This Is Why You Never Feel Good Enough
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 24. 07. 2024
- Toxic body standards and the promotion of unhealthy living are everywhere. Can you blame us, though? Most models out there have had plastic surgery, edited photos on Instagram, and sometimes live an unhealthy lifestyle.
With the combination of this and low self-esteem as a young woman, it's completely normal to not feel good enough. But I want to change that and the way we see body positivity. Let's thank our bodies for waking us up in the morning and getting us through the day, and stop worrying about how we look in our pictures.
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#bodystandards #toxic #genz
Social media really brought the comparison to a whole new level...
Itâs so true LuĂs, before this we only compared ourselves to the people on the street
Comparing oneself with others always stupid thing to do
I will never understand why people make those types of comments to others. Itâs so weird to me to go through life making insensitive, rude comments that are completely unnecessary. Bizarre. You are beautiful.
Itâs so low making fun of the way someone looks, I donât understand either
@@LucyAlllan Exactly. Itâs not something theyâve chosen. If youâre going to be mean, at least choose a character flaw or something the person is in control of. Happy, healthy people just donât have time or desire to be cruel, so i think there is pain behind that behavior.
@@LucyAlllan It's simple. A fit and healthy body without excess fat especially around the waist which is a clear sign of poor health the most beautiful body type. Any generation or culture which idolizes something different is sick and should be rejected and ignored. Why let a sick and ignorant Twisted and temporary culture change who we are to make us like them?
Fit and healthy is beautiful and healthy forever even if you are the only one who can see it
You are a beautiful wise and mature thinker, I pray you will find someone who is the same on the inside and out
It's probably them projecting their own non acceptance of themselves.Pain not transformed becomes transmitted.
Also, I knew a woman from India. She said in India, everyone was always telling her how ugly she was because her skin was dark. She came to the US and suddenly, people everywhere were telling her how beautiful she is!!! We should all go where weâre loved and appreciated.
That same experience also happened to me, I was always bullied for being ugly growing up in Thailand, then I moved to the US where people say I am beautiful đđ. A lady even said that I am the most beautiful person she ever met in her whole life. I almost cried. I feel so grateful to have a chance to move here, no more bullied.
People should be taught to keep their stupid opinions to themseleves. If a child makes a rude comment to another child, the parent of that rude child should be held accountable. It is your responsibility as a parent to make sure you raise good future upstanding citizen, not bullies.
Very true. I was raised in a very racist and narrow-minded culture that hated me because I was not one of them who constituted over 90% of the local population. Without even knowing it affected me for years as an adult and took even longer to realize they were just jealous not only because of my parents but because I was a high achiever, and their culture was one of punishing achievement and celebrating how stupid and rebellious you could be against teachers, the school, and being a good student.
In hindsight, I think many of those students learned their hatred Prejudice and ignorance from their parents, who probably encourage them to treat kids like myself as they did.
@@7x779 i am so sorry that you had to go through that. I'm afraid that we're a long way away from living in a society that can raise above these superficial stupid racist issues. Good luck to you! All the best from a fellow human being. đ
I decided to delete my social media because of these videos. Thank you so so much for saying what needs to be said! I realize that these beauty standards along with social media usually go against personal growth and emotional matureness. I hope everyone can watch your videos and understand that a lot of the things we see on social media is fake and that uniqueness and genuineness are what actually matter.
I'm just sending all these videos to my friends because I genuinely think that this is a message that needs to be spread. Thank you again and see you on your next video!
Thank you so much Sara!
It took me so much longer to sort through this but I finally realized I was the problem, not society or any one person. It is about approval seeking behaviors and looking outside yourself to feel better. I now completely embrace my standard for myself and, more importantly, don't apply my standards to anyone else nor look for my appearance to receive approval from others.
I think people find it harmless to advise others how to attract a partner by losing weight, or gaining weight or wearing certain clothes or makeup. Someone may be sexually attracted to you because of your appearance but love and relationships come from who we are beyond appearance.
Your thinking level and your thoughts are extra ordinary keep it up, BEING UNCOMMON
Wow, such a compliment! Thank you so much đ€©
I just saw the thumbnail of ur vid Lucy
N I subbed to u
Even without watching the videođđ
@@carbon... good â€ïž
Thank you for pointing out how beauty standards are either determined by religion and culture or they are simply trends that change every few years to every decade, as are diet and fitness tips. There are so many opinions about how a 25/35/60 year old woman is supposed to act and look, if we comply to that, itâll never stop. I am still struggling but I donât want to be a mature woman still overly concerned with fitness, diet, weight, clothes and how my appearance will be rated by strangers.
Do things that are going to make YOU feel better, not others. We cannot control what other people are going to think of us, but we can control how we think of ourselves đ
I thought it was funny, and also illuminating how you trained hard for a specific body type but you STILL felt out of place in France even though you achieved the body you originally aimed for to be happy. Happiness will come, but it canât be forced. It comes thru accepting yourself and doing whatâs best for you regardless of what others believe. great outlook! âïž
I love what youâve said, I believe we can make the choice to be happier if we donât let external things upset usđ
Hi Lucy! New subscriber here :)
As a woman in her late 20s I am starting to feel that society expects women to have a short lifespan of being fun and careless that will only endure until mid-late 30s, contrary to men who are expected to do whatever they feel like doing pretty much until they are way older. Toxic body positivity and plastic surgery, contrary to the "empowerment" it claims, only follows through that same expectation, given that you can expand that period of time by looking eternally young, therefore still demonizing aging and body changes, and still playing by those ridiculous societal expectations.
I wish there was a way for all of us to just enjoy our time on earth without giving that much of importance to looks or expectations.
Expectations only disappointment people, I completely agree with you! Take your time and live your life in whatever way you want tođ
Thank you so much! I'm a writer and want to make videos about the poems I write, but no longer wish to be on Social media as it really is starting to affect my mental health. This was really helpful, hopefully I'll start my own channel soon enough!
I needed this video!! Thank you, Lucy!!
I needed to hear this đ„ș thank you! I really love that thought that our bodies purpose isn't satisfying every person on the planet and be ideal, but just allow us to live
I found your channel some months ago. I need to tell you that you are an amazing person with a beautiful mindset! Thank you for your videos, they are so peaceful and important to reflect about your own lives! A huge hug girl â€ïž
Ahh inĂȘs this is so sweet, thank you so much girl, super hugs back!!
I love how you make your video so clean and minimal! And your voice is very comforting :)
Ah i really appreciate this, thank you MarĂa !!!
Thank you for this, Lucy!! A lot of people will appreciate this as much as I did, Iâm sure
Thank you Louisađ„ș have a great day!
I really appreciate you for making a content on this kind of subject...not only body shaming but there are so many different types of social trends or outlooks that are being followed by most people in different places without really thinking about their impact or consequences..... most people are too afraid to break the norms that are being followed by the majority of people.They are too scared to even to give it a thought that "is it right or necessary for me or not? Am I comfortable with this particular thing or not?"Because sad truth is that most people hate frictions and on the other hand some people hate changes,to adopt new things or ideas.That's why it's always difficult for the people who are not afraid to break free of the rut and want to live a life which is really meaningful to them!!So It's really important to discuss this kind of topics more and more!!
So true, we need to speak about this wayyy more and start calling out these unhealthy trends!!
So wise and concise as always. It's really nice hearing your voice and your thoughts after not seeing a video of yours for a while đ
Ah thank you so much, happy to see you back on the channel đ
THANK YOU for this!!!!
I agree with what you said. I felt worthless most of the time because of this perception created, but now i realize somethings. That is why im happyđ
I hope you can stay happy!!
You are a Brilliant Human Being
And you are too!!!
I think more importantly we need to be healthy both physically and mentally. Dove is having this Stop the Beauty Test campaign, it is about time to think beyond societal norms and standards! Lucy I enjoyed watching your vlog â€
Oh wow, good on Dove for that campaign! Is there a video I can watch on it??
i just wanna say YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS đđ i was always struggling with having freckles, with being too skinny and being too tall for a girl. im still struggling, but you changed my mindset, thank youđ
Ah youâre too sweet! Itâs so funny how these traits just go in and out of trends! What a stupid concept đŽđŽ
Thank you so much for this video!! I really need that reminder every now and then :)
You are so welcome Jacklyn !
One thing i have noticed a lot about social media is those posts where it's a particular celebrity then and now photo and it's like "omg they don't age đ" and i'm like 1) great, but that's not normal, and 2) it's this kind of thing that acts as a gateway to surgery glorification. Life can be great at all stages and I don't want to look stuck in just one
100% !
I love this video. I feel like i knew these things but you contextualised it so well. Thank youu
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I just love your content. Just today my boyfriend and I were talking about how materialistic everyone has become ( including us) and how we could literally count on how many things I got just cause I saw some celeb or influencer using it. I got 3 starbucks cups which are tbh very expensive but just cause I saw some celeb and it was looking pretty and nice, I bought it. I used it for a month or two and from past 2 years its somewhere in my home cupboard. Love your content
Thank you.. I really need to hear this.. â€
You got this!
Thank you for this video! It is so important to have your attitude in this day and age. I really appreciate it and it helped me a lot! Dankeđ
You are so welcome!
I don't know why there are such people that give negative comments to others about their appearance, it is so weird.
I see everyone beautiful, or atleast I see the beautiness within their charachteristics. I have never ever seen someone looking ugly or lacking something, until maybe they themselves comment about it, but even then my mind would switch immediately to see other beautiful things in them.
You are beautiful and everyone is so beautiful â€â€â€
Thanks for sharing such valuable video đđŒđđŒ
HEY,
I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU making video On this Topic
I needed it and I loved it
My pleasure đ
I found out your channel some days ago and it became one of my favorites
Ahhh omg stop itđ„șđ„ș thank you NathĂĄlia
Amazing video, Lucy! I like your mindset, and believe me youâve helped me so so so much with my self confidence, mindset and my social media use. Your account is a hidden gem. đ
Hey elena, so happy to hear this!! I hope you can keep feeler more confident đ
@@LucyAlllan Thank you so much! đ
Hey, I really enjoy watching your videos, they have a calming effect :) Keep it up, your channel is underrated!
Thank you so much, this means a lot to međ I hope i can bring some calmness to your day
I adore you and your dedication to making others who are susceptible to the social media misinformation AWARE of the harms and dangers they are subconsciously posing on us everyday, these are the exact talks were going through in psychology classes and that need to be more accessible than all the toxicity thatâs spread through the internet and the media and you are the birth of it, keep your amazing thoughts coming please
Wow this was so genuinely so nice to read, you have no idea how much I appreciate it!! Is there another topic you would like to see?đ
I wonder if you made this for a project or something. It was really wonderful. You are so sincere and sensible. Some people must be very proud of you. :-). Also, itâs wonderful to see an example of someone producing a video who isnât all made up with little glowing spots in their noses & dĂ©colletĂ© showing for hits. Well done, girl!
Wow thank you! It wasnât for a project but to be honest, I think of my account as a project in general. As in, what have I learned recently that I can show and teach others?đ
Oh Lucy, what those kids said to you back in those days simply shows that they were mean and didn't know better. Ponytail on or off, you're beautiful the way you are not just because of your appearance, BUT ALSO your authenticity and kindness. Emilio is so goddamn lucky to have you by his side, and we are all so fortunate to have you welcoming us into your inner mind!
PS A ponytail doesn't make you or any girl look like an old bald hag- Knowing how to pull the look off actually makes one more attractive IMHO!
Hey Josh, how are you doing?đ
Ahh thank you for the kind wordsđ„ș Iâm lucky to have Emilio too though!
Have a great day man
lucy thank you, thank you for doing this kind of content
No! Thank you
Thank you so much for sharing your story âšđ€
My pleasure!!
This is God sent..literally! Thank you for this great content â€ïž God bless everyone
Glad you enjoyed it!
great subject to talk about! congrats for this video!!
Glad you liked it!
Accepting yourself as you are is truly the ultimate self-confidence "hack" out there. Thank you Lucy, it's so wonderful to see individuals like you who manage to keep their sanity in this crazy age where sometimes it seems everybody has gone completely nuts.
Heyy, how are you doing?đ
Thank you so much, itâs so sad that not enough people believe in their beauty!!
@@LucyAlllan Doing pretty good, thank you for asking! I hope you are as well! đ
love ur videos! they're always so meaningful and important
Youâre so kind đ„ș maybe itâs nice thatâs itâs just reaching a little group of us all though haha!
Just thanks for this video!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for talking about such an important topic
An absolute pleasure, more people need to talk about it :)
God created you in His holy image. HE loves just as you are and He gave his only Son Jesus to die for you. When you know that, other opinions fall into water. You are the tample of the Holy Spirit!! God bless you, you are his wonderful creation. He waits on you!!! Have a wonderful day!!!đâ€đđ
Not religious but really needed to hear this too. What I have is enough. Thank you đ
@@Stormy38044 I respect others religions. God is not a religion for me.There are many religions but Jesus is the only one that resurrected and He is alive. God gave Jesus and he is your best friend. The whole world needs conversion, me first of all. We are in a spiritual war, we need to open our eyes. God have mercy on all of us on the Day of Judgment đđđBlessed Virgin Mary pray for us all sinners !!!
You make great points though.
Great video â€ïž Thanks for leading such a healthy example
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Motivation!đ€ thats why I deleted nearly all Social media apps and it helps allot
Thank you for this.
My pleasure!
Wish Iâd have learned this when I was younger! Great video
Glad you liked it!
Thanks for this video!
You are so welcome Joan!!
Your mindset is so beautiful đ I love watching your videos
Awhhh youâre too kindđ„ș
@@LucyAlllan đ€©
Thank you â€ïž
Youâre welcome đ
We are all unique and beautiful! And I think everyone wants to be physically healthy. When we eat for true health (having energy, digestive ease, preventing or reversing diseases like heart disease, diabetes, cancer and other chronic diseases which are the number one killers in developed countries) and when we move our bodies to stay flexible, strong and energized then for most of us our weight will fall into a healthy weight RANGE. We all have different muscle mass, bone structure, etc. We need to eat and move our bodies for our own health and longevity. If we don't eat in a way that is sustainable (doable) for the long term and which sustains our health, then it won't last and neither will our health. I think when we are healthy we feel good physically and mentally, and we have the energy to put into the things in life that really matter to us. We are more confident, but also more joyful and calm. We have more energy to live life, and we sleep better too. Like you say, trying to look a certain way is just so demoralizing, and it is ever-changing anyway as trends change around the world. Our bodies change as we get older too. Focusing on taking care of ourselves in a loving, healthy way while loving and accepting ourselves is where we find peace, happiness and longterm health.
Omg!! Thank you so much you help me a lotđâ€
I am so glad!
Well said!! Keep creating content like this â€ïž
Thank you đ
Wisdom. That was wisdom right there
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I think one thing that is important to be aware of is that it's in a lot of people's interests to keep us unhappy with the way we look because there's a lot of money to be made on that. Just think of how many businesses actually make their living by providing products or services that are aimed at 'improving' our looks, from gyms, to health gurus and supplement producers, to fashion to cosmetics. If we all just decided to be perfectly happy with the way we look, they'd be without costumers and go out of business. I think that when we find ourselves having negative thoughts or feelings about the way we look, it can be very useful to stop and think: Where does this come from? Who did I pick up this message from (or if someone just told you like the way you were told by another kid - what's the ultimate source of the notion), and do they have something they want me to buy/pay for?
Love this! btw, you look like an angel!
This phenomenon stems from fatphobia which is exacerbated by the media but especially social media. Any deviation from societal body standards will make people feel inferior or not worthy of love.. but once we destigmatize being âout of shapeâ then what really matters in life will be prioritized! Great video
Absolutely! All body types are beautiful in their own way, there is no ONE type of beauty
Thanks for sharing this informative video.
Thank you for your kind comment :)
First, your eyes are so beautiful â€ïž
And thanks for the video. I am dieting and exercising for slim body but it doesn't going well and I was feeling down. But thanks to your video I feel better. Thanks again.đ
You got this!
@@LucyAlllan thanks
Thank you
You're welcome đ
Hii i love this video
I'm feel bad about it you look pretty even you have ponytail hair, in my country people love woman that skinny and always complaining about body shape. As you can see I'm one of skinny man and people say that you should a little bit fat like what the problem? In Asia, people compare Asian and European such as "blonde hair" or "green eyes" or "they look more attractive" if you understand it. Just like me I'm a skinny guy that falling in love with a chubby girl and people be like "hmmm why you love this fat girl? She look ugly" ohh so what maybe you call her ugly but not for me. She so gorgeous and more important I know her better than you. People will never stop judging you. Hopefully you understand my comment. (Sorry if my grammar is bad)
thanks very much for this inspiring video
No thank you Angel for your kind comment :)
thank u
You are absolutely welcome, have a great day
Not having social media is the best thing I did for myself đ
So nice!
youâre so prettyđ„șđ§đ»ââïžâš
You too!!
I'm a dude and this video has helped me a lot. I thank you a lot for sharing your thoughts on this topic, greetings.
Im so happy to hear it helped you!!! Both men and women feel this way
This video really appeals to me !
Ahh so happy to hear that đ have a good day :)
Well spoken!
Thank you! đ
my perfect girl. perfect to me always. also still can't get over that green vest OBSESSSSSED ilysm
Stop it, youâre perfect đ„ș ilysm
Lol I literally love that vest
OMG! subscribe in two seconds!!! love the fact that you promote being HUMAN above all things! ahaha sending a virtual hugs loveđ€â€
Yes!! Letâs all just remember how hard our body works every day to keep us here before we worry about the size of our stomach !!
Be postive you can do it!!! Plus you achieve a lot in life đ
Positivity energy right back :)
@@LucyAlllan yep đ happy vibes
Sending you lots of love Lucy.
Lots of love back!
Hi Lucy! I love your videos đ€©
Hey! Ah i appreciate this so much, thank you đ
Well I just wanna tell you no matter what the standards are of other people YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
yup all of you!
0:01 Your videos keep improving Lucy, so great!! I'd suggest setting your camera to a specific white balance though, instead of AUTO. You see it changing the white tone here :)
Ah thank you so much, I actually got lazy this time and just didnât adjust it but youâre right⊠so much better if you set it :)
@@LucyAlllan Haha yes I totally understand! Find myself forgetting that so often, as well. But yeah just keep doing your thing, enjoying it
This is a very good video, Thanks.
So nice of you!
Thank yo sm! You are such an amazing youtuber. I finally found someone who doesn't make me feel worse.
Glad I could help!
As long as I look like this, I'll never be happy, I'll never be able to tell myself I'm beautiful. What a great life to live đ€
Love this!! đ„șđ„șđ„ș
Ahhh thank youđ„șđ„ș
Your outfit is really beautiful!!
Thank you so much. That means a lotđ
It's all about money and control. I don't need the validation. I'm enough . Be good to yourself cos no one has the power to make you happy except yourself!
I love this videođžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Thank you!!đ„ș
Amazing video âš
Thank you đ„ș
I think we should also focus on appreciating other people's beauty instead of trying to perfect and obsess over our own. I believe we're made to love each-other and not be in love with ourselves. Let others appreciate your beauty whilst you appreciate theirs.
I like your colorful clothing! Positive energy!
Positive energy over to you đ€©
Hello. It's a very good video. Thanks.
So nice of you! Thanks
Not all of your friends are actually your friend. Some of them intentionally give you wrong advice. Do what you think right. Ignore others. If you are healthy already you should not try anything else. Try not to give a f*ck everyone.
Lovely Lucy
You won't find everything in one person but
Every one looks great in their own image
I love the way I look
You are gorgeous
As usual, great Lucy
Thank you so much đ
You are amazing â„ïžâš
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thankssss
You are awesome!
You are!
You're beautiful Lucy!!! Saludos desde una china en Colombia!!!
Saludos desde España đ
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