In Northern Europe it is a norm to wear dark or black suit, black tie, white shirt, black shoes and minimal (if any) jewelry. Same goes with overcoats and gloves: all black. There are almost no exceptions and black suit is appropriate in every funeral
Same in Western Europe! Though when a friend of mine passed away, his family requested "colourful clothes, no black" which I think is beautiful in its own way
Here in Middle Europe (Austria) you better only wear a black tie if it's an immediate relative or you had a really close relationsship, otherwise some muted colour & pattern but not black. Rather skip the tie than wearing a black one if you don't belong to the inner circle. However, in this day and age, with a dark suit + white shirt you're probably far better dressed than 95% of the mourners.
One detail you forgot is in Sweden if you’re a man and you’re related to the deceased or a close friend you wear the same thing as you said but with a white tie instead of a black one.
My father was a funeral director for 40+ years and my brother has taken over the family business. You would be HORRIFIED to know what people actually wear to funerals, as opposed to Hollywood funerals ☠️
I recently attended the funeral of the father of a very close friend of proud Scottish heritage. I wore a dark grey suit, black shirt & tie in the design of my clan's tartan. I was complimented for my attire by several people & was also praised by the funeral director for respecting the deceased's heritage by wearing the tie. I went home feeling both good & bad.
I wouldn’t feel bad at all. You went out of your way to honor the deceased in a way that commemorated something important to them. That shows your level of respect for the deceased and their family.
@@GarrettCroslin Thanks for your words of support. I felt bad not only because I will miss him (he was a great influence on me during my formative years) but bad because of how hard my friend was taking the loss. But I get what you mean. To be honest, I wanted to wear a kilt (of my clan's design) but I had to go straight from work & may never have lived it down... 🙂
Well in contrast, here in India, Wearing Tie at a funeral is not much appropriate. Black/Charcoal suit with an open white shirt is considered Better here.
I think the most important point is: it’s not all about you. Don’t dress or act in a way that draws attention to yourself. You are not the reason for the occasion. Show some respect for others. That applies to funerals. And pretty much every other occasion.
Well said, and the very reason quite some of the comments here saying that "they will always wear a dark suit" regardless of the families' or dearly departed wishes rub me the wrong way. If it's more important to impose one's own sense of "style" and "etiquette" over the person's they are supposed to pay their respects too, I agree that those people should rather stay home and work on their attitude.
@@KomradeKrusher Yeah. My personal style is somewhat dandy, but if the invitation says "dark suit", I'm wearing a boring plain black suit with a black necktie as that's the norm in my country. However, if the invitation specifically advices against black or even suits, I'm going to respect that. In any case, my aim is to blend in (for once). It's not a place for my personal style to shine.
Although the "rules" have relaxed remarkably in recent years, from a European, or at least Swedish, perspective, a dark suit, black shoes and tie (white tie for close family) have been the norm. It seems to be quite different in the US, where men more often show up in their regular business attire. For example, compare the funerals of President George H.W. Bush and Queen Elizabeth. Setting aside the fact that the latter was a royal funeral and called for somewhat different options (morning dress, uniforms, etc.), many men wore very dark lounge suits with black ties.
My wife’s family “Breeds like rabbits and die like rabbits”. So having to attend multiple services a year it’s just easier to keep them in the closet Wake: Grey trousers, black sportcoat, shirt with buttons Funeral: Black suit (get the matching vest in case it’s a winter service), black shoes.
Your information is good BUT if anyone makes plan of his own funeral or memorial service, he make requests out of black or mourning colors, the people would wear what he requests to celebrate a life instead of grieving. I alway respect what decision he make before what happens to him.
Recently 2 of my aunts has passed away. specifically, I’m gonna talk about the 1st aunt that passed away. this was at a summer. sure I was prepared what to wear at the funeral in Nogales, Mexico. I wore my black sports jacket, with a white dress shirt, black necktie with black chinos. & black penny loafers. not to mention, I wear my white pocket square. almost everyone at the funeral the majority of them was wearing too casual clothing & none of them were wearing suits. I was pretty much the only one very well dress to say the least. I mean sure you can wear whatever you want in these days, but you had to keep the funeral dress code in mine.
If the deceased relatives wear casual clothing that's OK by me. However, I will always wear a dark siut, dark shoes and muted tie on such occasions out of self respect as much as the deceased. If the family wants me to dress in costume or inappropriate clothing I will not go to the funeral. If the family wants to make a circus out of the event that would be unfortunate, but I would have to excuse myself from partaking in such a spectacle.
To be honest, it doesn't always have to be out of disrespect. Some people believe funerals are meant to celebrate the deceased's life. If the deceased was an eccentric and loved bright colors, would dressing in bright colors not actually be more respectful for them?
Gentlemens Gazette, interesting topic. Recently I went to a funeral of a niece's, Fiancée's sister. And the deceased persons family was wearing baseball attire of her favorite team. Since she was a big fan. My family wore suits and dresses though. The deceased brother wore a suit too. Nobody told us how to dress so guests came how they wished. Most were in hoodies and blue jeans. There was not even a priest since the family was not religious. The deceased husband was in front speaking for a few minutes. All ok with me. Thanks for the upload.
GG, I appreciate you making a video about this subject. But on the other hand, I’m shocked that enough people really don’t know these things that you felt you had to do it. Unfortunately in my life, I’ve gone to more funerals than I can count starting at 5 years old.
Our team agreed that since we wrote our initial piece on funeral etiquette several years ago, what is required or accepted as funeral attire has changed. So this video is more about providing guidance in our modern-day world where there are fewer steadfast rules than there used to be.
This video couldn’t have come in a better timing. So my first cousin was assassinated in lebanon and we’re doing a mass this sunday for his soul in the us. I will be wearing a charcoal suit and a black tie but it’s super cold so i will be wearing a gray scarf. Also Should i wear a navy peacoat or a tan overcoat ?
I´m afraid you missed to tell us what to wear at our own funeral. However i think i´m going with a nice walnut coffin with dark metal grips and maybe a bunch of flowers.
I'm glad that the first point was what it was. Still, too many comments here put their own expectations first and even above the hosts' or the dearly departed's themselves.
I remember going to my grandfather’s funeral, wearing a grey suit. I had it draped over a black coat. But now that I know how to pick a proper color for funerals, I feel disgusted in myself. But I’ll improve, just for him
More often than not, I am wearing black to a funeral, and I am totally OK with that. I pull off a black suit with reasonable style in my regular rotation with no issues, so I have no problem wearing the normative expected color, appropriately accessorized as you suggest, at a funeral service. If I wear charcoal to your funeral, I probably didn’t like you very much. Regardless, thanks for this useful video.
Hello. I think at 2:39 one of the few people who could make that whole outfit look good would be Hugo Weaving, but even he, remembering rule #3, “No Distracting Attire” would probably take off the sunglasses at the funeral itself. 🙂😎😇
At my younger sister's funeral, as I had no good clothing/ was very depressed, I was wearing all black. And I wore cargo pants for lack of better black pants
Maybe it is only for me, but i have taken notice of the crew's video editing becoming more and more satisfactory or nicer. That's about it. I hope you keep on going, and have a very enjoyable, restful and most importantly...a day which satisfies you!
Enjoy would be an understatement! Of course, i shouldn't leave out the nice camera work, the dedication and most importantly, the elegancy in every angle of the channel.
Soo it’s going to be 100° at the funeral so a black blazer is a no go!!. And a white t shirt with black pants doesn’t look like I’m mourning. Any ideas?
I just discovered my black suit/jacket is damaged and I don't know whatever happened to my black cable crew neck? So I'm going to substitute a charcoal suit/jacket to pair with the rest of my funeral attire. I just don't think Navy is suitable for the occasion though I'm not proud of the contrast. Honestly most people where I live don't adhere to etiquette BUT that's not my concern. I understand the rules and want to show my respect.
It shocks me how often I see people come to funerals dressed inappropriately. I can understand if you learn about a funeral or wake the day before or on the day of and you may not have a suit ready. But that’s not an excuse to wear jeans and a T-Shirt. A dark color sweater, matching trousers and a dress shirt would be far more acceptable. These days I try to wear a black suit and dark color tie. But considering how casually people now tend to show up to funerals, I don’t think a charcoal or even Navy suit with a black or similarly dark tie is acceptable. At the very least I know that I won’t be the worst dressed if I stick with one of those suits.
I'm no fashion expert, but I'd say the gold/bronze buttons would be too flashy. Perhaps with the exception of it being a formal military outfit at a funeral of another military member.
I've enjoyed and appreciated the Gentleman's Gazette for many years. Unfortunately, I do not care for this newer member's speaking voice. It is too quiet, raspy, and lacks diaphragmic support and basic articulation. He sounds like he is speaking to 4th graders in the back of a library. He is informative and tasteful but he needs to take vocal diction and speaking lessons or at least be coached professionally. If he is going to continue to represent the Gentleman's Gazzett professionally he should get the needed vocal coaching or recuse himself from the lineup.
In Northern Europe it is a norm to wear dark or black suit, black tie, white shirt, black shoes and minimal (if any) jewelry. Same goes with overcoats and gloves: all black. There are almost no exceptions and black suit is appropriate in every funeral
Same in Western Europe! Though when a friend of mine passed away, his family requested "colourful clothes, no black" which I think is beautiful in its own way
Here in Middle Europe (Austria) you better only wear a black tie if it's an immediate relative or you had a really close relationsship, otherwise some muted colour & pattern but not black. Rather skip the tie than wearing a black one if you don't belong to the inner circle.
However, in this day and age, with a dark suit + white shirt you're probably far better dressed than 95% of the mourners.
One detail you forgot is in Sweden if you’re a man and you’re related to the deceased or a close friend you wear the same thing as you said but with a white tie instead of a black one.
I think cufflinks are always an acceptable funeralwear accessory - assuming they're subdued.
If they have the money to invest in an outfit they're going to to wear once every few years at most than good for them I guess
My father was a funeral director for 40+ years and my brother has taken over the family business. You would be HORRIFIED to know what people actually wear to funerals, as opposed to Hollywood funerals ☠️
I recently attended the funeral of the father of a very close friend of proud Scottish heritage.
I wore a dark grey suit, black shirt & tie in the design of my clan's tartan.
I was complimented for my attire by several people & was also praised by the funeral director for respecting the deceased's heritage by wearing the tie.
I went home feeling both good & bad.
I wouldn’t feel bad at all. You went out of your way to honor the deceased in a way that commemorated something important to them. That shows your level of respect for the deceased and their family.
@@GarrettCroslin Thanks for your words of support. I felt bad not only because I will miss him (he was a great influence on me during my formative years) but bad because of how hard my friend was taking the loss. But I get what you mean.
To be honest, I wanted to wear a kilt (of my clan's design) but I had to go straight from work & may never have lived it down... 🙂
Well in contrast, here in India, Wearing Tie at a funeral is not much appropriate. Black/Charcoal suit with an open white shirt is considered Better here.
Black suit. Black tie. Black shoes. Done.
And if you're me, black vest.
White shirt, you're not John wick.
Your etiquette videos are always informative.
I think the most important point is: it’s not all about you.
Don’t dress or act in a way that draws attention to yourself. You are not the reason for the occasion. Show some respect for others.
That applies to funerals. And pretty much every other occasion.
Well said, and the very reason quite some of the comments here saying that "they will always wear a dark suit" regardless of the families' or dearly departed wishes rub me the wrong way. If it's more important to impose one's own sense of "style" and "etiquette" over the person's they are supposed to pay their respects too, I agree that those people should rather stay home and work on their attitude.
@@KomradeKrusher Yeah. My personal style is somewhat dandy, but if the invitation says "dark suit", I'm wearing a boring plain black suit with a black necktie as that's the norm in my country. However, if the invitation specifically advices against black or even suits, I'm going to respect that. In any case, my aim is to blend in (for once). It's not a place for my personal style to shine.
Preach!
A dear friend of mine passe away recently and the family specific asked for us not to wear Black! So we wore discrete, neutral colors
my condolences, maybe a navy blue would be appropriate?
I disagree with this one. For a funeral, a dark suit, black shoes and tie, and no jewellery or decoration.
Although the "rules" have relaxed remarkably in recent years, from a European, or at least Swedish, perspective, a dark suit, black shoes and tie (white tie for close family) have been the norm. It seems to be quite different in the US, where men more often show up in their regular business attire. For example, compare the funerals of President George H.W. Bush and Queen Elizabeth. Setting aside the fact that the latter was a royal funeral and called for somewhat different options (morning dress, uniforms, etc.), many men wore very dark lounge suits with black ties.
My wife’s family “Breeds like rabbits and die like rabbits”. So having to attend multiple services a year it’s just easier to keep them in the closet
Wake: Grey trousers, black sportcoat, shirt with buttons
Funeral: Black suit (get the matching vest in case it’s a winter service), black shoes.
Your information is good BUT if anyone makes plan of his own funeral or memorial service, he make requests out of black or mourning colors, the people would wear what he requests to celebrate a life instead of grieving. I alway respect what decision he make before what happens to him.
Recently 2 of my aunts has passed away. specifically, I’m gonna talk about the 1st aunt that passed away. this was at a summer. sure I was prepared what to wear at the funeral in Nogales, Mexico. I wore my black sports jacket, with a white dress shirt, black necktie with black chinos. & black penny loafers. not to mention, I wear my white pocket square. almost everyone at the funeral the majority of them was wearing too casual clothing & none of them were wearing suits. I was pretty much the only one very well dress to say the least. I mean sure you can wear whatever you want in these days, but you had to keep the funeral dress code in mine.
If the deceased relatives wear casual clothing that's OK by me. However, I will always wear a dark siut, dark shoes and muted tie on such occasions out of self respect as much as the deceased. If the family wants me to dress in costume or inappropriate clothing I will not go to the funeral. If the family wants to make a circus out of the event that would be unfortunate, but I would have to excuse myself from partaking in such a spectacle.
It all depends how close was your relationship with the deceased.
To be honest, it doesn't always have to be out of disrespect. Some people believe funerals are meant to celebrate the deceased's life. If the deceased was an eccentric and loved bright colors, would dressing in bright colors not actually be more respectful for them?
Gentlemens Gazette, interesting topic. Recently I went to a funeral of a niece's, Fiancée's sister. And the deceased persons family was wearing baseball attire of her favorite team. Since she was a big fan. My family wore suits and dresses though. The deceased brother wore a suit too. Nobody told us how to dress so guests came how they wished. Most were in hoodies and blue jeans. There was not even a priest since the family was not religious. The deceased husband was in front speaking for a few minutes. All ok with me. Thanks for the upload.
start a blog man
@@rogerr.8507shame on you
The deceased husband? A little additional punctuation needed!
GG, I appreciate you making a video about this subject. But on the other hand, I’m shocked that enough people really don’t know these things that you felt you had to do it. Unfortunately in my life, I’ve gone to more funerals than I can count starting at 5 years old.
Our team agreed that since we wrote our initial piece on funeral etiquette several years ago, what is required or accepted as funeral attire has changed. So this video is more about providing guidance in our modern-day world where there are fewer steadfast rules than there used to be.
@@gentlemansgazettewhere can I buy a suit that's less than $45 in Indianapolis?
1. The skin of the deceased
What if you are the deceased?
It rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.
Bit what a rush, ayy?
2. Wearing the intestines of said deceased as a scarf
@pommezul - word of advice- if your going to piggy back off someone else’s joke, It better be at least twice as funny…
That wasn’t 🤦♂️
This video couldn’t have come in a better timing. So my first cousin was assassinated in lebanon and we’re doing a mass this sunday for his soul in the us. I will be wearing a charcoal suit and a black tie but it’s super cold so i will be wearing a gray scarf. Also Should i wear a navy peacoat or a tan overcoat ?
I might opt for the Navy coat
Avoid tan.
Navy 100%, tan is too loud and bold
I´m afraid you missed to tell us what to wear at our own funeral. However i think i´m going with a nice walnut coffin with dark metal grips and maybe a bunch of flowers.
Suit of armor. If an evil wizard needs a skeleton army I want to be prepared
LOL
Swimming trunks I'm being buried at sea
Personally I'm wearing a stark white suit so I'll fit in with the Angels.
A Black suit with a black tie and black shoes are appropiate
I'm glad that the first point was what it was. Still, too many comments here put their own expectations first and even above the hosts' or the dearly departed's themselves.
That’s what I’m noticing in these comments: people putting themselves, first.
This is a very timely presentation , as it seems social norms are shifting with regard to funerals and appropriate attire. Thank you!
Great video! I agree on all points! 👍
I remember going to my grandfather’s funeral, wearing a grey suit. I had it draped over a black coat. But now that I know how to pick a proper color for funerals, I feel disgusted in myself. But I’ll improve, just for him
I love this channel. All the men here are maintained and clean, handsome and well spoken. Watching this channel is like a breath of fresh air.
More often than not, I am wearing black to a funeral, and I am totally OK with that. I pull off a black suit with reasonable style in my regular rotation with no issues, so I have no problem wearing the normative expected color, appropriately accessorized as you suggest, at a funeral service. If I wear charcoal to your funeral, I probably didn’t like you very much. Regardless, thanks for this useful video.
I only have a navy blazer and charcoal trousers. Is this appropriate
To go is better than not, please don’t burn anyone.
Hello.
I think at 2:39 one of the few people who could make that whole outfit look good would be Hugo Weaving, but even he, remembering rule #3, “No Distracting Attire” would probably take off the sunglasses at the funeral itself. 🙂😎😇
At my younger sister's funeral, as I had no good clothing/ was very depressed, I was wearing all black. And I wore cargo pants for lack of better black pants
Maybe it is only for me, but i have taken notice of the crew's video editing becoming more and more satisfactory or nicer. That's about it. I hope you keep on going, and have a very enjoyable, restful and most importantly...a day which satisfies you!
Thank you! Glad to hear you're enjoying our video editor's work 🙌
Enjoy would be an understatement! Of course, i shouldn't leave out the nice camera work, the dedication and most importantly, the elegancy in every angle of the channel.
Soo it’s going to be 100° at the funeral so a black blazer is a no go!!. And a white t shirt with black pants doesn’t look like I’m mourning. Any ideas?
Could you all do a video on dressing for day to day life for blue collar workers, such as tradesmen, through out the years.
What about dark grey trousers, a white Kent-Collar Shirt, Black Tie and Black Leather jacket?
here in Hungary, they also appear in plumber bridle pants and polo shirts. 😂
I just discovered my black suit/jacket is damaged and I don't know whatever happened to my black cable crew neck? So I'm going to substitute a charcoal suit/jacket to pair with the rest of my funeral attire. I just don't think Navy is suitable for the occasion though I'm not proud of the contrast. Honestly most people where I live don't adhere to etiquette BUT that's not my concern. I understand the rules and want to show my respect.
That this video was deemed necessary is not surprising. Western Society has taken a hard shift to the casual.
Castrol jacket
I think black, navy, grey, dark purple. No pastels or bolds and youre good. Black is appropriate
Is wearing a pocket square with your suit appropriate while attending a funeral? How about one spray of cologne?
Are you trying to tell me something? (Indeed Winter often sees a peak of funerals.)
The perfect person to narriate this videos topic 😂😅
It shocks me how often I see people come to funerals dressed inappropriately. I can understand if you learn about a funeral or wake the day before or on the day of and you may not have a suit ready. But that’s not an excuse to wear jeans and a T-Shirt. A dark color sweater, matching trousers and a dress shirt would be far more acceptable. These days I try to wear a black suit and dark color tie. But considering how casually people now tend to show up to funerals, I don’t think a charcoal or even Navy suit with a black or similarly dark tie is acceptable. At the very least I know that I won’t be the worst dressed if I stick with one of those suits.
Gonna say everyone who shows up to my funeral is required to dress as a clown.
Morning suit for mourning
10 - A Batman costume
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But he is wearing black.....
People don't obey funeral clothing rules anymore. Ive seen people come to a funeral, dress like they're going to the club!
Only a black suit is appropriate.
Black is not a colour. It’s the absance of colour.
Appearing EXACTLY like the deceased!
What about navy blazers with gold/bronze buttons at a viewing/visitation?
I'm no fashion expert, but I'd say the gold/bronze buttons would be too flashy.
Perhaps with the exception of it being a formal military outfit at a funeral of another military member.
@@PocketsandOutlawAgree
Why you release this at my grandads funeral?
It's just for you
No ill will is intended - we're sorry to hear of your grandad's passing.
I've enjoyed and appreciated the Gentleman's Gazette for many years. Unfortunately, I do not care for this newer member's speaking voice. It is too quiet, raspy, and lacks diaphragmic support and basic articulation. He sounds like he is speaking to 4th graders in the back of a library. He is informative and tasteful but he needs to take vocal diction and speaking lessons or at least be coached professionally. If he is going to continue to represent the Gentleman's Gazzett professionally he should get the needed vocal coaching or recuse himself from the lineup.
Hi there, Kyle has been with us since 2019. Glad to hear you enjoy the GG.
I only wear black clothing.
In my opinion - pocket squares (even white in tv fold) and ties with dimple are also distracting and therefore not recommended
I get the pocket square but avoiding the dimple in the tie? Come on, now.
braindead comment
I don't agree with you on this notion that if you wear baggy clothes and leaves a bad thing