Am I A Lesbian? 8 Reasons You Might Be | LGBTQ Lesbian Quiz
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- We know, the societal "default" is straight. It's called compulsory heterosexuality (comphet) and it's the worst. So what if you're not sure that life suits you? How do you figure out you might be a lesbian?
Welcome to our favorite video so far- the top 8 reasons you might be gay. We talk about plants, close female friendships and assumptions about sexuality. Watch to the end for a little celebration!
That "other people think you're gay" thing really hits hard, my sister knew I was gay and kept trying to tell me she would accept me if I was gay and joking about girlfriends and stuff at least 5 or 6 years before I knew I was.
I feel that. My sister always told me she'd love me no matter what. I never understood what she meant or sometimes I wasn't ready to tell her. That went out the window when I was 21. XD
I’m the baby gay who’s still in denial and searching youtube in the hope that I can make sens of all of this... and I’m
realising I am just the biggest cliché ever and didn’t even know it! Part of me watches those videos hoping that I won’t relate to them, but now I just have to give in because all of what you said is just SO me (strong STRONG friendship bond, very high standards in guys, so many girl celebrity crushes but can’t name one guy for the life of me, vegetarian, and I send my many plants to be plantsited when I’m on holiday with precise instructions because I love them like as if they were my children,...)
I discovered I am a lesbian just this week after hearing the term comp het!
Same, learning about comp het was like seeing my feelings written down :)
Same 🤯
Same
Same here
saaaame
ya'll really called me out on the "perfect man", part. i've looked up these videos before but i haven't heard that one!
Too real!!! 😂
I got called out on that too😂
When thinking about potential boyfriends I would always think of how I'd look with them and how our personalities would mesh.
heh yeah only had one boyfriend, was interested at the time but now it's just kinda,, ew. B)
I’m either bi or a lesbian, it may be because I don’t want to leave my comfort zone of “liking”guys. I have a crush on a gay girl, and I think she may like me back. I know that I don’t have to label myself and it’s not a race, but I just want to have answers to how I feel
Edit, two months later: me and my crush talked, and it turns out that she’s flirty with all of our friends (we’re in the same friend group) and she doesn’t like me back :/, but I’m gay!
When you identify with pretty much everything that Hannah & Sadie are saying, you MIGHT be gay.
Oh...
😂💕🙌
😂😂😂oh
You guys have insaaaane chemistry. And yes, everyone is a little bit gay. Sexuality is a spectrum. Totally agree with that!
its making me realize the utter lack of wlw representation in my life up until now! nice to see :)
i am not a stereotypical lesbian, i fell in love for my best friend when i was 14. so original
My mom used to tell my grandma that she would make me gay because she let me wear jeans and t-shirts . I must have been giving off the vibe at a very young age .
😂😂 oh gosh jeans!? Cheers to gay jeans Stephanie💕🌈
I might actually be a lesbian, the masterdoc made sense and I’m thinking of all my experiences and it makes sense but I’m still questioning if I want to be with men but I always leave my relationships cos I yearn for kissing my girl “friends” and I do always look for the perfect man and have too many high standards lmao but I went on a date with my girl crush and we asked each other out drunk and now I want her to be my gf but I’ve never dated or been with a women
i read it too and honestly made me realize im hella gay, you dont have to overthink it i hope you went for your friend, if not this is your sign much love
Another huge indication you might be gay: In college, I would get drunk at parties specifically to have the confidence to kiss girls. I told myself I was doing it because guys would think it was hot, but I wouldn't even kiss girls in front of guys. It would be a girls night and I would suggest we play truth or dare or spin the bottle.... So if you're doing that, you might be gay haha
This made me lol. Glad you figured it out girl 😘
Same 💀
The plant thing is hilariously accurate
friends platonically snuggling is awesome though.
Ive always thought that veganism and vegetarianism having a link to gayness,
is about feeling persicuted, and therefore being more sensitive to injustices.
Same with often being more political etc.
That's true, but I think it also has a lot to do with unlearning things that we've been made to believe are undeniably true. Everyone growing up is made to believe that we need to eat meat, and to be vegan you need to question that and unlearn the narrative that's enforced even politically with food guides etc. At the same time, girls and women are taught that their life purpose revolves around finding a man or a husband, and to realize that you're lesbian you need to unlearn something that's been hammered to you your whole life (compulsory heterosexuality). That's why a lot of lesbians believe they are bi - they know they are into women, but it takes a lot of unlearning to realize they aren't into men. Hence "trying to find the perfect man".
@@jezabelpoirier609 that's an interesting point. I went from believing I was straight as a teenager (even though I loved a woman romantically, there was no sexual attraction, though I was concerned even then if that still made me gay), then realized my sexual attraction didn't matter when it came to genders, so maybe I really was bisexual and just hadn't met the right people yet, to then realizing asexuality is a thing and it CAN be separate from romance. Now looking back I could probably say I'm about 85% homoromantic, 15% hetero romantic, and 100% asexual, with some possibilities of being demisexual if the correct circumstances were to ever happen. 😅
*also totally got called out on that "perfect man" shit, which I've made up in my head, as well as the "perfect woman" , but I've been way more ready to give leeway where my ideal woman is concerned if feelings develop for her, and I don't think I could do the same for a man. 😬🤣😅
@@claddagh143 "85% homoromantic, 15% hetero romantic, and 100% asexual" S A M E HERE
@@claddagh143 everything you said just perfect definition of how l feel
Gosh, "the finding the perfect man" is so true. At least for me. And I found one and was really trying but when it became serious, I realized I couldn't go through.
I checked most boxes, what does this mean? 😯
Good for you for following your heart! And hey, if you're doing a lot of soul searching about your sexuality, know that we're with you and here for you! Sending good vibes either way:)
Every time. EVERY TIME IT SAYS IF UR HERE YOURE PROBABLY GAY AAAAHHHHHHHHHH WHY IS THIS SO HARDDDDD
Here I was thinking plants just added a fresh decor element.
And it could also be just that. Its ok to breathe fresh air at home without being a lil gay. 🤔
Hi!!! I'm 28, and I'm from Brazil. I love your videos. I aways dated man, actually, I dated more man than I can count on my both hands...but all relationships never last more then 2 years, in fact the most of them survived just for a couple moths.
I've dated woman in my adolescence. I thought in that time that it was "just a fase" , "a joke" "a play". I repress my feelings all these years, knowing that I aways wanted be with women...now, during this period of social distance , I took a lot of time of self reflection and realised that I'm not straight, neither BI...I don't know what I am yet. I'm in a journey that has just began.
Aeee finalmente uma BR haha
Também estava nessa de achar que era bi mas recentemente percebi que não sinto tanta atração assim por homem, e os que talvez me sinta atraída são gays ou simplesmente tem trejeitos mais femininos
Não foi difícil pra mim aceitar que talvez fosse bi, mas estou morrendo de medo de perceber que posso ser lésbica
Minha família é hiper religiosa e se descobrissem que sou bi poderiam querer me "curar" ou algo assim, agora se eu me assumisse lésbica nem tenho ideia do que poderia acontecer
Omg I can relate totally with you. I have dated man in the past but I have always felt that something is missing. Thank of the quarantine I spent a lot of time with myself and that allowed me to think about it and face it. Now I'm on a journey :/
A quarentena tb me obrigou a analisar melhor e tô chegando a mesma conclusão... ou tô tendo coragem de admitir pra mim mesma quem eu realmente sou
@@c.leblanc9888 Have you figured anything out? I'm also on this journey with you after breaking off my first 2 year relationship with a man.
You guys! Lol story time! Okay so I am 23 and have never really been in a relationship with anyone. I always thought growing up that I was 100% straight and just not interested in any of the guys that I was around (those high standards though lol). Wellll then about 6 months ago I started considering the fact that maybe I was a little gay like maybe 85% straight 15% gay. So I switched my dating profiles to guys and girls. Well then about 3 months ago I decided that I was definitely more gay than I thought maybe about 50/50. Then about a month ago after some serious introspection and watching allll the gay youtubers I found you guys and this video and when I finished it I said YUP that’s me 😆 So I just wanted to hop back over here and say thanks for helping me solidify my ideas about my sexuality! I now think that I’m at about a 90/10 percentage wise 🙈 Oh also thank you Sadie for sharing your coming out story! I feel like most all I have seen people knew when they were young that they weren’t straight, but that definitely isn’t my story considering I was clueless until 6 months ago. So thank you for helping me realize that I’m not alone and that my story is my own and that’s a good thing! Anyways keep making videos you guys are great!
Oh my god Blair!! Thank you for sharing your story! We are HONORED to be part of your journey. We send all our rainbow pride and love your way. Thank you for watching and cheers to being queer!!
Same! 😅🤣
Being bought up in an extremely Christian home I spent a lot of time convincing myself that I’m straight, even though from the age of 14 I knew that wasn’t quite true. Crazy how you can almost make yourself believe something. I married a man at 22 who I was actually very in love with and that was very confusing for me, sexually I always knew something wasn’t quite right, before we’d got together I’d told him I was scared I might be gay, but somehow we’d both managed to convince ourselves and each other I’m straight... long story short I am almost thirty, divorced and definitely gay.... with maybe 5% straightness in there hence the fact I could have sex with a man and as strange as it sounds I mostly enjoyed it, it just felt like something wasn’t quite right.
This was a really good video. I’ve been questioning for a while now, and I still am, but this helped me think a bit more ^^
Stumbled upon your channel while procrastinating studying for my upcoming MCAT - and luckily was already well aware that I'm bi otherwise this would have been... eye opening... - but cackling and thinking about how well these apply to a girl who I had a rather intense friendship with - you know the type - and who freaked out and cut me out of her life when she had a little bit of "am I not straight and have I been treating you like my significant other" moment in late January.
Okay, number 2 just made my head explode!!! I’m always waiting for that one perfect guy that will finally manage to sweep me off my feet…
Thanks Hannah and Sadie. I've only recently discovered your videos and I love them. I'm so glad you've been sharing your stories, especially the long road you both took getting together. You are both articulate, brave, fantastically honest and above all ... loads of fun. I only discovered I was 'not 100% straight' ( a term I thought I'd made up myself until I saw you guys using it) at 40.. quite late in life. I'm now 46. Spent a good few years running away from it hoping not to have to deal with it but in the end I decided i must confront it. Thought i was the only idiot around.( Married plus kids leading a heterosexual life) So your videos have helped hugely. Anyhow..Can't hide forever - it eats you up....over the last year I've been working on acceptance... I'm nearly there. I'm so fortunate... wonderful husband, great kids and family, job I love, yet not a day goes by without a pain so strong in my heart. Please keep talking to us. Sending love from the UK. Xx
I'm glad I found your channel couple of videos ago
Thank you so much! We’re happy to have you!
Man, I relate to all of these except for being vegan! I think I’m a lesbian, although I’m still going through some comp het.
I'm late to this but the plants thing....wow. I have SO MANY PLANTS. Also, I am VERY committed to my fierce passion for a lot of women I follow and look up to. I watch a lot of beauty and fashion youtube and I have very visceral reaction to when they do... anything. Lol
I recently came out as simply “not heterosexual” some friends! This video is great, I relate to most of these, I think the only I didn’t is I’m not vegan (yet 😂). I also love the female figure one because I’m in love with Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez!
Ditto x
Ah same! I love AOC 😂😂😂
Hahaha 🙋♀️ I'm obsessed with plants and have kept holding out for that perfect guy. Everything else in this video resonates with me too. 😂😂😂
I just want to say that I love your channel and you've helped me with all of the questions that come up with sexuality, so thank you!
Yay! That makes us so happy Georgie. Thank you for sharing❤️
@@HannahSadie Oh my goodness this just made my day!
I've had an obsession for Home Depot since childhood....does that count?😂😂😂🤣
Woahh.. the Vegan thing caught me.. I see.. hahahhahah... now I know.. haha
Hahaha! As a side note- now that veganism is getting to be more popular we’ll have to keep a closer eye on our theory!!
I've been regularly searching for videos like this and I still feel like I'm bouncing back and forth with my conclusions.
I sometimes search for female covers of romantic songs, and always get pissed if the pronouns are switched.
Guys look all pretty similar to me (except a few exceptions), while The girls I know feel more unique. And I find myself wanting to stare more at other girls.
But I get more flustered when talking with guys, and most of my favorite actors are male (although I'm not sure if I admire them because I deep down think they're hot or I want to be like them, all confident-looking and with a suit), although the fee times I've dreamt them it was just so I could get to thank them nervously for their work).
I've hated any kind of physical contact for most of my life (except from my family), and in recent years I've secretly got a bit touch-starved. A friend (crush) one time rested her head on my shoulder (which no one ever attempts) and I freaked out and froze because I was scared she'd move away.
Soooo.... yeh. Confused as hell
Ps: you're a really cute couple :>
Love your videos. Please keep posting more. Greetings from Germany.
Thanks Nadine! Cheers and Happy New Year!
I really miss these two!! Best wishes!!
#3 Charles Theron! In any of her movies, most recently in The old Gaurd
the assuming you're gay thing is so true haha people kept asking me if I'm a lesbian and i was so offended like "??? no???? guys I'm STRAIGHT why would u think that!!!"
Thoroughly enjoy your funny and witty vid👌🙏
🤩🤩 thank you thank you!
I think I'm a lesbian
😂 CONGRATULATIONS!
*Sick Duck Sound*
this video is painfully relatable hahaha
You two are adorable, and you're so spot on! Cheers from AU. 😘
Spot on! Haha
Now, I'm really curious about my friends. Haha as far as I know, almost all of them are straight. But now that I've watched this, I might have to start some digging and open some conversations and possibilities. 😂
Haha oh man good luck with all those conversations😂🙌
i’m like 95% certain i’m bi but yet i still am questioning because i have to much anxiety to come out because what if i’m wrong and have to be like nope nevermind...like that would be so embarrassing
same 🙃
Its ok to come out again. People do that and its valid. Its also ok to not pick a label thats too specific especially if the attractions change. Queer is a great umbrella term and bi is an umbrella term also (its attraction towards 2 or more genders). Also the sexual attraction and romantic attraction may differ and thats ok too.
I lowkey might be a lesbian because all the things you guys said I was like I relate bro
So many plants and always trying to go vegan! 😛 I hand never found the right man, the one I like are all gay or unavailable. I finally decided to Identify as gay last week. 🎉🎉 I love you two. Thank you for your videos!
so many years ago I was big obsessed (still am) with Selena Gomez from Wizards of Waverly Place. my most prized possession is a postcard thing with her face on it when i wrote to her from a magazine clipping. I didn't remember doing it and when I got it in the mail I freaked. i treasure it forever
Some of the people I've felt most comfortable with are lesbians (and they probably knew I was one too before even I did)
Same and I just love seeing the lesbian flag- idk why but when i see it or when i hear someone is lesbian i'm so excited, idk why lol
I had all signals. A lot of lesbian friends. Knew about the spectrum. When i look back I listened to many lesbian artist. But it was age 36 till I came out first. And probably 38 till a first kiss. Love this video.
A lot of these are ringing true to me but it is so hard to get to the bottom of this with the pandemic preventing me from actually going out and meeting people! I definitely am not straight but I need some kind of confirmation before it clicks in my brain, I think.
Yeah it's the exact same for me
The first time I thought I might be gay is when I developed a crush on my gynecologist 😆😆 not even kidding. Never been with a female tho
Awesome video love watching your videos happy pride to you and your girlfriend happy new year's
Aw thanks Teara! Happy New Years:)
I already know about myself, but watch it anyway, just in case 🙃
There's no other thing I want to watch only lgbt content.thanks for sharing.
I think you just described me haha!
My girlfriend has always known she was a lesbian. I was the last to know I am not straight. When we have a big enough place, we will be getting a dog, but our asexual friend loves her cats more than is normal. We are on a meandering journey towards veganism. We have no interest in or admiration for men in any context or capacity, but women with any kind of oomph, we are all about that!. I'm going to start growing veg in someone else's garden because no garden at our own home.
As I watch your videos, I realize that Sadie is a fan of the USWNT. Really, that’s a clear sign of being into women!
I'd like to add one more thing to "finding the perfect man"...
For me one of the most eye-opening facts was considering myself asexual... my whole life 😅
At 22-23 I realized I had a major crush on my female best friend (duh, lol) for a few years, then I started questioning and it was going on for a looong time which resulted in watching a lot of coming out videos and "Signs you might be bi" videos :)
Later I spontaneously decided to start watching "Orange is the new black" only because a girl literally said "It's every lesbian's favorite show" and it turned out I already had it in my bookmarks cos a few years back I thought "the brunette looks so beautiful I must watch it sometime"... 😆
Long story short I realized I was definitely NOT asexual, AT 24!!! Thank you OITNB 😂🤦🏻♀️
Being a late bloomer sucks 😆
I still consider myself bi but 9/10 times I am attracted to girls ever since coming out (to myself, not publicly 😔) and it's already been 2-3 years 💁🏻♀️
I never had crush on female celebrities before nor had a crush on a girl ( at least I think that I had not)....unless this girl came around , she was in my life for 2 years. For the first one I knew we are just close friends, but second one we came really close and I started to have these imagination that we are lying in bed together cuddling and since she had a great voice, she is singing my favorite song to me. And just like that everything kept on changing... Our friends used to actually tease us. But I was too confused to figure out what the hell was going on. Eventually we got separated as we passed out from school . But now I was stuck at this another girl I can't spend a day without talking to her. I have started to feel disgusted at the thought of being with a man in real life. But for some reason , my celebrity crush are still male. So that had me all confused
Just found you Two yesterday.
Have you seen the film ‘LoveSong’? Hannah reminds me of Riley Keough (one of the actresses).
She is so beautiful- thank you!! And thank you for watching😊
😊 She Is.. My Pleasure.
Your male friend that you think you’re a couple with comes out to you!
Okay number two hit me HARD. I've wasted most of my life looking for the perfect person... Turns out HE was a SHE. Damn.
It happens to the best of us
@@HannahSadie thank you for sharing your story. I'm new to club so your content is very inspiring!
When i was 10 years old I downloaded a my little pony wallpaper app and there was this one fanart of Princess Luna (as a human) wearing a bikini...i was just staring at it, not knowing that i was being gay or anything. I THOUGHT I WAS STRAIGHT LMAO
I've been binge watching your videos. Hannah is funny and I think I'm having a crush on her.✌️😅
For me I know I'm a lesbian but I dont want to come out for the fear it's a phase. I just dont want that at all.
Same
1 : accurate, i became totally obssesed with my new friend, she became my best friend and if she starts talk with someone else im jealouse
2: i only find attractive male fictional characters and actors 20 years older than me and of course with real boys i was like : yeah, hes cute, mybe im not lesbian, but then i cut them off, bc i feel uncomfortable with them
3. When i was like 12 i was obssesed with Kate Winslet and i was totally obssesed
4. i was lliterally planning on buy 13 cats when i will move out from my parents
5. most of my internet are either gay or bi so accurate
6. i always wear hoodies and jeans, what did they expected?
7: true
8: very true
2:00 Lol this is so true (and so sad) and makes me think of all the closeted celebrities such as Cliff Richard who would always insist in older interviews that they were still holding out for the "perfect dream girl" to come along. Knowing full well that no girl is EVER GONNA BE PERFECT. Luckily, celebrities no longer have to stay in their closets and set unrealistic dating goals. 😏
Also, if everytime someone tells you "she reminds me of you !" about someone, the person in question is a lesbian.
Or if everytime someone tells you "she reminds me of you !" about someone you know nothing about and haven't even seen, you automatically assume that the person is a lesbian.
I really like Hannah’s shirt. Do you know from where it is?
Thanks! It’s from Old Navy :) I got it a few years ago -Sadie
I know the plants and vegan thing is half joking but i also thought that if you are someone deeply in touch with your own true nature, those cares may follow!
Not even 3 mins in and your perfect man comment hit home but see my problem was that I wanted to find the “perfect man” but also because everyone else was dating people would end up settling for men who ended up always being very toxic cause I’d find these very smart guys who seemed to “understand” me and in reality they were just very narcissistic and could easily manipulate me Im not gulible and I don’t know if empathic is the term but I just take peoples emotions at face value and if they were decent looking (which for me I had a pattern of dating skater guys with very soft features 😂😂) if they were nice and smart those were the boxes I ticked of Yupp this is a good one little did I know I was falling into this pattern of because I wanted a perfect guy and guys who were extremely intelligent were also extremely narcissistic I always felt like why am I dating them I’m not even really attracted to them we’d get intimate and I’d be like um... why is this such a big deal... and even with my ex husband I’d tell him oh my coworker is so pretty don’t you think she’s pretty and one night another coworker (female) kissed me at our work Christmas party and I literally wouldn’t stop telling him about it for weeks and just thinking about it I never felt that with a guy i should’ve known lmao. The fact that it impacted me so much that yrs later I still think about it should’ve told me.😂
4:00 I'm literally a biologist 🤦🏼♀️
it is true i think im lebian. i was fall in love deeply in womens but i didnt knew this, thats why i always wanted perfect mens and all my mens partnership was strange for me. and they(mens) always felts for me like they are a hidden gays. and they loved trans a lot. omg it is so fucking amazing to got who you are)))
thanks for the video!
I used to be bisexual, but I realized I might be gay.. I just realized it once because I had a dream of a woman and I just randomly bursted into tears waking up because I felt like I was changing as a person and felt like I was lying to myself for years.
Sometimes though I really doubt myself that I am fully lesbian though and whenever I go in public I purposely look between a man and a woman, questioning myself if I am attracted to both or just a woman.. It really has been confusing..
Other than that, my connections with men has lost its touch.. Every time I have sex with men I feel ashamed or feel nausea from even doing it..
That and I have been really into watching Wlw tiktoks, watching lesbian media, and researching a lot "If I am gay"..
This has been one confusing journey.
Yeah it is confusing isn't it. I think I'm bisexual but then there is comphet.. so it's hard to know for sure. One thing I've been doing is thinking "would I be ok with being a lesbian?" and "am I ok with being bisexual and living my life as bisexual and everything that would mean for my life". If you have the thought and feeling that "No I wouldn't be ok with being a lesbian" then that thought could be stopping you from experiencing your sexual and romantic attractions fully.. This seems to be helping me but I don't know if it would work for everyone so maybe just try it carefully if you choose to do it.. Good luck with figuring out your sexual orientation 🙂
Paris Jackson (Michael Jackson’s daughter ) is my celebrity crush! 😍 I’m also vegetarian 🌱
When you said you may have a lot of plants and go vegan I SAT IN MY ROOM COVERED IN PLANTS EATING A VEGAN BOWL 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
next time you make a video PLEASE do the sick duck sound, I’m begging you
😂😂 I’ll tell Sadie to Give the People What they Want
Hyyy where are you girls??? Missing you still in LOVE with both. Plz come back🤗🤧😁👍
I felt the friendgroup aspect. My friend since kindergarden is pan, a lot of my friends are bi and I have only two straight friends. When I figured out, that I was just surrounded by the LGBTQ+ Community I took the hint xD
Yess!! It's a gravitational pull😂
Not me just realizing I literally have the biggest crush on one of my gal pals...👀Like omfg she’s so COOL! Aah! I love her style! It’s kinda gay honestly and I’m so here for it, is she gay too? I’ve always wondered that🤔I’m so sad I had to move away....fml🥲🥲🥲
Well. I've been doing quizzes, cause I've been confused. I'm 13 and either bi or les. I know my mom and dad will accept me just not my grandparents cause they are religious and makes mean comments sometimes, they are really nice though. This is how I found out I like girls.
I used to go to krav maga classes when I was ten, there was another girl there named Crystal. She had VERY strong legs. We were practicing our kicks and I was paired with her so I was holding a tombstone for her to kick. She missed slightly and her toes, just her toes, got my chin and knocked me to the ground. Few months after that I left krav. Recently I've been practicing krav maga at home and it brought back memories. I have not been able to stop thinking about her for the past week or so. I'm 100% sure I have a crush on her.
Now I realize she could be reading this currently. Hey if you are, we can be friends if you want. I'm Aria, probably don't remember me. I understand tho, I forgot about you until recently.
I never had a crush on a girl or woman but I heard the question quite often if I wasn't into women. I have always thought it was because wearing my hair short and the way I dress. Also I thought I have just not met an attractive guy that is into me and also inspires me for more than two to three dates. Now I joined my lesbisn friend to a queer night out. It felt surreal and made me think: I got so much attention by very attractive women while my friend seemed to be invisible. I got approached as well. So I am like: If I am this attractive to good looking and interesting women, maybe I AM gay? For sure that thought needs some pondering but can it be that lesbians attracted to you can also be an indicator? And I am not talking one lesbian once or twice but a whole bunch of them...
My first celebrity crush was a female singer
Idolize friends - Check
Trying to find the PERFECT man - double DOUBLE check
Looking up to female powerhouses - Check (I love any female celebrity with bad b*tch energy)
Plant lover - Check (I've LOVED plants ever since I was a child although I struggle keeping them alive sometimes)
Cat - I want one so bad but my mom won't let me:(
Surrounded by lesbians - No (I literally have 0 friends and the friends I did have were mostly straight as far as I know)
Other people assume you're not straight - Check
..... o h
😂 ...congratulations???
@@HannahSadie it's been a struggle figuring out my sexuality not gonna lie lmao
Lol wow so insightful omg
My sister has joked about "Oh you probably won't have a boyfriend you'll have a girlfriend" or something like that and I'm just now realizing she's probably right
Me watching this video in a veritable greenhouse of a spare room.... *oh* :')
Over the years, I've found out that so many people I hung out with have come out. Of my middle school friend group, there's been at least 4. A few from high school, and there are some people I knew back in 1999, 2000, and 2001 that I'd love to reconnect with.
I think that I've often pinged on people's gaydar, buy in my case, it's more like a queerdar. One of the now out friends from the middle school group was looking for a word to describe me back in middle school, and suggested the d-word. The more I explore the very likelihood of being a trans lesbian, the less inaccurate that sounds.
I then had a co-worker one Christmas Eve (who drunkenly, with a boyfriend and dogs sleeping in the room next to him) DM's me on Facebook making a booty call. For hours, he tries convincing me that this gay vibe he's picking up up must mean that I'm into men and should have sex with him. I'm then, he was like "Huh, maybe you are a lesbian in a man's body.". I was like "Y'know. Stranger things have happened.".
I relate to some of these, like the perfect man one, but others I don't. I can't date men and don't find them attractive, but I also haven't idolized my female friends or female celebrities really, and I didn't have much other childhood signs. I'm just so confused and don't know what to think.
I didn't even realize til AFTER I thought I might have some lesbian tendencies that I did those things. Also totally watched movies because the girls were pretty to look at. I thought I wanted to be them, I didn't realize I was casting myself as their love interest in my subconscious. 🤣
But just putting this out here: I'm a Sapphic Ace (homoromantic asexual), maybe you are gay, or bi, or asexual, or aromantic, or anything in between. I wish you luck in figuring out your feelings!
claddagh143 well ACTUALLY LMAO i did some self reflecting and realized i did actually have a childhood crush on my girl best friend and im in love with the majority of the US womens soccer team.... hahahah i really appreciate your nice comment tho ♥️ i’ve mostly accepted that im gay at this point but im still having some trouble internalizing it. i guess that comes with time
I've always had male friends and loved sports, I've had bf's and I've got kids, but I've always had a crush on girls on films and fantasised about women. I'm nearly 47
oh crap! i have such high standards for guys and dismiss them when i go out with them for the silliest reason, like talking to loudly, poor manners(nit picking stuff really), but do not like cats and for sure not vegan...hmmmm so many questions🤔
Unless you feel attracted to women its probably about attachment issues. I know I am not ready for a relationship and that gives me those "high standards". But I also know for sure that I am attracted to more than 1 gender.
@@terhisomersalo8588 well i can find woman attractive and maybe pursue a one night thing, but know for sure when it comes to relationships, i like men for that, is just finding someone where i live is really hard, either they like me and i dont like them or vice versa, also that ive been single forever and do like the freedom it gives me...so i have a dilemma at thr moment 😮💨
I'd like to add one more:
When I played Sims 2 as a teen I always made my Sim fall in love with a brunette vampire girl cos she was "objectively" more attractive than the other girl and the 2 boys 😂
The vegan/ plant mom one is so true. I think its because lesbians are a lot more sympathetic and nurturing. So they care more about animals and the planet
Wow, can you like, get out my brain? I did not agree to this lol.
I have a lot of pine cones…. does that count? lol
LOL the plants and veganism was a direct call out. I identify as mostly straight so I am a la la la la la little bit not.
Can't remember what number it was, but if only I'd listened to everyone who spotted it years and years before I did 😂. I'm so dozy that I denied it purely on the grounds that they couldn't possibly know something about me before I did 😂😂 wrong...... Very wrong.
😂 yes! If other people make assumptions! Of course, we get to decide our own sexualities, but people who love us can definitely see past our own blind spots🙈
I don't think we choose that's the most reassuring part. I know now that there's no getting around who I like and who I'm attracted to. I just think it's funny how I never questioned it as a child or teenager, but I think that was a cultural thing. Nobody was talking about it.
Somehow this came up on my news feed. So I watched. I’m definitely not lesbian. Lol none of these check the boxes. I’m confused how vegan and plants is a sign you might be lesbian? Haha
it's just a stereotype because there are a lot of vegan cat mom lesbians LOL
I've only had one girlfriend and ever since, I've never been in a relationship where I didn't wish I was with a girl.
Carla Gigino. #1
Good common sense, ladies. Just a titty bit more if I may. Studies show girl crushes and young lesbian relationships are part of normal and healthy female development regardless of how a girl identifies. Also, researcher and speaker Lillian Faderman has published many papers and books on romantic female friendships in history as well as lesbian and bisexual women studies. She would be a wonderful guest for your series! xoxoxo
“A titty bit more” is such a good phrase! And Lillian sounds awesome- we will look up her work!! Thank you for the informative comments😊😊
@@HannahSadie the story of Hannah and Saddle reminds me of the very popular and well known Lillian Faderman book called Surpassing the Love of Men, which is an account of the countless women who found love beyond their male partner...her research shows that women really do have a sappho seed courtesy of Mother Nature...Studies like these explain why women are considered fluid in their ability to be attracted to women and fall in love. Extensive research by Utah university lesbian and bisexual women studies department and other universities gender studies provides very clear and insightful information of how lesbian love has flourished throughput history. It's because of modern technology that we're able to learn. Clearly, love between women is natural, meaningful and fulfilling, both emotionally and physically.
@@SapphoSweethearts I'm late to hop on the bandwagon, but do you think that straight-bi-gay are terms that work better for describing male sexuality? Like, is it more common for women to have an extremely fluid sexuality, that should be described with it's own terms? (Not implying that lesbian women "just haven't found the right man", but rather that many straight women could be happy with the right woman.) On the other hand, fluid female sexuality could be tied to women having less of an option to choose their partner, so "making due" would be something that has been required of most women throughout history.
@@emmamemma4162 good point...