How To Know If Youâre Making The Right Decision | Mel Robbins
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This is a question I get every. single. day. Sometimes it's in an email, and other times it's from a good friend. "How do I know if I am making the RIGHT decision?" In this video, I dive into a the difference between the two kinds of decisions you can make, and how to tune into either one, no matter how difficult it may be.
So, wanna know how to make a powerful decision? Watch this.
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I love how everyone over here is making huge decisions either jobs or relationships or even further studies. But I am literally watching to decide whether if I should buy my prom dress online or not đ
Edit: Sept 2022
Omg so many people liked and replied to this thank you!!
Also: the dress was worth it. I definitely got very lucky đ
lol!!
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Same *adds 64 items to shopping cart
if and wheter
Same thing here , I'm trying to decide on buying a IKEA rack , lolđ
College decisions are HARDDDD. All my friends know where they r going and im sitting on the couch watching these vids.
Wait until you have to choose between 2-3 jobs AND whether you should move back home or not...all at the same time. Financial stability or uncertainty but a potential better future after some struggles that you don't know how long will take? I hate adulting...
troxanne me too...now we have to face sm challenges and hard decisions in life. MONEY is the biggest obstacle đ
@@nununana21 Same in my case. I am facing this dilemma and not able to find the way to over come it and this money problem sucks
@@ganesha4451 I'm sure you will find a way! I was able to make my college and it was the best decision. I decided to go to the school near my house. since corona hits and i'm doing online school, dorm don't matter anymore. Good luck to you!!!
@@nununana21 thank you for this kind words đ
"The long term impact of making a decision from your heart and soul, that is where the best life comes from because you are living for what is true for you, not what is safe in the moment." I really felt that. Wonderful.
Exactly, I love that. I am having a hard time figuring out if I should stay in school or not. I already have a degree but I am doing this new career as it is safe and pays well, once I make it through. I wanted to make a smart decission with my brain for once but I am depressed, sad all the time and can barely survive with two jobs and school. I currently hate my life and I do not wanna continue this for two more years. :-( This degree is probably the save way to go and in the short term, leaving this apprenticeship wouldnt expand much but I would make a decission from my heart and listen to my health.
@@melxdionne rooting for you in life, Melanie!
I would like to hear more about this perspective, because I feel like if you make most decisions with your brain, using logic but considering your emotions in that logic, you will get to the best life, because you used logicâŠIsnât that that logical?
Which option would you choose if you had only one more year to live. Try that one if you are stuck :)
its not a good example because most decisions are for long term. if you had one more year that would affect everything and also the rationality of your decisions. you wouldn't even work or go to college because why would you get an education you're gonna die in a few months.
Itâs a great example actually. No one knows how much time they have left on Earth. So why not spend the rest of it being authentic and living life to the fullest? đ
Thatâs a great way to think
Well can still use this for my some short term i.e, /funtime/enjoying đđđđ
@@nikkik777 we wouldn't have doctors or engineers if everyone only considered 1 year outcomes
I so needed to hear this as I contemplate leaving my office job of 15 years to get a pilot's licence. Terrifying, unsafe and uncertain. But so freeing. Thankyou for reminding us to tune in to our soul.
That's awesome Julie :) go for it
Wow. Fantastic!
Amazing! Love your courage and your spirit.
i am doing exactly the same thing now!!! quitting well paid job just because i was exhausted and i love myslef more than having a job
Go for it!!
All my hardest decisions I have made in my life was based on the intuition ( it is from the heart, right?) , but I didnât know that back then. It was hard as hell, I quit job and relationship because it was too much together, and started from zero. It was the hardest thing to do, but even then I knew that staying where I am at was not an option because it was toxic and I knew that if I will not get out of this situation, I will be lost forever. So I did, and from the moment that I took my gut to do it, my life has been amazing. ( it took me a few years, of course). If someone is reading this and is at the moment that he/she knows is the time to go from bad relationships, toxic work places and co-workers, just take a few breathes and do it. It will be worth it when you will look back a few years later. đȘđ»
So it got better afterwards?
I have made the experience that everywhere were a few toxic people. Especially in workplaces.
But maby I got that often, that I realize I need to change the whole Job direction.
Which was and is so true, because it doesn't make me happy. And the universe put Bad acting people there, that I go and change.
The thing is just:
How to get money to overstand the period until the selfemployment Brings enough money?
@@Verena101 Yes! I am at much better place. and I am still learning to move forward. You need to believe that you are worth all the good things coming you way and believe me, then the real magic happens! and of course, life also happens and we all have ups and downs, however, mindset is everything. Good luck and take care! â€ïž
@@Emilychild thank you very much for your Kind answer đ.
Best luck and wishes to you.
same word for word
The key thing about making hard decisions is to think things through DEEPLY. When the choice is made, OWN your decision whatever it may bring.
If you want to have a peace of mind, detach yourself from the results and live the moment. Be STOIC
Yes completely agree
Thanks bud, this really helped
Thank you so much for writing this comment!
Love this ! I also feel like after the decision is made... to do everything you mentioned.. and I can make it seem like the choice I made was the ONLY option to begin with. Which will in fact help me live in the moment and be more stoic .... without stressing myself out - going back & forth about the past & what could of.. should of ..or would of happened if I made a different decision! Thanks so MUCH !
Needed this comment. Thanks. Itâs about making A decision and dealing with what it brings rather than over analysing and getting hung up on minute details. Surrendering and being courageous!
Based on my personal experience, everytime I need to make a decision but I don't know what I'm gonna choose, what I'm gonna do is clean my house, take a shower, eat good, sleep first, no distractions (wifi off), I want to make sure, I will woke up with complete rest and that is the time I will spend my time talking to God. I will ask him wisdom so I decide happily. I will not force anything. I will not manipulate anything. I will simply leave everything to God. Few days, weeks, or months. I will hear something, feel something that I should choose this decision and I will stick to it no matter what. And most of the time, I don't get any regrets by choosing it and then I will thank God for the wisdom.
When the heart,mind,and experience are in sync..pull the trigger.
I have a cat since one year ago. It grew into a young playfull adult and i kinda feel it loves me(even if i think a cat loves you kinda for interrests) . Lately i don't have a lot of time to play with it and i feel a bit guilty when i leave the cat home alone or if i dont play with it on some days. I try my best to interract with him every day even if its short and some days i don't have time to interract. I fell in love with the cat that dissapoints me often.
I have a friend that loves my cat i know he will be a better owner than me and i'm thinking of giving my cat to him. He has more time for it. My minds says its a good idea, selfless and i may show more love to this cat by giving it to this friend than continue like this the rest of the cat's life....my heart pulls strongly the other way. Only the thought of giving my cat feels like a claw ripping my heart out of my chest....
I thought about taking the decition fast (the sooner it happens the sooner i can start recovering from the pain) and giving it away but today i called my friend to talk to him about it and i want but i dont want....this decition is more difficult than i thought.... i kinda feel blocked. I can't pull this trigger so easely. Any thoughts, opinions?
anonym Well, if you absolutely have no time for the cat, even though you love him/her very much, you have to do what's best for the cat because that's what love is. I have an outdoor cat that use to stay at our house, but my other cat was an absolute jerk to him. So he ran away to live at another house. We kind of know them, but they take such incredibly good care of him, so I had to let him be.
Maybe you can have someone just hold onto him for a little while, or possibly give him to someone you know so you can go and see him. If you get everything together again, maybe you can even take him back.
anonym anonym Also, idk if this is the best option for you, but it's just another idea. Maybe if your cat is lonely, you can get another cat so they can have fun and not be lonely when your gone. This helps out a lot actually for the cat to not be sad, and might make you feel less guilty. Just make sure they have food and water, and you have time to clean their litter box. If you consider this, try not to get a kitten or a wild cat so they don't destroy the house when your gone!
@@lemon_tea.1138 thanks a lot for the reply. I really apreciate it! Finally my cat stays with me. My heart would never give me peace if i would have given it away. My cat always had everything not to get bored ( 2 cat trees, toys, a tunnel, my couch plus my stuff that he likes to chew on) and it never runs out of water or food. I live in an appartment and im a worker and student so i have to be a little carefull on what i spend my money on. 2 cats would be too much for me.
I just make time for it every day....strangely since that day i love my cat even more and i also feel more affection from it also.
Thanks again for your reply! It feels good to see that somebody would care about my problem!
anonym đ no problem, I'm glad everything worked out
Iâm so happy I came across this when deciding on something so difficult Iâm pregnant & I have to decide if I should move back home with my parents since Iâm in another state or just move into my own place after my break up. & my heart says go for my own place & soar because going back to my parents just seems backwards n safe. & whatâs is life if your not taking risks to be true to your soul God separate you & put you in positions to use you & elevate you. â€
Hope things are working out well for you â€
This is so hard for me, because I know staying in university is going to open up opportunities for me, yet at the same time I'm making that decision based off of logic. I know I need a break, I know that I cannot mentally or physically handle another year of that but I can't logic this out. I don't know who I am. I don't know what I want. I cant remember the last time I sat down with myself, somewhere along the way I lost myself in all of this and I don't know if ill ever be able to feel sane again. I need a year of something low stress with no obligations just so I can reconnect to who I am and what I find important, just so I can find my balance again but its going to be detrimental to my future and ill be forfeiting my place at an elite university, all I know is that I literally cannot spend another year in that reactive zombie like state.
What did you do?
@@wiam5117 I left, my mental health has never been better. Ultimately I think it was the best decision I could have made, looking back university and what comes after it would have never made me happy, a life tied to obligation is not one I want to live.
I've spent the past year figuring out what I want to do with the rest of my life. It's probably gonna be a lifelong process lol but atleast I'm not dealing with the suffocating weight of expectation and obligation lol.
take a break, it's time to take care of yourself :)
I am so proud that you took a break â„ïžâ„ïž
Gosh! You totally get me.
I chose not to follow my heart and the long-term result was an emptiness and depression.
me trying to decide wht career and uni course to pick i am 19 and scared wtf do i dooo :((
between law ,economics and business
@@aena5995 Go to the depth of both subjects and learn which one excites you the most. Do more research on each subject, go to the very core
@@aena5995 they're all related! you can study business (which will have some economics in it most likely) and apply to law school after...or study economics and minor in business and then apply to law school if you still want to do that! You have lots of options. You will know as you gain more experience in these areas, which ones appeal to you more. Also, think about what you might want to do after you get your degree. That will help you decide on your major. You may find that once you get into school that other courses appeal to you as well and you switch majors. best of luck!
Aena Mustafa what did you choose?
yep
Thank you! As a chronic over-thinker who gets gripped in anxiety, this was super helpful!
Just left a job that I was comfortable in to start a job doing something completely new but impactful. I needed this.
How do you feel about your decision now, with the benefit of hindsight?
Wish you Blessings of Abundance of success. Glad you took d courage to do it.
Iâm at the same crossroads. Curious to know your thoughts now
@@MrErock7 I am still at the job. It was the best decision! I was given a ton of responsibility and autonomy that I didn't have at my last job. I was starting to feel comfortable again, and I took on another project to shake things up and learn something new. I have plans to finish that new project in a year, assess my role (especially during a recession) and evaluate if I want to leave for a new job altogether.
Sometimes, though, we DO follow our hearts, and we end up disappointed. This is where prayer is needed. Ask for guidance, and let HIM direct your steps.
Thanks for the reminder
Thereâs no Growth in playing it safe and not taking a risk. Thank you Mel!!
Risks screw you over play it safe
â@@Killerrob-rn3osyou won't go far
Gerade als ich das lese, bimmeln die Glocken meines Windspiels. Witzig đ
âLiving for whatâs true for you and not whatâs safe in the momentâ- thank you so much , this is exactly what I needed to hear- Iâm about to make a terrifying decision that has a long term benefit but short term discomfort.đđâ€ïž
OMG!!!! Me too!!!!
This is about my relationship of 3 years.
I've been having critical thoughts of if I should go on with the wedding after a fight we had. And it paved way for deeper realisations.
We have reconciled but being with him will shrink and inhibit me but I kept holding on to the love we share.
These past few weeks has been the toughest. But now I know the right decision to take.
It's still very hard thođ
@@okaforjacinta760 I have recently ended an almost 9 year relationship, engaged to be married on our 10th. We fought terribly, but it had a lot to do with his drinking and my lack of courage to have difficult conversations about what I was in pain over. This ultimately led to me always being reactive during our fights. It was volatile. It was also passionate and beautiful, and something that I will ALWAYS carry with me, as part of me, and as what made me who I am today with much more determination than I ever would have had to better myself even more.
Iâm not saying itâs easy for me. Or that in your case you should end things. I am 2 months from the initial breakup and I have a long journey ahead. Heck, I might go back to him, but I would hate to see that outcome without first giving it my all.
Ultimately, you have to remind yourself of what you truly want. Not for your partner or even the both of you, but be selfish and ask yourself what will make you truly happy deep down inside in the long run.
Just know that there are people out there who know what youâre going through. I hope this helps!
â@@andrewlikestodrawyeah sometimes it's helpful and needed to seperate. And it's actually even more needed, to make a thetaphy or coaching where one learns to talk for oneself, setting boundaries, learning selflove and selfcare in all ways and by that, to see the other partner as a own individual and to be there when we can, but to go when we cant. And the thing is, that alcoholics and drug addicts and narcicists and all that very egoistic thinking people are most of tge time horrible to be with in a relationship.
They must want the healing. If they don't go for it, they don't go for it.
Both decisions are right. They just canât coexist. I hate this.
Do both, pussy.
SCL75 neither can coexist if you keep your power. Your option is a powerless decision
@@venceibul5676 pmsl
I feel you. I canât have both, itâs one or the other.
Vence Ibul YEASSSSSPS
WLW
Everyone: How do I know if I'm making the right decision?
Reality: *You can't know*
You cant know until you already made the decision and if its wrong and you don't stoo it might go too far but they say that it is never late to change for what's better
That s the right answer..you can only take the risk...
@@sweetgirl62 Look up the video about the "Chinese Farmer" . You don't know the consequences of good/bad fortune.
Exactly. Take your best guess, with the information you have, from where you are.
#askmel
"Whats true for you, not what is safe in the moment".
So' Truly True :-)
For such a short video, this is very powerful, especially the last two minutes. I so wish I had come across it when it was first available. I wanted to buy a house and viewed my dream home, but my girlfriend wasn't interested in it. My heart knew the relationship wasn't right, even though my head thought it was. I didn't pursue the house as I didn't want the 'I'm buying the house, so if you don't like it then I think we should separate' talk. I went for the 'safe' option. I regret that decision every day now, especially since the property prices increased so much during the pandemic that I will never be able to afford the house again.
This is good. I needed this! The heart wants one thing and the fear lies in the head.
Literally just went through this same thing - relationship was easy but my inner intuition was telling me something wasnât right.
I listened to that inner intuition. Ending the relationship was hard but once I did it felt like a giant weight was lifted off of my chest.
Never regret doing what your core tells you is the correct action in any moment.
Yes but can be so hard
Yes, and intuition is different from following your heart. Always follow intuition, not head or heart!
Right now I am in this situation⊠itâs so hardâŠ
@@a.k.1217 Same :((
@@kurdishpotato I rejected him⊠after talking with a trusted with similar values.. she said I am too good for him lol
This was so great to hear. I've recently been struggling with deciding if I want to work on myself or going to a new relationship with a man who is so far what I've been asking for. However, I know I'm not healed from past situation, and I also know this is a habit of mine, not closing doors, opening new ones and just hoping by opening the new one that the old door will just close on its own, but then I find myself still giving access to the old situation, in case the new one doesn't work out. I'm now realizing how unfair this is to all involved, including myself and how this cycle is crippling me. My heart tells me to work on me and to find that better, healthier, smarter, and balanced part of me because in the long run it will help me be a better person to other. However, my mind is telling me, maybe I shouldn't just pass up a good guy, especially one that I said I wanted.
You can look after yourself and partner⊠make a space for both
You canât even start to imagine what those words just did to my thinking and my heart ! Everything is so clearer now and I can see where I messed up and why !!! I have heard so much advise from you tubers but by far this IS THE BEST!!!! Crystal clear ,logical ,applicable!!! Thank you âïžđâ€ïžđLove from the other side of the planet GREECE !!!!!
I'm Happy for you. Keep questioning everything you do. Then you will have no regrets.
This resonates with me so much! Whelp, decision made - I'm taking that job!
This is so beautiful, everything that you said in the video, every single thing resonates with my current state of mind. Fortunately or unfortunately, I have made the uncomfortable and difficult decision, keeping the long term goals in mind. It is extremely difficult to believe in yourself when the immediate and short term decisions are so easy, comfortable and safe, however the long term decisions are filled with such uncertainty and needs extreme patience and belief in yourself. Thank you for your words, it helps in ascertaining that amidst the uncertainties there is still some certainty. That, the path I'm on, these doubts are bound to come!
this hit hard mel, ive been spending so much time living in guilt over trying to deside if my happyness is something im allowed to have. this has helped
Perfect timing on this as I decide to take the plunge from security to freedom to be more authentically my true self. I am going for it! Spirit has me! I have no fear! (Ok, it's manageable fear!)
Had a similiar decision to make about a relationship. When I couldn't prolong it any longer and was waiting basically for the right moment to have a conversation etc. the number one thing which helped me to move forward was when I have started small, asking a question here and there and then have realised that he meant more for me than I meant for him. It was painful but eye-opening. And so as Mel was referring to expanding consequences of the decision, I imagined myself in various situations with and without him and despite we stayed friends I don't regret the decision. My live moved up on a different level and I felt that I am growing again. Fingers crossed for expanding decisions ladies and gentlemen! :)
silvief1 love ur comment! I just ended this complicated relationship yesterday after I saw the messages about he is already to end with me and talking trash behind my back. I really love ur comment I wasnât sure if I did the right choice but Thank you.
Iâve heard this advice before, but needed to hear it again. Thank you đđ».
Thank you so much for this Mel! It makes perfect sense. I guess our mind always wants to keep us in the 'safe' place, as it is designed in the survival mode. Our heart loves the change that comes from our inner voice of soul. In this 'comfortable' world we often forget about being brave as well as risking and sacrificing things, for our true purpose and passion.
Iâm in a relationship with an incredible guy which I love. Deep inside me thereâs a trauma from my past relationship and my choice is to keep fighting for this to work even though my brain is scared and creates an inner evil me that wants me to quit in case itâs not good enough in the future or it goes wrong as it once happened. My heart, however, smiles evey time I see him and he supports me through all my paranoia. I hope one day Iâll be the same person and will be able to enjoy life as I used to.
Same with me
. How did you decide
Wow, i am actually blown away by the simplicity of these three simple questions/check-lists, yet so powerful and so true that it actually clarified some key decision choices that I have been dueling for many years. Thank Mel Robbins for sharing this valuable wisdom.
Thank you for such wise words. Iâve just turned a âsafeâ job offer down in order to stay true to my long-term goals and I was feeling uneasy about it. Looking at it now, it doesnât feel wrong anymore because I really want to stay true to what I am and where I want to reach!! Thank you!!!!!
This was so helpful!!! I have been contemplating big life changes for over 6 months. Gathering information through experience, overthinking and then working on tuning into my heart and soul... these simple questions make it very clear. Much love Mel!
This knowledge about making a right decisions has change my view over my relationship. My relationship is hard yes, but because Iâm in it I grow up and break boundaries. Because of this I learn to stand up for myself. It expand me, my living routine and my future. I wasnât quite sure about staying but now I see so many reasons why I should stay. Thank you a lot! đ„°đ„
this is amazing advice. rings true for me. at the end of the day we just wanna feel good things long term
I really like your ideas. They're so simple but they're so mind opening. "Living for yourself, not living for what's safe" is probably one of the best (and yet, strangely obvious) pieces of advice I've gotten.
Mel, thank you for your message as I usually use my heart when selecting things that I need for myself and my Family Members but use my brain to solve Math problems, out
problems outside of education and when buying items.
my final exams after 2 days and i was going for sleep but after watching ur video i got my answer ...
tnx u r awsm đ
You have no idea how much I needed this. Thank you so much.
Me too
Thank you so much for this; this is illuminating. When I've had to make difficult decisions, I've always used logic, thinking of the pros and cons. This worked sometimes, and I knew I made the right decision because my anxiety faded and I felt good. But other times I was still unsettled and it didn't feel right. I always thought that I should follow my head and not my heart when making decisions, because my heart can be fickle. Sometimes. There were times my heart was not fickle but I still followed my head. Those were the times when I regretted my decision.
WOW Mel! Thank you for laying out keys to weight in what the right decision would be at certain point. It really helps to consider them. I will add, that taking risks is never comfortable and the bigger they are the more scary, because you know it could go either way, win or loose. But, they that never take risks, never win greater levels or achievement. Thank you again.
This is probably the best advice Iâve seen in years! Thanks! Someone stated both coexist which is correct if your working from a powerless position.
I was having a terrible time in deciding something which will determine my future. I was so afraid to take the chance. But now I think I have got the answer. No matter how hard it is I'm definitely gonna risk it so that I won't end up regretting it. Thanks to you for opening my eyes, enlightening my soul, giving me hope and making me believe in myself. Your video really helped me. Lots of love â€
hi Mel, thank you for this, my story:
I've caught up myself in fighting about a thing I wasn't sure about and there was a moment I realized - wait, my head is only playing with me! In my heart I knew it is bad in long term to do that thing but my head kept convincing me that it is good and all that "look at that bright side" manifestation bs. And that was the moment I went directly to 5-4-3-2-go mode with my head shut down because I knew, I knew it was right for me to do so. I think it's only the ego and old habits that told me not to because they don't like to feel scared, they don't like to feel uncertain or lonely. Thank you for this video and mindset â„
One of your best âshortsâ. Concise and resonates. Thank you for sharing
Thank you. I am struggling with anxiety and figuring out which fear is mine and which is the product of my anxious mind. I really needed this. Short but straight forward. Lots of love x
Hi! I know this is a bit late. How do you know if the fear is from you and not from the product of your anxious mind. Iâm confused. Thank you so much if you get to read this.
Oh. My. Gosh. This video was made for me. As you spoke I saw the 2 decisions floating in my mind, and when you asked âdoes it expand your possibilities?â And âdoes the decision shrink them?â Wow! I literally saw how each one reacted to the question. All of a sudden, with a clarity that I have wanted to find for months and months I know what to do. Thank you so much đ
This video has changed my life ,
I've made a big shift in my career and now I know that my decision was right
Thank you mel đ
So timely for me to see this video. I appreciate you, Mel, because you come with true firsthand experience of how crippling anxiety can be. Coming across your media has been helpful.
I needed this advice to make a decision about my studies! Thank you!
For me it's: 'what gives me a peace of mind'. I don't always have to expand verses shrink. Sometimes I just need to enjoy my achievements and that's what gives me a peace of mind.
Tehila Sh True, its nice enjoying, but its after a choice being made. Which means you made a good decision.
What if both options expand but in different ways? Then, still go with your heart about the option that feels right? Just talking to myself here đ
Old but gold, i just found your video in the internet when searching about "how to know if you're making the right decision in your life". Thanks for your advice, and it's very helpful to me.
wow wow just wow i feel soo free right now wooow just when you said "if the decision expands you expands you future or expands the possibility of your life if the answer is yes then the decision is yes" i felt soooo free and sooo light like a burden has been lidted from my mind, my head and my entire body i just felt like a water pipe what was clogged heavily for quite the long time has just been opened and all the water is flowing properly now thank you so so much đđđđ
Living What's True for You = the nugget here. So helpful. Big bravo, Mel Robbins -- thank you!
Terri See, you are beautiful
Thank you so much ;) I am literally crying now...wow it was that easy all the time
I needed this today. I'm at a cross roads in my life and am feeling the need to get out of a soul crushing mentally and emotionally exhausting job and want to get out and pursue a career as a health coach. Thank you for this.
Thanks Mel! I just made the decision to accept my friend's offer to go surfing instead of the usual gym visit because I realised that I was hesitant in going surfing as I didn't feel confident with it (I'm still such a beginner). I remembered that it was one of my goals to learn to surf this year, so I'm going all in!
Dear Mel Robbins, I just want you to know how much you inspire me! I watch all your videos & have your books "the 5 second rule" and "stop saying you're fine". I live in Connecticut and wish to meet you one day! I was very depressed for such a long time and at almost 40 I was los ing hope. I watch all of Tom Bilyeas videos from "be inspired" and that's when I first heard you speak and tell your story. I wanna thank you, truly from the bottom of my heart for being such an inspiration to me & others. I wish I could meet you or even write you but I don't know how. I was in Boston for the first time 2 weeks ago and remember telling my son "I hope we meet Mel Robbins in a store, walking, just somewhere here in Boston lol. It was cold out and I rembered you saying how you jumped out of bed on a cold morning in Boston 54321!! Please know you are a blessing and have helped changed my life†sincerely Gina Marciano
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gina marciano Did you see the email address I sent you and the last message?
Evelyn Milton good morning! I just realized you put the email. I can't thank you enough! thank you so much!! Blessings upon youđč
I am finally leaving my job to spend more time with my children, and I've decided to also launch my youtube and writing career and work on them while my children are in school. I've been searching for vids like this to propel me forward and to reinforce that my decision is right. Thank you for your videos, Mel!
Same here .... I've worked away in another town for omost 5yrs .away from my wife and two yonng children boy/girl ...at first my job was exciting money was good but I wasn't fulfilled late night parting drugs girls to fill the void...my wife / kids really needed me so bad. The catch was I'll ve to forfeit my position at work place if I relocated to we're my family was ... but if it brought me peace so be itđđ.
I woke up thins morning and starting watching your video before I even drink my coffee. I had hard time making decision for about 2 weeks about another job that I want to start but I sometimes say no cause I feel it may be difficult. After watching ur video I have the energy to think differently and make the right decision
Thank you Dear Mel Robbins for a wonderful Lesson from your Experience.
this could help me in how i make decisions when i am feeling like i am in a co dependent situation! Thank you so much
I love this Iâm leaving a job as a CNA in long term care to work in group homes. Yes less pay but I get more training and more certifications and license... and someday maybe become manager or administrator or teacher or ceo
I have been looking for the right thing to do for months. Listening to a lot a motivational speakers. Thank you so much for every one of your words. You made it cristal clear for me.
Your video is so helpful and straight to the point. You have no idea how much you just helped me. Iâm facing serval difficult decisions and I searched high and low for a well spoken video on CZcams and Iâm so thankful to have come across yours. Thank you so much!
Love this question! You are so right about the heart...I relate it to my intuition or that gut feeling. What confused me for so long is the fear that would appear it's ugly head, and then the subconscious mind would jump in and talk me out of it for various reasons. So now I recognize that and use the 5sec rule to proceed with each step. My heart is my go to...then my brain helps me figure out the details!! Love ya Mel!! â€â
Wonderfully put! This is exactly how I try making most of the important decisions for me. I too relate it to my intuition, and over time I've learned to trust it as well.
Joyce Segers, you look pretty
Thank you Mel. Needed this!
I absolutely love this. Expansion is always my goal. Itâs the exact reason I had to end my last relationship because I felt like I could not follow my own personal dreams with them. We also had some distinctly different communication needs and it made it so hard because one of us was always adapting to the other. Which wasnât leading to very expansive vibrations between us. I really wanted us to be more than a fling. Like it really hurts me deep inside⊠But I just knew these problems were never gonna go away unless one or both of distinctly changed who we are / our ways of life. Two good people wanting to expand, but not able to do it together. God what a tragedy and blessing to have been able to share what we did despite these things. I will sorely miss them. But I wonât miss the anxiety of wanting to pursue a future that pitted me against my partner. And I will not miss forcing myself to speak through something I would rather step away from and return to after some thought. But I will miss the good times⊠we had some really good timesâŠ
This video was confirmation that I made the right decision last week. Thanks for taking the time to share your wisdom of decision making with the world!! â€
I'm currently facing a decision that has potential to expand my life or decrease no matter what I decide.
May I ask what it is/was?
When u feel good from inside...that is how to come to know that u are making right decisions
THAT MOMENT you realize you are watching the same video thousand times and never gets tired †Mel, you are amazing! Thank you!
Wow, I came to the computer tonight and CZcamsd "how to make a decision", and your 4 minute talk came up. Mel, you NAILED this for me... not going to be "easy", but I feel very clear about HOW to evaluate the two roads. Thank you so much!
That cleared everything up for me, Thank you.
I made decision to keep my professional integrity over being petty with working w/unprofessional people. Unbelievable that in this day and age people are true live haters (lgbt). I bet if i had my uniform on! There would not have been one problem. I am a US Army Vet 8yrs Honorable....When I made my decision [thought of your wise words]...
IDK:
I wish you were there to see the relief on the Female Mgrs face...WOW....
But I took my briefcase and moved on......last week. Thank you very much Mel Robbins...
Iâve been listening to this video a few times over as a reminder to not stay comfortable âsafeâ and in the known/familiar just because it feels that way!
Thanks so much Mel. Iâm using this as a way to remember that it isnât necessarily right to keep doing things just because itâs been done before.
Iâm taking a road trip by myself in a couple weeks and Iâm both scared and excited at the same time. Considering moving! Eeek.
Mel, I have so much love for you in my heart. Thank you, thank you, thank you for making such empowering videos.
This helped, thank you.
I am facing to make a decision whether I go to my dad's birthday or not. It may sound really silly but for me, it's not. For me, it means visiting the place I grew up in and where a lot of painful and harmful things have happened to me. I have difficulty saying that because I also carry a lot of guilt.. But like Mel said, it makes my stomach turn around and it shrinks, silence and inhibits me to even think of going there. I feel like I'm not ready yet. And it might look like an easy choice by then, but the social part makes it the hard part. I love my dad and I don't want him to feel like I ignore him. I have quite a good bond with him and I don't want to ruin his heart. But do I when I make this Descision? I already know what is best, but to make it a reality is damn hard.
Anyways,
Thank you Mel for saying this. It helped a lot! Have a nice day
So true! Great advice. I always inquire within (as well as teach), if I do ___________ does it make me feel lighter, or heavier? The decision that makes us feel freer is more in alignment with love and truth than the choice that makes us feel heavier. Our heart always knows that doing the right thing, though it may not be the fun or easy way out, is always a win/win for all involved. Love you, Mel!
It helped a lot, because I ve made a decision, I put in reality and now I doubt myself whether I choosed the right way but listening to you made me realized that I choosed from my heart and the possibilities/options and the long term impact are way better than the comfort/safe zone my mind says it would have been the right choice.
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Love this! Iâve got two besties that I ask: one will tell me the scary shit. The other will tell me the fearless stuff. If Iâm super stuck, I listen to both and check in with how my solar plexus chakra area feels. But Melâs system is so on point. I also am super aware of what YES feels like in my body because every time something super awesome has happened in my life (got the agent I wanted, the gig I wanted, booked something cool, etc) that feeling is so powerful. And I know what NO feels like too, but no is a few different feelings. So that used to confuse me a bit.
Thanks for this Mel! It really helped with a new perspective on a decision whether to take a job or not.
Renee Zaia,your beauty can make the news
I used this when choosing between to jobs , I was offer a larger amount In one job but it was that I would have to travel and only half of the job was paid for in travel and that other job was non travel but about half the money . In my heart I felt that the money that I would have for the job to travel would go toward traveling and that the stationary job would benefit me more
I hope I made the right decision
Iâve always prided myself on making decisions following my heart. But in recent years Iâve tried to be a bit more âmatureâ and ârealisticâ but Ive realised that that had just disconnected me to from myself and suppressed how i truly feel and what I want to do. I feel so lost and like Iâve let myself down. I was in that situation with my boyfriend so I broke up with him even though he was amazing I knew itâs not the right time for us to continue. But i also feel stuck in what Iâm doing job wise, and Iâm not getting any work done. Itâs not like me at all, Iâm usually strong and can carry on as normal but I think a lot of things are catching up with me. I wish I could go back and be how I used to be when I was strong and believed in myself.
Thank you so much. I doubted myself for something that i've chosen, but the moment you said that the right decision is something which can expand myself, i'm relieved i chosed the right one. Thank you so much.
Yes, you're right! But right decisions comes from wrong decisions...
what if two decisions will expand you somehow and maybe shrink you somehow, what to do? should we use head here?))
Agreed. There should be some planning involved. Maybe you think that something will expand you but there's no 100% guarantee.
I face the same struggle. I don't know what to choose. It seems I'm losing something no matter what I pick... And the problem is, right now I don't know what will be the biggest loss
@@troxanne4875 Jim Rohn said "indecision is a thief to opportunity, Indecision means what could happen is postponed or may never happen and finally, indecision means the door is still closed" toss a coin and take action :-).
@@mastercamer few weeks later and I made the right decision apparently đ
Juliana Maio Iâve been there. I know exactly what you mean. I would invite you to learn critical thinking then read about philosophical theology from both sides of the spectrum - deists and atheists. I guarantee you will come to a conclusion. You are not allowed to use your emotions to make a decision like this. Donât ever fall into this pit of involving your emotions. Speaking from years of experience struggling and researching the matter myself. Have a nice journey! You will never regret it.
Mel, thank you so much, you just pop up in my life like a universal message, at exactly the right moment and place. You gave me the technique and i think that my role now is how to use it just the way to save me. Thank you đđ»
This advise was amazing! Thank you so much for helping me with my decisions that have been roaming in my mind for months and after watching this video I FINALLY confirmed what I need to do for me!
i made decision with probability.
that sacrified eight years my life..
that is big trouble.
and i dont wanna do that again.
i must start again from beginning..
what did you do?
I have been preparing to live in my van. I am comfortable where I am at but am not really living. I have 4 adult children who are not happy about this but I am going forward. Thank you for sharing this.
Maggie's Journey yep! Do What you would want your parents do to you when you were younger
As long as they are not the ones who will ultimately have to pay for your lifestyle choice, I'm all for it. When people make decisions purely out of self-interest that OTHERS have to pay for, that's when I have a problem.
Maggie's Journey hahaa just at the right time i saw yr video! Must i expel the student or keep him for my name sake? I hv decided to EXPEL! The grandma n mum driving me crazy!
Go for it Maggie!
I am doing it!!! Living in my van and having a ball!!!
Maggie's Journey excellent! I don't know where you are, but on holidays I saw that a _lot_ of people in Australia go mobile when they retire - "grey nomads" is the colloquial term.
I literally needed to hear this, cuz God I was just over-analyzing everything. This really helped me decide on what my next step should be, and hopefully by next week I have started the path for my new life, scratch that I definitely will start the path that leads to my new life
I appreciate this. I made a decision that should have really expanded my career and relocated. Shortly after everything went terribly wrong and now I'm trying to put my life back together. Thank you for helping me realize due to the growth opportunity it was the right decision. Best Wishes!!! Thank you!!!
I used this to help me decide whether to accept a promotion and move to London. I was very concerned about whether I would be able to meet my manager's expectations of me and I'm so glad I accepted the job as it's all worked out so well.
How is London? Good for you.
@@maryjozwiak6555 Took a few months to settle in. It has really worked out well thanks.
@@EleanorRealOne eleanorrealone how are you just saw your reply and I wish I could decide . I just responded to another comment on here. I should check out the advice on the original video tho. You said it helped you. I cant decide anything anymore. Everything seems too hard lately. Thanks for letting me share that. I know you dont know me so I apologize. I dont usually put that out there. I just always thought it would be cool to live in London. I had a chance when I was in college but my negativity and fear stopped me. I have a feeling I've been scared ever since. Oh wow, I will stop now thank you
@@maryjozwiak6555 I'm sorry things have become so hard. I knew that opportunities like a promotion to London do not come along often so I was more scared of the regret than the action.
@@EleanorRealOne thank you so much for that response. That says it. I'm grateful we had this conversation. I hope your endeavors, your work goes well there. Thank you again.
Trying to decide between applying to nursing school again this year(which will start in January) or continue with taking my state exam for real estate on the 16th of October with a job already line up for me. Im nervous for both because real estate was always a curiosity of mine I wanted to explore, but nursing has always been a dream that somewhat has changed for me now. Both will benefit me in someway, both are taking me out of my comfort zones but only one wins and I can't freaking decide!!! :(!
Real estate
Candy candy. You must be a nurse!!!!
Youâre amazing ! Very wise and articulate. Iâm in a state of Cognitive dissonance rn because I want to move out of state and pursue a career being a flight attendant and my mom is not really for it and I feel obligated to stick around to help her but I realize that on paper and in my heart I want to leave and live my own life
This just solved my all issues. I was in the same doubt, whether to listen to my heart or to my brain... Thank you mel... U really helped me, such a simple thing, but rarely we think like that.. Thanks a lot