When your son is 40 and has autism - and you're getting on in age

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  • @helenahooley2076
    @helenahooley2076 Před 4 lety +8134

    his mother looks amazing for 74! she looks around 60

    • @zsazsadhysha2098
      @zsazsadhysha2098 Před 4 lety +145

      yeah I was looking for this comment. they look like in their 60

    • @bellakatherman1477
      @bellakatherman1477 Před 4 lety +109

      Helena Hooley it’s those Asian genes!! I think their diet is a factor also.

    • @ibrahims754
      @ibrahims754 Před 4 lety +79

      Naah looks 55!!

    • @elita7938
      @elita7938 Před 4 lety +1

      true...

    • @gwenstacyk9881
      @gwenstacyk9881 Před 4 lety +47

      Helena Hooley woot shes 74?? Look like 54 to me like fr!

  • @profatlas5079
    @profatlas5079 Před 4 lety +4629

    “That’s the beauty about my boy” ❤️🥺

  • @notfelix1477
    @notfelix1477 Před rokem +3960

    The father looked devastated while talking about the bads. But then his eyes lit up when he started to talk about the good. Very sweet

    • @Fredrikbb
      @Fredrikbb Před rokem

      But people in America think Autism and ADHD is a superpower though ^^

    • @marozim
      @marozim Před rokem +2

      222

    • @notfelix1477
      @notfelix1477 Před rokem +1

      @user-uz6bu7tq3h Right. I'm a doctor and I'm happy for you.

    • @deepbrit
      @deepbrit Před 11 měsíci +6

      Everyone who had a kis with birth defect went through this devastating experience

    • @christopher9727
      @christopher9727 Před 10 měsíci

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  • @itr0863
    @itr0863 Před rokem +3266

    "thats the beauty about my boy" . hit me in the feels. i'm 41 with a 6 yr old boy. makes me tear up watching this video. these parents are golden.

    • @cedarwho7
      @cedarwho7 Před rokem +34

      Mine is 18 now, it will get so so hard during puberty but then it gets better, day by day, slowly, it will be the best it's been. ❤

    • @ryebread105
      @ryebread105 Před rokem +36

      I’m also 41 with a 6 year old boy with autism. He’s non-verbal as well. I love him so much but I worry about his future. I pray to God for a miracle everyday.

    • @InsidePlay2023
      @InsidePlay2023 Před rokem +12

      my gorgeous, naughty and loving boy just turned 5 months old. he's the reason why I love to live long

    • @spaghettiking7312
      @spaghettiking7312 Před rokem +12

      My mom was in the same situation when she had me. She's in her 60s now. I worry about my future, but I hope I can be useful.

    • @Myuunium
      @Myuunium Před rokem +6

      @@ryebread105 Alongside praying, take the time to learn about autism and how to deal with it. Learn this from the side of the parent as well as the side of the one with autism so that you can give help and tips that are specific for those circumstances. I was 6 when I was diagnosed with autism and I never received the help I needed, but you can still give your kid a good life if you prep right.

  • @aymoon1539
    @aymoon1539 Před 4 lety +4385

    "he never complains. Thats the beauty of my boy" that hit me hard

    • @thisistheaccountname
      @thisistheaccountname Před 4 lety +29

      He may not complain vocally, but who knows if he is complaining internally.

    • @Ryuken2721
      @Ryuken2721 Před 4 lety +1

      Oh boy!

    • @EaZiE01
      @EaZiE01 Před 4 lety +4

      @@supplantermusic9413 Believe in Jesus, but don't be mislead. He isn't coming back. If you think he is coming back you missed his prophecy of the new age. You are waiting for something he has already done. I appreciate your zeal. Peace

    • @user-tr7kj1cs9k
      @user-tr7kj1cs9k Před 4 lety +1

      Svpplanter Music huh can jesus stop covid ?

    • @user-tr7kj1cs9k
      @user-tr7kj1cs9k Před 4 lety +1

      EaZiE01 siao de la!! This kind of ppl..make me laugh

  • @leehyunsong7001
    @leehyunsong7001 Před 4 lety +34177

    You cannot miss the parents love in this video

    • @davidsbookcase
      @davidsbookcase Před 4 lety +338

      Indeed, their love is so very strong.

    • @j.i.s.l178
      @j.i.s.l178 Před 4 lety +6

      🍿

    • @kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934
      @kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934 Před 4 lety +63

      Arthur C so touching how much they care

    • @Brandonhayhew
      @Brandonhayhew Před 4 lety +60

      If he was born in a third world country he would have been treated badly like an animal

    • @leehyunsong7001
      @leehyunsong7001 Před 4 lety +27

      books from Windblown dudu singapore was a third world country 40 years ago

  • @sidneyboo9704
    @sidneyboo9704 Před rokem +2007

    These parents are beyond their time. I love how they said they cannot expect the siblings to take care of him because they dont want to stress the other kids out. Appreciate that so much.

    • @moosepatil5946
      @moosepatil5946 Před 11 měsíci +61

      Why do you appreciate that? That his siblings won't help is not a good thing. You really think workers will treat him as good😂 His quality of life will free fall and if God is good, he will follow his parents shortly afterward. If not, then he will be neglected and given rudimentary care until he dies....that God his siblings don't have to help.🙄😒

    • @jiaminsee283
      @jiaminsee283 Před 11 měsíci +237

      @@moosepatil5946 You clearly don't have any empathy for the siblings then. They didn't choose to be born into a family with an autistic sibling. The expectation on them would mean they lose their right to live their own lives to the fullest. How do you know if they don't check in on him at all?

    • @moosepatil5946
      @moosepatil5946 Před 11 měsíci +62

      @jiaminsee283 So what. They are a part of the family. No one gets to choose their family, but if he was more able bodied, they would find a way to help. But because he requires a higher level of care, his siblings get to opt out? Shut up, your empathy is exclusively for the siblings and not this man who will not have a quality life once his parents die. His parents did it for 40 years, and his siblings can figure out how to help him, for his end of life care.

    • @jiaminsee283
      @jiaminsee283 Před 11 měsíci +100

      ​@@moosepatil5946 I empathise with everyone. And if he were more able bodied, they further wouldn't have the obligation to put him before themselves. I voice out for the siblings because they are almost always expected to take full responsibility and care for their disabled sibling to the point, they prioritise the sibling before themselves. Which isn't wrong, but so sacrificial. I hope siblings who see this video and stumble upon this comment, realise that their willingness to help care for their disabled sibling is a very admirable and selfless act, not obligatory.

    • @user-kb7sl6cz6s
      @user-kb7sl6cz6s Před 11 měsíci +48

      @@moosepatil5946They didn’t say the siblings aren’t willing to help. They just see it as their job as parents for as long as possible.

  • @NouraZahle
    @NouraZahle Před 11 měsíci +342

    “That’s the beauty about my boy,” from the father.
    “It’s good for us,” from the son.
    “In my old age, it’s a joy to have a son like him,” the father.
    The mother respecting that the siblings have their own path and recognizing an autistic adult is very difficult to care for, and making sure she has contingencies so her son can have the best options.
    So absolutely touching and beautiful.

  • @DietBIeach
    @DietBIeach Před 4 lety +25194

    "There is nothing wrong with him. He is only special" Words of a beloved mother.

    • @jacobstaton99
      @jacobstaton99 Před 4 lety +854

      Mansour Killuminati 101 Can you cite your sources? If not, please retract your idiotic statement

    • @nathanbrennan1403
      @nathanbrennan1403 Před 4 lety +446

      Mansour Killuminati 101 please tell me your joking man

    • @alegria1813
      @alegria1813 Před 4 lety +280

      @@K1llum1nati Oh Lord

    • @toxic_manny2566
      @toxic_manny2566 Před 4 lety +245

      Mansour Killuminati 101 ok Karen

    • @Pittbull15
      @Pittbull15 Před 4 lety +39

      We're all different some more then others but treat everyone with respect my mom was disappointed in me when I was harsh on an ass whole kid she told me she knows it hard but just be nice and good stuff will come

  • @benjet9728
    @benjet9728 Před 4 lety +19139

    Duane parents are the real life heroes,not the celebrities in the movies.

    • @polmak1507
      @polmak1507 Před 4 lety +58

      Agreed so much

    • @ArtSmosh1274
      @ArtSmosh1274 Před 4 lety +32

      Movies is not real

    • @sanakiyamam1987
      @sanakiyamam1987 Před 4 lety +89

      ben jet most of the celebrities just care about the money and make much much more money. most of them don't care about the people.

    • @sanakiyamam1987
      @sanakiyamam1987 Před 4 lety +17

      Art Smosh most of the movies are so fake. The love stories in those movies are soooo unreal.

    • @chemicalcabbage
      @chemicalcabbage Před 4 lety +40

      @@sanakiyamam1987 most people care about money.

  • @Mike-or2cv
    @Mike-or2cv Před rokem +647

    This is how every parent should be. They should love their child unconditionally. Fantastic people. Bless that family.

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 Před rokem +5

      One question: should a parent still love their child if he goes on a killing spree and murders 10 people? It’s an extreme example but I had to ask . I wonder if Ted Bundys mother still
      Loved him after all was said and done?

    • @Mike-or2cv
      @Mike-or2cv Před rokem +3

      @@brianmeen2158 Yeah, that's questionable I think...

    • @Peacock__
      @Peacock__ Před rokem

      ​@pristinejoel8802 stop looking for an easy fix. Youre just stuffing random worthless crap into your kid and projecting all of the improvements onto whatever woo woo bunk science random people are telling you.

    • @wafflemation6887
      @wafflemation6887 Před 10 měsíci +8

      @@Mike-or2cvunconditional love is unconditional.

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      @followhim.8543 Před 8 měsíci

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  • @jasont832
    @jasont832 Před 4 lety +13041

    His parents are in their 70's? They look WAY younger than that!

  • @ss11111ss
    @ss11111ss Před 4 lety +10056

    seen a lot of homeless people like this who are just left to fend for themselves.

    • @jamiewilliams4752
      @jamiewilliams4752 Před 4 lety +39

      s lol there just junkies that smoke crack

    • @anthonyf.3009
      @anthonyf.3009 Před 4 lety +258

      There was a study that searched what homeless people did with the money. It found the more rich you are, the more drugs and smoking you do. There are outliers though. The lazy drunk homeless person is a stereotype

    • @turtleextra4128
      @turtleextra4128 Před 4 lety +203

      @ZenPhilosopher123 autism, not retardation that word is offensive to autistic people

    • @danbenson5147
      @danbenson5147 Před 4 lety +223

      @ZenPhilosopher123 I have autism and I used to use heroin. My life is a living hell everyday I struggle but the drugs made it worse. Glad I'm sober now but unfortunately I cant stop being autistic. It hurts so much to know that im different then everyone else and to be reminded by everyone I meet. I wish I could make friends and be someone but that is just not what people like me are destined for :(

    • @heidiullman1571
      @heidiullman1571 Před 4 lety +114

      @@danbenson5147 I really hope you know that you are loved and appreciated as you are. As someone who has been around people on the spectrum from a very early age, I understand it's hard for you, but some of my best friends are autistic. Be proud of what you've overcome and always remember your life, as any other, is unique and worthwhile.

  • @carterpaul2688
    @carterpaul2688 Před 10 dny +29

    As a dad of a 5 year old autistic girl this made me both sad and happy. Most days I am sad but will never show it. Please pray for me

  • @crazzynez
    @crazzynez Před 10 měsíci +77

    "In my old age it is a joy to have a son like him" I got tears when the father said that. There is something so beautiful and pure about his son. He has many things he struggles with, but love and loyalty transcend everything. he is a good son and a great family.

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 Před 4 lety +3483

    When the dad said it’s a privilege to have a son like him in his old age 😢

    • @kjthekunoichi
      @kjthekunoichi Před 4 lety +28

      Yup.... for us to reflect too: are we ourselves good to our loved ones/the ppl ard us? Are we complaining abt the things that we alr have?😐😐

    • @rebeccaoprea9917
      @rebeccaoprea9917 Před 4 lety +12

      kj yes we all take things for granted . God help us .

    • @kjthekunoichi
      @kjthekunoichi Před 4 lety +4

      @@rebeccaoprea9917 😔😔

    • @tblk1860
      @tblk1860 Před 4 lety +9

      Dad is awesome, mom, something to be desired!

    • @Razrai-bn8vf
      @Razrai-bn8vf Před 4 lety +12

      Even the so called healthy are not staying with their parents in their old age, some are even abandoning the old who really need help. All they wanted is to be around their loved ones when they are old and vulnerable.

  • @mikeyseo
    @mikeyseo Před 4 lety +4469

    "Lord. You gave him to me. Please help me."
    If only all parents would love like they love.

  • @anpham605
    @anpham605 Před rokem +90

    My mother is a swimming instructer and has taught quite a few kids with autism. She always talk, interact and tell the whole class to interact with these autistic kids in the most normal way. It was incredible to see the kids' improvement result from love, friendship and fun sport activities.

  • @r300zxsupras200
    @r300zxsupras200 Před rokem +132

    It is a joy to have a son like him..... that is love in its purest form

  • @marwaamoradi4979
    @marwaamoradi4979 Před 4 lety +10152

    “In my old age, it is a joy to have a son like him” wow parents are certainly a treasure may god give them long life and help there son

  • @Ryanair671
    @Ryanair671 Před 4 lety +7854

    Damn...that hit deep 😭. "In my old age, it is a joy to have a son like him".

    • @raniarazak7996
      @raniarazak7996 Před 4 lety +80

      I CRIED WHEN HE SAID THAT

    • @jennifer9084
      @jennifer9084 Před 4 lety +7

      😥😥😥😥

    • @lovealwaysshalisha
      @lovealwaysshalisha Před 4 lety +33

      @@raniarazak7996 tears are falling from my eyes this very moment after hearing the Father say that 😢💖. Awesome Mom, Dad and Son !

    • @azizahnur9194
      @azizahnur9194 Před 4 lety +41

      yea. since the son is always respect them, listening to them. thats what all parents need in their old age.

    • @je3917
      @je3917 Před 4 lety +17

      That closing line was incredibly impactful. I felt same the as the OP.

  • @davidlambert6171
    @davidlambert6171 Před 11 měsíci +8

    Someday my son will be 40 and I’m going to be that father. How I wish I can stay longer on earth to support my autistic son forever.

  • @syedkareem9248
    @syedkareem9248 Před rokem +61

    Seeing him do things on his own and making his parents happy made me emotional, you got this Duane ❤️

  • @sublimeqt420
    @sublimeqt420 Před rokem +108

    Hearing the father saying my boy, you can just hear the love and compassion in his voice. Such lovely people.

  • @ElMencho.
    @ElMencho. Před 4 lety +7083

    “The best part is he doesn’t complain. He never complains- thats the beauty about my boy” Great father 😢🙏🏽

    • @gingerbread1032
      @gingerbread1032 Před 4 lety +11

      G Ramos
      Why complain when everything is done for you.

    • @renatadecarvalho7844
      @renatadecarvalho7844 Před 4 lety +245

      ginger bread because he can’t do on his own, you won’t understand, you are not on his shoes.

    • @heatherclark6268
      @heatherclark6268 Před 4 lety +33

      They said he does a lot himself

    • @kitshelton8168
      @kitshelton8168 Před 4 lety +18

      Proud father

    • @petarcosic2781
      @petarcosic2781 Před 4 lety +3

      CCP developed good business on selling organs to whole world(only 2-3 weeks waiting,watch China Uncensored and Serpenza channels).CCP western ideology for enslaving people and is above government,has no elections,NO SEXUAL HARASSMENT LAWS etc.1.) Geopoliticalfutures article:"The World Bank began tracking poverty in China in 1981. In that year, 88.3 percent of China’s population lived on less than $1.90 a day (roughly 870 million people). Push the threshold up a little bit and poverty in China was even more striking: 99.1 percent of China’s population lived on less than $3.10 a day (over 980 million people). The last year for which the World Bank has official data is 2010, and the transformation, as you can see in the line graph above, is extraordinary. In 2010, only 11.2 percent (almost 150 million people) lived on less than $1.90 a day. Not shown above is that 27.2 percent (almost 360 million people) lived on less than $3.10 a day.
      However, the problem with these data sets should already be clear. If you factor in population growth, you can make the claim that China has lifted 800 million people out of poverty if you define poverty as living on less than $1.90 or $3.10 a day. This doesn’t say anything about how well those lifted out of poverty are doing. A rural household living on $1.91 a day by this standard wouldn’t be counted as suffering from extreme poverty, even though by any objective measure a household earning that much on an annual basis would be cripplingly poor."...
      2.)Telegraph.UK:" 1978, nine out of 10 people in China’s population of a billion were struggling to survive on an income below the “extreme poverty line”, set by the World Bank at just under $2 a day.
      Today, the pyramid has been flipped on its head. As a result, almost all the more than 1.3 billion individuals who previously would have spent most of their life hungry have doubled their calorie intake"...(notice the change from numbers to calories,while not mentioning that chinese are slaves now for 6 billion people,but get only double the calories).5 DEMANDS! St.Francis Xavier pray for us!

  • @mathewjudka3000
    @mathewjudka3000 Před 3 lety +5001

    They're 70? They both don't look a day over 50.

  • @survivingitall5263
    @survivingitall5263 Před 11 měsíci +26

    My son and 80% of the kids at his school (for autism) ALL have the same exact WALK as Duane. I love it. It's purposeful and deliberate and I smile every day I drop my son at high school.

  • @ChassityNOubre_88
    @ChassityNOubre_88 Před rokem +102

    OMG, He's so blessed to have parents like this. I wish everyone with a disability had parents like them. I pray they can find the perfect long term care for him for his future. Thank you for sharing Duane's story 🙏🏼❤
    P.S. Mum & Pops look great for over 70s.

  • @ReactionTherapyWithBiggClay
    @ReactionTherapyWithBiggClay Před 4 lety +2685

    “We spent thousands of dollars on medical bills, and a $8 movie told us what he had”
    - WOW!

    • @alishathehistorynerd9726
      @alishathehistorynerd9726 Před 4 lety +91

      Reaction Therapy that’s how I felt after watching “A Beautiful Mind.” When you realize your 8 year old child isn’t autistic, rather schizophrenic.

    • @alishathehistorynerd9726
      @alishathehistorynerd9726 Před 4 lety +105

      HZB OcYpcWr'Ctwu Odzs when you child is 8, non verbal, diagnosed with autism by a doctor.... and schizophrenia has very similar behaviorisms in children, it’s nearly impossible to diagnose. It’s considered an adult illness as it’s extremely rare in children. Since only 1:40,000 kids have it... yeah, I’m a vegetable. But you are an ignorant a$$hole.

    • @asmaa9195
      @asmaa9195 Před 4 lety +47

      @@alishathehistorynerd9726 Ignore the rude comments I wish your child lives happily and prosperous 🌷

    • @alishathehistorynerd9726
      @alishathehistorynerd9726 Před 4 lety +16

      Asma a, I will try & thank you for your good vibes. I take it personally when people are negative & make assumptions, I need to rise above.

    • @ayuabdullah5257
      @ayuabdullah5257 Před 4 lety +16

      That explain that Spore doctors are rubbish... haha... they cant diagnose autism... I got auti immune disease... and been in and out hospital and doctors said nothing wrong with me... they even assume I am crazy and started to assume I have anxiety... then one day go to a gp... and then he finally identified my illness and give me proper medication...

  • @0pyourk0
    @0pyourk0 Před 3 lety +3874

    When a old man call his 40 years old son "my boy", you know that is LOVE

    • @bananajoe9951
      @bananajoe9951 Před 3 lety +59

      Yes, what a treasure his father is. This is the meaning of being a good father. It makes me want to be the best dad I can be. There's just something about seeing my 2 year old son light up like fireworks when I get home from work.

    • @neutronsmash1132
      @neutronsmash1132 Před 3 lety +3

      Thanks for pointing out the obvious. I bet you think it’s the taking part that counts and not the winning, right!?

    • @soxnation1000
      @soxnation1000 Před 3 lety +14

      @skOsH I'm sorry about what you're going through. It's amazing how different ppl can be. Some fathers help their children cope with difficult health problems. Other fathers have totally healthy children and mistreat them. But even so, you have the power to choose to not let your father's actions determine your future, because then you are allowing him to continue hurting you.

    • @medicgaming101
      @medicgaming101 Před 3 lety +1

      You know that is a zelda reference too

    • @liebe1099
      @liebe1099 Před 3 lety +1

      That's probably most fathers

  • @jimdavidson3345
    @jimdavidson3345 Před rokem +23

    Every child should have parents like these. I am not easily brought to tears but I was overwhelmed by these lovely people.

  • @lnicko
    @lnicko Před 11 měsíci +43

    He's extremely self sufficient, the parents have done a fantastic job!!

    • @haannguyen4402
      @haannguyen4402 Před 19 dny

      Bro I’m almost 19 and can’t cook or use public transport yet w/o supervision

    • @lnicko
      @lnicko Před 19 dny

      @haannguyen4402 that's fine, would say you have a genuine reason or need to do either of those things?

    • @haannguyen4402
      @haannguyen4402 Před 19 dny

      @@lnicko I’m going to college this fall, and in Philadelphia at that

    • @lnicko
      @lnicko Před 19 dny +1

      @haannguyen4402 learn the basics, my man. It'll get you through

    • @Nazinsky
      @Nazinsky Před 12 dny

      @@haannguyen4402how’re you doing?

  • @h.fontanez5453
    @h.fontanez5453 Před 4 lety +9308

    ''He never complains, that's the beauty about my boy''.
    I'll say he never complains because he sees the beauty in his parents and he's always thankful of having them.

    • @AttitudeIndicator
      @AttitudeIndicator Před 4 lety +20

      Probably not

    • @saarahali2468
      @saarahali2468 Před 4 lety +40

      Definitely

    • @ae.r3704
      @ae.r3704 Před 4 lety +69

      That is better than having a normal perfect child but dump their parents, ignorant-pig and never appreciate.

    • @jadon7878
      @jadon7878 Před 4 lety +62

      @@AttitudeIndicator there's always that type of guy in the comments

    • @HiyoruMikiyazoya
      @HiyoruMikiyazoya Před 4 lety +49

      I'm a 6'4" 230 lbs man estranged from my family and children... The love this man has for his boy just made me cry. I miss my family.

  • @justapervert300
    @justapervert300 Před 2 lety +6594

    The moment she said "how can i burden his siblings to take care of him" shows how much of a good mother is
    She equally cared for everyone
    That's a beauty of a mom

    • @marieboutin9054
      @marieboutin9054 Před 2 lety +193

      I don't agree. Duane's siblings should help. Otherwise it means they are very selfish people. That's the case in my family. Since my parents died, I have been left alone, coping alone with my depression by my mean, nasty sisters. I don't understand Duane's mother. I prefer his father who seems tender with him.Duane is not such an autistic case. He copes, I mean, he goes out on his own, attends a centre, does work there, gardening and does the laundry at his parents home. What else does the mother expect ? It is already pretty good.

    • @justapervert300
      @justapervert300 Před 2 lety +233

      @@marieboutin9054 wat i meant is her mother thinks equally of everyone
      Not commenting on she should ask them to care about him or not
      But yea i do believe his siblings should help him

    • @rachelciel3330
      @rachelciel3330 Před 2 lety +293

      @@marieboutin9054 I mean, I don't know the whole thing. But the meanest thing you siblings could do to a depressed you is not leaving you alone. If you're an adult and everybody is an adult, you're responsible of yourself. Your sisters have their own lives, they might not be able to check on your depressed self. You need to stand up by yourself and stop blaming other people.
      They who blame others will never get there. They who blame themselves is halfway there. They who blame no one is already there. So pick yourself up without relying on anybody and especially blaming them for your problem.
      And who are you to judge his mother? Are you him? Do you know how much she had done for him for the past 40 years? Sorry, you're not that much different of the description of being "mean." You know nothing and already compare people. Truly disgraceful.

    • @brandiphillips5775
      @brandiphillips5775 Před 2 lety +42

      @@apebass2215 Wow! Insulting a person who is struggling with mental illness. That's disgusting.

    • @brandiphillips5775
      @brandiphillips5775 Před 2 lety +16

      @@rachelciel3330 Obviously the guys is struggling and feels abandoned. So just criticize him, that'll help. You're gross.

  • @daus6035
    @daus6035 Před 20 dny +6

    Sadly my parents are in this situation and we cannot do anything to help my brother who is 27 and life is a nightmare for them mum is 63 and dad is now 70 they have spent the last 27 years trying to help him he is antisocial family cannot visit travelling is a nightmare for my parents. I don’t wish this on my worst enemy they are spending their retirement age dealing with this so sad. Like the parents in this video they say it’s a blessing to have a special child but it’s torn our family apart. We cannot visit he doesn’t like kids and my other brothers have had to move out because of this. There is a lot behind close doors that isn’t spoken about I’m glad to stumble across this video

  • @derekjones2835
    @derekjones2835 Před rokem +34

    To all the parents whose children is autistic, i have the upmost respect to you all. It cannot be easy and i sincerely wish all of you the strength to handle every day and i also wish that you and your children have many happy memories. God bless 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Ntsej_Muag
      @Ntsej_Muag Před rokem +4

      I have two daughters who are autistic. I love them to the moon and back. Nothing will ever replace them.

    • @derekjones2835
      @derekjones2835 Před rokem +1

      @@Ntsej_Muag inspirational. I am sure every day is a challenge. Keep up the excellent work. Your girls are bkessed to have you and i am sure you feel the same 🙏🙏

    • @The315fan
      @The315fan Před rokem +3

      That’s true, however, not all autistic people are low functioning like the man in this video.
      I just feel that too many (especially in the USA) still think that all autistic people are like that man.

    • @derekjones2835
      @derekjones2835 Před rokem

      @@The315fan fair point. Similar to how some think autistic children are 'less intelligent than their peers' when the opposite is in fact true.

    • @foggy922
      @foggy922 Před rokem

      Depends on the family. It's been relatively easy in my family, because most of us are autistic. That includes me, my sibling, my father, my grandmother, and probably individuals further back. It was actually the neurotypical ones in the family that were a struggle to deal with, and they oftentimes ended up getting rejected from the family for causing issues.
      Other families have an opposite story, but it varies. Same goes for families with ADHD, where it's usually the case that most immediate relatives don't have ADHD but almost half or a little less do, and so there's oftentimes a lot of conflict between the neurotypical parents of ADHD children and vice versa. Point is that it doesn't just go for families where autism is present, it becomes difficult for parents when their child has even the most common of neurological/neurodevelopmental/mental conditions. Whether it's autism, ADHD (or anything else), point still stands. Autism is not unique here.

  • @sititango5397
    @sititango5397 Před 4 lety +5563

    His father was so proud of him, its so heartwarming to see.

    • @Tee_Wilson
      @Tee_Wilson Před 4 lety +19

      Yeah :)

    • @adeelornodeal3696
      @adeelornodeal3696 Před 4 lety +5

      would you be aswell

    • @SeanLaMontagne
      @SeanLaMontagne Před 4 lety +31

      There's no telling how much struggle he has watched his son go through just to make it to today. I would be insanely proud of my son for making it that far in life with the world stacked against him.

    • @Vanilove653
      @Vanilove653 Před 3 lety +3

      Very true.:)

    • @cryptoinsider9305
      @cryptoinsider9305 Před 2 lety +1

      How is Duane today? Is he Vaccinated? Is he wearing a mask? Is he doing well? what is the future plan for him in a HOME? New world Order dont allow that. death panel by Bill coming up 2030. THE GREAT RESET. What will happen? Continue our 100th Vaccination?

  • @sunny-tn1ix
    @sunny-tn1ix Před 3 lety +6504

    “It’s a joy to have a son like him.” Only people like these parents should become parents.

  • @chaolee9090
    @chaolee9090 Před rokem +4

    Dad, “In my old age, it is a joy to have a son like him.” ❤❤❤

  • @AllYouCanEat540
    @AllYouCanEat540 Před 11 měsíci +6

    The love his parents have for him is palpable in this video. So heartwarming

  • @jennakarpe2783
    @jennakarpe2783 Před 4 lety +2735

    “There is nothing wrong with him.”
    Awww mama bear :/ only a mother would understand the love for her child

    • @Daisy-zr3qm
      @Daisy-zr3qm Před 4 lety +27

      Jenna Karpe I have a hard time accepting my son’s autism. Sometimes I spot what’s “wrong with him” and cry, and think about him growing up like this and it makes me so depressed and mad. sometimes I say with love that he’s just my little weird baby.
      But overall, yes, only a mother ❤️

    • @realfresh8524
      @realfresh8524 Před 4 lety +21

      Daisy Mejia you suppose to support your son with autism mentally as well not by saying what is wrong with him and then cry? What the heck.. look at these video the parents of this 40 year old person treat him like there is no mental disability or mental problem, how it’s suppose to be.

    • @2014moon
      @2014moon Před 4 lety +1

      @@realfresh8524 So true

    • @petarcosic2781
      @petarcosic2781 Před 4 lety +2

      CCP developed good business on selling organs to whole world(only 2-3 weeks waiting,watch China Uncensored and Serpenza channels).CCP western ideology for enslaving people and is above government,has no elections,NO SEXUAL HARASSMENT LAWS etc.1.) Geopoliticalfutures article:"The World Bank began tracking poverty in China in 1981. In that year, 88.3 percent of China’s population lived on less than $1.90 a day (roughly 870 million people). Push the threshold up a little bit and poverty in China was even more striking: 99.1 percent of China’s population lived on less than $3.10 a day (over 980 million people). The last year for which the World Bank has official data is 2010, and the transformation, as you can see in the line graph above, is extraordinary. In 2010, only 11.2 percent (almost 150 million people) lived on less than $1.90 a day. Not shown above is that 27.2 percent (almost 360 million people) lived on less than $3.10 a day.
      However, the problem with these data sets should already be clear. If you factor in population growth, you can make the claim that China has lifted 800 million people out of poverty if you define poverty as living on less than $1.90 or $3.10 a day. This doesn’t say anything about how well those lifted out of poverty are doing. A rural household living on $1.91 a day by this standard wouldn’t be counted as suffering from extreme poverty, even though by any objective measure a household earning that much on an annual basis would be cripplingly poor."...
      2.)Telegraph.UK:" 1978, nine out of 10 people in China’s population of a billion were struggling to survive on an income below the “extreme poverty line”, set by the World Bank at just under $2 a day.
      Today, the pyramid has been flipped on its head. As a result, almost all the more than 1.3 billion individuals who previously would have spent most of their life hungry have doubled their calorie intake"...(notice the change from numbers to calories,while not mentioning that chinese are slaves now for 6 billion people,but get only double the calories).5 DEMANDS! St.Francis Xavier pray for us!

    • @petarcosic2781
      @petarcosic2781 Před 4 lety +1

      If mama bear had more than a one child,he/she would take care of him,like all humans,outside of communism,do.CCP would literally hold the parents,until you don't bring your"extra" kid,and often,just bash it on the floor,to save bullets etc.This is CCP propaganda,using this family for compassion,but compassion is forcibly removing from them.Watch Serpenza to see culture of love for humans,and also China Uncensored.Many Chinese people accept this.St. Joseph and Mary pray for us all!

  • @KOOLIOO123456
    @KOOLIOO123456 Před 4 lety +2576

    THE PARENTS ARE IN THEIR 70s?!?
    They look sooo youthful for their age!

    • @oobibab9572
      @oobibab9572 Před 4 lety +57

      Chinese people are like that. They look young despite of their age.

    • @watermelonthesquidward6021
      @watermelonthesquidward6021 Před 4 lety +85

      The Boogeyman i mean most Asian people look younger than their age haha btw they’re korean

    • @siiweeyy1321
      @siiweeyy1321 Před 4 lety +10

      cus they asian

    • @watermelonthesquidward6021
      @watermelonthesquidward6021 Před 4 lety +6

      Sehraad Ahmed ok i was talking about their ethnicity since i saw their names, clearly they speak with that accent since they are from Singapore. Being Singaporean is their nationality.

    • @tonylee5222
      @tonylee5222 Před 4 lety +2

      starrie chan serious question how are they korean? goh is a chinese last name no?

  • @mareezy
    @mareezy Před měsícem +3

    What a wonderful mom. She makes me want to cry, as a mom myself, I know the deep deep love she has for her son. Omg when his dad said "my boy" ❤❤❤. One of the siblings should be lucky enough to care for him. I'd do it if I could. What a wonderful family. Proud mom and dad ❤❤❤❤. Did someone cut onions in here? 😭

  • @fmds2115
    @fmds2115 Před rokem +5

    I am touched by how caring the mother is.

  • @godallowsuturns679
    @godallowsuturns679 Před 3 lety +3507

    They are worried because they know how cruel society can be to special people.

    • @Ghostkar
      @Ghostkar Před 3 lety +2

      like baby girls.

    • @McSnezzly
      @McSnezzly Před 3 lety +48

      Please don’t say “special” it’s an incorrect term and autistic people don’t like it. Disabled is a perfectly fine word to use

    • @GothicKittyMadness
      @GothicKittyMadness Před 3 lety +120

      @@McSnezzly we don’t like being called disabled either.

    • @damnfreakingsien
      @damnfreakingsien Před 3 lety +65

      @@McSnezzly the politically correct term is “people with special needs”.
      Calling someone disabled is extremely insulting and even worse than calling someone “special” imo.

    • @khunagnes1364
      @khunagnes1364 Před 3 lety +7

      @@McSnezzly bruh chill it's as a courtesy to them, yes you can't call it special because it is a curse there is no denying in it but best keep it to yourself to be polite. For example we don't directly to a ugly person that they're ugly in public right? It's basic manners.

  • @Cabono31
    @Cabono31 Před 3 lety +5079

    It's already very hard for a wealthy family. Imagine all the autistic people born in to low income families.

    • @GabrielleTollerson
      @GabrielleTollerson Před 3 lety +328

      that or families who wouldn't give a rats ass about their family member either way..it's sad

    • @lilsnoopy90
      @lilsnoopy90 Před 3 lety +46

      You mentioned a strong point

    • @XvAstarisk
      @XvAstarisk Před 3 lety +36

      Dark truth...

    • @Arla934
      @Arla934 Před 3 lety +21

      My brother in my family

    • @The_Big_Boop
      @The_Big_Boop Před 3 lety +71

      It’s the sad truth. Then when you go online to seek help that may not be in your area, nobody cares. They just pretend to.

  • @renae3857
    @renae3857 Před 10 měsíci +4

    His parents are such good people and he seems like such a great guy himself

  • @spookaychoco2860
    @spookaychoco2860 Před rokem +5

    I'm so happy that Duane has such loving parents. I'm glad he wasn't disregarded/abused just because of his condition

  • @jeslyny9692
    @jeslyny9692 Před 4 lety +4461

    Such lovely parents.They accepted him for who he is.

    • @Addy-745
      @Addy-745 Před 4 lety +3

      I me me me me autistkk me me Mee haBe nO frinds na nathin. Me sleepy all day in room.

    • @kimmyymmik
      @kimmyymmik Před 4 lety +15

      Definitely those parents need an award. If I’m being honest I couldn’t have done it. Like at all.

    • @spacepirate3391
      @spacepirate3391 Před 4 lety +18

      It's not like he chose to be that way.

    • @boredweegie553
      @boredweegie553 Před 4 lety +12

      Youre obviously not a parent or you'd know it's unconditional that's what a parent is.

    • @kimmyymmik
      @kimmyymmik Před 4 lety +8

      TheOtherWhiteBread0 there’s some parents who aren’t capable of doing that though, which is why adoption exists. So no just because you’re a parent doesn’t mean you can do that.

  • @lgravelle4182
    @lgravelle4182 Před 4 lety +3764

    Imagine if we all had parents like these?!!! The world would be a much better place.

    • @Derbymama360
      @Derbymama360 Před 4 lety +68

      Omg the amazing things I would have done if I had that much love lifting me up instead of beating me and hating me. I love this family❤️❤️❤️

    • @misicy1282
      @misicy1282 Před 4 lety +4

      I agree ☝️

    • @angelsmith4287
      @angelsmith4287 Před 4 lety +3

      I agree! 👆👆

    • @MrKhalidyahya
      @MrKhalidyahya Před 4 lety +73

      Imagine if we become parents like these? The world would be a much better place

    • @shenyuevideos8974
      @shenyuevideos8974 Před 4 lety +3

      we already had it, but in different ways.

  • @zzplant6864
    @zzplant6864 Před 3 měsíci +1

    The scene when Duane put his hands around his mum and helped her walk is so touching and sweet for me, and when he helped with household chores and tries his best to be independent. God bless them all. ❤

  • @michellep1555
    @michellep1555 Před 4 lety +3929

    My only worry with having kids like this, is who will take care of him when parents are gone. Too many times i see people like him get mistreated at the clinic at old age. Very sad

    • @flowerofash4439
      @flowerofash4439 Před 4 lety +183

      heart breaking to know what they will face in their life till their death without their parents

    • @kalyangowda.s63
      @kalyangowda.s63 Před 4 lety +25

      I am worried too!

    • @rayblack2004
      @rayblack2004 Před 4 lety +76

      @@flowerofash4439 Everyone dies alone - that is the truth. It is sad but it is also a relief, as it means we all make the same journey.

    • @redevous
      @redevous Před 4 lety +2

      Riverdale tales lol

    • @riverdaletales8457
      @riverdaletales8457 Před 4 lety +2

      @@redevous it's true

  • @k.m.b969
    @k.m.b969 Před 4 lety +18059

    I hope that wherever he ends up he's treated with kindness, love and respect.

    • @Gio-hj1qy
      @Gio-hj1qy Před 4 lety +38

      Yes

    • @tiffanioglen9659
      @tiffanioglen9659 Před 4 lety +301

      Sad part some will some wont....I work in a mental health department and some people treat the residents horribly

    • @k.m.b969
      @k.m.b969 Před 4 lety +156

      @@tiffanioglen9659 I hate to hear that but I don't doubt it for a second.

    • @tiffanioglen9659
      @tiffanioglen9659 Před 4 lety +10

      @@k.m.b969 😥

    • @KelvinOoooi
      @KelvinOoooi Před 4 lety +32

      Bro reading this comment almost makes me cry.
      Stay strong and live a happy life Duane!

  • @Dude-etiquette
    @Dude-etiquette Před 8 měsíci +1

    This brought tears to me eyes. The love of the parents was so evident in their words

  • @boihteijwalker6416
    @boihteijwalker6416 Před 8 měsíci

    This is so heartbreaking yet so beautiful. I have an autistic nephew, I rarely get to see him but I often pray for him. This video teaches me so much about autism making me learn so much about my nephew too. May all the parents with autistic children be blessed abundantly. Nothing but love 💙💙

  • @stevenlrussell
    @stevenlrussell Před 4 lety +2972

    Anyone who raises someone with autism is incredibly strong, especially when they do it alone.

    • @divat10
      @divat10 Před 4 lety +46

      Tish is true^
      My brother has autism there is also something with his nerves (he feels pain hot and cold things a lot less).
      He wants to eat way too mutch because he can't feel that he is full. So we restrict him on eating witch he doesn't like at all.
      But he also helps a lot around the house but that doesn't fill his day so he is bored all the time. Because of that he can be more difficult to handle.
      My mom and dad are doing their best they have 5 kids and are both working (part time and full time)
      If you ever see someone that looks or sounds weird or differend please consider they can't so anything about it and treat them with respect

    • @plederfagella9774
      @plederfagella9774 Před 4 lety +6

      *My mom has entered the chat* my brother not me

    • @NannaBharatha28
      @NannaBharatha28 Před 4 lety +29

      Im mother of an autustic child. Believe me, im not strong. But the child makes me strong. No other go....😔😔😔😔😒😒😒😒

    • @judithziants4204
      @judithziants4204 Před 3 lety +1

      🖐 thank you! ❤

    • @crazysusanaita619
      @crazysusanaita619 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes

  • @jameshighway2308
    @jameshighway2308 Před 4 lety +5023

    I wish people would be so kind like Duane and his parents.

    • @balfourwheatley6644
      @balfourwheatley6644 Před 4 lety +18

      Struck me to the core..

    • @lamhmmmhuynh637
      @lamhmmmhuynh637 Před 4 lety +2

      Cazz Gamez God can heal this person if the family turn to Jesus the Only True Way of Life.

    • @boi6730
      @boi6730 Před 4 lety +21

      @@lamhmmmhuynh637 Whit all respect, thats bullshit.

    • @bagusdananjaya9544
      @bagusdananjaya9544 Před 4 lety +7

      @@lamhmmmhuynh637 thats nonsense.

    • @1Orderchaos
      @1Orderchaos Před 4 lety +8

      @@lamhmmmhuynh637 please stop spreading this, people should find their own way before looking at religion

  • @frankyfernandes6283
    @frankyfernandes6283 Před 9 měsíci +7

    Thank you for sharing the video of your son. We never heard autism in our childhood. Came to know about it last 6-7 years. This video is good to spread awareness of autism and to treat those people with love, patience and care.

  • @binatitagain
    @binatitagain Před rokem +8

    A big thank you to the parents for being brave and willing to show a small glimpse into their and their son's lives (talking about mental health and developmental issues in some societies can be much more taboo). We need to further de-stigmatize ASD. It comes in many, many forms with various challenges. However, working with or raising a child with ASD also brings a lot of rewards. Sending them much love from Canada.

    • @The315fan
      @The315fan Před rokem

      Autism is not a disorder, it’s an alternative neurotype which is supposed to exist alongside the atypical mind. I was refused a diagnosis as a child because I’m not mentally disabled like the man in the video. I am also wondering if that man is learning disabled as well as autistic but is only diagnosed autistic for meeting the outdated male stereotype.
      Especially in the past, most of those who got diagnosed were autistic people who were suffering, non verbal and “low functioning” like that man.

  • @marukochan9163
    @marukochan9163 Před 4 lety +1169

    "I'm very worried about Duane's future when we are not here"
    😢

    • @ZRO95
      @ZRO95 Před 4 lety +55

      Yeah. Thats the sad and scary part 💔

    • @Mrs.Fineapple
      @Mrs.Fineapple Před 4 lety +63

      It broke my heart to hear them say it would be a burden to ask the other siblings to care for him. I grew understanding that family is everything. If anyone of my siblings or parents suffered with a medical or mental health condition, it would be my honor to care for them as best as I can. I wish we all felt that way. Duane deserves to be around family and what’s familiar to him.

    • @mauiwaui773
      @mauiwaui773 Před 4 lety +40

      @Fineapple Felicity it’s easier said then done. Trust me our hearts are in the right place but it’s the work that needs to be put in that’s the hard part. Sorry to seem negative but it’s the truth. I pray for this family and I hope that Gods mercy is upon this brother when the time comes for his parents to depart this earth.

    • @ColaKhanable
      @ColaKhanable Před 4 lety +16

      Fineapple Felicity my brother has severe form of autism. Chrome-some 2 deletion. He will never live by himself and he gets startled and agitated very quickly. Hes 14 now my mother is 45 she will be taking care of him until she dies. I asked her me being the oldest if shed want me to do it. She said she didnt want ti burden us with him that shed give him to her brother my uncle. Because to her thats her child she wants her children to live thier lives. Now of course id gladly take him but still you have to understand where the mother is coming from

    • @mooki6580
      @mooki6580 Před 4 lety +28

      Thats my parents fear too. I have a 10 year old brother with autism, I know one day my parents wont be around anymore and he will be all that i will have left so I need to do good in life not just for my future but also his

  • @mannyamato3421
    @mannyamato3421 Před 2 lety +2334

    All that stress and being 70 she looks 10 years younger. She aged very well.

    • @heather9525
      @heather9525 Před 2 lety +69

      I was just thinking that! They both look great for their 70's.

    • @cryptoinsider9305
      @cryptoinsider9305 Před 2 lety +10

      How is Duane today? Is he Vaccinated? Is he wearing a mask? Is he doing well? what is the future plan for him in a HOME? New world Order dont allow that. death panel by Bill coming up 2030. THE GREAT RESET. What will happen? Continue our 100th Vaccination?

    • @spaceT999
      @spaceT999 Před 2 lety +30

      Asians dont raisin

    • @markmckeown87
      @markmckeown87 Před 2 lety +27

      Duane doesn't look 40 either!

    • @vennsim71
      @vennsim71 Před 2 lety +7

      @@cryptoinsider9305 the future for Dunne in the home will be taking his PHD and designing the next stealth fighter. Seriously are u nuts? What New World Order, what Death by Bill?
      I mean Dunne can be slowly ease into society, bit by bit. For you, I think it’s the end of the road.

  • @elleendeavor6429
    @elleendeavor6429 Před 6 měsíci +2

    The reason it’s so hard to handle is because he is fiercely loved. I’m autistic and mother to an autistic teen. There are ups, there are downs, but what never fails is our ability to overcome. Love to Duane and his family.

  • @whitetiger406
    @whitetiger406 Před rokem +4

    People in the same situation understand this. I am no different. I can't stand to think about what will happen after we are gone. But my child is growing little by little, day by day. All I can do is to be there for him as much as possible, encourage his independence, and continue to love him so that he will never stop smiling. I hope that one day he will call me "Papa” !

  • @OutcastDimensionTCG
    @OutcastDimensionTCG Před 4 lety +1447

    “Because that’s the beauty of MY boy.” Most beautiful thing

  • @ryanhinga424
    @ryanhinga424 Před 3 lety +2796

    Damn. Her 40 year old son throws a tantrum in public and first thought is to yell out "There's nothing wrong with him!". She really is the best mother ever

    • @lazlobeats8236
      @lazlobeats8236 Před 3 lety +57

      Yes that really impressed me as well! Very strong willed woman. I wish I had the courage to act like that.

    • @houzeng4656
      @houzeng4656 Před 3 lety +90

      I’m pretty sure he was younger that time, since they saw autism wasn’t part of the vocabulary. But still, these parents are heroes.

    • @KennyGuite
      @KennyGuite Před 3 lety +5

      @@houzeng4656 bruh, we watched this I guess at the same time... your comment was just a minute ago

    • @almeriaalien
      @almeriaalien Před 3 lety +10

      @@KennyGuite no he meant that, yhe mother was tellig us the story about him when he was a kid

    • @lagann8276
      @lagann8276 Před 3 lety +1

      @@KennyGuite :/

  • @itispam
    @itispam Před rokem +5

    What absolutely fabulous parents. Duane is a special guy and their love for each other is mutual and so heartwarming. I wish them peace of mind and hoping that there is a good home for their son in the future. xxx ❤

  • @dianahussain5066
    @dianahussain5066 Před 3 měsíci +2

    The mom is an absolute angel. You can see how she loves him

  • @abdelhakym8283
    @abdelhakym8283 Před 4 lety +2313

    Parents are literally the most valuable thing one could ever have,period

    • @Stoneybv
      @Stoneybv Před 4 lety +85

      Sucks for the ones who's parents abuse n torture them mentally.

    • @xenomorphoverlord
      @xenomorphoverlord Před 4 lety +48

      Must be nice to act as if child abuse doesn't exist, eh?

    • @inakibolinaga8078
      @inakibolinaga8078 Před 4 lety +33

      Its not to be rude or anything but sadly not all parents are as kind and incredible as them

    • @jamesmelton7413
      @jamesmelton7413 Před 4 lety +4

      Yeah i guess without parents there's no you.

    • @maeking5268
      @maeking5268 Před 4 lety +15

      Unless those parents are neglectful or abusive

  • @mis_majambe
    @mis_majambe Před 4 lety +2325

    "My old age is a joy to have a son like him" that hit me hard.
    Edit: guys thanks for the many likes. Never had such

    • @chirpnun
      @chirpnun Před 4 lety +17

      someone decided to cut the onions at PRECISELY this point... strange.

    • @sunshinemarie2703
      @sunshinemarie2703 Před 4 lety +5

      Same 💖

    • @rebeccaoprea9917
      @rebeccaoprea9917 Před 4 lety +1

      Majambe Blessing me too . That was my comment as well .

    • @jackiemehoff8239
      @jackiemehoff8239 Před 4 lety +6

      Same. I never had a father. My whole life I always looked up to people who were dads and took care of their family. It’s a strange thought, I know but I just always looked up to people who were good dads

    • @AC-iz7eh
      @AC-iz7eh Před 4 lety +1

      @@jackiemehoff8239 if that's so then you have to be a good parent to your children as well 👍🏻

  • @rinsomatic9295
    @rinsomatic9295 Před rokem

    I love the last comment of his dad. And his mum opinion about being fair really touching.

  • @SamiaFAmim
    @SamiaFAmim Před 3 měsíci +1

    They are such amazing parents. So focused, hardworking, and positive. Every parent needs to be like that.

  • @revelinknation
    @revelinknation Před 3 lety +2930

    He's so loved by his parents. Everyone deserves parents like his.

    • @DunderHead.5000
      @DunderHead.5000 Před 3 lety +31

      I wish everyone had parents like that

    • @Light-qi8ol
      @Light-qi8ol Před 3 lety +8

      then we'd all be autists no? xd

    • @fxj___
      @fxj___ Před 3 lety +37

      @@Light-qi8ol he's saying everyone deserves a parents who love them just the way they are

    • @Light-qi8ol
      @Light-qi8ol Před 3 lety +1

      @@fxj___ everyone deserves love. gotcha

    • @teatarou
      @teatarou Před 3 lety +5

      @@Light-qi8ol you really gon call people with autism “autists” huh

  • @carmelguinev
    @carmelguinev Před 4 lety +1461

    when his mom said "There is nothing wrong with him, he's only special" in public and cried. This is so sad😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @Reggieincontrol
      @Reggieincontrol Před 4 lety +15

      I know. She is a amazing mom 😭

    • @carmelguinev
      @carmelguinev Před 4 lety +5

      @@Reggieincontrol yup, she is😭👍🏼

    • @keeskoekert6358
      @keeskoekert6358 Před 4 lety +4

      But there is much wrong with him, thats a harsh fact and needed too get him the help he needs.

    • @thekinghmimidou7001
      @thekinghmimidou7001 Před 4 lety +10

      Kees Koekert cause spending hour with psychiatrist and taking medication is help

    • @mariahpocahontas4751
      @mariahpocahontas4751 Před 4 lety

      ...'yes, those " curious" eyes😌😌😌😌

  • @lisahughes9447
    @lisahughes9447 Před 3 měsíci +1

    It is quite a journey guiding and mentoring my now 20 yr old son with autism. He has breakdowns, loses his temper, gets very frustrated. I try to push him towards socializing with others his age. He is taking a full schedule at college, but does not socialize with others. However, when he masks, he speaks so intelligently to anyone and they are impressed. He becomes exhausted after his encounters with other people. All I want is for him to be able to make a living and take care of himself. This clip is very enlightening.

  • @VOMITQUEEN
    @VOMITQUEEN Před rokem +6

    If only we had more parents out there THIS dedicated….

  • @rquelix1548
    @rquelix1548 Před 4 lety +1424

    “In my old age, It is a joy to have a son like him.” 💯 Real One

    • @lukang72
      @lukang72 Před 4 lety +59

      Really true. Many children fade from their parent lives but autistic children really love their parents with a pure innocent love that they never grow out of.

    • @rosabellaelison5176
      @rosabellaelison5176 Před 4 lety +10

      @@lukang72 I prefer my children to fade from my life than to have my child carry the burden having a illness as autism.

    • @jedrashidul6952
      @jedrashidul6952 Před 4 lety +31

      I'm 36 & mildly autistic. My mom said that having me around at her age (67) is wonderful as I still act the same way around her as when I was small. Never go to bed without a goodnight kiss

    • @lukang72
      @lukang72 Před 4 lety +22

      @@rosabellaelison5176 autism is not a choice. No parent prefers their child to not be independent.

    • @rosabellaelison5176
      @rosabellaelison5176 Před 4 lety +3

      @@lukang72 I know that, but many people have children even knowing there child could have that illness.

  • @eddiensw
    @eddiensw Před 4 lety +3153

    The love of Duane's parents..deeper than ocean. We can only pray that they are granted good health and live longer.

    • @Nero-lx2gs
      @Nero-lx2gs Před 4 lety +4

      吳怡農太太 yes

    • @ripeguava6843
      @ripeguava6843 Před 4 lety +10

      Prayer is the key?May the lord heal him🙏📖

    • @sladeramos3652
      @sladeramos3652 Před 4 lety +8

      🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @Poemi10304
      @Poemi10304 Před 4 lety +2

      Ripe Guava Autism isn’t something that can be healed or cured, guy. 😰🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @sakkysha5496
      @sakkysha5496 Před 4 lety +7

      Poemi10304, I totally understand your perspective but personally I believe God can heal any condition including autism.

  • @mpat100
    @mpat100 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Blessings for this mother and her son Duane; I pray they get all the support they need going forward.

  • @rawburtmartinez
    @rawburtmartinez Před 10 měsíci +1

    You can tell he is sweet. I hope they are doing good. This makes me tear up

  • @Sarah.Riedel
    @Sarah.Riedel Před 4 lety +1914

    "God, you gave him to me, you have to help"

  • @melondick
    @melondick Před rokem +4

    Duane seems to be like my brother a lot. My brother started off non-verbal, he went through speech therapy to become verbal although he does not always speak properly, he does most of the time. He is super shy and has extreme social anxiety but ironically he was always the most popular kid at his schools because he was very considerate, helpful, and acted as a guardian to others. He has a self-less personality. Even the vocational school/day care center we have him at now says that although he keeps hiding from people and refusing to engage socially besides activities, they love him so much that they are willing to let him stay despite the fact he hasn't made progress in his social issues in a long time.
    The BIGGEST worry for people who care for special needs people (whether it's physical or mental disabilities) is what happens when you're not around. How will they life when you're not around ever again? Will people abuse them? Will patient and open-minded people treat them human and not confuse them for some violent drug addicts or creeps just cause they happen to yell and throw a hissy fit in public?
    One of the blessings of this time we are living in is the "MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MOVEMENT" that spread like wildfire on social media especially. For people with mental health issues and mental illnesses to share their experiences and try to connect with people. There is a popular yt channel by a guy that interviews people with various special needs and rare conditions to show to the world that they are human and not to be feared. We need more understanding for people with Autism and down syndrome because us who love them and live with them at home are tired of being in a society where they are treated as people who cannot feel or connect. Like they are empty husks with no emotion and cannot understand your words or actions in the slightest. Like they cannot learn and grow just like the rest of us.
    Please, if you don't know what it's like to have a loved one on the spectrum. Treat them like normal people, do not be scared and do not think they have 0 understanding. If you see a person talking to themself and hitting themself on the head frantically, don't automatically assume it is drugs or that they are a violent schitzo. For some people on the spectrum that's just what they do and they are acting out an impulse like some of you impulsively check social media every 2 minutes. There is SO much to learn. And we need to make a lot of progress so that these people can have brighter futures and live independently without fear of being mishandled and ignored.
    My brother is aware he has autism, and he is aware that most people think he is just crazy or on drugs. He's said to me before that even his teachers - the people who he is supposed to trust don't believe him or listen to him when he tries to tell them something important. Because they think he doesn't know what he is talking about. Honestly the best school my brother ever attended was his high school. The staff there were all perfect from the school security to the principal. They really helped those students grow and I wish more facilities and schools meant to deal with special needs kids were like that.
    Anyhow. I want nothing but the best future for Duane and his parents. And for those of you who deserve it.

  • @user731akdj
    @user731akdj Před dnem

    5:07 what a wonderful father

  • @lecocopop4272
    @lecocopop4272 Před 4 lety +932

    “That’s the beauty about MY BOY”
    😭 that got me

    • @jonnysanford7634
      @jonnysanford7634 Před 4 lety +13

      I have a 7 year old son with autism and I always refer to him as my boy. I immediately got choked up when he said that.

    • @zazilicious
      @zazilicious Před 4 lety +8

      I almost cried too and then he said in my old age it's a joy to have a son like him 😭😭😭

    • @TaraGotYams
      @TaraGotYams Před 4 lety +4

      Me too. I almost cried.

    • @RageRumi
      @RageRumi Před 4 lety +4

      You could hear the pride in his voice

    • @tyleshiasmith4547
      @tyleshiasmith4547 Před 4 lety

      Same

  • @djohnbelho9406
    @djohnbelho9406 Před 4 lety +672

    “It’s a joy to have a son like him” my heart melts

    • @giulianacr2638
      @giulianacr2638 Před 4 lety +8

      @Jake Dean Are u a parent?
      I am... and think my son is absolutely perfect and love him unconditionally. Every competent and loving parent feels the same way about his/her child.

    • @aestheticvirgocoochie20yea45
      @aestheticvirgocoochie20yea45 Před 4 lety +5

      Jake Dean you obviously don’t have a heart

  • @MH-eu9iw
    @MH-eu9iw Před rokem

    Dawn the words of the father brought me to tears. That’s the beauty of my boy… I never had a father but

  • @ValerianNnaemezie
    @ValerianNnaemezie Před 3 měsíci +6

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @Nicoleniccypal
      @Nicoleniccypal Před 3 měsíci

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need

    • @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks
      @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks Před 3 měsíci

      Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @Vuitton-uj1hz
      @Vuitton-uj1hz Před 3 měsíci

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @Nicoleniccypal
      @Nicoleniccypal Před 3 měsíci

      Is he on instagram?

    • @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks
      @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks Před 3 měsíci

      Yes, he is dr.porass

  • @rgrox2000
    @rgrox2000 Před 3 lety +2553

    "My Old age is a joy to have a son like him", this just touched my heart.

    • @drew7915
      @drew7915 Před 3 lety +12

      Soon as i saw that, saw this comment. Same here man that was beautiful

    • @lina-zz9kk
      @lina-zz9kk Před 3 lety +1

      me too

    • @4holdings883
      @4holdings883 Před 3 lety +6

      Dude why u gotta make me cry man

    • @de0509
      @de0509 Před 3 lety +2

      Yeh, but when I heard that I instantly said to myself "this old man is lying to himself". Hes just trying to console himself, because its obvious he is worried of his sons future. How can he claim to feel joy when all he feels is worry? It was a plain lie that is solidified by 40 years of repetition

    • @cheapsneakers4283
      @cheapsneakers4283 Před 3 lety +25

      @@de0509 maybe what he's trying to say is he's happy to have a son who's still be with them, near, so they will not get lonely and feeling left out. Because some people our there only get chance to see their kids once-twice a year and in a short period of time

  • @KayJay79
    @KayJay79 Před 4 lety +660

    "He never complains - that's the beauty about my boy." That statement especially touched my heart.

    • @Call-me-Al
      @Call-me-Al Před 4 lety +4

      All of it is pretty amazing

    • @xueqir
      @xueqir Před 4 lety +6

      i was thinking the exact same, simple words that expresses how deeply the father loves his son

    • @meliiodas4456
      @meliiodas4456 Před 4 lety +2

      I got jealous hearing those words

  • @patbrophy7693
    @patbrophy7693 Před rokem +4

    This story is wonderful greatest parents of all time duane is a great young man very proud to hear of Duane s great progress love and patience im a grandfather to my 2 yr old grandson with autism again patience and love is what we do here in our home

  • @mariannalanae7017
    @mariannalanae7017 Před 5 měsíci +2

    This family is so incredibly beautiful. They are so strong.

  • @mommeelynph
    @mommeelynph Před 3 lety +930

    “In my old age, it is a joy to have a son like him.” - that’s a father’s unconditional love.

    • @mareegray2597
      @mareegray2597 Před 2 lety +14

      Brought tearto my eyes

    • @kaiwalyaghotkar832
      @kaiwalyaghotkar832 Před 2 lety +10

      Yeah but speacial people have purest soul , whenever I see them they brings smile on face , it's like seeing baby.

    • @nageshsonawane3307
      @nageshsonawane3307 Před 2 lety +1

      @@kaiwalyaghotkar832 are gadhav tuzhya sarkhe loka fakt bolu shaktat jast jhadu nako pravachan

    • @cryptoinsider9305
      @cryptoinsider9305 Před 2 lety +3

      How is Duane today? Is he Vaccinated? Is he wearing a mask? Is he doing well? what is the future plan for him in a HOME? New world Order dont allow that. death panel by Bill coming up 2030. THE GREAT RESET. What will happen? Continue our 100th Vaccination?

    • @rhondamadgirl
      @rhondamadgirl Před 2 lety +5

      @@cryptoinsider9305 GROW UP.

  • @love_agapi_m3976
    @love_agapi_m3976 Před 4 lety +2302

    I could never be a parent. I knew that since I was a child. I wouldn’t have the patience to deal with a child let alone someone with developmental issues. I salute all parents who are able to do this very hard job.

    • @JDOGFTW
      @JDOGFTW Před 4 lety +43

      @@Flannelpan9999 If you have love nothing is hard.

    • @star_light_kid
      @star_light_kid Před 4 lety +2

      JDOGFTW you can love your self more.

    • @JasonChowTV
      @JasonChowTV Před 4 lety +9

      never try never know. when u give up even before trying, you'll never suceed in life.

    • @JasonChowTV
      @JasonChowTV Před 4 lety +20

      @Tamara K how is having a child destroying life? ur parents must felt their life destroyed because of u

    • @love_agapi_m3976
      @love_agapi_m3976 Před 4 lety +54

      Da J thanks for respecting my choices. So many are judgemental. But when you know that you don’t have “I want to have child” gene then it’s important to listen. I hope that you can get some respite to recharge and that you have support. Wishing you the best and stay safe. 🤞🏻🤙🏻

  • @bekind8830
    @bekind8830 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I have two autistic boys. And I can all the years of hard work Duane and his parents have put in. God bless this family.

  • @mrmorganmusic
    @mrmorganmusic Před 10 měsíci +1

    These parents are amazing. Such love in that family.

  • @terintiaflavius3349
    @terintiaflavius3349 Před 4 lety +1301

    My mother is almost 70 and takes care of my schizophrenic brother. This stuff is real hard

    • @Manuel-gu9ls
      @Manuel-gu9ls Před 4 lety +2

      Helen Bell younger brother? or older brother?

    • @terintiaflavius3349
      @terintiaflavius3349 Před 4 lety +13

      @@Manuel-gu9ls Older

    • @ELLE-zr3cs
      @ELLE-zr3cs Před 4 lety +39

      help her a lil bit.I am sure u do.....

    • @PP-vf1kx
      @PP-vf1kx Před 4 lety

      Wealthiest man Alive But Not Spiritually In Death

    • @PP-vf1kx
      @PP-vf1kx Před 4 lety

      Helen Bell Rings Of Sacrifice

  • @Userjdanon
    @Userjdanon Před 4 lety +2869

    Her English is also very good. She seems very well educated besides of being a good mother

    • @evank370
      @evank370 Před 4 lety +190

      People in Singapore have to learn many languages and English is just one of them

    • @EssentialMeditation
      @EssentialMeditation Před 4 lety +13

      Evan K well i learn some languages too and after 5 years i only know like 30 words

    • @AlexandrBorschchev
      @AlexandrBorschchev Před 4 lety +76

      Lmao you will be surprised by how many people in singapore can speak fluent english

    • @grill6411
      @grill6411 Před 4 lety +16

      Singapore used to be a British colony

    •  Před 4 lety

      Yes

  • @ditanurcahya2869
    @ditanurcahya2869 Před 18 dny +1

    i am crying 😢 when his father said that is the beauty of my boy

  • @weirdjoni2272
    @weirdjoni2272 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Man, I just wish him the best & long life to the parents!

  • @fa5234
    @fa5234 Před 3 lety +1598

    The father's love for his son is deeply felt here.

    • @Dave_B33
      @Dave_B33 Před 3 lety +16

      Yes. Mom too for sure.

    • @Area-sn1im
      @Area-sn1im Před 3 lety +5

      Mom too ❤️

    • @JessChristopher
      @JessChristopher Před 3 lety +1

      Especially when you're a father of a autistic boy

    • @jamesbelcher896
      @jamesbelcher896 Před 3 lety

      @@JessChristopher yeah you know how hard it is and he doesn't let that stand between him and his son atleast he is verbal now. not hearing your kid say dad or I love you hurts

    • @JessChristopher
      @JessChristopher Před 3 lety

      @@jamesbelcher896 right my boy is able to tell me he loves me. My biggest worry is what will happen to him when I'm gone.

  • @sukakawenkawen
    @sukakawenkawen Před 4 lety +1527

    Hardly seen this kind of parents nowadays, may God bless you.

    • @j_no01
      @j_no01 Před 4 lety +2

      Remember this son is very nice as well you know

    • @majinboo6377
      @majinboo6377 Před 4 lety +2

      too busy working to earn money either its job or business. if ure not sure if ure ready to be a parent or not, "dont".

    • @sweetbrown3476
      @sweetbrown3476 Před 3 lety

      Hello how are you doing today and how is the weather condition over there.?