done is done. You just have to brush yourself off and try again.
So glad you have your babies! That is amazing. X
There are so many things beyond your control! You gave them a chance, which is more than they had before! Please remember that when you're feeling defeated.❤️
Thank you. I will try.
im so sorry. u r such an amazing woman,never doubt that!
I'm so sorry for all of you :( you are so strong, what a crappy situation x
I don't always feel strong. Felt very whiny and a bit pathetic recently. Lol
Sending you lots and lots of hugs!I You are amazing and this will work eventually. I not all that great with the words of comfort for your IPs but I'm sending them hugs also.
It will work. Thanks love.
I am sooo sorry!!! Hugs!!!
Me too. Thanks love.
To the IP's: a c.s. Lewis quote.. Hardships often prepare ordinary people, for an extraordinary destiny...
You will look back on this point one day and realise that it was vital to get to your dreams, it always seems impossible till its done.
Sending you lots of love and hugs from ireland, you can do this! Find a way xxxx
Thank you. Great quote
Big hugs to you and your ip's. God has a plan for us all, sometimes cruel but sometime miracles, there time will come and you will be there miracle. Chin up and love to you all xxx
Thank you.
Sorry to hear this news xx
Me too.
:( I'm so sorry.
Me too.
p.s. I don't know if they watch your videos or see your Facebook page. But maybe that would comfort them to see what is written here. This is support for what you're going through, meaning all of you, which is also 100% them too! Hugs and lots of positive vibes to them xxx
They know I do them. I've always been honest and they've seen a few I think but I don't think they watch them much.
Was absolutely gutted for you all when I saw the title,we had a chemical in December and it's an absolute shitter,just all be there for one another...your time will come where you'll all sit and celebrate the baby you all created and grew together and it will make all this a distant memory! Would your ip's not consider ts? Xx
:( hugs Lisa, so gutted for you all x
I'm so sorry Lisa :-( I can't imagine how it feels. I don't mean the sympathy thing but to want to make someone's wishes come true so much and it go wrong. I do believe it will happen. They will be the family they want to be and it would be down to you. Wouldn't she use your eggs?? Xx
I did offer but I have really dark hair etc and they have fair hair so ideally they want a fair donor.
ohhhhhh that makes sense :-( its a huge shame. Im planning on donating some of my eggs after the babys born... hopefully i can make things easier for someone xxx
Oh lisa I'm so sad for u and ur IP's! I think you should say to your IP's that if we all stay positive we will make this happen keep your head up and smile. I no it's hard but we will get through this together. X
Will do. Thank you.
You are truly a wonderful person.
You are not a destroyer of dreams Lisa, this video made me so so sad to hear it from your POV. I think that's how we feel as infertiles as well tho, dream crushers
I'm sort hun. It's a real responsibility and I do feel I've let them down. Just like I let D&M2 down. :(
So sorry for u all. x
Thank you.
:( Sorry to hear things have been crappy.
Worse things have happened. X
How awful for both you and your IP's. You're right, life isn't fair. And people shouldn't have to fight so hard to get the most natural thing in the world. Completely stinks!
Just let them know (I'm sure they already know) that you are there and will be there with them every step of the way. And that one day, you will give them their most precious gift. No matter how long it takes, ensure them you are there for the long road. I know nothing about surrogacy, apart from what I have learned from you. I have TTCed for just 14 months with 2 miscarriages and that was hard enough, and I couldn't begin to imagine. But I'm guessing, by them having you to help, they have hope. I have heard some bad stories about surrogacy, where the surrogate hasn't handed over the baby, and all that jazz. But, with you, they know they have complete trust, hope, commitment and the knowledge that they are going to be parents one day. And that should be enough to keep them going and fighting.
Lisa, don't be so hard on yourself. Because you are doing something so amazing, that I know I couldn't personally do. And I have the upmost respect for you. There is nothing you could of done, or not done that would have changed the outcome. I'm so sorry :(
I'm going to stop rambling now, sorry for going on lol! Huge hugs xxx
Thank you. Massively. It's amazing how much someone's words can touch you.
Sorry it froze and wouldn't let me type... Anyway... I will keep going. Sadly there are no guarantees. I know they will try again but they've said they will accept it if it's not meant to be but will give it their all first. I just hope that fate is kind.
I'm sorry love!
Me too. Thank you.
Oh I'm so sorry :( x
Thank you.
I would quite happily donate mine to her but I have a uterus hogger at the minute. But I will be donating eggs at done point. Hopefully I can help someone the way I was helped. I know how it feels to be them and for it to seem impossible. But all I can say is look forward to the future not the past xx
Me too. Need to lose weight but then I'm donating. I hope. Need to find a clinic closer to me to do it as I'd rather not be driving an hour or 2 away.
yh its a pain. do you have to take the hormone injections or anything to do it?? xx
:( Such a shame.. but just remember those odds... 20% and those cells came so so close!...just something wasnt right. Horrible to go though all those drugs and then its all over (been there twice) Hugs to you.
Thanks. Twice here too now. Last Ivf was a chemical too. But that was shorter lived and if not have known if I've not tested daily. Lol it'll happen.
It will!! Take time to recover x. IVF is so so hard and full on on every aspect :( Rollercoaster is an understatement lol
Oh this really does suck in a really sucky way. Don't feel guilty, which is so easy for me to say. Your going to do this! You really are!
I hope so. There are no guarantees but we can hope. Really hope.
How are you feeling now Lisa? Hope youre a little better x
Thanks for asking. But better. Still defeated but I'm getting used to it now
We r already mums so we know dreams do come true xx
We do. But only for some and not for all.
Big Hugs to you!
Oh no!!! :( :(
Thank you x
Sorry lisa read previous post about your eggs. Seems odd about choice of hair colour though their choice I guess.
Maybe it's because I'm a bit fat cow and they don't want to offend me?!! Lol
I will support them whatever their choice.
lumdeedums you are absolutely gorgeous.
Is there a reason that a traditional surrogacy isn't an option for this couple? Can't YOURS be the donor eggs?
They didn't want to use my eggs. They want someone who looks more like my IM. We look nothing alike really. So that's their choice.
Gutted for you all 😢
Me too. Thank you.
I have eggs how can I give them my eggs I feel for u all in this situation bless u all keeping everything crossed for you all to get there in the end xx
Lol. I feel like that a lot when you see people needing a donor. I'm donating after this journey.
Why dont your ips want to use your eggs?