So true, I have 2 toddlers on the spectrum and they don't make a move without me knowing when we are out in public. I know how impulsive they are. And in the few incidents where my oldest got a little to close for comforted with others kids I simple redirect him and make it a point to apologize to the child and the adult. Parents like this give our community a bad rep.
Ana Garcia nice points being made. im on fence with this one. I think disability is not exscuse to be nasty.....but we dont know the severity of autism.
Scootchie and Boo good point. Honestly i try to treat most people equally. With disabilities and working with kids i have same basic standards for both average kids and kids with many different limitations. Just the way i go about handling disrupting child is different. Also if a kid knocks down a four year old off a bike is dangerous, family is lucky neighborhood children didn't break arm or leg.
Ariel Mcnie Too true, hopefully the whole neighborhood realizes that its mot just that family that needs to watch their child, everyone should watch their kids, its 2017 and over 20000 kids are reported missing every year, There are worse people out there and people to need wake up and do their job as parents. We are the childrens guardians, start guarding them.
***** That's exactly how I feel. My son shouldn't feel bad for other people's shortcomings. Please don't ever feel bad when you here these stories! You're not to blame for these people's bad decisions.
The parents of the child are at fault. They should be constantly observing/supporting their child. I have an autistic child who hit/kicked/slapped me daily from age 3 till just after he turned 5, it took time, but he eventually learned that behavior would cancel any reward for that day. No park, no Happy Meal, no TV, unless it was educational. He is now 14 and the sweetest, kindest soul you will ever meet, but he HATES educational tv, lol
Malia Elissabeth ~ I can't imagine how tough that time was for you and your son. Consistency, as well as finding & adapting the right method, can be a challenge. It's worth it though. It requires the parents, like you, to be present & active in the child's/children's lives. Every kid poses his/her own challenge. I have 2, and what works for one doesn't always work for the other. Congratulations on doing the hard work (and I'm sure shedding some tears 😉) that allowed you & your son to come out on the other side of a difficult time. Blessings to you, your son, and your family!
just because a child has a disability does not mean they can't be disciplined even children with disabilities have to be taught they can not be allowed to just do whatever they please!
Angela R Cooper exactly! I have an autistic child and she's disciplined when she hits, kicks or slaps....its mostly her dad and I. we do time outs and verbally correct her. they can learn it's wrong.
Horace Simon I know what I meant was that the parents of the child with autism should know that just because he has autism does not mean he can't be disciplined, when I was growing up I had a sister who was very ill and my mom would never discipline her because she was afraid she was going to kill her literally she was afraid if she disciplined her it would kill her, and people just got to realize disciplining your children is not going to kill them. Back in my day if we did something wrong and the neighbor saw us they had two choices they could get on to us or they could tell our parents back in my day was perfectly fine for Neighbors to get on to your kids the world has changed so much.
Vaccines don't cause autism genetics do. Also not vaccinating your kids has lead to horrible diseases to return like measles.so even if it did cause austism which it doesn't would you rather have a austic kid or a dead kid? Let me guess you also believe in homoepathy when it's a laughing stalk even in the alternative medicine world?
George Jetson I dont have any participation awards, but i do have a few Army Achievement Awards. Don't assume all millennials are the same.. You do realize millennial is from early 1980 s _ 2000s.. Thats literally millions of adults.
I was ready to go off on the neighbors, but I'm with them. The boy clearly needs more help than he's getting from his parents. If they can't handle his behavior, he needs to be somewhere that can.
Listen the parents could have prevented this by keepin an eye on their kid. No one is mad at the child, it's the fact that he needs to be restrained from assaulting people.
bronco girl No, all parents need not keep running behind their kids or supervise them if their child is not a public threat. The parents of the child who physically harm others are the ones that need to be out and about.
bronco girl Yes let’s all get politically correct and paint a happy unicorn! A threat is a threat autism or not. And no the other children dint need the constant supervision because ‘they’ dint go around physically assaulting other children!
bronco girl except he is a threat. He has no control over his physical outbursts. That's a threat. What happens when he's 25 and pushes a child because no one corrects it now. He's not going to mature or outgrow it. It's going to get worse if not addressed now and the state will step in and institutionize him when he gets to big and is still having outbursts. Other children shouldn't have to suffer or not be able to play outside.
Autism is not an excuse to let the behavior be thought of as acceptable. Whether on the autism spectrum or not, when a child strikes, kicks, bites, or spits on another child, you discipline them. For an autistic child that discipline may be a bit different, but it's still 100% present. If I was one of these parents, I would try to reach out to the parents, and get a better idea on how to educate my child to interact with their child, and their specific needs, but if after that the behavior continued and I knew there was no discipline or reprimanding at all, I'd be upset. Autism is no excuse to allow your child to assault other children. There's still a need for discipline. You're still responsible for teaching that child how to interact appropriately with others.
@Brie, Do you know about autism? The people that sued the family of thee autistic child took it to far in my opinion. This could possibly make it hard for other families of autistic children. And yes I’m autistic. And I’m afraid that people will start going after families with autistic children for a law suit because they didn’t like the Parents or child so they thought I will just sue them and I don’t have to deal with them anymore. I think Suing the family was definitely unnecessary. You shouldn’t sue someone. Because, I think there’s more to this story than the news in this video are telling us. *Like what were the neurotypical children or non-autistic children doing to this child?* #actuallyautistic
Some kids are harder to deal with and it is about autism they’re kids don’t have it so they don’t care. It’s easy to say discipline your kids but disciplining those types of kids are very different. There trying to get money that’s all. Some autistic kids pull there own hair hit them selves bite them Selves, And bite others.
When you have a disabled child it is your responsibility as the parent caretaker to make sure your child is supervised at all times. My youngest daughter has mosaic down syndrome and it is normal for her to have emotional outbursts and sometimes forget her own strength but it is my job to stay aware and keep her safe and those around her as well. Those types of tantrums are nothing compared to an autism related outburst those can go on for hours and are usually physical in nature. Negligent parenting end of story.
Rebecca Brown I've cared for my cousin who has the most debilitating type of autism and her screaming and clawing herself would go on for 8 hours at a time. She's 33 now and her mom has never had support in her adult life so she makes her own schedule and bad coping mechanisms. It's so frustrating her mom is so lazy.
Kari Waska Wow. I work in a large school for kids who have autism and or epilepsy. Ours can try to hurt themselves and or others but it doesn’t usually go on for that long. From one Carer of an autistic person/s I just want to say your doing a great job. It isn’t always easy but your certainly not alone
Kari Waska caring for people with disabilities is nowhere near as easy as some of these youtubers seem to think it is. We should all have a little bit more respect and understanding for each other and quit tearing eachother down. I wish you and your family good things to come!
My son has autism, he's not really too violent but he does lose his temper when he gets frustrated with something he get confused with. He goes to school and gets on with all the other children fine and they know he has autism. But you had better believe those kids know to get out of his way when he starts showing signs of losing it and that those teachers know to remove him from the room! He has no right to be making other kids feel scared or put them in danger, autism or not! When he's playing out at home myself or my husband go sit in the garden watching him. Even the other kids parents will watch him to let me go make dinner! If they didn't, I'd wait till he came in to make dinner! He once threw his bike and missed the neighbours kid by inches. My son was grounded for a month. At school he kicked a table that hit a girl in his class and bruised her, the school asked me what to do and I said give him detention for a week the same as any other kid! Autism is a reason for a lot of things, it's not an excuse for parents to shrug off everything that their children do because they can't be bothered. The head of the autism society makes me so angry in this video, the court has to protect the other children from parents who are unwilling to find a way of supervising their son! No one said being a parent of an autistic child is easy! But being a parent whose kid comes home saying the boy across the street attacked them is just as hard!
Anna Billie and what happens if a child in a wheelchair can’t get out of the way if your child’s violent temper. Maybe he shouldn’t be in mainstream school
THANK YOU! Yes. You are a great parent. It made me sick to my stomach when they read off the quote from the parents basically blaming the fact that the kid has autism instead of taking responsibility.
Anna thank you for your answer my hat to you for being such a good parent . I knew a teacher assistant who was seriously injured by a child with an autism spectrum disorder who was having a meltdown while trying to protect another child from him.
I have autism (high-functioning), and you don’t see me going around attacking people for no reason. I only hit back in self-defense, and I really thought this was going to make me mad, but honestly I don’t blame them. Disabled or not, you’ve gotta teach your kids to use their words, and if they don’t know what their words are, give them the words.
Autism or not, the parents are responsible for the behaviour of their child and supervise their kid to avoid him harming other kids. Getting professional help is also a must in this case.
I have a child with autism and i blame the parents for not getting him the services he needs to control his behavioral impulses.. I've had to fight blood sweat and tears for 15 years with minimal funds however with endurance and respect for others I've found resources to help with reducing his behaviors. It truly takes hard work and courage to ensure a successful outcome with ADS kids.. Early intervention is vital for the progress of a child on the autism spectrum disorder.. So many parents either don't know or won't research for help. I'm a divorced and now single mom so it's no excuse for a married couple to neglect getting the help that the child needs to live a productive life.
To Be ready, Be ready, so let me get this straight , you had to fight tooth and nail to get your own child services, but you are going to blame the parents for not having services for their child???? I do not know if you were fighting for services at his school or if you are talking about providing services at home??? I am a parent with an adult daughter with developmental disabilities so I know about fighting for services. These parents may have enough Services at school , but not in home services for their child. And the parents MAY not be aware that in home services are available to them so they may not know what services to ask for to help them at home, the agency that serves people with disabilities does not always provide a parent with a list of services to help their child. And again, it can be even harder to get in home services like possibly in home behavioral services for a child who has a great need for this service. The agency could provide the family with a trained behavior specialist that is trained to work with any type of developmental disabilities and behavioral issues in their home. they would help the parents work on his specific behaviors and work with child too. again, though we do not know if the parents know these services are available to them or if they Tried to get these services but was not able to get the services at home. we just do not know, but as you said, from your own experiences that you had to fight tooth and nail to get your child services, so you should be the last parent to judge these parents cause we do not know anything about what Services they have or don't have and do not know if the parents are aware of Services for help at home too. we just do not know. I think we need more understanding and empathy cause it sounds like they need emotional support more than blame and judgements..
Yeah it is extremely hard to get the proper services the children need and when that child grows up they end making it even harder. Where I am parents had to abandon their adult children to get the help.
That is really sad that parents had to abandoned their Adult children in order to get help for them. I am fortunate because my adult daughter lives with me in my home, She is 34 years of age but her mental functioning is a 5 year old level. Just sad! That is why we really need to be careful cause we do not know all the facts of this family situation.
It is. There was a case in Toronto years ago where a family had to give up custody of their severely disabled infant daughter to get the help and services she needed. Due to money. That is not right. The topic in this youtube video or news broadcast is hard. The services are just not out there and I had worked in childcare and some parents are in not believing the truth of their diagnosis and will not work with the child. This could be due to culture and meantime that child is falling behind hurting other children because he or she has something going on and needed that support so that they can learn and some just need that extra learning so that they can have friends and have a somewhat normal life. I hope you understand What I am trying to say because it is hard to describe it. There are therapies that do work but some parent do not apply them for some reason.
I'm RBT certified Behavioral Therapist that works with children with Autism or ASD every single day, and when dealing with a child which displays and exhibits aggressive or violent behaviors towards others, it's up to the Parents or Guridans or Therapist's and Paraprofessionals to be properly trained to thwart any kind of Physical contact between the child or client, it doesn't make a difference if the child exhibiting these negative behaviors has autism or not, the same way you wont send a child to school who has a infectious disease or criminal out of jail unless the people around them are properly protected!
Aron Tyberg may I ask how you received your RBT I'm a tudor for children with disabilities and I'm very interested in obtaining a certificate to hold more credibility when applying for like minded jobs. I'm very curious my email is vnv427@yahoo.com if you would prefer to stay more private I completely understand. thank you. God bless your for ur help in these children's development. it's a gift and you have to have a light to work with these children with needs. often we forget ourself or we do us last, but I want you to know all your hard worked is not over looked in the truest eyes. thank you again.
I worked with adults and kids woth developmental disabilities for over 5 years. This is unacceptable. People with disabilities want to be treated the same as everyone else and that includes being held responsible for your actions. This is a case of dismissive parents who probably let him do what he wants for a large number of reasons. Too many parents think that we should treat their kids differently becasue they have a disability and it just isn't the case. If they keep letting their son do This, theyre really going to set him up for failure.
I fully agree with these neighbors. These parents need to be held accountable for not supervising their child, autistic or not. You cannot just use your child's disability as an excuse, it is your responsibility as a parent to supervise and take action to protect other children as well as your own
I have dealt with people who have autism. Yes, they can be violent but with structure and supervision, they are not. This is not about a child with autism. This is about a child hurting other children. I am all for equal treatment for every body, but if somebody's hurting my child autistic or not, I'm gonna take action.
Look at it this way, if you have a dog that attacks people, who's responsibility is it? If you have a child that attacks people, who's responsibility is it?
I strongly believe that children who are violently aggressive towards other people need to be in a special situation, a special school, and they need monitoring from someone at all times
I was nearly drowned by an autistic kid when I was 5. She grabbed my hair and held me underwater, my mom (who was watching my two siblings) saw what was going on and ran over to get me just in time. One of the most traumatizing moments in my life.
To be fair our disability or disorder cannot be used as an excuse for everything. I have autism too, as do most of my friends. It's not an excuse to get away with everything, or to not ensure you control your kids. If your kid is violent then you need to properly supervise him and manage that behaviour!
@Green I know. That's the reason for the final sentence. I work with some very violent kids with autism. It can be managed to keep others safe. It takes support, careful supervision and boundaries.
In elementary school I was attacked by another child with autism. She ran up to me, shoved me, grabbed my hair and started trying to rip my hair out of my head. It was very traumatic. I'm a full supporter for anyone with needs, but that's not an excuse to allow kids to attack other kids.
There's a really bad side to it. I've dealt with it before. I never had it, but it has been driving me fucking insane for 3 years. Getting progressively worse overtime.
So the judge wants the neighbors to "get together" and work out a "safety plan". EFF that I am not working out a safety plan with other parents for THEIR CHILD. The safety plan is the law that say you can not assault other people. There is nothing to "work out".
My daughter has autism. She is incredibly sweet natured and doesn't even defend herself when her younger brother hits her. I stop him. I've even told her to hit him back figuring, if she did, he might stop. Nope. She won't. She is only 6, but has never been in a fight. She is my angel! My point of this is, DON'T blame the autism for his behavior. That is a boy who is allowed to do whatever he wants because his parents blame the autism, and therefor don't discipline him. In this case, I would file a suit too.
Kristen I do not think anyone is blaming the disorder or the child, but his parents are definitely to blame, it is their responsibility to teach him eight from wrong , autistic children are not stupid and they can learn with proper teaching techniques and supervision, and if the parents don't know how to handle their child they should find a therapist to work with him on acquiring socialization skills.
mcrchickenluvr yea, okay. Whatever you wanna believe. You don't know shit about science. Because school only teaches you enough to survive in this world and not enough to get ahead. Also go ahead and debate that with scientists proves you wrong.
the lawsuit is really about lazy parents who don't supervise their struggling child. I am sure we all agree that the poor child is not to blame and it is lame for his parents to hide behind their child's disability as a reason they don't have to be responsible and supervise him to prevent him from hurting other kids
GOOD FOR THE NEIGHBORS...SUING!!!! THESE CHILDREN .........ARE BEING ASSAULTED BY THIS KID!!!!! THIS IS ABOUT A CHILD ...WHO IS...OUT OF CONTROL AND HURTING OTHER CHILDREN!!!!!
when I was little one of the children in my neighborhood was very violent and aggressive. One day he showed up (uninvited) to my little brothers 6th birthday party, just walked right into the backyard. 10 minutes later he started throwing the worst fit I've ever seem him have. He got a branch and started hitting people with it (even my 3 year old cousin), throwing chairs, hitting our propane tank, he even broke a window and almost started a fire by knocking over the grill. finally my dad and uncle pinned him down and called his mom and police. His mom never showed up, she didn't even known he had left. He was about 10 years old then. Fast forward 18 years later and he's in prison for almost beating his girlfriend to death infront of their kid. my point: I'm 100% on the parents side for wanting to keep their kids safe. This child, although ill, is still very dangerous.
I personally think that ALL parents of children With or WITHOUT disabilities should be setting boundaries for their children because even Non disabled kids *can do harm* to kids with disabilities. There are STUDIES that show that MORE students with disabilities are bullied every day by non disabled students in the schools across the USA, than with the students with disabilities. My friend's son was bullied on a regular basis at school. He is disabled. This happened a long time ago. Many incidents took place at school with other students bullying him. Parents kept going to the school to meet with teacher & principal, but they just kept reassuring them that they would help him when they saw it happening to him, but could not do anything about if they did not see it, cause it would be there son's word over the other students. And they had to have proof it was really happening to him. He had an incident during a PE class outside on the school grounds. The PE teacher told the students they could have free play. There was a PE teacher and 3 other teachers outside where all the students were playing. The teacher were talking to one another not really paying attention. My friend's son was throwing the ball in the basket hoop by himself. Three other students started bothering him, and took the ball away from him.Then started picking on him, which ultimately led to the three students pushing him, calling him names and then got him down in a head lock and the other two students kicking him. This was all happening right under the nose of a PE teacher and the other teachers who were still talking to one another, and not noticing anything that was happening to him. He was yelling for help, but no help came from the teachers, he was on his own to handle that situation. It just so happened that his Father happened to be coming home from town, he just happened to drive by the school. He saw all the students outside playing. He just thought he would stop to see if his son was out there. First he did not see him, but he saw the three students holding a student down and kicking him. He did not know that it was his son getting beat up cause he could not see him for the other kids were in the way, he started honking his horn in his car from the street to get the teachers attention cause he did not just want to ignore & drive away, and leave a student getting beat up, so he kept honking, but the teacher did not hear his horn, and he could not get there attention. He was just about to go to the office at the school and report what he saw happening and his son finally was able to break free of these three students that held him down. When he got away from them, He saw his dad, He told the boys that you better leave me alone cause that is my dad and he is watching you. His son ran to his dad that was on the street in his car and these teachers never saw his son leave the school grounds with his dad. They were still talking to one another. His dad drove him to the school office and went and told the principal what he witnessed happening. All the principal did was say she was sorry that happened to his son. She would talk to the PE teacher about it, but still nothing happened to those three boys for their actions. Shortly after, both parents went to the district office and complained. The district office apologized to the parents and said they would check into it and get back to them, but nothing came of it. Eventually my friend's son got so extremely depressed, he wrote a short note to his parents and told them good bye and he requested in the note they play a particular song at his funeral. His mother found the note on the kitchen table. She got to him in time and found him in the trunk of the car with the hood closed down. it was over 85 degrees that day and if she did not find him as fast as she did he would have died for sure. The parents got mental health involved and counseling for their son and he changed schools He was in a regular class at the old school and had a 504 plan, , but his mother was always fighting to get him in a special ed class room. The new school did place him in a special education class. So you see, you can not just direct this at only parents of disable kids, it is also parents who have kids with no disabilities doing the same, AND it is the job and the responsibility of the SCHOOLS that need to set boundaries and start taking real action, when bullying is happening to students. Schools need to be a safe place for ALL kids! Bullying can & does lead to suicide for kids of young ages & teenagers ,and it sadly happens way more than you know.
Well thank you for reminding me the importance of preserving a healthy stable environment for all children, especially inside a school environment. You should direct this passion in your school district. You could still attend meetings and even share your experiences as well as concerns with people capable of making important decisions for their district.
Titan So? Does this mean they're not entitled to seek justicr after their pets have been sat on, after their kids got bit and spat on, after A FOUR YEAR OLD GOT PUSHED OFF OF HIS BIKE, KICKED IN THE SPINE AND THEN LIFTED FROM THE GROUND BY HIS HAIR? Oh my, these people are really overreacting, huh? {sarcasm alert}
Years ago we were looking for an apartment in LA. We came across one at a very affordable price. However something didn't seem right, because the price was below comparable apartments. My wife and I were in the back yard talking to the landlady when a neighbor waved me over. He told me the kid on the upper floor had attacked kids of prior renters. We thanked the woman and left.
I'm with the neighbors here. If the parents know he has issues he should NEVER be left unattended. If they won't supervise their child they need to leave before someone gets hurt badly because of their negligence.
People need to stop using autism as an excuse. If you can't help your kid put them in a program that will. Autism needs to be separate from behaivors that amount to assault. An experienced aide could potentially help that kid if mom and dad doesn't want to deal. Plus they moved, when people move like that you know they're guilty.
Loura Delaney you can believe autism is real of you want. But I have proven that it isn't. Yet you continue to deny it. It's not just the families problem. It's anyone who has a kid problem.
Saint matthias Oh you’ve proven its wrong? When exactly did you graduate with advanced degrees in medical sciences where you can disavow ALLLLLL the documented research proving otherwise? Or is your area of knowledge ‘I don’t agree so it isn’t true’? Gtfoh 😂
I had to move out of my rental home because our next door neighbors did a poor job of keeping their autistic child on their property and off of ours. He would be in our back and front yards. He would turn on our water hoses and wet our things. He would wake me up out of bed because he was running and screaming near my bedroom window. He would run around naked in his yard and one time pooped while naked and threw his poop onto our yard. I grew tired of nicely asking the family if they could please try harder to keep the child off of our property. With a child of my own on the way, I had to get out of there right away. I couldn't take it any longer.
I appreciate all the autism-parents chiming in and sharing your experiences. You all sound like capable, committed pants doing the best for your children. Thank you.
spiralrose so your saying a child on the spectrum and not high functioning should get a pass and the family not be held responsible? Sounds like the child is dangerous and may need to be confined or even institutionalized if the parents are incapable of protecting other children From their own Child. I am sure you would be upset if another child was beating your kid or biting. Sounds like the kid is a danger to society.
Honestly I completely agree with the law suit when I was in school I was attacked all the the by a boy with Autism and I told teachers and nobody did anything
Carrie Anne plumper damn man that sucks I have high functioning autism but I could see why your was their no one watching the kid did they at least help you with your injuries
If a kid with a disability (or any kid) came to harm do to lack of supervision or was found wandering around unsupervised the guardians would be held responsible for it. If the child causes harm do to lack of supervision they should also be held responsible. The neighbors are not suing or even blaming the child. They are blaming the parents and want them to responsibly look after their kid.
as children we were sexual assaulted by a kid with disabilities. doesn't mean they are above the law if they don't completely "know" better. it's pretty fucked up that kids can't be kept safe
My nephews in laws have a disabled girl (hearing). She has been catered to and coddled her whole life and now that she is a teenager she is terrifying. She hit her mother so hard she knocked her out the only person who can make her behave is my nephew. I’m afraid she’s going to end up in jail for assault or worse. She is truly terrifying.
we had a neighbor who has a son with autism. the boy was big for his age and at 12 he was the size of an 18 year old. he was never supervised and bullied the neighborhood children. one time he ran my daughter over with his bike. his parents wouldn't even apologize so my husband filled a police report against them. the family had to go to parenting classes and anger management classes.
Lisa L Good for you. I'd have filed a report too. Not only did you protect your daughter but you helped the other kid get the help he needed as well. Even though his idiot parents had to be forced.
I don't blame the families at all just because you have a disability doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want to others my neighbors kids are similar always hitting or taking my kids toys just because the parents don't teach them wrong from right
Harper Grace autism is NOT an excuse!!!! Make your brat behave'!! I have two disabled nephews but they are very well behaved. I hate it when people use autism excuses for downright meaness
"My kid is autistic and his assaults didn't cause any serious injuries so why are we here?" They really think that it's the other kid's responsibility to just accept being assaulted.
similar situation in my neighborhood few years back; family moved in with a (very large) teenage boy with a mental illness who terrorized the neighborhood for months. The parents never did anything and rarely ever showed their faces. The allowed him to wander the neighborhood unchecked all the time. A family sued AND WON. It was about the negligence on the parents behalf ... not the teenage boy. We were all happy they won; hope these plaintiffs win too.
they need to have him in a program. my son has autism but i realize he needed to be around kids in a progam like him and thats where i got him. like these parents need to do their research.
I have Autismn, I was very bad trying to communicate when I was younger. I have a job, a car and a permit for concealed carry. It's not the disability, it's the parents fault.
unokitsune I actually hate the people treat autism like a horrible mental disabillity..its an umbrella term many forms are high functioning. There are way worse disorders like bi polar or server anxiety disorders or even OCD that can impact a person much more than a lot of types of autism..you can deffinalty lead a normal life with autism and be held accountable for your actions as well.
I agree with the parents trying to sue the family. If a child has special needs he/she should be supervised at ALL TIMES. Especially if a child is attacking other children.
These people are fed up. Probably understanding for as long as they could be, but people arent going to keep putting up with your kids disability if its causing harm to others.
My son is austic my friends sonis austic. They have never ever hurt anyone. This is the parents doing. I think the should investigate the boys parents. Maybe the parents are absuive or the dad. Or simple no one cares what the child is doing. I hope thats not the case.
Hillary Phelix. or maybe the child is severely autistic and has nothing to do with parents being the cause of his behaviors. remember you should know as having a child with Autism yourself that not all people with Autism are exactly alike. there are different levels on the spectrum of Autism.
Lori Wentz I know there are differnt types Austic. Yes i do the blame parents he was left to run around neighood with no supervision. That is not good parenting. I never let my son out of my sight and even though he Austic o treat him normale. If you Child has the autism that is violent. They need to be supervised more.Thid child was runing hurting kids in the neighhood hitting all the kids if his parents would of supervised him this prob would not have escalted to news.
I have already stated so many times here that WE the readers do not have ANY information about this boy and his parents, We do not know anything about this family or what they have done OR not done. You are assuming that the neighbors are giving you all the facts and the truth. And there are two sides to every story. There is very little information about this boy and his parents for you or anyone else to be blaming ANYONE!! It is YOU doing the judging and the blaming cause you have already decided the boy is at fault and did what the neighbors said *without any proof* that it actually happened. The video clearly states that there are NO police reports to support these violent attacks occurred to the neighbors kids!! Did You really listen to the video?? Furthermore, You are also assuming that everyone on the spectrum is the same, There are all different functional levels and other disabilities that can occur with autism, so NO people with autism are not all the same. And You do not Know ANYTHING about this boy at all. No one does!!! It is a one sided video! You state here you do not limit the good they can do and say also you do not limit the bad" . I do not refer to kids with any developmental disabilities as bad. People with disabilities are all different in what is going on with them individually. This is why special education call it an *IEP* which stands for *Individual Education Plan.* This little boy is NOT bad & neither are the parents just cause this one sided video blames the boy & the parents as being the ones at total fault . How do you know this boy was not being harassed by the neighborhood kids FIRST. We do not know that at all one way or the other,. Cause again the video states that there were NO police reports to support the neighbor kids were violently attacked. NONE!! First of all I do not promote violence at all.I believe there are other solutions than your way of handling things that would HELP than create more problems for everyone!! You said above in your message to me, "it does not matter how disabled someone is if they attack you first, knock them out". So be *very prepared to live by what you teach* cause it MIGHT be your child that Attacks someone FIRST and HE could be the one to get severely beaten up and harmed for doing it. As I said, I would rather solve it another way that HELPS, not make things worse. I guess I'm not so limited in my thinking cause I know there are better ways to solve problems & come up with real solutions that make it better for everyone. I will end this by saying again, there is NO proof this boy violently attacked any of the neighbor kids, there are no police reports to support the neighbors claims. This video has many holes in the story.
Some autistic kids are incredibly violent. It depends on the severity and the type of autism. The overwhelming majority are not violent at all but obviously this kid is not one of those cases. I don't think it's a case of abuse to the child, but I do think it's a case of horrendous parenting where they just let their kid do what they want to do because they don't want to put in the effort of parenting and teaching their child that violence is wrong. All children hit when they're between about 1 and 2 because they don't know it's bad, it's up to the parents to teach them that it's never okay.
I am an educator and it is important kids with any type of disability be monitored, for their child's own safety. People will be angered by this story, however, it is not fair for human beings (Child or adult) to impede upon others. Kids with Autism can learn and are functional. Therefore, teach and teach and teach your baby civility. Don't underestimate any child.... I hold all my students to a high standard.
Good for these neighbors! I have seen this type of activity first hand and if the parents don't keep control of the situation it only gets worse. Just because your kid has special needs doesn't mean you have the right to inflict them on to the rest of society.
I was always an open person when I was a teenager I volunteered at the Center for people Down syndrome. In the early 90s I moved in to a neighborhood that had 19-year-old child with Down syndrome. The parents would do nothing one night I was taking a shower the teenager would downs walked into my bathroom I was so scared. I was taking a shower. The parents of this teenager downs would do nothing to correct their child and everybody in the neighborhood put up with it because the kid had downs. She would walk in and out of peoples homes and when I spoke up seeing the parents need to control their child I was slammed. Parents feel so guilty about having disabled kids they’re spoiling them .
It would absolutely affect whether or not they could sell their house. That's one of the first things that I check when I move into a new neighborhood. I want to know if there is a bully on the street kids that aren't being watched what's going on. The same with wanting to know if there's a party house or a meth house. If my kids are going to be wandering around that neighborhood. I need to know that they're safe. And having a child that has autism myself, there are times where it can be hard to kind of monitor what's going on with them and make sure they're always in a safe place to do what they're supposed to be doing, but no disability is ever an excuse for bad behavior ever. I don't think these parents would have done this knowing the backlash they could've gotten if there wasn't a real serious issue of safety for their own children. To claim that a disabled child or a child with a disability is a menace or threat to anybody else takes a heck of a lot of balls. Because anybody who is claiming that it's just gonna be crucified is that awful hateful person
I'm gonna put my opinion on here. I have autism and my parents use to get heavily judged for disciplining me because I am an autistic child and I shouldn't be getting punished it's not my fault. My parents didnt punish me for having autism they punished me for misbehaving and for hitting and biting. I did get rewards if I behaved all week but if I had one outburst and misbehaved (depends on what it was) I would either lose the reward or get sent to my room or lose my stuff or even a spanking sometimes. My parents logic was always just because I have autism doesn't mean i don't know what I'm doing and I don't deserve to be punished for my bad behaviour.
Drew Leonardo sounds like you have great parents who did a great job at raising a decent human being who knows right from wrong and the value of earning things. You are amazing and a great example of overcoming .
My family and I had to move away from our beautiful home because our neighbors were extremely negligent with their autistic pre adolescent child. He would run around naked in their backyard and climb their tree making everything visible to us. A few times he would defecate whilst being naked and throw the feces into our yard. He would jump into yard and turn the water hose on and leave it for hours. He would kick my dog and terrorize him. He would run around our front and back yard almost daily. One time he broke into our house from our back door and was wandering around inside where my infant baby slept. The parents and the grandparents were soooooo fucking unapologetic about it all. I was having nightmares all the time imagining this kid breaking into our house and doing something to my baby. And law enforcement did nothing to force the parents to do more to keep their child on their property. I have a nephew with autism and I understand it's not the child's fault but the adult caregivers have be held more accountable for disturbances to their neighbors.
People don't understand how dangerous these kids and even adults can be at times. Especially higher functioning kids/adults, they can be even cold and calculating. People think that because they may not be able to learn how to drive or learn advanced concepts such as sciences or maths in school, that they don't have primitive brain functions that we all have that drive certain things. Just like how mothers will move cars when their kids are in danger. And sometimes these guys even understand full well the difference between right and wrong and eventually kids grow into adults and it's very easy for them to learn that there's just no consequences to bad behavior. It's very dangerous at times especially when parents/facilities enabler he behavior. But also sometimes you just feel like there's nothing you can do.
This is NOT an autistic behavior. Autism can make behavioural issues worse and impossible to break but it is solely the parents fault for never teaching anti violence. When I was in middle school, I went to a school specially for autistic kids. Almost a hundred kids in this school all with different issues. Some kids had trouble speaking, some would run off and potentially get injured, I myself have migraine due to sensory issues. All these kids and only one kid had a violence issue. Why was he the only one out of so many? Cause his pos parents were neglectful, violent, and never even tried to teach him hitting was bad.
How does everyone know his parents aren't trying to correct his behavior? I agree they do need to supervise him if that's what is needed. But learning takes time. Especially when one has developmental issues. It can take months or years to change behaviors depending on the severity.
I got bullied by the same 3 kids every day in my townhouse complex and school for 2 years. No lawsuit school did nothing and ive been a mental wreck for the past 20 years because of it should i try to sue the bullies parents for lifelong mental anguish?
if there are Zero police reports then the neighbors have no proof of such violent attacks and if there were violent attacks the neighbors would have called the police when those attacks occurred.
Autism is grossly over-diagnosed and has become a catch-all excuse for bad behavior. If my small child is being violently assaulted by another child, that child's parents will learn very quickly that not controlling their child will create immediate consequences for them...period.
Suing and asking for the kids private medical and school records is absolutely crazy. If the boy is outta control he needs help. All those adults involved need to grow tf up!
im about to have my first child, and i really wouldnt want him attacking other children or being attacked by other children autistic or not. yes we should have consideration with disable children but we also have to protect our own. i knew a kid who was in a wheelchair, he was really nasty to his sister, was pushing her running his chair into her. one time he broke her arm. child services came to the home and the mom said the little girl fell. they visited the home a few times until child services took the girl away. the little girl told the social worker that her brother didnt like her. when they asked him if he was hurting her, he said yes bc she can walk and i cant. i would had never believe this if i wasnt there to hear it.
L A My god! That sounds sooo evil! The poor little girl! Being assaulted by her own brother and even her own mother not protecting her just because she is a normal child and her brother is handicapped!
sepdafodils is really hard for parents with handicapped children bc i seen that many of them feel guilty about their child not having a normal life. So they overprotect and the so call normal child is often pushed aside or made to also cater to the other. Is a tough situation. I worked in the juvenile justice system with different cases and after a few years i quit, people dont understand that children can be very cruel and often times is not parental abuse or neglect.
Not too sure if they have a case. If the situation was this bad why didn't they call the police and press charges? This is here say at this point. They better have medical records or some type of proof.
Yeah. I would bet that it was scary for the children in the neighborhood. And I definitely sympathize with them. But they could have held a neighborhood meeting to sort the situation out instead of being jerks and assuming they were dealing with bad parents who did not care. After all, were they supervising their kids? No! And some of their kids might even have provoked the situation. I remember one little boy kept following my son around in the pool, telling him: "My mother says you are a bad boy (because you splash)." Every time Harry moved away, the child followed, saying these mean things. I told him to move away from my child. And he was ignoring me for a long time-- being a verbal bully. So, if Harry smacked him, I would have considered the boy responsible. He was stalking and harassing my son. Who knows what those neighbor kids did to the boy in that news story?
Renee Bream what kind of parent are you to let that continue first of all and secondly allow your child to think that someone saying something is reason enough for him to hit them???
My daughter with autism knows better for hitting and biting. She understands it’s not nice. But many autistic kids unfortunately are not being supervised properly.
What is ironic is that we only have one side of the story...no evidence to back up the claims of these individual parents... If your child is savagely beaten by another child you would think that the police would be called... As the one gentleman put it... Moreover, they don't know if the parents actually did put the house up for sale it may be a private sale where there will be no signage posted... Perhaps this boils down to the fact that this child is different from their children and they don't want the child interacting with their children at all and because they can't stop this they will use any means necessary through the court system... But yet without documentation and seeking monetary damages... Which throws a red flag... Why seek monetary damages if you're trying to have an individual banned for being a public nuisance... Yet no physical or property damage reported to authorities...how would you even go on the grounds of public nuisance when you're saying that this individual is violent at times of interactions with their peers... It actually does sound like a Witch Hunt...
+Cassy Chun-Crogan No it isn't. The child is a danger to the public, and someone has to do something, which it seems the parents weren't. How many times do we hear of people being arrested for shaking a child? Now we hear the autistic child is doing it to other kids. Oh, that's nothing? It's to be overlooked? How many times does someone on that street need to be attacked before something is done about it? And Cassy? This is coming from someone whose family has been touched by autism. Even I see these people were victims, and the autistic child has to be dealt with.
Cassy Chun-Crogan I agree with you saying that it's tricky. I have autism(but a very mild form), and I can say that the family in question moved out, so, it should of taken care of itself. But, the 2 other families have a point, but they need more info on Autism. We should all get along, so they can drop their suit and leave them alone. The one exception I'm giving is if the new neighbors are having the same issues. That's it.
nakyer I have friends on the spectrum and have anger issues and they lose control when upset however after words they are deeply sorry! I think this case is about empathy and whether you understand it enough
I don't think it's really particularly tricky, if the reports are true. If the child doesn't have the judgement or control to be safe unsupervised, then it's not OK to leave him unsupervised.
People scream "treat them like a human and regular person!!" but put up the "noo it's not his fault you can't blame him for this!" when he does something and gets disciplined like a regular person
Its just sad when people have to chase off an innocent family with a lawsuit. The two families suing should rethink their game plan and quite trying to see how far they can stick their hand in the cookie jar. This is just a crusade to get blood money.
I've seen a 9 year old autistic child take down both parents and 3 Police officers. Taken to a Mental Hospital and sedation with Haldol and Thorazine took the edge of. In a residential facility for nearly 5 years now, and eventually moved to a special place with no other children, he remains non-verbal and attacking. The Specialized School wants him to go away, too. He fecal smears. There is no end to the torture for his mother who has suffered concussion after concussion, endless bites, hair ripped out, etc. After knocking her out once, he jumped through the glass of the bedroom window and eloped. (That's not romantic. It's the technical term for an autistic child who escapes.) Fortunately, she lives in New York, where she isn't financially responsible for his 'education'. Others aren't so fortunate. The neighbors should be thankful for the 'Normal' children they have.
Anastasia Beaverhausen Yes that is why during pregnancy there are multiple scans/tests to ensure the foetus is not developmentally challenged and is normal. No child deserves to live an inhuman life.
It is not the neighbors' responsibility to take care of him and teach him proper behavior, it is the parents'. "It takes a village to raise a child" is bull, it only takes good dedicated parents.
Nikki Uribe People who make kids are responsible for them too. This is not a simple case where some compassion can save the day. The kid was assaulting other kids! The parents of the violent child should have compassion for the parents of the victimised children!
Supervise your damn kids. My autistic son is never out of my sight
So true, I have 2 toddlers on the spectrum and they don't make a move without me knowing when we are out in public. I know how impulsive they are. And in the few incidents where my oldest got a little to close for comforted with others kids I simple redirect him and make it a point to apologize to the child and the adult. Parents like this give our community a bad rep.
Ana Garcia nice points being made. im on fence with this one. I think disability is not exscuse to be nasty.....but we dont know the severity of autism.
Ariel Mcnie agreed but the neighbors clearly are leaving their kids unsupervised too.
Scootchie and Boo good point. Honestly i try to treat most people equally. With disabilities and working with kids i have same basic standards for both average kids and kids with many different limitations. Just the way i go about handling disrupting child is different. Also if a kid knocks down a four year old off a bike is dangerous, family is lucky neighborhood children didn't break arm or leg.
Ariel Mcnie Too true, hopefully the whole neighborhood realizes that its mot just that family that needs to watch their child, everyone should watch their kids, its 2017 and over 20000 kids are reported missing every year, There are worse people out there and people to need wake up and do their job as parents. We are the childrens guardians, start guarding them.
My son has autism and doesn't go around attacking people. He's actually even more kind and gentle . This is bad parenting not autism.
Judy Paranish Thank you for understanding.
***** That's exactly how I feel. My son shouldn't feel bad for other people's shortcomings. Please don't ever feel bad when you here these stories! You're not to blame for these people's bad decisions.
***** Yes Shannon I so agree.
exactly. that's why they are suing the parents
La Love it's not the same for everyone with autism. Some of us are gentle, like me, but others can be violent at times.
The parents of the child are at fault. They should be constantly observing/supporting their child. I have an autistic child who hit/kicked/slapped me daily from age 3 till just after he turned 5, it took time, but he eventually learned that behavior would cancel any reward for that day. No park, no Happy Meal, no TV, unless it was educational. He is now 14 and the sweetest, kindest soul you will ever meet, but he HATES educational tv, lol
Malia Elissabeth you are a good parent.
Malia Elissabeth ~ I can't imagine how tough that time was for you and your son. Consistency, as well as finding & adapting the right method, can be a challenge. It's worth it though. It requires the parents, like you, to be present & active in the child's/children's lives. Every kid poses his/her own challenge. I have 2, and what works for one doesn't always work for the other. Congratulations on doing the hard work (and I'm sure shedding some tears 😉) that allowed you & your son to come out on the other side of a difficult time. Blessings to you, your son, and your family!
Malia Elissabeth Is he into go animate? Go animate users tend to hate educational shows.
Michael Carvajal are you 10? people who are ten would think that's funny
TheShockinglyEloquentDog woof That wasnt a joke. Chill.
just because a child has a disability does not mean they can't be disciplined even children with disabilities have to be taught they can not be allowed to just do whatever they please!
Angela R Cooper exactly! I have an autistic child and she's disciplined when she hits, kicks or slaps....its mostly her dad and I. we do time outs and verbally correct her. they can learn it's wrong.
Angela R Cooper true but the other parents can't discipline that child the child parents must do that and they are responsible for that child action.
Horace Simon I know what I meant was that the parents of the child with autism should know that just because he has autism does not mean he can't be disciplined, when I was growing up I had a sister who was very ill and my mom would never discipline her because she was afraid she was going to kill her literally she was afraid if she disciplined her it would kill her, and people just got to realize disciplining your children is not going to kill them. Back in my day if we did something wrong and the neighbor saw us they had two choices they could get on to us or they could tell our parents back in my day was perfectly fine for Neighbors to get on to your kids the world has changed so much.
You are right! I have an autistic child and she knows right from wrong and if she does wrong she is disciplined for the wrong behaviors.
Angela R Cooper A bad child is a bad child. I don't understand people's thought processes.
You are responsible for your child disability or not. If the child is assaulting others, the parents are liable.
No, millennial's are not responsible for their actions.... they have participation awards, they're special
Chris Calo What does this have to do with vaccines?
Vaccines don't cause autism genetics do.
Also not vaccinating your kids has lead to horrible diseases to return like measles.so even if it did cause austism which it doesn't would you rather have a austic kid or a dead kid?
Let me guess you also believe in homoepathy when it's a laughing stalk even in the alternative medicine world?
Chris Calo you are an idiot.
George Jetson I dont have any participation awards, but i do have a few Army Achievement Awards. Don't assume all millennials are the same.. You do realize millennial is from early 1980 s _ 2000s.. Thats literally millions of adults.
I was ready to go off on the neighbors, but I'm with them. The boy clearly needs more help than he's getting from his parents. If they can't handle his behavior, he needs to be somewhere that can.
Gel gun or pellet gun maybe even shock collar
Listen the parents could have prevented this by keepin an eye on their kid. No one is mad at the child, it's the fact that he needs to be restrained from assaulting people.
bronco girl No, all parents need not keep running behind their kids or supervise them if their child is not a public threat. The parents of the child who physically harm others are the ones that need to be out and about.
bronco girl Yes let’s all get politically correct and paint a happy unicorn! A threat is a threat autism or not. And no the other children dint need the constant supervision because ‘they’ dint go around physically assaulting other children!
If you have kids then you are responsible for them, if they assault other kids then you better be ready for the consequences CASE CLOSED
bronco girl except he is a threat. He has no control over his physical outbursts. That's a threat. What happens when he's 25 and pushes a child because no one corrects it now. He's not going to mature or outgrow it. It's going to get worse if not addressed now and the state will step in and institutionize him when he gets to big and is still having outbursts. Other children shouldn't have to suffer or not be able to play outside.
bronco girl I'm pretty sure all they said was supervise him. The family chose to leave instead of doing so.
Autism is not an excuse to let the behavior be thought of as acceptable. Whether on the autism spectrum or not, when a child strikes, kicks, bites, or spits on another child, you discipline them. For an autistic child that discipline may be a bit different, but it's still 100% present. If I was one of these parents, I would try to reach out to the parents, and get a better idea on how to educate my child to interact with their child, and their specific needs, but if after that the behavior continued and I knew there was no discipline or reprimanding at all, I'd be upset. Autism is no excuse to allow your child to assault other children. There's still a need for discipline. You're still responsible for teaching that child how to interact appropriately with others.
exactly Good point
you’re clearly neurotypical
AGREED
@Brie, Do you know about autism? The people that sued the family of thee autistic child took it to far in my opinion. This could possibly make it hard for other families of autistic children. And yes I’m autistic. And I’m afraid that people will start going after families with autistic children for a law suit because they didn’t like the Parents or child so they thought I will just sue them and I don’t have to deal with them anymore. I think Suing the family was definitely unnecessary. You shouldn’t sue someone. Because, I think there’s more to this story than the news in this video are telling us. *Like what were the neurotypical children or non-autistic children doing to this child?* #actuallyautistic
Some kids are harder to deal with and it is about autism they’re kids don’t have it so they don’t care. It’s easy to say discipline your kids but disciplining those types of kids are very different. There trying to get money that’s all. Some autistic kids pull there own hair hit them selves bite them Selves, And bite others.
When you have a disabled child it is your responsibility as the parent caretaker to make sure your child is supervised at all times. My youngest daughter has mosaic down syndrome and it is normal for her to have emotional outbursts and sometimes forget her own strength but it is my job to stay aware and keep her safe and those around her as well. Those types of tantrums are nothing compared to an autism related outburst those can go on for hours and are usually physical in nature. Negligent parenting end of story.
Kari Waska I work with autistic kids. Every case is different but it’s extremely unlikely for it to go on for hours.
Rebecca Brown I've cared for my cousin who has the most debilitating type of autism and her screaming and clawing herself would go on for 8 hours at a time. She's 33 now and her mom has never had support in her adult life so she makes her own schedule and bad coping mechanisms. It's so frustrating her mom is so lazy.
Kari Waska Wow. I work in a large school for kids who have autism and or epilepsy. Ours can try to hurt themselves and or others but it doesn’t usually go on for that long. From one Carer of an autistic person/s I just want to say your doing a great job. It isn’t always easy but your certainly not alone
Rebecca Brown To you as well ,my friend.
Kari Waska caring for people with disabilities is nowhere near as easy as some of these youtubers seem to think it is. We should all have a little bit more respect and understanding for each other and quit tearing eachother down. I wish you and your family good things to come!
My son has autism, he's not really too violent but he does lose his temper when he gets frustrated with something he get confused with.
He goes to school and gets on with all the other children fine and they know he has autism. But you had better believe those kids know to get out of his way when he starts showing signs of losing it and that those teachers know to remove him from the room! He has no right to be making other kids feel scared or put them in danger, autism or not!
When he's playing out at home myself or my husband go sit in the garden watching him. Even the other kids parents will watch him to let me go make dinner! If they didn't, I'd wait till he came in to make dinner!
He once threw his bike and missed the neighbours kid by inches. My son was grounded for a month. At school he kicked a table that hit a girl in his class and bruised her, the school asked me what to do and I said give him detention for a week the same as any other kid!
Autism is a reason for a lot of things, it's not an excuse for parents to shrug off everything that their children do because they can't be bothered. The head of the autism society makes me so angry in this video, the court has to protect the other children from parents who are unwilling to find a way of supervising their son!
No one said being a parent of an autistic child is easy! But being a parent whose kid comes home saying the boy across the street attacked them is just as hard!
Anna Billie and what happens if a child in a wheelchair can’t get out of the way if your child’s violent temper. Maybe he shouldn’t be in mainstream school
THANK YOU! Yes. You are a great parent. It made me sick to my stomach when they read off the quote from the parents basically blaming the fact that the kid has autism instead of taking responsibility.
Anna Billie thanks for the book.
Anna thank you for your answer my hat to you for being such a good parent . I knew a teacher assistant who was seriously injured by a child with an autism spectrum disorder who was having a meltdown while trying to protect another child from him.
Antonina MacNeish the correct term is encephalopathy. Thats what what you call autism spectrum disorder really is.
I have autism (high-functioning), and you don’t see me going around attacking people for no reason. I only hit back in self-defense, and I really thought this was going to make me mad, but honestly I don’t blame them. Disabled or not, you’ve gotta teach your kids to use their words, and if they don’t know what their words are, give them the words.
Autism or not, the parents are responsible for the behaviour of their child and supervise their kid to avoid him harming other kids. Getting professional help is also a must in this case.
I have a child with autism and i blame the parents for not getting him the services he needs to control his behavioral impulses.. I've had to fight blood sweat and tears for 15 years with minimal funds however with endurance and respect for others I've found resources to help with reducing his behaviors. It truly takes hard work and courage to ensure a successful outcome with ADS kids.. Early intervention is vital for the progress of a child on the autism spectrum disorder.. So many parents either don't know or won't research for help. I'm a divorced and now single mom so it's no excuse for a married couple to neglect getting the help that the child needs to live a productive life.
What helped me was horses. They can be very relaxing. Totally agree with your comment by the way. This case is just sad in so many ways.
To Be ready, Be ready, so let me get this straight , you had to fight tooth and nail to get your own child services, but you are going to blame the parents for not having services for their child???? I do not know if you were fighting for services at his school or if you are talking about providing services at home??? I am a parent with an adult daughter with developmental disabilities so I know about fighting for services. These parents may have enough Services at school , but not in home services for their child. And the parents MAY not be aware that in home services are available to them so they may not know what services to ask for to help them at home, the agency that serves people with disabilities does not always provide a parent with a list of services to help their child. And again, it can be even harder to get in home services like possibly in home behavioral services for a child who has a great need for this service. The agency could provide the family with a trained behavior specialist that is trained to work with any type of developmental disabilities and behavioral issues in their home. they would help the parents work on his specific behaviors and work with child too. again, though we do not know if the parents know these services are available to them or if they Tried to get these services but was not able to get the services at home. we just do not know, but as you said, from your own experiences that you had to fight tooth and nail to get your child services, so you should be the last parent to judge these parents cause we do not know anything about what Services they have or don't have and do not know if the parents are aware of Services for help at home too. we just do not know. I think we need more understanding and empathy cause it sounds like they need emotional support more than blame and judgements..
Yeah it is extremely hard to get the proper services the children need and when that child grows up they end making it even harder. Where I am parents had to abandon their adult children to get the help.
That is really sad that parents had to abandoned their Adult children in order to get help for them. I am fortunate because my adult daughter lives with me in my home, She is 34 years of age but her mental functioning is a 5 year old level. Just sad! That is why we really need to be careful cause we do not know all the facts of this family situation.
It is. There was a case in Toronto years ago where a family had to give up custody of their severely disabled infant daughter to get the help and services she needed. Due to money. That is not right. The topic in this youtube video or news broadcast is hard. The services are just not out there and I had worked in childcare and some parents are in not believing the truth of their diagnosis and will not work with the child. This could be due to culture and meantime that child is falling behind hurting other children because he or she has something going on and needed that support so that they can learn and some just need that extra learning so that they can have friends and have a somewhat normal life. I hope you understand What I am trying to say because it is hard to describe it. There are therapies that do work but some parent do not apply them for some reason.
I'm RBT certified Behavioral Therapist that works with children with Autism or ASD every single day, and when dealing with a child which displays and exhibits aggressive or violent behaviors towards others, it's up to the Parents or Guridans or Therapist's and Paraprofessionals to be properly trained to thwart any kind of Physical contact between the child or client, it doesn't make a difference if the child exhibiting these negative behaviors has autism or not, the same way you wont send a child to school who has a infectious disease or criminal out of jail unless the people around them are properly protected!
Aron Tyberg may I ask how you received your RBT I'm a tudor for children with disabilities and I'm very interested in obtaining a certificate to hold more credibility when applying for like minded jobs. I'm very curious my email is vnv427@yahoo.com if you would prefer to stay more private I completely understand. thank you. God bless your for ur help in these children's development. it's a gift and you have to have a light to work with these children with needs. often we forget ourself or we do us last, but I want you to know all your hard worked is not over looked in the truest eyes. thank you again.
I worked with adults and kids woth developmental disabilities for over 5 years. This is unacceptable. People with disabilities want to be treated the same as everyone else and that includes being held responsible for your actions. This is a case of dismissive parents who probably let him do what he wants for a large number of reasons. Too many parents think that we should treat their kids differently becasue they have a disability and it just isn't the case. If they keep letting their son do This, theyre really going to set him up for failure.
I fully agree with these neighbors. These parents need to be held accountable for not supervising their child, autistic or not. You cannot just use your child's disability as an excuse, it is your responsibility as a parent to supervise and take action to protect other children as well as your own
I have dealt with people who have autism. Yes, they can be violent but with structure and supervision, they are not. This is not about a child with autism. This is about a child hurting other children. I am all for equal treatment for every body, but if somebody's hurting my child autistic or not, I'm gonna take action.
Pilar S. Adams Same.
Pilar S. Adams they didnt have autism.
Look at it this way, if you have a dog that attacks people, who's responsibility is it?
If you have a child that attacks people, who's responsibility is it?
I strongly believe that children who are violently aggressive towards other people need to be in a special situation, a special school, and they need monitoring from someone at all times
I was nearly drowned by an autistic kid when I was 5. She grabbed my hair and held me underwater, my mom (who was watching my two siblings) saw what was going on and ran over to get me just in time. One of the most traumatizing moments in my life.
stop trying to antagonize autistic people
the kids 11. that's not a small child. he'll get bigger as he ages & will be causing real injuries to others soon enough.
To be fair our disability or disorder cannot be used as an excuse for everything. I have autism too, as do most of my friends. It's not an excuse to get away with everything, or to not ensure you control your kids. If your kid is violent then you need to properly supervise him and manage that behaviour!
@Green I know. That's the reason for the final sentence. I work with some very violent kids with autism. It can be managed to keep others safe. It takes support, careful supervision and boundaries.
In elementary school I was attacked by another child with autism. She ran up to me, shoved me, grabbed my hair and started trying to rip my hair out of my head. It was very traumatic. I'm a full supporter for anyone with needs, but that's not an excuse to allow kids to attack other kids.
The kids who keep getting attacked have rights too. Having a child with a disability doesn't mean those other kids shouldn't be protected.
People with autism are a public nuisance. Some of them are
Perry Mehta I agree with you
No people with autism are not a public nuisance. I have autism and I am not.
There's a really bad side to it.
I've dealt with it before. I never had it, but it has been driving me fucking insane for 3 years. Getting progressively worse overtime.
So the judge wants the neighbors to "get together" and work out a "safety plan". EFF that I am not working out a safety plan with other parents for THEIR CHILD. The safety plan is the law that say you can not assault other people. There is nothing to "work out".
None of this is about autism, or the child. It is about terrible parenting!
You can't allow your child to assault other people. The parents need to be sued, and sued for a huge amount.
My daughter has autism. She is incredibly sweet natured and doesn't even defend herself when her younger brother hits her. I stop him. I've even told her to hit him back figuring, if she did, he might stop. Nope. She won't. She is only 6, but has never been in a fight. She is my angel!
My point of this is, DON'T blame the autism for his behavior. That is a boy who is allowed to do whatever he wants because his parents blame the autism, and therefor don't discipline him. In this case, I would file a suit too.
Kristen I do not think anyone is blaming the disorder or the child, but his parents are definitely to blame, it is their responsibility to teach him eight from wrong , autistic children are not stupid and they can learn with proper teaching techniques and supervision, and if the parents don't know how to handle their child they should find a therapist to work with him on acquiring socialization skills.
Antonina MacNeish autism is not a real disease.
mcrchickenluvr yea, okay. Whatever you wanna believe. You don't know shit about science. Because school only teaches you enough to survive in this world and not enough to get ahead. Also go ahead and debate that with scientists proves you wrong.
Saint matthias Prove to us that it doesn’t exist. I want sources.
Kristen Long autism is a spectrum with different symptoms. Also boys are completely different to girls on the spectrum.
the lawsuit is really about lazy parents who don't supervise their struggling child. I am sure we all agree that the poor child is not to blame and it is lame for his parents to hide behind their child's disability as a reason they don't have to be responsible and supervise him to prevent him from hurting other kids
GOOD FOR THE NEIGHBORS...SUING!!!! THESE CHILDREN .........ARE BEING ASSAULTED BY THIS KID!!!!!
THIS IS ABOUT A CHILD ...WHO IS...OUT OF CONTROL AND HURTING OTHER CHILDREN!!!!!
I would absolutely sue if this was happening in my neighborhood!! Horrible parenting, this is so awful.
when I was little one of the children in my neighborhood was very violent and aggressive. One day he showed up (uninvited) to my little brothers 6th birthday party, just walked right into the backyard. 10 minutes later he started throwing the worst fit I've ever seem him have. He got a branch and started hitting people with it (even my 3 year old cousin), throwing chairs, hitting our propane tank, he even broke a window and almost started a fire by knocking over the grill. finally my dad and uncle pinned him down and called his mom and police. His mom never showed up, she didn't even known he had left. He was about 10 years old then. Fast forward 18 years later and he's in prison for almost beating his girlfriend to death infront of their kid.
my point: I'm 100% on the parents side for wanting to keep their kids safe. This child, although ill, is still very dangerous.
My god…
As someone who works with children, parents who do not set boundaries for their disabled children places everyone at risk to physical harm.
I personally think that ALL parents of children With or WITHOUT disabilities should be setting boundaries for their children because even Non disabled kids *can do harm* to kids with disabilities. There are STUDIES that show that MORE students with disabilities are bullied every day by non disabled students in the schools across the USA, than with the students with disabilities.
My friend's son was bullied on a regular basis at school. He is disabled. This happened a long time ago. Many incidents took place at school with other students bullying him. Parents kept going to the school to meet with teacher & principal, but they just kept reassuring them that they would help him when they saw it happening to him, but could not do anything about if they did not see it, cause it would be there son's word over the other students. And they had to have proof it was really happening to him.
He had an incident during a PE class outside on the school grounds. The PE teacher told the students they could have free play. There was a PE teacher and 3 other teachers outside where all the students were playing. The teacher were talking to one another not really paying attention. My friend's son was throwing the ball in the basket hoop by himself. Three other students started bothering him, and took the ball away from him.Then started picking on him, which ultimately led to the three students pushing him, calling him names and then got him down in a head lock and the other two students kicking him. This was all happening right under the nose of a PE teacher and the other teachers who were still talking to one another, and not noticing anything that was happening to him.
He was yelling for help, but no help came from the teachers, he was on his own to handle that situation. It just so
happened that his Father happened to be coming home from town, he just happened to drive by the school. He saw all the students outside playing. He just thought he would stop to see if his son was out there.
First he did not see him, but he saw the three students holding a student down and kicking him. He did not know that it was his son getting beat up cause he could not see him for the other kids were in the way, he started honking his horn in his car from the street to get the teachers attention cause he did not just want to ignore & drive away, and leave a student getting beat up, so he kept honking, but the teacher did not hear his horn, and he could not get there attention. He was just about to go to the office at the school and report what he saw happening and his son finally was able to break free of these three students that held him down. When he got away from them, He saw his dad, He told the boys that you better leave me alone cause that is my dad and he is watching you. His son ran to his dad that was on the street in his car and these teachers never saw his son leave the school grounds with his dad. They were still talking to one another.
His dad drove him to the school office and went and told the principal what he witnessed happening. All the principal did was say she was sorry that happened to his son. She would talk to the PE teacher about it, but still nothing happened to those three boys for their actions. Shortly after, both parents went to the district office and complained. The district office apologized to the parents and said they would check into it and get back to them, but nothing came of it.
Eventually my friend's son got so extremely depressed, he wrote a short note to his parents and told them good bye and he requested in the note they play a particular song at his funeral. His mother found the note on the kitchen table. She got to him in time and found him in the trunk of the car with the hood closed down. it was over 85 degrees that day and if she did not find him as fast as she did he would have died for sure. The parents got mental health involved and counseling for their son and he changed schools He was in a regular class at the old school and had a 504 plan, , but his mother was always fighting to get him in a special ed class room. The new school did place him in a special education class.
So you see, you can not just direct this at only parents of disable kids, it is also parents who have kids with no disabilities doing the same, AND it is the job and the responsibility of the SCHOOLS that need to set boundaries and start taking real action, when bullying is happening to students. Schools need to be a safe place for ALL kids! Bullying can & does lead to suicide for kids of young ages & teenagers ,and it sadly happens way more than you know.
Well thank you for reminding me the importance of preserving a healthy stable environment for all children, especially inside a school environment. You should direct this passion in your school district. You could still attend meetings and even share your experiences as well as concerns with people capable of making important decisions for their district.
The parents obviously weren't keeping there kid in sight and in check
Titan So? Does this mean they're not entitled to seek justicr after their pets have been sat on, after their kids got bit and spat on, after A FOUR YEAR OLD GOT PUSHED OFF OF HIS BIKE, KICKED IN THE SPINE AND THEN LIFTED FROM THE GROUND BY HIS HAIR?
Oh my, these people are really overreacting, huh? {sarcasm alert}
Moral of the story: don’t have kids, way too much work and liability. Live a free life and be happy.
Years ago we were looking for an apartment in LA. We came across one at a very affordable price. However something didn't seem right, because the price was below comparable apartments. My wife and I were in the back yard talking to the landlady when a neighbor waved me over. He told me the kid on the upper floor had attacked kids of prior renters. We thanked the woman and left.
Okay well If the parents can’t control their kid he should be taken away from them.
I'm with the neighbors here. If the parents know he has issues he should NEVER be left unattended. If they won't supervise their child they need to leave before someone gets hurt badly because of their negligence.
People need to stop using autism as an excuse. If you can't help your kid put them in a program that will. Autism needs to be separate from behaivors that amount to assault. An experienced aide could potentially help that kid if mom and dad doesn't want to deal. Plus they moved, when people move like that you know they're guilty.
Spiral Breeze autism isnt real.
Spiral Breeze Yes well said
Saint matthias yes it actually is. But that said, it’s that families issue, not the issue of the innocent children he’s attacking.
Loura Delaney you can believe autism is real of you want. But I have proven that it isn't. Yet you continue to deny it. It's not just the families problem. It's anyone who has a kid problem.
Saint matthias Oh you’ve proven its wrong? When exactly did you graduate with advanced degrees in medical sciences where you can disavow ALLLLLL the documented research proving otherwise? Or is your area of knowledge ‘I don’t agree so it isn’t true’? Gtfoh 😂
I had to move out of my rental home because our next door neighbors did a poor job of keeping their autistic child on their property and off of ours. He would be in our back and front yards. He would turn on our water hoses and wet our things. He would wake me up out of bed because he was running and screaming near my bedroom window. He would run around naked in his yard and one time pooped while naked and threw his poop onto our yard. I grew tired of nicely asking the family if they could please try harder to keep the child off of our property. With a child of my own on the way, I had to get out of there right away. I couldn't take it any longer.
I appreciate all the autism-parents chiming in and sharing your experiences. You all sound like capable, committed pants doing the best for your children.
Thank you.
spiralrose so your saying a child on the spectrum and not high functioning should get a pass and the family not be held responsible? Sounds like the child is dangerous and may need to be confined or even institutionalized if the parents are incapable of protecting other children From their own Child. I am sure you would be upset if another child was beating your kid or biting. Sounds like the kid is a danger to society.
spiralrose autism isn't real.
Saint matthias get off the meth guy
@@saintmatthias8187 it is real and I’m autistic.
@@saintmatthias8187 autism is real and I’m autistic.
The parents have to monitor and keep their kid under control. They can't allow their child to keep attacking others and expect nothing to happen.
Honestly I completely agree with the law suit when I was in school I was attacked all the the by a boy with Autism and I told teachers and nobody did anything
Carrie Anne plumper damn man that sucks I have high functioning autism but I could see why your was their no one watching the kid did they at least help you with your injuries
of course you do, LOOK AT YOU!!! YOUR PROFILE PICTURE GIVES IT AWAY EASILY THAT YOU’RE STUPID!!!!
Whenever people use the word “witch hunt”, they are almost always guilty.
If a kid with a disability (or any kid) came to harm do to lack of supervision or was found wandering around unsupervised the guardians would be held responsible for it. If the child causes harm do to lack of supervision they should also be held responsible. The neighbors are not suing or even blaming the child. They are blaming the parents and want them to responsibly look after their kid.
as children we were sexual assaulted by a kid with disabilities. doesn't mean they are above the law if they don't completely "know" better. it's pretty fucked up that kids can't be kept safe
It's about the parents not taking responsibility for the volatile nature of their child.
My nephews in laws have a disabled girl (hearing). She has been catered to and coddled her whole life and now that she is a teenager she is terrifying. She hit her mother so hard she knocked her out the only person who can make her behave is my nephew. I’m afraid she’s going to end up in jail for assault or worse. She is truly terrifying.
we had a neighbor who has a son with autism. the boy was big for his age and at 12 he was the size of an 18 year old. he was never supervised and bullied the neighborhood children. one time he ran my daughter over with his bike. his parents wouldn't even apologize so my husband filled a police report against them. the family had to go to parenting classes and anger management classes.
Lisa L Good for you. I'd have filed a report too. Not only did you protect your daughter but you helped the other kid get the help he needed as well. Even though his idiot parents had to be forced.
Nirrrina thank you
I don't blame the families at all just because you have a disability doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want to others my neighbors kids are similar always hitting or taking my kids toys just because the parents don't teach them wrong from right
Harper Grace autism is NOT an excuse!!!! Make your brat behave'!! I have two disabled nephews but they are very well behaved. I hate it when people use autism excuses for downright meaness
Harper Grace It is hard to teach am autistic child right from wrong in many cases.
Harper grace
"My kid is autistic and his assaults didn't cause any serious injuries so why are we here?" They really think that it's the other kid's responsibility to just accept being assaulted.
similar situation in my neighborhood few years back; family moved in with a (very large) teenage boy with a mental illness who terrorized the neighborhood for months. The parents never did anything and rarely ever showed their faces. The allowed him to wander the neighborhood unchecked all the time. A family sued AND WON. It was about the negligence on the parents behalf ... not the teenage boy. We were all happy they won; hope these plaintiffs win too.
This kids parents should take responsibility. The plaintiffs have every right to protect their own children.
they need to have him in a program. my son has autism but i realize he needed to be around kids in a progam like him and thats where i got him. like these parents need to do their research.
I have autism and understand this. Autistic or not, if your child is harming others, then punish them!
CONTROL YOUR OFFSPRING BISH!
Well can't go around abusing ppl. Even if you have a disability
I have Autismn, I was very bad trying to communicate when I was younger. I have a job, a car and a permit for concealed carry. It's not the disability, it's the parents fault.
unokitsune I actually hate the people treat autism like a horrible mental disabillity..its an umbrella term many forms are high functioning. There are way worse disorders like bi polar or server anxiety disorders or even OCD that can impact a person much more than a lot of types of autism..you can deffinalty lead a normal life with autism and be held accountable for your actions as well.
@@vianjelos
I wish I could upvote this comment a thousand times
Bad parents for not parenting and then blaming it on their child’s disorder? Monsters.
I don’t care who u are and where u are ur child’s behaviour is your responsibility, not others so this is just a seek of well deserved justice
I agree with the parents trying to sue the family. If a child has special needs he/she should be supervised at ALL TIMES. Especially if a child is attacking other children.
These people are fed up. Probably understanding for as long as they could be, but people arent going to keep putting up with your kids disability if its causing harm to others.
My 2 sons have autism and absolutely have NEVER attacked anyone! This is just bad parenting!
My son is austic my friends sonis austic. They have never ever hurt anyone. This is the parents doing. I think the should investigate the boys parents. Maybe the parents are absuive or the dad. Or simple no one cares what the child is doing. I hope thats not the case.
Hillary Phelix. or maybe the child is severely autistic and has nothing to do with parents being the cause of his behaviors. remember you should know as having a child with Autism yourself that not all people with Autism are exactly alike. there are different levels on the spectrum of Autism.
Lori Wentz I know there are differnt types Austic. Yes i do the blame parents he was left to run around neighood with no supervision. That is not good parenting. I never let my son out of my sight and even though he Austic o treat him normale. If you Child has the autism that is violent. They need to be supervised more.Thid child was runing hurting kids in the neighhood hitting all the kids if his parents would of supervised him this prob would not have escalted to news.
I have already stated so many times here that WE the readers do not have ANY information about this boy and his parents, We do not know anything about this family or what they have done OR not done. You are assuming that the neighbors are giving you all the facts and the truth. And there are two sides to every story. There is very little information about this boy and his parents for you or anyone else to be blaming ANYONE!!
It is YOU doing the judging and the blaming cause you have already decided the boy is at fault and did what the neighbors said *without any proof* that it actually happened. The video clearly states that there are NO police reports to support these violent attacks occurred to the neighbors kids!! Did You really listen to the video??
Furthermore, You are also assuming that everyone on the spectrum is the same, There are all different functional levels and other disabilities that can occur with autism, so NO people with autism are not all the same. And You do not Know ANYTHING about this boy at all. No one does!!! It is a one sided video!
You state here you do not limit the good they can do and say also you do not limit the bad" . I do not refer to kids with any developmental disabilities as bad. People with disabilities are all different in what is going on with them individually. This is why special education call it an *IEP* which stands for *Individual Education Plan.* This little boy is NOT bad & neither are the parents just cause this one sided video blames the boy & the parents as being the ones at total fault .
How do you know this boy was not being harassed by the neighborhood kids FIRST. We do not know that at all one way or the other,. Cause again the video states that there were NO police reports to support the neighbor kids were violently attacked. NONE!!
First of all I do not promote violence at all.I believe there are other solutions than your way of handling things that would HELP than create more problems for everyone!!
You said above in your message to me, "it does not matter how disabled someone is if they attack you first, knock them out". So be *very prepared to live by what you teach* cause it MIGHT be your child that Attacks someone FIRST and HE could be the one to get severely beaten up and harmed for doing it.
As I said, I would rather solve it another way that HELPS, not make things worse. I guess I'm not so limited in my thinking cause I know there are better ways to solve problems & come up with real solutions that make it better for everyone.
I will end this by saying again, there is NO proof this boy violently attacked any of the neighbor kids, there are no police reports to support the neighbors claims. This video has many holes in the story.
Shelly Lopez it shows you have No knowledge of anything. that is all. lol
Some autistic kids are incredibly violent. It depends on the severity and the type of autism. The overwhelming majority are not violent at all but obviously this kid is not one of those cases. I don't think it's a case of abuse to the child, but I do think it's a case of horrendous parenting where they just let their kid do what they want to do because they don't want to put in the effort of parenting and teaching their child that violence is wrong. All children hit when they're between about 1 and 2 because they don't know it's bad, it's up to the parents to teach them that it's never okay.
I am an educator and it is important kids with any type of disability be monitored, for their child's own safety. People will be angered by this story, however, it is not fair for human beings (Child or adult) to impede upon others. Kids with Autism can learn and are functional. Therefore, teach and teach and teach your baby civility. Don't underestimate any child.... I hold all my students to a high standard.
Good for these neighbors! I have seen this type of activity first hand and if the parents don't keep control of the situation it only gets worse. Just because your kid has special needs doesn't mean you have the right to inflict them on to the rest of society.
I was always an open person when I was a teenager I volunteered at the Center for people Down syndrome. In the early 90s I moved in to a neighborhood that had 19-year-old child with Down syndrome. The parents would do nothing one night I was taking a shower the teenager would downs walked into my bathroom I was so scared. I was taking a shower. The parents of this teenager downs would do nothing to correct their child and everybody in the neighborhood put up with it because the kid had downs. She would walk in and out of peoples homes and when I spoke up seeing the parents need to control their child I was slammed. Parents feel so guilty about having disabled kids they’re spoiling them .
That’s Awful
As an educator I have seen very violent children with Autism. They have hurt teacher, staff and innocent children.
It would absolutely affect whether or not they could sell their house. That's one of the first things that I check when I move into a new neighborhood. I want to know if there is a bully on the street kids that aren't being watched what's going on. The same with wanting to know if there's a party house or a meth house. If my kids are going to be wandering around that neighborhood. I need to know that they're safe. And having a child that has autism myself, there are times where it can be hard to kind of monitor what's going on with them and make sure they're always in a safe place to do what they're supposed to be doing, but no disability is ever an excuse for bad behavior ever. I don't think these parents would have done this knowing the backlash they could've gotten if there wasn't a real serious issue of safety for their own children. To claim that a disabled child or a child with a disability is a menace or threat to anybody else takes a heck of a lot of balls. Because anybody who is claiming that it's just gonna be crucified is that awful hateful person
I'm gonna put my opinion on here. I have autism and my parents use to get heavily judged for disciplining me because I am an autistic child and I shouldn't be getting punished it's not my fault. My parents didnt punish me for having autism they punished me for misbehaving and for hitting and biting. I did get rewards if I behaved all week but if I had one outburst and misbehaved (depends on what it was) I would either lose the reward or get sent to my room or lose my stuff or even a spanking sometimes. My parents logic was always just because I have autism doesn't mean i don't know what I'm doing and I don't deserve to be punished for my bad behaviour.
Drew Leonardo sounds like you have great parents who did a great job at raising a decent human being who knows right from wrong and the value of earning things. You are amazing and a great example of overcoming .
This isn't about autism it's about bad parenting. Shame on those parents.
Watch your children.
My family and I had to move away from our beautiful home because our neighbors were extremely negligent with their autistic pre adolescent child. He would run around naked in their backyard and climb their tree making everything visible to us. A few times he would defecate whilst being naked and throw the feces into our yard. He would jump into yard and turn the water hose on and leave it for hours. He would kick my dog and terrorize him. He would run around our front and back yard almost daily. One time he broke into our house from our back door and was wandering around inside where my infant baby slept. The parents and the grandparents were soooooo fucking unapologetic about it all. I was having nightmares all the time imagining this kid breaking into our house and doing something to my baby. And law enforcement did nothing to force the parents to do more to keep their child on their property. I have a nephew with autism and I understand it's not the child's fault but the adult caregivers have be held more accountable for disturbances to their neighbors.
People don't understand how dangerous these kids and even adults can be at times. Especially higher functioning kids/adults, they can be even cold and calculating. People think that because they may not be able to learn how to drive or learn advanced concepts such as sciences or maths in school, that they don't have primitive brain functions that we all have that drive certain things. Just like how mothers will move cars when their kids are in danger. And sometimes these guys even understand full well the difference between right and wrong and eventually kids grow into adults and it's very easy for them to learn that there's just no consequences to bad behavior. It's very dangerous at times especially when parents/facilities enabler he behavior. But also sometimes you just feel like there's nothing you can do.
This is NOT an autistic behavior. Autism can make behavioural issues worse and impossible to break but it is solely the parents fault for never teaching anti violence. When I was in middle school, I went to a school specially for autistic kids. Almost a hundred kids in this school all with different issues. Some kids had trouble speaking, some would run off and potentially get injured, I myself have migraine due to sensory issues. All these kids and only one kid had a violence issue. Why was he the only one out of so many? Cause his pos parents were neglectful, violent, and never even tried to teach him hitting was bad.
Hi I'm Dad and how are they supposed to teach that?
How does everyone know his parents aren't trying to correct his behavior? I agree they do need to supervise him if that's what is needed. But learning takes time. Especially when one has developmental issues. It can take months or years to change behaviors depending on the severity.
Big question is if these children have random outbursts, and meltdowns why are they still sent to public schools around other children.
Be accountable, supervise your children and respect others around you. This is universal for all people.
I got bullied by the same 3 kids every day in my townhouse complex and school for 2 years. No lawsuit school did nothing and ive been a mental wreck for the past 20 years because of it should i try to sue the bullies parents for lifelong mental anguish?
if there are Zero police reports then the neighbors have no proof of such violent attacks and if there were violent attacks the neighbors would have called the police when those attacks occurred.
Autism is grossly over-diagnosed and has become a catch-all excuse for bad behavior.
If my small child is being violently assaulted by another child, that child's parents will learn very quickly that not controlling their child will create immediate consequences for them...period.
Suing and asking for the kids private medical and school records is absolutely crazy. If the boy is outta control he needs help. All those adults involved need to grow tf up!
parents are at fault....i can understand the injunction....but seeking damages? not about autism but its about money?
how will the property value go down if the assaults weren't even reported? but you get on national news to talk about it 🤔
im about to have my first child, and i really wouldnt want him attacking other children or being attacked by other children autistic or not. yes we should have consideration with disable children but we also have to protect our own. i knew a kid who was in a wheelchair, he was really nasty to his sister, was pushing her running his chair into her. one time he broke her arm. child services came to the home and the mom said the little girl fell. they visited the home a few times until child services took the girl away. the little girl told the social worker that her brother didnt like her. when they asked him if he was hurting her, he said yes bc she can walk and i cant. i would had never believe this if i wasnt there to hear it.
L A My god! That sounds sooo evil! The poor little girl! Being assaulted by her own brother and even her own mother not protecting her just because she is a normal child and her brother is handicapped!
sepdafodils is really hard for parents with handicapped children bc i seen that many of them feel guilty about their child not having a normal life. So they overprotect and the so call normal child is often pushed aside or made to also cater to the other. Is a tough situation. I worked in the juvenile justice system with different cases and after a few years i quit, people dont understand that children can be very cruel and often times is not parental abuse or neglect.
Sorry but if a child puts their hands on my child autism or not it will be an issue.
I have a cousin who has autism and he is one of the smartest kids I know.
Not too sure if they have a case. If the situation was this bad why didn't they call the police and press charges? This is here say at this point. They better have medical records or some type of proof.
Yeah. I would bet that it was scary for the children in the neighborhood. And I definitely sympathize with them. But they could have held a neighborhood meeting to sort the situation out instead of being jerks and assuming they were dealing with bad parents who did not care. After all, were they supervising their kids? No! And some of their kids might even have provoked the situation. I remember one little boy kept following my son around in the pool, telling him: "My mother says you are a bad boy (because you splash)." Every time Harry moved away, the child followed, saying these mean things. I told him to move away from my child. And he was ignoring me for a long time-- being a verbal bully. So, if Harry smacked him, I would have considered the boy responsible. He was stalking and harassing my son. Who knows what those neighbor kids did to the boy in that news story?
Renee Bream what kind of parent are you to let that continue first of all and secondly allow your child to think that someone saying something is reason enough for him to hit them???
It's about poor parenting not autism.
My daughter with autism knows better for hitting and biting. She understands it’s not nice. But many autistic kids unfortunately are not being supervised properly.
What is ironic is that we only have one side of the story...no evidence to back up the claims of these individual parents... If your child is savagely beaten by another child you would think that the police would be called... As the one gentleman put it... Moreover, they don't know if the parents actually did put the house up for sale it may be a private sale where there will be no signage posted... Perhaps this boils down to the fact that this child is different from their children and they don't want the child interacting with their children at all and because they can't stop this they will use any means necessary through the court system... But yet without documentation and seeking monetary damages... Which throws a red flag... Why seek monetary damages if you're trying to have an individual banned for being a public nuisance... Yet no physical or property damage reported to authorities...how would you even go on the grounds of public nuisance when you're saying that this individual is violent at times of interactions with their peers... It actually does sound like a Witch Hunt...
Cindy Gordon very much agreed, you said it all perfectly.
That's a tricky one
+Cassy Chun-Crogan
No it isn't. The child is a danger to the public, and someone has to do something, which it seems the parents weren't. How many times do we hear of people being arrested for shaking a child? Now we hear the autistic child is doing it to other kids. Oh, that's nothing? It's to be overlooked? How many times does someone on that street need to be attacked before something is done about it?
And Cassy? This is coming from someone whose family has been touched by autism. Even I see these people were victims, and the autistic child has to be dealt with.
Cassy Chun-Crogan I agree with you saying that it's tricky. I have autism(but a very mild form), and I can say that the family in question moved out, so, it should of taken care of itself. But, the 2 other families have a point, but they need more info on Autism. We should all get along, so they can drop their suit and leave them alone. The one exception I'm giving is if the new neighbors are having the same issues. That's it.
nakyer I have friends on the spectrum and have anger issues and they lose control when upset however after words they are deeply sorry! I think this case is about empathy and whether you understand it enough
Cassy Chun-Crogan not really
I don't think it's really particularly tricky, if the reports are true. If the child doesn't have the judgement or control to be safe unsupervised, then it's not OK to leave him unsupervised.
Once again it's non-responsible parents, neighbors are right to protect their own kids.
People scream "treat them like a human and regular person!!" but put up the "noo it's not his fault you can't blame him for this!" when he does something and gets disciplined like a regular person
the two families need to settle and communicate, not sue for money
Jessica Kalinowski don't assume it's the same as not knowing a fucken thing!
whatever its my opinion and im sticking to it
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Jessica Kalinowski fuckin*
Its just sad when people have to chase off an innocent family with a lawsuit. The two families suing should rethink their game plan and quite trying to see how far they can stick their hand in the cookie jar. This is just a crusade to get blood money.
I've seen a 9 year old autistic child take down both parents and 3 Police officers. Taken to a Mental Hospital and sedation with Haldol and Thorazine took the edge of. In a residential facility for nearly 5 years now, and eventually moved to a special place with no other children, he remains non-verbal and attacking. The Specialized School wants him to go away, too. He fecal smears. There is no end to the torture for his mother who has suffered concussion after concussion, endless bites, hair ripped out, etc. After knocking her out once, he jumped through the glass of the bedroom window and eloped. (That's not romantic. It's the technical term for an autistic child who escapes.) Fortunately, she lives in New York, where she isn't financially responsible for his 'education'. Others aren't so fortunate. The neighbors should be thankful for the 'Normal' children they have.
Anastasia Beaverhausen Yes that is why during pregnancy there are multiple scans/tests to ensure the foetus is not developmentally challenged and is normal. No child deserves to live an inhuman life.
Just because a child has a disability doesn't mean they can't be held accountable for their actions. I agree with the other families.
Please explain what the other kids did to anger the autistic child. I have autism and was bullied constantly throughout my childhood
This is crazy . So un-compassionate . Parents and neighbors should get together and help the boy .
It is not the neighbors' responsibility to take care of him and teach him proper behavior, it is the parents'.
"It takes a village to raise a child" is bull, it only takes good dedicated parents.
Nikki Uribe 👍
Parents are responsible for their own children, remember that!
Nikki Uribe People who make kids are responsible for them too. This is not a simple case where some compassion can save the day. The kid was assaulting other kids! The parents of the violent child should have compassion for the parents of the victimised children!
I heard that kid sat on top of cats! He should be named Cat Flatter and get arrested!
If your child is a danger to other people, you need to do whatever is lawful to prevent him from hurting someone. Simple as that.
Don't have children if you are not going to take responsibility...