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- Discover how trauma influences our lives by manifesting as clutter in our personal spaces. Whether it's a car, home, or office, clutter following a traumatic event such as a distressing divorce or a harrowing accident is more common than you think. As a military veteran helping many cope with PTSD, I share insights into the profound connection between a cluttered space and a cluttered mind. Please Visit our Website to get more information: dowellht.com/
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When the memories of traumatic events invade our brain, it is like the piles of clutter found all over our house and office. A cluttered brain can’t think. It can’t function. There is a connection between PTSD and Clutter if you’ve recently experienced PTSD, patience is important.
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I literally feel like I cannot even process any emotions....and sometimes I feel frozen. And when i was young I used to get yelled at for the house being dirty even though it wasn't truly dirty, and I was just a child..so I subconsciously feel like I'm going to get yelled at. It's so hard to even get through a day.
I relate to this so much , I remember when I was younger I’d be so scared to leave my room cause I’d be yelled at for something that I didn’t do correctly that when it came to cleaning my room it would overwhelm me so much I’d have a mental breakdown and there was this one time my mom said that she was gonna record my room being a “pigs pen” and show everyone how I allow myself to live & that drove me to a place I never want to go back too even today when I do go to my parents house I dissociate so much because of the memories that caused me to become sick. why I don’t go there often, now they do the same to my sister and she’s 12 and I always try and help her clean it because I fear she will have the same outcome as I did and I don’t want to her to go through that, it really messed me up, when we are kids our parents should show us how to do something not just say do this and when we do it it’s not how they want it and it gives them a reason to yell at us, being a kid is doing things like playing outside and crafts and Being a child not doing adult things I can understand helping our parents is a good thing because they provide but it would different if we were shown how it’s done correctly and also not having to walk on egg shells and being blamed for everything thing that wasn’t our fault to begin with.
I feel frozen, too. And often on the verge of panic.
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. It sounds like past experiences have affected your ability to process emotions and enjoy your day-to-day life. Remember that your feelings are valid, and you don't have to face this alone. Prioritize self-care and be patient with yourself. Healing takes time, but with support and self-care, you can work towards a brighter future. Send us an email at cs@dowellht.com if you have some questions. We're here for you!
You got this! Don’t let it get to you!! ❤
Very like the rubble after a bomb attack, no?
Huh. Wow. That makes sense.
I notice that the tendency to hold on to stuff is linked to safety. It's 2 fold.
There is somehow a feeling of mortality, like all that happened in your past is gone and you must hold on to it, because that's all you've got, is this life, these memories, those people and events that you care about. If you let the stuff go that part of you that had those things are gone forever.
It's a trauma response.
And then there's the safety issue of will I need this thing in the future? Resources are limited and if I just throw this old thing away It's an asset, a resource you could use. Most of the time you never use it, but sometimes you do and maybe you feel like it saved your butt.
Because there are plenty of things you don't have and this it that broken thing could have been fixed up and used and now you just don't have what you need.
That's a poverty trauma. Whether that was in your past or now, throwing old or broken things away can trigger that.
This is exactly how I feel
Hi! Thank you for sharing. We know it's not easy, it can sometimes be emotionally draining. We've been there before. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home. Please visit our website to order - dowellht.com/
Thank you for alaberating on this.
This is me 3 abuse marriages. Now empty nester and I don’t care about myself. Need to declutter so bad and clean really bad. Don’t really have much friend connection anymore. 2 friends total. This is making sense. Have been to counseling on and off during my life but it hasn’t helped. Nothing seems to help.
Hi! Thank you for sharing. Getting rid of excess stuff can benefit your mental health by making you feel calmer, happier, and more in control. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. Send us an email @ cs@dowell-ht.com.
Wow, I feel the same way! One abusive marriage. I feel stuck
Sounds like depression. A lot of times when therapy doesn't help you haven't come upon the right therapist yet, or the therapy doesn't help because what you need is a physical change to change your feelings and mindset.
So going out and doing something different than you've ever done, not dangerous or stupid, something healthy and uplifting, like joining a club for hobby you've always wanted to to try.
You don't have to feel like it, you just have to do it. Expand a part of yourself so you can access new thoughts and feelings about life and yourself.
THEN maybe therapy can help.
And I'll tell you..2 good friends is doing just fine. 👌
It's much better than 100 friends and none of them really caring or being good friends.
I have a hard time with friends because I have a hard time believing people will be good to me. And a lot of times they are not, because sometimes people are just crappy. But there's a lot of good one's too.
I've learned to appreciate my few good friends, and most of them are family. 🤷♀️
Family counts, and family makes the best friends, even if there's a finite number of healthy-ish one's 😂.
You are definitely NOT alone ,Denise!
I like the Swiss Cheese approach, trash some of clutter on a day by day basis, reorganize somewhat and continue to Swiss Cheese approach.
How do you get rid of an elephant? One bite at time.
I always suspected there was a connection - good to know for sure .
Hi! Thanks for your comment. Yes, there is a relationship between trauma and accumulating clutter. When people experience trauma, their brain is affected.
If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast. Be sure to join the Facebook community too.
Never even thought of such a connection. But..looking back..so many things that I overcame..never considered the lingering effects..clutter, hoarding, etc.
Even how we think...how we make decisions. Amazing stuff.
I've now been cleaning up the 'clutter'..including books I haven't opened in over 20 years...they serve no purpose so I'm giving them away or throwing them out.
My room is cluttered with ‘How to de-clutter’ books!
Take your time, be gentle with yourself, and don't rush the process. There's no right or wrong way to declutter, and everyone's journey is unique. When you're ready, take small steps, and you'll find that your room and your life will gradually become more organized. You can check our blogs at blog.dowellht.com/
Hahaha i know that feeling 😂 feng shui books too
Thank you. You've done helped give me some insight in why I have constant drama and let the cluttering continue, the feeling like everything I do is too hard and too time consuming. An easy 5 minute task goes to 50 minutes and I guess it's the manifestation of my PTSD and anxiety/depression. I have to be at peace in order to have some success at keeping house. If I'm already stressed out then I guess everything does get harder
We're sorry to hear that you're going through such difficulties. It can be incredibly challenging when anxiety and depression affect our daily lives and tasks. Remember to be kind to yourself and prioritize self-care. Finding ways to manage stress and create moments of peace can be key in helping you achieve success in various aspects of your life, including keeping your house in order. You're not alone in this journey, and I believe in your strength to overcome these challenges. Send us an email if you have questions.
I recommend a book called how to keep house whilst drowning
Mannn, I can so relate. 😑
I know how you feel, I'm going to to put myself to task on this, we can do this. Blessings out to you 💜
Such a beautifully clear way of explaining the connection between past trauma and cluttering. Thanks for sharing this perspective! MERCI ! 🌹🙏🏻🕊♥️
You're welcome, Adela! Thank you so much for your kind words about us! If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. You can send us an email at cs@dowell-ht.com. You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast.
This is totally me. I have super anxiety, I can't even drive anymore and if I'm left alone in the store or outside I get panicky. No wonder why I can never declutter after 40 years of trying, if I see empty space like a cleaned room I start to panic, I also get mad and yell at anyone who tries to clean-up my room/space. I've had a lotta trauma since I was a kid and was constantly bullied, I was spanked by teachers, and in more recent times a maniac chased me for miles and deliberately crashed into my car and told the police to arrest me and send me to jail. I was always chased by demonic peoples. Hope to get your book and learn more. Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear about your anxiety and the traumatic experiences you've had. Remember to be gentle with yourself and celebrate small victories. You're not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home. Please send us an email to cs@dowellht.com if you have questions. Take care!
The title explains alot. I used to be extremely clean when i was young, i couldn't stand going to bed before the rooms were clean, and my older siblings rooms just down right terrified me. I could of had a heart attack and no body would of found me because of their mess. And no i didnt have a germ phobia, nor did i have ocd. I was just clean. My escape from the emotional madness at the house was the animals, ive even slept out in the woods while the cattle and horses rested next to me, if the rabbits weren't so close to the house i would have probably stayed there. Anyways my mother wasnt too bad besides being extremely emotional, and always needing me to be beside her. Which gave me 0 room to grow. As the divorce went through my only escape got ripped away from me. My father had partial custody. Took the animals and my "job" with him. Essentially my whole life got ripped away to top it off my best friend and my first GF since preschool moved across the country, being in 5th grade having my dearest friend leave and my mother in shambles trying to remarry a new guy. This man ended up being my stepfather for many many years even through high-school he would unlock mydoor in the morning, every morning to wake me up by making some weird noise (thankgod) unlocking the door and brutally tickle me. He may thought it was funny but i was terrified of this, i hated being touched and dispite my protest he continued, [to this day this bizarre "abuse" affects me and my love life. my partner know better than to touch me in my sleep or while i rest.] Anyways after the divorce and my friend leaving, my life became more and more messy as the days dragged on, and now, i lost all longterm abilities to keep my areas clean and organized
I’m so sorry to read this. I hope you find the healing you need and deserve
Thank you for sharing that. We know it takes a lot of courage to share your story and we appreciate you for that.
If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast. We're all here for you.
We had trauma after trauma.
Then my youngest son killed himself and the trauma of this sent me into a nonstop spiral of clutter
It’s Jaie’s 10th anniversary in 2024, and I’m only just beginning to get a better grip on life. I have learnt to not beat myself up if I take a step backwards. I look for what has triggered me and work on that trigger instead.
It’s such a long and exhausting process, but slowly I am gaining back some ground
So sorry to hear what you've been through. I can relate to your experience as my husband died 25 years ago and my youngest brother killed himself a year later. I was alone with 3 young children & compensated by building a house & filling it with stuff, especially books. I now live in an apartment and it's absolutely full of everything as I've been "prepping" since the covid crisis & increasing conflicts in the world- collective trauma for us all. The feeling of needing to be prepared & stocked up is stopping me from being able to clear anything out 😢
So sorry about your son. Keep taking one step at a time. Your progress, no matter how slow, is a sign of strength, and we admire your resilience and courage. Please continue to take care of yourself and reach out when you need it. You're not alone in this. Send us an email to cs@dowellht.com if you have any questions. We are here for you!
@@dowellhtI thought I was losing my mind. Still do at times. So much mindfulness training and reflective practices put into play are helping.
Thank you for responding to my comment ❤
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I've always had a cluttered environment (and I hate it). I guess it makes sense that it's caused by my PTSD.
Thanks for sharing! It's possible that your PTSD has played a role in this, but remember that you have the power to make positive changes. Take small steps at your own pace, and be compassionate with yourself throughout the process.
Send us an email to cs@dowellht.com, if you have any questions. We're here for you!
Wow. That’s super interesting esp about the void. Thank you
I "hate" the open floorplan of my house with no hard barrier between kitchen & living room. I can't hang a curtain across or put up a decorative screen because it'll block the kitchen window a/c unit.
I have stuff piled in front of both doors because every time I clear the space, my gut clenches.
It's been live that ever since I had to put my husband's & my little dog to sleep at Christmas 2018 (he died in 2012). I know what's going on, but it turns out I need a hip replacement, so even though I've figured it out, I can't do too much about it. Yet.
My Mom has a window unit AC in the kitchen and an open floor plan. She divided the space and created storage without blocking airflow by putting in middle height bookshelves. Works great!
Hi! Thank you for sharing. We know it's not easy, it can sometimes be emotionally draining. We've been there before. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home. Please send as a message at cs@dowellht.com.
What a great video and you have such wonderful energy. Totally relate to self care going down. Thank you. 🇨🇦
Thank you so much! We'd love to hear from you. If you need help with anything, send us an email at cs@dowell-ht.com.
You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast. We're all here for you.
This makes me wonder about connections between PTSD, ADHD and clutter: with ADHD, your mind is too busy scavenging for dopamine to engage with anything as mundane as decluttering. Some people like Gabor Maté would postulate connections between PTSD and ADHD, the former appearing symptomatically as the latter.
Hi! Thanks for your comment. There is a relationship between trauma and accumulating clutter. When people experience trauma, their brain is affected. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know.
Thank you 🥺 i have ptsd I never did service for the country but I did go through a lot from a young age till my late teens and it’s been a rollercoaster, I been trying to keep up on things and I finally figured why I been a clutter bug and it’s because of the trauma over the years & I really believe that if today iI declutter and rearrange my apartment it could help, another thing I do is journaling decluttering my mind each morning helps me function better each day so I am going to have my coffee journal do my therapy zoom groups then get to decluttering. thank you so much! I hope every person who watches this video and sees this comment remember that self care is the greatest super power ❤ I love you & you are worthy 🥺
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We admire your strength and resilience. It's great to hear that you have found some strategies that work for you. We hope that these activities help you continue to function better each day. Remember that self-care is important, and we're glad to hear that you recognize its value. Thank you for sharing your message of hope and empowerment with others. You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast. We're all here for you.
Trash is piling up in my room it’s been so gross for 2 years now. I try and clean I’ll get a little of it done then lose all effort like it’s so hard to clean my room and idk why I’m a caregiver so I clean for a living so why is it so hard for me to clean my room?
Hi! Thank you for sharing. We know it's not easy, it can sometimes be emotionally draining. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home.
You can visit our website - dowellht.com/
Send us an email to cs@dowellht.com if you have any questions.
We're here for you!
@@dowellht thank you
@@coreypotter3577hire a professional cleaner. Start fresh i did it in 2014 and never looked back
I lived in a normal house until my grandpa died when I was 13. That’s when my mom started collecting and saving everything. It got to a point where there wasn’t a square inch of free counter space and there was just a pathway surrounded by junk to walk throughout the home. I moved out when I was 18 and had so much resentment and disgust about the house for many years. Hoarders are so frustrating because they’re like drug addicts. You can try and try to help them declutter but it is a never ending cycle that will just drive you crazy unless they get to the point of really wanting to change. My daughter lost her dad at only age 12 and I’m seeing this tendency to hold onto things in her. I just hope she doesn’t go down the same path as my mom. I almost wonder if it can be hereditary as well.
Thank you for sharing that. We understand how difficult it must have been for you and that you have concerns about your daughter and her tendency to hold onto things. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know.
I do believe it is inherent.
@@dowellht thank you 🙏
You aren’t helpful at all
@@heartnet1999 why not? I wasn’t actually trying to be helpful, just sharing my story when it comes to hoarding.
This make so much sense - thank you! ❤
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Wow you’re so right on point! I’m glad I stumbled across this channel
Hi! Thank you for sharing. Getting rid of excess stuff can benefit your mental health by making you feel calmer, happier, and more in control. Our book can help. You can visit our website - dowellht.com/
Thank you for raising awareness about this issue and thank you for your channel. A piece of advice, you seem to be trying to be upbeat and energetic, but it's okay to be yourself!! If your personality or your mood isn't like that in the moment, it's okay!
We appreciate your feedback and advice! We'll definitely keep this in mind. Thanks again!
So, my executive level functioning and frontal lobe is all Fckd Up then. Great! One more thing to have anxiety about. 😂 😒
We're sorry if it made you feel that way. You're not alone on this journey. Our book can help you move past the fear and make more space in your home.
I have past trauma from childhood abuse , self abuse ,domestic abuse in a narcissist relationship then had a car accident which i was diagnosed with a TBI & PTSD 2 yrs after the 1st accident i had another car accident 2nd TBI & CPTSD from accident as well as my past . I have a wonderful dr yet no matter what progress i make life happens , illness, surgeries, finances ,home fire etc & the clutter grew its all consuming only improvment is not bringing more items in . I truly hope your videos & podcast will assist me with my executive function & difficulties in initiative issues this battle with clutter its destroying me I know I can not move forward until its gone
Hi! Sorry to hear about the challenges you've faced, but we admire your determination to improve your situation. It's great that you're not bringing in more items and recognizing the need to declutter. Remember to take it one step at a time, and don't be too hard on yourself.
If you have any questions, send us an email at cs@dowellht.com
Great information. Thank you. 🙏🏼
Thank you! You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast.
Thank you JM 👏
You're most welcome!
Highly useful info! Thank you! When I was a child, like countless others, I had this "security blanket". Psychologically, my "blanky" was my most powerful tool against the loneliness, fear, and anxiety I suffered due to chronic neglect. It was also a "stabilizer", of sorts. It gave me something to grab onto, like when you feel "off balance". My home environment was WAY off balance! Kids can sense that, and it is highly traumatic! I felt the same powerful affection for my blanky as one does with a pet. For those of you who know what "Rosebud" means, from the film Citizen Kane, my blanky was my "Rosebud". My blanky is long gone, but I think I crave that powerful "relationship" of affection, friendship, trust, and an unconditional bond that you never want to end! My home is clean and tidy, but I own tons of "stuff" that is actually just "junk", but some of these items are iconic "trophies" from the past that trigger very happy cherished memories! On the other end of the spectrum, are the "minimalists", who keep next to nothing. I often wonder, "How on earth do they fully enjoy any happy memories, when all tactile connections to the past are considered useless junk"?!
I'm no psychologist, but here's my 2¢: "Enjoy as much junk as you can, but keep it clean and highly organized! Have FUN "curating the museum" of your unique life! Remember; wherever we ALL end up someday, we can't take it with us.
King Tut tried! (lol)
It didn't work! All his junk was stolen for museums!
Thanks for sharing! We understand how important your "security blanket" was for you during difficult times. You've shown great strength in coping with past traumas. Remember to be gentle with yourself as you continue to heal and move forward. You're capable, and I believe in your ability to create a better life for yourself. Keep going!
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@@dowellht Thank you!
I'm 42 and literally still have a "blanky". I think it's a combination of trauma that needs healed and neurodivergency that causes tactile sensitivities.
I know that trauma has caused my clutter, but I can’t fix it. It just keeps getting worse
...and isolating. 😢
It helps to tell yourself, "decluttering is healing my trauma"... Then get to work on a small area of clutter. That's what helps me.
Hi! Thank you for sharing. We understand that clutter linked to trauma can be tough to handle - but it is possible! Take it one step at a time, and be kind to yourself.
If you have questions, send an email to cs@dowellht.com.
That's really good, thank you!@@thomasorchard
Great video, thank you !
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Thank you for this clear explanation. It made so much sense to me as to why I struggle with clutter. I have been working my way through some past trauma and I am finding it easier to declutter items I have been holding on to for years, but I still have a very cluttered space that I am having a hard time managing. I have paper everywhere and it is causing me even more stress and anxiety.
We’re glad that the explanation resonated with you and brought some clarity to your struggle with clutter. It takes time and effort to work through past trauma and decluttering can be a challenging process. You're doing great, and we believe in your ability to create a more organized and peaceful space for yourself. Keep going! Send us an email if you have any questions - cs@dowellht.com
@@dowellht Thank you so much!
Best I ever heard about decluttering. This is deep and helpful. After a domestic fire desaster with loss of husband and property I turned into a messie. Hi from Germany and I am glad to find help.
We're sorry to hear about your loss and the difficult situation you have been through. Decluttering can certainly be a helpful tool for organizing your physical and mental space. Remember to take it one step at a time and be kind to yourself throughout the process.
I’m so grateful to have found you. 🙏🏼♥️
Thanks so much for your comment! This helps us know we're on the right track!
If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. You can also listen to our Podcast Post Trauma Secrets and Decluttering on Google or Apple podcast. We're all here for you.
Thank you so much. ☮️
I personally don’t feel like I’m capable of creating new memories or positive events for myself. My health is low so I think these things, I’ve never been allowed to eat the most nutritious food or move/speak I had to be quiet and everyone moved faster than me. And I don’t think I have the energy to keep myself healthy or continue and start a good memory again and push through the obstacles so I hold onto things that make me think creatively and feel well due to what happened or what could happen. It all stays
But I also used to not be good at ending relationships or completing projects purely because I don’t like being decisive when things become concise they become real, work and lose their charm but in reality they are all that can help you
Thank you for making this. You have a very likeable presence and an interesting past. Thank you for helping all of us.
Edit: I also really dislike when people start leaving or organizing things and destroy the small projects I’m working in. Empty space is like an empty mind, all the bad situations surface and you have to start all over
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your feelings. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. Don't lose hope - every day is a new opportunity for better memories and experiences. If you have any other questions or concerns, feel free to send us an email at cs@dowellht.com.
Empty space(place) reflects our mind that’s really true
I dont have any trauma and I am well organized at work this life of mine may appear tumultuous to you but its quite easy to me as I live limitlessly,
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Wow! Yes! 🎯
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That's crazy as hell... no pun intended. When my husband unexpectedly died our son had just turned two and to say I was traumatized is an under statement. The only way I'd been able to sleep was found alpha stim every day. Literally, every day. No alpha stim, no sleep. And I "decorated" my house which in hindsight was really just filling empty sources with things I thought looked nice. Myo inositol taken for different reasons has fixed this. I never went on meds and it's been 4 years of this so I'm not sure what that would look like for anybody else but 10g of myo inositol twice a day has fixed whatever was broken in my brain. In my case, it was a physical issue manifesting with insomnia. They should look into that...
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Very helpful Video 👍
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Merci JM
Wish i could show a picture......the clutter gives me hope that ill have energy and the will to clean
Good points!
I was traumatized by parents so my frontal lobe waits for them for permission, for inspiration, for command
Void should be avoided and cluttered.😢😅😮
Then I feel calmer.
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What a cute guy!!!!!!!! He's gorgeous and so sweet ❤
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Right. So prefrontal cortex problems, aka executive functioning problems, can also cause problems with clutter piling up. Executive fiction problems are found in people with ADD/ADHD. So, the cause of clutter piling up quickly, and some people having trouble keeping clutter at bay, could have to do with some of them having ADHD. Some may have OCD (Hoarding is under the umbrella of OCD), or some kind of trauma that effects their prefrontal cortex and executive functioning, like you said. But people who have problems with clutter building up, and problems with keeping it at bay could also simply just have ADHD without any OCD or traumas attached to it.
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Where can you buy both books in Australia?
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Je comprends pourquoi j’ai des crises de sanglots après mon ménage. Merci !
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I can understand that part of what you are saying could be correct, but please look up the cortisol levels. They are highest in the morning, that makes us feel fresh.
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it does go back
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My recently decluttered stress is anxiety of messing it back up.
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My problem is that I don't know what I'm stressed about. My life is pretty simple. Finances are 'normal'. I just can't get control of the clutter 😮
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How do you clean up Trauma clutter that belongs to a family member and they refuse help and it is a health issue inside of the home. I feel helpless , I want to just set fire to it and start all over. I know that's wrong, I just don't know where to start.
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I got beat on for cleaning or wanting to clean so ... Im not sure what to do to handle that
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adrenergic system is limbic and caresonly re survival, need to bein parasympathetic state to cleanand create, ie access anteromedial pre frontal cortex
cannabis settles HPA hence popular with Veterans.
clutter is distraction also from void where bad memories can enter.
moving eyes in saccadic ways helps, I bead, other do crosswords or pokies
hobbies are great as are gardens
You are french arent you (intro) yes- subscribed!
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Lol what you typed reminds me so much of Meg Ryan's character in French Kiss asking Kevin Kline's character that. Anyway, moving on...🤣
@@erinm3567 LOL Yes!! You'rrrre FRench aren't you? haha French Kiss is my favorite movie and just watched it the other day!! 😁
Guilty
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Or a bad medical event. 😪
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i assume you are french
Yes. We are French-Canadian.
Not always true. Most people who have cluttered house simply have too much stuff (because we are told by advertising that we must acquire more stuff for a better life) and are too busy or too lazy to tidy up
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Clutter caused by trauma is surjective, not injective.
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Your mathmetical analogy makes sense. Trauma can often lead to clutter in various aspects of our lives, but it's not a universal rule. The relationship between trauma and clutter is complex and personal.
What's most important is that we create a safe and compassionate space for everyone, recognizing that each person's journey is unique. Let's support each other on our paths to healing, no matter where they may lead.
Id rather hear it from a man
You can't be a healer to others, without healing and rejuvenating yourself 1st. So you can gain the skills, to speak on difficult and hard to describe topics
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that god awful intro bit made me jump, do turn it down ffs!
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