Ep1 | Sithembile Masilela on Divorce | Sangomas, Church | Resigning | Loosing Everything

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  • @josephmasilela9293
    @josephmasilela9293 Před 4 měsíci +78

    Sithembile is our last born daughter. Yes; she went through a rough patch at a very tender age; got divorced at age 29 after they were married for 4 years and 5 months. Her hubby divorced her because she would not agree with the path of worshipping he was deviating to.

    • @user-kr8yn8dh9i
      @user-kr8yn8dh9i Před 4 měsíci +15

      You raised a rock ntate, well done

    • @ZeeInterpretations
      @ZeeInterpretations Před 4 měsíci +15

      You did a great job Ntate. She stood her ground and chose God.

    • @neegee3755
      @neegee3755 Před 4 měsíci +7

      You are awesome papa ❤ well done 👍

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci +3

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏

    • @KellyXego
      @KellyXego Před 4 měsíci +4

      Respect to you sir

  • @Patience_Mabuda
    @Patience_Mabuda Před 4 měsíci +30

    Five minutes in and I am already learning... I loved the part where she said it's all about choice. ISo good

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 Před 4 měsíci +15

    Divorce is painful...but the grace of God is sufficient ❤ I saw the grace of God when I was going through the divorce.

  • @JOYCEMabena-rl2bw
    @JOYCEMabena-rl2bw Před 4 měsíci +18

    Greater is He that is in us, than the one that is in the world.
    He comes to steal, kill and destroy uSathane..
    God will never leave us nor forsake us .
    Amen.

  • @tshegofatsothegreat
    @tshegofatsothegreat Před 4 měsíci +6

    Yoh! My sister. You nailed it. We make our husbands the kings, idols and rulers of our lives and we neglect our personal relationship with the One True King Jesus Christ.

  • @tkhlongwane
    @tkhlongwane Před 4 měsíci +8

    You are so good in interviewing Queen Rammy.you are not competing with the guest, you give the guest time to express themselves well.
    You ask relevant questions, it doesn’t sound like you are trying to find some juicy story. You are respecting the story.
    As for the topic in hand, I relate tooo much. Thanks for creating this space, so that we can reflect

  • @Dimz7890
    @Dimz7890 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Listened to the entire video and I couldn't get how a true born again, spirit filled blood washed child of God could possibly get married to a pastor who later turned out to be a Sangoma without any signs or warning of danger. As a divorcee myself I've studied this topic intensity because I really wanted healing and understanding. One thing I've noted is that the wages of sin is death and divorce is truly death. I've learnt that God always warns His children of danger and we choose to listen to Him or chase what we want, mostly due to lack of knowledge, lust of the flesh or pride of life. However, I had my aha! moment when Sithembile mentioned only in the end that the elders of her childhood church did try to warn her against marrying this man. So God did warn her but she chose what she chose, the wages of sin is death regardless of what our hearts may think.
    My marriage did not work because the foundation was not Godly, I fornicated with my ex and I certainly did not ask God for permission to marry him amongst other things. Fortunately I did not go through all the 5 stages of divorce Sithembile mentioned - anger, bitterness and doing crazy partying/ drinking because through out the process I seeked God to understand my part, my sin and His heart. My experience drew me closer to God and He is faithful. I was overwhelmed by His intense love for me. I repented of my part and God was gracious to heal and restore me. I honesty believe that if I had focused on what my husband did to me or didn't do, it was going to take longer for me to heal if I ever healed at all. The bitterness might have been hard to leave my heart.
    *Edit - forgot to add that my ex husband also divorced me ultimately due different religions. After being given the choice between My God or maintain the social status quo of being a married woman, I chose God, my Daddy Dearest, my Everything. Jesus is Lord❤ Well done Sithembile for choosing God in the end.

  • @teetsambo7933
    @teetsambo7933 Před 4 měsíci +11

    Wow, plz keep sharing such stories. We go thru hardships on closed doors and think your alone and no way out. Holding on and having faith that tomorrow will be better is what we need. Thank u. Loved it.

  • @Thobekambokazi
    @Thobekambokazi Před 4 měsíci +7

    Sthembile my daughter..you are beautiful..I am taking my hat off for your God our God and for you.Thank you for choosing your God and choosing yourself.I am happy you are co parenting your little girl.. Soldier on my daughter❤ ❤

  • @thenamakays6871
    @thenamakays6871 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Queen, you definitely know the assignment. Good job . Sthembisile, you are such a strong and beautiful woman of God.

  • @nthepanemusisinyane4197
    @nthepanemusisinyane4197 Před 4 měsíci +11

    this was so beautiful to watch, God Restores my sister and its how you narrate the story it shows you are fully healed, learnt and understood why God had to make you go through all of that❤ you are so beautiful and for the fact that you chose God He is going to reward and you still young marriage will come God willingly❤❤❤

  • @kms708
    @kms708 Před 4 měsíci +11

    Queen is such a great interviewer❤❤❤

  • @thambisasihlangu4696
    @thambisasihlangu4696 Před 4 měsíci +17

    Why does it feel like you are telling my story 😩😩❤️

  • @lesegomosaka7881
    @lesegomosaka7881 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Refreshing chat highlighting Gods restoration.

  • @lindyn4
    @lindyn4 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Spiritual dancing I remember those days home Oasis girl. yho divorce compared to grief it must be really tough wow. I'm so proud of you girl you are helping so many people

  • @ntokozopetunia8716
    @ntokozopetunia8716 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Sthembile is soooooooo beautiful, so confident and very inspiring ❤️ 🙌 👏 ✨️ 💖 💕 ❤️ 🙌 👏 ✨️ 💖 💕 ❤️

  • @luntunobavu1479
    @luntunobavu1479 Před 4 měsíci +4

    The story has made me realise the importance of being honest with your partner before entering a relationship and how important communication is in any relationship..

  • @beatricedlamini3083
    @beatricedlamini3083 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I followed her ex hubby on FB and honestly, I discerned the 360 turn she talked about. Though it must’ve been hard to do, I’m so proud of you for choosing God over your ex-husband. May God continue to show off his faithfulness in your life, sisi Sithembile!

  • @makeletsokhoeli6957
    @makeletsokhoeli6957 Před 4 měsíci +7

    I thank God for this episode.

  • @sanchenyembe6214
    @sanchenyembe6214 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Just stumbled on this and m so taken by both of you ladies nibahle. Sthembile you are a strong blessed woman❤

  • @vespernkoane5099
    @vespernkoane5099 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is Heart Work Queen Rammy🙏🏽🤗❤. Incredible and inspiring conversation 👌🏽👏🏽

  • @victorioussisters3307
    @victorioussisters3307 Před 4 měsíci

    I just love how this channel is revolving.

  • @ThandyN
    @ThandyN Před 4 měsíci +3

    Good work queen, I enjoyed the podcast.

  • @user-cm6jj7ro3o
    @user-cm6jj7ro3o Před 4 měsíci +9

    I know they say divorce is painful,but my marriage was more painful and I’m going through divorce right now and I still can’t forgive myself for not doing it earlier

    • @queenrammym
      @queenrammym Před 4 měsíci +1

      When you are healed and ready to open up please contact sent studios to share your journey 🙏

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @teeslife2408
      @teeslife2408 Před 4 měsíci

      What happened???tell us hleeee 😢😢😢before we go there

    • @spm9130
      @spm9130 Před 4 měsíci

      You will heal my sister, after 20 years of marriage and a divorce later, I didn’t think I would live to see this day! Five years down the line, I love God more and regret not doing this earlier, it would have saved me from a lot. God’s restoration is at work! Courage and strength my sister!

  • @dlamininokwanda1422
    @dlamininokwanda1422 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Well mannered woman💪.. Divorcees usually become very bitter after divorce and speak filthy things about their exes..yes you went through a lot but there is maturedness when telling your story..may God continue to heal you Sis❤

  • @PROPHETPRISCILLAFABA
    @PROPHETPRISCILLAFABA Před 4 měsíci +1

    binge watching recebt episodes...beautiful testimony

  • @roxannekok1325
    @roxannekok1325 Před 4 měsíci +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤powerful podcast Sis Rammy... #Acceptance truly stood out for me

  • @nonjabulo.ndlela6771
    @nonjabulo.ndlela6771 Před 4 měsíci +14

    For a while now I've been watching podcasts where people that are being interviewed are divorced people within the church. I'm noticing that the voice or opinion of God regarding who to marry seems to be disregarded or rather maybe confirmation isn't being asked? I believe that the lord we serve is so faithful that if we were to seek Him regarding the people we are supposed to marry then he would intervene. I think as a church in SA we forget that we also need to be led by the voice of God when it comes to choosing our partners and not for us to just take matters into our own hands. We cannot trust ourselves to make such an important choice rather let us trust the one who created us. I think we forget that marriage itself is ministry so God's glory should be reflected by it. I think we need to emphasize to the church more about being guided by God's voice especially when it comes to this matter because marriage is a covenant that isn't meant to be broken. The rate of divorces that take place should be a sign to us that there's something we are missing, we are missing the voice of God. Our judgement is not sufficient, especially when it comes to such matters.
    However we are so blessed to have a merciful God who makes everything work together for the good of those who love him. We are so blessed that he restores whatever the enemy tried to use to cause our destruction.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci

      Amen 🙏

    • @ofentsembb7514
      @ofentsembb7514 Před 4 měsíci

      Gospel truth. Very 👍 ✔️

    • @Dimz7890
      @Dimz7890 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Well said, God's voice and His will in all we do, including who to marry. I also think we overly credit the devil for our own ignorance, pride of life and lust of the flesh. The sooner we take accountability and responsibilities the better equipped would be to avoid a second divorce for example.

  • @lungilanga5464
    @lungilanga5464 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Love you Woman of God..waze wakhula

  • @zacharybryan7052
    @zacharybryan7052 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Oh how I pray and anointed the things in my house

  • @phetulosithale-qu8rv
    @phetulosithale-qu8rv Před 4 měsíci +1

    Woooow thank you so much my dear sister…. After listening this interview, I have found peace, I’ve learned a lot. May almighty God bless you

  • @Mbalings
    @Mbalings Před 4 měsíci +1

    Enjoyed this. Enlightening

  • @pusosithole6980
    @pusosithole6980 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Eish...l hear you Sis. Exactly my story😢

  • @dineobonakelemokoena3477
    @dineobonakelemokoena3477 Před 4 měsíci +2

    What a great interview
    Keep up the great work

  • @tumimaringa9348
    @tumimaringa9348 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Ke ntje Kere yho😢... What a podcast queen❤ vip gang😊

  • @inocentiamosete1122
    @inocentiamosete1122 Před 3 dny

    Great interview. Learning a lot everyday. God does restore indeed❤

  • @fmaz2669
    @fmaz2669 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Sithembile thank u for sharing your story sis. May God keep you forever

  • @phutimorifi7237
    @phutimorifi7237 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Kudos Queen Rami ,for allowing the guest speak 👏 ❤

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci

      Queen Rammy is the best

    • @tkhlongwane
      @tkhlongwane Před 4 měsíci

      Right, no competition with the guest. Love it

    • @zintlemakhubu9976
      @zintlemakhubu9976 Před 4 měsíci

      @@SithembileMasilela-wk4gjyou are so well spoken ,thank you for sharing your story.you are amazing and may God continue to bless you. 🥺❤️

  • @tholakelekhanyile5532
    @tholakelekhanyile5532 Před 4 měsíci +2

    The word never changes my daughter. As long as he is alive , reconciliation is still possible for you guys. 1Corinthians 7:10. So there’s no re- marriage!! I am talking from experience it’s possible 🔥🔥

  • @phatuarno9031
    @phatuarno9031 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Wow i know her and she's very humble ,neat and beautiful lady yhooo love & peace sisters ❤😊❤

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 Před 4 měsíci +3

    One thing about God, angeke avume unyawo lakho lushelele 🙏🏼 I also got separated because of having an alter introduced in our home…. Soze sana 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

  • @Gratitude_Corner
    @Gratitude_Corner Před 4 měsíci +3

    God is faithful we bless God for healing.

  • @busisiwemangethe6290
    @busisiwemangethe6290 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Wow!! Sithembile I just went to google your ex, he is the Chosen One “ he didn’t go thwasa anywhere, ancestors did all the job kuye because he is the King. Something big is coming dear you will go back to him as you were chosen for him. NAWE you are one of the Chosen One “ kodwa you going to learn to preach or worship God African way. Just that as Africans we still confused and colonised about our religion or spirituality.
    Wearing beads doesn’t mean you are a sangoma holding ishoba like your Husband it means he is a King you will see it’s coming. He is not a sangoma because he didn’t go thwasa anywhere, UnguMfundisi African way(African Christian). Let’s wait and pray for Jesus as he is coming back with the truth. God bless you ❤

  • @user-vh9di4fl8h
    @user-vh9di4fl8h Před 4 měsíci +1

    Powerful

  • @user-te5fz3gu1m
    @user-te5fz3gu1m Před 4 měsíci +2

    100% well said❤

  • @ntokozopetunia8716
    @ntokozopetunia8716 Před 4 měsíci +2

    SThembile is the best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @pathiswapiyose4518
    @pathiswapiyose4518 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Yhooo divorce is painful,you feel that you are torn apart. You feel confused, and after it, you feel lost . What makes it worse is that people judging you and yet there were not in your pain😢. I thank God that I am still in His hands and I love Him more. Still worshiping Him regardless

  • @okwamikuhle280
    @okwamikuhle280 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Oh I loved them as couple, but with her husband turning to sangoma I was really happy for her to leave. I am happy she is till fired up for God

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Sthembile ❤❤❤

  • @modiehisusan9880
    @modiehisusan9880 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Sthembile sisi❤️♥️

  • @joycekadzo4822
    @joycekadzo4822 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I love her strength in the Lord

  • @ThandyN
    @ThandyN Před 4 měsíci +1

    I know exactly into ye groove after a divorce.

  • @sjaymabaso9391
    @sjaymabaso9391 Před 4 měsíci

    Great interview 👏👏👏

  • @miriammasocha
    @miriammasocha Před 4 měsíci +2

    head her first at oasis of life her story changed my life

  • @Koketsomoraka_
    @Koketsomoraka_ Před 4 měsíci +7

    ❤❤❤

  • @nomfundojantjies8465
    @nomfundojantjies8465 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I can slightly relate on this"resent the church",,,,however the church was innocent 😢

  • @prisca2blessedxoli662
    @prisca2blessedxoli662 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Been following her on Instagram little did I know did I know that she is such golf

  • @paballo24ify
    @paballo24ify Před 4 měsíci +1

    my apology with my first comment the ending was painful that you went through that but look at you wow

  • @user-vb6rt5le9j
    @user-vb6rt5le9j Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is my strory

  • @misst8554
    @misst8554 Před 4 měsíci +1

    ❤She is beautiful 🎉

  • @boitumelosinesiphotabata1603

    God bless you sis ❤

  • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
    @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci +5

    Why am I crying 😅😅😅...

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci +2

      We love and appreciate you sisi ❤️

    • @queenrammym
      @queenrammym Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much for sharing your journey with Us Sis🫂🫂❤❤

  • @YAHsprincess75
    @YAHsprincess75 Před 2 měsíci

    I like it when you said,"I worshipped the ground on which my husband walked on".That was MY downfall...I loved my ex-husband more than GOD HIMSELF.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 2 měsíci

      Indeed many wives make this mistake 💔 Only God is to be worshipped

  • @user-fl3es9td7y
    @user-fl3es9td7y Před 4 měsíci +6

    Sangomas believe in God... It's a misconception that Sangomas non-belivers...

    • @sebentilezanini1085
      @sebentilezanini1085 Před měsícem +2

      Even demons believe in God... the question is do you do His will and what please Him and Him alone?? He is a jealous God..

  • @ofentselefore6646
    @ofentselefore6646 Před 4 měsíci +4

    😢😢😢 40:41 that part...

  • @kababykatjaimo3357
    @kababykatjaimo3357 Před 4 měsíci +1

    🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @zukiswazawula5621
    @zukiswazawula5621 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Owuu my baby

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 Před 4 měsíci +1

    But she said she left work for ministry something that she wanted to do even before getting married.

  • @zacharybryan7052
    @zacharybryan7052 Před 4 měsíci

    😂😂I can attest to that I regret live my life

  • @Rones643
    @Rones643 Před 4 měsíci +1

    What country are our sisters from? Beautiful

  • @user-gq3cn2zb7t
    @user-gq3cn2zb7t Před 4 měsíci +8

    That guy has mental issues from high school.. I felt so sad when I saw you go through that path.. Rise my darling.. Rise mama.. ❤️❤️

  • @coachMims
    @coachMims Před 4 měsíci

    24:48 hhayi God did what 😢took him away 😮

  • @busisiwemangethe6290
    @busisiwemangethe6290 Před 4 měsíci

    I STILL SAY HE IS NOT A SANGOMA AS HE DIDN’T GO THWASA TO ANYONE. HE IS A PROPHET.

  • @lufunomonyaivendaqueen7793
    @lufunomonyaivendaqueen7793 Před 4 měsíci +1

    John 10:10

  • @kangwachewe697
    @kangwachewe697 Před 3 měsíci

    Her story way interesting but I expected a lot more details on the sangoma part

  • @ExploreLifeWithVee-eo4mp
    @ExploreLifeWithVee-eo4mp Před 4 měsíci +2

    God wants marriage but why allow divorce, you ask why nothing wrong with her people consult traditional healer before getting married.

  • @zanelemngeni8670
    @zanelemngeni8670 Před měsícem +1

    Your ex husband made a very good decision by letting you go, your husband has abantu abadala which wena you don't understand because you are a born again.

  • @nthabisengmokwena4141
    @nthabisengmokwena4141 Před 4 měsíci

    Fight for your marriage I hear you, but in the spirit realm you are enemies, then must must happen???

  • @aprilmotau-pm6gr
    @aprilmotau-pm6gr Před 4 měsíci +3

    My sister Rammy i wanted to be clear before you become the sangoma kumele uyothwasa, so her ex uyenini ukuyothwasa before getting married or what?

  • @user-bi1kb3re1v
    @user-bi1kb3re1v Před 4 měsíci

    I know the lady and the husband(Clive) they called them awoba pastors bcs they only wear gucci label and drive ayoba cars

  • @ntombizinesakube9420
    @ntombizinesakube9420 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Yoooo i went through a terrible divorce
    Its very painful seeing your husband with another woman in public
    I know what you are talking about

  • @shemaneexpressdeliveriespt8869
    @shemaneexpressdeliveriespt8869 Před 4 měsíci +1

    "I do what I want" radical individualism at its best 🎉, background check;
    You wanted to be a Pastor not Mamfundisi, you didn't see him as a husband since inception besides later on when he runs church.
    Queen Rummy I appreciate everything you are doing but I don't think I understant these beautiful souls you're bringing, for me they all sounds like convenient Christians...
    In short we're celebrating brokenness in African society, our society is falling because of our broken family unity😢

  • @zacharybryan7052
    @zacharybryan7052 Před 4 měsíci

    My church turn against me for caring curse on them 😂😂😂

  • @duduzilerejoice2275
    @duduzilerejoice2275 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The alliance masilelas ?

  • @moelmangoegape6523
    @moelmangoegape6523 Před 4 měsíci +6

    People should understand too that being a sangoma(its a traditional doctor)is a gift from God(you are able to communicate with spirit and heal spiritually using herbs,plant created by God,it is not in competition with church.evil is everwhere,it is up to an individual choices

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Před 4 měsíci +2

      I wish to have this kind of conversation on camera

    • @portiaboitumelo2946
      @portiaboitumelo2946 Před 4 měsíci

      Sadly dy dnt understand ND take it as demonic as dy call it

    • @teeslife2408
      @teeslife2408 Před 4 měsíci

      @@TheTeaWorldtrue 😢

    • @teeslife2408
      @teeslife2408 Před 4 měsíci

      let it be done by a wyt/pink person they won’t demonise it😂😂😂😂😂😂😂akeretheyll use the word “Medium “😂😂😂😂😂

    • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci +2

      I can't be forced to understand something I don't know

  • @teeslife2408
    @teeslife2408 Před 4 měsíci

    Ndivhu T sold her channel?????😢😢😢😢

  • @paballo24ify
    @paballo24ify Před 4 měsíci +1

    wrong advice just because he choose darkness over your marriage then you say women must'nt leave their careers for their marriages that is wrong, as it comes from pain

    • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci +1

      My story, my choice neh... Everyone has a choice in life

    • @paballo24ify
      @paballo24ify Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@SithembileMasilela-wk4gj not fighting don't advice that they mustn't as many took such then they're single but with big careers

    • @tebogolesaba9520
      @tebogolesaba9520 Před 4 měsíci +7

      Women should not leave work to focus on marriage. That's inviting abuse.

    • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@tebogolesaba9520I agree

    • @marciakhatwayo5442
      @marciakhatwayo5442 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Women should make sure that marriage doesn't make you loose yourself or forget your career ,you are your own person and when you where born your had your own dreams...pursue your goals and be the best wife you can don't regret getting married

  • @GodsFavourite2024
    @GodsFavourite2024 Před 4 měsíci

    Are they married now with the one that came after you?

    • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj Před 4 měsíci

      No their relationship lasted for 2 years

    • @GodsFavourite2024
      @GodsFavourite2024 Před 4 měsíci

      @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj ok. I was just curious because your story is exactly as mine. Even my resident pastor warned me not to marry the guy, and I did. And it sadly played out exactly as yours did.

  • @ntombenhlemanaka898
    @ntombenhlemanaka898 Před 2 měsíci

    Hha, Sthembile! Copy cat. Why are you sharing my testimony

  • @tshidimochakisa9395
    @tshidimochakisa9395 Před 4 měsíci

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