Bad Travel Day - Autism On An Airplane

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  • čas přidán 20. 07. 2019
  • It was a bad travel day...it just wasn't a good day in general. This was one of those situations as a parent and as an autism parent that we just wanted to throw in the towel and start over but we couldn't. We managed to keep smiling but by the time we got in the car to go home we were just done. Autism on an airplane can be so hard for everyone because of the sensory issues, the anxiety, and the challenges it presents. Without a doubt it is hardest on Abbie and that's what really breaks our hearts. On the good side of it all...the world is a far more accepting and understanding place than you might assume.
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  • @kristinamillerrn1628
    @kristinamillerrn1628 Před 5 lety +7293

    Ignore the ppl who are telling you to discipline Abbie. Her behavior is not malicious and doesn’t need to be disciplined. I wish ppl would understand this more.

    • @annagitana1
      @annagitana1 Před 5 lety +562

      It's ridiculous. You can't discipline someone into not having autism.

    • @kristinamillerrn1628
      @kristinamillerrn1628 Před 5 lety +233

      annagitana1 Right?! Some ppl are uneducated and like to think that discipline cures all.

    • @angieCity90
      @angieCity90 Před 5 lety +219

      I feel like that comes from people who dont understand. I think thats the reason why I watch these videos, I learn so much. I wish others would try to learn about autism too!

    • @kristinamillerrn1628
      @kristinamillerrn1628 Před 5 lety +72

      Angelica C Thank you for taking the time to learn more about Autism. It’s challenging at times to have a child with Autism. My Katie is my all

    • @quindixie6867
      @quindixie6867 Před 5 lety +200

      It's like telling a kid in a wheelchair to stop being a brat and just walk.

  • @faithstortz3132
    @faithstortz3132 Před 5 lety +1362

    Got beat up by his sister... Dad!!! Don't tell the whole world. Epic

  • @pattycake1234
    @pattycake1234 Před 3 lety +209

    I’m autistic, and I just wanted to give you parents a 10/10 for this flight. You guys were so incredibly patient with Abby. I wish all autistic parents could respond as patiently as you, she’s so lucky to have you both !

    • @carlies.crazyness.creation1398
      @carlies.crazyness.creation1398 Před rokem +5

      Me and my neighbor both have autism and she has a more severe case then me but I sometimes go over and help her mom out when she’s to stressed or needs to get stuff done.

    • @celinapalfrey6001
      @celinapalfrey6001 Před rokem

      Patricia, you are incredibly high functioning for autism, but I do know there’s a wide ratio for IQ
      Your comment was awesome !

    • @pattycake1234
      @pattycake1234 Před rokem +2

      @@celinapalfrey6001 Thanks you so much! Also instead of high functioning and low functioning people with autism usually prefer verbal or non verbal.

    • @user-un3kc8pe4c
      @user-un3kc8pe4c Před rokem

      Mddjrndjdnfdbhrndnfjjdjd

  • @GinaDD1996
    @GinaDD1996 Před 3 lety +376

    I can only imagine how she perceives the sounds of the airport, I don’t have autism, but even I find the airport environment overwhelming. She’s so strong! The whole family it’s amazing 💖

    • @arribaficationwineho32
      @arribaficationwineho32 Před 3 lety +9

      I agree and am so sad they are subjecting her to this. Continuity is major for this affliction as is noise abatement. One would wonder how important this trip is for the family to take her through an airport?

    • @vanessajones9524
      @vanessajones9524 Před 2 lety +3

      I don't think they are amazing

    • @jamestipping5126
      @jamestipping5126 Před 2 lety +1

      @@arribaficationwineho32 if you watched the beginning of video you would know she has flown before without any issues. If they didn't take her places because she may have a hard time she would never leave the house and live in a bubble. It would be miserable for her because she likes to go. In fact on this flight the flight to Texas she did fine, it was only the flight back home that she had any major issues. Places she has been on previous occasions she enjoys and on subsequent occasions the same places and or experiences gives her sensory overload issues. So you would rather an autistic people person to stay in a bubble and not experience life? It would behoove you to do some research on autism and gain some understanding.

    • @ares2300
      @ares2300 Před 2 lety

      @@vanessajones9524 okay? 🤣

    • @ghosted_real22
      @ghosted_real22 Před rokem +2

      as a person with autism and is REALLY sensitve to sounds, this warms my heart! thank you

  • @tiffanidellapietro8917
    @tiffanidellapietro8917 Před 5 lety +2696

    The airport staff seemed really friendly and handled it well! That's one plus!

    • @unapologeticallyme8513
      @unapologeticallyme8513 Před 4 lety +26

      I agree every one of them seemed to be well versed in autism they were very understanding and accommodating that's great to see!

    • @wasabiimenace
      @wasabiimenace Před 4 lety +15

      Well they should be educated and understanding. No need to be ignorant when dealing with any type of person who is special needs. Period.

    • @alfieshort9490
      @alfieshort9490 Před 4 lety +1

      Yes flight attendants and airports actually offer support towards autism and other stuff like ADHD and stuff I’m autistic but learnt to write they help me a lot wen I flie

    • @drk7031
      @drk7031 Před 4 lety

      There are loads of autistic kids around especially travelling .

    • @raeperonneau4941
      @raeperonneau4941 Před 4 lety +1

      Proud of LAX. Glad to see they’re cognizant of special needs.

  • @AnimaSola3o4
    @AnimaSola3o4 Před 5 lety +3537

    Her crying broke my heart. I actually have tears. How frustrating to be upset and not be able to express why.
    You guys are doing A GREAT JOB. Period. She has a fantastic support team around her.

    • @jackfrost2482
      @jackfrost2482 Před 4 lety +12

      yeah same i seen alot of videos of the family im one of their newest subscribers when she cries i just hate it its so so sad i wish i could help her

    • @laurengibbs6940
      @laurengibbs6940 Před 4 lety +11

      She was probably tired, bless her heart..

    • @kaelynnb.1267
      @kaelynnb.1267 Před 4 lety

      AnimaSola3o4 why did she cry tho

    • @bee5449
      @bee5449 Před 4 lety +6

      It was probably the hardest thing I ever went through(I had a cleft
      palate and autism), being so stressed but never being able to tell anyone,but when I told my friend that,they just said it wasn’t that’s hard to not be able to speak.Some people need education.

    • @shameless4126
      @shameless4126 Před 4 lety +6

      Me too, it’s so sad that she can’t say why she’s crying

  • @PauLina-ji6io
    @PauLina-ji6io Před 3 lety +47

    I guess most people didn’t expect Abby being an autistic girl, cause you can’t see it.
    So they get confused from her actions.
    Also all people started to be experts on parenting if a kid acts out.
    Suddenly they got all the right advices how you should regret.
    Even though they have no idea of autism or of Abby at all.
    I think you doing great.
    You guys always try to be calm and always try to be understanding and loving.
    For Abby it was super hart. And you absolutely did amazing.

  • @susanhlavaty9500
    @susanhlavaty9500 Před 3 lety +135

    I'm a special needs nanny/ educator. I have a master's degree in special education. As parents you guys rock. You're daughter is doing fantastic. To the other people who don't understand she cannot control her actions, it the same if you discipline for breathing you have to breathe. The majority of Autistic children have a high IQ. Think how frustrating it is to them, when they have something to say but can't communicate their thoughts. Their thinking what's wrong with you, I know what I'm saying why don't you understand me. Children that are autistic are hyper sensitive to noises and new surroundings. You're daughter is a treasure. Keep up the great work your doing as a family.

    • @alexbarker7511
      @alexbarker7511 Před 2 lety +3

      Not to annoy you but in the last few sentences you said “you’re” which was wrong and then the final sentence you did “your” for proper grammar swap them…

    • @maxcinelli5739
      @maxcinelli5739 Před 2 lety +3

      @@alexbarker7511 why does that matter??? quit being the grammar police

    • @carlies.crazyness.creation1398
      @carlies.crazyness.creation1398 Před rokem

      That’s my dream job!

    • @ninak5645
      @ninak5645 Před měsícem

      Thats a common missconception, they dont know what is going on, they dont have high IQ and cant conceptualize the world around them which usnt their fault (as with any disability or even any brain fuction) but romanticizing it in this way is incredibly dangerous and frankly wishful thinking. They can understand some commends and things but their brains just dont function the same way most people's do

  • @adeen5438
    @adeen5438 Před 4 lety +2189

    Hi, I am a 31-year-old with Autism, I struggled a lot growing up, and I really wish I had a father as amazing and kind and understanding and patient as you. You seem like a really nice family.

    • @sarahthebear2853
      @sarahthebear2853 Před 4 lety +36

      Adeen it seems like you have gotten better, being able to write is amazing for autistic people!

    • @popsicIes
      @popsicIes Před 4 lety +45

      @@sarahthebear2853 not autism is the same for everyone! different people are on different planes of the spectrum :)

    • @slendergod775
      @slendergod775 Před 4 lety +21

      I have autism and I’m 18 so things are sort of going ok but I need to learn a little bit more about life so that’s why I have a amazing family around me

    • @violetmolloy68
      @violetmolloy68 Před 4 lety +4

      I don’t get why this person is amazing just because he is saying what a nice family she has

    • @sammiedemaio823
      @sammiedemaio823 Před 4 lety +11

      Pokemonjammer nothing is “wrong” with you. Don’t let society tell you what’s “normal”. You are perfect the way you are and intended to be. Don’t let bullies break you down. You seem like a very smart kid and I hope you brush the negative things said about you, off. I’m sure you have amazing people backing you up and rooting for you ❤️ there are many autistic who live and do things just like anyone else. Never give up!!!

  • @jessicakelly377
    @jessicakelly377 Před 5 lety +2005

    “Part of me wanted to leave you on the plane” - this is exactly why we love you guys so much! You tell it how it is, no filtering and making it all roses and glitter. And you know what? I’m 110% sure there were many parents flying that day who also wanted to leave their teenage daughter on the plane when they landed - special needs or not!!! 😂

    • @mindyschocolate
      @mindyschocolate Před 5 lety +90

      Jessica Kelly I liked at the beginning where he talks about her beating her brother up and he’s in the back protesting. 😂

    • @zaeliyen
      @zaeliyen Před 5 lety +36

      yes!! it's frustrating being talked to differently just because you're not neurotypical. i love that they're real about things and i don't know her so i definitely can't speak for her, but i think she loves it too

    • @cherylbritten6950
      @cherylbritten6950 Před 5 lety +21

      Yes! EXACTLY! Have two boys with autism, it's like this sometimes with us! They are my world, along with their sister and their dad! I don't know how I would get through this without their dad! I love them and am so proud to be their mom!

    • @jamssnana4084
      @jamssnana4084 Před 4 lety +12

      I don't think I would have ever told my young daughter that, though.

    • @whoopwhoop9339
      @whoopwhoop9339 Před 3 lety

      @@jamssnana4084 they didn’t tell her necessarily

  • @lexb1075
    @lexb1075 Před 2 lety +58

    She handles airports and planes way better than I do, and I'm not Autistic. When she got upset, it was like watching someone express outwardly what I feel internally in that situation.

    • @tgtina.g2613
      @tgtina.g2613 Před rokem +1

      Exactly what I was thinking. I feel like that a lot of times. She did a great job handling her experience. Go Abby!

    • @AimsAlice
      @AimsAlice Před rokem +1

      Same i hate flying im so scard and overjwhelmed by it i hate it anxiety takes over

  • @KedyCheyenne
    @KedyCheyenne Před 3 lety +23

    That breaks my heart.. knowing how amazing of a mother Pricilla is but watching her face as you guys got on to the second plane and seeing how she felt defeated makes me want to cry.... Abby is beyond blessed to have you 2 as her parents

  • @stephaniehollier6335
    @stephaniehollier6335 Před 5 lety +935

    The stranger saying “she’ll be alright” made me tear up.

  • @moonfizzz1180
    @moonfizzz1180 Před 4 lety +604

    why is no one gonna talk about how lovely and polite the staff at the airport and airplane was.

    • @fashiondiva6972
      @fashiondiva6972 Před 3 lety +7

      They did, repeatedly🙄

    • @leonardgros5475
      @leonardgros5475 Před 3 lety

      hello how are you doing

    • @paulachoi5789
      @paulachoi5789 Před 3 lety +5

      You guys are awesome. People can only learn the Autism culture by exposure. It's a learning experience for everyone!

    • @JenReid12
      @JenReid12 Před rokem +5

      That is thier job to be polite and appear friendly to everyone, why would be any different with a someone with a disability .

    • @MarsHouse6166
      @MarsHouse6166 Před rokem +2

      Hmmm bc they were ACTUALLY doing their job??

  • @mochigirl5682
    @mochigirl5682 Před 2 lety +13

    Gentle parents with a gentle brother. ❤️

  • @karenbrown7291
    @karenbrown7291 Před 3 lety +19

    Abbie at 14:45 when camp was mentioned bless her. She looked like she totally appreciated having something nice to think about. It's that feeling when you're so upset and someone you love is trying to cheer you up by talking about all your favourite things and you just can't help but smile. I so felt for her. These moments really help me understand how overwhelming a situation like that can be. Thank you for sharing these moments.

  • @bmd1825
    @bmd1825 Před 5 lety +1362

    She doesn’t need discipline, she needs understanding and Love.

    • @melanieclarke6308
      @melanieclarke6308 Před 4 lety +19

      cutetsuna having worked with children on the Autism spectrum, I can tell you that they understand a tremendous amount and do respond to various forms of discipline. They can be ‘naughty’ just like any other child.

    • @happillvlog4275
      @happillvlog4275 Před 4 lety +1

      I agree

    • @ilovechickennugget4297
      @ilovechickennugget4297 Před 4 lety +1

      EatPlums don’t tell austitic children to discipline they don’t understand sicko

    • @samantha.wood.05
      @samantha.wood.05 Před 4 lety +1

      And that is what she has from her family and us

    • @normadiaz1779
      @normadiaz1779 Před 4 lety +1

      Well we all know that she might never be able to express her feelings to the point of being understood

  • @paint-everything-dont-panic
    @paint-everything-dont-panic Před 5 lety +778

    I hate air brakes too, Abbie!! They startle me every time.

    • @EvergreenVB
      @EvergreenVB Před 5 lety +36

      You know it's coming, you prepare for it, you tense up just a little... and still it finds a way to rattle you each and every time!

    • @geobershad5375
      @geobershad5375 Před 4 lety +14

      I haven’t been on a plane in a while and I probably look dumb asking this but what’s an air brake?

    • @04JessicaS
      @04JessicaS Před 4 lety +20

      Georgette Bershad you don’t look dumb at all! you know when a bus pulls up at a stop, and makes that sharp sound like air being released? that’s an air brake. it’s such a sharp shocking sound, and even though I know the bus is going to make the sound, it scares even me, and i’m neurotypical!

    • @jolie9368
      @jolie9368 Před 4 lety +2

      Ikr lol

    • @kelsiedaisley5626
      @kelsiedaisley5626 Před 4 lety +6

      I hate any unexpected, sudden loud noise or movement. I'm a special needs adult (I've improved greatly over my almost 22 years) but I have hypersensitive ears/hearing so loud noise such as air brakes really bother me. I usually have to listen to the air brakes twice so I can time them and plug my ears so I can't hear them.

  • @doylethechocolatelab
    @doylethechocolatelab Před 2 lety +10

    Watching this to be prepared myself. Abbie is an inspiration! My worst problem is the security and checks and I wear my headphones and have a wheelchair and have priority which means I get through quicker and I don't have to wait in a big queue. My fave is going to the airport shops and getting teddies

  • @Courtjowhite
    @Courtjowhite Před 4 lety +23

    I hate those loud noises too. They send chills through my body. I love how Isaiah is always trying to calm her down and protect her. Love your family!

  • @sarahmccarthy4462
    @sarahmccarthy4462 Před 5 lety +2280

    People who mention discipline clearly don't have special needs kids

  • @pontinrob
    @pontinrob Před 5 lety +1272

    Videos like this have 2 emotions for me first is sadness your all having a hard time but then proud when you all get through it and other people show true humanity around you.

  • @brandywebster8409
    @brandywebster8409 Před rokem +7

    I like how you guys talked to the flight attendants about how she isn't in distress, and in reply to that, the pilot said hi to her. Thats amazing. You guys handle everything so well. 🖤🖤

  • @tomwagner6334
    @tomwagner6334 Před 3 lety +22

    Abbi crushed it. I’m so glad everybody was respectful and caring. Gives me hope.

  • @pyroimp4607
    @pyroimp4607 Před 4 lety +650

    Dad: she beat her brother up
    Bro: WAIT NO-

  • @lottiethompson11
    @lottiethompson11 Před 5 lety +261

    the stranger that said "she'll be alright" just awh

  • @harlidalton8025
    @harlidalton8025 Před rokem +7

    Her smile warms my heart! My nephew was recently diagnosed with autism so finding yalls channel has really opened my eyes to this world and is helping educate me on how to interact with my nephew! I truly love watching y’all and love what y’all are doing !

  • @StefanSchillofficial
    @StefanSchillofficial Před 3 lety +79

    The guy who said you were awesome, was right. I once read something about children that said "they're not giving you a hard time, they are HAVING a hard time". The way you resonate that statement through your compassion and not giving the answers but acknowledging her feelings and anxieties is amazing. She is amazing for doing this. The feelings she must experience had to be so overwhelming. My baby girl is two years old and I hope to remain as compassionate as you towards her in all her challenges ahead. This really hit me hard but I have nothing but respect for you all. Thank you for sharing and caring so much for her.

  • @szqsk8
    @szqsk8 Před 5 lety +518

    "She jacked me up" I LMAO'D when Isiah said that!

  • @lifeinawheelchairadventure4034

    If there was an Amazing Brother Award, Isaiah would deserve to win it every year!

    • @ivyedan7183
      @ivyedan7183 Před 4 lety +6

      Liane Morran oh we should all come up with something for him..he so deserves it..he reminds me of my big sister Cindy..she was always there to cheer me on..

  • @flastnoles11
    @flastnoles11 Před 3 lety +10

    This is one of my biggest issues with my son, it's so hard to go into public (he also has Crohn's and a genetic mutation...his meltdowns can get really bad) because we really worry about ruining other people's day. It's something we need to work on as parents. We have found lately, people are way more understanding and patient than we thought they'd be. Watching this channel has helped us (me for sure as I'm the step father and this was all new for me) and it's helped me to understand my son better, how to communicate better and for that I appreciate you. It's rough, but I wouldn't have it any other way

  • @Bigdogspyke
    @Bigdogspyke Před 2 lety +7

    I love how honest you are. Both about Abbie’s struggles, and your own.

  • @saree___
    @saree___ Před 5 lety +448

    How does Abby react to sensory headphones?? We don't fly with my brother without them. He's not too sensitive to sound, it's most likely the pressure that helps to keep him calm

    • @DreamAmaya
      @DreamAmaya Před 4 lety +51

      Abby doesn't like having things on her head (such as hats, sunglasses etc). In other videos where they try to get her to put something on her face or head, she pretty much immediately takes them off. Actually in this video, at around the 14:14 mark... she has headphones on but takes them off and won't put them back on.

    • @hermenegildoc3933
      @hermenegildoc3933 Před 4 lety +1

      I dont have and of this problems but I am photosensible,so without sunglasses I have headaches

    • @arribaficationwineho32
      @arribaficationwineho32 Před 2 lety

      Earplugs that don’t clasp on her head?

    • @MiMi-kx1vy
      @MiMi-kx1vy Před měsícem

      They are such a lovely family.

  • @ttroxy9410
    @ttroxy9410 Před 4 lety +1079

    I feel terrible saying this but I don’t know if I could handle what they go through on a daily basis

    • @signeaarejrgensen61
      @signeaarejrgensen61 Před 4 lety +180

      I hear you! But then again I think you could if you had to🙂

    • @malinw1910
      @malinw1910 Před 4 lety +140

      Being strong isn't a choice. It's what you are when it's the only choice you have. The truth is that you would manage. Not because you would be doing so well at this very moment. But if the situation appeared you would, because you have to.

    • @akumatenshi9311
      @akumatenshi9311 Před 4 lety +4

      Yah facts

    • @liyanibernier5720
      @liyanibernier5720 Před 4 lety +17

      Tt Roxy same I wouldn’t cope if I had a disabled child

    • @ttroxy9410
      @ttroxy9410 Před 4 lety +14

      Phil McGibney obviously lol thanks for pointing that out I had NO idea

  • @twinboys6401
    @twinboys6401 Před rokem +4

    I’ve traveled for work for over 20 yrs and there were times that I was overwhelmed. She did well! Travel days are long stressful days. Your videos bring more awareness keep it up

  • @cynthianaylor9514
    @cynthianaylor9514 Před rokem +4

    Nothing wrong with being frustrated and venting your feelings. Your patience with your daughter is to be applauded.

  • @lovelylisawarriorqueen7923
    @lovelylisawarriorqueen7923 Před 5 lety +579

    The pressure could really be hurting her ears

    • @sandraarriaga832
      @sandraarriaga832 Před 4 lety +56

      i had started to feel a cold coming on, with congestion and sinus pressure. then i had to get on a 4 hour plane..i thought my ear drums were going to burst. it was awful! i would have cried if i wasn't in the middle seat..

    • @lovelylisawarriorqueen7923
      @lovelylisawarriorqueen7923 Před 4 lety +33

      @@sandraarriaga832 Oh gosh I'm so sorry and to try to control the pain sitting in between 2 people must have been agonizing. I had my ear drum burst flying from the West coast to the East coast and had to go straight to the Emergency Room. The gave me a super steroid shot and antibiotics just in case and I had to stay put for 2 weeks then travel almost 3000 miles home by renting a car that took a week. It took me 7 years before I got the courage to fly again. The pain is excruciating for sure.

    • @sandraarriaga832
      @sandraarriaga832 Před 4 lety +8

      Lovely Lisa Warrior Queen ouch! That sounds like a nightmare😣

    • @kristiworsfold8741
      @kristiworsfold8741 Před 4 lety +15

      started crying on an airplane because i had an ear infection and my ear was popping like crazy, worst pain ever.

    • @brittanyolson3112
      @brittanyolson3112 Před 4 lety +14

      if you hold 2 styrofoam cups one over each ear creating a seal during take off and landing it totally help with ear popping. helpful trick with kids.

  • @rebeccaemerson6194
    @rebeccaemerson6194 Před 5 lety +536

    Isaac is the best brother he's so kind pricilla and ace you two are great parents to of raised such sweet children x

  • @msfs19941
    @msfs19941 Před 2 lety +3

    I don't understand how some people can't comprehend that people with disability may have a meltdown or just struggle at airports or on planes (especially multiple flights)
    I'm not disabled but flying does my head in. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for her. I'm just glad her family are this amazing and supportive

  • @MelissaSchwartz143
    @MelissaSchwartz143 Před rokem +3

    You guys are amazing parents. I’m a paraprofessional at a day time rehabilitation school for kids on the spectrum and the way you guys just block when she’s trying to bite and just gently remind her she’s gonna be okay while also communicating with each other, is just phenomenal. Abbey is so lucky to have you guys and you guys are lucky to have her 💞💞 a tough situation that you got thru as a family unit.

  • @MissSugarland4Ever
    @MissSugarland4Ever Před 4 lety +116

    Even though she beat up Isiah he still held her hand and walked with her through the airport, he is such a great brother.

    • @RoseMiah9191
      @RoseMiah9191 Před 3 lety +10

      He is! I‘m so impressed by him! He‘ll be an amazing father one day!

  • @kittehmou1549
    @kittehmou1549 Před 4 lety +180

    Isaiah looking over constantly when the flight gets bumpy, my heart.

  • @clairefisher3132
    @clairefisher3132 Před rokem +4

    “The world is full of amazing humans” I think you guys are all amazing humans. To have a stressful and exhausting experience and still be grateful for the positive parts and say something like that, you guys are just amazing.
    My son has learning disabilities and has been diagnosed as not on the spectrum but has what we like to call “quirks,” and there are days where I feel exhausted and out of patience. But seeing you guys restores me. Thank you. Abbie, you are an amazing young woman and an inspiration. Isiah, you are an amazing young man and a wonderful big brother. Mom and Dad, you are probably the best parents I’ve ever seen in action. Sending you all so much love.

  • @tob4653
    @tob4653 Před 4 lety +3

    Respect to the first airport assistant
    They where so kind and nice

  • @terryauer2518
    @terryauer2518 Před 4 lety +801

    That would be like disciplining a child having an asthma attack or seizure.

    • @GoldenDalani
      @GoldenDalani Před 4 lety +37

      Terry Auer thank you❤️ my sister has autism and has angry outbursts but it’s not something she has control over

    • @terryauer2518
      @terryauer2518 Před 4 lety +32

      @@GoldenDalani I understand I have depression ,family and former friends have told me to snap out of it well you can't.

    • @ddboyz2338
      @ddboyz2338 Před 4 lety +1

      fake depression

    • @boulevard4145
      @boulevard4145 Před 4 lety +28

      DDBoyZ yeah I’m sure every single person clinically diagnosed on this planet is fake too lol right?

    • @marilynnandbobseifert3986
      @marilynnandbobseifert3986 Před 3 lety

      Terry

  • @ellyhind-smith4220
    @ellyhind-smith4220 Před 5 lety +257

    Moment of appreciation for those awesome airport workers

  • @rav2254
    @rav2254 Před 3 lety +12

    Poor baby, she is so tired at the end of that trip. I totally get it. I feel like crying after long flights and connecting flights.

  • @TSUNAMI-MAMI
    @TSUNAMI-MAMI Před rokem +4

    Oh, those air brakes ARE awful!!!! As someone with PTSD, they do a number on me. Poor girl must be so terrifying for her. She handled everything like a CHAMP! And y’all are so supportive and wonderful advocates. Your love gave her the tools to cope as much as possible. For most people the airport is a nightmare and they don’t face a fraction of the challenges of Abby’s world.

  • @LisaStojanovski
    @LisaStojanovski Před 5 lety +613

    Can I just say: seeing the camera go through the TSA x-ray machine was SO COOL

  • @CathySMelton
    @CathySMelton Před 5 lety +332

    You handled that amazingly well. It must be hard for all of you, but you made it. Welcome home. Thanks For sharing truth.

  • @evasavoie6961
    @evasavoie6961 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm so surprised on how accommodating the airlines and airport is for her it makes me so happy. I have a younger brother with Autism and when we flew last out of Dallas they were not accommodating what so ever like this. This is simply amazing! I hope Abby had a great trip!!

  • @RyanMackle
    @RyanMackle Před 2 lety +21

    Hey, we are in thr middle of watching this video, we are parents to an autistic boy. Our son Ryan is 12 and fortunately for us is a great traveller. You guys are doing fantastic and to whoever said you should discipline Abbey has no clue....She did an awesome job. We are 9 minutes into the vlog and had to stop and comment.
    Best wishes from Scotland.

  • @mybeautifulautism2842
    @mybeautifulautism2842 Před 5 lety +402

    I was in tears at one point, at the end of the first flight she was trying so hard not to yell and it escaped. I feel that on another level girl. She was trying I could see it. You guys are so amazing. Thank you so much for the awareness and positivity you guys literally radiate❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️

  • @Pencilshaving
    @Pencilshaving Před 4 lety +814

    This smile she did while signing candy is precious

  • @HFIowaGuy
    @HFIowaGuy Před rokem +3

    It looks to me like she handled it like a champ! She is a real blessing for sure

  • @YumeDream39
    @YumeDream39 Před 3 lety +15

    Aw she has a Squishmallow plush! I love those things! They really help me when I'm stressed.

  • @ulubatl4812
    @ulubatl4812 Před 4 lety +494

    every time she makes noises I tell myself "she's not yelling, she's talking in her style." this idea made me more understanding, I can say that. and thank you for making me better than a former me!

  • @faith9196
    @faith9196 Před 5 lety +516

    “Disciple her more.”
    Can’t believe people really say that.

    • @jaynie7992
      @jaynie7992 Před 5 lety +37

      They do because they don't understand. I'm not making an excuse I'm just trying to explain it.

    • @cait812
      @cait812 Před 4 lety +22

      To be fair if they don't know or understand all they see is a kid acting up.

    • @starbuck4064
      @starbuck4064 Před 4 lety +2

      @@jaynie7992 dont justify it

    • @emmaholles5897
      @emmaholles5897 Před 4 lety

      when does someone say that? i cant find it in the video

    • @corline1506
      @corline1506 Před 4 lety

      what part of the video was that

  • @vidkidkev
    @vidkidkev Před 4 lety +8

    She may have sudden outbursts but she looks like the sweetest human being you’ll ever meet.

  • @AO-ec6ic
    @AO-ec6ic Před 3 lety +2

    Omgosh as a parent/family member that's so stressful worrying about what other people think! You guys are great. You are doing great! And your right most people are so understanding!

  • @loveyourshiela5878
    @loveyourshiela5878 Před 4 lety +205

    If people gets frustrated with Abbie's reactions....imagine being trapped in her body. Imagine how hard it is for her not to express how she is feeling...what she really wants. We just have to be sensitive and considerate.

    • @stevenavarette9334
      @stevenavarette9334 Před rokem +4

      Well said.
      Blessings and prayers to you and yours
      💜✨🙏🕊️🙏✨💜

  • @misamo506
    @misamo506 Před 5 lety +371

    who said she should be disciplined.. come out I just wanna talk

  • @joydrop7
    @joydrop7 Před rokem +4

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve been in your shoes and travel days have got to be some of the most stressful for me! This was so validating to see someone else go through it! And to go through it so we’ll!

  • @katemarie651
    @katemarie651 Před 3 lety +4

    I wanna hug these people! There so genuinely so kind and they just are so lovely!

  • @savannahastings3303
    @savannahastings3303 Před 5 lety +486

    I realize this is totally off topic but Abbie is so beautiful!

    • @jenbk2bk275
      @jenbk2bk275 Před 4 lety +6

      I was thinking the same exact thing !

    • @sheetalkumar2611
      @sheetalkumar2611 Před 4 lety +4

      No doubt she is❤️

    • @frogxgorf
      @frogxgorf Před 4 lety +7

      That’s exactly what I thought when I saw my first video on this channel!

    • @KniLsZZ
      @KniLsZZ Před 4 lety +10

      FBI OPEN UP

    • @A.S.28
      @A.S.28 Před 4 lety

      yes unlike you and your fake personality

  • @LittleBitofSunshine
    @LittleBitofSunshine Před 5 lety +88

    I don’t think people mean to be rude by staring I think it’s just ‘oh a little girl is shouting I hope she’s okay’ reaction. You know to make sure she’s not in pain or something horrible isn’t happening 😊!
    But you guys did an awesome job you’re so patient with Abby ❤️

  • @jonw952
    @jonw952 Před 4 lety +4

    It's great to see the parents putting in the work to care for their child together. Very inspirational.

  • @shizmanbeat
    @shizmanbeat Před 4 lety

    Hey just wanted to show a little love and let you know how amazing it is to see the patience and love you have for your whole family! Great to see such a tough willed father who's still a gentle giant when it means most.
    Thanks for the smiles!

  • @saltyboi4362
    @saltyboi4362 Před 4 lety +352

    The brother must be amazing dealing with her the way he is he’s soo amazing. And even how he might not have a lot of attention and I’d want him as my brother tbh

    • @RoseMiah9191
      @RoseMiah9191 Před 3 lety +5

      He is amazing. I said that on the other video too.

    • @ambermarielewis9353
      @ambermarielewis9353 Před 2 lety +3

      Isaiah is a wonderful big brother to Abbie

    • @lilyraestudios8289
      @lilyraestudios8289 Před 2 lety +1

      I have a son with autism who is 12 and a daughter who does not have autism, she is 11. To watch her with her older brother when he is having a meltdown is so amazing. When you grow up knowing how to treat others with respect this is the kind of person, like Isaiah you get☺️

  • @juicylucygoosey
    @juicylucygoosey Před 4 lety +200

    In the UK sunflower lanyards are used in airports/travel to show that someone may need extra time and assistance passing through security etc

    • @ella-bt8hp
      @ella-bt8hp Před 4 lety +23

      I'm in England I have a teenager with disabilities similar to Abbie except he is also blind. I never had any idea that is what they were for thank you for that ☺️

    • @adreanna8967
      @adreanna8967 Před 4 lety +5

      @@ella-bt8hp sainsburys also uses them and you can get one from them.

    • @elisaxgrace1950
      @elisaxgrace1950 Před 4 lety +4

      my brother has one! he has severe ADHD and dyspraxia, they are absolute life savers as he freaks out while waiting to board the plane.

    • @kanadeotonokoji6136
      @kanadeotonokoji6136 Před 4 lety +1

      I live in the UK and I had no idea about that

    • @bunnyboo3152
      @bunnyboo3152 Před 4 lety

      They are great, more & more places are understanding what they represent.

  • @sherribennington8812
    @sherribennington8812 Před rokem +2

    I've been watching your channel for a couple of months and all I can say is y'all are a strong family unite. Many people couldn't muster up the patience to deal with her no matter how much love in their heart.

  • @Tabbyfunk144
    @Tabbyfunk144 Před rokem +2

    I really have to say i admire how wonderful your son handles everything and is so kind. Great parenting mom and dad.

  • @marlendeluna4936
    @marlendeluna4936 Před 5 lety +236

    “Guess what we are gonna get on another plane and you can try and touch somebody else’s head” 😂😂😭

    • @cbudzyn
      @cbudzyn Před 4 lety +9

      I would totally be fine with the kid trying to touch my hair, I understand their setting guidelines for her but she’s also being impulsive in a close proximity situation, I have an autistic daughter and it’s extremely hard (a complete understatement because we don’t have any help or family). However even before my daughter I was always aware of special needs & felt compassion for anyone & families living with it. It can lighten the load by a stranger being kind and joking or being nice because as a parent you feel the looks of disdain & discontent as if you’re expected to fix something can can’t be fixed. Like a blind person wearing a T shirt announcing “I’m blind” bumping into things/people & hearing people become angry about “your problem”, that’s how it feels.

  • @maveywavie
    @maveywavie Před 4 lety +299

    I just wanna say, she is so pretty, and she is so amazing being able to handle as much as she can.

    • @Badi1
      @Badi1 Před 4 lety +6

      With complete respect. She's not imo

    • @Seth-jd5xn
      @Seth-jd5xn Před 4 lety +6

      Badi Kawi someone had to say it

    • @maveywavie
      @maveywavie Před 4 lety +21

      Well that's your opinion then. I think she's a beautiful young lady despite her condition (I'm sorry if I offended anyone by saying illness I didn't know it was considered disrespectful. Thank u to those who educated me so I could fix my mistake) and is doing incredible

    • @matcha9250
      @matcha9250 Před 4 lety +8

      Mayday Deathday i think shes cute too. people only think she isn’t pretty bc she’s not wearing makeup or has the conventional looking instagram face. she’s a little girl with unique features and she’s adorable 😕.

    • @natek5249
      @natek5249 Před 4 lety +2

      Mayday Deathday autism isn’t an illness though

  • @mrs.g4106
    @mrs.g4106 Před 2 lety +6

    Abby is beautiful just like mom❤️ You are a true blessing for sharing her with us thank you🖐🏻♥️

  • @lornachartrand2169
    @lornachartrand2169 Před rokem +2

    You guys are a great family…so much patience and caring! I applaud you !!!! You are a beautiful girl Abby!

  • @sarah-janepocklington2475
    @sarah-janepocklington2475 Před 5 lety +69

    Seeing Abbie so upset broke my heart .you are all doing such a amazing job

  • @livishere1672
    @livishere1672 Před 4 lety +129

    The stranger that said “ she’ll be right “ I think I heard “mate” at the end as well, was most likely Australian honestly , they weren’t trying to tell you Abbi would be okay, we use it as a general comforting saying , pretty much it’ll be okay, she’ll be right mate stay strong. Hope you took it the right way :)

    • @Roasttrumpet
      @Roasttrumpet Před 4 lety +4

      Not Australian mate, Kiwi lol

    • @livishere1672
      @livishere1672 Před 4 lety +1

      You reckon? I’m bad with accents have no clue

    • @Roasttrumpet
      @Roasttrumpet Před 4 lety +2

      Yeah bro. I am kiwi and so the difference sounds pre big to me lol.

    • @livishere1672
      @livishere1672 Před 4 lety +10

      Whoever said it no matter the culture , was a sweet comment , Nz and Aussie slang is similar af

    • @fluffyfoxes5185
      @fluffyfoxes5185 Před 3 lety

      People in UK say that too

  • @neizanunez9304
    @neizanunez9304 Před 2 lety +3

    I am blessed that my autistic son loves to travel ! Meltdowns can take such a toll sometimes. You are doing a fantastic job with Abbie ! Much love, take care

  • @meothecookiesteeler9626
    @meothecookiesteeler9626 Před rokem +2

    Your family is an inspiration for all those in the same situation!!! You are blessed to have each other and we are blessed to have you in our lives as well!

  • @MusicInMySoul5
    @MusicInMySoul5 Před 5 lety +122

    My niece has autism & is non verbal. Abby reminds me soo much of her. You guys are doing amazing. it can be rough but beautiful all at the same time. I love this channel!!

  • @spbyjasmine
    @spbyjasmine Před 4 lety +19

    "Part of me wanted to leave you on the plane" was the most real mom moment ever. We have all so been there momma!

  • @mandejoslin7409
    @mandejoslin7409 Před 4 lety

    You guys are awesome. Just started watching you and this past few weeks and I'm in awe of how you all work and blend fluidly as a family.

  • @jillmagno3975
    @jillmagno3975 Před rokem +2

    It might be a worse flight experience but you guys are awesome. Best family. Best parents. Love is radiating from all of you. Your are all doing a great job.

  • @kelbysorensen3268
    @kelbysorensen3268 Před 4 lety +44

    Her brother seems SO NICE I LOVE HIMM

  • @mushroomghosty
    @mushroomghosty Před 4 lety +130

    I'm terrifed of plane turbulence, I'm impressed with Abby on not freaking out as much as i usually do. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to things that are out of my control.

    • @olliedino5207
      @olliedino5207 Před 4 lety

      Nicolette 20 yeah same it petrified me when there was turbulence on my way home from Italy with my school but teacher had to try and calm me down

    • @guidelinesR4pooCz
      @guidelinesR4pooCz Před 4 lety

      If you think about it, plane turbulence actually helps the plane fly as you're flying against the wind it brings more air over the wings. Where as if you fly with the wind it can increase the stall speed of the aircraft. Think of turbulence as a pothole when driving a car

  • @np100
    @np100 Před 3 lety +8

    If this is your worst, you are so lucky. My son will not even get on a plane. Panics in crowded situations. You did great.

  • @BertaSue1963
    @BertaSue1963 Před 4 lety

    I saw by the date that this trip happened in 2019 but I have to say I am so impressed with your whole family but especially with Abby. I"m not even struggling with communication barriers that autism has given her and I get completely exhausted after a day of traveling and changing planes. Bless her heart. I would say she did amazingly well. You all deserve badges of honor. Bless you all.

  • @sarahanne4
    @sarahanne4 Před 5 lety +111

    Aw, that made me choke up when that stranger said, "She'll be alright." That's what you guys needed to hear and I was wishing the Fathering Autism fam was there to say to you. I'm glad that person spoke up. You guys did great, even Abby. I get cranky when I fly all day too :)

  • @saint0163
    @saint0163 Před 4 lety +14

    Her cry is so full of pureness it could make the whole world cry.

  • @lesliefunn2416
    @lesliefunn2416 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing your flight experience. It really means a lot to see you guys keep striving thru the smooth/tough times. 🤗

  • @glitternicky8358
    @glitternicky8358 Před 2 lety +5

    Hi,, I totally understand, my son is 17, autistic & nonverbal,, it doesn’t matter what people do or say, she is picking up on everything!!!! Sounds from everywhere! Smells! Mom & Dads tension, with my son it seems to help if I stay REALLY COOL, and “pretend” his outbursts are ok 👍, do your best to not focus on her so intently, she is so pretty

  • @elaine8013
    @elaine8013 Před 5 lety +265

    I will never understand why people think we can discipline autism out of our kids.

    • @elaine8013
      @elaine8013 Před 5 lety +9

      I'm claustrophobic and that corridor puts me into anxiety attacks bad.

    • @shalakruep
      @shalakruep Před 5 lety +3

      Completely agree.

    • @meepmeep2307
      @meepmeep2307 Před 5 lety +1

      because it's hard to grow up this kids 😁

    • @FreeJennJenn
      @FreeJennJenn Před 5 lety

      Elaine Brock ignorance. Just ignore it.

    • @izzymichele4494
      @izzymichele4494 Před 5 lety

      That Gall No she can’t help it.

  • @aerbourne31
    @aerbourne31 Před 5 lety +53

    Despite it being hard, I love that Abbie gets to do all the things. People need to have real life interactions with all kinds of people and this is what allows us to build strong safe communities. Her smile makes me smile. Love the message of your videos and the strength of your family.

  • @mrsfeminist8666
    @mrsfeminist8666 Před 3 lety +2

    Watching this a year later and heard the kiwi saying “she’ll be right mate” was so cool. I just want to give you all a hug.

  • @lauraweiss7875
    @lauraweiss7875 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Thank you for this channel. You guys are amazing parents, and those of us who do not have autistic people in our everyday lives need to learn how to be more sensitive to the needs and challenges of others. I don’t think most people want to be rude. They just don’t realize what other people are dealing with in their lives.

  • @emilyjoneill
    @emilyjoneill Před 5 lety +41

    You did fab! As a parent my child just cried for an hour as her ears hurt I couldn't do anything and as a mum it made it so stressful. Nice to see more people being understanding nowadays. I remember 20 years ago my sister was crying and the airhostess asked my mum to keep her quiet!

  • @patclark4075
    @patclark4075 Před 5 lety +36

    Dear sweet Abby had a long day. My 13 year old grand daughter is non verbal on the spectrum and having a blanket to hold and cover her head really calms . Hug family.

  • @cblong718
    @cblong718 Před 3 lety

    Awesome video, thank you for creating this. It gives us viewers a better understanding of what parents of an autistic child have to go through.
    So loving, caring and patient. You guys are awesome!

  • @jennifervalentine7519
    @jennifervalentine7519 Před 2 lety +2

    You do as you feel fit! You’re doing a Great job with your daughter! You live with her 24/7 and know what’s best!