Dr. Susan, I wish I met you 17 yrs ago ! I was like the person you mentioned at 18th minute of the video. I completely lost my identity. I can relate to everything you said there. Wasted 14 years of my life with him. Now, by God's grace, I am divorced and live with my son peacefully. Finally found my purpose! I find joy in empowering and enlightening abused people. Thank you for your videos that will make many people in Kerala aware of this evil. God bless you💕
Same here. But in my case it was my father who had all of these NPD symptoms. And mother always lived under him without complaints. Brother became an abuser because of him. And he was abused badly too. And I ended up being a C-PTSD patient due to the chronic trauma 🥺
Hi Ma'am! കഴിഞ്ഞ 5-6 വർഷമായി ഇംഗ്ലീഷ് ഭാഷയിൽ NPD യെ കുറിച്ചും, NARC abuse recovery യെ കുറിച്ചും എത്രമാത്രം ഞാൻ റിസർച്ച് ചെയ്തുഒരുവിധം ഞാൻ എന്നെയും മക്കളെയും രക്ഷപ്പെടുത്തി എങ്കിലും aമലയാള ഭാഷയിൽ ഈ വിഷയം ഇതുവരെ ആരും എന്ത് കൊണ്ട് ഒന്ന് അവതരിപ്പിക്കുന്നില്ല എന്ന ഒരു വിഷമം ബാക്കി നിന്നത് ഇന്ന് ഈ ചാനൽ കണ്ടതിൽ നീങ്ങി.എനിക്ക് പറഞ്ഞറിയിക്കാൻ വയ്യാത്ത സംതൃപ്തി യാണ്. ഒരുപാട് പേരുടെ ജീവിതത്തിന് ഇത് ഉപകാരപ്പെടും. ദൈവം അനുഗ്രഹിക്കട്ടെ.... Thanks a ton, Love You Ma'am!❣️
Me too, Nazeema. You just spoke my mind. We are on the same path. I started reading about NPD 5-6 years ago. I even felt like becoming a therapist after reading so much so that I could help people. Dr Susan's videos are amazing! Enjoy life. Enjoy freedom❤
Maa'm , 30 വർഷമായി ഞാൻ ഈ പ്രശ്നങ്ങൾ അഭിമുഖീകരിക്കാൻ ... തുടങ്ങിയിട്ട്... ചില സമയത്ത് എനിക്ക് സഹിക്കാൻ വയ്യാതെ ഞാൻ ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടിലായിട്ടുണ്ട്.... എന്റെ ദൈവത്തിന്റെ കരങ്ങൾ എന്നെ ശക്തമായി support ചെയ്യുന്നതുകൊണ്ടു മാത്രം ഇപ്പോഴും ഞാൻ ഈ ഭൂമിയിൽ ജീവിക്കുന്നത്🙏🙏🙏 എന്റെ ഭർത്താവ് കളങ്കം ഇല്ലാതെ എന്നെ ഒന്ന് സ്നേഹിക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് കൊതിയാണ്😘😘😘❤️❤️
I can understand Sreedevi. I would say you should start to love yourself. Create your own world accepting and managing as an effective leader. Build your boundaries.
I escaped 2 year back from a toxic narcisst Hus and family .I lost my 1 year...married at 25 and lost almost by confidence..they demotivated and devalued me for every aspect.literally I cried al night .thought abt suicide..." He even calculated the cost of food I have from their family in these days...along with constant attack in name of dowry. Finally I get a chance to escape.. Stayed away from them for 2 months and realized the difference of the Freedom and happiness I enjoyed in this period...this year I got divorce after 2 years...I lost my valuable 2 year..but at I am.very happy... Now I am chasing my dreams....
Mammനിങ്ങൾചെയ്യുന്നത് ദൈവീകമായ ഒരു കാര്യമാണ് എത്ര ജീവിതം എത്ര ജീവിതങ്ങൾ രക്ഷിക്കുന്നുണ്ട് സംരക്ഷിക്കുന്നു. നിങ്ങൾക്കറിയാമോ നന്ദി നന്ദി മാത്രമേ പറയാനുള്ളൂ. Because I am a victim.
Doctor njanum oru victim aanu. Ella family relations ee al thakarthu. Njangale ottappeduthi use cheyyunnu. Engineyenkilum njangale sahayikkan sadikkumo
It's my story, ...now lead a happy single parenthood life. Thank you madam for the great videos, I wish I would have accessed such contents 10years back 😭
I heared about this word 'Nacissists' yesterday.. as I was searching whether I am undergoing some depression or not in youtube... but fortunately I reached in this video. So I have watched your other videos too to conclude my issue.
Dr. Susan, thank you so much for making this video and shedding light on this horrible experience. I am so happy that I listened to your video as this is exactly what I have been going through for the past 30 years, when I got married. My husband's twin brother's wife is a toxic woman and has been hounding me and my family for all these years. She abused my children and spreads false allegations against me so that my dignity and identity will be erased. Due to her actions, I was forced to believe that I am a terrible person who doesn't get along with anyone, but that was always the complete opposite before I met this wretched woman. Your video highlighted that she was the one manipulating our relatives and the public to believe those lies. Wherever my children and I go, she is there or she sends someone she knows to terrorize us. We are not even told if an immediate family member passes away. She gives the family orders not to inform us, and the others are scared about what will happen to them if we are invited or told about a death in the family. It is heartbreaking, but your video makes me feel seen. I always wanted to tell someone about it, but I was afraid to say anything due to the consequences. Once again, thank you so much.
Believe me, I grew up in a joint family with my mom's sister running the show. She played with our lives , minds, future, finances, relationships and all things under the sun.She ruined our reputation, self worth and what not..getting away with it because of her enablers!
Madamപറഞ്ഞ ഓരോ points എന്റെ അനുഭവം ആണ്, detch ആകാൻ വളരെ കഷ്ടപെടുന്നു, exactly ദൈവ ഭയം ഉള്ള ഒരു victim നെ കിട്ടുക അവരുടെ ഭാഗ്യം തന്നെ ,thanks madam for your valuable advice,
Exactly. Iam a victim since last 43 years. My husband is very lucky. Iam a God fearing lady. Iam going to be 67 years. Still he need me to work and give all the money to him. God help me. Thank you Doctor. God bless you 🙏
Madam I was in a relationship for three months , he discarded me and I went into. depression now it is almost one year but still iam undergoing watching these videos will heal me to move forward. Thank you madam for your videos, please upload more videos, you are saving many lives. God bless you.
I have been to many therapies and by now I have mastered a number of holistic healing modalities and on a mission to help as many victims as possible. My life transformed magically by now and since 2020 I am on my Golden Age @52, my children doing higher studies... In is the way out... Do THE WORK... If you become a victim to narc abuse that is a proof that you are a gifted person. 🙏
@@susangeorge8681 Don’t know if this will come to your attention, still putting it out here. Have you taken any life coaching accreditation specialising in narc abuse? Would really like to know if it available and where. Thank you.
Mam...such an informative topic...👍Gave insights to recognise the trauma going through....The way to come out of victimisation like “taking an U-turn” has explained in a simple way to understand.Sure this talk will help the victims to get their happiness and wonderful life back... waiting for the next video....
Thank you Tanuja, There are many people suffer from this inter-personal personality disorder where it is more evident in intimate relationships. There are many sending me personal messages as they are afraid or ashamed to tell they are the victims, which is sad.
I am a victim and my children are not safe. Don't know what to do. There is no self for them. This is the most confusing and difficult thing for the partner and to word it to someone is like a never accomplished task. They win court custody of children easily and destroy the partner
Thanks mam എനിക്ക് ഞാൻ ഒരു psychiatric counselling student ആയിരുന്നു എന്നിട്ട് പോലും എന്റെ husband ഇന്റെ disorder എന്താണ് എന്ന് എനിക്ക് മനസിലായില്ല ഇപ്പോൾ mam ഇന്റെ വീഡിയോസ് കണ്ടപ്പോൾ മനസിലായി താങ്ക്സ് mam. ഇനി ഞാൻ ഒരിക്കലും പതറാതെ ജീവിക്യൻ നോക്കും. പക്ഷെ നല്ല വിശദം ആയി ഒന്നുകൂടി ഇവരെ handil ചെയുന്നുള്ള (in family life) വീഡിയോ ഇടുമോ pls അത്രക് അനുഭവിച്ചു mam njan.😔
Mam paranja valare correct aanu. My college first love was absolute narcissist. Always blamed me for any mistake of his. Also, he was extremely good to me at times. So I felt he might actually be good, not that bad. He constantly insulted the way i look, called me ugly and what not! I cannot even mention here. Well, I am dark-skinned, and when he called me ugly, thanks to our society, it got deeply engrained in me. I was constantly trying to improve. Even during college placements, when I got placed and he still did not find any job (though he was a senior), he blamed me saying I wasted all his time. There were nights that I spent crying so so badly. And even if I tell him that he hurt me so bad, he never bothered. Not even a sorry. "Oh.. enough of your drama..Why are you so dramatic? Why do you act so much?" And many such dialogues he used to tell me. I lost all my confidance. Almost 4-5 years it took to finally realize that my worth is not to be measured using his measuring scale. However, my friends and cousins used to tell how they like certain characteristics of mine, totally unaware of what was going on between two of us. And I felt, probably I am not the kind of a girl who can ever satisfy him. Probably I might find someone who can accept me the way I was. And he might find someone too. Finally i decided to leave him. And i am so happy i did. At that time i did not realize i am a victim. But when i saw this video i realized. Like you mentioned, to the outside world he is extremely good, and thats why I liked him in the first place. I never imagined that he could be so cruel. Thank you so much doctor for this video.
My humble advice to the victims to run ASAP and save yourself and don't ever disclose to the NARC that you have identified them as one. I did that mistake and took him to counselling etc. to help and keep the relatiobship intact... I paid more price for that. Accept the reality and rescue yourself and pray for the narc from distance... Spiritually.
Ma'am please help me...എന്റെ parents ഒരു narsistic kind of behaviour ആയിരുന്നു.... 2yrs ആയി mrg കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട്.... ഇതിൽ പറയുന്ന almost എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളും ഞാൻ ഇപ്പൊ അഭിമുഖീകരിക്കുന്നത് ആണ്... bcz my partner is a narcisst...എങ്ങനെ മുന്നോട്ടു പോകണം എന്ന് എനിക്ക് അറിയില്ല...... ma'am പറഞ്ഞ checklist ഒന്ന് share ചെയ്യുമോ..... i cryed after watching your video..... ethrem informations ഒന്നും മലയാളത്തിൽ ഇതിനെ പറ്റി കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല..
Hi, I can understand your situation. Also, know that there is no authentic information available in Malayalam for such disorders which are common among people. Here is the link to the checklist as requested. docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdsfHSYagnq9U_gwVH2-OICJNKzsPzBbTdZDAoRAxH7tCt_Rw/viewform?usp=sf_link
Bincy, You think you lost your life forever. Once upon a time that was me thinking so. Only you can make or break your life, dear . I got my life back when I decided that I don't want a fake glorified life under someone by killing my soul and my kid's as well. Inform people around you and trust in God. Always you need to take the first step in helping yourself no matter how fearful and helpless you feel. 14 years I kept quiet and suffered threats and attacks but always looking happy outside. I was completely cut off from friends and close family. Now I am free living a good life with my kid. So it is possible for you too. Get a job and start planning your happy future. Be bold. Be a survivor. God bless you💕
സൂസൻ പറഞ്ഞതെല്ലാം 100% ശരിയാണ്. സാമാ , ദാന, ഭേദങ്ങൾ എല്ലാം പരീക്ഷിച്ച ഒരിക്കലും നന്നാവില്ല എന്നു മനസിലാക്കി ഡിറ്റാച്ച് ചെയ്യുന്നതാണ് കൂടുതൽ നല്ലതെന്ന് കണ്ട് ജീവിക്കുന്നു.
Maam. I'm also a victim. Because my mother inlaw she had these problems. My husband fully supports his mother only. So my matrimonial life is going to divorce. No one accept me in(husband's mother side relative ).They don't have any kind on me. But I wish to escape my husband from my mother inlaw.
Ma'am I'm a victim. 😭🙏🏻 My husband was the luckiest narcissistic person in the world. it's so true mam. I used to obey and kept my mouth shut whenever he used to abuse me😭 6 months with him and family was like a decade.😞
Mam i am a victim. Husband and his mother. ഇവർക്കിടയിൽ 21 വര്ഷം കഴിഞ്ഞു ഞാൻ സഹിച്ചുകൊണ്ടേയിരിക്കുന്നു. Mam parayunnathil oro wordum sathyamanu. 81/2yrs. Ullorumonundu. Avanum ithellam anubhavikkunnu. Enthu cheyyanamennu theerumanikkanavunnilla. I am financially very poor
Thank you so much mam .It's very informative vedio. Iam a victim of narcissistic mother- in- law. Can you make a vedio about how to deal and solve problems with narcissist mother-in -law🙏🙏🙏.
I was searching for qualify vedios. And I got. I was a victim but now I am set free.I got more insights by watching your vedio.you doing a social work..God bless you
17:40 literally my mom 🥺 My father had clear NPD symptoms.. And i ended up being a C-PTSD patient. My brother was badly abused and was compared with me. Father kept saying he's dumb like my mom and i mom always believed herself that she's dumb, so i remember her saying innocently to everyone that, yes, my son is dumb like me. 😥 And he grew up as an abuser to me. I becamr a victim of both of them, even sexual. :'(
Hi anu, njan oru research scholar aanu doing research in this topic... If you don't mind can you please take part in my research... I wish an interview with you. If you are ok for it I will love to give you my contact
Yes, it is a painful relationship. I understand, ensure that you take care of yourself. Victim blaming is an easy task for everyone. so they will do it lavishly.
ഞാൻ മറ്റുള്ളവരുടെ കുറ്റങ്ങൾ അന്വേഷിക്കുകയോ പറയുകയോ ഇല്ല. എന്റെ കുറ്റങ്ങൾ അന്വേഷിച് കണ്ടെത്തി നികത്തുക എന്ന ഒരു സ്വഭാവം ആണ് എനിക്ക്. അത്കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ഞാൻ ശരിക്കും ഇതിൽ പെട്ടു പോയി.
We all play the victim role at one point or other in our life. there are three key roles we play in life - Villain, Victim and Hero. Everyone wants play the role of a hero but unfortunately in the process one becomes villain or victim. When you become a victim, there is only one way to handle it. accept the situation you are in and never be silent. instead seek help and rise from the victim mode.
Mam, I am a victim as I believe.. Could you please send me the checklist to be confirmed. My mom is a nacissist and I am suffering from my childhood. Please help me.
Enthu kondanu oralu narcisstic aayi pokunne. Is it a genetic disorder or lack of love in childhood. Divorce cheythu kazinjal kuttikale pinne narcisstic victim aaki maatumo partnerodulla dyeshyathinu. Plz reply.
Ma'am, your videos are very helpful.Now I understood what is going to my life.I was thinking what is my problem is but know I understood everything.Iam living with two Narrsists people.one my husband and t other my mother in-law.Iwas suffering frm past 21 years.I didn't get their character since I saw ur video.Now my children are also victms they are also suffering.Could u say how to help them frm these people.. Thank you so much ma'am.
You are really a highly experienced doctor. I have a doubt mam Is it dangerous to reply to a narcissist that I don't bother what ever you think about me .
Dr. Susan, I wish I met you 17 yrs ago ! I was like the person you mentioned at 18th minute of the video. I completely lost my identity. I can relate to everything you said there. Wasted 14 years of my life with him. Now, by God's grace, I am divorced and live with my son peacefully. Finally found my purpose! I find joy in empowering and enlightening abused people. Thank you for your videos that will make many people in Kerala aware of this evil. God bless you💕
Same here. But in my case it was my father who had all of these NPD symptoms. And mother always lived under him without complaints. Brother became an abuser because of him. And he was abused badly too. And I ended up being a C-PTSD patient due to the chronic trauma 🥺
Narcistinu കിടന്നു ആർമാദിക്കാ നുള്ള എല്ലാ സാഹചര്യവും ഈ നാട്ടിലെ സംസ്കാര തതിനുണ്ട്NpD victim ആകാതെ എല്ലാവരും ശ്രദ്ധിക്കുക😮
Hi Ma'am! കഴിഞ്ഞ 5-6 വർഷമായി ഇംഗ്ലീഷ് ഭാഷയിൽ NPD യെ കുറിച്ചും, NARC abuse recovery യെ കുറിച്ചും എത്രമാത്രം ഞാൻ റിസർച്ച് ചെയ്തുഒരുവിധം ഞാൻ എന്നെയും മക്കളെയും രക്ഷപ്പെടുത്തി എങ്കിലും aമലയാള ഭാഷയിൽ ഈ വിഷയം ഇതുവരെ ആരും എന്ത് കൊണ്ട് ഒന്ന് അവതരിപ്പിക്കുന്നില്ല എന്ന ഒരു വിഷമം ബാക്കി നിന്നത് ഇന്ന് ഈ ചാനൽ കണ്ടതിൽ നീങ്ങി.എനിക്ക് പറഞ്ഞറിയിക്കാൻ വയ്യാത്ത സംതൃപ്തി യാണ്. ഒരുപാട് പേരുടെ ജീവിതത്തിന് ഇത് ഉപകാരപ്പെടും. ദൈവം അനുഗ്രഹിക്കട്ടെ.... Thanks a ton, Love You Ma'am!❣️
100% അനുഭവിക്കുന്നു
Me too, Nazeema. You just spoke my mind. We are on the same path. I started reading about NPD 5-6 years ago. I even felt like becoming a therapist after reading so much so that I could help people. Dr Susan's videos are amazing! Enjoy life. Enjoy freedom❤
@@susangeorge8681 yes we are on the same boat.me too thought of starting Malayalam contents.Thank God Finallly Dr Susan started.
Mam, pl. Publish the said checklist
Hi nazeema, njanum angane research cheyunna oru penkutty aanu. 💞
Maa'm , 30 വർഷമായി ഞാൻ ഈ പ്രശ്നങ്ങൾ അഭിമുഖീകരിക്കാൻ ... തുടങ്ങിയിട്ട്... ചില സമയത്ത് എനിക്ക് സഹിക്കാൻ വയ്യാതെ ഞാൻ ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടിലായിട്ടുണ്ട്.... എന്റെ ദൈവത്തിന്റെ കരങ്ങൾ എന്നെ ശക്തമായി support ചെയ്യുന്നതുകൊണ്ടു മാത്രം ഇപ്പോഴും ഞാൻ ഈ ഭൂമിയിൽ ജീവിക്കുന്നത്🙏🙏🙏 എന്റെ ഭർത്താവ് കളങ്കം ഇല്ലാതെ എന്നെ ഒന്ന് സ്നേഹിക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് കൊതിയാണ്😘😘😘❤️❤️
I can understand Sreedevi. I would say you should start to love yourself. Create your own world accepting and managing as an effective leader. Build your boundaries.
I escaped 2 year back from a toxic narcisst Hus and family .I lost my 1 year...married at 25 and lost almost by confidence..they demotivated and devalued me for every aspect.literally I cried al night .thought abt suicide..." He even calculated the cost of food I have from their family in these days...along with constant attack in name of dowry. Finally I get a chance to escape.. Stayed away from them for 2 months and realized the difference of the Freedom and happiness I enjoyed in this period...this year I got divorce after 2 years...I lost my valuable 2 year..but at I am.very happy... Now I am chasing my dreams....
Mammനിങ്ങൾചെയ്യുന്നത് ദൈവീകമായ ഒരു കാര്യമാണ് എത്ര ജീവിതം എത്ര ജീവിതങ്ങൾ രക്ഷിക്കുന്നുണ്ട് സംരക്ഷിക്കുന്നു. നിങ്ങൾക്കറിയാമോ നന്ദി നന്ദി മാത്രമേ പറയാനുള്ളൂ. Because I am a victim.
Please be true to urself are u married and have a family
Don’t misguide people with ur no knowledge if you want CZcams likes there are many other ways good luck
Madam is this nerve problem or മാനസിക പ്രശ്നം ഏതാണ് ഇത്
Me too
Doctor njanum oru victim aanu.
Ella family relations ee al thakarthu. Njangale ottappeduthi use cheyyunnu.
Engineyenkilum njangale sahayikkan sadikkumo
It's my story, ...now lead a happy single parenthood life.
Thank you madam for the great videos, I wish I would have accessed such contents 10years back 😭
I heared about this word 'Nacissists' yesterday.. as I was searching whether I am undergoing some depression or not in youtube... but fortunately I reached in this video. So I have watched your other videos too to conclude my issue.
Dr. Susan, thank you so much for making this video and shedding light on this horrible experience. I am so happy that I listened to your video as this is exactly what I have been going through for the past 30 years, when I got married. My husband's twin brother's wife is a toxic woman and has been hounding me and my family for all these years. She abused my children and spreads false allegations against me so that my dignity and identity will be erased. Due to her actions, I was forced to believe that I am a terrible person who doesn't get along with anyone, but that was always the complete opposite before I met this wretched woman. Your video highlighted that she was the one manipulating our relatives and the public to believe those lies. Wherever my children and I go, she is there or she sends someone she knows to terrorize us. We are not even told if an immediate family member passes away. She gives the family orders not to inform us, and the others are scared about what will happen to them if we are invited or told about a death in the family. It is heartbreaking, but your video makes me feel seen. I always wanted to tell someone about it, but I was afraid to say anything due to the consequences. Once again, thank you so much.
Believe me, I grew up in a joint family with my mom's sister running the show. She played with our lives , minds, future, finances, relationships and all things under the sun.She ruined our reputation, self worth and what not..getting away with it because of her enablers!
Madamപറഞ്ഞ ഓരോ points എന്റെ അനുഭവം ആണ്, detch ആകാൻ വളരെ കഷ്ടപെടുന്നു, exactly ദൈവ ഭയം ഉള്ള ഒരു victim നെ കിട്ടുക അവരുടെ ഭാഗ്യം തന്നെ ,thanks madam for your valuable advice,
Exactly. Iam a victim since last 43 years. My husband is very lucky. Iam a God fearing lady. Iam going to be 67 years. Still he need me to work and give all the money to him. God help me. Thank you Doctor. God bless you 🙏
Same 🙄
Your precious words surely help people from suicide.
Madam I was in a relationship for three months , he discarded me and I went into. depression now it is almost one year but still iam undergoing watching these videos will heal me to move forward. Thank you madam for your videos, please upload more videos, you are saving many lives. God bless you.
Dr.പറഞ്ഞത് 100% correct words....
.നമുക്കു പരിചയമുള്ള പല വ്യക്തികൾക്ക് ഈ Personality ഉണ്ട്....
Yes, The victims suffer because they don't understand the personality disorder.
I have been to many therapies and by now I have mastered a number of holistic healing modalities and on a mission to help as many victims as possible. My life transformed magically by now and since 2020 I am on my Golden Age @52, my children doing higher studies... In is the way out... Do THE WORK... If you become a victim to narc abuse that is a proof that you are a gifted person. 🙏
Dear Nazeema, so happy to find another successful survivor like me. Keep up the good work. We can empower so many women like us. God be with you😊❤
@@susangeorge8681 Don’t know if this will come to your attention, still putting it out here. Have you taken any life coaching accreditation specialising in narc abuse? Would really like to know if it available and where. Thank you.
Well done Nazeema, I am a victim
I was a victim for 23 yrs , finally able to come out of it.Very useful information.Thanks
Am a victim for 27 need help to come out
Yente ബാല്യം മുതലേ ഞാൻ ഒരു victim aanu after my marriage I got a good hus who helps to understand the sitn
Mam...such an informative topic...👍Gave insights to recognise the trauma going through....The way to come out of victimisation like “taking an U-turn” has explained in a simple way to understand.Sure this talk will help the victims to get their happiness and wonderful life back... waiting for the next video....
Thank you Tanuja, There are many people suffer from this inter-personal personality disorder where it is more evident in intimate relationships. There are many sending me personal messages as they are afraid or ashamed to tell they are the victims, which is sad.
So true..personally experienced all the consequences because of my narcissistic mother.. trying to get out of the trauma..
എന്റെ സ്ഥിതിയും ഇത് തന്നെ. പെറ്റ തള്ള തന്നെ പണി തന്നു എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞാൽ ആരേലും പറഞ്ഞാൽ വിശ്വസിക്കുമോ?🤷♂️
I am a victim and my children are not safe. Don't know what to do. There is no self for them. This is the most confusing and difficult thing for the partner and to word it to someone is like a never accomplished task. They win court custody of children easily and destroy the partner
I understand, try seeking professional help.
@@DrSusanKoruthu How to contact you mam? Pls.
Thanks mam എനിക്ക് ഞാൻ ഒരു psychiatric counselling student ആയിരുന്നു എന്നിട്ട് പോലും എന്റെ husband ഇന്റെ disorder എന്താണ് എന്ന് എനിക്ക് മനസിലായില്ല ഇപ്പോൾ mam ഇന്റെ വീഡിയോസ് കണ്ടപ്പോൾ മനസിലായി താങ്ക്സ് mam. ഇനി ഞാൻ ഒരിക്കലും പതറാതെ ജീവിക്യൻ നോക്കും. പക്ഷെ നല്ല വിശദം ആയി ഒന്നുകൂടി ഇവരെ handil ചെയുന്നുള്ള (in family life) വീഡിയോ ഇടുമോ pls അത്രക് അനുഭവിച്ചു mam njan.😔
Mam paranja valare correct aanu. My college first love was absolute narcissist. Always blamed me for any mistake of his. Also, he was extremely good to me at times. So I felt he might actually be good, not that bad. He constantly insulted the way i look, called me ugly and what not! I cannot even mention here. Well, I am dark-skinned, and when he called me ugly, thanks to our society, it got deeply engrained in me. I was constantly trying to improve.
Even during college placements, when I got placed and he still did not find any job (though he was a senior), he blamed me saying I wasted all his time. There were nights that I spent crying so so badly. And even if I tell him that he hurt me so bad, he never bothered. Not even a sorry. "Oh.. enough of your drama..Why are you so dramatic? Why do you act so much?" And many such dialogues he used to tell me.
I lost all my confidance. Almost 4-5 years it took to finally realize that my worth is not to be measured using his measuring scale. However, my friends and cousins used to tell how they like certain characteristics of mine, totally unaware of what was going on between two of us. And I felt, probably I am not the kind of a girl who can ever satisfy him. Probably I might find someone who can accept me the way I was. And he might find someone too. Finally i decided to leave him. And i am so happy i did. At that time i did not realize i am a victim. But when i saw this video i realized.
Like you mentioned, to the outside world he is extremely good, and thats why I liked him in the first place. I never imagined that he could be so cruel.
Thank you so much doctor for this video.
I can relate to this very much
You will never win argument . They will go to that level we can not even think of
My humble advice to the victims to run ASAP and save yourself and don't ever disclose to the NARC that you have identified them as one. I did that mistake and took him to counselling etc. to help and keep the relatiobship intact... I paid more price for that. Accept the reality and rescue yourself and pray for the narc from distance... Spiritually.
Yes.
Mam u are very sincere to the society and u know the nacsist in the correct manner as he is
Ma'am please help me...എന്റെ parents ഒരു narsistic kind of behaviour ആയിരുന്നു.... 2yrs ആയി mrg കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട്.... ഇതിൽ പറയുന്ന almost എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളും ഞാൻ ഇപ്പൊ അഭിമുഖീകരിക്കുന്നത് ആണ്... bcz my partner is a narcisst...എങ്ങനെ മുന്നോട്ടു പോകണം എന്ന് എനിക്ക് അറിയില്ല...... ma'am പറഞ്ഞ checklist ഒന്ന് share ചെയ്യുമോ..... i cryed after watching your video..... ethrem informations ഒന്നും മലയാളത്തിൽ ഇതിനെ പറ്റി കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല..
Hi, I can understand your situation. Also, know that there is no authentic information available in Malayalam for such disorders which are common among people. Here is the link to the checklist as requested.
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@@DrSusanKoruthu Thank you somuch ma'am
Similiar case never escaped
Hi there
Same with me 😭
Thankyou ma'am for your detailed information about narcissistic victim syndrome.
Thanks for the topic Dr. Susan
Absolutely correct.. Good message to everyone
Hi mam I am narcissistic victim..l lost my life forever...I don't get support from my family... i am studying post graduation..my baby is autistic 😭..
Bincy, You think you lost your life forever. Once upon a time that was me thinking so. Only you can make or break your life, dear . I got my life back when I decided that I don't want a fake glorified life under someone by killing my soul and my kid's as well. Inform people around you and trust in God. Always you need to take the first step in helping yourself no matter how fearful and helpless you feel. 14 years I kept quiet and suffered threats and attacks but always looking happy outside. I was completely cut off from friends and close family. Now I am free living a good life with my kid. So it is possible for you too. Get a job and start planning your happy future. Be bold. Be a survivor. God bless you💕
സൂസൻ പറഞ്ഞതെല്ലാം 100% ശരിയാണ്. സാമാ , ദാന, ഭേദങ്ങൾ എല്ലാം പരീക്ഷിച്ച ഒരിക്കലും നന്നാവില്ല എന്നു മനസിലാക്കി ഡിറ്റാച്ച് ചെയ്യുന്നതാണ് കൂടുതൽ നല്ലതെന്ന് കണ്ട് ജീവിക്കുന്നു.
I went through all the rollercoaster ride.. Thank u mam for claryfying us.. Educating us.. God bless us all.
Maam. I'm also a victim. Because my mother inlaw she had these problems. My husband fully supports his mother only. So my matrimonial life is going to divorce. No one accept me in(husband's mother side relative ).They don't have any kind on me. But I wish to escape my husband from my mother inlaw.
My God..At last i realize my life.....
Dr. Susan 100% true keep going
I was always behind him explaining everything
Good presentation, thank you ma'am, God bless you
Ma'am I'm a victim. 😭🙏🏻 My husband was the luckiest narcissistic person in the world. it's so true mam. I used to obey and kept my mouth shut whenever he used to abuse me😭
6 months with him and family was like a decade.😞
Mam i am a victim. Husband and his mother. ഇവർക്കിടയിൽ 21 വര്ഷം കഴിഞ്ഞു ഞാൻ സഹിച്ചുകൊണ്ടേയിരിക്കുന്നു. Mam parayunnathil oro wordum sathyamanu. 81/2yrs. Ullorumonundu. Avanum ithellam anubhavikkunnu. Enthu cheyyanamennu theerumanikkanavunnilla. I am financially very poor
Online aayi stiching padikkoo.swantham kaalil nilkkoo
Thank you so much mam .It's very informative vedio. Iam a victim of narcissistic mother- in- law. Can you make a vedio about how to deal and solve problems with narcissist mother-in -law🙏🙏🙏.
I am 💯 victim..
Ente life... Kurach better aayi... Ee videos kanditt.... Thaank youuuu so muchhh
Thank you mam..spot on! Am a victim ☹️
Mam am the narcissist🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thanku mam
കേട്ടിട്ട് പേടിയാവുന്നു Dr
I was searching for qualify vedios. And I got. I was a victim but now I am set free.I got more insights by watching your vedio.you doing a social work..God bless you
Yes. Am a victim..... Kure chodhichu maduthu, ipol am understood
Thank you so much madam, you saved my life.
17:40 literally my mom 🥺
My father had clear NPD symptoms..
And i ended up being a C-PTSD patient.
My brother was badly abused and was compared with me. Father kept saying he's dumb like my mom and i mom always believed herself that she's dumb, so i remember her saying innocently to everyone that, yes, my son is dumb like me. 😥
And he grew up as an abuser to me. I becamr a victim of both of them, even sexual. :'(
Maam, please do a topic on a narcissist mother nd victim daughter
I have already done one on narcissistic parents. are you looking for mother and daughter relationship
Yes maam...
Dear ma'am this voideo is morethan 100% my life🙏
Hi anu, njan oru research scholar aanu doing research in this topic... If you don't mind can you please take part in my research... I wish an interview with you. If you are ok for it I will love to give you my contact
Me too 😭😭😭
Such a beautiful way of presentation
Thanks a lot
Self destructive aakum. Nammalde personality Mari pokum. Lack of confidence aakum. Ithuvare cheytha
Palathum sense illathe cheythu kalayum like crossing road without looking,depression vannitu full bodham pokum.Verbal abuse pedichitu. Kuttikalekkal importance koduthu pokum narcissistinu. Nammalu kanunna TV programme,cinema thudangi Ellam problems aa narcisstinu
My husband is a lucky narcsist. Like u said
Njan anubavich kondirikaaaan 😭but devorse alojikumbo pedi veetil poyi nikkunath alojikumboza ithikkum nallath soyam anubavich marikkkaaan nallath vijarikkum .numle kuttam parayaaanmatre ellaaarum undavu numle sobavam sheriyavayitaaa yennulla reethiyil parentsinte adthunn kittunna prathikaranam otakk jeevikaavijarichaaal athinum nadakkilla
Yes, it is a painful relationship. I understand, ensure that you take care of yourself. Victim blaming is an easy task for everyone. so they will do it lavishly.
Plz send check list
Njaaanum 😭
Thanks Dr for such a detailed presentation. I believe I am a victim. Can you share me the checklist
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Thank you for the video. Kindly share the checklist.
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ഞാൻ മറ്റുള്ളവരുടെ കുറ്റങ്ങൾ അന്വേഷിക്കുകയോ പറയുകയോ ഇല്ല. എന്റെ കുറ്റങ്ങൾ അന്വേഷിച് കണ്ടെത്തി നികത്തുക എന്ന ഒരു സ്വഭാവം ആണ് എനിക്ക്. അത്കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ഞാൻ ശരിക്കും ഇതിൽ പെട്ടു പോയി.
Mam.. According to the checklist my score is 27/30...! I didnt knew i was really bad as this... Thanku for this video
Thank you very much mam for this great information
100%.... Thank you mam 😢
Please Enlighten about Narcissist wife, narcissist parents, flying monkeys...
I will include these subjects in my next videos on Narcissistic personality disorder. Thank you!
ഒത്തിരി deep ആയുള്ള stufy ആണ് no words hats off mam
Very informative speech
100%... Now i understood the situation what i am facing now
വളരെ സത്യം മേം
True
Very informative, thanks a lot
👍🥰
Victim 😭 ith kelkumbo bhayankara frustrated aavunn deshyam varunnn verupp varunn 😔😔😔😞😞😟😕☹️😢
We all play the victim role at one point or other in our life. there are three key roles we play in life - Villain, Victim and Hero. Everyone wants play the role of a hero but unfortunately in the process one becomes villain or victim. When you become a victim, there is only one way to handle it. accept the situation you are in and never be silent. instead seek help and rise from the victim mode.
Mam, I am a victim as I believe.. Could you please send me the checklist to be confirmed. My mom is a nacissist and I am suffering from my childhood. Please help me.
forms.gle/b5mQLW77QcaAHZuK6
Enthu kondanu oralu narcisstic aayi pokunne. Is it a genetic disorder or lack of love in childhood. Divorce cheythu kazinjal kuttikale pinne narcisstic victim aaki maatumo partnerodulla dyeshyathinu. Plz reply.
All the above can be a cause. When a narc raise a child there is a strong possibility that the child become a narc or a victim.
Dr paranjath sheriyaaan numl etra thaznn kodthitum karyamillaaa oru preyochanavum illla avere sobavathil oru maattavum undavilla
True, very informative vedio, Thanks mam❤🙏
Very well explained doctor. Thanks a lot. Could you please send me the checklist for a test?
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Ma'am, your videos are very helpful.Now I understood what is going to my life.I was thinking what is my problem is but know I understood everything.Iam living with two Narrsists people.one my husband and t other my mother in-law.Iwas suffering frm past 21 years.I didn't get their character since I saw ur video.Now my children are also victms they are also suffering.Could u say how to help them frm these people.. Thank you so much ma'am.
Hi Sindu,
I cover that soon
Very informative …Thank you doctor
I know this video was posted a year ago, but how to contact you ma'am?
Please visit my website www.drsusankoruthu.com or send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com
Can i get the checklist mam?
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Thankyou mam for this valuable one
Thank you ...................
Most welcome
Madam kindly send me the checklist
Am suffering from many years
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such a nice topic ❤️rarely seen thankyou mam
Keep watching
I'm also a victim.
Yes, iam.please give check list
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Correct 🙏mam. Thank you so much to analyse
Thank u madam..., I'm a victim😖
100% true
Could you please get me the checklist, I would like to know more about this syndrome.
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I am victim from hus and grandmother
Useful ., thanku so much
I was a victim of narcisst. Now I escaped
How
The first thing he did was, turning me against my own family.
Thanke you madam god bless you
I am a narsiistic victim
Thank you mam
Most welcome 😊
I would like to check ma'am,NPD victim syndrome
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Please mam I am a victim, I lost my 15 years 8 years of love life and 7 years after marriage. I am a bTech proffesional , I need help.
You can contact me on drsusankoruthu@gmail.com
Maam please send me the checklist, me and my kids are the victims how can we over come this
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Really 100 Persentage victim my dear
It is so painful Susan. Please listen to my following videos for some tips to handle your life.
Me too a victim
Me too
You are really a highly experienced doctor.
I have a doubt mam
Is it dangerous to reply to a narcissist that I don't bother what ever you think about me .
Please do not tell them that, but you can live with that attitude.
@@DrSusanKoruthu
Thanks mam for this valuable advice.
Madam, very informative topic, i think a victim of it.. Now trying to recover.. How can i get cured???
You can seek life rebuilding therapy to get cured and rebuild your life confidently. You can reach out to me on drsusankoruthu@gmail.com
Complete correct 👌
Hi mam
I want the check list please
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Madam please send me the checklist.
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