Margaret Cho on Polyamory
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- čas přidán 24. 05. 2024
- Margaret Cho talks to Neal Brennan about her experience w/ polyamory and other types of relationships. From the Blocks Podcast w/ Neal Brennan.
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Theme music by Electric Guest (unreleased).
#podcast #standup #comedy #relationships #polyamory - Komedie
Tried poly, been very close to a poly couple and my assessment is just that it always ends up with someone who’s upset in the end. And if everyone’s really happy, that’s usually the beginning of the end of the primary relationship. And polyamory in general feels cultish the more you talk to other poly people.
Sounds like monogamy... ends with someone who's upset.
That's not a universal experience.
It doesn't always end up like that.
Being post menopausal and therefore no libido - has freed me up to live all my dreams.
guys...line starts on the left here - no pushing, please...
Exactly. In retrospect, it's somewhat shocking to me how much my younger years were governed by my drive endowment, lol...such a relief to be past that. Great memories, tho...😂
Neal you’re so open minded & it serves the conversation well
I appreciate her honesty ❤
In other news the sky is blue
I know, it's shocking isn't?
I’ve dated someone who was poly. All the partners she knew were maladjusted and selfish. Anyone considering polyamory, please consider anything else.
And I dated a monogamous person who was maladjusted and selfish as were all their friends, what's your point? Bad partners can be found anywhere
So based on one isolated experience you had, you think EVERYONE should consider anything else based on that...
Genius level logic there.
Kudos for your honesty and for embracing your truth, Margaret. X
I think as you get older the compatibility part of a relationship becomes so much more important - companionship, comforting and caring behaviours in a partner displace ( not replace) sex as preferred behaviours and is much more satisfying ultimately.
iris murdoch wrote novel in the 60s on this very topic called "the severed head"
Staying single works much better
So many people have one experience or story with Polyamory and then apply that experience universally to everyone else.
Cho is coming to nature senses and having the one on one bond is what life is all about and someone who can Master that is super human.
Thts wild Margaret..😆
Love her as comedian, but her personal life makes me feel very conservative and uptight. Oh well.
hearing her on podcasts is like nails down a chalk board
embrace and celebrate that conservative life of yours. Most people out there doing crazy stuff feel empty, hence all the stuff they are doing. Not all of course, but that craziness is not in everyone's genes and that is SO OK
Gonna go listen to 'Chemicals Between Us' by Bush
There is no world where Brennan would be comfortable with his partner being with another man without his involvement.
Who cares?
@@hesimplywillnotdie Brennan, obviously
In other news he acts as if a poly relationship would work for him as long as it only brought in additional women 🥱
Polyamory leads to breakups generally. Seen it over and over and over again. Generally means one or the other partners is in a basic level bored with the other one.
Relationships lead to breakups, generally.
Monogamy leads to breakups generally, seen it over and over again
This is quite a shock. On the other hand, not surprising in the least - Bender
I have never seen polyamory work for straight people not a single time not once, but it works great for the gays
Whatever happened to just being married and having mistresses and affairs and cabana boys?
It's all the same. They just have a new word for it!
Poly·am·ory ˌpä-lē-ˈa-mə-rē - "It's great until it ain't."
Same as literally everything else
Something tells me he saw this WAYYYYYYY different....
If you can't answer the question "what do you do when the person is somewhere sleeping with another person" with "whatever you'd do when the person is out jogging or at work or playing chess with their friends or whatever" then polyamory is not for you.
indeed you need to be able to be comfortable on your own
So true. I am envious of people with that much flexibility and resilience. I was with a poly person, and when they were out, I just wanted to hyperventilate. Hard way to learn it wasn’t for me.
@@heidiho3089 It's not flexibility and resilience. It's detachment and egocentrism.
Whenever I tried to date a poly person and I didn’t identify as poly but was fine doing casual they were always the ones that got jealous lol.
Poly is fine but it’s so silly to be like ‘he’s really jealous so it didn’t work’ it’s like WTH you think would happen?
The hope is that your partner gives up and you get all the benefits. Logic and equality be damned.
@@sadaksara That’s a myopic and fully askew way of not understanding human biological mating strategies and successes. Women who choose that life are damaged already from promiscuity and their pair bonding receptors are fried from it so she is incapable of having any healthy long term partner, polyamorous or not. A man who chooses to share his woman is an emotionally frail and damaged man with no self respect, low levels of testosterone and severe self esteem issues. Their relationships are never stable, happy and well adjusted. They are always toxic drama filled codependent ones. Mentally ill relationships for short.
that he wouldn't be a hypocrite. he was jealous but she wasn't allowed to be. what did he think was going to happen? he was fine when he was doing it.
poly people have individual lives and simply live life when the partner is sleeping with someone else.
Love Margaret Cho. She was hilarious and such a badass. Polyamory is just another experiment of youth and eventually changes with age. Like most things, really.
Polyamory seems like a lot of unnecessary paperwork.
margarets skin is fucking flawless
Lies!!
Lies!!!
Poly does work for some. The idea that it never works is not true. Example: Dan Savage. Also, there are a lot of couples that are “tolyamorous” and have made it work. (See also: Dan Savage on what that means)
It sounds like her husband couldn't handle being poly while she enjoyed it. He should have stopped, told her his feelings about it, and they could either divorce or go back to being monogamous.
Sounds like we only heard one side of the story. Some people "can't handle" taking responsibility for themselves and their actions in relationships, so they place the blame on their partner to absolve themselves of responsibility.
She has really embraced language the reinforces self indulgence and total silliness. Best of luck navigating the world w/ any form of stable interpersonal relationships.
People really be experimenting in 12 year relationships....
Married ones do @@sadaksara
@@jessicaevans2564nah.
I fully believe you need to start off polyamorous . You can't be in a monogamous relationship and then transition to poly. You've already established a certain type of dynamic, and then you shift its going to put certain truths to light; are they just wantiing to cheat? Am I boring and they want something exciting?
Also, jealousy is normal but if its a significantly impacts the "poly" relationship its not going to work. There's so much trust and communication that needs to happen in poly relationships and most people cant accomplish that in "normal" relationships.
Relationship belongs in quotes instead of poly. It's just having your cake and eating it too with extra steps / labels / the ability to blame your 'partner' for being jEaLoUs.
It would've been nice to see the guests entire face instead of the hosts...just saying
Polyamory is just open marriage!
No it isn't actually
sad case
So you chose freedom to date more over a well matched dedicated life companion? Do people not have jobs and friends? This seems like a lot of unnecessary work to be able to date and sex without it being considered cheating.
No
Why
I feel what they're saying up until the reductive pathetic point of pretending like we are just a chemical reaction. like... that's beyond nihilism, you simply can't understand yourself yet and decide to downplay the fact that you are an individual that can absolutely make decisions not based on hormones.
Love the mental gymnastics. NOT! Stop the craziness and just say you are single.
If your partner suggests or brings up polyamory, they don't love you and you should break up.
I've never been in a poly relationship, but the times I've thought about it never had to do with my love for my primary partner. It was usually about feeling lonely in my relationship or like I had more love to give.
@@racheluhlig4644 "more love to give" lmao
this is overly simplistic and just not true statement. people definitely do bring up poly or being open as a way to avoid the truth and that needs to be addressed. open relationship types should not be treated as a bandaid and will generally just make things worse. however, there are many situations where that is also not the case, and creating stigma around the idea wholesale does not help.
If you’re too insecure to handle it then that’s ok. But there are people out there for whom it works. Humans have a lot more variety than the stereotypes we see in TV or movies
How would you know? I've been in a stable polyamorous family for 19 years and we are all very comfortable and happy. I would never dream of saying that if someone wants to be monogamous that they don't love you and want to own you. I undersatand that some people are monogamous. Why are you so sure you know about people you have never met.
So narcissistic
Interesting lady..thing on plants trying to kill us...well plants don't have motives and dont think and plan things, not vindictive, they just grow if the natural environment is correct and cats aren't motivated to go after us they are in it for there survival like all living things. She stating this regards plants etc showed her unbalanced mental side....
Seems really shallow and selfish.. Maybe I'm to plain for all I've heard..
I guarantee you that she is unhappy and is constantly trying to 'find herself'. And after years of living like a child, still hasn't figured things out.
He should be interviewing you and not her, huh?
@@maxamerimaka Why not. I've seen her house and how she lives. It ain't pretty.
@@drakezen your personality isn’t pretty, that’s worse
@@drakezen It's creepy as hell that you're bragging about seeing her house.
@@user-nr4wf1qh8s Why? I didn't sneak in. Jeez. Unlike you that have no clue what is like but are defending a stranger who is a weirdo.
polyamory is so dumb
Chad or Tyrone would never get more play than a 4/10 ranked woman.
🤮
I have listened to this interview!! And the stories, Cho sounds like she needed kids!!
Awesome conversation!