@@tomasdvorak5815for every fake green text there's several similar situations that actually happened so I chose to believe those stories. On reddit too
I've had a couple girls I'd be interested in ask for my Snapchat, I won't say exactly what transpired every time, but how do you stop being scared of women? I thought it'd be experience but I'm more scared of women than before, is it just being raised socially around women? Have I missed my chance to develop normally into being able to talk with women? Does anyone have advice?
Scared of women as in rejection from them or scared that they are going to destroy your life with some m2 garbage? Both are typical fears. For the first one, is to not get to caught up in emotions, its better to look at it logically when it comes to if she wants to have a relationship. Yes means yes, everything else in her response means no. To the second fear, it is to have a plan in case shes actually a chameleon. Dont share financial information, dont move in together(especially renting) after only 6 months of dating. Basically, plan out how you want things to proceed, since you are the leader in the relationship. Planning is always the best first step to avoid or lessen failure.
@@JohnSmith-laws I wouldn’t say I have those particular fears more than the average person. They seem completely normal, but that advice definitely looks solid, so thanks for that. What I’m talking about is that I just feel scared of women as a whole. It’s hard to explain; it’s as though I can’t view women as people but as predators. When I’m around a woman it feels like I’m a mouse next to a cat. Obviously this is really embarrassing so I haven’t asked anyone in real life for advice. The last girl I talked to asked for my snapchat and every time she texted me I could barely bring myself to respond, I don’t know why but I was shaking and terrified. I have no mental illnesses and before you say it, no, I’m not “just nervous. I could be working on a school project with a girl I have absolutely no interest in and I’ll still be terrified. There’s guys my age with literal harems and I’m shaking like a retard around *ANY* women. If anyone has real advice please give it!
@@user-ej4sh6yi9j Dude, I'm kinda this way too, and I noticed that this fear is not unreasonable, you're scared of them as predators exactly because most of them nowadays are and you intuitively feel it, if you can talk with guys or, even better, with random strangers, just up you social game a little, and you'll have no issues talking with a normal girl who does not have ulterior motives, trust your intuition. (but be careful tho, it might not always work, just by pure luck I dodged a massive bullet, she was really flirty with me most of the time, and then suddenly got pregnant, at fricking 16 years old) I generally cannot talk to women, but there are women who I very easily speak to, and don't feel nervous around - it's those who are in serious relationships, or those who are not one bit interested, and there was also once a girl who genuinely liked me, who I also spoke with very freely and for very long. I just wasn't in a position for a commited relationship. Don't force yourself too much, and don't give in to peer pressure, that's how many guys get burned for life, once you'll find a girl you're not nervous around, she's very likely the one for you and will make it obvious.
@@user-ej4sh6yi9j Wow, youtube is messed up, your comment with a supposedly really offensive r-word is fine, but mine that is kind-worded but slightly paints them in a bad light isn't... gonna try again: "Dude, I'm kinda this way too, and this fear is not unreasonable, you're scared of them as being "that" is exactly because most of them nowadays are, and you intuitively feel it, if you can talk with guys or, even better, with random strangers (just generally up you social game a little), you'll have no issues talking with a normal girl who does not have ulterior motives, trust your intuition. (but be careful tho, it might not always work, one was really flirty with me most of the time, I felt no fear, and then suddenly she got gregnant at 16, still not idea what she was planning) I generally cannot talk to most women, but there are women who I very easily speak to, and don't feel nervous around - it's those who are in serious relationships (or at least think they are), or those who are not one bit interested, and there was also once a girl who genuinely liked me, who I also spoke with very freely and for very long. I just wasn't in a position for a relationship. Don't force yourself too much, and don't give-in to peer pressure, that's how many guys get damaged for life, once you'll find a girl you're not nervous around, she's very likely the one for you and will make it obvious, if you'll force yourself to not be nervous around any one of them, you'll get bitten by a chameleon"
might be a confidence issue or past experiences that left a bad taste on you, when you were way younger (if you cannot recall one in particular) i would say just keep experiencing because thats really the only way, maybe you also need to build up some confidence and confidence is really fake it till you make it, also you can base yourself on some successes you've had but in general try being laid back and you can just be yourself while conversing, don't overshare but if you are nervous you can just say it its not really a shame, word it in something along those lines "i'm kinda nervous but you really interest me", the point to pass across is you're nervous but "for her you will make efforts" im sure you'll find your path gl!
Im not gigachad, but im decent. The only reason I stopped approaching women is because I learned no matter who you find, they can and will betray you. I wanted to marry the last girl I was with, I loved her. Then she left for dumb reasons. Why would I ever try again?
I wanted to marry the first girl I pursued in high school. I was basically friendzoned by her for 2 years. I eventually after 2 years got the courage to ask her out, and we "went out" for 2 weeks, where we did nothing but the normal stuff we did as "friends". We never hung out outside of school, and then after the 2 weeks, she ghosted me. I felt like I wasted so much time. That's what led me to pursuing casual relationships because I wanted to make sure they were interested in banging up front.
This was me. Then I approached 100s of women in college and got rejected every single time except for one girl and we just had a one night stand. All the other times I've gotten laid have been from online dating. My cold approaches consisted of me talking to a girl, thinking we had a good conversation, telling her to give me her number, she gives her number, I text her, and she just never responds. It was actually crazy. I pretty much had a 90% rate when it came to getting the number, but literally none of them would respond. I thought just having the balls to approach was the magic answer, but then I blew that theory out of the water by radically going against the grain of my anxiety and still failed for the most part. I feel like I developed a valuable skill in the process though of being willing to take action at a moments notice.
I used to be such a cute kid, that I almost got graped by several different groups of older girls at different times in my youth. Being kinda socially awkward and not going out anywhere really saved my purity and sanity. I'm fine now since I got uglier, and women became mean to me 🤣
...you should be. Especially if you LIKE that high-paying job. All it takes is one social media post labeling you a creep to take you out of employability for good.
Same problem. Every single day i notice maybe hundreds of girls throwing sus looks at me, and 1 or 2 approach me every other day, but even when they do, i just turn on Ryan Gosling and cant function. Recently a 10 approached me, and i wasnt nervous or anything like that, i just stared at her without saying a thing, but in my head the "can i have your number" was going on repeat, yet i stood silent there for a whole minute, so she just said "have a nice day" giggled and left. I drove all red lights after that hoping a multiton truck would hit me or something. Worst thing is i wasnt even nervous or anxious or anything, i was just stuck in the moment somehow
@@mescalormavideos7767 I am a delivery driver, I drive an e-bike through the whole city 8hours a day, I drive through literally thousands of people. And wherever I go I always notice girls throwing those kind of glances. And obviously it's not literal hundreds, but a couple dozen a day for sure.
I would recommend experiencing what a cold shower is like. I'm not even talking in terms of "take cold showers bro" for health reasons. If you normally take hot water showers, and you turn the water on cold and just jump in, it's pretty much the exact same sensation of feeling fear, and then acting regardless; even if everything inside of you is telling you to not do something.
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I'm proud of him for greatly improving his quality of life. That's awesome.
propably never happened
@@tomasdvorak5815for every fake green text there's several similar situations that actually happened so I chose to believe those stories. On reddit too
hes just like me fr (withouth all the good things)
Literally me?
The hardest thing to face in life, fear.
I've had a couple girls I'd be interested in ask for my Snapchat, I won't say exactly what transpired every time, but how do you stop being scared of women? I thought it'd be experience but I'm more scared of women than before, is it just being raised socially around women? Have I missed my chance to develop normally into being able to talk with women? Does anyone have advice?
Scared of women as in rejection from them or scared that they are going to destroy your life with some m2 garbage? Both are typical fears. For the first one, is to not get to caught up in emotions, its better to look at it logically when it comes to if she wants to have a relationship. Yes means yes, everything else in her response means no.
To the second fear, it is to have a plan in case shes actually a chameleon. Dont share financial information, dont move in together(especially renting) after only 6 months of dating. Basically, plan out how you want things to proceed, since you are the leader in the relationship. Planning is always the best first step to avoid or lessen failure.
@@JohnSmith-laws I wouldn’t say I have those particular fears more than the average person. They seem completely normal, but that advice definitely looks solid, so thanks for that.
What I’m talking about is that I just feel scared of women as a whole. It’s hard to explain; it’s as though I can’t view women as people but as predators. When I’m around a woman it feels like I’m a mouse next to a cat.
Obviously this is really embarrassing so I haven’t asked anyone in real life for advice.
The last girl I talked to asked for my snapchat and every time she texted me I could barely bring myself to respond, I don’t know why but I was shaking and terrified.
I have no mental illnesses and before you say it, no, I’m not “just nervous. I could be working on a school project with a girl I have absolutely no interest in and I’ll still be terrified.
There’s guys my age with literal harems and I’m shaking like a retard around *ANY* women. If anyone has real advice please give it!
@@user-ej4sh6yi9j Dude, I'm kinda this way too, and I noticed that this fear is not unreasonable, you're scared of them as predators exactly because most of them nowadays are and you intuitively feel it, if you can talk with guys or, even better, with random strangers, just up you social game a little, and you'll have no issues talking with a normal girl who does not have ulterior motives, trust your intuition. (but be careful tho, it might not always work, just by pure luck I dodged a massive bullet, she was really flirty with me most of the time, and then suddenly got pregnant, at fricking 16 years old)
I generally cannot talk to women, but there are women who I very easily speak to, and don't feel nervous around - it's those who are in serious relationships, or those who are not one bit interested, and there was also once a girl who genuinely liked me, who I also spoke with very freely and for very long. I just wasn't in a position for a commited relationship.
Don't force yourself too much, and don't give in to peer pressure, that's how many guys get burned for life, once you'll find a girl you're not nervous around, she's very likely the one for you and will make it obvious.
@@user-ej4sh6yi9j Wow, youtube is messed up, your comment with a supposedly really offensive r-word is fine, but mine that is kind-worded but slightly paints them in a bad light isn't... gonna try again:
"Dude, I'm kinda this way too, and this fear is not unreasonable, you're scared of them as being "that" is exactly because most of them nowadays are, and you intuitively feel it, if you can talk with guys or, even better, with random strangers (just generally up you social game a little), you'll have no issues talking with a normal girl who does not have ulterior motives, trust your intuition. (but be careful tho, it might not always work, one was really flirty with me most of the time, I felt no fear, and then suddenly she got gregnant at 16, still not idea what she was planning)
I generally cannot talk to most women, but there are women who I very easily speak to, and don't feel nervous around - it's those who are in serious relationships (or at least think they are), or those who are not one bit interested, and there was also once a girl who genuinely liked me, who I also spoke with very freely and for very long. I just wasn't in a position for a relationship.
Don't force yourself too much, and don't give-in to peer pressure, that's how many guys get damaged for life, once you'll find a girl you're not nervous around, she's very likely the one for you and will make it obvious, if you'll force yourself to not be nervous around any one of them, you'll get bitten by a chameleon"
might be a confidence issue or past experiences that left a bad taste on you, when you were way younger (if you cannot recall one in particular)
i would say just keep experiencing because thats really the only way, maybe you also need to build up some confidence and confidence is really fake it till you make it, also you can base yourself on some successes you've had but in general try being laid back and you can just be yourself while conversing, don't overshare but if you are nervous you can just say it its not really a shame, word it in something along those lines "i'm kinda nervous but you really interest me", the point to pass across is you're nervous but "for her you will make efforts"
im sure you'll find your path gl!
Bro maxed out every stat and have every accesories but he still is scared of the first newbie boss
Im not gigachad, but im decent. The only reason I stopped approaching women is because I learned no matter who you find, they can and will betray you. I wanted to marry the last girl I was with, I loved her. Then she left for dumb reasons. Why would I ever try again?
I wanted to marry the first girl I pursued in high school. I was basically friendzoned by her for 2 years. I eventually after 2 years got the courage to ask her out, and we "went out" for 2 weeks, where we did nothing but the normal stuff we did as "friends". We never hung out outside of school, and then after the 2 weeks, she ghosted me. I felt like I wasted so much time. That's what led me to pursuing casual relationships because I wanted to make sure they were interested in banging up front.
Good for him. W*men are best avoided.
Blud really censored the word woman.
@@Drumb_lol
@@Drumb_fr
@@Drumb_Reported, please give a trigger warning before you say the W-word
he's me without step 1 to the end
This was me. Then I approached 100s of women in college and got rejected every single time except for one girl and we just had a one night stand. All the other times I've gotten laid have been from online dating. My cold approaches consisted of me talking to a girl, thinking we had a good conversation, telling her to give me her number, she gives her number, I text her, and she just never responds. It was actually crazy. I pretty much had a 90% rate when it came to getting the number, but literally none of them would respond. I thought just having the balls to approach was the magic answer, but then I blew that theory out of the water by radically going against the grain of my anxiety and still failed for the most part. I feel like I developed a valuable skill in the process though of being willing to take action at a moments notice.
Fair enough, everything you worked for can be taken by one of those creatures.
Damn, bro just like me fr.
U guys get checked and asked out by girls?
I used to be such a cute kid, that I almost got graped by several different groups of older girls at different times in my youth.
Being kinda socially awkward and not going out anywhere really saved my purity and sanity.
I'm fine now since I got uglier, and women became mean to me 🤣
@@ewg5511 Good for you!
first time i had to mute a YT video because of how obnoxious and unbearable it sounds.
One word: Therapy... It worked for me :D
Love your voice man
Is the music from Disciples 2?
...you should be. Especially if you LIKE that high-paying job. All it takes is one social media post labeling you a creep to take you out of employability for good.
Good, keep it that way, women a scary
Go for men then
If only it was this easy. Sadly some of us are 100% straigth
Not all of us like cok
so relatable
Music pls
Women are scary. No way im giving my heart to another one again
ez just go for the men 😏
Same problem. Every single day i notice maybe hundreds of girls throwing sus looks at me, and 1 or 2 approach me every other day, but even when they do, i just turn on Ryan Gosling and cant function. Recently a 10 approached me, and i wasnt nervous or anything like that, i just stared at her without saying a thing, but in my head the "can i have your number" was going on repeat, yet i stood silent there for a whole minute, so she just said "have a nice day" giggled and left. I drove all red lights after that hoping a multiton truck would hit me or something. Worst thing is i wasnt even nervous or anxious or anything, i was just stuck in the moment somehow
Thats called a Freeze response
Humble brag
the chance of you being approached by even one 9.9/10 every other day, and you not being a celebrity is 0%. so who are you?
"hundreds" lmao. tf are you? Chico?
@@mescalormavideos7767 I am a delivery driver, I drive an e-bike through the whole city 8hours a day, I drive through literally thousands of people. And wherever I go I always notice girls throwing those kind of glances. And obviously it's not literal hundreds, but a couple dozen a day for sure.
fr bros
Twin
Is there even a way to fix this though?
I would recommend experiencing what a cold shower is like. I'm not even talking in terms of "take cold showers bro" for health reasons. If you normally take hot water showers, and you turn the water on cold and just jump in, it's pretty much the exact same sensation of feeling fear, and then acting regardless; even if everything inside of you is telling you to not do something.
Don't know what's more annoying, the unneccassary music or the cringe dialouge.