Converts Attending Christmas Family Events | Ask Shaykh YQ #38

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
  • In every religion, we all have our own unique holidays such as Eid for us as Muslims. As converts, they have their own challenges. Especially when it comes to the holiday season, they are faced with issues that they have compromise such as attending a Christmas event with your Non-Muslim family members. Shaykh Yasir explains in this episode of Ask Shaykh YQ!
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Komentáře • 55

  • @alexhill5079
    @alexhill5079 Před 4 lety +27

    The damage that would be done to the image of Islam in the eyes of my family if I refused to even go to join them for Christmas dinner would be very difficult to undo. A lot of sheikhs issue fatwas with issues they know nothing about based on assumptions and it's really frustrating. This is probably the best thing I've ever heard from Sh. Yasir.

    • @Muslimmusa1
      @Muslimmusa1 Před 4 lety +4

      What are you talking about. I'm a revert also. ALLAH is greater than our family n freinds, sometimes to stand firm and upset others is the best form of dawah my brother. May Allah make it easy on you.

  • @Kalima_eS
    @Kalima_eS Před 23 dny

    Your compassion and logic is excellent quality. Jazakallahu Khairan. ❤

  • @joelgaddis3867
    @joelgaddis3867 Před 4 lety +16

    When I was a new convert I kept away from family gatherings on Christmas. It upset my grandmother, and some uncles said unkind things about me and my religion. When my grandmother got cancer I decided I should go to family gatherings for whatever occasion; it was well understood that I don’t worship other than Allah. But she passed away before the next Christmas, and I have always regretted time lost with her. I believe it does more good to make yourself available to friends and family. You can’t be of any help if you’re not around.

  • @ANSILKHANLR
    @ANSILKHANLR Před 4 lety +8

    When a revert sis/Bro go to their family, family can observe them .They can observe changes, they can feel what islam is other than what shown in media. A muslim's Life is a most important form of Dawah. Because others are expected to learn islam from our practice. Don't cut family ties.
    *Shikh yasir Qadhi is one of the scholars today who have Noor from Allah (swt)*

  • @abdulrasheedahmed2963
    @abdulrasheedahmed2963 Před 4 lety +8

    Good answer yasir to this convert... May Allah grant us understanding..

    • @hasansiddiqi91
      @hasansiddiqi91 Před 4 lety

      Abdi Ahmed thats “Sheikh Yasir”
      We should demonstrate respect and honor to our scholars.
      It doesn’t matter if the scholar is older or younger

  • @abdulkarimkinyanjui9771
    @abdulkarimkinyanjui9771 Před 4 lety +10

    MaashaAllah,,, I also have the same experience as that sister.

  • @azammahmood3951
    @azammahmood3951 Před 4 lety +3

    Our Greetings of Peace (Salam) to the Muslim sister in Finland.

  • @tylerwright3604
    @tylerwright3604 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you Dr. Qadhi.

  • @aljalloh1
    @aljalloh1 Před 4 lety +1

    I agree with Yasir Qadhi. One should learn before making fatma.

  • @zahara6355
    @zahara6355 Před 4 lety +2

    Thing is, I grew up in a religious Christian family. We never celebrated Christmas the secular way. Midnight church service that's us, prayers, hymns. When I look into the history of Christmas, it's actually quite scary...😈worship. For our children's sake, I think we have to disengage ourselves from Christmas celebrations. Gonna be our first hols here in Christchurch New Zealand as Muslims.

  • @saqulaindiwanalhind4097
    @saqulaindiwanalhind4097 Před 4 lety +3

    O yaa Allah thanks

  • @fagarfield9230
    @fagarfield9230 Před 4 lety

    Keeping ties of relationships with parents & family is important in islam. Love from UK.😊🙋‍♀️🤚

  • @azammahmood3951
    @azammahmood3951 Před 4 lety +3

    MashaAllah.

  • @Goldenhorsepro
    @Goldenhorsepro Před 4 lety +1

    Ma Shah Allah brother and ostad beautiful advice

  • @thinkerbell6065
    @thinkerbell6065 Před 4 lety +2

    U said truth! Iam a convert and it is extremely true that christmas celebration is more actually of family get together, getting more close with each other and resolving any issue between family members, giving gisft as well (act of generosity). Yes theres a prayer offering before they begin and i dont participate on that except that i kept silence and keep saying random thoughts inside my head like AstigfiruAllah, La ilahaillaAllah!

  • @maymunasavant1687
    @maymunasavant1687 Před 4 lety +1

    Shukran. . Very informative lecture.

  • @amelkatrin3464
    @amelkatrin3464 Před 4 lety

    In my non muslim family the extendet family comes together in the gathering after the funeral, I did'nt go there because I read in the hadith that theese funeralgatherings are cursed. BarakAllah fik for helping me !

  • @sulaimankizito4526
    @sulaimankizito4526 Před 4 lety

    Jazakallahu khaira you dunya dal akera

  • @mohammadAli-ll6eb
    @mohammadAli-ll6eb Před 4 lety +2

    My wife is Norwegian atheist , but my children are Muslim and we celebrate with her Christian family we eat together and greet , so it's normal I didn't understand why some ulama makes it hard and. Thank yasir qardhi for making it easy the dawah

    • @ricbla3499
      @ricbla3499 Před 4 lety +1

      Maybe he converted after the marriage

    • @mohammadAli-ll6eb
      @mohammadAli-ll6eb Před 4 lety +1

      @de bro we had been Friends since my young hood she was Christian at the time but in the last five years she was atheist. And we have four children I could not so I have to accept ,her hw she is , so me and my children are Muslim and we practice our religion but I can't force my wife ,with my religion , I told her if want convert but not because of me or force , I gave her choice and sorry bro if u don't see it good

    • @mohammadAli-ll6eb
      @mohammadAli-ll6eb Před 4 lety

      @@ricbla3499 bro am not convert iam somali origin and am Muslim alhamdulilah and I practice my religion

    • @ricbla3499
      @ricbla3499 Před 4 lety +3

      @@mohammadAli-ll6eb i said that because a muslim cannot marry an atheist, so i thought that you married before you were muslim so you did not know

    • @mohammadAli-ll6eb
      @mohammadAli-ll6eb Před 4 lety +1

      @@ricbla3499 I know bro but I married her before she became atheist , she was Christian before , and now I can't divorce her , because of my children ,

  • @hasansiddiqi91
    @hasansiddiqi91 Před 4 lety +2

    Beautiful put, MashAllah

  • @jackonasher
    @jackonasher Před 3 lety +1

    Brothers keep a distance from the shirk
    And the festivals of the disbelievers
    Try your best and don’t travel or go to a Christmas event or dinner
    It will be tough but this is essence of our emaan
    To distance from shirk and disbelief
    So please brothers and sisters don’t attend and explain to them in a nice way that this is shirk with Allaah

  • @queen_of_4
    @queen_of_4 Před 9 měsíci

    Salam alaikum, how about school or office Christmas parties? Exchanging gifts?

  • @tarana9329
    @tarana9329 Před rokem

    Does anyone know if there's a specific question on attending the funeral of non-Muslim relatives/parents for converts?

  • @riverdalemaryland
    @riverdalemaryland Před 4 lety +2

    Sheikh Yasir, jazakAllah Khair for the beautiful answer, but you repeated the word "Niyyah" نية three times! I don't think a revert/convert understands that word! It would've been better if you used "sincere intention" instead, and I understand it's one of those words that come from us automatically without realizing we inserted an Arabic word.
    الله يبارك فيك

  • @orthologiaorthodoxapologetics

    I am a revert. My family gathers for Christmas and it is the only day of the year we all get together. My siblings are all agnostic/atheist. My parents are practicing Christians. We read the first chapter of Luke that tells the birth of Jesus (as). It is basically a day where my family gets together.

  • @noahali3663
    @noahali3663 Před 3 lety

    Good

  • @YouTubeYouTube-qg6vl
    @YouTubeYouTube-qg6vl Před 4 lety

    Some European travel to Australia and New Zealand in the past some of them go to Hong Kong and Malaysia that is why half or more Singapore speak English

  • @selinan3077
    @selinan3077 Před 4 lety +3

    But how about alcohol at the table?

    • @jameelchoudhury
      @jameelchoudhury Před 4 lety +3

      Xenja N well she obviously isn’t going to drink it and anything that isn’t halal she will avoid. Common sense

    • @truthisheavy7028
      @truthisheavy7028 Před 4 lety +2

      @@jameelchoudhury Jaabir (radiy Allahu anhu) narrated, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him not sit at a table where wine (or alcohol) is being served.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, al-Adab, 2725; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 2246)
      We are prohibited from sitting at such a table...so how is one going to attend a gathering and not sit at the table to eat? What is the point of attending?

    • @thelightworshipper9687
      @thelightworshipper9687 Před 4 lety +3

      A muslim is an ambassador of truth and goodness to their family. They do not have to compromise their beliefs but they have to communicate to their family their beliefs using the best approaches. For example, drinking at the dinner could be delayed at a later time after dinner were the Muslim does not have to participate. One, can convince their family that it's not appropriate to serve alcohol/wine, knowing the ills of those drinks and that children may be present at the dinner table and that sets a bad example for them. If we are always conscious of our actions, Allah will help us overcome any obstacle/difficulty. Ask Allah for guidance and support and put your total reliance on Allah in all your affairs.

    • @arashdibazarjr.2985
      @arashdibazarjr.2985 Před 4 lety

      Drink up!

  • @amelkatrin3464
    @amelkatrin3464 Před rokem

    This seems a simple case, but the friction of converts with their family is often very complex, a lot of grey zones. Concerning christmas also depends . In my family there are people preparing the tree for weeks and even if they don’t worship like the pagans did, it is like sacred! They perform a little concert singing and playing instruments with christmas songs, even they are not really christian.so to say: "excuse me I don’t want to hear it" is a very bad dawah and like often you pass for extremist.

  • @TarekMidani
    @TarekMidani Před 3 lety

    صلة الرحم

  • @revertakh1235
    @revertakh1235 Před 2 lety +2

    I completely disagree with this, Christmas by definition is celebration of the birth of Allah swt/son. If hypothetically we got Diwali off the same as Christmas, let'spresuppose we are in India right now, now let's pre suppose that the Hindu's and Sikhs have a specific type of meal that they only have on that particular day, and this meal commemorates one of their pagan beliefs. Now let's pre suppose that they don't really believe in this any more, its just turned into a tradition, but it derives from these beliefs, would you yourself meet up with the entire family, and have this particular meal, on that particular day which is pagan in its origins? Or would you be like "hmm, I'm a Muslim, I believe in tawheed and the Messenger AS and what he says, and he to imitate the disbelievers is kuffr?
    With Yasir Qadis logic here I can have a statue of ganesh with the niyahh that I only like the look of it, I don't worship it, or believe it, why wouldn't I then? Because regardless of niyahh having a statue or ganesh is kuffr, same way having a Christmas dinner, on the day of Christmas is kuffr and imitating the disbelievers in terms of religion is kuffr.