Narcissist dad recorded
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- čas přidán 3. 08. 2014
- FYI it is NOT my dad's house. It is my grandmother's. I have since moved out.
My dad interrupted me to help him with a PowerPoint presentation. I don’t know PowerPoint but I came down to help him, looked through the app, figured out how to rotate an image, and showed him.
After showing him, he moused around looking for another way. Basically ignoring me. As I left my dad shouts out “oh that’s obnoxious!”
This makes no sense to you unless you had a narcissistic parent like me. I turned back to the room and told him not to call me obnoxious when I was just trying to help him. He yelled at me more and mocked me. Somehow he thinks everyone else other than him especially me is always being “disrespectful”.
I came back with a camera determined to record his tantrum so he cannot deny it like he always does. I am sharing this video bc I'm tired of my narcissist dad treating me and my mom like shit and then blaming us for it. I'm not gonna take it anymore.
And if I have to pull out a video camera to keep him off me I will.
Listen to his stutter, obviously he gets interrupted a lot
Fake Normality I agree, and feel so much for this guy. seems like this is a toxic living environment that has beat his self confidence down to shit when he tries to speak to his father.
Yeah
I stutter sometimes and people interrupts me allot and it makes me so frustrated.
Same
Fake Normality now I don't take that, you wait til I'm finish
He’s the type to act like a completely different person when they meet someone outside of the family
Hit the nail on the head. My father does the same thing when he goes out. When we get into a argument, he wants to tell everyone in the city how disrespectful and disobedient I am towards him. That’s something I would never do to my father, but I only tell about our relationship to those who are close to me like friends or co-workers to seek advice in handling the situation. None of my Mom side of the family likes him, especially his side of the family. My brothers and sisters don’t get along and don’t bother to visit him because he’s never understanding, reasonable, too quick to judge, doesn’t take criticism well, and ridicules you by degrading your self-esteem. He expects me to say “Hi”, “Good Morning”, or “Good Evening” to him the next day and acts as if the argument we had never existed. Lastly his scapegoat is using religion/the Bible as a counterargument, when realistically it never pertains to the topic we’re arguing about. So as of right now I don’t pay him no mind and act like he doesn’t exist. I understand that’s my father but the why he treats us is not how you would treat others like that.
Yeah, they know that the people close to them have already been 'won' over, so they don't have to make any effort, but with new people they want to use their oily charms to curry favour. It's disgusting.
@@platinum476 Mate, I'm sorry you have to deal with that, I have the same with my Dad...how do you handle it? I think keeping distance and be on the watch for those behaviours in me and how I treat people.
@@youhavetogotheretocomeback I mean I live with him, but I still don’t pay any attention to him at all. As long as he doesn’t bother me or ask me for anything, I’m straight. He’s a stranger to me so I can careless. Sounds harsh but!… I can’t change his ways.
@@platinum476 Cool man. Just note that I shared some stuff with you there and your response didn't mention or respond to it in any way. Lots of "I" and "me". Not calling you out for being a narc, but that's certainly a tendency. Good luck with it all.
One of the biggest tell tale signs of a narcissist is, they make huge deals out of nothing at all. They can manage to make an argument out of nothing. It's honestly impressive sometimes.
my dad literally called me superficial bc i said i was sick like tf
Or maybe they just don't tolerate any shite and just simply have the balls to stand up and say what they feel? Trust Me, You don't know so many things!
@@ProjectCreativityGuy96 No, what you are talking about is someone who is honest with themselves. It's important to understand the difference between Honesty and Narcissism. But what you are talking is also just straight pettiness, which is a big part of who a narcissist is. So you got that aspect to them correctly. Good job.
Narcissists will try their best to come across as the victim. They cannot ever be the aggressor in their eyes. Everything is everyone else's fault. They will lie, and manipulate to make everything sound like everyone else's fault.
Someone who is honest will admit their own mistakes, and look to be better because of it. They will call you out but also take accountability for their own actions. They will not look to manipulate you, or other people into believing they are the victim.
@@ivanstayner8818well I make a mountain of things..but that's only with my trigger human..
... @ivanstayner8818 @eternalyujis frl, first of all, put your self in your parent shoes for once, second of all, you most likely talk shit about your friends a few times, dont you? And maybe a parent get harch for you saying your sick bc thay may not want you missing out school... you dont want you wasting parts of your life, do you, well they nether want you to waste parts of your life.
He doesn’t want to be filmed because he doesn’t want to be held accountable. My parents are like that too.
I think the father reacting like this is a tiny bit related to the fact that he is self aware and what he’s saying to his son or whatever he was doing is wrong, but I see a lot of comments on here saying “he fully knows why the camera needs to go and he’s so concerned about the video because he’s abusive and he knows it”
When I tell you this man has not a single clue or idea that he’s the abusive one he thinks it’s all rainbows and flowers he’s not self aware that there’s a deeper meaning behind the recording no one gives a fuck about what the PowerPoint does he’s recording to showcase how absurd a narcissistic parent can be without ever realizing at any moment that he’s the abuser!!!
So clarification for most of these comments he has no fucking ideas he’s narcissistic and probably denies narcissism as a whole!! Just doesn’t believe in it at all and yes my father is a full on narcissist and yes I’ve tried to record like this before lol
Same with my parents
mine too
90% of Baby boomers are like that unfortunately
Every kid of a narcissist knows that feeling of that stutter. When you're holding yourself back but you wanna explode.
@Thomas Anderson I didn't say he had a permanent stutter, jeez. I said I know that feeling of that stutter when you're frustrated. I've seen his actual channel. He's allowed to post content other than conflict between him and his father.
@Thomas Anderson and anyway everything is recorded you can see for yourself what's going on.
@Thomas Anderson 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Omg are you the dad?
So true
@Thomas Anderson so your saying he's lying correct?
he’s trying to make you seem like the crazy one, the worst feeling of all
same with me my whole life, and my dad turns everyone against me and everyone thinks I'm the crazy one
I’m adopted and my when my dad gets mad at me, he says at least I know who my real dad is, knowing how much it hurts me. Never have I felt loved by him.
My mom is like that and that's why my parents at getting in a devorse. She tries to make me seem crazy, I can so relate
Cynthia Scott God bless you hon! You’re so sweet!
wasassabi k god right
“This is unpardonable to document me when I want to abuse you in private and tell you later that it never happened… how obnoxious”
"You're adding fuel to the fire!" ~ indeed, foiling their gaslighting!
This...
Anyone up here understand how hard it is to grow up like this?
Anyone got any idea how depressing and how much it breaks you to grow up with such dads?
Same with my mum
do mothers count?
Both my parents are like this
@@AB_HTof course they count why wouldn't they?... Lemme guess you think females can't do wrong?
@@seamusohoulihan666 lemme guess... this is a joke?
“You live here, for free..” every time, every goddamn time
it feels like ur a prison inside ur own house.
It would be the same if u paid rent prob. It’s living w a (former if adult) authority figure.
This is ridiculous! He lives there because he is his SON
Ridiculous
That's why I live in another country
A narcissist will never let you finish a sentence because they genuinely have no interest in how you feel or what you have to say unless it is a praise or compliment to them or about them.
That's the absolute truth.
basically Biden
Boo the fuck who. You poor little victim.
I can relate. Though if it's a one one one conversation I perform better than regular people due to the my ability to fully control it. I'm both a narcisist and a sociopath. However, I absolutely suck at social interactions involving more than one person for the simple reason that it's a/ harder to control and b/ I have to listen to multiple people and I really don't care about anything they want to say unless it's about me, or unless I'm talking. For example, public speaking, I'm flawless at that too. As for the reason why 1 on 1 conversations work so well for me is because these conversations occur with either the few people I care about (relatives / loved ones) or people I try to get something out of. Idk what the best way to explain this is, but to put it simply in group-based social interactions, it starts with my not wanting to hear anybody due to an absolute lack of interest, followed by high levels of hatred and overall negativity due to not being able to speak for extended duration. There's been people in the past that've claimed I have social anxiety but that's literally the exact opposite. It's more of me stopping myself from standing up, saying some really bad things to everybody and leaving in group-based interactions.
@@themacocko6311 who hurt you
When the dad said “you will suffer the consequences.” Disgusting
The dad's the one who will suffer the consequences.
Reasons defined. I am 😂😂😂😂😂out loud .
if dad and grandma decide to sue, then yes, kid will suffer the consequences.
My niece and nephew grew up like this. They're adults now and won't talk to either parents.
@@sagebaun6101 they're the ones who will suffer the consequences.
Fair fu**in play to you for uploading this. I know it took a lot of guts. They learn to retain that power long into adulthood because they have already beaten you down as a child. Round of applause for you sir. Hope life is good now ❤
@SlimJ1980-Eire Totally agree...hope he's doing ok today 🙏❣
@@LassieSgryou sound like a narcissist to lmao wtf dude u cant be serious. if the dad cant talk to him right and has treated him like this his whole life this poor dude had a shit childhood. the dad needs to grow up snd take accountability for his actions.
@@LassieSgrRents are too high, especially for younger people,college students,etc. He does need to move out, many people need to move out,even before age 18, actually. These high rents force people to live together who should not be. The parents are abusive anyway. He should simply stay away from them until he can get his own place. In California, it's almost impossible to do this right. The year 1981 was the beginning of the end of successful adulting. I wouldn't want to be his age for anything,tech or not.
@@3SeveredHeadsHe shouldn't be home whenever they are. I hope he pays some rent, keeps his paperwork off premises, an affordable storage unit.
@@LassieSgrHow is he bullying or threatening or intimidating them?
Being bullied by a parent and belittled your entire life causes unimaginable destruction.
@Thomas Anderson wow you can't see the toxicity and are asking about what must've happened 15-20 days before lol. Is it that hard to Identify toxic people. I hope you're not the toxic one
Thomas Anderson unfortunately narcissist parents drive you to do things that you normally wouldn’t do as you feel desperate to prove that their behaviour is inappropriate somehow. These situations can build up for years and can lead to some desperate “cries for help”.
Especially when you are a child.
@Thomas Anderson Oh haha! WHY was he still at home?!
He looks old enough to walk away from it.
tfw you realize the guy stumbles over his words all the time because he is used to being interrupted
miles ♕ this comment made me realize why I stumble when people actually listen to what I say. It makes so much sense and hit home hard. Thank you truly, this comment helped me understand. Hopefully I can move forward and be more confident in my speech in the future, though it's hard.
I can relate
Dude I can totally relate 😡
Damn, I realized the same thing. He's used to not getting to finish his sentences so when he gets the chance to, he's not used to it.
omg is that why i cant ever fucking finish a sentence without stumbling over my words every 5 seconds
When they say your screaming and your talking in a normal tone. This has happened to me so many times. My ex was a narcissist, and he always tried to turn things around and act like I did something wrong. It was always my fault, in the end, he was never at fault, ever. It's literally exhausting trying to talk to them and reason with them.
Yep. I suspect my mom has borderline personality disorder but her parenting style was 100% narcissistic. She would have higher expectations for us than herself. For example, she once snorted and called me a rotten child so I snorted back and called her a rotten mother. She later told me I owed her an apology for that and I told her that she called me a rotten child and should apologize to me.
That's gaslighting.
I’m stuck between laughing and feeling terrified for the son. This Dad is such a whiny baby the moment he gets caught acting like a child, it’s hilarious 😂
The way he is stuttering and barely able to formulate what he wants to say is so triggering for me. I know exactly what that feels like, poor guy.
I know it well, it took almost a decade to formulate sentences and complete them
Can someone explain to me why this happens?
The son suffers from parental alienation syndrome psychosis and it is the wife who is the pathological narcissist. This is a common triangulation game and you can identify the narcissists because of the cognitive distortions and logical fallacies. The father here is being bullied. If you are only seeing the superficial picture her then you have narcissistic traits yourself.
Same :(
@@xaviersfitnessjourney
I can relate to this so I'm goin to tell you why happens in my case, When I'm trying to talk to my dad(a narcissist) he always cut me off when I'm explaining my point of view, he don't let me explain what I'm trying to say, and that happens every time I talk to him and have a disagreement, so I'm now used to it, therefore I always stutter when I try to talk.
*Sorry for my English 😬 Im not good at it but I hope you understand what I'm trying to say
Arguing with narcissistic parents and trying to explain yourself is like trying to dry an ocean with a tissue.
So true😭😭
More like mopping the ocen w/o a mop bucket , and the bucket wouldnt even work.
You mean narcissistic son ...
Arguing with any narcissist is like that. Covert narcissists are dicks but they're victims in their own right; usually of abuse as children, and they have an inferiority complex, so their brains develop that delusion of excessive self importance to counter their low self esteem. Grandiose narcissists, on the other hand, have had everything fed to them on a silver platter since day one, so they expect it to continue throughout their lives and never understand how reality really is; they're truly the fucking scum of the Earth and deserve nothing less than to be impaled with a flaming stake.
you phrased it beautiful.
oh baby. I am 65 years old and this brings back so many bad memories of growing up with my dad.
Omg the way he went from gaslighting you directly into your mom was insane. Asking her if shes still on pain pills like SHE'S the crazy behaving one.
😂
SO OBNOXIOUS!! smh lol
Who else randomly got recommended this video and then proceeded to watch the entire thing?
Gabrielle Hendershot \(^-^)/
Precicely
Righttt
Gabrielle Hendershot mememe
Literally me just now
When you try to be rational, reasonable, and calm...they escalate, yell, and play the victim
Yes it’s easy to see that the wife and son are not rational and reasonable by the cognitive distortions and logical fallacies. People of the lie. That’s how abusers manipulate and dominate. The son doesn’t even know he is lying. Just like the lying addict mother. How’d you like the part when she tells the dadget along by getting to the heart of the matter which is getting along? Circular reasoning. Political shit weasel. How about when 5he English professor says so I’m always to blame? Hahaha. Living with heroine addicts no fun.
Narcissists in their make believe world imagine that anger is a sign of pathology. They calmly play mind games with straw man, red herring, tu quoque, pleas to pity and ridicule and incredulity, and do all the same things they accuse the scapegoat of. Double standards. So superficial they learn a little about narcissism and use it to be even more manipulative and dominating. Look at this idiot describing the unreasonable narcissists as reasonable. That’s what evil people of the lie do. Luckily there is a name for every distortion and fallacy they play. What people like indigo girl don’t do beyond her narcissistic empty assertions and mind numbing cliches where she callously flips the script, is engage in actual reasonless deliberation about the actual facts. Thanks for the excellent example of lying empty ehtoric.
The rational, reasonable and calm is a superficial guise the narcissist wears because they stupidly think an angry reaction to their games or the victim standing for his basic human rights is pathological. Meanwhile they lie every time they open their mouth. With haughty arrogance and omniscient certainty and projecting all narcissistic traits in their primitive minds onto the scapegoat. They falsely accuse him of wveryth8ng they themselves are doing. Notice how the son shades the dad that asking for help is interrupting and fiddling with another parameter is ignoring but he withholds these resentments and acts out and then lies about why he walked away. He changes the story and flips the script that dad changed the story when the reality is that he rushes to judgement and doesn’t use critical thinking. He keeps the false and petty accusations coming one after the other.
Families like this are taught in recovery to level with each other and to resolve issues reasonably. The people who are evading reasoned deliberation are the wife and son. The ENGLISH PROFESSOR DAD could easily teach them how to talk reasonably in order to GET ALONG. They don’t listen to him. He is right. They all need to sit down together and seek truth and find meaning and understanding. Share their perceptions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, rules, values and principles. And listen to each other and negotiate. Any decent father would be concerned with a son who walks off angrily and silently in the middle of a job and rushes to judgement that dad isn’t supposed to be annoyed or give honest feedback. Next the son will report back to wife who then punishes dad with these sick mind games. Her language patterns are cluster b. He is absolutely right. She is an addict who lacks insight and needs to deal with this. There is something wrong with the son. She was callous about the effects of her lies to the son about dad and she is too self deceptive to understand or care about the consequences of her actions on others. She is weak and lacks self insight. Neither she nor the son self reflect or reflect back to dad his humanity. He is an object in her drama in a rigid role. She withholds the truth that she told son daddy is an evil monster who doesn’t know how to talk to kids. We see the son acting out the original trauma in a repetition compulsion for fifteen years. Issues go unresolved because she is not honest. She speaks in empty assertions and circular reasoning and vague generalities. With an air of superiority and omniscient certainty. But she can’t explain how to get along. Dad knows. Hang in there and level and talk openly and fight fair. She is irresponsible and has been scapegoating him for decades. Secretive and deceptive. It can cause schitzofrenia and neurological diseases in children. Her and the sons behavior Is crazy making and they know all about it in addiction recovery programs which she did not pursue except superficially and to validate her preexisting distorted beliefs and sick values. In other words she used the superficial knowledge she learned to be even more manipulative and dominating. Her and the sons abusive script is a well known game you can see in any homeless shelter among cluster bs. They should write long letters back and forth and the ENGLISH PROFESSOR could easily teach them how to reason honestly and logically. We actually do have objective standards of morality and reason in this world. Her rules are anti social. We see the son act out the sickness that he can do whatever he wants when he eats the plants on grandmas table half naked like a gorilla. He can do whatever he wants and they better not say anything about it. If they do he will kick in with the global labels and overgeneralizations and spar with word salad and report back to the wife who pretends she is Switzerland while “getting” dad with her distortions and fallavies like a common low level sociopath.
The son is parroting the wife and is her pawn. He needs to seoarate and individuate and stop playing her ally and enabler in a childish covert war against the dad who is obviously superior intellectually and morally.
@@misstmemrs Ok. Ive read your points over and over across the entire comment section of this video, how do you come to the conclusion that the wive is an addict?
This sounds so much like my family. My dad is constantly picking fights with me and my poor mom is stuck in the middle trying to make both of us happy without picking sides.
he likes has a very good reason to most of the time, if not all
This is such a stellar example of precisely how a toxic person can pollute the environment of others wasting precious time out of their lives they‘ll never get back. So ridiculous. Been there so many times. Especially when he struggled to spit out the words of confusion describing why he decided to film the incident in the first place. Ugh, poor thing. I feel ya & hope you‘re out there kickin‘a- & takin‘ names enjoying & experiencing all the love & compassion I feel certain you give
He stutters a lot bc he’s used to being cut off
right ive experienced that feeling before
that honestly makes a lot of sense and makes me so sad
Exactly what I thought. Poor dude.
It's sad that we recognize how he feels
Yeah , I talk really fast because I try to get my words out before anyone cuts me off because I’m so used to it
You cant argue with a narcissistic person. They are always the victim.
Bella Reese truth, you'll never hear an apology or hear them admit they were wrong.
Bella Reese I had a child with one and I am always and I mean always the problem lool. I have learned to deal with it
wow, so you people think this father has a problem ? this is a spoiled brat that literally is recording his father because he called him obnoxious, and well he is! and if the father doesn't want to be recorded he shouldn't have been recorded in the home he lives in !! plus how old is this kid? looks well over 18 to me and if he doesn't like it get out. That's what I would have said. that father didn't yell, scream or holler at his son. far from abusive, if my child would have pulled that shit he would have had that phone shoved so far up hisasss and if he likes posting things online he would have a great video he could share.... his Colonoscopy ... on youtube. the problem in this family is the mother is siding with the son. and I'm sure she does all the time. he has no discipline and never has. because if he was the perfect child he is trying to make himself out to be he would have listened to his father when he asked him not to record him. That's literally what the entire recorded argument was over
maybe pay attention. the house is not his fathers... The house is his grandmothers. Maybe check your ego and realize children are human beings not just something for you to command and hit
Kenny Gentry that father did not hit his grown ass son. But number one thats not a child and number two this is all because he called him obnoxious? Lmao do you not see how spoiled this kid is. C'mon.
"UNPARDONABLE." 😂😂 Good for you dude, thank you for recording this and showing how impossible these people are. I truly hope you're doing alright my friend. Families like this don't deserve reasonable people like you.
He called him obnoxious after he helped him but he’s causing the argument. This is sad! I know this pain all too well! They both are narcissistic the grandma and the dad
they are so disgusting, total gaslighters.
Honestly the worst feeling is when you walk back into your bedroom and stand at your door and hear your parents start to say shit about you
@@user-hr2tu5yr1i I hope you get better soon dude you sound like a really good person 👌
@Winter I promise it will get better 🎉
@@plant2188 I hope you and your sibling is okay 👏
@@ms.playboyinternational393 I'm so sorry to hear that you deserve so much better I'm sure others love you very much
@@ronnie3988 thank you, you're so kind
He stutters a lot because he’s so used to being shut off, and interrupted and ignored. Some “parenting”
Thomas Anderson bro what????😂😂😂😂
Thomas Anderson 5:45 Theyre literally talking about going on a jog and swimming YOU did NOT watch this video😂😂😂
Thomas Anderson Thank you for your very boomer input.
@Thomas Anderson lmao youre the one coming up here for attention and getting everyone pissy, snowflake
@Thomas Anderson okay, im sorry i misinterpreted your crap of attitude. why are u here at all makin rude assumptions on this dude with an abusive parent???
My dad was the exact same way. I recently
escaped my parents, who were both Narcs, and I’m living my best life. I hope they aren’t making your life hell anymore.❤️
1 in 200 ish people are narcissists and they usually dont get along well with other narcissists. both of your parents were not narcissists. considering that you were completely wrong about this, there's a good chance neither of them were. what did you do to get them to dislike you so much?
@@MrTedMcForehead I believe those stats are incorrect. Also, even though you never met me or my parents, you assume it was me who messed our relationship, when in fact, my father was the one who caused everything. I guess I got unlucky. I can’t explain why I was put in a shitty situation and a random person on the internet should tell me what I do or don’t know about my parents.
@@MrTedMcForehead oh, you're weird. how r u gonna say their parent's aren't narcs when you literally don't know what happened? do you think everyone has a healthy life at home??? this video and other videos abt toxic households made me realize my dad is a narcissist himself; like this is exactly what i deal with 24/7. ur disgusting and abuse is a very real thing.
@@MrTedMcForehead
Wrong. Dr. Ramani says, 1 of 6 people is a narcissist. 🎉🎉🎉
I started breaking down in tears while watching this. These kinds of things happened multiple times a week to me as a child, and i had no clue what was going on. It's unfathomable to me that people can be so cruel.
It's exactly like how you described too. Over such small stuff.
I feel really bad for innocent children having to grow up with parents like this
Thomas Anderson fuck off you dumbass, don’t fucking say anything if don’t have anything good to say you fucking narcissistic bitch. Get a fucking grip bro.
@Thomas Anderson are you the dumbass being filmed?
@Thomas Anderson No I am the president of Russia.
@Thomas Anderson thi s grown ass man is not a kid. He needs to get his own apartment, or move in with a friend.
It's even worse when they make you feel like it's your fault and deserve it
"Do you wanna keep living here?" That broke my heart. How can a parent hold shelter over their kid's head. That's ridiculous
@Zachary Sheffield I’m so sorry for that. Stay strong. U did nothing wrong and u r not alone 💖💖💖
Shoot, he's lucky his parents live there. My parents and sister all have a nice place or whatever but how many times I've been homeless , shoooooot, moved out of my mom's when I was 16. I would love to have these as my parents, LOVE
Wish I'd had a camera phone. My mother would have gone to prison for her abuse.
Mine said that to me all the time. And now they are surprised i don't visit them.
My dad always kicks me out of the house starting from 11
"It's your son" he basically called you it and said you are her son, wow it is crazy and narcisists never reveal themselves in public
yes, he said ''it's your son'' because she is literally leaving and avoiding all parental and spousal responsibilities. narcissists dont care about ''revealing themselves'', theyre unaware of their behaviour. people that say this are so ill informed
Your Dad is a very difficult man. Good on your Mum for putting him in his place.
At least both my Dad and my Pop have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, so I can relate to this.
Sometimes you grow up just to discover your parents never really did.
exactly
Basically.
That is absolutely true.
Crazy man realest comment I’ve ever seen
real
His constant stuttering tells me that he was either rushed or never had a chance to speak growing up. My personal experience with narcissists is that there is NOTHING you can tell them to let them see their wrongdoing. They never think they're wrong.
Jay Pea yes yes yes
I noticed the stuttering immediately and I couldn’t handle it. My heart just broke because I know way too many negative reasons that causes sich talking behaviors and with a dad like that I just knew it was one of those reasons.
I‘m so angry right know and I’m not even two minutes in, I really wanna punch the life out of his so called father.
Or maybe he cant think of a reasonable argument as to why he's causing so much distress to his parents by ignoring their privacy. The son is being obnoxious here, so why shouldn't we believe he was also obnoxious in the first instance. Maybe if he was spanked more as a child he wouldn't turn out like this.
Veritas Aequitas what is wrong with you
Asal L why? Is that supposed to be some kind of argument?
I’m 37 now and from the ages of 12-21 lived with this exact kind of abuse from my stepfather, along with a handful of other traumatic experiences thanks to his family. In the last 2-3 years I’ve finally taken the time to really think about what I lived through and how it’s caused even more issues in my life as an adult. I’ve finally started therapy to try to heal from this trauma. Sending much love to you & I hope you’ve been able to heal. You didn’t deserve to be treated that way. Neither did your mom. I’m so sorry you went through this. Your feelings of frustration with him are completely valid. He needs help.
Nobody cares .
That's NOT true!!! Alot of people do CARE!!! Many people as children grew up with this same kind of ABUSE!!! Back then WE just didn't have the language to explain what was happening to US!!!
My narc. father when he was mad at my mother was also mad at me & my brothers!! Collective anger is really a nasty/evil thing & also "irrational" & possible " dangerous"!! I had to live with it in my childhood & teen & youth years!!
Brother I feel your pain... My dad is a covert narcissist and it's had devastating consequences on my life. Stay strong. There's people out here that understand what you're dealing with.
Edit: I understand this video is almost a decade old, however, the effects of having a narcissist parent lasts a lifetime.
He doesn't want to be recorded so he can turn around and rewrite the whole conversation in his head
Or maybe he knows that his son will post it on the internet for 2.5 million people to see.
Pretty fucking much.
Yea.... or mabey because its a complete invasion of privacy
somehow, I doubt this would have millions of views if he wasn't emotionally abusing his son.
Listen to how he talks to his wife. "Your worse than he is". He just puts everyone down in the house to try and make himself look better. It's not working pal.
Growing up with a father like that i totally would not have thought that that was NOT a normal behaviour.! Thanks for pointing it out
Don't argue with Thomas trust me. Just pray 😇
@Thomas Anderson is she worse than you an ADULT kid 50+? Hypocrite 😂.
@Thomas Anderson I'm talking about you! How you put everyones opinion down to try n make yourself look better. Heard you were about 50 from some random so it's funny asf how much of a crackhead you are
@Jennifer Green holy cow that's worse than these "free inhabitants" people 😂. Thinking people must obey with the stupidest things
So many codependent women choose their abusive husbands over their children.
Misogynistic prick
Love your mom for fighting him back. MY mom just sits there and doesn’t say a thing when my dad criticizes and judges…and he does it to HER, too! Every day is something for him to yell at her for, even when it’s not her fault 😮
i honestly think it's a smarter thing to do to not argue with dumb people and save your energy
Exactly. if the spouse doesn't do anything she's also an enabler
The mom seems kind of sketchy though, mostly siding with the dad
omg are u sibling or smth? so relatable 😭
I go through this all the time
him stuttering is a sign that he never got to talk for himself.
Xophieya yeah, I dont even hear it as stuttering. I can see how when he is starting to collect his thoughts he doesn't have time to speak before he is interrupted much less remember his original intent of what he wanted to share. The conversation just goes further and further away from the getting to the resolution. His dad didn't want to resolve it anyway because the best way to get your son to move out is to treat him like crap. Not really the "best" way but maybe all his dad knew of.
Xophieya I'm the same way
His dad's behavior won't change when the son moves. This isn't about the son moving. His dad's behavior will never change. My mom's never did.
Cait3 Holtzback i am sorry that you have no hope, don't believe in your parents and that you demand something from life, that you yourself, dont want give to anybody.
Nowhy very sad ... Hes not alone .
It’s so sad because he doesn’t even finish his sentences... showing he is always interrupted and doesn’t feel secure in what he says.😭
Thomas Anderson found the boomer guys
@Thomas Anderson Bruh you sound like your IQ is smaller than your shoe size.
P.S. Please don't spank me thanks
@Thomas Anderson Oh sorry sir. I'll try to do something more respectable with my life like replying to nearly every top comment on a 5 year old video with weird spanking threats.
@Thomas Anderson Bruh I never counted your psycho ass comments, I've just been looking through the comment section and made an estimate. I don't want anything more to do with you and your creepy spanking fetish.
@Thomas Anderson Listen man I just don't want to be apart of some perverted old man's weird spanking kink. I mean, you seem really interested in slapping the asses of random kids on CZcams. We don't need to stop talking, I just don't want to be part of this weird sexual fantasy. Also, when did I count 410?
My whole life in one video. Watching this my heart instantly started thumping. My arms and legs feel weak and my body feels hot. My father gets much more violent than this for any show of opposition.
That lady in the beggining is how me and my mom interact. I ask simple questions rationally and calmly after an argument and she shuts it down with imaginary authority of "i dont feel well" or "my stomach hurts from the nerves" Insane how i look at the similarities
For sure, some boomers never had to grow up. No emotional intelligence. Very bad role models
Honestly, the dad's mentality is "if they're not listening to my orders all the time, they're the problem, not me" he needs help
zerono pluto smh
literally my mom. If I dont do exactly what she says without question, then I'm disrespectful and I have to go talk with God xD but I'm and adult
In a narc’s mind they are NEVER the problem. They have a victim complex and will never get help. It’s a mental personality disorder.
I’m pretty sure that’s parents in general
Yes he needs to understand that the addict wife is a narcissistic triangulator. The son has a psychosis and is mirroring her disease. The son scrutinizes and nitpicks and moves the goalposts. He acts out and then pathologizes the reaction. He spars with word salad like the wife. The sociopath games she plays are an inferior person who thinks she is superior. You can’t resolve issues with her because she is the control freak and spars instead of reasonable argument. The son needs cignitive therapy, alanon, and a doctor of integrative medicine. His original abuser is the wife. She has them pit against each other.
he won’t let you finish a single sentence, and he HAS to win.
same as my dad
My dad
That's my soon to be ex to a T.
Update: she is now my current Ex girlfriend. I AM FREE.
And my dad, codependent individuals tend to attract people just like their disordered parent, because of the childhood trauma.
How you can tell who the narcissists are is the cognitive distortions and logical fallacies and that is the wife and son.
As someone who went through this, this makes my blood boils... My man you're very brave for keeping your composure and posting this...
I really needed to see this today.
My narcissistic father is now a frail old man, speak to him regularly but haven't seen him for a couple of years but now he's at an age we he's looking to shack up with one of his kids to 'take care of him'.
I'm 38 now but this dialogue opened up a lot of old wounds but has reminded me not to feel guilty about not allowing/wanting him to move in with me.
His fathers tone COMPLETELY changes, just because he’s being filmed. He tried to act like he’s the best parent ever, just because he can’t admit that he’s some shit parent.
Luna Moone right! What an asshole!
Or maybe he’s just trying to be calm like his son was asking him to do...
Jeb Helsing calm, maybe. But he was still refusing to take blame for his behavior or apologize for calling his son obnoxious when clearly his son was trying to help him. He didn’t even thank his son for the help.
Exactly
Well his son has a roof over his head and a camera to record his life. His father isn’t doing that bad. This type of family talk shouldn’t be in the Internet. You were obnoxious and instigating the situation. He didn’t want to be filmed respect his privacy. Be thankful
This video really does show how the narcissist are. Always innocent, always the victim. It is never their fault.
It's a brain disorder. Trying to teach a narc to become empathetic is akin to trying to teach Quantum Mechanics to someone with Down Syndrome.
Its sad yet so true in many ways
Yep
Spot on! My son's girl friend is a narcissist, she's a energy vampire 🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇
Omg this is literally how my MOM sounds and i've recorded her before just to prove to myself I wasn't crazy when she tried to gaslight me afterwards and take zero accountability for her actions
My mother was a Narcissist. She caused total chaos in the family. She had favorite children and pitted us against each other. She was controlling and talked out of both sides of her mouth. Narcs are awful people.
This young man appears to be the only person who's not insane in this family. It must feel so overwhelming to get told every fucking day that you are wrong when you are actually right. I hope he's now safe and far away from these toxic people.
I think his mom isn't insane either clearly
@@IndianAnimeBros sadly, I feel like she is… driven insane by her husband.
@@janutellet yea but she was trying to end the discussion peacefully like she knew its best to dodge a bullet from this person rather than confronting, that's how we live with narcissists
@@IndianAnimeBros totally agree with you, sir. That's how my relatives deal with my father too. It isn't easy.
@@janutellet Actually, she keeps her boundaries very solid when talking to him. And, she is calling out his behavior for what it is. She's not trying to solve or fix, she's telling her husband it's his problem, not hers.
I'm pretty sure the guy who recorded it is a covert narcissist, though.
"don't film me" more like " don't expose me".
Got that right.
Yeah, definitely...
💯
Like the argument would have changed if he wasn't recording. Yeah right, oh yeah it probably would have been different he probably would have thrown the cookie jar at his son
One day, the shoe may be on the other foot. Oh what irony then.
The way he stumbles over his words is uncanny because it's exactly, *exactly* how I stumble over my own words after similar treatment.
same it's a stress thing trauma response ect
You were never allowed to have a voice. When you find it, individuate, they hate you for it.
Narcissists can be so dramatic with arguments it’s almost comical
Also, the stuttering and tripping over your own words hurt me in a truly emotional way because that's when you know you have toxic, horrible people as parents. Can't even get a damn word in
Cat Gwinn ,I just don't speak aloud that often.
Yes, and they have a way of making you doubt what you are trying to say or making you feel like your words don't make sense so you stutter and falter in the message you are trying to convey and they make it seem like you are exaggerating , being dramatic, carrying on like a child ect so speaking out and speaking up confidently to defend yourself is very hard
Zoe Frew exactly.
Zoe Frew ,but you still feel like defending them because you feel the need to care. I understand that.
I stutter a lot but my parents are kind and care about me (sometimes) the only reason I stutter is because whenever I try to talk with my parents they always cut me off, argue, or just ignore me.
Young man, get out of that house as soon as possible.
I agree! That is an unhealthy relationship! Get out of there and live with someone else that is WAAAAYYYYYYY better!
Yes give your parents some relief !
Bro ur old enough to move out , now move out ! Get a job! Let the old folks live there older years in PEACE ! Geez typical American Modern spoiled 20yr olds!
@Bitter-Truth Pill Saves 👏👏💯 🙌
100% absolutely living with family who are narcissists will have chipped away at his soul
& will definitely need wholesome therapy to rebuild his inner self and strength
They never acknowledge what he is saying.
I am living with the same circumstances & it is *very* difficult.
They wont be comforted because they fear becoming under attack
Thank you for posting this, im literally crying because I realize that I wasn't the problem growing up...thank you.
The kid is at an advantage because he’s learning from a young age what he’s dealing with. See their entitlement. Their arrogance that they are always right. The extremes: “absolutely blackmail!” Triangulation “He’s your son, tell him to erase it!” Demands. Threats. Ultimatums. Wearing his son down by repeating himself. Unfortunately he’s in a no win situation. “You talk like a baby!” The babies are the narc parents!
Thank you!! I’m sad to see people siding with the parents yikes!!
Yeah, he did the most brilliant thing, and I love this went viral.
Hearing his mother defend him and rationalize things broke my heart because I have never had someone to defend me. My parents have always been narcissistic. It felt weird to even hear.
Thomas Anderson I can’t quite figure out if you’re fucking around because it’s written but I really hope you are🥴
Thomas Anderson Okay you made it clear😂 You’re fucking around
Same. My father would just agree to everything my narcisstic mother says to avoid more drama. It sucks
Yup. My dad to a T.
@Thomas Anderson My mom is fine. She is a great woman and has always veen patient with everybody. My dad however, is extremely difficult and to this day I go back and forth because as soon as I start forgiving and trying to move on he does something else to hurt me seemingly on purpose and that can make it hard. It isn't like I enjoy having those feelings so....
stuttering because you’ve always been spoken over .. so it’s hard to continue your sentence. I feel you :(
Isabella Gonzalez that happens to me all the time too. My family is mostly dicks, two faced bunch of assholes. They do the bear minimum to help out each other. Whenever i argue with them they also cut me off. Thats when i developed panic attacks. All because i stutter...
Oh my gosh... seriously I just noticed that this might be why I always start crying if someone wants to argue with me. I don't want to cry, I am 28 I'm not a child, but it just comes out. Because my father has always spoken over me and yelled at me whenever there was something to argue about. Thanks dad
Same with me, I don't speak to my dad anymore
Isabella Gonzalez I always thought all dads did that ? Is that not normal?
Currently rethinking my whole life
Man this took me to such a bad place, is like reliving bad memories. Hope you are doing better.
So manipulative, I'm so glad your mum hasn't turned into someone that blindly agrees with him because it's easy for her, rather then him drilling into her to take his side, such a ruthless way to deal with family disagreements
Dad: stop filming me I don't want people seeing me
10 million viewers:
Dad: hides behind door to talk 😳 who is the child here?
@Neo Anderson lmao
EXACTLY! 😂
EXACTLY👏🏼
@Neo Anderson immature responses bye bye
Did anyone else just have this video pop up in their recommended
Yeah...
Me 2
Yep
Ya isn't it weird that it suddenly popped up?
Me
you mom is awesome. she seems really strong. i'm so sorry he sucks. i am a parent of two young toddlers and i have the challenge of breaking a similar (not quite so much manipulation but getting very angry) cycle. i see it come out in myself sometimes and watching things like this really helps me remember it's worth fighting to be better every day for my kids.
Don't be fooled. The other parent assumes the narc traits over the years. They will always choose the narc. Even over their own kids.
@@LocaButt I’m sure sometimes that’s the case, we can tell from just this video though
I’m sorry you had to grow up with this. So did I, I truly feel this.
I see your dad acting calmer just for the camera.
my whole life I was made to believe I was "ungrateful, disrespectful, and evil" for defending myself. I believed that up until watching this video. Thanks for sharing this. I finally understand what was happening.
Same. Until i was about 27 i finally cut my narcissist family members out of my life. I was surrounded by them. My mom, her boyfriend she met we were forced to live with. A majority of my dads family. My grandma and her sister particularly. Ever since i cut them out of my life I've been a much happier person
When you argue with them they always make the excuse that you wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t them to make your argument invalid
Same here 🤦🏽♂️
@@ericasdollworld3886 Im not sure what it is but they definitely run in packs for some reason. Im happy to hear that getting away has helped I was starting to feel guilty for cutting them off
@@bQtea22 i kinda did at one point. A year or 2 after i cut them out, my great aunt passed away. She raised me in a way but she was very psychologically abusive. But i still went to her funeral. The dirty looks, people being cold towards me or try to make me feel guilty. That's when i realized i don't need to be around people like that. And i certainly won't be going to the next funeral. Don't care who it is.
The sad thing is, even with video proof, a narcissistic person will never admit they're wrong.
Last time i played the video proof to prove my point of him denying abusing us i almost ended up beaten. They're so scared of evidence, because they know the police would believe the evidence and not their empthy words.🤭
Those parents must be mentally ill on the inside, I feel bad for the camera guy.
It's because in their mind they aren't doing anything wrong🤷♂️
That's fucking truth 😂
Ong
god the way the son stumbles his words reminds me of my (thankfully gone) strict af stepfather, ESPECIALLY when he’s mad. being an autistic teenager made it 10x worse, giving me goddamn panic attacks whenever he yelled at my mother or me. and the worst part is most of the bad stuff i did in *his* eyes, were stuff I also saw him do, making him feel VERY hypocritical.
i’m glad to be away from him. he was in my life within 15 years that i’ll sadly never get back. and i was gaslit into thinking I’d miss him too. LMAO
As a person who has a narcisstic parent , and sibling I know what this feels like, you can’t argue with them , they just try to completely avoid accountability it’s best to let them be
God, his stuttering because his dad keeps interrupting hits me so hard because i have been in his place for all of my childhood, it feels peaceful when he is not here.
@Thomas Anderson shut up dumbass
I know the type. My step dad is one. He will personally attack and mock you if you stand up to him. Much like this weirdo that comments on everyone freaking out
@@ratqueen3809 he's been doing this for months. He's saying stuff that has nothing to do with the convo, then leaves once he's wrong. That's how narcissistic people are online. Let us pray for him 🙏😇
@@ratqueen3809 he is the dad. There was someone on here who did a thorough search and the pic was the same as the dad in the video. It's so pathetic lol.
@Thomas Anderson you've even admitted it yourself on another comment thread. Move on with your life because your son has.
Just realized my father did all these things during arguments. They expect to be treated like adults with the highest authority but turn into irrational toddlers when they get called out on anything.
And when your finally a adult they still want you to “ respect the adult “
@Dakoda Fisher yup , my dad is one . It’s hard . It’s strange though he was never bad . But he’s gotten bad since 2020
That's how you build rebellion and resentment in teens
How did you just describe my Dad in one sentence-
Oh fuck don't incentivize me to write a detailed novel about me resenting my father's influence on my entire sense of self. Trauma from verbal abuse doesn't even begin to scrape the tip of the iceberg
Oh I 100% understand and I'm so sorry you went through this. They create chaos. I hope you are free of them and living peacefully. You are in my prayers. You are so worthy of good.
wow this sucks to see, I’ve grown up with a parent with narcissistic behavior and I’ve gotten to the point where I had to record because they would belittle my emotions and abuse making me think I was crazy and it was normal to get treated the way I did. I hope everyone in a similar situation stays strong and gets out of that web
The reason he doesn't want to be recorded is he knows he's batshit crazy but doesn't want to face it.
@Thomas Anderson wait aren't you the crazy old man in the comments bashing everyone who thinks the guy is crazy?
@Thomas Anderson "Haven't bashed anyone" - yet he says "just fighting fire with fire" - An immature idiot will never be as downright stupid and hungry for attention as you.
Fighting fire with fire is an inefficient strategy because it doesn't prove your point, it merely shows that you are just as bad as the emitter of the fire. Analyze what you are saying, moron.
We do not need a wakeup call to know that you have absolutely no knowledge or experience in psychology. So please, get off this video.
If your children are successful (I highly doubt it seeing how delusional and egoistical you are) then just honestly, stop wasting your time on giving "wakeup calls" - This is the internet. Everyone is immature in a certain aspect. You can't change that, nor will your pointless flames.
@@noonenooo2843 Do not bother. Thomas Anderson is the same idiot who is subscribed to 5-minute-crafts.
@Thomas Anderson lmao you are the true definition of moronic
@Thomas Anderson ok boomer
“You’re talking like a baby”
*1 minute later*
“I want it. I want it now”
Bob Didlboc _"I want it. I want it now."_
muh german unification
Are you the new Justin Y.? I see you everywhere
nama hecc Wow I’ve finally gotten noticed
👍
Exactly. He’s reflecting his bad characteristics onto him because he is feeding off of that.
He wouldn't have to be worried about being recorded if he wasn't guilty of anything
Listening to this is like being back in my childhood home
How are you going to ask for someone to help you, yell at them, argue with them, insult them, and then still expect them to help you? Narcissistic parents are the worst. . .
JustChels and gosh I can't take any more "I WANT you to" " I WANT him to" "I WANT" "I WANT"
JustChels I know, my dad is Narcissistic 😞 Good thing I don’t see him anymore. He is a violent man. I feel bad for anyone who has Narcissistic parents.
Yeah, my mom married my dad who was narcissistic then divorced him and got with ANOTHER narcissistic dad. Wonderful, at least the first one changed when he left to the navy but still.
In families like this there is a rigid unspoken hierarchy, rigid unspoken rules, and rigid roles. Black and white thinking. Mom white, dad black. Sociopaths provoke and are superficial. Their unspoken premise is that anger is an indication of an evil monster. They have cognitive dissonance and create drama for confirmation bias. They avoid healthy conflict resolution in the name of peace and harmony. Lol.
You will NEVER EVER please the narcissistic person, no matter how hard you try.
Save yourself some heartache. Stop trying.
@Thomas Anderson Lol bro was sitting on top the stairs while his dad shit talked him for a good 5-10 min. This guy's definitely trouble eh bud 😂
@Thomas Anderson nobodys listening to you anymore lol
@Thomas Anderson lol okay bro sounds good to me. Haha I've had fun, but shits just weird now
@Thomas Anderson the irony! 😂
@Thomas Anderson pce
" sue him? what are you going to get from that Greg more family harmony? " Hilarious!! 💀
the fact that the dad wanted the video deleted so bad, he obviously knew that his behavior was horrid
incorrect
As someone with a narcissistic mom, I feel this. The gaslighting, the guilt tripping, the sudden change in attitude and demeanor as soon as they're being recorded, holy shit.
@webskri You obviously don’t know wtf gaslighting is then
@webskri lol Ignorant bottom-feeders who gain their self worth through comments go brrrr
Sorry to hear your mom's a narcissist. It's been 10yrs since I last spoke to mine. Though my life is so much calmer now, the lasting impact of a narcissist isn't so easy to remove.
@webskri yeah we don’t do racist here 🤚
@webskri made up that word has been around since like the 60s.It's a form of manipulation/mind control.
Narcissists hate recordings because they try to justify their acts by twisting what happened. If there's a solid record of what happened then they can't lie about it, and that bugs them.
Yes. That is my ex husband right there!
💯👏👏
Yes!
Yes... EXCEPT when they’re the ones recording after crazymaking is successful 😩😭
Exactly
A narcissist worse nightmare.........."Being exposed" .......They sure love chaos, He's in his glory hearing to his own voice.....Good job!
They don't want to be recorded because they don't want anybody to know what they're really like. I understand this completely.
Him : *trying to talk calmly*
Dad :YOU’RE SCREAMING
💀💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡
That happens with me too
Same here!
Why is this popping up in everyones recommended after 3 years
MemerSchemer exactly!
MemerSchemer Same bro! 🤔
someone at youtube hq got triggered?
Same lulz
Why is it popping in the first place.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Getting to watch this play out from a completely outside perspective, has been incredibly helpful for me.
Get out of that house!!
"Eileen, this is becoming a problem between you and me now." yeah dude, he's a bully.
“You wanna keep living here?” Now that’s what you call blackmail
jordache141 mine just said “you wanna keep having a car to drive?”
i heard this from both of my parents.... today I can recognize all this for what it is
He's a grown ass man!! He shouldn't be living there!!
yep my mum
bluemoon thank you!!! I was about to say the same thing. I don’t have my license, a car, or college. My parents never taught me and it was always empty excuses. Then my parents chose their house loan over my school. I knew it was their house and their rules but I couldn’t but feel like I had no where to go if I couldn’t even get education.
I could never stay with a man who treated my child like this.
takocos do you know how hard it is to get out of this kind of relationship tho
yea, they would be like "I am not wrong, you can't leave me, this makes no sense blablabla" and that turns to future problems with harassment with the reason of "I'm not wrong". May God let us stay away from people like this
lol both of you are so true. my ex was a narcissist and i would spend hours trying to explain why i wanted to end things, get so tired in the end i would just give up. lol. luckily that's over now.
Shocker. The mother doesn’t stand up for her child. “I’m not getting in the middle of it”
Means, I know hun, he doesn’t listen to me either. I’m just here trying to survive. Be quiet, don’t talk back, and just make everything easier for everyone by never standing up for yourself and developing serious people pleasing issues 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Good job mom.
Why did a video from 2014 randomly show up in my recommendations
Sarah H because
Ikr
Sarah H Same
Because videos in your recommendations don't have to be new.
Sarah H Same? I don’t even watch any videos that would relate to this. Weird.