They enjoy hurting people and plan it out from day 1 of the relationship (or even earlier). Their tactics are offensive, not defensive. They aren't protecting themselves, they are attacking everyone around them constantly.
Well they are demonic vessels. They are of the serpent seed. The line of Cain. Cains father was not Adam... it was Satan. They're a different species. They don't have attributes of creativity...they can only copy and mimic just like Satan. They are not made in the image of God.The tares and the goats the Bible speaks of. Genesis 3:15
Exactly how would the average person define “evil”? It would probably go something along the lines of lack of empathy and care for others, intentional abuse and then coming back for more. To me, thats EVIL.
They come back to see if they can ‘possess’ you I.e. mesmerize and entrance you. After all it worked before. But eventually they’ll go for the jugular to bring it full circle. They don’t need a therapist, they need an exorcism.
This is so direct and spot on! I’ve seen them become the rage and want to kill! I’m lucky I have some training. I feel for those who do not know how to defend themselves. These people will suddenly attack and with full force as though they are possessed.
Even when you go back, they continue to play their games, have no appreciation. To me, it's like they don't want to let you go, but don't want to treat you right either.
The next vaccine, the next sweat cream, the next lipstick, the next pandemic, the next apocalypse scenario, that is what matters to them the most which just means the next disinfectant measure, the next supply.
They are clowns, move on. Let them destroy themselves and understand you have zero interest in their insidious destruction, I guess this is a valid point unless it is your choice to go down with them 👈🏻
I spent four months emotionally wrecked after seven years of relationship. I went from blaming myself 100% (thus believing her lies) to digging information out with former friends of hers, which made me truly understand how “evil” a narcissist can be. During this period, I found out about the personality disorder and went through several CZcamsrs. That brought answers to me that I craved more than anything. Anyway, after four to five months, I was doing much better. Still saddened to find out that all had been a farce, but I was once again productive and living my life well enough. What you should never do is to contact the narcissist once he or she is out of your life. Don’t go after answers or closure. And more importantly: do NOT lose hope in finding your life partner. Don’t think that you aren’t good enough or that people out there are all liars. Learn from what happened and move on. Don’t get stuck.
True, 4 months since my discard. It was a rough 4 months. It gets better, The fog will clear and you will know your worth/value. Anyone going through pain, I promise it gets better.. Thank you Joe, I appreciate your content.
Their thinking is flawed - that’s the personality disorder as they are completely delusional. How the tables eventually turn on them but only if you do the work. Know your worth. Love yourself. Move on. You win.
Its been 18 months since my brutal discard and its now just starting to get better. I had hit rock bottom when it happened. So its begining now to look up, which means its not completely good yet😅. Thank goodness im seeing what i am seeing now because it was gloomy and dark before❤
I’m 9 month NC and sometimes feel crazy trying to heal. It takes such a long time to heal. Thank you for the hope that things will feel better. Hope you get completely free ❤
I had to move during my 6th month of healing. It wasn't easy to work thru that fog, know I had to downsize, move to another apt down the street, it wasn't easy at all, but it helped. These videos have really helped.
TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU Joe, once moved on after 28yrs of ABUSE and discarded in the MOST BRUTAL WAY HE COULD, I was SHATTERED went to a shell of myself but once got back to living life (which took a long time) he tried to hoover but he got NO WHERE, I see him now for who he really is and feel SOOO SORRY for the lastest supply (there has been dozens of women in his life but he discards them too) he will NEVER EVER get back into my LIFE, he disgusts me he is a damaged sick individual,, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS.
I needed to hear this, after 35 yrs of this abuse, I have finally left him, divorcing. He is not living with me, but stalking me with camera's left fitted around the house outside. Why do they do that? As he knew he had to go because finally I said I am done! He still wants to spy on me. I feel so relieved that I don't have to put up with his daily criticisms and put downs and watched and controlling everything I do day in and out. I am so glad I have left him.
When you say that some people don’t recover from it, it scares me soo much.. **please God please, heal me from this pain I beg you I’m a good person and I never did anything bad like that to someone, please remove this from me 😔** 🙏🏼
That's when I knew he was crazy af...My own husband asked me to leave, move out and then a few months later, wants to meet and "talk" and did NOT want to file for divorce after I had ALREADY moved out bc he was having an affair and thought I didn't know. I think intuitive people always know. I think what he didn't expect was the no I absolutely will not meet you, I will not talk to you, I will block you and I will call my own attorney. I think he literally never thought that a Child of God would muster up the strength to leave. God watches over us and gives us that cold water in the face realization that they are truly evil. You are right... the trauma you start to get past and they want to see you. That's exactly when I knew I could no longer deal with this crazy any longer. Bless you! Your videos are like ASMR.
@@ladyvirgo9514AGREED. She claimed EVIL was in the hallway. Downstairs. Etc. Now that I know and I'm out of the Fog. She brought that EVIL into our house 😮..
Joes words “ They don’t do heart to heart talks”!! So, always DEMAND IT . They will cower and back down. Question them. Put on the emotional pressure. They will feel under attack and leave again. Perfect for toxic family members. Coincidentally is stalking.
6 months..I wish I had started feeling better after 6 months..it has been 5 years since the divorce. We were together for 20 years..I am a lot better but still struggle at times..
In spite of the grandiose persona of their false self, the introject inside the narcissist's mind constantly whispers they are worthless- perhaps the haunting echos of their childhood caregivers. They feel empty inside. The only way the narcissist can feel like "something" to feel "not-nothing" is to destroy those who are closest. The most potent supply seeps from wounds that they create in people who love them, who adore them. Though they can get weak-sauce supply by yelling at the server at a restaurant or customer support on the telephone. So, when they want a former supply back, it's not because they miss their former partner... it's because they need a human punching bag to make them feel like "not nothing" again.
That’s exactly what my ex narcissist was thinking she was going to do that to me but I been educating myself about that mental illness so as soon as that mut with glasses started being disrespectful I blocked and went no contact 3 years later I find out that nut job was stalking me the whole time you definitely gotta be off your rocker to be stalking someone that long knowing that the other person wants nothing to do with you!
I must be really weak because it took me 5 years to recover at 85%. I was suicidal after the discard even I have a strong caracter. This comment just to say to you that you don't include extreme trauma and hard recovery in your description but I'm not the only one at this scale of pain and healing time. I'm agree too I won't never totally recover. It's part of the healing path to accept it won't never be complete. It helps a lot. Please think of my remarks. Thanks for your content anyway.
Hi. I’m here to tell you that you will fully recover. As long as you stay away from them. And, put all the love, energy, and time you put into that person, into yourself. I was married over 30 years. It took me 9 years and plenty of therapy to recover. I did the work necessary to move forward. I worked on me. I no longer feel like I’m just existing. I’m living my best life. You will too.
Dear Joe, I feel like a narcissist after this video. A couple of days after leaving a hospital, I felt like I could change around a church so I contacted an ex and former clergy person to help in this pursuit just as friends and knowing we could never be anymore. I prayed today that I would have waited a week so I would never have done that. I do wish Jeff a good and satisfying life without me.
As long as you talk about them they will still have control over you. We are spiritual beings. Their spirit can still feel weather are not you have moved on or not. There is a spirit realm. It is like drugs. You have to will your will to stop thinking about the creepy clown. The mind has been programmed to obsess on them so it's a process to unlearn what those demons in them trained you to do. Be blessed. You're not a Narc.
I vowed to God last February that I would never contact Jeff DeFayette again and if I just waited a few days longer, I would not have on October 11, 2023 and ever again.
I disagree they have no empathy and there pure evil I don't care what you say experience is the teacher I'll never go back 8 months no contact no nothing I feel nothing for that demon 👿👿👿👿 I did the disguard no one should be treated that way
I have a question I hope you can answer. Does a narcissist always need at least one person to abuse? In my family I was the scapegoat. My dad was wonderful towards my sister. Now that I’m gone. I’m wondering is he a much better person when I’m not there? Also I have the same dynamic with my roommates. One of them is covert the other is overt. The overt one was awful until I decided we shouldn’t talk anymore. What happens when the person a Narc gets supply from leaves? They want more than attention. They want someone to feel control over and make them feel bad. How do they do that when they don’t have a scapegoat that they live with to hide the abuse?
I feel I was living in a gas chamber for six yrs inhaling these fumes that you go into a trance state n after two months my brain is coming online again ouchhhhhh
I was devaluing my ex as he said he could do this n fix that n nothing ever he said was true and I called him out on it all n I devalued him so he knew I wasn’t stupid n he was a master manipulator n sadly I got my face beaten and jaw dislocated n im still in shock that he went ballistic on my body! Not always being honest is a good thing n should have not said anything n just ran like forest gump
On e the narcissist realises you have moved on he tries to force you back into his life with all kinds of mandates, measures, needs for protection, etc.
Dear Joe, Sir, I feel like a total moron! Or actually I am. This guy Jeff has been hovering someone in MY CZcams account under my nickname Lu and after a minute of talking to him on the phone I said my last name and he told me to never call him again. Please tell me why someone would be communicating with someone else under my name and my CZcams account? And please pray for me. Thanks, Lu
In my experience, it's much more than a lack of empathy. They are genuinely sadistic bastards.
yeah, they use everything and taint your name for no reason. best to ignore and move on, real people know who you are. the rest are fake bastards.
They enjoy hurting people and plan it out from day 1 of the relationship (or even earlier). Their tactics are offensive, not defensive. They aren't protecting themselves, they are attacking everyone around them constantly.
Well they are demonic vessels. They are of the serpent seed. The line of Cain. Cains father was not Adam... it was Satan. They're a different species. They don't have attributes of creativity...they can only copy and mimic just like Satan. They are not made in the image of God.The tares and the goats the Bible speaks of. Genesis 3:15
Yup! 🙌🏻
Exactly how would the average person define “evil”? It would probably go something along the lines of lack of empathy and care for others, intentional abuse and then coming back for more. To me, thats EVIL.
They come back to see if they can ‘possess’ you I.e. mesmerize and entrance you. After all it worked before. But eventually they’ll go for the jugular to bring it full circle. They don’t need a therapist, they need an exorcism.
This!! Definitely Spiritual evil ❤
This is so direct and spot on! I’ve seen them become the rage and want to kill! I’m lucky I have some training. I feel for those who do not know how to defend themselves. These people will suddenly attack and with full force as though they are possessed.
Absolutely..dark entities..
You literally see the head swivel when you stop giving them what they really want from you.
Demons. This is how they know.
Even when you go back, they continue to play their games, have no appreciation. To me, it's like they don't want to let you go, but don't want to treat you right either.
The next vaccine, the next sweat cream, the next lipstick, the next pandemic, the next apocalypse scenario, that is what matters to them the most which just means the next disinfectant measure, the next supply.
Break the trauma bond break the mental and emotional link.
It comes across as evil, because it is. Come on man.
They are clowns, move on. Let them destroy themselves and understand you have zero interest in their insidious destruction, I guess this is a valid point unless it is your choice to go down with them 👈🏻
I spent four months emotionally wrecked after seven years of relationship. I went from blaming myself 100% (thus believing her lies) to digging information out with former friends of hers, which made me truly understand how “evil” a narcissist can be. During this period, I found out about the personality disorder and went through several CZcamsrs. That brought answers to me that I craved more than anything.
Anyway, after four to five months, I was doing much better. Still saddened to find out that all had been a farce, but I was once again productive and living my life well enough.
What you should never do is to contact the narcissist once he or she is out of your life. Don’t go after answers or closure. And more importantly: do NOT lose hope in finding your life partner. Don’t think that you aren’t good enough or that people out there are all liars. Learn from what happened and move on. Don’t get stuck.
No, my ex is evil. Plain and simple
Exactly 💯
True, 4 months since my discard. It was a rough 4 months. It gets better, The fog will clear and you will know your worth/value. Anyone going through pain, I promise it gets better..
Thank you Joe, I appreciate your content.
Definitely going through it now 😪 3 months
Their thinking is flawed - that’s the personality disorder as they are completely delusional. How the tables eventually turn on them but only if you do the work. Know your worth. Love yourself. Move on. You win.
Its been 18 months since my brutal discard and its now just starting to get better. I had hit rock bottom when it happened. So its begining now to look up, which means its not completely good yet😅. Thank goodness im seeing what i am seeing now because it was gloomy and dark before❤
I’m 9 month NC and sometimes feel crazy trying to heal. It takes such a long time to heal. Thank you for the hope that things will feel better. Hope you get completely free ❤
6 months for me and I've made little progress, I need this nightmare divorce behind me
@@ladyvirgo9514stay strong. We got this ❤❤
I had to move during my 6th month of healing. It wasn't easy to work thru that fog, know I had to downsize, move to another apt down the street, it wasn't easy at all, but it helped. These videos have really helped.
Did you get hoovered?
TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU
Joe, once moved on after 28yrs of ABUSE and discarded in the MOST BRUTAL WAY HE COULD, I was SHATTERED went to a shell of myself but once got back to living life (which took a long time) he tried to hoover but he got NO WHERE, I see him now for who he really is and feel SOOO SORRY for the lastest supply (there has been dozens of women in his life but he discards them too) he will NEVER EVER get back into my LIFE, he disgusts me he is a damaged sick individual,, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS.
I think that the lack of empathy is the very definition of evil.
Joe lack of empathy is evil.
They think they leave you on the floor crying 😢. Batshit crazy.
I’ve been watching your channel for a while now. And I want to thank you for the videos. It helped me a lot. Thank you 😇
This was helpful to me -- just to hear you speak from your own experience. Big -time resonance. Thanks!
I needed to hear this, after 35 yrs of this abuse, I have finally left him, divorcing.
He is not living with me, but stalking me with camera's left fitted around the house outside.
Why do they do that? As he knew he had to go because finally I said I am done! He still wants to spy on me.
I feel so relieved that I don't have to put up with his daily criticisms and put downs and watched and controlling everything I do day in and out.
I am so glad I have left him.
Narcs intensionally play a sick game. Matthew 1245
Your content is badly needed. Much appreciated
When you say that some people don’t recover from it, it scares me soo much.. **please God please, heal me from this pain I beg you I’m a good person and I never did anything bad like that to someone, please remove this from me 😔** 🙏🏼
You are on the right path. God will take your pain away. Guaranteed. God never fails.
That's when I knew he was crazy af...My own husband asked me to leave, move out and then a few months later, wants to meet and "talk" and did NOT want to file for divorce after I had ALREADY moved out bc he was having an affair and thought I didn't know. I think intuitive people always know. I think what he didn't expect was the no I absolutely will not meet you, I will not talk to you, I will block you and I will call my own attorney. I think he literally never thought that a Child of God would muster up the strength to leave. God watches over us and gives us that cold water in the face realization that they are truly evil. You are right... the trauma you start to get past and they want to see you. That's exactly when I knew I could no longer deal with this crazy any longer. Bless you! Your videos are like ASMR.
you called Narky's bluff Narky's bluff alot but their weak
Never again.😊
The definition of evil is “profoundly immoral and wicked”
Sounds like a narcissist to me!
but if that's not evil...what in the world IS
Exactly. He's way off on saying they aren't evil and just "utilizing maladaptive coping strategies" (bs psycho babble). They're pure evil. Monsters.
They are absolutely evil 😈 in fact often times they gain entity attachments. That comment from him through me off
@@ladyvirgo9514AGREED. She claimed EVIL was in the hallway. Downstairs. Etc. Now that I know and I'm out of the Fog. She brought that EVIL into our house 😮..
Demonic. Thus evil.
I like him, but some of the ways he downplays the actual evil,is unsettling.
Joes words “ They don’t do heart to heart talks”!! So, always DEMAND IT . They will cower and back down. Question them. Put on the emotional pressure. They will feel under attack and leave again. Perfect for toxic family members. Coincidentally is stalking.
6 months..I wish I had started feeling better after 6 months..it has been 5 years since the divorce. We were together for 20 years..I am a lot better but still struggle at times..
Thank You Joe 💯🙏
In spite of the grandiose persona of their false self, the introject inside the narcissist's mind constantly whispers they are worthless- perhaps the haunting echos of their childhood caregivers. They feel empty inside. The only way the narcissist can feel like "something" to feel "not-nothing" is to destroy those who are closest. The most potent supply seeps from wounds that they create in people who love them, who adore them. Though they can get weak-sauce supply by yelling at the server at a restaurant or customer support on the telephone. So, when they want a former supply back, it's not because they miss their former partner... it's because they need a human punching bag to make them feel like "not nothing" again.
That’s exactly what my ex narcissist was thinking she was going to do that to me but I been educating myself about that mental illness so as soon as that mut with glasses started being disrespectful I blocked and went no contact 3 years later I find out that nut job was stalking me the whole time you definitely gotta be off your rocker to be stalking someone that long knowing that the other person wants nothing to do with you!
Two videos !!! 😯Finally i having perfect Sunday ! 😊 Thank you Joe ! ❤🤗
I must be really weak because it took me 5 years to recover at 85%. I was suicidal after the discard even I have a strong caracter. This comment just to say to you that you don't include extreme trauma and hard recovery in your description but I'm not the only one at this scale of pain and healing time. I'm agree too I won't never totally recover. It's part of the healing path to accept it won't never be complete. It helps a lot. Please think of my remarks. Thanks for your content anyway.
Hi. I’m here to tell you that you will fully recover. As long as you stay away from them. And, put all the love, energy, and time you put into that person, into yourself. I was married over 30 years. It took me 9 years and plenty of therapy to recover. I did the work necessary to move forward. I worked on me. I no longer feel like I’m just existing. I’m living my best life. You will too.
Don't call yourself weak. You were duped scammed. Professional Narcopaths. SHAPESHIFTERS. CHAMELEONS.. Stay Strong. 🙏
Dear Joe,
I feel like a narcissist after this video.
A couple of days after leaving a hospital, I felt like I could change around a church so I contacted an ex and former clergy person to help in this pursuit just as friends and knowing we could never be anymore.
I prayed today that I would have waited a week so I would never have done that.
I do wish Jeff a good and satisfying life without me.
Yea. Don't entertain that. It's not worth it 😊
As long as you talk about them they will still have control over you. We are spiritual beings. Their spirit can still feel weather are not you have moved on or not. There is a spirit realm. It is like drugs. You have to will your will to stop thinking about the creepy clown. The mind has been programmed to obsess on them so it's a process to unlearn what those demons in them trained you to do. Be blessed. You're not a Narc.
What are you saying?
I vowed to God last February that I would never contact Jeff DeFayette again and if I just waited a few days longer, I would not have on October 11, 2023 and ever again.
You are very poor at expressing yourself.
I disagree they have no empathy and there pure evil I don't care what you say experience is the teacher I'll never go back 8 months no contact no nothing I feel nothing for that demon 👿👿👿👿 I did the disguard no one should be treated that way
Great video..
I have a question I hope you can answer. Does a narcissist always need at least one person to abuse? In my family I was the scapegoat. My dad was wonderful towards my sister. Now that I’m gone. I’m wondering is he a much better person when I’m not there? Also I have the same dynamic with my roommates. One of them is covert the other is overt. The overt one was awful until I decided we shouldn’t talk anymore. What happens when the person a Narc gets supply from leaves? They want more than attention. They want someone to feel control over and make them feel bad. How do they do that when they don’t have a scapegoat that they live with to hide the abuse?
Mine just called 2x no caller id while watching your video #checkmate
I feel I was living in a gas chamber for six yrs inhaling these fumes that you go into a trance state n after two months my brain is coming online again ouchhhhhh
How many people does the average narcissist hoover at any one time? Must be hundreds
😮😮😮
I was devaluing my ex as he said he could do this n fix that n nothing ever he said was true and I called him out on it all n I devalued him so he knew I wasn’t stupid n he was a master manipulator n sadly I got my face beaten and jaw dislocated n im still in shock that he went ballistic on my body! Not always being honest is a good thing n should have not said anything n just ran like forest gump
🙏💙
On e the narcissist realises you have moved on he tries to force you back into his life with all kinds of mandates, measures, needs for protection, etc.
Dear Joe, Sir,
I know you now have new material about me now but you don't know the circumstances
Dear Joe, Sir,
I feel like a total moron!
Or actually I am.
This guy Jeff has been hovering someone in MY CZcams account under my nickname Lu and after a minute of talking to him on the phone I said my last name and he told me to never call him again.
Please tell me why someone would be communicating with someone else under my name and my CZcams account?
And please pray for me.
Thanks,
Lu