Rule 4: Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday | Jordan Peterson
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- Doctor Peterson shortly outlines rule #4 in his new book '12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos'.
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3:00 "...you should be better than you are but it's not because you're worse than other people; it's because you're not everything you should be." Love this
that's Nietzsche talking, becoming who you are is the aim of a man
When I started comparing my life with others, I became soo bitter. I never want to be like that again.
"You're 85. You have Alzheimer's. You're done. Sometimes you're done." Ha, ha. I love this guy. He just lays it out as it is. No bull.
god I love this guy. really gotta be careful not to start idealizing him as a guru at this point.
LOL! good one
In the era of post modernism. Telling the truth has become insane!
Good point. I'm in a place where I feel like Jordan Peterson is a prophet or a disciple or something great with a name I don't know.
I remember the first time I saw a video of him. Students had surrounded him and were attacking him verbally. One of the students commenting about how she had seen him online and thus knew his positions and ideas. He responded by saying that there were over five hundred hours of him online, implying of course that she didn't have a full picture to back her judgment.
The girl responds with something like, "Do you really think you're worth that much time?"
All I can think now is, yes. Yes. Jordan Peterson is indeed worth that much time. And more.
Autumn K that something great you don't know the name of that he is preaching is essentially a modernized version of stoicism.
Autumn K That girl was infuriating, such ignorance
Sometimes you're done.
-Jordan Peterson
(I literally laughed)
This is advice I've given to people in my life... yeah that guy has $5 million in the bank, but he's up to his eyeballs in debt, he's working 14 hours a day and his stress levels are astronomical. I've known plenty of successful people, and they are just people. Sometimes it's their dysfunction that makes them successful. I've met very few people that are 1 dimensional and deserve envy. You've got to be your own hero, your own rescuer, your own role model, because you're also usually your own biggest critic.
2:59 "You should be better than you are not beacuse you're worse than other people but because you're not everything you should be." Life's most important lesson put pithily.
I think Jordan Peterson's about to save my life
Hope so. Did he?
same.
No. You are about to. He just gives you a starting point.
Welcome to the club, we've got jackets.
@@IrelandVonVicious Thanks for this reminder man!
Great advice. Not only can it be depressing to compare oneself to someone deemed "better" than you, but it can be a cheap ego trip to compare oneself to someone deemed "worse" than you. Take the log out of your own eye. That's the only way to see more clearly.
My best advice is to look to Christ, since every desirable virtue shines perfectly in Him. But some friendly guidance on how to consider those teachings in a contemporary context can be helpful as well. If you like, check out my CZcams channel where I have hundreds of videos on spiritual topics.
@shannon ice?
“It is not important to be better than someone else, but to be better than yesterday” Jigoro Kano (1860-1938), founder of the Japanese martial art of judo. I hope that Peterson feels some thankfulness toward Kano for his rule 4...
Watching these clips is a very sufficient way to summarise after reading each chapter. Love it!
I have this thing that when I feel motivated and positive, I end up procrastinating because I'm more relaxed and chilled. When I was at university, I used to get on a roll with an assignment, like when all the ideas seem to align. I'd then go "ok, time for a cup of tea now!" (Yes I'm British)
Wow. After watching this, it feels like a huge cloud was lifted from my brain. All this time, I never thought this was ever a problem for me. I swear to God, Peterson rarely fails to clear life's complexity.
I needed to re-hear that tonight. Looking forward to trying a new way of doing something tomorrow.
This is even more important to not compare your life to people's Facebook lives!
Laurelle Burton get away from Facebook.
I don't think gets harder as long as you remain teachable.
Dave thank you for conducting this interview. Nice work. Dr Peterson your modernising and concretising ancient thought. Again, nice work.
GREAT clip! THANKS for posting!
THANKS FOR MAKING PARTS FROM ORIGINAL VIDEO.
Love the music at the end
Remembers me Lost In Translation!
Well, yesterday was before I binge-watched Jordan Peterson for 24 hours, so . . . .
And now it's 6 months, are you better today?
@@luizpaulo6535well its been 4 years, how are you
I believe is human nature to compare and even envy other people's life at the stop light. But you have no idea what or who that person is....so compare yourself to who you were yesterday is what I've been trying to do lately..... and it is way better to do that and worry about you and no one else in order to be happier.
I feel that how he explained it here was slightly different to the chapter in the book. This chapter in the book was so confusing to me and so needed to watch this video to get proper meaning!
What painting is in the background at 2:23? Wondering if it is a one-of-a-kind or commercially available?
So basically get better so everything can be a little less worse
Hahaha I'm glad I wasn't the only one who had to read that line once or twice
He's the reason my vocab got better.
Great
Regarding the end card... Monster (Grimmer), One Piece (Chopper), Texhnolyze (Ran), ... Final Fantasy? and the girl on the left I don't know
The world needs Jordan Peterson!
Don't ever assume anyone else has a perfect life
Richard Cory
BY EDWIN ARLINGTON ROBINSON
Whenever Richard Cory went down town,
We people on the pavement looked at him:
He was a gentleman from sole to crown,
Clean favored, and imperially slim.
And he was always quietly arrayed,
And he was always human when he talked;
But still he fluttered pulses when he said,
"Good-morning," and he glittered when he walked.
And he was rich-yes, richer than a king-
And admirably schooled in every grace:
In fine, we thought that he was everything
To make us wish that we were in his place.
So on we worked, and waited for the light,
And went without the meat, and cursed the bread;
And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,
Went home and put a bullet through his head.
Comparison to others is the main ingredient in depression and anxiety.
As a 17yr myself i already felt like I'm a terrible 17.
Follow his advice then. What very small thing can you do better today than you did yesterday? Small steps my friend, but make damn sure you "step" every day.
patara pataranawach just wait till your 36...if you dont start making the right choices life will smash you eventually
No worries, other 17yrs feel the same. Really. Just keep going.
I am 19 and i feel like a loser
Same man, same (even though you're 21 or 20 by now)
this guy is a genius
“You’re 85, you have Alzheimer’s. You’re done. Sometimes, you’re done.” Hahahahahaha I don’t know why I found that so funny.
Someone told me once to never compare my life to somebody else's life on their Facebook posts. Why?....Because you're only seeing the very best aspects of their life, they're not posting anything bad that happens to them!
Exactly. The world is rough and mean. As Jordan Peterson said, "the world is against you . . . obviously." But as I told my own subscribers, many times the greatest enemy in life can be yourself. And you make yourself an enemy by comparision to others. If you make 80K a year and have 200K in the investment arenas you will feel badly if you have a friend who makes 250K and has a million in his. But you will feel good about yourself if you compare yourself to someone who makes 30K and has nothing in his accounts. But maybe that 250K person works 80 hours a week and hasn't had a vacation in ten years. The point is, your journey is yours. How much you want to work and gain to get the greatest benefits you can from your short time on earth---and most of those benefits, my friends, are not financial. Hope this helps someone----Charles
ManOfAllCreation, are you getting ad revenue from posting these Ruben videos?
Imagine giving your life to a career, working hard to be the best and getting your dream job.
Imagine the guy you replaced you know for being fairly easygoing and lazy but talented.
And then those colleagues telling you after a few drinks that you aren’t a patch on the old guy despite you’ve worked harder.
This rule doesn’t help me as I feel nothing but burning rage at how easy it is for some and how murder hard everything is for me.
It didn’t matter if I’m better than I was yesterday, that just seems like what losers tell themselves.
He will always be the winner as he managed it on half the effort.
It makes me want to kill myself and has destroyed the happy vibe I had before. Literally want to smash my house up and can barely work now. It’s totally destroyed my self esteem all week
what is the purito effect he mentioned in the video?
The Pareto principle (also known as the 80/20 rule, the law of the vital few, or the principle of factor sparsity) states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.
Thabo Nhlapo thank you
where the hell is rule 5 lol
What are some small things you can start fixing in your everyday life to start this trajectory to a better place? Curious what some of the responses would be.
Reading 10 pages a day eating an apple for me lol
It's all well and good, but self-improvement also means in Peterson's own words "burning off the dead wood" and "dying and reviving like a Phoenix". The ego doesn't want that, the ego fears that. "Suicide is wrong" is what the ego is saying. "You don't know if you'll get better". Any advice on getting around that?
Honestly, having gone/going through it myself, I know it's hard - It's just gotta die and be reborn like that Phoenix. The ego fears it, but it must be done. The ego wants to protect itself but the only way to burn off that dead wood, is to start the fire and let it burn. It's why people who do change, typically only change once they hit rock bottom.
Geralt of Riva, not typically. But yes, often. Depending on how committed one is to change and doesn't wander off down some dark laneway.
Peterson: "Don't compare yourself to others"
Also Peterson: "See, God told Kain that he falls sort when compared to Abel but Kain got toxic, which is wrong. Kain should just have tried harder."
God hearing Rubin swallowing every 2 minutes drives me fucking nuts.
What about time? What do you guys think? I always feel like I dont have enough time in a day. Improvement every day is unquestionable, but to grow exponentially time is the limit.
Sky Lord Panglot
Just take it one day at a time and you'll look back with a wide spanning history of change
True, but what I mean is that you develop healthy habits to improve right? The thing is that there is only so much time for only so much habits and things you can.
Sky Lord Panglot it's simple if you think about it. Let time be like an equation. If it's a priority for you you will find time for it. Say I ask you at the beginning of the week to help me in Math for an hour each day. You'll say I don't have time for that I'm busy. However the very next day your Phone stops working. You find time to go to a store and get it repaired because it's a priority for you. Simple.
I cant agree to that. With this example you exclude the limit of your body of the equation. For example if I want to study a subject I need time to rest as well. I cant keep the brain working hard on memorizing constantly. Every person needs time for rest, time off and social activity. You cant just spend like 15 of your 18 awake hours studying.
Once you begin, time collapses. There is plenty of time.
If you cloned yourself yesterday, could you kick your own ass tomorrow.
There are reasons why you shouldn’t compare yourself with the others today. First of all, you don’t know them. There are multidimensional ways looking at one’s life.(health, family relationship, career, friends, leisure activities, etc) Picking one aspect of their lives is not reasonable. It’s quite biased. Their lives are not the same as you. What you should do is lift up yourself to what you could be. There’s always something to do to improve yourself. Rather than being bitter and resentful by comparing yourself with other people in uni-dimensional way, you can straighten yourself up.
I was all positive about what Jordan was saying until he said, "Life is tragic." I think life is great. I agree with the rest of what he said. We could do something today to make tomorrow better and if you continue that then there could be dramatic improvements in your life in the future.
@Enkiko 6 No absolutely not. Here's an Abraham Quote to explain why. "In order to help someone who’s in a very different vibrational frequency, you’ve got to adjust your vibrational frequency so that they can hear you. And if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would not adjust our vibrational frequency down-ever. We would not introduce more resistance in our vibration for any reason whatsoever, because disconnecting yourself from resources does not give them more to eat.
Excerpted from Tarrytown, NY on 10/9/04
Our Love, Esther and Abraham and Jerry)
It's interesting because life can be both; life is tragic because greatness is matched in equal measure with horrid evil and sick twisted fate. a tragic hero may live to see the world to become a better place, but their life is tragic because of the pain. So I think you're both right.
What is a good way to measure your minor improvements?
Easy... Do you think it's better than it was yesterday.
If so, then you have achieved something.
Here’s a great summary of rule 4: czcams.com/video/E--lHSYlCtY/video.html
I've never been more engaged in someone's words of wisdom for the purpose of self improvement, but what is that nonsense at the end of each video? You're doing yourself and the viewers a disservice because they have to rush to exit the video when it comes on, instead of being able to quietly reflect on the words spoken
Couldn't agree more. It's a really baffling and pointless obsession of the uploader.
I agree. But you don’t have to wine about either. ;-)
@@jimdevalk whine. Yes no point in whining just stop the video.
I really appreciate you posting all these videos, I have to give a thumbs down on the new psychedelic music that exits, not a real uplifting thing.
Really? How silly of you.
Wow interesting. Peterson’s views are a lot in line with Catholic philosophy, especially that point about the actuality/potentiality thing from Aristotle. I think Peterson is pretty close to a Pelagianist in terms of viewpoint (minus his lack of belief in Christ’s divinity). His moral beliefs seem to be in line with Christianity but he thinks you can get there without God.
Probably because he won't label something that can't be labelled.
JBP is god
it always pisses me off how he groups kids together as just a blob of the same thing, and yes i'm fully aware i haven't experienced being an adult yet but that doesn't change the fact that kids aren't just a big blob of the same thing.
Because they are. Unless you transform. Which is when you experience becoming an adult. So yes. yes you are.
Chair lol wait till you grow up a little...kids are far simpler to deal with than adults...but you only see it when your an adult idealy with your own kids...goodluck
This made me cope with xxxtentacion's death thanks Peterson