How To Tell If You Are A Lesbian
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 21. 08. 2024
- How do you know if you are lesbian? What are the signs? Learn how to tell if you are a lesbian! đI share advice and my personal stories with ya'll.
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Some of you guys are still not sure, that's okay! I just made a new video, i think it might help!
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I used to hate to watch romantic movies...when I watched lgbtq movies,and they kissing, I felt like "this is divine! I love this.this feels right!" đđđđThank you ma'am.
Getting jealous of a pretty girl and not knowing whether 'I want her' or 'I want to be her'
YES ughhhhh relate!!!!
Techno Implant omggg I just did that đđ
That hit me deep đ
Lesbian/bi problems
yesss sameeee i hate that :(
I'd force myself to like guys I thought 'looked cute' but I never understood how girls would completely fangirl over boys. I never felt that way lmao
Yeah i completely understand you, I never understood it either haha
Same thing I never understand this , like when they seeing boys bodies while sports class and just cannot stop starring , it feels awkward for me. I mean it doesn't deserve that much attention
One day I was going to sports class then suddently from no where some shirtless boys came to us (classmates) the girls were literally starring and enjoying their view and saying they're hot while I was like Burghhh, I really needed to hurry to my condo in order to throw up , I don't know if it's normal or not ...but this is the gay me
bro same
same !
Her: âFirst off you searched for this videoâ
Me: đđđđ§
h e l l o
@@laurenelloise lol
@@laurenelloise Oh hey lmao this helped because I recently came out as a Homoromantic or, an Ace/Asexual Lesbian! Tysm!!
@@-spac3y-243 Good for you!
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I remember thinking âI wish I was gay then I could date all the pretty girlsâ
I was very dense
Omg same
xD me too
"I was very dense" LMAOOOO
SAMME I remember thinking guys were so lucky because they got to kiss girls lmaoooo
Sign number 1. U searched for this video
Me: *surprised pikachu face*
oh my gosh ahah (i love that meme btw)
Lauren Elloise same đđ
I have searched for these videos many times
I m lesbian and I kinda hate that because my entire family is homophobic but I relate to all the signs sooo
ahah facts
One sign is that you feel awkward if you're around your female friends like it feels weird being very close to them (ex. Holding hands, hugging, etc.)
Ahh yes! This!
There's just this gay tension in the air
lesbian culture is being devastatingly touch-starved and being really awkward about any form of physical contact with the female gender simultaneously
Omg lol.. I remember my best friend was plucking my eye brows and she got so close that my heart started racing.. I didnât know back then lol.. I wanted to kiss her
Elle that literally is so true I canât even breathe
Young me: Am I gay quiz?
Quiz: lol yeah
Young me: nahhhhhhhhh,I'll try another one..or two..or ten
Awww đ
I've done hundreds and was like "Nah, maybe I'm not gay enough."đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Or a hundred...or A THOUSAND
Same
@@queenofhearts6408 or a million...or a BILLION
when you accidentally stare at your friends butt in the yoga pants as she's walking and are unable to look away
ohmygosh
@*Classic_Aliens* same though, Iâm in 7th grade and I have this habit. Most times I donât even realize Iâm doing it, I just see them walking by and my brain goes ânice~â
Shoutout to 11 year old me choosing which guy I have a crush on while also having a monster crush on my best friend
aww 11 year old u was almost the same as me, I had like 4 boys that were my 'crushes' and id pretty much just rotate through which one i liked each week ahha
Ahaha story of my life
Biggest mood of my like
Oh gosh. Yâall are so weird. I also had a monster crush but 20 crushes on some dudes- all at the same time. All of them kept trynna be mean but then my friend kept shipping it and they blushed. I canât believe I dated one of those dudes for 3 weeks
I feel so attacked right now. I can relate to this video and comment section. I was questioning
I remember thinking when I was younger âItâs so much easier to be a boy there are so many amazing girls but like zero decent boysâ that was probably a sign for me lol
wowww that's me đ đ
Saaaameeee
lmao yea
I am a complete tomboy
I always acted like a guy
And I am a lesbian
Or:"I wish I could be a boy so I could be in a realitionship with a girl."
Iâve been questioning my sexually in lockdown but Iâm not sure simply because I havenât had any human contact in MONTHS so Iâm just crushing on cute tiktok girls đđ
OMG sameeeee but I think I like mah best friend, but I'm not sure. ( Mah best friend Im Talking about likes meh) edit: I found out I don't like her but we are still best friends
Same Iâm so confused rn
lmao same
Tiktok is feeding my gay needs
same!!!!
Iâd develop âcrushesâ on guys that were seemingly unavailable and if they ever showed any interest in me Iâd freak out and loose interest in them. lol
Iâm debating whether Iâm a lesbian or not... this also happened to me every single effing time I had a âcrushâ on a guy. The most recent one was in December. I was into a guy who was in my class. Then, he told me he liked me too and I freaked out, lost all interest in him, lost all interest in having a relationship with a man, didnât even contemplate kissing/ making out/ having sex with a man, and stopped talking to him. Is that enough to know I have a slight chance of being a lesbian? I am very confused.
Same
@@mart4rt I felt the same that was not long ago I had a crush on a boy we were like kinda good friends and when he told me he had a crush on me I lost the interest and I don't want to do anything with him... I told him that and he understood that and now we're just friends lol and that was the time when I questioned myself about my sexuality and I'm still questioning yeah and now I lost the interest in every boy like when I see a cute boy I just think he's cute and that's all. I don't think of him like he's a person that I could fall in love with yk? Just like he's my brother. It's different with girls, when I see a girl who's hot, cute and this stuff, I'm like omg she's so hot and I just can't stop thinking about her...
Does this say anything about me like am I gay or am I bi? Idk I'm so confused...
(And sorry for my English, it's not my first language, I'm from Germany. So sorry if I miss spelled something or if my grammar is not right)
Fuck this happened to me twice
same itĆ like you like them one day and the next your like šoh ok were done with themš.
When I see two girls kiss I lose my breath for second
You and me both
my chest feels blocked kinda and my heart beats really fast
I donât really lose my breath, but I get like these chills that go over my entire body and I canât think.
when I see 2 girls kissing I get a weird nice feeling in my chest
Same haha
Girls are awesome .
10/10 agree
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This is my girlfriends dads name sorry xD had to reply
@Panagiotis xrisanastasis Oooo you have a crush???
@@littlemonster6939 I know I do đłđłđł
You forgot a key sign: all of the pretty girls you wanted to be âfriendsâ with in elementary school
Oh God from this vid I noticed I'm so lesbian đïžđđïžđ (your comment is so true for me)
Locks Gacha good for you :)
Wait....
Oh no, I relate to this too
Wait a minute-
I call every girl in my class pretty so I think Iâm lesbian
A big sign for me was always feeling uncomfortable in the girlâs locker room, they would almost completely undress and I would feel embarrassed.
Wait, thatâs not normal...? đ đ
@@EmilyJayne16 from my experience it might not be. All the other girls were way too comfortable
@@ari2540 yea
I felt the same. I always thought it was because I wasn't popular, and because I never dressed pretty (I felt I wasn't allowed to, because of my upbringing). Then again, I was bustier than other girls, and wasn't part of the girl scene. I really wanted to be though.
Omg thatâs a sighn that ur gay?
One of my signs was when I was trying to understand why girls r so much better looking than boys in real life. Like on TV boys and girls are both good looking but when it came to everyday people it was only girls that were attractive yanno.
Also when I was trying to think what is attractive about a guy. Like I couldnât come up with anything. Idk. Then when it came to girls I could list stuff forever aha
That's true boys be looking like cheese but maybe that's just my school
oh my GOD i didnt even realise this was how i felt
Because you look the look of someone istead
Another sign is when you was younger you used to imagine yourself as a guy dating a girl đ
this is a good one!
Me being guilty as this: đ
Oh god thats my life
true
Me, just realizing that this is exactly what I thought when I was younger...
When you see a lgbt movie, and when someone kiss you get butterflies and donât know why. Also you crush on girlsđđŠđ„ș
Shoutout to 13 y/o me completely losing my shit over lexa and clarke in the 100
yess
OMG YESSS
Me to
this was helpful as i think my daughter is trying to build the courage to come out to me.
this comment is literally one of my all time favourites. i love that you're looking this stuff up to help her on her journey, makes me want to cry. (I added it to the end of my most recent video btw, i had to)
That is amazingâ€
So, what happened? Its been 7 months!
@@deezbigjuicynuts she eventually told me about her crush - her name is Ariel. And when I asked about "attraction" - she had no idea what i was talking about. Being only 12, she might not really understand the feelings of butterflies fluttering in our belly we get when we're longing to kiss, hug, etc - my daughter basically just REALLY loves Ariel's friendship and personality. I'm still open to whatever she wants to tell me now or in the future - :)
@@cjwells0814thank you for responding! It's wonderful that your daughter picked up the courage to tell you!
I think im a lesbian because in ballet class I always felt uncomfortable when girls were changing. Same in the p.e room. Like I actually wanted to go to the boys changing room.
I hated changing for PE as well! but I think it was more of an insecurity thing at the time
Same, I don't know if it was the fact that the room I changed in had loads of open windows, there was way to many girls or if it was my body but I got changed in the school bathroom until my crush followed me in. đ
Ahh I stayed in the corner so I wouldnât look. My face turns really red when Iâm flustered.
Same tho I always change in the bathroom. But thats just me I think changing in front of anyone in general is weird to me.
I do the sane thing...
Why why why why
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Ok sorry, I am just panicking because everything here is relatable and I'm scared of that. I think it's ok for other people to be gay, but I think I'm scared of me being gay or something
for me some signs were âââââunexplainableâââââ infatuations with female tv characters (lol now I can explain), not being able to imagine myself marrying/being in a serious relationship with a man, and just generally being really overly interested in LGBT+ things (I think my subconscious knew before I did đ). loved the video, canât wait for the rest of the twelve gays! đłïžâđđ
Ugh yes! I relate to this one alot (especially with kristen stewart ahha). Also same, I never once thought about marrying when I was a kid, never crossed my mind. Feel comfort in knowing I think my subconscious did too đđ YAAAAYY thankyou
@@laurenelloise mine was chitoge kirisaki,I was obsessed and in love
OH MY GOD SAME
S a m e
Same!
I literally just spent 1 hour taking tests.
One came up that I was straight
One that I was bi
And *5* that Iâm a lesbian
Then I went on CZcams and saw this. Iâm more confident in my self now, I know that Iâm late and that nobody probably see this, but this did help a lot thank you so much for reading my pointless comment.
this is so wholesome i love this
i just took 3 quizes. i said lesbian, and the other 2 said bi. im still not sure though. i think im probably lesbian though because idk where it thought up the hole liking men thing, i never said that.
I myself have taken countless quizzes, nearly every time I get Lesbian. It's the same for me after watching this video lol
I've taken lots of such tests, and ALL of them said I was gay, so I just accepted it lol
Iâve taken a LOT of gay tests, I know Iâm gay but they were just fun to try.
How To Tell If You Are A Lesbian:
You're attracted to women
AMEN
Riiight
I, a female, is attracted to my best friend, a girl. I want to propose to her when Iâm 18 because sheâs such a great human being. She doesnât have autism or any disability though, I have autism.
What if you are confused about if you like a girl and then suddenly you see and hear a bunch of things about if you are a lesbian or not and then you realize, you do actually have attraction, you definitely aren't aromantic.
Does that mean I am a lesbian.?
Thank you đ
I always thought I was bi but now I realize Iâm definitely lesbian
Oh wow glad this helped you! đ€
Lauren Elloise I need help because I think that guys are cute but I donât want to have sex with them. I only want to have sex with girls. Am I lesbian or bi?!?!?
Think you're just a deranged zoomer that needs red pill learning.
@@linds529 and I think girls are just cute and sweet and I never had connections with guys only in primary school I said I liked guys
@@linds529 i know you wrote this com 2 months ago, but if you search up "Am i lesbian google document" and read that it might help. i just did that and i have now realised that i am a lesbian:)
The biggest sign for me was definitely my fixations with women in my life like my dance teacher, my school teacher, seniors at my school...at the time I thought I really really wanted to be them but with hindsight I know it was because I was totally taken by them! It's crazy that I couldn't see it at the time!
Ahh teachers yes I relate to this! I feel you with this one hahah, I thought I just really liked them nOPE
Yeah I can relate I have a crush on one of my female teachers and I used to have a crush on a female teacher at my old school.
Lauren Elloise falling in love with a teacher was my sexual awakening. Plus looking back, are you even gay if you didnât crush on miss honey in Matilda?
@@peak6796lol thats so me
Me following: madison beer, kylie jenner, billie eilish, girl in red, clairo, melanie martinez
Lmao
KaTiE mCgRaTh
I follow gay people on youtube.
And I watch steven universe
Bruh me toooooooooo
@iLoveMeganFox who cares it not like you would have a chance of dating her anyway sheâs a celebrityđ
I always thought I was bi, but over the months have been questioning and thought for a while, after all that thinking I think I'm lesbian- my family will NOT support me being something other than straight but- I think it's my sexual orientation-
:) i hope you are well and less confused by now
âNot developing feeling for anyoneâ I can relate to that so much. From ages 8-11 I tried forcing myself to like boys. When the boy I had a âcrushâ on started dating my friend I should have felt sad or something. But honestly, I couldnât bring myself to care one bit. So I accepted that I didnât like boys, or anyone at all. Then when I was 12 I figured out I liked girls
I don't have feelings for anyone and I'm 17 years old... To be honest I kinda feel abnormal...
Bruh Iâm 11 and I havenât had a crush on anyone unless I was like 7 lol
Not having a crush on anyone at 11 is entirely normal, donât think about it too much until youâre a little bit older.
I relate to this so much! I realized I liked girls when I was 9, I'm 12 years old, out to my parents, and i'm so glad I get to finally be myself :D
@@ElinePP I feel that tho im 2 years younger. Ive never had feelings for a single person. So your not alone out there.
What were some of the signs that LEAD YOU TO REALISE you liked girls? It might help a fellow gay bean if you leave them below
Lauren Elloise, I definitely donât like guys but I also have never truly liked a girl. Iâve just said yes when they asked me out....
Addison Scholl we thats okay, who knows the next girl you might reallllllyy like!
I remember in Primary school I had a massive crush on the new girl, like literally massive I would always try to get into groups w her and sit near her everyday. Someone I just thought I wanted to be her friend đ but then last yr I started to realise cuz I remember being desperate to hug this girl I like. It made more sense realising I thought she was rly cute n getting butterflies when I see her face or when she gets close to me
Hahaha aw thatâs adorable, but yeah totally makes sense !
Lauren Elloise I dream about you đ€Ł
since i was a kid i always was kinda put off by a male and a female kissing on tv and i recently watched âthe half of itâ on netflix and during the kiss my heart kinda stopped and felt all fluttery.
I just watched that! Yesterday actually:) it was good
As a young kid I just didn't care, just kind of disintrested. But something maybe is that I have always been really bad at detecting hetero romance. Like if a hetero romance is building up in a show I just have no idea.
I've always known that I've liked girls, but rn I'm questioning so hard. I've always labeled myself as pan but now I don't think I like guys. men don't make me feel any sort of way, but girls make me so mushy and gushy. I find most men ugly and I get disgusted by everything that makes men men. I only get crushes on men who are unavailable (long distance, actors, movie characters, etc.). now I just have no idea what I want and it's been stressing me to my core.
i felt the same, especially recently. my friend sent me this link: www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf#page=21 and it really helped me so maybe give it a read, it might help you too!!
Orange Juice sameee except i realized i was forcing myself to like guys and now i identify as lesbian
@@av4ri3 bro I'm even more confused cuz I actually felt mushy around a guy and I'm like "so what are er gonna do now?"
omg same đł
A couple years ago i had a crush on zac efron even tho he was literally 20+ older then me
Susan and John are my grandparents names
I AM SO SORRY
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IDK why but everytime she said "that could be a sign" i just found that somehow satisfying(omg how tf do u spell satisfying) idk
Hahahahaha awww đ„° that is cute
Sign 1: You searched for the video
Me: **Awkward laugh** *i did that-*
Hahahahaha got you đ€
Dang, for me the moment I found out was when this new girl got into my friend group and I was like âOh sheâs kinda cuteâ and that turned into âsheâs hot and I know I like herâ; asked her out but it didnât work out in the end. ââ€ïž
awww haha, good on you for having the guts to ask her out, so many people are afraid of it. At least its a cute little story!
i used to choose my crushes in school when i was younger literally until i was like 14. at the time i didnt know why, but i just didnt really like anyone like that so maybe i felt pressured to choose. turns out i fell for my one of my best friends and i didnt even know until i look back on it now
Iâm pretty sure I did that in kindergarten too, I was like âthis boy is now my bf and he loves me and I love himâ hahahaha. Aw that story sounds a lot like mine, ya arenât alone x
I'm so confused... I think I've always known that I'm definitely not into men, and in the last year I became more comfortable with the label asexual, but now I'm questioning if I like girls romantically :/ I feel like I'm the only 20 year-old who feels so lost (I know I'm not, but it just feels like everyone around me at uni has it all figured out)
I'm 24 and i can relate to you :/
im still confused about my sexuality but all i know is that i have always been attracting to women in my teenage days, i kissed both man and woman and it didn't feel same, i can't tell whether I'm pansexual or lesbian but i fall for people based on their personality
No trust me, Im 20 as well and having a full on crisis. Up til now I thought I was ace until I really started realizing that I do want to be someone and be intimate but doing anything with a guy repulses me. And now Iâm just, kinda lost lmao
@@JustaFaller The fact that you feel repulsed by intimacy with men is not to be taken lightly. When I had a boyfriend and kissed him, I felt nothing at best, I was disgusted by the idea of going further sometimes. And I thought I had feelings for him ! But the first time I kissed a girl was completely different. It was so good, I would have enjoyed going next step, and we weren't even dating.
So, trust yourself, listen to yourself and to your feelings. They're not wrong, they work like instinct. I wish you the best on your journey !
@@manonpavllptdr Thank you for responding, I've felt so different from my peers for so long it's a relief to know that I'm not alone.
@@JustaFaller Don't worry, you're definitely not alone. I think the people completely certain about their sexuality must be pretty rare in fact. But eveyone hides it because of judgment, homophobia...
For a long time I felt ashamed for still being a virgin (i'm 21 by the way), now I know rushing things is not the answer. I'll wait until I meet the right girl.
You're not an alien, I swear, so please don't blame yourself. You got all the time in the world to find the answers. â€
To be honest I watch lots of shows and I always feel wrong when guys kiss girls but when girls kiss girls it feels right btws love the accent
I watch so many lgbtq+ movies and I get what you mean
a sign for me was getting unbelievably excited when i saw wlw characters on tv or in books and i was like â... wait, why am i so happy?â
So I think I might be gay. Iâm still really confused though because I have had crushes on boys in the past and semi recently (all of the crushes extremely short and mild) and think some guys on T.V and movies are attractive but whenever I think about kissing one of them I feel kinda disgusted. I do like certain girls on T.V and some in real life and when I think about kissing them I get a kind of fluttery feeling. I relate to most of these signs also. Iâm not sure if I am mistaking my âcrushesâ on boys in the past as wanting to be platonic friends with them or something. If anyone has some advice please tell me it would be really helpful
Aww I hear ya! I understand how confusing it can be. If you get that fluttery feeling, just follow it, explore it. Sometimes it just takes a while to figure yourself out. The best thing you can do is give yourself time, and allow yourself to explore it. đ
Omg same, I am 19
And I've had many crushes on boys, not on girls. I didn't even knew that lesbianism exist. But yeah I think that sexuality changes and evolves. Like especially in the puberty
So anything can be :D
I mean I am a lesbian but if someone is handsome or beautiful girl or boy then they just are but like u said I can't imagine myself kissing them I just appreciate the beauty that's all but maybe u are bisexual (like boys and girls) but lean more to girls like 90ÙȘ girls and 10ÙȘ boys or anything u will figure it out with time good luck c:
"short and mild" just recently happened to me LOL
Ugh Iâm the same exact way! Like idk ugh!
When you watch shera
And then see catra and shera kiss
My heart meltedđ„șâđ»
OH GOD THIS LITTERALY HAPPENED TO ME!
y e s
Yasss I literally cry with joy every time I see the kiss đ
bahaha i feel you
"I dreamed alot about girls as a kid"
Me who can't remember any of my dreams đ
one obvious way i found out is when i had a dream about my best friend were she had asked me out and we just sat together and cuddled and kissed after i woke up hoping it wasn't a dream then i kinda just said 'flip im big gay'
Awww haha thatâs cute as heck đ
I used to think I was straight and never questioned it: I'd had crushes on guys in the past and never really thought about it. When I learned about the LGBTQ+ community, I realised, that I really wanted to be bi: it seemed so cool. Eventually I convinced myself that I was but never truly believed it because I thought I made myself bi and I was really straight. I started to consider going out with my female friends but again, thought I was forcing it. My best friend and I would always joke about dating - she had a 'wife' (one of her friends) and then they got 'divorced' and we became 'together'.This may have been because my subconscious was trying to tell me something... idk. A couple of times, she hinted at us becoming a proper couple and every time she did, I would get really uncomfortable because I was still questioning my sexuality. Eventually we did get together and still are now because I thought 'screw it, what can I lose from a bit of experimenting?' In the past, I had tried out different labels (straight, bi, pan and gay) and bi and pan felt the most right, bi more so than pan but after reading these comments (especially Katie Channing's about listing things she found attractive about both men and women) I think I might be gay but that still doesn't feel quite right. I often fantasise about kissing my girlfriend but again, I don't know if that's me convincing myself that I'm LGBTQ+ and I'm not, or me convincing myself that I'm LGBTQ+ and my subconscious mind knows it but I don't yet. Your video has really helped me - I don't think I'm straight - but I still don't know yet. I know it's okay to be unsure and not everyone likes labels and I can take as long as I need bla bla bla but I still really want a label and I want to know my sexuality.
Thanks for reading my TED Talk and letting me dump my thoughts and feelings here where I know I will be accepted xx
Iâm sorry too long-
I relate.. still figuring stuff out
hi iâm in this exact situation i noticed how u said this 2 years ago have you figured out anytning that helped
you understand yourself better ?
@Sasha Gaybright take your time there is no rush, you don't have to label yourself or push yourself into one category. I identify as a gay woman, I prefer this term over lesbian as lesbian was used as derogatory slang by spiteful people in my past. I had an obsession with Madonna from the age of 7yrs and other female celebrities. At first I thought it was just admiration but once I learnt about the LGBTQ+ Community I slowly realised my feelings were more than just admiration. It took me 5yrs to accept myself, have the courage to seek out others in the community and then tell my family and friends. I came out in 2002, luckily for me things went reasonably well with my family. I lost 2 friends who weren't prepared to remain friends after I came out. I've been in 2 short relationships with men, when I was trying desperately to be straight, and a couple of serious relationships with women. I married the woman of my dreams 4yrs ago and we share a simple life with lots of love and laughter. I have everything I ever wanted from a relationship. I hope you find peace. My advice to anyone in this situation would be to be kind to yourself and take each day at a time.
once when i was in like 1st grade. my friend asked me who i liked, so i said i liked this boy in our class (even tho i totally lied and i knew that) and she ran to him and made him my boyfriend. so my first "relationship" was a male. i'm embarrassed.
"Who are you following?"
*panics in girl in red*
Amazing
Yass girl in reddddd
ok story time because my feelings are busting out of me and I can't tell anyone I know. So at the age of 9 I had a massive crush on this girl who was mentoring me for a leadership program. She was 16, and the first person I ever had a crush on, although I didn't know it was a crush at the time. I live in a rather conservative country where being lgbtq+ isnt looked upon with much favour, and isn't talked about, so I never even knew that girls could like girls. Fast forward a few years, I had my second crush ever when I was 13, it lasted a year. At this point I still didnt know that what I was feeling was a crush, I thought it was simply admiration. At 14, i finally started to learn about the lgbtq+ community. At 14 i had my third crush, and I was in extreme denial, brushing it off as admiration for a senior. At 15, I had yet another crush, yet again on a female. By this time I was grappling with accepting that I liked girls, but I wasn't ready to admit it. My 16th year went by without any major crushes on anyone, and stupidly I was hopeful that I was growing out of this "phase" (utter bs lol) Now that I'm 17, I've just started going to a new school, and we get placed into groups with a few mentors in each group. Now here's where things get juicer. After that first day of school I realised I was starting to have a massive crush on one of my female mentors. We'll call her M for the ease of storytelling. I could feel myself falling hard for her, and i could only think of her. It's gotten so bad that I can barely eat because I'm so anxious and lovesick thinking about her. Now M was from a single sex school which is known for having a large community of lesbians etc. So obviously my dumbass is getting my hopes up. I'm so so infatuated with her. Currently I'm still madly crushing on her, but I can't really tell anyone because most of my friends aren't really open to the idea of the lgbtq+ community. I've finally accepted the fact that I like girls, but I'm still not sure if I'm lesbian or bisexual, because I've had crushes on boys but they weren't very major, and were extremely short-lived. I'm just trying to figure myself out, and I just wish I could confide in someone that knows me. Also I really really want to be in love with M, but idk if she like girls, and in a country like mine, I could very possibly be shunned for even asking her such a thing. I've never had such strong feelings for anyone, and I'm slowly dying inside so I'm glad I could let it out here. Sorry this was so long, and if you're still here, thank you for being here to listen when nobody else will.
Aww I hope you figure it out! And if you are lesbian or bi! Don't care what other people think! You do you!đ
I feel like CZcams is trying to tell me something..
hahah aww lmao
Signs (for me anyway)
1. If watching a girl and a guy kiss makes you weirdly uncomfortable but watching two girls kiss doesnât
2. If you could only see yourself with a guy either just sexually or just in a relationship but not both
3. If you canât see yourself in a happy relationship with a man but you could see being happy with a woman
4. If you only like a guy after you realize he likes you first (the feeling that you have to like them back)
5. If you feel nervous around guys but realize itâs not because you like them but bc youâre scared or intimidated by them.
6. If you want guys to like you but you donât want to be in a relationship or have them be with you. (I did this because it made me confident but I never wanted to date them)
7. If girls give you butterflies but the closest to butterflies youâve gotten around men is more like a stomach ache
This is how I figured out that I liked woman but I felt like I had to be straight. Also you can find someone attractive without wanting to actually be with them (I used to mistake this for a crush when I was younger).
Omg I- lmao I just realized I'm gay âđđ
I would kiss a girl sober and drunk
you and me both, fam
@@laurenelloise :)
Okay so I would too but question whatâs it mean if youâre drunk and you really really want to kiss a girl like Iâve thought I was just bi but I really like one of my friends and at that moment I wanted to kiss her more than anything
Iâm really questioning if Iâm lesbian so idk if it was just cause I was drunk or what
When you literally do all these Signs đłđ€
well ive got some news for you ;)
hmm that's a bit gay
Seems pretty gay to me đ€
Nice though
let's watch another am I gay video
"And single hmu" đ ah yes what a mood. This video just proves to me that me being a lesbian should have been obvious to me from a very young age đ€·ââïžđ
A MOOD đđ I mean same hey, but I never realised til after I dated a girl, which is so backwards hahahahah
@@laurenelloise i was the same đ i dated one boy didnt really like it and a girl asked me out so i said yeah and then it hit me đđ i was like oh, this is what i am
Awwww haha yeah that realisation is like OH SHIIIIIIT
Ooh- I got one- Iâm really late though đ
My friend asked me, âwhatâs your type in guys?â
And yes, me being me sat there not knowing weather to say, I donât like guys, or just lie to her and say something random. My mind took over and said, âwAtâ
Lol đ
Would totally be me tho
Ask yourself if your force crushes of guys and if you do you don't have to, girl there's a whole community here for you â€đ§Ąđđđđ
now i know you didn't and can't suggest (adult content) but watching lgbt+ (that content) really did help me figure out my sexuality.
Amazing video as always Lauren.
yes hahaha đ Yeah that stuff can be helpful too (but obv not something I can say in a video lmao) Thanks so much!
Lauren: "What TV show are you watching?"
Me: Sees *The L Word* in the next tab
Goodlordimaraginggay
Omfg hahahahaha đđđ
Zaraerae Smith Is âThe L Wordâ good? I have always wanted to watch it but I am not sure if it is good.
Glee
I saw this video for the first time 3 years ago and was in hard denial, and this was one of the first steps towards accepting my sexuality, so thank you!
I broke up my perfect relationship two days ago when I found out I dont have feelimgs for him like that. I am not attracted to any boys
im proud of you for calling things off, i know it can be hard + sometimes you're worried you'll hurt the other person but it's only fair to both.
@@laurenelloise yeah I'm thankful that he is still supporting me after this. It is really going to be tough from now on for me :)
There are quite a few of short films on youtube with the LGBTQ stories too. I am bisexual, but I still know exactly the feeling you mean. Even for us.. kissing another woman is just.. different! Lol.
Yes!! Iâve seen a few on CZcams and theyâre really good. YEA!! đ itâs just different !!
When I was a kid I would watch women's wwe just to check them out
Lizzie Morton aww omg
As soon as she said shows I thought of the shows I've watched:glee, one day at a time, the fosters, everything sucks , ya .....I'm definitely a lesbian
A sign I had when I was younger, was that I noticed whenever I said I had a crush on a boy, I never actually did. I just wanted to fit it. But then I have a crush on a girl, I'm OBSESSED.
God dammit Susan! Why would you go date John?
đđđđđđ bloody Susan, a heart breaker
@@laurenelloise always knew Susan was a heart breaker đđ
Canât trust her
for me i figured it out when I went on games that rarely had any boys and mostly all girls, dress up as a cool guy, and get girls attention lol.
oh my gosh i love that haha that is so cute, one smart kid you were
chromophobic Lmao I still do this đ
Me: *sees girls kissing*
Also me: I wish I could kiss a girl
*hold up*
Same xDD
Is this a sure sign? I mean for me there were lesbian tiktoks compilation recommended on yt and since the end of December I watch nonstop lesbian you tubers and tiktok compilation with a lot of cute couples and a lot of "are you gay" videos because I want to like girls exclusively so bad but I am not sure because before i watched all those videos I didn't think about my sexuality at all...I mean I did go through a phase were I felt sad because i thought would end up alone because I couldn't picture myself doing dishes for my husband or sth like that but I saw these couples and I imagine myself doing these cute things for another and literally doing everything for my wife but I am still not sure because I never had a crush on someone but I want to be a lesbian and it is frustrating because something convinces me that i can't be one it is just so new everything...okay i realize this was a bit long but I feel like if I write something down it helps me a lot (also I'm German, not native english)
@@feli1542 I don't really know how to answer your comment but I can say that I feel the same way. Almost everything you mentioned in your comment like watching these "are you gay" videos or lesbian tik toks or can't imagining yourself with a husband an stuff. You're not the only one xD (and btw I'm german too)
@@lucyfer_xdd das is so cool! Ich fange gerade an, die Flagge zu sticken und stelle mit einfach vor, ich bin mir bestimmt sicher, wenn ich damit fertig bin đđ
@@feli1542 cool bestimmtđ
Oooooooooooh thatâs why I got so sad when my friend straight up told me âyeah I,m just straightâ yeah that hurt I didnât even knew I liked her I just got really sad for some reason, that makes more sense (btw she came out bi later on)
Another sign is i've kissed my best friend at a sleepover but even though we were just playing I REALLY liked it and I remember wanting to do moređ
Hahaha aw adorable
The main issue for me, is that I KNOW that I like girls.. But iam unsure if i even like boys? Like I can think a boy is reallyy hot, but I cant imagine myself dating the person or doing anything sexual w them and actually like it. Where w girl, there is no doubt, like I wouldnt mind marrying girl... The things that is confusing me, is that I once fell in love with an unavaible male, I wasnt really attracted to him, but in the end I had deep emotions for him, and wanted to be his.. But when i thought about him and me in a relationship, I couldnt really imagine or even want it.... IAM CONFUSION
lowkey me...
Ida Rasmussen Same. Thereâs no doubt in my mind that I like girls but idk if I like boys
Reflect on past male crushes and asking "was I attracted to them or was I seeking their approval?"
That was huge for me. Once I realised it was always about approval and interpreting it as attraction, rather than attention itself. Massive difference! X
When you feel more uncomfortable with play flirting with ur friends bc u donât want them to thinks itâs real
My dog is named after a girl I was infatuated with from kindergarten đ€· in my defense I didn't realize what that meant, and I didn't realize how creepy that would have been until AFTER I understood why I was thinking about that name
OH MY GOSH awww haha i love this though, it's actually a cute lil story
I can relate to a lot of these comments, iv'e had crushes on boys in the past but. Whenever I think about even just holding hands with a boy i go awww disgusting but when i think of a girl i'm like yaaaaasss and i go crazy so i'm thinking i'm lesbian
I mean, me. I had a bf when I was 16 and I genuinely liked him but I just didnât want to kiss him
Thank you so much, you've pushed me into a bit more of understanding of my sexuality it means so much.
Anyone who would ask themselves if they are lesbian or took a quiz. Is one way to say *You* *Are* *Lesbian*
I am 12 years old and I think Iâm bisexual but I am still young so Iâm still questioning if I am or not, I donât know how to tell my parents because I know their going to pass it off as a phase, I think I have a crush on this girl in my class because I feel the exact same way for her as I felt towards this boy in my math class (I used to have a crush on him) so thatâs why I think Iâm bisexual, but like I said before, Iâm still young so...yeah đ
Me to I though I was bisexual but come to think of it for like 1-2 months now I realized that I was a lesbian So... that thatđđ (Im 13 btw)
I'm male though
well, you can relate to knowing HOW GREAT GIRLS ARE AM I RIGHT
iâve been questioning for almost 2 years and i just cannot come to a conclusion. this video is super helpful aswell, thank you!
Happy to help! its okay, take your time, it took me a few years to accept myself
When she said I can't explain the feeling my mind went straight to the Catradora kiss
Sameeeđœ
So I'm bi
But everyone says: tbh in high school your prob gonna come out as lesbian
Then me in my head: oh shit wait they're probably right XD
(I'm also scared as HELL to tell my parents that I think I'm bi even tho they won't care 0-0')
Soggy potato REE I mean technically you donât have to tell them if you donât ave a female partner
Iâm still in questioning about being bisexual or lesbian . Iâm falling in love with my new best friend but the thought of intercourse and all of that scares me and would I regret it in the end.
Crowfeather Oof. Iâm asexual, aromantic & bi (legit no one wants be because of this)
Well, I'm gay so. And I'm fucking happy about it.
GIRLS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL đâ€đâ€
It feels so good reading all of the comments and how I relate to alot of them it feels like a safe space đ
Iâm gay
wooo đ
Omg that for replying
I thought I was lesbian because it got in my head, I heard too much about it and I liked my friend kathrine. But then all sorts of guys started asking me out. This one guy Chaz. He said he liked me and he made it pretty known that he does by calling me babe, Iâd do anything for you...That kind of thing. I started liking him or having feelings for him. I still like some girls. And now I know why. Iâm Bi. People say itâs a phase, but itâs really not! This is real life. This is who I am. You can say all you want but Iâm not changing. Thereâs nothing holding me back. Iâm glad I found you Lauren Elloise. You truly helped me find myself. So, Thank you. If I want you can subscribe to my channel @MaxCooper
This helped probably too much! here's a sign i know : this probably doesn't help a lot but if you ship gay or lesbian ships you probably are gay or lesbian yourself! (I know not all people like "ships")
Being overly happy when my best friend got out of a relationship.... WHO I âOBSESSEDâ OVER
3:24 oml why is this so accurate
When any of my female friends hug me i shrivle up into a grape and run away
I RELATE!!
This helped me so much... I feel like my entire life makes sense now.
Down to the dreaming about wemon I look up to, and the not being interested when my friends talked about guys- thank you so much.
Literally my class asks me if I have a crush and theyâd have to ask me questions for the entirety of recess until they realized that I didnât have a crush.
Good video
Thank you so much you have gotten me closer to finding my sexuality
aw you are so welcome!
Me watching shera:
SPOILER
Shera and catra kissed
Me: eeeeeeeei!!!! YES
some girls wana be ariana grande but i just wana be shera đȘâïž
i think i might be lesbian đł. I've kind of always been into girls, and I used to have a crush on my 7th grade teacher (who was female). thank you so much for these signs it makes me feel so much less confused about my sexuality! Of course i'm a 22 year old dude, but you can never be too sure â€ïž
i have a habit of crushing on my arch nemisises
Me searching for stuff like this at 5 am lol. I wouldn't say I'm questioning more... Coming to terms with it all. I've been through alot in my life and things have really been, a really crappy rollercoaster xD. I started noticing things a few years back and the more I thought about it and explored it, I started see that yeah, girls are super cute and really attractive, had dreams about some of my friends and have had crushes, one seems to be developing (eeee!) And while I know what I feel, it's still different. I'm sure that feeling will go away, I hope xD
I really like girls, I searched for this, havenât had a crush on a guy in years, I dream about girls, but I want a cute relationship like a girl and guy like those really cute couples, and I kinda have a crush on a tik tok guy, but I still think Iâm lesbian at times. What does this mean?
Maybe your bi
I have the same feeling, and now I think I have a crush for one of my girl classmates, but Iâm not sure if itâs true or just me trying so hard to get a crush to figure out what the heck am I
I am a bisexual
If you skip all the scenes in movies to only the lesbian scenes and then watch them repeatedly
definitely a big clue!
My now ex girlfriend of nearly 3 years told me sheâs confused about her sexuality (she was bi before), but now sheâs doubting if she even likes guys. I realize that if she really is lesbian I canât change that and Iâd want to support her in any way I can. She also still wants to be friends for now and maybe get back together when she figures her stuff out but itâs really confusing for me, I still have feelings for her romantically but donât want to disrespect her sexuality so idk what I should do.đ