11 Signs You Were Born To Be A Loner
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- čas přidán 2. 06. 2024
- If you relate to these signs you were born to be a loner! Do you like being alone most of the time? Do people call you a lone wolf? You likely prefer to live and work alone, and your friends and family probably tell you that you might be single forever…
People who like to be alone often have a more introverted personality, although not all introverts are loners. But there's a lot more to the loner personality. Also, there are different types of loners. Some people are loners by choice, while others are being forced to be one. In this video, we talk about those who choose to be alone and love it that way.
Aside from certain special personality traits of people who like to be alone, there are some tell-tale signs of a loner. So, watch this video to find out if you're of this personality type!
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"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams
Exactly
Wise quote. Yes, some of the loneliest people in the world are married and surrounded physically with people.
There is a big difference between "alone" and "lonely", just because you are alone, it does not mean you are lonely.
I guess the joke was on him 🤭
@@Daveena1008 I agree. And just because you're lonely doesn't mean your alone.
The older I get, the more I like being alone. No drama, no stress, no disappointments. The freedom is mind blowing.
Yeah I feel depressed being around people even dating and relationships. I don't get along with people. Friendships and relationships just don't work for me. The more and more I deal with people or date it just brings me to the realization that I am meant to be a loner. I do have periods that I feel lonely but I need to force myself to remember that I am generally happy and less stressed alone. I'd rather be alone. Im done. As a Christian Im better off learning how to love God first instead putting my hope and trust in people.
Absolutely
Aye, agree, same here 🌺
and peacefulness too!
@@SuperValaVala sooooo true!
“The more I get to know people the better I like my dog.” -Mark Twain
What a coincident! My partner gave me a glass paper-holder that said, "The more people I meet, the more I like my dog" with a silhouette of a dog which looked the same my dog Pinky. Sadly, he got bone cancer in his spine, but he's always in my heart. He's my heart dog and now my doggy angel.
"I love mankind, it's people I can't stand." Linus
Not crazy about mankind either. Cats rule! @@freddieh5539
😊
That's a good one😉🐕
I am retired and single. In other words, I do what I want, when I want and with whom I want. Life is good.
Wishing you a long, healthy, happy retirement. 😊
Take Care.
Yes yes yes!
Yep
got that part right F-ing A Straight
Same same me you
I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me.
Sums it up for most of us...
Hear you there
If you've got God you've got everything you need in this world 🌎I'm here for you
@@paulpayton8238 Thank you, but I’m agnostic.
@@paulpayton8238 Thanks Paul Payton, I fee that same way too. God, natural world, and authenticism.
"I don't hate people... I just seem to feel better when they're not around." -Charles Bukowski
I'm very receptive to other peoples feelings and there is only so much i can
take!!!!
Love bukowski my fav quote....the world is a bag of shit ripping open and I can't save it🤣🤣🤣🤣
Buk was a genius
@@thedon8223 For him to say that endurance was the measure of truth? I've been trying to form an artistic impression of this for quite a bit. He isn't resorting to traditional religious views.
"I love humanity. It's people I can't stand." Charlie Brown. Or maybe it was Linus. I don't care.
My divorce was 40 years ago this December. I'm 100% single. I don't date and don't have any close friends. I own my home, and no one ever comes to my home. I work for myself. I go out to eat by myself. I go to the movies by myself. I have two feral cats who love me. I like playing video games solo. I own a full-size pinball machine, which I love playing. I watch movies at home also by myself. I'm 100% debt free. I pay all of my utilities and phone a year in advance. I found my happiness, it's called simplicity. I love being alone. I'm never lonely, never sad, never depressed and never bored. I feel that I have an amazing life with zero drama. I wouldn't trade my life for anything.
I divorced in 1990 for the second time, liv on a boat now, brilliant life and wouldn't change the lone wolf nature for anyone.
How I envy you
@@unimpressed.. ME TOO...I am alone, and I do love it, but I have MS and it's sorta scary now.....but I'm still doing precisely me..
@@LadyYoop I too have been solo for 25 yrs now. It had it's ups for sure but I was driven too this place. It's sound's like the Poster above achieved what I had hoped too but in my case.... I just got stuck with me and we don't get along very well.
Stay Strong Sister. You Are an Inspiration.
I am the same and it is an amazing life.
The less dependent I am on others, the less disappointing my life becomes,
Yes, a big part of being an efficient loner is you learn to be very self reliant. Which in turn makes it easier for you to
help others.
Loners are handicapped, every thing has to be our way. We generally do things more efficiently than others so we get frustrated with others who don't concentrate as acutely as we do.
When I was a child I have no good childhood I never made friend
Absolutely brilliant statement, will be my mantra from this day on
@@robertblake9892🤔 hmmm. That kinda don't play in my way of thinking. It helps me to not have to deal with people period. Can't see reaching that level of success and then seek out for any reason what it is I'm trying to avoid. 🤔🤔, Nope,Nope, uhh uhh!
To each their own I guess though 🧐
It’s not being “anti” social, it’s being selective social.
FACTS 💯
Agreed! Otherwise it has this negative energy over it, and being a loner is not negative
Exactly!!
Exactly! very selective, when it comes to friends. Otherwise, social distance - distance club.
Yes, and you can also be social from a distance, by thinking about others and doing things for them whether they know or not.
It's easy to be a loner once you realize the true nature of people.
But being a loner doesn't have much to do with other people anyway. If you're a loner, it's because that's your personality and being on your own makes you feel happy and free. If you're alone because of the behaviour otlf others, that's something very different. A loner naturally has that personality regardless of how nice or horrible other people are.
Depends on the type of people you attract in your life.
@@faithpearlgenied-a5517 Exactly a true loner "does not give a damn" in so many ways, yet that does not mean they don't care about people.
Wow. Exactly.
@@DrBeeSpeaks People bottom feed......time to awake unless you are woke.
I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn't mind being alone, eating alone, going to the movies/mall alone.... I have no desire to come home to someone every day.
People really understand how to be at peace with themselves. I'm alright with just me.
Frankly, I think that other people try to tell us there's something wrong with us for liking our own company.
When I was talking with a fellow introvert, she said that people who like being alone are stronger than other people who needs validation from others.
I'm not sure about that. Being around people who need validation makes me feel stressed and tired and I want to run away from them and their neediness...unless they're someone I care about. Even when I'm enjoying listening to music, reading a book or other interests and hobbies.
In short, if you interrupt me while I'm reading and I don't start growling like a bear, you're important to me...even though I hate phone calls!
#12 - Loners typically have at least one pet and feel that pet is smarter than 99% of the people they have encountered.
A pet also makes you feel a whole lot better, more calmed than any human.
True That!!!
If you ever meet a loner, its not because we enjoy solitude. It's because we have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint us.
This is it!!!
That's the thing, some of us it actually hurts some of us don't wanna be alone it really hurts so I think ur a liar I'm sorry, being a loner is not fun its depressing and upsetting
Same I spent 49;years trying to understand people to no avail I've cut everyone out now I only talk to the Lord after a lifetime of abuse it's now time for me
So true! I'm so over people's BS. I would rather be alone for the rest of my days than suffer yet another disappointment by someone else I foolishly let into my life. There are 3 things in life you can count on: death, taxes, and people disappointing you. I'm done with all that. But honestly, I do enjoy my solitude.
@@vee_da_reaper2350 I'm sorry you feel that way, calling someone a lier because you can't relate isn't fair. however that's normally down to your own limitations. You said being alone hurts, that's because you choose to let it hurt you. You don't want to be alone, and that is why you won't understand why for someone like us it's fine to be on our own. Most people are Co dependent and need someone, I don't, I'm an only child so being alone is fine by me, I do so much that I love, with zero limitations, I'm happy and that's all that matters. ✌🏻
Spending too much time around others drains me. Being alone recharges me.
Absolutely.
..Ditto...
Definitely.
Yes.
100% get that
I didn't learn until later in life that it's my destiny to be a loner. I tried to fit in and play along with societies expectations but it just didn't work and I always felt different. I am 60 now and have been retired for a few years and have come to know and deeply love who I am. Being alone is my joy!
“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.” - May Sarton
@lordoftherings6591
I think what you wrote is profound (as well as true) in its simplicity.
And I especially admire that you quote May Sarton..
An exceptional bit of wisdom from your exceptional mind. ⭐
@@MicheleOrlanis
Thank you Michele for your kind comment. It really felt as if a glimpse of your kind soul was floating between the lines you wrote, that is what our world desperately needs. 👏
Beautiful! Thank you and Bless you for sharing. It's perfect
The more I get to know people, the more I come to the realization that being alone is not so bad after all.
The more I get to know people, the more I like my German Shepard.
its the best
@@burnerjack01 Dogs , and ferrets & cats too , are far better than the vast majority of people. GSD's are clever & versatile dogs.
The more i get to know people the mor i love my dogs.
@@poijntxhaisdgcha6004 same
I've learned to accept the fact that being alone is so much better than being around people you don't get any added value from!
Agreed. That means most people.
You must not been alone much an I mean alone
True
Being along and talking less and move from all these all increase our value more even though it is too tought to more talkative but it is the best thing
I agree, who needs a bunch of people telling you what to do when you can try to discover yourself without the stress of worrying about who cares and who doesn't. Not to say that opinions are completely unnecessary but at the end of the day if you choose to spend your life pleasing other people, chances are you'll die from their rejection.
Definitely a born loner. I used to think there was something seriously wrong with me, and struggled with not being a "good fit" much of anywhere. But I realized that the loner thing is part by choice, and part by default/accepting things as they are. Traveling alone is so much easier - I feel in complete control, can walk as fast as I want, and stop and chill wherever I want. Some people don't understand that, as if you cannot enjoy your vacations greatly if you're not with someone. I say mind your own f---ing business.
Thants Right !!!
ditto
Oh, but people like us don't need other people around. We enjoy our own company!
I'm always happy to see people when they visit, and honored that they came, but also relieved when they leave.
"It is better to be single and alone, than wish you were," 🤗
Nice 👍 😂
"You enjoy traveling alone" - I don't even enjoy traveling 😁
@@violetfem1808 Love to travel solo. I blend in and go my own way. Almost always to a coastal city with great food, where I don't speak the language.
Perfect!😁
@@DenverDiscovery I guess I'm more of the hermit type? I love gaming & social media.. studying onlline... my pets. Just not into travel - the furthest I go is 1 hour away to shop at 2 stores that aren't near me. Trader's & Sprouts :D
Facts!💯
"I don't hate people, but I feel better when they're not around." -- Charles Bukowski
"The more I am around people the more I like my dog."- Mark Twain.
Mickey Rourke/Faye Dunaway. .. Barfly... great line and great movie
I love humanity....it's just humans I don't like..
Same thing here i feel more comfortable by myself but still need one or two friends but that's been ruined by a jealous vindictive hateful asshole but I'll bounce back nothing has kept me down in the past and I've almost died numerous times
@@THE_HMRC tell me about it. BTW that's one of my favourite saying when I don't need to say anything
being alone and being lonely are two different things
Everyone I know always said I was born an old soul. I'm now 31 and already feel like I've lived my life to the full. I still have an amazing family, a small group of close friends, old friendly faces I'm happy to have small talk with if we ever cross paths - and that's pretty much it for me. Gone with the days of unprecedented amounts of drama and extremities of life. Now I'm just gonna focus on enjoying each day I live until it's my time to go. Nice and easy. No regrets.
I love this. ♥️
Trah lah lah lah lah lah lah lahlahlahhhh
There’s a lot of born loners here and I just have to say - “being a loner you understand other loners - we are NOT lonely anti-social, we are selective social loners and I love you all!” ✌️
I hear that.
Oh I love hearing this. It all makes me feel so normal!! :)
@@CathyCrothers You're perfectly normal. There's more of us than you think.
I agree!
This definitely needs sharing ☯️
Just cause I'm a loner doesn't mean I'm alone. I'm with myself and majority of the time, that's good company.
People don't understand alone and lonely are not the same.
Yep, me too.
Well said. I’m never alone either because I’m always with myself, and I’m good company, too.
Ditto!!💯🙌
Right on!
I've always LOVED being alone... even as a child I entertained myself for hours on end.
I manifest 10 of the 11 signs listed here
I have 10/11
I've realised how much of myself I've put away for others, because it was "the right thing to do", thinking that socializing is the norm and the natural evolution, regardless of how we were.
My feelings, my loneliness, myself, my passions, my goals...I've put all that aside to devote myself to my friends (like 80% for them and only 20% for me) I lost myself, my confidence and my value. Never again.
I'm alone but never lonely. I'm comfortable with myself so I don't need to be busy running around. I love quiet and stillness. I enjoy people sometimes.
Me too, Mary....I took a trip to UK for my 50th birthday and thoroughly enjoyed being alone, my time, my schedule, my solitude in wonderful places...people seemed shocked that as a 50 yr old I did this alone. IT WAS GREAT!
Thank you! You summarized the video very well!
I also kinda get tired of keeping up with people in general, and with the noises from messaging and calls coming from social media, not just from physical or face-to-face engagements. Nevertheless, I still enjoy friendly company from time to time as well. Just not on a daily basis.
@@bevtuft3572 wow that’s amazing. That’s gonna be me soon 🥰
Value your energy.🙏🏾👍🏾🏆
😚🐈🐈🐈⬛💕100%
My father told me at 11 years old, to learn and be comfortable with walking alone. I’m 29 now.
I can flip the switch and be very outgoing when I want to be or when necessary. Being a loner is the best way to be; more focused, no distractions, no nonsense. Salute to all my fellow loners out there, we good, we’re always good 💯😂
Salute to you sir.
Well said. This is me exactly....no problem being alone most of the time and actually prefer it, but can flip the switch and be a social creature seemlessly.
I always wondered whether I was a real loner or not. After listening to this video I’m still not sure. Well I do fit most of the criteria of loving my alone time. I also need some time with my friends but, I am more comfortable by myself. Saying that, The one thing that I cannot do is be alone in public meaning, eating out by myself or traveling by myself. I know I would never enjoy it as much as being with a friend. So what does that make me an in betweener ? Confused here. 🤔
FACTS 💯💪
It's a blessing that you got that from childhood. It took a bad childhood and a loving wife with similar, but different issues for me (and her) to realize this. I think the point is that we must live and exit this life with the right understanding of who we are.
Proud Loner here! It’s lovely.
To anyone that is a loner. There is nothing wrong with that or you. We cannot go through life pleasing others. Whatever we went along with along the way in life. Stop. Don't do it anymore. People always let you down eventually. And chosing to be a loner and staying away from the drama and nonsense will always work for me. And I'm sure it is working for some of you as well. Your feelings are your own to have and you're entitled to have them. You're not hurting anyone. Period! If it hurts you to be alone. Don't be. Change that for yourself. I had 3 siblings. And they all passed away. As well as my parents. It's just me now. I miss them and love them. I can move on without them. Why? Because I am independent, self sufficient and know how to be with myself and can go on. Blessings to all.❤
I used to feel guilty and shame for being a loner, now I don't think it that way. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely.
It definitely is.. Sometimes you can be around a bunch of people and still be lonely. In that case the company needs to change. but I agree completely and felt guilty as well..
Same
💯 Same!
Since I've been married for 10 years I realized I'm a loner.
Well said being alone and lonely r 2 different things.
No drama, no loud confrontations, no mindless small talk. Peace and quiet and valuable moments in nature are the best. My art, plants, pets, guitars, cooking, bike riding and reading are just priceless to me. Some folks don't understand the value of self reflection.
Brotherhood
Same here
YES!
Some of the most special moments in my young childhood was spending long days in the woods with my dogs.
@@burnerjack01 Agreed! I love my Boston Terriers!❤
♥I am 67 and have had two "important" relationships that ended after 5 years. Sure, I had fun, but I have come to realize that just being alone and have very few friendships is enough for me. ♥
I love being alone! Alone but not lonely.
To be a loner is to be stress-free.... And I find that very satisfied❤️
This is me 100%. I'm a loner, but not lonely. I can enjoy the company of other people but in very small doses. Moderation is key.
So good! 🙌🏾
Exactly! I always tell people that being a loner is COMPLETELY different from being lonely!
Absolutely.
The difference between loneliness and solitude is your concept of who you are alone with and who made the choice.
Yes small doses, perfect definition.
My score = 11 out of 11. Yes, I'm a hard core loner. I am non social, not anti social. I do talk to people when I encounter them, but prefer being alone. And there have been times when I have gone months without human contact, by choice.😊
I am 54 and have always preferred solitude. I have throughout my life tried the social thing with othere but found it never made me happy, as opposed to highly anxious and uncomfortable, so I would turn to booze to mask it, and invariably end up being the embarrasment everyone was talking about for weeks, months, even years afterward. I have never been married or ever desired to be. The thought alone sends waves of dread through me. Having to share my sanctuary...my bed with another could/would never happen. I simply could not bear that at all and I dont understand how others are so at ease with sharing such intimate personal space with someone else. I never attend social functions, having over the years all but exhausted every plausable excuse to not attend. I dont use social media, having been down that road to find only disappointment and feelings of intense sorrow by the way others use it to promote only the good in their lives thus creating a false narrative of the most idyllic, stress free lives. They never show the 90% of crap fest that life is for all of us. Alone is the only way I can maintain my sanity.
I have to agree with you. I tried the marriage thing.... once. It was a failure. I just don't have that kind of trust myself. I wish alcohol is all I fell into. I went through the Periodic table of elements in that regard. Don't know how I managed to get out of those depths I sunk too alive. Sometimes I'm not sure I did. I can't say I'm happy with thing's but I'm not God's own drunk anymore or the gutters biggest junkie anymore either. I can fake the social bs when I have too but I really don't care for the company of others because with all I lack in my life as is they always seemed more needy than I and it was exhausting putting myself out trying to lift them up and always at the expense of myself. I can be miserable on my own well enough with out the help of others. As much as I detest having to tolerate the company of others I detest my own even more. So I'm the Poster Child for damned if I do and damned if I don't. I'm 58 now and facing a triple bypass and synthetic aortic replacement so I'm fairly sure this story is near it's conclusion. I used to fear the end even with this non fairytale life I've had but now I find myself indifferent either way. Everyone that is anyone in my life except for one very special person (my granddaughter) seems to feel the same way. Whattayagonnado
it took me 50+ years to completely come to grips with this. Alone is my natural state. Relationships drive me crazy. I hate the drama and the compromising.
Same.
You spoke my mind.
Me too..am 54. For me, it's a bit like coming out of the closet and admiting you are a loner to the world.
At 74 years of age and alone for the last12 years, I have found the peace I've been looking for without drama or concern with hurting someone's feelings.
anyway you always die alone nonetheless
This is so me. I'm 60 & finally accepting that I'm far happier being a loner. Was married for 20 years but got hurt so badly by my ex. I love my life as it is now.
I can relate to getting hurt so badly by an ex. I was married for 25 years. I’m glad your enjoying your life now as well as I’am also.
Finally accepting my loner personality at 68.
Same here. 40 years to the day with one woman but she had become bipolar 16 years before I eventually divorced her. I tried but its incurable.
Since then I've had 9 years of peace. No PTSD, no nail biting, no excessive drinking, no stress or panic, no running around after her.
Most of us never knew we were hooked with a narc who drained us, day in, day out seeking our destruction----WTF was that for your dedication?
Same here, I'm sixty also. It's taken me fifteen years to get over many hurdles mostly family daths on top of a break up. If like us this has to be faced alone, it can be a double edge sword being a loner. There will come a time when we will need someone to turn to. One or two good friends is needed.
I'm a loner but it's nice to share life with a spouse that's a loner too.
looks like you've been reading my mail! Yes, yes, yes, that's me and, I'm loving it! Thank you!!!
I've always been a lone wolf. Don't get me wrong, I like people, I just like them better when they're not around me.
😂🤣😂🤣 SAME 💯
Lol 😂 truth !!
So true.
😂😂😂
"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity."
-- Albert Einstein
Totally agree
Probably because he had important things to do. I feel I'm always too busy to socialize, that I have a lot of things to, but really it's just that I have no interest in socializing and when people ask questions they get on my nerves.
All I have is a girlfriend and that's all I need.
When someone talks to me it's irritating to me.
@@luismangiaterra1031 if you have 1 girlfriend, you are not being a LONER anymore. You become a COUPLE
@@pabloperez4063 I just keep a girlfriend out of necessity, otherwise I don't need it.
She knows I'm like that.
Mr. Sullivan , I completely relate. as time cycles on I have been able to see the wisdom that can be gained in that solitude . Now more than ever I see how media tries to influence us to need others and its all for the dollar there is no real need to feel desperation for a life lived in solitude. This country is beset upon us in the guise of advertisements hoping they can make us feel enmeshed with one another and would that make them fulfilled not a chance, that kind of greed usually ends in downfall, as it should!
I have always been happiest when alone, to think my thoughts and do as I please. Fortunately, I was never really pushed to be "social" by my parents. I love the freedom of solitude.
I love been in the world all by myself. No friends, no family and no problems! But I still love going to my local and having a few of my favourite drinks and meeting complete strangers and playing pool with them!! Then I go home, usually drunk and all alone. Yep, I'm a loner and it's great!
Wow! Just like me, Craig!👍✌
This resonates with me 100%. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't understand loners and think that we're either weird or don't have any friends.
I've decided that if liars & drunks are all I have to choose from, I don't want any friends. I have few friends. My pets adore me.
I feel you...
@@jeffd1919 Pets are the best, they don't Judge you on anything.
Not weird at all. Nothing wrong with being your own best friend. Nobody knows you better than you.
@@williampride6008 Thats why us Introverts are more in touch with the world because we would rather watch everything like shadows receding into the background, we don't seek validation to get by in life, because we know who we are. \m/
“IF YOU’RE LONELY WHEN YOU’RE ALONE … YOU’RE IN BAD COMPANY.”
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE BEING ALONE 💯
I think it’s better to be alone & feeling lonely because at least you know that you’re alone. Rather than being with someone that makes you feel you’re not lonely but deep down they’re not really truly being there with you. Because lonely or not is only your perception!
😁👌
WORD!
@@maicao8328 There's nothing worse than being with someone that makes you feel alone. When I'm just by myself I never feel alone because of all the things that I can entertain myself with. It's just so easy for me to be happy taking care of myself. I look young, I'm in good shape, I love working out...I even cycle alone. I do most of my things alone and perhaps this is why I stay looking 15 years younger.
I agree!!!!!!
I never thought of myself as being a loner I had a lot of friends growing up but just didn’t find in after grade school! I wasn’t popular enough I guess to be invited to parties or social events and if I did attend an event and tried to interact with other people I just didn’t fit in for some weird reason! This continued right on through adult hood got married at 24 lost my wife 32 years later now live in a retirement apartment building and feel out of place here as well no common interests it seems. I have felt misplaced all my adult life!
Growing up I had friends. By my early 20s I started to cut people off. I lived by a beautiful forest and would go for solo runs and just lay on the grass when I was done. I started to see how we all have our own path in this world, and connection to other people is just a facade.
There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. The loneliest I could ever be is in a room full of people. Small talk bores me.
I say the same thing all the time. And the folks most difficult to deal with are church people. One nosey old woman got angry when I provided 36 Bible verses on gossip (why they intrude to begin with). Most verses address "old women" specifically.
Facts
Too many people are full of the world
I used to have drinking & drugging buddies, not real friends.
Amen brother you hit the nail on the head. Godspeed
From my experience: Loners do not need to stay single forever - they just need to find another loner. Such relationships can work very well because each of the two understands the other one's feelings and gives him or her the private time needed - and both avoid social gatherings together 🙂
Essentially the reason Im still single after all these years. Most of the things on this list are 100% spot on!
Loners of the world unite! Paradoxical? Well, life is paradoxical.
Yep, thats me. My other half is exactly like me, a loner. She understands how I feel and we get along great!
I can agree with you on this I think some things
Yes, I need someone that I can be alone with.
I'm never alone because I have me, myself, and I for comfort always!
I'm never alone either. Me , myself and I are always arguing amongst one another. Can't seem to outrun the s.o.b.'s .
I definitely fall into this category. I really appreciate my alone time. Thanks for sharing this video.
I guess I’m a loner. I enjoy people in small doses. I don’t like small talk or drama. I prefer deeper conversations but most of the people I meet are pretty shallow, so, no thanks. Generally, people tend to drain my energy not add to it.
thats me..
I definitely can relate
@ Terry Wade, I'm in complete agreement with your post. If most of the people you meet are pretty shallow (like shallow Hal lol), then you MUST live in LA, home of the energy vampires. You have my sympathy. You're just fine on your own.
@@austriagiancarlo9433 Close to LA but closer to Disneyland. Most of Southern California seems to be this way.
What you describe are the classic characteristics of an 'introvert'. Not sure if that's the same as being a 'loner' because they have not defined the word in this video. Perhaps a 'loner' is just an extreme introvert. As an introvert myself, I enjoy engaging people on-on-one, but even then avoid getting into people's personal dramas and don't share my own. My wife and kids are different though because they are really just an extension of myself. In a sense they ARE me. A few close friends come close to that.
I was shamed by family members for being anti-social and wanting to be alone when I was growing up. For a while a thought something was wrong with me. Fast forward to today and most of my family members have health issues because of the stress brought on by others. And I wouldn't consider myself anti-social. I'm just very selective of the people who I decide to let into my life. My time and personal space are very important to me.
Your life Joe, live it on your terms.
Same here. As a child I used to have to be pushed into attending social events, family or otherwise. I am well-known in my family up until this day for being the odd one out.
There is a huge difference between being anti-social and wanting to be alone. If anything, wanting to be alone can be exacerbated by too much contact with people with traits of antisocial personality disorder (go look up the actual diagnostic criteria)... and it doesn't matter who is conflating terms in order for this statement to be true.
@@williampride6008 its jealosy . I have grown up with those people and you do have to make a real effort to get them out of your life .
Completely understand and relate to
I am 60 years old, and I have never been married. And I have no regrets.
Absolutely. 100 percent!!
Thanks for the video.
Better to be a lone wolf than a popular sheep. I severed ties with a lot of people after seeing their true colours and decided I don't want or need people like that in my life. I prefer solitude and walk my own path in life alone & my way. I have mental fortitude & can deal with solitude no problem as I have no drama, chaos or stress in my life as a result & it's awesome.
I completely agree with you. I love my peace and peace of mind.
The greatest thing about being a "loner" is that you never actually ever really feel alone.
So true!
Exactly!
When you do nothing but sit your ass all day not sure what your good at it’s painful outcast
I'm a loner and therefore by choice I'm often alone ... but I'm never lonely.
On occasion I realize, that only out of necessity have I spoken to anyone and that always makes me smile.
Silence is the language of God and opens the mind to the spiritual side of life.
Splendid reply I never feel alone I have my sanctuary and I determine who , if any visitors are welcome. I am not a selfish or anti-social person, I am a man who's concern is my own security and serenity
I was shunned by people because they thought I was weird. I tried fitting in until I woke up and told myself why should I conform to society's needs. So, I embraced my weirdness and lived life solo. Now people want to hang out with me because I am now interesting, but I don't need their company. People are weird.
Yup! I can’t stand people always on their phone! I like to work alone. I definitely love to live alone! No sharing anything and so what if the bed is a mess!😊
Being a loner isn't a negative impact, it's more of a positive .
Yeh I agree
@@woodynorris8224 matter of opinion
I agree. If a person can't enjoy themselves how can they enjoy others.
I agree, solely.
@@bernardbrooks3935 you definitely have a point.
I love being alone but when I tried to connect with people always end up worse. I realized being alone is the best thing for me.
Me too.
"The weather is hot but getting cooler tomorrow and the Lakers lost, Trump is lost too and so what do we do"?
It was nice talking to you and catching up, see you again. I enjoyed the conversation and thanks for your time!
I’m a single guy at 24 years old and I enjoy my own company whatever I please. The whatever things I love doing. I respect myself, focusing on working alone in peace and live in spiritual life. No relationship, avoid complicated situations. Simple living and getting things together. Never get bored being alone. I feel 100% percent energize, than being around with others does drain my mood.
Once I heard “The more I interact with people, the more I love my dog.” I agree 😛
I’m not necessarily a born loner, I feel like I have never found my crowd, my people/my tribe.
I just got fed up of not being able to speak my mind with people who don’t appreciate me. Too much competition or meaningless conversations. I also wouldn’t want someone pretending to agree with me, just to keep the peace. I rather just be by myself. I’m happier that way.
We're out here.... We're just spread out. For now I suppose. Godbless
Yeah another one here.
Me too !!!! 😁😁😁
It’s like trying to heard cats…lol
@@Grassmpl Likewise ..Hello at a distance!
Since my divorce I have learned that being alone isn't near as bad as wishing you were.
Same here! Stole money from me and divorce lawyers are horrible!!!!
@@patriciavandevelde5469 Patricia
Sorry to hear about your lawyer. Mine wasn't cheap but I think he earned every penny. No idea what she would have cost me without my lawyer to defend me.
Very true! Been there & done that.
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was in a bad marriage. I divorced and never looked back, and rarely do I feel lonely now.
Classic 😊. Thomas.
The fact that the most enjoyable times in my life have always been when I’m on my own doing my own thing, convinced me that I’m a happy loner, and I wished people knew this kind of happiness 😊
Gosh this is deadly accurate! I have decided to log off both my FB and IG accounts temporarily because I just feel that the more I use them, the more I feel irritated by checking and not checking new messages! I became very obsessed with both and whenever I have some free time of my own, the first thing I would do is to check if there's any new uploads and notifications from both accounts! When the notifications start to pile up after just a day or two, I become anxious because I am afraid I might miss out on some important stuff on social media.
It has been 4 months since I logged off from both accounts, and I have no intention of going back! Staying away temporarily from social media does help clear your mind as you don't need to spend some going through those trivial, unimportant uploads!
I hear people say they get so lonely. I don’t, I love being alone. I don’t have any real friends and that’s fine with me.
I do not have any friends. Just the way I like it.
"Friends", no such thing... more like, use me till I either run out of whatever they need, or I drop them after waking up to the fact that I'm being used. Ended that cycle 20 years ago
@@JohnSmith-kq2ff lucky bastards
I am a loner but not lonely. Worked with public for years and damn glad I don't have to anymore. Retired, cabin in the mountains and loving it. Birds, deer, bears etc. Wonderful. Peaceful. Glass of wine on my back deck and thankful to God for my life.
Nice 👍 🥂
If I wasn’t so slow of a person I’ve dream of a nice settlement place such like you describe I’m barley 23 and losing my mind literally can’t do well at anything just waiting for the worst like no hope broke as a joke
but sooner or later the fiddler will have to paid and it will end in suicide as you age
Me too! I felt like ER Bunny somedays with tooooo much of the public in a high profile job. LOVE alone time now.
Amen Paige. You go girl.
THANK YOU FOR SHARING ❤
I am glad that there are so many people that are loners like me. I'm glad I'm not alone even if i like being alone.
Being alone is the best. I hardly get hurt and i do things i want to do without judgements.
I love being alone and single.
Happiness comes from within.
I love this video, it was as if he was telling my life story, I love being alone, I have no drama, no problems, no issues, no backstabbing people in my life, no bitter divorce, no unwanted kids, life is good.😊
I never had an issue with being a loner, it was my parents and teachers who had issues with it.
Yeah. Those people who think they know what's best for you. To hell with them! You are the boss of you!
True Words ❤❤
Exactly!!!
Hahah all the comments on my report cards from when I was a kid are, Lindsey does a good job with her work and behaves bla bla bla, but we wish she would work more in groups and with other kids
@@Lindsey578 bloody teachers eh?! They need something negative to say! My school work was never satisfactory alone or in a group.
I enjoy being alone. I go where I want, when I want and I don't have to answer to anyone. There's no greater freedom than jumping on my Harley and just taking off with no particular destination in mind. No drama, just peace. Anyone who doesn't enjoy being alone will never understand why we enjoy it.
My daddy (btw, his name is Marshall too) was my best friend for all of my life until he passed away in 2016. I had lived with him for a few years up to his passing. My daughter moved in with me a couple of years later. (we no longer live together👏🏾) A friend of my commented, “At least you’ll have company now.” Huh?🤷🏾 I was perfectly fine by myself after my daddy passed. My friend’s comment was a reflection of HERSELF! SHE would feel LONELY. She never thought I could actually enjoy being alone.
Exactly 💯 Marshall .Bang on .There's nothing like it .
“Who travels fastest, travels alone.” Admiral Ernie J. King. The admiral wasn’t talking about speed. If there is somewhere you WANT to invest your time in you’ll get there earlier and have more time to invest if you go it alone.
Wow! I am downloading and saving this. People are always trying to figure out “what’s wrong” with me. I love this video and each and ❤ every comment. Blessings to us all!
I can totally relate.
I’m a loner but I think I have the best of both worlds. I’m female and have shared a house with a male friend for over 20 years. Neither of us wants the relationship to be more than friends and neither of us has had a romantic relationship with anyone else in that time. We spend a lot of time alone but chat when we see each other. I had a severe back injury a few years ago and could hardly get out of bed for 6 months and I recently had a knee replacement. My friend stepped up and helped with shopping, cooking and transportation and I’d have really struggled to cope without his help. Equally he’s even more of a loner than I am and I think without our friendship he’d have stayed living with his Mother for life without any friends. My family has become his family and he has a much wider social contact because of that. So our lives sort of overlap like a Venn diagram! We can enjoy our alone time but have companionship when we want it. The video is spot on about pets. We share the care of our indoor guinea pigs and they are a primary topic of conversation (and are spoiled rotten!). Strangely enough I have a twin brother who lives on the other side of the country. He’s busy with his work and family and I don’t have much contact with him. I often say my friend is a substitute twin brother. So I think we have the best arrangement for two loners - we’re often alone but never lonely.
When you come from abusive parents and have 2 go no contact you quickly become used 2 being alone..now i love it
For me, I prefer being on my own because I've never met anyone who's company I enjoyed more than my own. I still enjoy limited interactions, but I'm always flooded with relief when they're over and I can be by myself again.
I can relate to that 100%.If i do have a friend come and stay for a night or two i feel so much relief when they have gone back home.Not that i dislike them but i enjoy my own space and company.
I love being alone. There is no judgement, criticism or disrespect coming my way from anyone. No kids or family I have to worry about or "provide" for. No one I have to "make" happy or there's going to be trouble for me now or in the future. My happiness does not depend on how another person feels. That is amazing freedom. It's like being let out of a prison.
Lies again? Private Jet Changi Airport
Yes, its 100% true you dont need anyone to make you happy in life you can be happy yourself
Until you realize you still need interaction and can't be in solitude for a long time. Cuz you will beg for just interaction of another living being
Very well said! Peace is TOP priority no matter how old I get.
Me too
This fabulous video describes me perfectly! Thank you for posting this!
Impressive, so accurate, is like to describe myself. Thanks for the video. 😊
This is me 100%. I've finally decided to just accept it and embrace it. We can't define our happiness and success by society's standards.
Natasha. I agree with you 100%. I have never gone to a high school reunion or to parties were old friends get together and rehash old experiences. I like the new thread new adventures and new experiences. It’s not that I don’t have old friends. But I like to expand my dimension, becoming a more rounded person with honesty virtue and integrity.
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Yeah, me too. Except traveling point. No a big fan going places alone - never know what can happen, and sharing expenses helps stretch your $. Do not need social media ( avoid it at all costs), CZcams on the other hand... consume and comment ;(. Maybe I am not 100% loner after all.
Indeed, we are not brands and labeled goods, we're individual people.
Agree with you 100%.
In my 70’s and been this way all my life and love it.
I'm not alone, I have me
Same here.
8 out of 11. I want to be around others when I want to; be it social interactions or work. I love my two little dogs and enjoy being with them, cooking on a Sunday afternoon or watching a movie. I've planned two cool trips next year and have gladly paid the single supplement!
Oh my gosh! This is SO me! I like people, but I LOVE all the things on this list 💖
I am 100% born to be a loner. The moments i was in a relationship i always longed for the moment i be alone again. Born to be free.
I'm one of those people who was truly born to be alone. It's fun for me. So much to enjoy!😊
This probably explains why I am not married and don't even desire to be even in my late 40s, I can't stand this so called family thing.
@@danielkaya3608when you grow older that’s when having a family will count. It’s a good thing something to lean on emotionally when we are weak.
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I realized that after years of marriage, then getting separated, that I was much happier alone. Going home from work and having to share my thoughts, and listen to my wife's thought was very difficult. A tough thing to accept, but you have to accept it.
I'm happiest being alone. I've tried being out in the world but the world is really a disappointment to me. I'm content to live life my way and I'm happy for it.
What an amazing video, I always feel guilty to be a loner but from watching this it all makes sense! Many thanks 🙏 fm Mr Dawson
I totally agree with this video and the comments. Put out for decades caught up in everything, I’m done with it and loving it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. I crave it
100%with you😚🐈🐈🐈⬛💕🇺🇲
I see people going out getting very drunk and loud desperate for any kind of attention I feel sorry for them they much get taken advantage of alot
Yes!!!! Love to be alone! Can’t be bothered with other people’s drama!
Love your name mrs/miss Peacewalker.
God bless you.
Kimothy 🇩🇰
Yea same here
Ur video pretty much nailed it, thanks
Other people can be so complicated…..I feel like most of my energy is in making other people happy. I am friendly, I am outgoing but I just want to be nice in a noncommittal way. Being alone for me has had its ups and downs…..but being alone has never hurt/disappointed me the way people have.