I can't talk about what I don't know. Never had a man be in love with me, I think once you become happy and content with yourself, you won't tolerate a man that makes you feel unworthy at any point of the relationship. When I start to feel low, I remember what the Lord says, he says that I'm worth more than the sparrows and that my price is far above rubies. He calls me royalty.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW!YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021
Just be careful of the ‘charming narcissistic’ because they too, speak passionately and positively in love. They say everything to boost your confidence and then discreetly try and knock it down. As Tony’s said before all this needs to be done ‘consistently’ throughout all the seasons in a relationship 💝
@@trinajohnson183 I have one even better Ike Turner even without the drugs he was a charming snake who chased,degraded & preyed on women like no other & he was definitely a covert selfish & very dangerous & abusive(towards the end even after the divorce he tried to threatened & control to not get on that stage they are very jealous evil monsters were he threatened her constantly & he didn't want her to have nothing not even her stage name...... He was Satan,'s Spawn
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! SMILE ALWAYS!(EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT2021
My Dad told me to never allow a man to yell at me, because he'd never yell at me. (Of course not. He loved me too much) I still replay his wise words in my mind... Just found your channel. Thank you!
I've been in a relationship for nearly 9 years. I'm 33 and my boyfriend is the same age. He loves his porn and Instagram especially in the morning. I hate being with him. Feel like im dying or dumbing my spirit now.
@kimnguyen1854 leave he don't want you he wants them... you love him more than he loves you...I had to learn the hard way too.. you deserve to be happy so put yourself first. God bless 🙏
Right on, that what I said - too my husband , you should have respect for yourself first, and your wife, and your relationship. If you do these things, that showing love toward yourself and your wife and overall the relationship
Exactly! My ex consistently gave me the silent treatment and disrespected me on multiple occasions. When I left he's supposedly coming back and saying he LOVES me!! I'm like get the f*** out. If it wasn't for Tony's videos I would have never left, and even if I had left I'd been flattered that he's back. No more mister, I've been enlightened!!
Yass to leaving! I was in the same position. The beginning of my previous 13yr relationship ended the same way disrespectful. I thought after many years and a child he would mature and change. It never happened, turns out he was a narcissist. I cannot express the feelings of gratitude I have for leaving that situation and being free now.
Yep! Tony videos has help me in a lot ways. I never thought I would hve the gut 2 let this Narcissistic go, but by the help of God, and Tony it was time 2 let go, enough is enough. Now he's sending pic of himself through my phn. "Like I'ma say nice pic hun.."😏I delete pic kept it moving. Been dating this deadbeat narcissist over 17 months, I knw how the devil face look.🤦
My husband speaks very gently with me, softens me even more. Sometimes I have to remind myself that he body slams men at work...and that he's PURPOSELY soft for me. Keeps me humbled.
I felt a man's love by a BF who talked to me in a loving way and expressed his feelings nothing held back .He passed away in the 80's I haven't had that even in marriage. It was so special I loved him back properly I hope.
I never understood women who are okay with their man going to the strip club or having open relationships, then get surprised when he cheats. If a woman sends the message that it’s okay for her man to enjoy other women because she doesn’t expect him to be faithful, how do you expect to set rules and regulations to a man’s lustful mind.
What's wrong with your man going to a strip club. My dude go all the time and I go with him sometimes. We have pure fun. No I'm not into women although we are some beautiful creatures.
@@nittydada1302 he’s disrespecting you and you’re just letting him. If there was a man version to this that women go to just to visualise being with another man, if your man was truly in love and territorial of you… he would be like… “Hell fcking no you ain’t!!!”
@@lolimcimco5627 Those are the same women that tell their men they can bring up another woman for a 3-some. They want to please him so hard, they'll just allow it. I remember this female youtuber who always talked about her wonderful boyfriend and she was very liberal, so someone saw him with another woman and she said on her channel that they were super open minded people and were in an open relationship so they just enjoy other people's company but had some "rules". Meanwhile her boyfriend broke up with her, moved together with another woman, got her pregnant and married her and is having a monogamous relationship and family life with this new woman. Open relationship was just "cheating" with consent or "I'm actively looking for another partner and dating other peoole but you knoe about it". PERFECT.
Let me say this it's not for you to understand it's for you to either accept or don't accept that's between them and that's a problem with a lot of relationships people are speaking on people's relationships without knowing the ends and out I for one don't have a problem with it I think it's kind of hilarious because I'm secure Within Myself it doesn't bother me if another man decides that's not something he doesn't want to do then that's between him and itself I'm not here to control a guy and we are Guided by God and not by yourself then you have nothing to fear the problem with a lot of people these days is their activated in fear and in people's slandering and not realizing that everybody individual life is ordered by God whatever he ordains is pleasing to his sight regardless of what we may think about it
So painfully true. When he fails to uplift you or he puts you in a position of not being enough eventually will cause low self esteem. And that is NOT love.
Ugh the condescending ,nastiness and insensitivity really made me cringe. Dealing with a man like this really kills your self esteem and it takes so much work to reroute your brain back to normal standing. I'm so ready for love but God's love has to be enough first.
Only if you let it. Think to yourself, are you any of those words these low life men say to you? Always think & speak positivity over yourself. You are a Queen 👑
The first time I saw how Gordon Ramsay melted in his wife's presence, I was like, "he must really love this woman," because I have never seen him so soft and gentle ever. He speaks to her as though he's a baby.
@@virginiaspikes3182 yes I do that with my 11y daughter with podcasts around goal setting when I’m dropping her to school. When she’s older I make her listen to relationship advice.
When a man doesn't communicate he isn't in love. If there is something bothering him he needs to get it out. Otherwise l see this as he is guilty of something. I so blessed that after 43yrs l found someone who loves me for myself. There is something such as true love and God will definitely show you if that person is your soul mate.
How he talks to you is so huge omg lol. Every man I was in a toxic situation with, talked to their dogs better than they talked to me. Since watching Tony’s videos and taking time to fully heal, i cut off any man that goes out of his way to say rude things to me but claims to want to pursue me. I will not be a man’s punching bag anymore. Great video as always Tony. Thank you for all of your insight. You truly are a blessing to us women.
As I get older, look around, and meet more people, I've come to realize that many people might not experience lasting romantic or marital love on this side of life. And it's okay because Christ fixed it so that no one can love us as completely and perfectly as him. God iS love.
Hey Tony last night when my boyfriend was asleep because he hates to hear your videos because they convict him and he woke up while I was listening to this one and basically went crazy on me and left me. I've been telling him he doesn't love me every time he says he does but this video somehow brought it home to him I wasn't expecting him to leave but I'm grieving today because he did and I'm going through some emotions that are very hard to accept. We've been together 10 years in a very what I call emotionally and commotionally abusive relationship that mirrors my parents I really just ask your prayers during this time as I'm growing to love the Lord more and myself thank you for your work thank you for not giving up because the darkness cannot stand in front of your light.
Him walking out of your life is a BLESSING! I know it hurts like hell, but it will get better. What I truly learned is when a man truly loves you HE CAN NOT WALK OUT ON U. Please don’t plead or take him back.
Love your self and you will attract what you BECOME ,WAIT FOR SOMEONE WHO IS READY TO GIVE YOU TRUE LOVE & APPRECIATION WITH HIS ACTIONS& WORDS… a good man does not want you to doubt his heart or the love he claims 🙏🏾
This is very true! My exhusband would say hateful comments about me either being too overweight or too skinny once I lost my child bearing weight. Love doesn’t do that.
Very interesting. The guy i was with insisted always that he very happy, loved me and was in love with me. He always spoke to me respectfully… and I didn’t suspect him cheating emotionally or physically but definitely saw where he was liking and occasionally commenting on lots of women’s photos. Even while we were together. 😔 Now I really don’t know what to think. Was he deceiving me in a way?
@@EadsB7002 No he probably really loved / cared about you, he’s human Men look at other women and are attracted to other women. That does not mean he doesn’t care about you
@@myspanisheyes7 no not really....not when i'm in a relationship. i feel like if you happen to see an attractive person of the opposite sex, sure...that happens. The issue i feel like is when the guy (or woman) purposely seeks out /follows/comments on another woman or man's provacitive photos on social media while in a relationship. That's the part i can't seem to get past....it feels like betrayal in a sense and i find it disrespectful to your significant other and the relationship.
@@prettyloubey8411 True. Maybe he does/did. I do believe he cared. It was just certain behaviors i felt like i couldn't get past...hindering my ability to take the relationship seriously any longer.
Another point when a man loves a woman, he shares provides, and adores her because she pleases. He let's his family and friends know she is his Queen and treats her that way..
Damn. This guy. His wife is extremely blessed to have this man by her side. You are one in a million not just for the actions to show you are in love but your inner knowing and wisdom on this topic. Thank you.
Loved It Tony! Thanks! Was Married 4 mos. Short of 35 yrs. When husband passed 4 yrs. ago, He was an Absolutely Awesome Husband, Miss him dearly, Especially knowing what is and isn't available today! Needed that reminder that their is a set/standard way of how this is supposed to go, Newly dating since 35 yrs, and seeing things I'm not use to, and Ready to call it quits! 😔😇
Dude I was dating never give rude jokes, never put me dwn. He always looked up 2 me. He was jus a Narcissist person. Never hold himself accountable 2 his own actions. Now I'm gone and out the door🚪 Was not a gd communicator shuts dwn 4 over 7 days. Now he's calling like hell. The tables hve turn on him. I haven't pic up on him in 7 days. Boy!Boy! It feels darn gd being free frm a Narcissist. I won in the end..😜🙌That demonic spirit shock!😮😲😂
Omg this is exactly what I’m dealing with right now. This time I’m not calling or opening a window for us to speak. As soon as we speak, the BOOM we are back together because he is on 100 with calling all day and loving on me when together but when he is mad, GHOST. Wont call for days at a time WAITING for me to call just to tell me how much he missed me and how I’m his best friend. It’s so frustrating and a vicious cycle. I really want to actually make it work but the other part of me is so freaking exhausted. Tired.
I recently left my man, I was clear to him that the reason was because of how he was talking to me. I warned him repeatedly that I do no like people speaking to me in a disrespectful way or in a tone that I don't like. 10 years ago when I first met him, he was very kind and he spoke to me with caring and thoughtfulness. But over the years there has been a deterioration in that. I know I'm not perfect, but I cannot accept this kind of language. (Along with not wanting to do the small nor the big things I ask, like caressing me. Or watching a movie together or buying a house together (for rental property purposes).). This video was confirmation that I'm not crazy :nor am I asking for too much!! I knew I wasn't anyway because my father is kind-hearted to my mother and he's my example. Plus my husband before he is passed away always treated me well. It is very difficult when you have high self esteem and the examples of good healthy men whom have loved you in in the past to accept bs!
Being a woman listening to a mans thoughts about this topic is beyond enlightening and awakening, thus proving that there IS someone out here for everyone. Gives me hope ❤️ Going to keep working on myself and knowing the universe will provide everything I need and want in divine timing.
Listening to Tony, I need to check myself as a woman. I need to speak to my man with more love, unlearning generational behaviors from women in my family. My man does speak to me with love and I understand I need correct myself.. TG thank you for this video
Yes ma’am!! Unlearning generational behaviors is huge! I love my elders but some of the things they have passed on to us has lead us down a road to loneliness, diva mentality and entitlement syndrome. Kudos to you and any other person who is willing to travel down the road least traveled.
Tony, I like how you pointed out something that I recently learned about not too long ago. The way a man loves a woman boosts her confidence. I never knew that and that's quite interesting. I love myself and I am aware of my self-worth; for a man to come along and not only love himself but love me is a bonus !
Love this! This one was definitely nailed on the head. My ex has a lot going on around him-almost like his past is catching up with him and we couldn’t talk at all without it resulting in him telling me about myself. Until finally I just stopped talking and my life has been so free ever since! 🙌🏽
Women accept so much from men these days so, allowing their men to watch porn and all the things you've mentioned are considered small things to them. I'm glad you've confirmed this because I agree it shouldn't be accepted for the man who so called loves you is liking other women's photos etc..
This is the truth I’m in a new relationship for about 2 1/2 months and I have already went through the phone and went through Instagram and yea he been talking to other females. He said he didn’t kno it was wrong but that’s common sense. I’m over it Frfr but he loves me smh yea ok.
i blame society. they try to make it seem like all men do it therefore we have no choice but to put up with it... it's the "norm" (now im not saying i put up or feel comfortable) it's so weirddd
Yes, I see my son do this. He can be direct to rudeness. But I see him trying harder to watch what he says to his girlfriend and how he says it. He is more mindful. He talks to me about what she has been through.
This video is dead on and has to be confirmation for me. I literally told my kids Dad he doesn’t have good cognitive skills yesterday. I was disrespected to the point of no return but I’m fighting back with my words; confronting those ugly demons and telling them to get out of my house. Of course he puckering up today as if he was not a jerk. Thanks for your video Tony. Waiting for my blessing- a house to come through so I can go on about my business! God bless you.
Always on point Tony; left my relationship of 1 1/2 because he lacked both and I realized he either did not like me deep down or he was jealous of me. Thank you for confirming these two items of confirmation of love that I was lacking.
I loved: Some men are not wanted except by the one he's with, but he still has options--he can pay for it, watch porn, or masturbate. These count as cheating because he has gone elsewhere/outside of his relationship, forsaking the women he is with, for his pleasure. Sir Tony G be schooling!
Sooo true! My soon to be ex husband was “faithful” due to Erectile Dysfunction and lack of confidence but he rarely had sec with me; in fact we only had sex when biologically my body was wanting it. And then it was like he was doing me a favor. Anyway he talked to me like shit when things were not just how he wanted them to be. And I learned as a little boy he talked to his mother really bad. But he could never speak up for himself when he was being done wrong at work or among his siblings. He would just come home and complain about it. Get drunk and wake up mad and take his frustrations out on me. I got tired and left 6 months ago; I mean no sex no respect…like what is the point ?! 🤷🏽♀️
He reminds me of my ex boyfriend who was in denial about being gay. He might be gay, they treat women bad I'm relationships because they're gay! And they have ED and don't want sex. That's not normal!!!!
Being broke and having erectile dysfunction keeps some of these boys humble and now im a hoe🤣🤣🤣 datimg is fun ,,,,i love that part when u get to see somebody at there most fragile moment when that boy lets me see his child in him i love dating let me get broken while moving foward 🤣🤣🤣 i love knowing who a person is trully ,,,,its fascinating,,,🥰🥰🥰🥰
For me, initially Is 1. He does not know what to do with you. 2. He does not know how to express. Men in love, in true love, not like just crush are something else)
I got my friend to leave her ex that was in a wheelchair. From what she told me he was abusive to her verbally and physically and she still stayed cause she felt like he didn’t have anyone and she was the only one who cared about him . I said he is not your obligation.. GET OUT !!!! She left him and got her own spot . Only thing I don’t like is she will pick up the phone whenever he calls or go over his house to check up on him . My friend is one of those people who cannot for the life of her be mean . At least she’s moved on to another relationship .
Tony, many blessings to you 🙌🏾 You shine so many lights on subjects many so-called SMEs shy away from. Men and women need to hear your wisdom. Thank you.
Just started talking to a man from my home town who I’ve reconnected with recently. We’re both from the mid west and both now live on the east coast. I have a gut feeling about him, I notice a huge difference in the way he treats and talks to me than from when we were younger
My ex spoke to me as if I was dumb. Things like my cousin is coming over and he won't be available to see me or when his away on a weekends I shouldn't call him and alot about casual sex, how ok it is, that's its ok to meet a random person and sleep with them and also about his past 'sex-escapades' as if they were his glory days. It always rubbed me the wrong way. And each instance I would question him and his responses never made sense and I realised that he uses this to manipulate women because when I questioned him I would be labelled as crazy, insecure & needy.I am glad I left that relationship.Oh, and found out he was cheating with multiple women.
This was good Tony!! Such great wisdom as always!! When God blesses me with the man of God He has for me, it is then I will truly experience someone who is really in love with me by being faithful & by the way he speaks to me. Otherwise, I have not experienced that & why I am patiently waiting on God because I have been disrespected & cheated on in the past by grown boys but I thank God that I caught my head & walked away from what was not my worth!!
This was a gift of a suggested video... So grateful to have happened upon it!! Thanks so much for this information!! The delivery was clear, concise and digestible!!
Thank you for staying the course with your assignment! You are helping so many understand themselves better therefore they can understand their partner.
I've listened to a lot of your videos and not taking anything from the others, but this is your best video by far! It's straight to that point without too much side talk Well spoken, well said! I appreciate your knowledge!
I'm so upset I just found out out about this channel!! Never heard of you. Mr. Gaskins, I appreciate you being honest and blunt with women and still remaining respectful. Your videos have answered a lot of questions I had and so many things make sense now. I love the honesty and Thank you!!
This dude here .. I can’t with this channel just pure comedy all the time and facts . I come with a straight face but leave laughing so hard because of the stuff comes out of his mouth ..lmbo 😂😂😂
This is so true,my husband communicates with me with such disrespect and even embarrassing me infont of friends/ family.Cheating started when we were dating,even now in marriage its still there.😭😭Thank u for this.I agree he is not inlove anymore. I watch your videos all the way from South Africa.Keep up the excellent work.Thank you.
Thanks for all you do, your heart and empathy shines through in these videos and Instagram q and a ...you are really trying to help ,God bless you and yours.
I can't talk about what I don't know. Never had a man be in love with me, I think once you become happy and content with yourself, you won't tolerate a man that makes you feel unworthy at any point of the relationship. When I start to feel low, I remember what the Lord says, he says that I'm worth more than the sparrows and that my price is far above rubies. He calls me royalty.
Amen!
Amen!!!
Amen
I believe God is a man, not physically. Not sure why I believe that! Anywho, he is one who is In Love with you 💞 Periodttt! 😘
Yess! Amen ❤️
"When a man falls in love, he will be faithful across the board."
This is sooo TRUE.
How a man speaks to you is EVERYTHING.
Can I add that how he allows others to speak to you as well.
Thank God for Tony Gaskins.
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Yes, you may!
Great addition...
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW!YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021
Absolutely!!! My husband has allowed his mother to say whatever, however and never corrected her on his own without me complaining.
@@millicentjohnson7364 I pray 🙏 he changes because that's not good you shouldn't have to assist him in doing so. Blessings to you
Tony came to me in a dream last night, looked me dead in the eyes and said: Don’t go back to him. 😂Your work is not in vain! We are listening! 🙌🏿
🤣love that
Now you know you hard headed if uncle Tony had to wait til you was sleep to speak to you. 🤣😂Just kidding 🧡
Really? Or you’re joking lol
I am so serious. lol
@@MakeupTiffany wow you must’ve been binge watching his videos lol 😂
Just be careful of the ‘charming narcissistic’ because they too, speak passionately and positively in love. They say everything to boost your confidence and then discreetly try and knock it down. As Tony’s said before all this needs to be done ‘consistently’ throughout all the seasons in a relationship 💝
Yes - covert narcissists are the worst girl! Totally catches you off guard!
Yessss Lord been there done that they are Vampires & charming snakes
Perfect example of this is Bobby Brown & Whitney Houston....the way he treated her in that marriage!
@@trinajohnson183 I have one even better Ike Turner even without the drugs he was a charming snake who chased,degraded & preyed on women like no other & he was definitely a covert selfish & very dangerous & abusive(towards the end even after the divorce he tried to threatened & control to not get on that stage they are very jealous evil monsters were he threatened her constantly & he didn't want her to have nothing not even her stage name...... He was Satan,'s Spawn
@@nocapp6180 yes ma'amm......absolutely!👌🏽
When a man is in LOVE, he’s faithful. That’s very simple & a clear understanding, Thank you…
Period. All these long talks.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! SMILE ALWAYS!(EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT2021
Not true, you love your parents but you have done things to hurt them and break their trust correct?
But that is not enough. There are faithful men who are really not in love ,but just have a morality .
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My Dad told me to never allow a man to yell at me, because he'd never yell at me. (Of course not. He loved me too much) I still replay his wise words in my mind... Just found your channel. Thank you!
Respect is necessary for both men and women. Thank You
1. Respect
2. Fidelity
I've been in a relationship for nearly 9 years. I'm 33 and my boyfriend is the same age. He loves his porn and Instagram especially in the morning. I hate being with him. Feel like im dying or dumbing my spirit now.
@@kimnguyen1854 I’m so sorry to hear. Please let go & heal. You are worth so much more.
@kimnguyen1854 leave he don't want you he wants them... you love him more than he loves you...I had to learn the hard way too.. you deserve to be happy so put yourself first. God bless 🙏
Basically the biggest sign of love is the way a man respects himself, his woman and their relationship ❤️
Right on, that what I said - too my husband , you should have respect for yourself first, and your wife, and your relationship. If you do these things, that showing love toward yourself and your wife and overall the relationship
Exactly! My ex consistently gave me the silent treatment and disrespected me on multiple occasions. When I left he's supposedly coming back and saying he LOVES me!! I'm like get the f*** out. If it wasn't for Tony's videos I would have never left, and even if I had left I'd been flattered that he's back. No more mister, I've been enlightened!!
Yass to leaving! I was in the same position. The beginning of my previous 13yr relationship ended the same way disrespectful. I thought after many years and a child he would mature and change. It never happened, turns out he was a narcissist. I cannot express the feelings of gratitude I have for leaving that situation and being free now.
@@clarissaidonthateonmonday178 I celebrate your strength! Kudos to us ☺️
Men who give silent treatment... boi bye-bye 🖐🏾✌🏿 I'll stay silent and keep gone.
Yep! Tony videos has help me in a lot ways. I never thought I would hve the gut 2 let this Narcissistic go, but by the help of God, and Tony it was time 2 let go, enough is enough. Now he's sending pic of himself through my phn. "Like I'ma say nice pic hun.."😏I delete pic kept it moving. Been dating this deadbeat narcissist over 17 months, I knw how the devil face look.🤦
@@clarissaidonthateonmonday178 Girl yes👍
My husband speaks very gently with me, softens me even more. Sometimes I have to remind myself that he body slams men at work...and that he's PURPOSELY soft for me. Keeps me humbled.
But this comes from a mature man that has taken the time to understand himself
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That's just it! Self-awareness! These grown boys out here don't even know how many toes they got 🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
@@seunajayi6612 oop 👀🤭
@@relisbetrel 💀💀💀
Maturity is key especially nowadays
All men who don’t cheat doesn’t mean they are in love. PROFOUND and Facts!! It has to be both.
SO REFRESHING to hear a MAN say that porn IS cheating!!! Thank you, sir!!! You are a real man who speaks the truth! Much respect to you!!
I felt a man's love by a BF who talked to me in a loving way and expressed his feelings nothing held back .He passed away in the 80's I haven't had that even in marriage. It was so special I loved him back properly I hope.
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I never understood women who are okay with their man going to the strip club or having open relationships, then get surprised when he cheats. If a woman sends the message that it’s okay for her man to enjoy other women because she doesn’t expect him to be faithful, how do you expect to set rules and regulations to a man’s lustful mind.
What's wrong with your man going to a strip club. My dude go all the time and I go with him sometimes. We have pure fun. No I'm not into women although we are some beautiful creatures.
@@nittydada1302 he’s disrespecting you and you’re just letting him.
If there was a man version to this that women go to just to visualise being with another man, if your man was truly in love and territorial of you… he would be like… “Hell fcking no you ain’t!!!”
@@lolimcimco5627 Those are the same women that tell their men they can bring up another woman for a 3-some. They want to please him so hard, they'll just allow it.
I remember this female youtuber who always talked about her wonderful boyfriend and she was very liberal, so someone saw him with another woman and she said on her channel that they were super open minded people and were in an open relationship so they just enjoy other people's company but had some "rules".
Meanwhile her boyfriend broke up with her, moved together with another woman, got her pregnant and married her and is having a monogamous relationship and family life with this new woman.
Open relationship was just "cheating" with consent or "I'm actively looking for another partner and dating other peoole but you knoe about it". PERFECT.
@@nittydada1302 yesss looking at abused and addicted women shaking their ass for male consumption 😍 eMpOwErMeNt, so hEaLtHy of you two
Let me say this it's not for you to understand it's for you to either accept or don't accept that's between them and that's a problem with a lot of relationships people are speaking on people's relationships without knowing the ends and out I for one don't have a problem with it I think it's kind of hilarious because I'm secure Within Myself it doesn't bother me if another man decides that's not something he doesn't want to do then that's between him and itself I'm not here to control a guy and we are Guided by God and not by yourself then you have nothing to fear the problem with a lot of people these days is their activated in fear and in people's slandering and not realizing that everybody individual life is ordered by God whatever he ordains is pleasing to his sight regardless of what we may think about it
Boy 37 dropping gems like he 67. You’re really doing the lord’s work Tony. May God continue blessing you my brother in Christ 😊
So painfully true. When he fails to uplift you or he puts you in a position of not being enough eventually will cause low self esteem. And that is NOT love.
You really don’t know how many lives you’re saving on a daily basis 🤝thank you so much
Ugh the condescending ,nastiness and insensitivity really made me cringe. Dealing with a man like this really kills your self esteem and it takes so much work to reroute your brain back to normal standing. I'm so ready for love but God's love has to be enough first.
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Only if you let it. Think to yourself, are you any of those words these low life men say to you? Always think & speak positivity over yourself. You are a Queen 👑
You are the daughter of a king! Jesus 👑🙏🏽
The first time I saw how Gordon Ramsay melted in his wife's presence, I was like, "he must really love this woman," because I have never seen him so soft and gentle ever. He speaks to her as though he's a baby.
Lol, I told my son who’s 17 he needs to listen to TG he says “ yes I know you’ve been listening to him for years. He gives relationships advice mom. “
My 13 year old son always says “who’s that mom Tony Gaskins”. Eventually it will click. We are setting the foundation!!😊 Go us!!
I’m listening to it through my car with my 13 year old riding cause I know he’s listening lol
@@virginiaspikes3182 yes I do that with my 11y daughter with podcasts around goal setting when I’m dropping her to school. When she’s older I make her listen to relationship advice.
Good job Mommies, we have to raise them right. They gon be somebody husband and daddy one day💯
Lol! Keep on trying to tell him it will change his life it changed mine.
You can’t love a man that doesn’t love himself
You CAN Love HIM, BUT HE CAN'T love you.
Whoo Queen u said a mouthful and it shows the way he treated me..This is good stuff
BOOOM!
When a man doesn't communicate he isn't in love. If there is something bothering him he needs to get it out. Otherwise l see this as he is guilty of something. I so blessed that after 43yrs l found someone who loves me for myself. There is something such as true love and God will definitely show you if that person is your soul mate.
“That’s means both of you are nasty” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 FACTS
😩😩😭😭😭 I died laughing
I DIED 😂😂😂😂😂
I couldn't hold it. It's the way he said it.
I'm so glad I was in my car cause the way I hollered 🤣
That was so funny 😂
How he talks to you is so huge omg lol. Every man I was in a toxic situation with, talked to their dogs better than they talked to me. Since watching Tony’s videos and taking time to fully heal, i cut off any man that goes out of his way to say rude things to me but claims to want to pursue me. I will not be a man’s punching bag anymore. Great video as always Tony. Thank you for all of your insight. You truly are a blessing to us women.
That Part Sis..GOD HAS YOU !!!
As I get older, look around, and meet more people, I've come to realize that many people might not experience lasting romantic or marital love on this side of life. And it's okay because Christ fixed it so that no one can love us as completely and perfectly as him. God iS love.
Hey Tony last night when my boyfriend was asleep because he hates to hear your videos because they convict him and he woke up while I was listening to this one and basically went crazy on me and left me. I've been telling him he doesn't love me every time he says he does but this video somehow brought it home to him I wasn't expecting him to leave but I'm grieving today because he did and I'm going through some emotions that are very hard to accept. We've been together 10 years in a very what I call emotionally and commotionally abusive relationship that mirrors my parents I really just ask your prayers during this time as I'm growing to love the Lord more and myself thank you for your work thank you for not giving up because the darkness cannot stand in front of your light.
Him walking out of your life is a BLESSING! I know it hurts like hell, but it will get better. What I truly learned is when a man truly loves you HE CAN NOT WALK OUT ON U.
Please don’t plead or take him back.
Love your self and you will attract what you BECOME ,WAIT FOR SOMEONE WHO IS READY TO GIVE YOU TRUE LOVE & APPRECIATION WITH HIS ACTIONS& WORDS… a good man does not want you to doubt his heart or the love he claims 🙏🏾
Take this as a eye opener to you..
This man isn't your person..
Keep your head up and pray for GOD to remove him from your spirit..
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Girl run and never look back you deserve better 10 years ? Tooo long but time to move forward wishing you to never go back to this looser
Lmao that’s funny as hell
This is very true! My exhusband would say hateful comments about me either being too overweight or too skinny once I lost my child bearing weight. Love doesn’t do that.
This taught me new levels of faithfulness. There is such a thing as social cheating and emotional cheating.
Very interesting. The guy i was with insisted always that he very happy, loved me and was in love with me. He always spoke to me respectfully… and I didn’t suspect him cheating emotionally or physically but definitely saw where he was liking and occasionally commenting on lots of women’s photos. Even while we were together. 😔 Now I really don’t know what to think. Was he deceiving me in a way?
@@EadsB7002 I don't agree withTony. Looking is not cheating. And I don't understand how masturbating is either. Don't you look at good-looking men?
@@EadsB7002 No he probably really loved / cared about you, he’s human Men look at other women and are attracted to other women. That does not mean he doesn’t care about you
@@myspanisheyes7 no not really....not when i'm in a relationship. i feel like if you happen to see an attractive person of the opposite sex, sure...that happens. The issue i feel like is when the guy (or woman) purposely seeks out /follows/comments on another woman or man's provacitive photos on social media while in a relationship. That's the part i can't seem to get past....it feels like betrayal in a sense and i find it disrespectful to your significant other and the relationship.
@@prettyloubey8411 True. Maybe he does/did. I do believe he cared. It was just certain behaviors i felt like i couldn't get past...hindering my ability to take the relationship seriously any longer.
Another point when a man loves a woman, he shares provides, and adores her because she pleases. He let's his family and friends know she is his Queen and treats her that way..
Damn. This guy. His wife is extremely blessed to have this man by her side. You are one in a million not just for the actions to show you are in love but your inner knowing and wisdom on this topic. Thank you.
"Both of you are nasty...both of you are perverted together." 😂😂😂😂😂 love Tony!
Loved It Tony! Thanks!
Was Married 4 mos. Short of 35 yrs. When husband passed 4 yrs. ago, He was an Absolutely Awesome Husband, Miss him dearly, Especially knowing what is and isn't available today! Needed that reminder that their is a set/standard way of how this is supposed to go, Newly dating since 35 yrs, and seeing things I'm not use to, and Ready to call it quits! 😔😇
Dude I was dating never give rude jokes, never put me dwn. He always looked up 2 me. He was jus a Narcissist person. Never hold himself accountable 2 his own actions. Now I'm gone and out the door🚪 Was not a gd communicator shuts dwn 4 over 7 days. Now he's calling like hell. The tables hve turn on him. I haven't pic up on him in 7 days. Boy!Boy! It feels darn gd being free frm a Narcissist. I won in the end..😜🙌That demonic spirit shock!😮😲😂
Sounds like my ex narcissist free of him for 1 yr now. I allowed it for fours years
Omg this is exactly what I’m dealing with right now. This time I’m not calling or opening a window for us to speak. As soon as we speak, the BOOM we are back together because he is on 100 with calling all day and loving on me when together but when he is mad, GHOST. Wont call for days at a time WAITING for me to call just to tell me how much he missed me and how I’m his best friend. It’s so frustrating and a vicious cycle. I really want to actually make it work but the other part of me is so freaking exhausted. Tired.
And never look back
I recently left my man, I was clear to him that the reason was because of how he was talking to me. I warned him repeatedly that I do no like people speaking to me in a disrespectful way or in a tone that I don't like. 10 years ago when I first met him, he was very kind and he spoke to me with caring and thoughtfulness. But over the years there has been a deterioration in that. I know I'm not perfect, but I cannot accept this kind of language. (Along with not wanting to do the small nor the big things I ask, like caressing me. Or watching a movie together or buying a house together (for rental property purposes).). This video was confirmation that I'm not crazy :nor am I asking for too much!! I knew I wasn't anyway because my father is kind-hearted to my mother and he's my example. Plus my husband before he is passed away always treated me well. It is very difficult when you have high self esteem and the examples of good healthy men whom have loved you in in the past to accept bs!
Being a woman listening to a mans thoughts about this topic is beyond enlightening and awakening, thus proving that there IS someone out here for everyone. Gives me hope ❤️ Going to keep working on myself and knowing the universe will provide everything I need and want in divine timing.
Respect is definitely a Great sign of in loveness
Thanks for teaching me a man could find a wife but that man may not be a husband
“Both of you are perverted….” Lol I can not thumbs up this video enough!
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This made me LOL
Listening to Tony, I need to check myself as a woman. I need to speak to my man with more love, unlearning generational behaviors from women in my family. My man does speak to me with love and I understand I need correct myself.. TG thank you for this video
Yes ma’am!! Unlearning generational behaviors is huge! I love my elders but some of the things they have passed on to us has lead us down a road to loneliness, diva mentality and entitlement syndrome. Kudos to you and any other person who is willing to travel down the road least traveled.
I agree to how he talks to l. Man of his word. FAITHFUL DILIGENCE LOYALTY TO HIS WOMAN.
Don't walk on eggshells for anyone....man or woman. Speak your truth.
Tony, I like how you pointed out something that I recently learned about not too long ago. The way a man loves a woman boosts her confidence. I never knew that and that's quite interesting. I love myself and I am aware of my self-worth; for a man to come along and not only love himself but love me is a bonus !
Me and my man watching this and we both laughed when u said “y’all both nasty” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Speaking Encouragement Is THE Most Powerful Thing That We All Need Right Now!
Love this! This one was definitely nailed on the head. My ex has a lot going on around him-almost like his past is catching up with him and we couldn’t talk at all without it resulting in him telling me about myself. Until finally I just stopped talking and my life has been so free ever since! 🙌🏽
Women accept so much from men these days so, allowing their men to watch porn and all the things you've mentioned are considered small things to them. I'm glad you've confirmed this because I agree it shouldn't be accepted for the man who so called loves you is liking other women's photos etc..
Thank you cuz these are also small Red Flags😒
This is the truth I’m in a new relationship for about 2 1/2 months and I have already went through the phone and went through Instagram and yea he been talking to other females. He said he didn’t kno it was wrong but that’s common sense. I’m over it Frfr but he loves me smh yea ok.
i blame society. they try to make it seem like all men do it therefore we have no choice but to put up with it... it's the "norm" (now im not saying i put up or feel comfortable) it's so weirddd
I ain’t know carrying the 1 was called regrouping either 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes, I see my son do this. He can be direct to rudeness. But I see him trying harder to watch what he says to his girlfriend and how he says it. He is more mindful. He talks to me about what she has been through.
This video is dead on and has to be confirmation for me. I literally told my kids Dad he doesn’t have good cognitive skills yesterday. I was disrespected to the point of no return but I’m fighting back with my words; confronting those ugly demons and telling them to get out of my house. Of course he puckering up today as if he was not a jerk. Thanks for your video Tony. Waiting for my blessing- a house to come through so I can go on about my business! God bless you.
Always on point Tony; left my relationship of 1 1/2 because he lacked both and I realized he either did not like me deep down or he was jealous of me. Thank you for confirming these two items of confirmation of love that I was lacking.
I loved: Some men are not wanted except by the one he's with, but he still has options--he can pay for it, watch porn, or masturbate. These count as cheating because he has gone elsewhere/outside of his relationship, forsaking the women he is with, for his pleasure. Sir Tony G be schooling!
Sooo true! My soon to be ex husband was “faithful” due to Erectile Dysfunction and lack of confidence but he rarely had sec with me; in fact we only had sex when biologically my body was wanting it. And then it was like he was doing me a favor. Anyway he talked to me like shit when things were not just how he wanted them to be. And I learned as a little boy he talked to his mother really bad. But he could never speak up for himself when he was being done wrong at work or among his siblings. He would just come home and complain about it. Get drunk and wake up mad and take his frustrations out on me. I got tired and left 6 months ago; I mean no sex no respect…like what is the point ?! 🤷🏽♀️
wow! you are strong...happy for you and I hope things are looking up :)
Congratulations on finding a bit more YOU to bless the world with!! 🥰🥰
He reminds me of my ex boyfriend who was in denial about being gay. He might be gay, they treat women bad I'm relationships because they're gay! And they have ED and don't want sex. That's not normal!!!!
Being broke and having erectile dysfunction keeps some of these boys humble and now im a hoe🤣🤣🤣 datimg is fun ,,,,i love that part when u get to see somebody at there most fragile moment when that boy lets me see his child in him i love dating let me get broken while moving foward 🤣🤣🤣 i love knowing who a person is trully ,,,,its fascinating,,,🥰🥰🥰🥰
Your consistency and dedication is impeccable. Well done Mr Tony 👏👏 ma mentor for life
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For real 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Well said sis #LadyBoss
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“It means both of you are nasty” 😂😂😂😂😂 it’s the honesty for me
Us guys need to to hear this from 10 years old and up at the discretion of parents.
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8:00 facts
Thank you for the encouragement sir!
The truthfulness in everything being said...this is by far the best one.
He WILL NOT talk to me any kind of way and think I’m still going to sleep with him. Uh uh! Not going to happen!
For me, initially Is
1. He does not know what to do with you.
2. He does not know how to express.
Men in love, in true love, not like just crush are something else)
Absolute wisdom and knowledge Mr.Gaskin. A million 👍🏾 up
Thank you so much! Further confirmation I made the right move.
Happy birthday to the Queen 👑
Looord Jesus, I love you, Tony!!!! You been opening my EYES!!!!
I got my friend to leave her ex that was in a wheelchair. From what she told me he was abusive to her verbally and physically and she still stayed cause she felt like he didn’t have anyone and she was the only one who cared about him . I said he is not your obligation.. GET OUT !!!! She left him and got her own spot . Only thing I don’t like is she will pick up the phone whenever he calls or go over his house to check up on him . My friend is one of those people who cannot for the life of her be mean . At least she’s moved on to another relationship .
She's gonna mess up her new relationship coz she's still catering to the other guy in a wheelchair n she'll end up going back to him.
she's an angel. that's for sure
Woh she has a good spirit, with alot of compassion..I'm sure she will let go in time.
“Emotionality” Yes, it’s a whole word Tony!!! 🤣🤣… I just love Tony!!!
Tony, many blessings to you 🙌🏾 You shine so many lights on subjects many so-called SMEs shy away from. Men and women need to hear your wisdom. Thank you.
Just started talking to a man from my home town who I’ve reconnected with recently. We’re both from the mid west and both now live on the east coast. I have a gut feeling about him, I notice a huge difference in the way he treats and talks to me than from when we were younger
Ofcourse it's gonna be different as he's now older ... question is .. is he in a good space to be worthy of your friendship or relationship?!
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This was another good one!! Sometimes I think I over complicated things in my head. Appreciating my husband for the small things!!👍
My ex spoke to me as if I was dumb.
Things like my cousin is coming over and he won't be available to see me or when his away on a weekends I shouldn't call him and alot about casual sex, how ok it is, that's its ok to meet a random person and sleep with them and also about his past 'sex-escapades' as if they were his glory days.
It always rubbed me the wrong way.
And each instance I would question him and his responses never made sense and I realised that he uses this to manipulate women because when I questioned him I would be labelled as crazy, insecure & needy.I am glad I left that relationship.Oh, and found out he was cheating with multiple women.
"...emotionality, I don't know if that's a word, but we'll use that...sounds good" lol! Agreed.
I AM WEAKKKKK 😂😭 “That means BOTH of y’all are nasty” has me in tears!
He’s gentle and a good communicator. Kind and polite.
So helpful and enlightening
You articulated it really well MR. Gaskins. That was beautiful and truthful. Thankyou Sir T. God bless.
AWESOME VIDEO. I've been subscribed for over a year, but just recently started listening. I'm blown away. Thank you. ❤️
Spot on Tony. Both subject matter information was totally accurate. Unfortunately, this information came too late for me and the end is November.
This was good Tony!! Such great wisdom as always!! When God blesses me with the man of God He has for me, it is then I will truly experience someone who is really in love with me by being faithful & by the way he speaks to me. Otherwise, I have not experienced that & why I am patiently waiting on God because I have been disrespected & cheated on in the past by grown boys but I thank God that I caught my head & walked away from what was not my worth!!
We need more men of God to speak like this.
This was a gift of a suggested video... So grateful to have happened upon it!! Thanks so much for this information!! The delivery was clear, concise and digestible!!
Tony was right on point.
Thank you for staying the course with your assignment! You are helping so many understand themselves better therefore they can understand their partner.
I totally understand you #1 reason!!!! You ate hitting the head on the nail
I've listened to a lot of your videos and not taking anything from the others, but this is your best video by far! It's straight to that point without too much side talk Well spoken, well said! I appreciate your knowledge!
Wow so true , I truly appreciate you Mr.Gaskins , God bless your family and you
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️ You’ve made a difference in my personal relationships I thank god for this channel and wisdom blessings to you
I was shouting 'Amen' all throughout this video.
This man be keeping it real.
I'm so upset I just found out out about this channel!! Never heard of you. Mr. Gaskins, I appreciate you being honest and blunt with women and still remaining respectful. Your videos have answered a lot of questions I had and so many things make sense now. I love the honesty and Thank you!!
Welcome :) You have a lot of catching up to do lol
This dude here .. I can’t with this channel just pure comedy all the time and facts . I come with a straight face but leave laughing so hard because of the stuff comes out of his mouth ..lmbo 😂😂😂
🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️damn!.
This man is so good❤️keep up Mr Gaskin
Thank you! So true! How a man talks to his woman and being faithful all the way around is proof that he is in love with her.
This was good!!!! I enjoyed listening☀️🙏
This is so true,my husband communicates with me with such disrespect and even embarrassing me infont of friends/ family.Cheating started when we were dating,even now in marriage its still there.😭😭Thank u for this.I agree he is not inlove anymore. I watch your videos all the way from South Africa.Keep up the excellent work.Thank you.
Praying for you 🙏
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Sounds like he never was unfortunately. Best of luck.
Why are you still with him? Why did you even marry him in the first place if he was cheating on you? Girl..
@@goldengirl7625 she’s in South Africa it’s a different world from what we’re use to sad
All Facts Tony You ARE ALWAYS ON POINT!!!
You are the truth Tony!!!!Many would never be this honest regarding what classifies as cheating👏🏽👏🏽
This video was spot on. Thank you for this video!
Be Blessed. Always learn something of true value. I appreciate you, thank you.
Thank you!! So many men need to be held to a higher standard.
Thanks for all you do, your heart and empathy shines through in these videos and Instagram q and a ...you are really trying to help ,God bless you and yours.