It was brought to my attention that I had overlooked a part of the dynamic of venting friend and listening friend, so I have sought to rectify the error
I have no problem with people telling me their problems, which many people do, but here is my thing. If you ask for my opinion about what to do and then you don't do it, then f don't come back crying when your life is still f' up. Also, and this is particularly true of women in my life, don't come to me telling me a list of your problems and expect me not to come up with ways to help you fix it. If you just want to vent, there are 900 numbers for that and they charge for a reason.
Advice is only useful to people who intend on using it. It sounds to me like a lot of the people in your life are looking for listeners, not solutions. It's up to you how you want to handle that though
I have no problem with people telling me their problems, which many people do, but here is my thing. If you ask for my opinion about what to do and then you don't do it, then f don't come back crying when your life is still f' up. Also, and this is particularly true of women in my life, don't come to me telling me a list of your problems and expect me not to come up with ways to help you fix it. If you just want to vent, there are 900 numbers for that and they charge for a reason.
Advice is only useful to people who intend on using it. It sounds to me like a lot of the people in your life are looking for listeners, not solutions. It's up to you how you want to handle that though