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- This week on Better Together, Joyce Meyer discusses breaking free from controlling relationships. Join the conversation as Laurie Crouch, Natalie Grant, Nicole C, and Alex Seeley join Joyce Meyer to discuss how to confront toxic people in your life.
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00:00 Intro
00:21 Growing up Afraid
04:40 Controlling People
14:22 Lacking Self-love
16:45 Insecure People Control Others
19:47 Confronting Controlling People
24:24 Prayer for Courage - Zábava
Narcissistic abuse is far more complex than advising people to 'stand up for themselves'. People raised by abusers have complex ptsd and they have adapted for survival. It may be years or even decades before they even realize they are being abused because it's all they know, its normal. Speaking up in these relationships and resisting control does not go well and usually leads to punishment. My best advise to people who become aware that they are experiencing abuse is to remove yourself. Narcs don't change...you'll waste precious time in their drama. If there are no kids involved cut contact completely and leave quietly. Then your nervous system can properly detox and heal from the past. It's extremely difficult to heal in the same environment that is hurting you. Practice self compassion...this heals the shame. It's a process but be persistent, God does set you free but you must separate yourself from this.
Thank you for the truth! Confronting a narc will lead to more gaslighting, invalidating , abuse! If you cant get out learn to take care of self, grey rock the narc, lean on Jesus!
I totally agree! Well said. Confronting an abuser can be VERY dangerous! It will typically increase the battering. Be wise in safety planning in how you get out.
Very well said. I had to stop listening to Joyce Meyer for a time even though I adore her. As the scapegoat of my family trying to get them to see and change their behavior escalated their abusiveness. With God’s help I’m learning to stand up for myself with them and make it clear that I am no longer willing to be their punching bag aka scapegoat!
Asha, this is very insightful, thank you.
Amen 🙏 I’m stuck to help a narcissist father and he is 85, lord please help me
It is called narcissism! Everyone should learn about that personality disorder, especially before marrying someone! It is sooo important!
And narcissism is the Jezebel spirit that is written in apocalypse
@@stellantai7239 💯💯💯💯
I agree.
facts❤❤❤
So right
It's impossible to have boundaries with a narcissist. I'm so grateful to be free!!!
I once heard that pride and the NEED to control, is insecurity dressed up!
Yes. It is. My family is full of people like this. They don't even realize that they are their own worst enemy.
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DEEP!!
@@ladennayoung2939 sorry a stranger here. Funny how one thinks they are alone in whatever they're going through, but they're actually not. Same here, and have longed to really hear from someone else dealing with the same issue. If i may ask, how are you dealing with that, what are you doing/what measures have you taken for your sanity?
in work situations, was assisting the process without question. Prepared, driving staff, training new workers. When I had ankle pain and physio, the employer could not show any understanding. He was thinking about the business going exactly as he wanted. Notably, the office staff with whom I spoke to after work...they were very busy, it was not a good time to say anything about me having some pain. Thus the employer (who wasnt around at that time) concluded something negative. Blocks to hearing what is happening are not so good. We all experience some changes while working. To be denied this happens is very unaccepting. In real teams if someone has an injury or challenge in their life, the team understands That Happens. They dont get angry and decide the person is purposely trying to have pain. No one can control everything. If you have consistently shown good responses and been part of a process towards some Needed goal, It ought to be brought to mind by employers. It was difficult to hear only anger how I wasnt being picture perfect. Its not all about the employer, Its not all about the employees. I got physio, I moved and worked at a different branch. Employers who want only positive results can get Too controlling. There are challenges in business, they must count the cost and anticipate these kinds of possibilities and Use their problem solving minds to Keep a balance. Plusses and minusses are both part of businesses. Or families, or friends. If they mind the variations that happen, then they dont matter. Funnily after working for another employer, one woman got a back injury. She had not been so understanding when I had broken my toe. In her time of pain I said I hope you get better. Her injury was by accident. She could not do her work /was now Not in control. Hope she remembers this.
Nov. 2020 , I broke free from a very toxic relationship. He was manipulative and narcissistic. I allowed myself to stay under that because I had made him an idol, I didn’t realize that… but I cried out to God and told Him, I don’t have the strength to leave him, you have to do this!” And He did! Praise God and I am healing.
mine looks so tuff to come out children are the ones to hinder me because the last one told mum please wait for me to finish my high school that what am doing
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I'm so happy for you, I was in an abusive relationship with my kids dad and I finally broke free because he went to prison and I was single mother of four for 7 years but then I was praying to God to send me someone because I was lonely and tired of doing it myself so after that prayer I met someone at my job and when we went out to eat he asked me to pray with him so I thought God had answered my prayers. It has been 5 years of up and down with this man and right now I am not able to work because I have L4 and L5 disc problems and waiting for surgery on July 14th but this man I have been with which is my husband now has kicked me out and has not been helping me to pay my medical insurance so my aunt has paid for it the last two weeks. He has anger issues and I never know what mood he will be in and he has a drug problem that he has fought off and on since we have been together, and , my mother just got out of the hospital, I have been praying for God to give me strength and guidance and help me get my insurance paid until I can get surgery and get back to work.
a way out feels amazing. ;)
Pray for me. Was about to leave my narc/abusive husband and found out I was pregnant.
I want to applause every woman who has removed themselves out a toxic situation, rather it was a intimate relationship , family , job, life situation , life choices , you go girl !!!!!! Never forget how strong you are and Remember God got us , it’s so easy to get caught up in what we still have left to work on about ourselves but NEVER forget what you have already done for yourself , you all are remarkable and ladies the only way is UP!!!! Love you my sisters, sending positive vibes and love you guys way 🥰❤️
And I just want to add , for my strong woman who might still be in a toxic situation , remember you are strong and you are capable ! You got this , do what’s best for your beautiful soul and spirit and never feel guilty about it , WE DESERVE HAPPINESS LADIES 🥰😄🤸🏽♀️
Thank you
Amen Slay with Mani
Thank you, so much!!! This is such an important topic. Praise God, for His faithfulness, love and protection.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN. SISTER 💖 💓 💞 💕 💘 💖
Sometimes confrontation is not an option. A lot of times you just have to leave you have to run. Sometimes literally run and never look back. Leave that person behind.
Jesus Christ healed me! This is my story about my healing! I was extremely ill !! I had diabetes and kidney failure, which urgently requires dialysis! I prayed to God to heal me, not for me, because I don't deserve it, but for my little children, who were left without a mother! in exactly that day, in which I prayed, the Lord healed me! I suddenly felt the pain in my kidneys go away, as well as the dryness in my mouth (diabetes). I'm a new women now! I thank the Lord for His mercy and love for us!
I left the abusive marriage of 16yrs to a 'Christian' and moved to the next town. Praise God.
well done!
I left after 16 moths, I wish I would have known way before… good you got out Also 😵💫
Sometimes the confrontation is confronting yourself and make an exit plan and get out!
It can be dangerous to confront your abuser.
@Cindy Robertson It is dangerous when you *Don't* confront. That's why the person being abused is insecure, unsure, afraid and afraid to make a move, any move. Trying to read the abuser's mood is what victims attempt to do before taking action, which they rarely do. This renders them 'helpless.'
Agreed!! It took me about six months of planning my exit strategy....when it happened, he didn't even see it coming and my children and I were nowhere to be found.
Narcissist Don't allow you to confront, they will GASLIGHT you and deny their actions & words.
Absolutely
It's not about confronting for a discussion. It's about stating something, being steadfast and then taking action. Just the fact that you're saying they won't listen or deny, you're looking for something in return. In order to break the pattern it's about what you say, how you say it and standing in that. What they do or say has nothing to do with it.
For the record, WE ALL HAVE NARCISSISTIC TRAITS at times. They come out of everyone when they are triggered. Someone with these traits where they can't accept what you're saying or deny it, doesn't mean they don't hear it or absorb it. They are scared, especially men who are conditioned to be strong and not have emotions.
They are hurting bc in their past they were so controlled in abusive ways. It's about stating the fact of what is taking place or whats not right or healthy in an objective way, standing firm in it by not arguing about it, and ALSO being loving with words, actions, and tones through the whole thing! You can't do this if you are triggered or emotional bc you're using a different part of your brain. You must step away, regroup, and then come back to state.
If that seems impossible, then it's only because there's more healing you need to do around this area, building of self-esteem and worthiness that needs to happen, and that's the reason people like this are in your life so you can grow and evolve!
Just know, when you step away, regroup and then confront in a loving objective way, you won't be swayed by emotion when they say anything back. You will only have more love and compassion for their inner child who is in a stare of fear bc that's all fear responses.
Confronting narcissists doesn’t make a difference, they’ll never change. I was telling him his wrongs and he was always either denying it or pretending that he wouldn’t understand
Same
EXACTLY 💯
What would you say is demonic? What are some signs . ?
@@jenniferjennabussey I am not sure what signs you’re asking for? Demon possessed or generally demonic satanic doings? manipulation is demonic, the spirit of Jezebel is demonic = narcissism . When ppl have lost their conscience they don’t fear or embarrassed for anything,the become evil.
Absolutley True
I just walked away from a 7 year abusive relationship now I'm working on healing myself my heart and my soul
God bless.
7 years too long i cant do 7 months
MAY GOD BLESS AND STRENGTHEN YOU! ❤🙏
good 👍
I wanted to share that I was in a abusive relationship and I was scared to leave but then I was threaded for my life. I called the police and the whole day went smoothly. Without going in all the details the man was removed from my life and I had shelter. God gave me an opportunity for a new job too. God came through
Hope his name didn’t start with an M.. I know this one ... god bless u girl
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"Love should not feel like youre walking on eggshells."
- Emma Xu
May everyone here finally get out of that toxic relationship. May you be healed. 🙏❤️ GOD bless everyone. 🙏
Amen!
Amen!!! Thank you Jesus!!!
Absolute truth 🙏🏻 🙌🏻🙏🏻
In Jesus name!!
Praying 🙏🙏🙏
Praying for my brother to be released from a toxic relationship with his girlfriend in the name of Jesus
Yes, he is still in time. Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏
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send this video to him and pray it opens his eyes
I am praying with you, sister. Trust God, that he will deliver your brother, if it is his desire to be delivered. God will honor that, for sure.
DEUS JÁ CUROU , SEU IRMÃO JÁ É DELE
Such a wonderful video! Narcissistic relationships taught me how to value the matchless love of God. Once He filled my cup, there was not room for toxic connections anymore, they were literally pushed out!! Praise God!
Yes!!! That's awesome 👌 👏 👍
Wonderfully stated!
Beautiful
Yes I needed to hear this I'm being controlled and intimidated by my family and marriage please keep me in prayer it's draining me so bad.😢
Stay strong and keep your faith in God, he will deliver you🛐
You Tube TraceFace and Narc Con. These abusive Controllers are NARCISSISTS! They are Fallen Angels and they are INSIDIOUSLY DANGEROUS!!! I put up with it for 17 years from my manager, the abuse almost killed me. My health deteriorated in every way imaginable. You must get away from the place you are being abused to heal. 🙏🇺🇸🙏You will get through this. But go to YOU TUBE FOR FREE COACHING. This is an EPIDEMIC GOING ON ALL OVER THE WORLD. Johnny Depp almost didn’t make it out ALIVE.
Pray to God for clarity, advice and protection. Seek counseling immediately and find activities to keep you busy. Join a group (discretly) which consists of peers encountering the same problems. Keep in mind that sometimes different opinions can confuse you as well. I'm glad u recognized you are in a negative environment so knowing is one third of the battle. Being proactive and seeking viable solutions are the next steps. Praying for brighter days and peaceful nights
God will deliver. Talk to him. Stay strong. He will open the floodgates to peace and freedom to your beautiful new life. Trust and believe. I used to feel stuck but I kept praying and BOOM! The Lord moved me. ❤
I'll continue to 🙏💕
OMG this spoke to me… I broke away from a toxic relationship and I am sooo grateful to God for helping me break it off… thank you JESUS For freeing me…if you are in this situation please leave… I know it is hard trust GOD and leave….
Sometimes we have to let our loved ones go through what they need to learn and grow n it's so hard to watch. Keep praying the spell will be broken💙praying with you don't lose hope GOD IS GOOD
@lana
Yeah her advice to confront it isn’t necessarily the right decision but leaving is the right decision for sure
Walk away and NEVER LOOK BACK!!!
I hope u moved
Having Stockholm syndrome for years & when finally free ptsd , OCD anxiety, auto immune diseases, cancers, eating disorders abuse has no discrimination no gender
Love Joyce..."Control is a type of witchcraft, it's demonic from the word go. Should not allow yourself to get into relationships that are controlling. Boundaries are so important." Henry Cloud and John Townsend's book on Boundaries
AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯💯💯💯💯💯
God showed me same thing... Narcissism is about Control and that is demonic stronghold.
I heard this before from one of Derek Prince's sermon
They isolate you, accuse you of what they do, lots of fear, walking on eggshells, pain processing is hitting me like a flood
That part .but I wanted the control but he did the trauma.i felt I was smarter cause he told u always forget
I got on a plane. Never looked back. Jesus has been so faithful.
I think there should be more programs dealing specifically with spiritual abuse. We need to address head-on and openly the issue of narcissistic pastors that wreck havoc in the lives of people and make them even to stray from God and the church. That church should be like a family is true, but not a dysfunctional one. People need help and they are not getting it anywhere.
Preachers don’t see that that is the spirit of Jezebel manipulative.Apocalypse 2:20 ( not as serious as is written there but is the same spirit)
@@stellantai7239Yes, and I think it should be exposed not excused because it's too prevalent. Victims should be given a voice and be appropriately helped when leaving that kind of highly controlled environment.
I was physically and mentally abused all my life, now even a close family member is verbally abusing me daily like my father use to, it's sad when you love someone and they hate you, pray for me
'I will have No friends, or friends who respect one another'! Quote by Joyce Meyer. And 'Toxic friends (or relatives) are Not your friends'! People who constantly talk down to you, like u r less than, are your worst enemy! (Because they know u best, they know what hurts you.). 'When you stand up for yourself, people will respect you'! By Joyce Meyer. Thank you, I'M STANDING. ♥️♥️♥️
Going through this toxic emotional abuse. My spirit is broken. May the dear Lord take me out of this situation
Ladies and gentlemen, it’s not always about how far we have left to go, we should also think about how far we’ve come. ❤ You are ALL stronger than you think. No weapon formed against you shall prosper. Remember that. Love you all. 🙏🏽❤️
It was at my job seems like every job I had ppl get so jealous & insecure so they always do the most to get me fired. I will eventually become my own boss & treat people with respect. I have accepted God is preparing me to be in the leadership position & give people a fair chance.
Yes, I've experienced that alot too. God is preparing us by showing us what NOT to do once we're in a leadership position.
amein
These types of people are everywhere... work, 'friendship,' family, etc... Nothing worse than dealing with people who need control and lack respect for others. I have had to learn to confront these people. You must ALWAYS stay calm. They will NEVER stay calm because they are used to mistreating people and getting away with it. Typically, they will cry, get extremely belligerent/defensive but very few, apologize (
Amen
Wow! Joyce looks more beautiful as each year passes! Thanks for sharing this 😊♥️
I have left friendships and some family members and God got me out of a toxic relationship, yes it's difficult, not lonely but you can feel alone sometimes but I have peace and I trust His love and timing to put the right people in my life because you need the right people in your life to fulfill the purpose God has for you! Amen&Amen, be blessed and stay encouraged everyone ❤
AMEN AMEN AMEN, ME 2, SISTER 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I need right people in my life 🙏
I am in a narcissist relationship that I'm trying to get out of..everything that is being said about a narcissist is so true. 3 years in a relationship and I'm done for me and my family.. I can't leave because where we are living its my home not his. He does not understand that he needs to leave he thinks tomarrow it will all be the same..I believe in the lord and he opened my eyes to my situation. Now I need to make him leave. I worked to hard for my home iv always wanted so I'm determined for him to leave..please start a chain of prayer to help me get thru this 🙏
Thank you for this video. I admire these courageous women. In the past, I was controlled by narcissists. I thank God. I learned to say no and set boundaries. They back down and leave. Joyce is right. They are insecure. They think that nice people are weak. I say it is written the meek shall inherit the earth. Praise God.
Amen 🙏
I'm a survivor my ex-boyfriend was poisoning me I was deathly sick almost died but God had other plans only God can do it . I pray Lord give everyone in a toxic relationship the strength to turn to you and get out God will turn it all around he's a savior and Redeemer
Just 50 seconds into this video and she has told the first 15 years of my life growing up.Exactly the same.
We got this! Let’s go to the new level with God :)
Amen
AMEN ❤️✌️🙏🙏🙏❤️
Praying you are in safe n healthy place now. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏
Im kind of amazed at victim blaming. Not everyone wants to confront their abusers nor should they. Some of them are poison and downright deadly.
It’s not victim blaming. The Lord says love Him first with everything in you. Greatest commandment. You also have a responsibility to love yourself as others. If He created someone in His image with a purpose and plan, we have to follow Him and it’s scary and I know firsthand what it’s like to be abused, but you can’t serve two masters. Who is man? God will give wisdom if we ask. If it’s dangerous don’t confront, just ask God to deliver you and make a way in the wilderness or a way of escape. Live by faith and not in submission to fear. Can you imagine standing before God and being asked what you did with what He gave you and you say I couldn’t because of mere humans? I’m not directing anger towards you, it’s frustration at my own self for people pleasing for so many years. Fear of man is a snare.
There’s a verse in the Bible that talks about how can I serve the Lord if i’m still pleasing man. Read Proverbs 3:5 and seek the Lord. God bless you and I pray healing and deliverance and protection over every victim and wisdom from the Lord to do what they can because it was for freedom that Christ set us free. He is our Lord.
@@placeformomma yes, I was stuck in a 20 yr abusive situation because of fear. I cried out to God and he gave me Isaiah 41:10 that said Fear not for I am with you. I put my faith in God at that moment and gave up the fear of man. God rescued me! We have to set aside the fear of man and put our trust in God.
@@bellag2864 Bella I did horrible. I got rebaptize and back worst. Deceived. I am hurting myself and feel lost and DECEIVED
We were apostolic HOLINESS and now I feel disgusting and nasty to be this way
I don't know what to t
Why did I get back out here. Rotting
I wasn't like this. I need help
Are any of these ladies qualified domestic violence counsellors? No they are not. lts dangerous to leave. Get correct advice from your therapist who can help you make a plan to escape.
walk away
I was in a abusive relationship with my ex husband for 37 years and left 4 years ago and now I’m experiencing the same things with my adult daughters and I’m mentally exhausted from trying to defend and explain myself and always saying that’s not what I’m doing. Please keep me and my daughters in your prayers because honestly I think that they’re both very unhappy and for some reason are taking it out on me. It’s been this way with my daughters for years because I allowed it but I’m not allowing it anymore I love them but I’m done.
Prayers being sent your way
@@maryb9284 Thank you 💕
Oftentimes the enemy will use LOVE to hold you hostage to pain and discomfort. At some point you must get the courage to walk away not bitter, but in love! Until your daughter’s are willing to say, Father God help me forgive my mom for she didn’t know what she was doing, there will be absolutely nothing YOU can do to or for them besides prayer. God can and will restore your relationship in due time❣️
Apostle Kathryn Krick can help deliver you and your family.
God give her the strenght to get away from her daughters. Direct her path n cover her with your peace. Praying for you...give it all to God. Psalm 23🙏🙏🙏
"I am living for the audience of one" says it all.
I'm watching this from the position of the insecure person. Turns out I was trying to control too much and force too much thinking I'm keeping someone. Thank God He showed me the signs. I tried to ignore but the lack of peace couldn't let me keep up.
Super bold of you to speak up in this type of forum but YES. We are *all* the insecure person at times, we either knowingly or unknowingly try to control others because we too want to be loved and respected and hold people to expectation - but it's simply not God's way. Praise God for the mercy we ALL receive for the poor choices we ALL make at times.
Keep praying for understanding and healing for both.
Wow that's very interesting. So, now you must get delivered from that. What's your game plan?
It's the holyspirit that helps you to realise it.... You too don't need to worry, or feel guilty, God did forgave all those and He loves you the same way He loves others. Or I can say He loves you the way He loves jesus, who knew no sin..... Love you bro, God is working in you, he will take you to freedom
Going through a narcissistic breakup type of relationship, really hoping god pulls me out of this and heals me. Appreciating every Joyce Meyer CZcams video right now, there's something about her that gives me peace whenever i listen to her preach.
I love Joyce Meyer ifirst read her book in Harvest bible college, my life resembles hers she is so encouraging ,iwould love to speak with her personally.
When she said “I am the daughter of the King”… i felt that through my soul. The Lord himself would remind me boldly. And I now repeat it to myself every time someone tries to bring me down with hurtful words.
Thank you for the words of inspiration. ❤
Me too! This was an excellent video. Life changing. Amen.
I'm in a foreign country with no family or friends and unfortunately in a toxic relationship. I'm struggling to let go even though I know he's an absolutely horrible person for me and my kids. I mean he doesn't even pretend to be better. It's not easy but I'm trusting God to give me the strength. He recently moved to a another town, I'm believing that's God's way of helping me start over.
I commend all the women who have moved on from Toxic relationships. You are heroes!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
Jeremiah 15:10,16-21
.........I will deliver you out of the hand of the wicked and redeem you from the grasp of the wicked."The word of The Lord"🙏
AMEN!😊
I just left my narcissistic, toxic, verbally abusive, excessively drinking husband.
I felt like I was drinking poison and slowly dying. So I just left.
@Cindy Reeves great you did. God bless and protects you!
So proud of you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
and God sees and he knows, "church"ppl think that you have to stay in these toxic abuse marriages !!
Omg I’m in this 17 it’s so explosive with a narcissistic person with alcohol
I saw this on my feed all day over and over and I knew I needed to watch this. I know this is about where I’m at right now. The blame and the word has been used the manipulate me. Praying God helps me finally break free from something that hurts to leave but hurts more to stay
You’re not alone 11 years in and on my way out 🙏🏽
You can and you will make the decision and trust God through the walk away process
Toxic relationship is destructive. Not only should you separate, but renew your mind. You are valuable, you are God’s treasure and redeemed . Staying will not help
you nor the other party.
Walk away with your head held high!!! You deserve to be freed from any abusive situation your in. Surrender fear over to the holy spirit and it will free you ✨
I also experienced an abusive upbringing. As a result of looking for love and acceptance, I became one of Jehovahs Witnesses and married a very abusive member. Learning about narcissism, abuse, coercive control and Jesus Christ helped me to be free from both! Thank you for this video❤
Please pray for me. I love you Lord, i pray soooo hard that you get me out of here in the mighty name of jesus
xoxo
Being in such relationship you have to decide that no matter what happens you will stand up for yourself.
I did not realize I was in a toxic marriage until recently. I saw all the signs but I was so manipulated by him. He used spirituality to keep me under his control that I thought I was doing God's will. It hit me hard at first when God opened my eyes to it. I was so shock what my Bishop husband was doing to me. I was in a period of shock and depression. He did and say things to trigger my emotions and I would flare up in anger that made me miserable all the time. And he would announce to the whole church that his wife is miserable. Every chance he gets he would tell people that I am miserable. Everytime I did something that is good he would put me down. He never congratulate me for anything he would always say I could have done better. He always competing with me. He never like to see me happy. If he sees me happy and praising God when we are alone he would say things like 'Oh you are so loud'
I am still in the marriage because of my daughter who us 12 but I am stronger to Stand up for myself and I lay down my boundaries. And I do stuff to make myself happy.
But I prayed and cried out to God and one day I decide I must stand up for myself.
I began to ignore him when he does and say things to trigger me. When he would try to embarrass me by telling people I am miserable I would gently say "Oh my husband is the one making me miserable"
I began to stand up for myself in a gentle and nice way.
Natalie signed my Bible with her last CD Bundle The New Testament Passion translation. Love you Natalie ❤️Joyce and all these ladies are awesome this is some 💯% Truth Speak. More men need speak on things like this as well. In The Christ Jesus name Amen 🙏🏻
This video is spot off! You cannot try to get someone to understand you when their main focus is not to understand you. Just turn around and walk away because otherwise you are setting yourself up for a fight that you cannot win. These people have a life-long endeavor of putting you down so they can put themselves up. Good luck in trying to explain yourself.
I have recently removed myself from the Toxic Family System I grew up in. FREEDOM! GLORY HALLELUJAH!
I am a Treasured Daughter of our Heavenly Father, Chosen and Dearly Loved and WANTED!
Praise God! We are programmed to believe because they are family we are supposed to tolerate their toxicity and abuse.. not so, God told Abraham to leave his family and everything he knew and go to a place He will show him.. you are strong! It is a tough process to complete but the peace is so worth it! Blessings and love to you! ❤️
Amen
Just removed myself from a work environment like this last week. Order my steps Lord. Completely trusting you 😭
I did the same thing yesterday. 9 months of an abusive and narcissistic boss. The unknown is very scarey for me. Would appreciate prayers.
@@trvtam I pray you are well & the Lord has blessed you with a new opportunity 🥰🥰🥰
My daughter is exactly in this situation with her father. Just what Joyce explained. My daughter has been brainwashed. Her father hijacked her mind body and soul. She is Enmashed an extension of him. It’s truly demonic. I pray for my daughter every day. God gave me the strength to escape. And my daughter would not come with me. It is the most traumatic experience I’ve ever seen or been through. I thank God for pulling me out of the grave and put me back on Solid ground. I’m forever grateful 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. But I worry for my daughter who’s now 18 every day.
I'm confronting this spirit now. And I rebuke this controlling spirit in The Name of Jesus
I'm such a people pleaser thank you for understanding it's ok to say no sometimes praise God 🙏
Saying NO doesn't make you a bad person
The key words she said was she allowed God to heal her. You have to let Him do the healing, mending, molding, and fixing, renewing, and transforming, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen.
AMEN ❤️✌️
AMEN ❤️✌️
I don't hate anyone I forgive them and God is healing me and I trust God for my life because he is my provider Amen
I love that Christian women are having these conversations!!!
It took me years of crying, Praying, not understanding why my mom has always been so abusive and controlling all my life and after years of Praying, Bible studies, Christian counseling, I finally realized that I totally believe that my mom is mentally disturbed.
I had to move to a different city and cut ties with her and just pray for her. I can't be around her nor even talk to her except on special occasions, she's too toxic and messed up in her head. I pray fi her and trust God for my peace and comfort.
So true.
I am a child of God. He is the one I should please and love.
Please Jesus give me the courage to listen and be guided by the Holy Spirit in my life.
Amen
Churches teach people many errors. One is to get your identity from another person rather than from God .Learn who you are in the mirror of God's love. Many christians are not followers of Jesus.
I really like this woman ..she's been through alot and she's survived to come out stronger than ever
This is exactly what has happened to me. And he was using personal righteousness and not the will or righteousness of God. Especially when he cause domestic violence.. from sister Rosalita
I married a controlling and abusive man who claims to be a Christian. He tried to get me to do evil and ungodly things. I tried confronting it and it didn't work. I ended up divorcing him before our 2 year anniversary with complete support from my church and family. Glory to God.! He got engaged to another woman soon after the divorce.
Somehow they always find a new woman. It’s sick.
@6:30-7:06 of this video- I have been praying and praying and praying for clarity!! Lord you’re so so so good ...JUST MIRACULOUS!! Thanks for this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾I 😢😢🙏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾got my CLARITY no more second guessing!! God spoke this so clearly!!!
Joyce I love you and I thank God for your wisdom. “I don’t think there is too much worse than being in a controlling relationship. You can’t be a God pleaser and a man pleaser” Amen sister!❤️❤️❤️
I love Joyce Meyer!🙏❤️
I needed this still healing from almost 19 plus years of hurt and rejection
2:07 I don’t think you’re equally guilty of toxicity if someone is controlling you. Don’t take that blame on. You have to understand and unpack why you allowed it, but they own their behavior and the mess they’ve caused of the relationship.
Pray to be free from demonic power. Amen
YES YES YES!!!!! My husband knows the word (doesn’t obviously understand it) but uses it against me all the time. He will mock me…”You praying to YOUR God,” etc. but will turn around and try to talk the word with other people and will send me video clips about a wife’s duties and tells me I really need to read those words in red etc. Wow!
Ugh. I'm so sorry.
My aunt had a husband like yours and finally decided to finally leave him when she was in her 70's and truly then started living a fabulous life !!
lf he mocked me once l would kick him to the kerb 👊
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Thank you so much for this video and the prayer. I'm currently divorcing my husband of 20 years because of all the abuse I went through which he caused. The first 10 years was alcoholism and all the abuse that came with it. to think that all I wanted was to just love him and our kids for 20 years and every 6 months I would leave the house with the kids . He would use the word of God against me to manipulate and control me. I'm so happy I've left the house and have taken my children with me. I feel so much better and thank God for the strength HE gives me everyday. I believe God wants me to open a ministry and speak to woman about this in SA who are also going through this . Many women in SA are silent about the abuse they go through. I pray woman will become more cautious and self secure before they enter into a relationship..it so easy to fall into it because as long as you are a broken person looking for love . It's easy to fall into it. Stay blessed.🙏🙏
AMEN ❤️✌️
AMEN ❤️✌️
I pray we all take on this wisdom and really apply it. I think the abuse that is in the church is something that people never really talk about but it's really a thing. Thank you❤
Please pray for me. I’m learning that I might be in a controlling relationship that I need to confront, but I’m anxious about it
I fell into controlling relationships all my life, too. Last one was at work. A coworker bound themselves to my personality, skills, relationships, etc. all in order to have me do all the work and she got all the credit and rewards. Her success in doing this created a bully environment where other coworkers stepped up to ensure I was minimized and she was promoted. All to gain more favor. I left my job to put an end to it.
Same here. I loved my job as a female sales rep for QUIKRETE OF DETROIT. My manager was so jealous of me and demeaned and punished me for doing a good job. It is demonic when you know it’s abuse but you’re too afraid to report him.
@@jillfoley6834 I'm completely sorry that happened to you, too. It took a long time to heal. I will never trust this coworker again. She still reaches out to me.
I relate to each of you especially with Joyce. Unfortunately I married a man like my stepfather,the same controlling demon. Confronting him is like oil on fire. He's favourite way of fighting is to belittle me and even tell me my stepfather did the right thing... Just to see other women healed gives me hope. I still need to leave him although we are divorced 😥
May God strengthen you and heal you and give you wisdom, in Jesus’ name, amen.
Let go of the control he has over you ......if you don't even though your no longer together your energy is tethered to his which will still dictate your life without you even realizing that it is which will have a ripple effect upon all people in your life....
Let go and let GOD
Following Jesus is our number one priority on this earth. You are God's creation and you know right from wrong. The Holy spirit lives in us when we see each day the right way to live. Fear is not what God wants from us. The hard things are usually the right things.
Mama Joyce. God has used your life to save mine…several times. Thanks for being obedient. Your encouragement has made all the difference in my life…and now I’m encouraging others!! God is such a beautiful & marvelous Father. 😊
God wants your love, the enemy wants control!
How bad I needed to hear that. You are litteraly saving lives sharing your testimonies. And free people from guilt and shame. Because the enemy, as well as wanting to destroy, wants to make you believe it’s your fault. God is saving. He will give his graceful compassion until we are enough compassionate to ourselves
Thank you! So many suffering today, end days "fallen angels" leading good people into demonic abusive relationships. The strongholds placed on them are hard to break as they are of the adversary. Repentance, deliverance and Holy Spirit is needed to break free!
I don't know how to get away. My husband is a Narcisist. He knows all the places I go...work, church, parking, most family and friends. Am I wrong waiting on God to give me direction. I will move I just don't know where to go. This is my house....I feel like such an idiot!!! Thank you for sharing with me! God Bkess you!!
You are not an idiot you need all the self care you can get just love love on yourself talk good talk to yourself build yourself up God bless you in Jesus name you have to do it over and over and over every time somebody hit you with a right you come back to self love healing grab all those tools that you use to bounce back reading the Bible take a salt bath do yoga breathing exercise eating well praying
It's fear that's keeping you in bondage. God doesn't want you to be abused. Ask some women you trust to help you, can a women's shelter in your area. God loves you
Find a way to get a hotel and switch jobs so like have a plan ... just my thoughts... timing is important. Or find relatives you could stay with and quit your job
I’m Sorry you going thru this My prayer is that God leads you and give you peace Start praying asking God to Remove him out your life if he isn’t for you I understand you feel it’s your house why should you leave But sometimes we gotta remove ourselves out of Bad Situations Praying asking God to Cover you in this process 🙏🏾🙌🙏🏾 No you Not Wrong for waiting on God but God might have Already given you your Answer So God waiting on you My prayer also that God open your ears so that you can hear him Peace Be Still 🙏🏾 Ask and Believe and it Shall Be 🙏🏾🙌🙏🏾♥️
Joyce.
I just love your messages.
It goes to show people are people. You will suffer from people in the church, probably more than outside the church because they will use the "God Card"
Thank God for the Holy Spirit who reveals all truth
Blessings to you ladies.
Getting open to truth help us to face realities, tackle it rightly.These type of awareness will be a benefit to the upcoming generation.❤love this.
I appreciate this video. knowledge empowers us, because it gives us an awareness on how to deal with situations -especially when dealing with narcissists. Educating ourselves and trusting in God is the key to our success.
Ladies thank you for this conversation. I definitely live with the fear of rejection and it's held me back for a long time. I love what Pastor Alex shared about how we can overcome that in Jesus Name! We need to see ourselves as God does and not as we think, or know, how the world does.
Aloha from Hawai'i. Escaped 33 yrs of abusive marriage Aug 2020. No contact for over 2 yrs! 🥰 🙏🏾☝🏾 💃🏾👍🏾 📖 ✝️
I'm torn down every day by him but God is waking me up
Amen 🙏🏻✝️thank u Lord. Please pray for br. Sandee to be delivered from worldly friendships, bad habits, please pray for him to get WELL-PAID job and to be delivered from debts 🙏🏻. Please pray for my financial breakthrough and spiritual blessings, workplace blessings and to get good job for me🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Today marks one month since I have moved out from a toxic relationship. I trust in God for a new beginning. Thank you for this video.. I feel empowered to trust in God's way. Praying for my children and promise to take them once things are ok.
Iam in the healing process. God help me.
am here in Kenya with my married man who cant letme go because his behavior is like narcist he likes to control you but never cooperative to move forward in doing development but he wants you to totally rely on him for everything
He’s always there 😊💙
This is why i respect Joyce's wisdom so much because she has been there and lives to tell the tale and she has came sich a long ways from where she was at. It is because of people like this is what gives you hope and believe that it is not too late for you. You can have the life you deserve. She is my televised mama bear ❤😂.
As a man that has been a people-pleaser and wanting to be accepted for most of my life, this helped me a lot.
It’s good to listen to women that genuinely are seeking to find answers to life’s problems with the true desire to please Christ and not just trying to use religion to serve their own earthly wants. I got some great insight watching this video. ❤
this message came in at the right time for me I'm breaking loose from a toxic relationship a 40 years of manipulation at work as well my manager is so controlling and manipulative I think of leaving that job as well I'm done thank God hallelujah
Do what you know is right for you and God will help you!
Leave now!!! The only thing we have is the PRESENT
It's sooooo tough when it's your parent that is controlling.... even in my adulthood. I try so hard to set boundaries with my father. His reaction was terrible. He started telling me how wrong I am and that it hurt his feelings. All I did was say "dad, could you call or text me before you come over?" You would have thought it was the end of the world.
On the job, and in personal relationships, sometimes you just have to walk away ..
Avoid Toxic people ‼️
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER 😇 🙏 💯 🧡 🤍
Men need to watch this as well. This is great guidance for anyone who is in a relationship
Love you Joyce...every since I was your mother, you would come on the radio after I drop my son off at Elementary School first grade I will park my car in the park just to listen to your words and hold on to the prayers that you offered because the same list so I was always looking for a job thank you for being there
Coming from an abusive home my relationships and thinking was running in the same manner from which I came Until I was saved by the grace of God. It took years to rebuild and I am still rebuilding. Confrontation is not my forte but I have learned how to with Kindness and love. If the person gets upset, I just continue to pray for them. I will step away if they continue and disrespect the boundaries set. Thank you for sharing your testimonies.