Schema Mode Therapy: The Detached Protector

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  • čas přidán 12. 09. 2020
  • The "Detached Protector" is a flight schema mode that is activated in stressful situations in some people. When this mode is activated we may disengage from what is happening and this may even result in dissociation.
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Komentáře • 48

  • @kevintwomey4884
    @kevintwomey4884 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Brilliant.. watched a few times. Very helpful. Thanks.

  • @stuartross4540
    @stuartross4540 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you. This is me, so I've been looking forward to this video from you. It was very helpful.

  • @rahala89
    @rahala89 Před 3 lety

    An incredibly useful, well-presented video. Thank you so much!

  • @matthewireland4483
    @matthewireland4483 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks Jess. A clear and interesting presentation.

  • @lifewithavpd
    @lifewithavpd Před 3 lety +9

    I’ve just been stuck in it for four years. Never stops, and if I start to on occasion feel it vanishes in seconds. Really sick of it. I did use avoidant protector before though, like always, and I was constantly being triggered (abandonment fears, anger, shame/humiliation, loss/grief). I’m going to check your trauma series!

  • @rpmsol1
    @rpmsol1 Před 3 lety +1

    Great video thanks!! It’s really valuable, especially in combination with your other videos, especially for people like me who are reading as much as possible on the subject.
    Thanks!

  • @richardactor
    @richardactor Před 3 lety +1

    Great Videos--thanks for all of your hard work on these.

  • @familiarpsychcollection_dr3675

    your videos are so sweet & great , you are best teacher of schema therapy i,ve ever seen , thanks jessica

  • @yannisgoumas6604
    @yannisgoumas6604 Před 3 lety +1

    great video, very well explained, thanks from greece!

  • @zenafied
    @zenafied Před 11 měsíci +3

    I am in this mode 24/7 for years 😔 Occasionally anxiety

    • @thePSYCHcollective
      @thePSYCHcollective  Před 11 měsíci +1

      Sorry to hear. It might be worth exploring schema therapy?

  • @ralfwashington1502
    @ralfwashington1502 Před 3 lety +1

    Awesome video THANKS! I knew DID didn't fit but this is more helpful

  • @ralfwashington1502
    @ralfwashington1502 Před 3 lety +9

    Does anyone feel a shiver go through them during this. Almost like a cold shiver starting close to your body then down your limbs?

  • @vladislavmalinovsky5111
    @vladislavmalinovsky5111 Před rokem +1

    this reminds me of the description of derealization/depersonalization

  • @liammurphy2755
    @liammurphy2755 Před 3 lety

    Thank you jess really clear presentation of such a complex subject looking forward to watching all your videos.

  • @nataliehalford8096
    @nataliehalford8096 Před 2 lety +1

    this is excellent

  • @jamygarcia9566
    @jamygarcia9566 Před 3 lety +2

    interesting observation. Overarchingly, dissociation is not a choice. But now that I know I do it, I recognize that "it" is quite nice feeling, a little compelling/interesting. So I can shift my consiousness in that direction. But specific help HOW| to bring myself out would be great

  • @andremartinsferreira1699

    Thank you so much for this. Your content has brought light to a problem I've just found out I have. Like you said, I was detaching and not even noticing it. I'll take this to my schema therapist so we can work on it

  • @justletmesigninokthx
    @justletmesigninokthx Před 2 lety

    Nice one

  • @shashikanth797
    @shashikanth797 Před 3 lety

    Thank you very much..great video. Could you please do a video on insula

  • @someguy7842
    @someguy7842 Před 2 lety +5

    i am so fucked

  • @attheranch4876
    @attheranch4876 Před 2 lety +1

    It would be nice to be able to slow this down.

  • @marisamason9375
    @marisamason9375 Před 2 lety

    I feel like just listening to this video is golf. To change my life now I’m diagnosed with ptsd adhd & borderline but nothing I’ve learnt read audiobooked has reached out to me like this in a way that you literally are saying all my symptoms that have been said to be all these other things x it’s a light bulb money for me a lot has just fixed into place like a jigsaw you have just tel me me x thank you I’m so careful if there’s any way I can get more on all this please reply can’t thank yous enough ♥️

  • @Mmonika5
    @Mmonika5 Před 2 lety +1

    Great video but how to turn this mode off? Once it activates I get stuck in it for days and weeks .

  • @mr.anindyabanerjee9905

    'Emotional Inhibition Schema'.... Ma'am, could you please highlight upon framing of Socratic questions for guided discovery of this specific schema mode in patients??

  • @jeffaxel181
    @jeffaxel181 Před rokem +1

    You mentioned a video in your Trauma series you were going to make. It sounded like you were saying 'Insular.' I can't find that video though.

  • @sashasanti4771
    @sashasanti4771 Před 2 lety +1

    what is the difference between detached protector and detached self soother? they kinda sound the same

  • @Eli.83
    @Eli.83 Před 17 dny

    2:32 I gotta rewatch the video lol.

  • @superlasse2468
    @superlasse2468 Před rokem

    How do I fix it?

  • @Troy-ol5fk
    @Troy-ol5fk Před měsícem

    I do a lot of push and pull

  • @thevoid6756
    @thevoid6756 Před rokem

    there is a new feature on youtube that adds a banner on videos from licensed medical professionals to add credibility to the source. I seems to work retroactively as well. Might be worth looking into for your channel.

  • @carissarea6442
    @carissarea6442 Před 2 lety

    What if this is just a portion of my distinctions mind and thoughts? I can’t afford a therapist.

  • @juyoki
    @juyoki Před 3 lety +3

    Would you say that there is a correlation between the frequencies of Detached and Avoidant Protectors? That a person exhibiting one schema is more likely to be using the other one? Or perhaps that Detached Protector is a precursor to Avoidant, like a first line of defense? i.e. "I relied in Detached Protector for a year, it didn't solve my problems, but I've recognized my need for protection, so I'm going to turn the dial up to Avoidant Protector"

    • @thePSYCHcollective
      @thePSYCHcollective  Před 3 lety +5

      Yep, lots of people will use both. Sometimes you’ll be forced to attend something, so if you can’t physically avoid, then you’ll psychologically detach.

    • @epiphanychild3289
      @epiphanychild3289 Před 3 lety +1

      I relied on avoidant protector for a while and then strangely moved on to detached protector. This mode is so great cause I don't feel at all and can work pretty well

  • @sreelakshmi_viswam
    @sreelakshmi_viswam Před 2 lety +2

    This is me

  • @dkdawe1
    @dkdawe1 Před rokem

    I completely resonate with this! How do I find out more?

  • @easternhealingarts33
    @easternhealingarts33 Před rokem

    ~~~ I have seen a lot of street pups struggling with this mode and the "men" I call it the Santa Clause Effect~~~

  • @peterdeneke8401
    @peterdeneke8401 Před 2 lety +1

    If a person has fear of marriage and sexual intimacy is this the detached protector mode

  • @borissmalov5085
    @borissmalov5085 Před 3 lety

    ah yes my therapist kim wexler

  • @R3bel02
    @R3bel02 Před rokem

    2 minutes after laughing at the loosing the conversation joke I totally zoned out ...

  • @Tesseract9630
    @Tesseract9630 Před 3 lety +1

    I don't know what this lady is talking about.