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- Millions of college students "go Greek" nationwide, but now one college senior is raising concern by publicly sharing the dark side of her own sorority experience in a CZcams video that's going viral and has a lot of students and parents talking. TODAY’s Hoda Kotb reports.
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Former Sorority Sister Speaks Out Against Her ‘Greek’ Experience | TODAY
In my experience, greek life is basically extended High School for people who like that kind of life. It really is just cliquey and a big popularity contest. I found the maturity level to be quite low, as most people were more concerned about their "image" than anything else.
You should have joined a professional fraternity if you want be with mature students. However thats why its important to know how people in the fraternity are like before you join. I'm in a social frat but a good majority of them are committed to their school work.
Watching an episode of "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit" is what brought me here.
Maybe, but it's not suitable for people who only worship the one true God.....it's basically another religion or a cult.
aka the cool people, u loosers can move on
@Jordyn Leigh that's what a cult member would say
sororities: for girls who are still stuck in high school popularity contests
Hannah Bruce lmao nowadays if people wanna be popular you have to use social media 😂
Hannah Bruce you sound salty
It really depends. Differnet sororities have different motives and values
🤣🤣🤣
Not true haha
thank god my college doesnt have greek life, it makes the campus a lot more welcoming and less cliquey
Mia D wish I could say the same for Syracuse. Unfortunately, I go to a school where Greek life is huge, and you feel pressured into joining, even though you could be against it.
My school had a huge greek herd. But, the school was so big that they kind of "exclusivated" themselves into oblivion. I noticed them some during the beginning of my freshman year. But, except for two or three isolated occasions, I never noticed them after that (even though they were embarrassingly obnoxious and drew unbecoming attention to themselves at every conceivable opportunity.) I never could imagine myself living a life with that little dignity.
Honestly though. My ex-roommate is in a sorority and after I quickly watched her becoming entitled and going home but not wanting me to come with her for a weekend when my mom had a heart attack...she quickly turned into a sour person and it’s that sorority that changed her that way.
Mia D Big ups to Canadian colleges and universities for not having them
That's not true lmao
Boy if she wasn't the DAUGHTER OF AN NBC EMPLOYEE
Dont worry, Syracuse Greek system already went ahead and confirmed they are absolute cesspools, and so has essentially 80% of other ones across the country
Yep!!!!
And that matters why?
Regardless of race or class, Greek Life has its toxicities.
Everything does but this sounds like a white person thing...
All I hear is I want to be the "best". The best of this. The best in that. The best version of "me". Coincidental? I don't think so. Stop making excuses for bullying, hazing, stereotyping, exploitation, etc.
WanderingOldSoul I totally agree, it confuses me because I’m sure if you asked most of these girls why they think they’re “the best” they wouldn’t have a real answer that truly has anything to do with themselves. It feels like these young women are repeating terms like “values” and “best version of myself” but many of the things they do is to receive validation from others within their social groups.. Sorority life doesn’t seem like the best fit for young people who are truly trying to grow up and be independent and learn more about themselves as people, the concept just seems quite damaging. I feel very sad that sororities misrepresent themselves and let these young adults fall into their traps.
I've always felt this way about sororities. They take advantage of young, vulnerable minds and pressures them to smash into a cookie cutter persona. I've known quite a few girls from my high school days that eventually chose to go into sororities and it was not a coincidence that many of those girls in high school were rude, judgmental, and just all around "mean girls". College is about finding individuality, inching away from domestication, and finding their own paths. When you're in a fraternity or sorority, you are turning your back on independency and individuality and trading that for comfortability, friends that are paid for, and lack of social interaction past that lifestyle.
I had no interest in Greek like in college. I’m glad now I didn’t go that route. It’s good she spoke up.
Bc you’re not a bigot who can’t imagine living with minorities. I understand the benefits of it but you can’t deny it’s just a barrier to allow white girls to segregate themselves.
I feel like it only goes 2 ways. You either have a great experience or you have a bad experience.
I have had that. It depends if you are good at the group 'culture' or if you grait against it. I would probably grate against it to some extent.
I do not know,I never was greeked.
Soooooo... Groupthink.
I went to college and had a roommate that pledged. It was some horrible things she went through. I didn’t want to pledge at the time
“Those who aren’t in Greek life can’t see all the good we do.”
Wow no kidding, maybe that’s the problem. If you’re known more for the bad then the good, then you argue the good just isn’t visible to the public, then maybe, just maybe, maybe there isn’t much good in the first place! Wow so shocking!!😱😱
The people who judge don't do volunteer work...
@ aidan france
Greek life can be toxic, not every member is as they claim to be. Many Greeks are mentally stuck in middle school….that’s the harsh reality. That of course doesn’t apply to every member, but it definitely applies to the majority.
fun fact there’s sororities with girls who are really chill lol i used to hate the idea but chi omega at my school has super down to earth girls, not popular or people who peaked
girls in Greek life who don't fit the "steryotypical" sorority girl are ready to jump on saying that Greek life is good and that the negative image that society doesn't apply. I don't think those girls realise that just because they're breaking the standards that have been placed, doesn't mean everyone is. just because you don't want to be affliated with the image, doesn't mean that there aren't those girls who do fit. I'm just saying as a sister myself
Grammar check please?
That's like racism lol.
I remember being asked to pledge a frat... I you are my friend, we drink together, I come to the parties... Why would I pay for friends? I understand why people like it but it's not for me and I got over my need to be accepted around 13.... I did. Not come to college to join a popularity contest
Junior freemasons.. The beginning of the ruin of young men and women. Eastern star juniors. On the face of the presenter you can tell she knows the girl is telling the truth. A culture of cruelty? I could not have thought of a better way to describe it!
Very informative. It took courage to bring this to light. What happened to the days these Greek organizations volunteered in the communities and made the universities better for their cities. Sadly they now seem more focused on the superficial.
Historically black sororities are completely different for the most part.
asseater007 what’s different?
Joining that crap is stupd.
Yeah let’s hear what the atheist has to say about social life
Sounds like somebody didn't get a bid
the way u spelled stupid probably implies you didn't go to college or a fraternity
@@knm4428 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
@@StellarJAGuar What's being an atheist gotta do with it?
You showing young woman everywhere to have more self confidence and it’s ok to be yourself.
They are adults and choose to pay for friends and their privilege grants them access to these "networks." Either way it is hard to feel sorry for adults who choose to join these groups and pay to be a part of it.
Pedro smith ok, but are actually paying for housing and other services, that costs money.
Pedro smith
If you pay someone to be your friend then YOU are not friend worthy.
You know, some of these girls go into sororities with an open mind and find it to nit be what they expected. During rush, things are picture perfect and once pledged, things change. Rules are applied and expectations are high.
You are paying for a budget not friends. Ever heard of utilities, insurance, events, supplies, other miscellaneous expenses? Attend a budget meeting and you’ll see
@Sofia Toral
Either way, if the girls in particular sorority are toxic and have a middle school personality, then those costs aren’t worth it.
It was written all over hoda's face fron the jump, that she was in a sorority, smh
If they were for leadership, they would not be forming these groups. They would be stressing individuality.
Black fraternities are
I had a really great experience... no hazing, all friendly, open to all types of people and personalities. I wasn’t even super active the last 2 years i was in it but they still supported me and the things i did. My whole college was very open and welcoming too, not just to Greek life. The Greek life at my school partied and studied as much as any other student and participated in other sports and activities as well. I feel bad for people who didn’t have such a great experience as I did. I’m not even being biased, I just really had a great time and I’m proud to be in my chapter and still be involved after graduation. I hope others get the experience I did.
Yea it depends on where people go
She had a greek experience. Must have been hard to sit down.
Shocker
I don't understand how colleges and Greek life are we related.
MEAN GIRLS CLUB DUHH
She’s kind of Purdy.
Just don't join a sorority
What EXACTLY do sororities stand 4. Do they have anything resembling a mission statement?
Robyn Dismon yes, each chapter and sorority has its own. It’s called google and it’s FREE!
@@GC-pq6vm Sorry sweetie, by no means am I taken aback and suddenly.challenged by u or your poor attempt at sarcasm.
Google is not free. So back up Betty.
@@GC-pq6vm person A: so why should I join your frat/sorority
Person B: hah just Google it
Convincing argument
what exactly is the complaint here? I don't follow... hashtag vamp??? wtf
What is “greek” used for in this connotation?
Greek Life as in Sororities and Fraternities
"Those that are not in Greek Life really aren't able to see all the positive things we do..." I find this troubling. This is giving a "us versus them" mentality. As if people not in Greek Life just can't understand or see the good in what some chapters do. Plus, the person who spoke out was in Greek Life, she wasn't saying the whole organization was bad just that there were troubling situations. When a person can't even say "We have some bad apples" you wonder.
I'm in greek life and the whole philanthropy thing is a tiny portion. Rush is a fake marketing scheme and it's sad. I'm against sororities 100%. I'm actually about to drop.
I hate secret society
definitely not true of the culturally diverse sorority I am in.
Same here
Wow ! Matt Laurer talking about disappointing.
Basically baby free- masonry 😭😭😩
This is sad because us a LOT of this true but there are a lot of positive experiences. I experienced all the drama, gossip, cliques, BS crap, cheating but there are positive aspects: tons of opportunities for leadership as far as chairing programs, joining an exec board, fundraising for the sorority non profit.. even learning how to run a professional meeting using Robert’s Rules... learning to read bi-laws. Sororities are like little franchises and so you get a peak into being a part of a business. Anyway but ya on another note depending on who you choose to be your circle of friends within the sorority will make it or break it for you. I also was in very “average looking” sorority, not necessarily rich or anything (but equally “fun” haha), so we were not known as being bourgeois stuck up types.
"If you pay for friends what happens when the funds are low".
The present state of this economy we have now is a joke. No one has real money but fronting in rented cars and houses paying payments and interest. Corny!
Where the money?
I can't get a dime from the bank but they will take your money! 🤔
It’s funny bc the girl at SU was in tri delta too
3:02 there's a guy standing in the back.
Not Peggy oh my God hahahahah
Angelica Schuyler Church so? He’s just watching them
Joining a fraternity was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life, a stepping stone to networking and connections to people that I may never have been able to get in contact with had I not been a member of this organization. You cannot speak on an organization that you are not affiliated with, you don’t see what actually happens behind closed doors. We are held to a certain standard. To be scholars , gentlemen and successful. I will put my life on the line to protect my brothers and our name. This is bigger than ourself , and Greek life has been around since the 1800’s and will live long after that. It seems you people hate that you didn’t get the privilege to become a member of these organizations and feel left out and out the mix. It’s never too late to rush. How can you hate from outside of the club? You can’t even get in #ruhrahrega
They missed out on it and now they have to pretend it was for the best all along.
‘You can’t even get in’ - that there is the problem. These societies are an excuse for people to feel privileged and exclusive and to look down on others.
@@CymruEmergencyResponder That's not true at all... Well I guess it depends on who you talk to because there are some entitled people who belong to them but the people I've met are just looking for a way to meet friends and build connections for a good college experience. That's literally it for some. None of the you can't get in or us vs them unless you're looking for an extension of highschool which is a personality issue not a sorority issue
The Occult.
She was hazed or somthing hard
The Greek Experience that she's discussing is considered in hazing and bullying. If such terrible things were going on within her chapter; she should've reported it to the Greek Life Center, her university, or the NPC. The real issue lies, not within the system, but her chapter.
Awks Dev Most of them are like that and nothing changes. Half of the sororities and fraternities at my school are on probation and nothing’s changed.
A comment that I actually agree with! Thank you!
Please do a video on my story
What was she expecting?
What sorority was that?
But she was in it for 2.5 years??
What's the "Greek Experience"? Body Odor and non-Spartan chiseled body wifebeater like a Scicilian?
It sounds like she didnt have the makings of becoming a varsity athlete. Also her shinebox sucks
If u want to join a club with greek letters. Join a Buddhist fraternity or sorority or a Christian Fraternity or Sorority.
Greek life aka I wish I still had my HS letterman jacket on
Ew makes me want to puke
Disappointing and harmful? That's just life.
I’m not too familiar with white fraternities or sororities, so I can’t speak on that. But I don’t see these stereotypes with black fraternities/sororities.
As a person of color who joined a "white" sorority (quotes because that's changing) its everywhere but not in every house. It depends on the reason why you're joining. There are people who want an extended version of highschool who only care about whose attractive or cool, but there are others like the one I joined that values and focuses on diversity and individuality. I grew up in a predominantly white school and I'm the suburbs so it was where I found my place easier but I also just hate the separation and I am trying to help be the difference so more people of color feel welcomed in places that used to be white only or anything like that. But it's not all bad and some are honestly great I joined one but unfortunately that lack of the cookie cutter image or party girl image gets us listed as bottom tier and weird without people actually meeting us. I try to make friends with people outside of Greek Life to avoid being put into a box because of the reputation of my sorority or Greek Life in general because I just want to be comfortable to be myself and not miss out on any opportunities or experiences
The ppl that speak against the Greeks are the ones that could never be apart of any sorority organization and the ones who were former Greeks may speak the truth.
In a large sorority now, I'm about to drop. The stereotypes are 100 percent true.
Thats only some sororities.
Not all the sororities are like that. I had a pretty good Greek life experience. The main issues of drama were with nationals.
DGs DOING GOOD
Greece on fire,what do you think know?
This them white sororities
How are the black sororities? Are they more welcoming? Just curious
@@RhiannaBarr college life is dead everybody online now lmao
upholding values with that haircut I don't think so
What does her haircut have to do with it? She is probably more educated than you.
In other countries when you go to Uni you pick and choose interest groups. None of this sorority -mind control, pack mentality, bulling and hazing. Its ludicrous. You are an adult. You make friends with whoever you want to. You join groups or you don't. Nothing is ever forced on you. It's not meant to be prison - its a place to study to further your education and career options. Seriously students should be boycotting this rubbish.
She's Cute
Not all are like that. I would suggestion wisdom when joining one. I love my Alpha Nu Omega family. Nuu-Aaaaa
1:23 yeeeeaaah sure that happened
I can tell you I love my sorority, we are a family. I get nothing but love and support from them. We are against hazing and have set out to stop any. We do so many positivie things in service and our values, and it is meaningful to us. You can go out if you want, but it is never expected of your, youre never pressure. Since I've join my sorority I have felt nothing but love and warmth and understanding and support. I wish we weren't shown in such a negative light. They always show the bad, never the good.
Girl, blink if you want to be saved. You do not sound like what you wrote.
Joining a sorority was the best decision I’ve probably ever made. My house is so diverse and there’s a variety of those who want to go out often and those who decide to stay in on the weekends. It’s way more than what a good percentage of non-sorority members view of it- we are making a difference in our community and they are truly my extended family. Thank you for standing up for us! ❤️
I think you didn't see the video or you have learning problems because they actually show a group of people that they were saying the same as you ( at 01:43) . 🤦♂️
But the main point Is most of them are bad, half of the sororities are on probation for a reason... And nothing change.
The ones that are good like you say are not even good because they don't change the paradigms. As example do you think good ones change othe people minds and influence them in to being a better student? The answer is no the good ones remain the same with the same number of students trying to get in, while the bad ones attract more students so they do change things for worse... That's why it's a critical issue.
Fake nice
Greek life is what you make of it. YOU make the letters the letters don't make you! If you don't agree with something stand up and make a change you are a part of a sisterhood and being sister's means bettering each other.
As an actual Greek, this is embarrassing and really disrespectful wtf
You dont know anything about your own culture. Sad. Look up greco roman mystery religions
I remember her, that's the girl that never wanted hang out, never wanted go out, never wanted to participate in functions... I mean she's one person that didn't like the experience, I'm sure the few hundred thousand plus people that do like it are just not getting it and should follow her lead, I mean it's not like the fraternity system has been around for over a hundred years or anything!
Anonymous Poster Wait a min, aren't you the one who kept trying to sneak unmarked boxes of "meat" into the halls? Thought you would've been sectioned or arrested by now tbh.
If your values don’t align with your sorority, just quit. You don’t have to ruin it for everyone else. Sororities are just fun. If you don’t want to have fun, leave.
Kalle Scope clearly the situation she was describing was not fun.
Oh PLEASE UGH 🙄🙄🙄😐😑😑
How is shining a light on the negatives of sororities (generally speaking) ruining it for everyone else? Are you FOR sororities judging the people that want to join based off of their looks and weight?
Life is not fun.
Just because something is “fun” doesn’t mean it’s always “ok”. Really immature response
the original Greek people were and always have been black . and if you think that's not true they have taken the identity of the children of the most high yahawah . they not only did that but these white people who really are lepers changed the names of the most high from yahawah to god jehove and a bunch of other names . they changed the names of the yahadam to disciples which is an American word . they changed there names from there given Hebrew names that all started with yah because his people are called by his name . they changed there names to latin, American, names so that they would reflect them . so they have history but why would they want to hide there identity