Survived Stage 2 Breast Cancer, but My Husband Abandoned Me for Having a Double Mastectomy. A...
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- Survived Stage 2 Breast Cancer, but My Husband Abandoned Me for Having a Double Mastectomy. A Decade Later, He Showed Up as I Was About to Remarry.
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Ok so this guy went through the entire process of helping his wife deal with cancer. He loved this person deeply and cherished their relationship together. But the second his wife decided to remove her breasts to stop her chances of getting cancer again, this guy was like, “Aight ima head out.”
Like wtf?
Did you seriously base the whole core of who she was on tit flesh?
Just awful.
Sad, isn't it. You would think after all that he would grow to love her more because of the journey they took together. Yes, it was her fight the whole time, but he was in her corner ready to tap in when she needed him. You would think after seeing her go through all this, he would come out seeing her as a warrior against cancer. Instead, he started thinking with his cock.
Ruined a good thing and then had the nerve to come crawling back.
Whether the patient is a man or woman, this is just horrible overall.
Cancer is such a terrible thing, and to throw it all away over boobs?! The dude had the jackpot! He had it all! Then he threw her away.
The thing that gets me is that he saw her as a "man" JUST for the lack of breasts. What? Did he want her to live knowing cancer is looming around the corner? Did he want her to chance suffering again JUST so she could have boobs? Are breasts the only thing that makes a woman to him? Idiot. Moron. Ignoramus!
I'm glad he left and that she had a chance to bloom after her long fought battle. He didn't deserve her.
How most guys think all tits ( ass is superior) anyways don’t leave someone because they changed physical
Or it's a fake story and people are so gullible these days that if someone took the time to write it, it means it's true.
If the logic don't work (someone giving is time to someone else and when 1 things doesn't work diasapear) I'm ready to put money behind a lot of infirmations is hidden from us or a lot have been added and make the action unlogical from any stand point.
I have heard some people (men and women) have a hard time to mentally grasp such a drastic and sudden change to something that has been so consistent in their lives, from breasts, to lypo, to even a beard.... it is like their mind record the person as someone else.
But there are ways to gain acceptance, and in this case, breast implants would be considered a medical and not cosmetic surgery... yet the husband never offered that option.
@@Maninawig One of the reason why I don't believe this story. He takes time to help her but when all you have to do is getr 10k so your wife can have her selfworth back (Most women have problem with losing anything feminine in quality)
So a man ready to put time (lot more valuable then money) but not money and gtfo when you already knew when you starteed to help where it could go? I call bs on the whole story.
these kind of people, abandoning people when at their lowest and crawling back when they found someone else
This story is probably fake but let's pretend it's real. What did OP expect? she dated trash.
I remember that my aunt was once talking about a woman she knew who had one breast removed due to cancer. My always so caring father said, "I wonder how her husband feels." My aunt turned the air blue with what she said to him. I think having a live spouse is more important than the husband having fun bags to play with.
every day i question the male species. why do they only care ab womens bodies
@@dollsitenot all men like that
Honestly I also think that is a good question. Why do people think that all men can only think or ask about is sex or something related to it…
@@dars7657 those people are sick
And this is why one should NEVER give cheaters a second chance, let alone all those chances OP gave him.
Sounds like the mastectomy saved her from two c--cers instead of one... no offense to the tumor.
Don’t understand why cancer needs to be censored
@@zayanmehdi1747 Because youtube deletes my comments for any reason, so I'm not taking risks.
@@zayanmehdi1747 youtube is weird and likes to remove comments for possible "insulting" words. i've had tons of my own comments removed because of typical words previously :')
@@ayumiya4359 world’s become too soft
@@zayanmehdi1747 haha yeah, its a pain to deal with
you know it’s AI when it takes fifteen minutes to get to the fcking point
and that op was a married home owning d1 athlete like straight out of high school and was also the main breadwinner
@@aplaszcit wasn't by choice. The AH ex seemed like a mooch.
Plus I have ADHD and waffle about when I tell a story. Plus she was painting a picture of who this POS was and his character.
I had a POS Uncle who pulled the same move. Except it was worse because he also abandoned his kids.
... He came back when they were adults and had inherited money from my Aunt when she passed.
He is a black sheep and nobody talks to him.
Plus what do you want? A bullet point presentation from A-Z with ZERO context??? People get raked over the coals for that sh×t on Reddit.
And how boring of a story would that be to read?? It would get 0 traction or advice as it would read too robotic. 💀✋🏻 Like find an ACTUAL reason to hate.
I’m mad at him, his parents, her mother, everything. Cause why are they going to tell her all this before the wedding? What does it matter what he has to say? He was gone for 10 years, she has moved on, and on what is supposed to be the happiest day of her life they decide to ruin it with this? (edit) And basically he didn’t even really say anything, but tried to dangle “closure” in front of her on her wedding day and even the email she receives later is him trying to justify ghosting her for 10 years? Omg, if she don’t make that man wait 10 years only to send him “k”! 🤦🏽♀️
If I was the Mom I'd have told Ex-MIL "Congrats on knowing he isn't in the grave. Now let us focus on what is actually important and not garbage that is only here because it is jealous."
exactly i thought that was so weird.. why make the bride cry right before she gets married like dawg you could’ve discussed that w her later, or never
Did the mother in law know the whole time where he was and doing that's why she picked that day to tell her. Just in case her son might want to g e t back with OP
Sounds like he was trying to play mind games. She was right to block him.
She didn't need closure, Chris needed it and absolution and she rightly knew not to give it to him.
When I realized this was an AI story, my eyes widened in shock and I was taken aback
The weight of the words must have hit you hard, the tension in the air so palpable 😂
@@Captwholesome It was the last straw for my evil SIL, who demanded I give up my inheritance from my dead mother to my golden child stepbrother
@@Captwholesome The tension was cut when my evil SIL forced me to give up my inheritance from my late mom to my golden child stepbrother
Someone should've motioned you to sit down while wearing a somber expression😞😞
Did you feel your heart racing in your chest as the realization sunk in?
alright but can we talk about the absolute outrageous and entitled way of thinking some people have? like, my guy seriously though he had any right to be upset about her choice of eliminating any chances of CANCER coming back?? wow some individual really think the world is about their wants and desires. not to mention that probably wasn't lovely for her because she literally lost a part of her body, shit isn't easy to deal with, let alone cancer as well.
I knew of a guy who refuses to have children any other way than the natural way. His current partner carries the BRCA gene. Doing it naturally means risking his future daughters also carrying the gene, and subsequently having the extreme high risk of cancer. (His partner's mother died of ovarian cancer at a young age) Some people are just insane.
@@Ainiewainy all of the children might be in risk of it, male's can develop breast cancer as well. Even if it was rare, I imagine if one parent has the gene then the children would have a higher risk of having cancer regardless of their gender.
But, but her boobs were his, not hers! She took away his toys.
All so that she wanted to live?! Whatever!!🙄
"My/his/her eyes widened in shock"
This one is my go-to template to decide if a story was fake or not.
Lmao, whenever the story goes into detail anout every little thing it's fake as hell and likely was AI generated 😂
“Tumultuous” and “pivotal” are words I look for. They’re unique words that most people don’t use in their everyday vocabulary.
The story could be real but fed through something like ChatGPT to make it longer.
Cant stop rolling my eyes with a mix of annoyance and defiance as I realize this story, too, was written by AI.
Even worse are the people in the comments here replying to the OP. They don't exist, but even if they did, they wouldn't read these comments?!
You can't even write that much in an aita post with the character limits
And the fact that she wrote this while people waiting for her to continue the wedding ceremony is just..? How could someone wrote their story like this in such a short and heated moment😂
Who she became after surgery???? She became a SURVIVOR OF STAGE 2 BREAST CANCER. The only person who changed was him, though I suspect his niceties were always false.
I call bs on him offering op closure, ex is the one who is hoping for closure at this point. Op was right to block him and refuse him closure to ease his guilt!
Dude, something is telling me this guy only loved this woman for her body & after she had both her breasts removed, he decided to abandon her since he didn't like how she was now.
Or her bank account
My English teacher would be so proud of this creative writing story
I am sorry but if he cheats that should be it
Especially when it’s done in the first month of the relationship. I feel like that should be game stopper
7:14 "I was taken aback," Ahh the taken abacks strikes again!
Pretty sure Chris got with a younger woman and she cheated on him because he’s too old for her
Then he cheated for the 2nd time and took him back. Come on op.
A.I. ?
Yes
The way he was insisting that she didn't remove the other breast like she was removing her leg was so disgusting. You know that he knew he'd feel no desire for her. "Cancer? Fine. One boob off? Uhmm... Not ideal but okay. TWO BOOBS OFF? that's where I draw the line"
So he didn’t divorce OP but left. Did he do this so OP can’t get with anyone? We all know the ex has no problem cheating but he knows OP has an issue with it.
I know someone whose petty ex did this, thinking he wouldn't be able to divorce her if she was never able to be located to sign papers. Essentially she wanted to hold onto him whenever she got done fooling around and was ready to resettle into her old life as a mom and wife. While it didn't take as long, he was able to get a divorce, as well as full custody of their kids, on the grounds of abandonment, or something to that degree.
Forget the two degrees this woman should be a writer
The sheer amount of poetry and clever wordplays just for an AITA reddit post is absolutely insane
this was ai
@@aplaszc that's one hell of an ai
it sounds like it's trained by ao3, in the best way possible LMAO
Considering that Chris made his reappearance on OP’s wedding day, I have no doubt he wasn’t just looking for closure: He couldn’t stand that OP was marrying someone else and was hoping his sudden reappearance would rekindle something within her.
If you up and disappear for years and never contact anyone, you have no right to contact people acting like there's something there.
The simple reason the ex reached out to op is that he just wanted to ruin her day.. screw that coward.....
creative writing assignment
The balls for the ex husband to say that to her. She is your wife and love for who she is not for her body. I rather have my wife alive than her dying from cancer. This guy can eat sand
news: man abandons woman because she had cancer and had both breasts removed to prevent future cancer diagnosis
man a decade later: i'm so alone 😢
Dude. The guy was a really good guy in the beginning. Caring and loving his wife the entire time. When she got breast cancer, he talked to doctors and found different options for her to deal and survive it. Even when she gets it again, you supported her, doing the same thing you did before. Then the instant she decided to get rid of her breast so her chances of getting cancer again you get mad at her, call her a man, and leave. Like dude, she is your wife, you should support her with that. She didn't want to get cancer for the 3rd time, so she got rid of her breast. Just because she doesn't have breast doesn't make her a man. Either way, good for OP and finding someone you actually likes her for who she is and not for what she has.
That man only loved her for her body. The fact this pos left her over her double mastectomy instead of being happy that his wife was alive is just disgusting. At least she found someone better.
It is sadly getting easier and easier to spot an AI story.
Chris makes it sound like the OP went through a sex change operation when she didn't I mean like. Hello? SHE COULDA DIED, Like it just makes me wanna puke when they act like they would rather have their partners die instead of going through a life saving moment even if it leaves certain scars, its BS really.
Wait. She's sitting in the toilets at her own wedding, sobbing, and typed out thos entire eloquent 20min saga...? Riiiight...
(I know these are mostly fiction, but damn I do still listen to them!)
THAT fool contacted her at that time on prepose to cause her pain. Who THE F@@K disappears for TEN YEARS and chose to contact you ON THE WEDDING DAY. that was deliberate and disgusting of him. He wanted you to feel confused and hurt. I hope she enjoyed every second of her and her husbands special day.
Husband: So, how should I make this about me?🤔
This story was wild, but there ain't no way she had the time to write that all on the morning of her wedding
Girl HE LEFT. There isn’t anything to talk about lol! What is the confusion?!
So Chris abandoned op without a trace just because she flat now from the surgery?! I can’t stand men leaving their wife/gfs because of their chest!
Nobody talks like this. Also, as a mother I would never mention any of this to my daughter on her wedding day. My baby will have her day no matter what.
Plot twist, she names the baby Christina.
😭stooooopppp
My mom died to the same thing, never been the same
Im sorry but this story fake as hell
Yeah like... she was married for 10 years with husband 1, then he is gone for 13 years
So assuming they married at 20 years she should be in her 40s and is pregnant??? I know people can get pregnant at 40s but her body is weaker beause of the cancer
I honestly dont know if this is real or not purely based on the writing style. Its so overblown and beats around every possible bush before making a solid point, using the same tired descriptors for every damn occurrence and overall sounding more and more like AI the further into the story it goes, its like a verbal merry-go-round
you know, i’m usually okay with ai stories cuz they’re entertaining enough. but when it’s this obvious it makes it really hard to keep watching :/
The AI felt prosey today.
Okay... the only question i have...
Why telling the bride on her wedding day??
Let her have a beautivul wedding and don't spoil her day with hat kind of news...
I mean, he wasn't a good man to begin with.
I mean he wasn't that great to begin with. He cheated, got angry at her for her success and was a jackazz. It's not surprising he left due to her trauma. He showed who he was from the beginning...she just ignored it.
I really really want to sympathize with OP, but she gave a cheater second and even third chance!
Fool you once, shame on him. Fool you twice, shame on you.
Only a true monster would do this to a woman how had to deal with cancer. Not just any cancer but breast cancer. Ops ex is such a disgusting pig for ever making a survivor like that.
What’s the background music for this story? 😊
His mom is foul!!! I wouldn't have told her nothing!! OP'S Mom should have told Chris ' mom to GTFOHWTBS!! Confused and Guilty about what!? Fool left you at your lowest point. May KARMA pay his creep A55 a swift visit. Congratulations on your new baby.
I believe I heard this story before. Ops ex goes crazy because op is having a baby. He trys to make drama.
The sister sucks because you know she she is the one who told him that op was getting married. As to why he stayed with op during her cancer treatment. Is because he did care for her. Plus some horrible people use that to cheat and get sympathy form strangers who want to help the poor partner.
He didnt want op back. Hes juat mad someone else has her and she is happy. He wanted her to be alone forever
Even though the story is fake I still think it’s a nice story
it's like when op's cancer got removed, her relationship's cancer got removed too (the husband 💀💀)
This is an interesting creative writing project.
Op never mentioned her age, but she was dating chris for 3 years, married for 10 and chris showed up 10 years later.
So im just gonna assume op is pregnant in her mid 40s, i dont know if she should be happy about that news
Ex mil was an ass. She should have not come to the wedding
She should have ended the relationship back then. The man cheated, why give him another chance?
The writer is really going for the dramatic effect. Fake.
This screams AI generated
She made her choice as he did.
Yeah I think he wanted her have one chest peice and gets mad at her for 2 for important way to get rid of cancer edit- if I was her husband I still support her for what ever happens
Story 2: Your ex-husband was a cheating piece of garbage with no sense of guilt or remorse over shit he threw at you. OP is very empathetic and naive lady, and I am glad she found a man who wouldn't treat her like shit just because she would move mountains for him with little output.
Why would she want to still be with him after what he said? It isn't Stockholm syndrome because it doesn't sound like he was abusive.
Edit: my bad, after reviewing the start, he was abusive from the beginning.
Yelling at her, calling her ugly, and making her feel less than for prioritizing her health isn’t abusive?
@@Cthulus_left_tentacleaccording to the op, right up until that surgery, he was a good and supportive husband.
That doesn't sound abusive to me. Unless being a good person is abusive these days.
@@Falney right up until that day he cheated regularly, that's emotional abuse. He was never good, she was bending over backwards for him and he refused to even let her prioritize her own health.
@@availanila I didn't get that from the story. When did she say he cheated on her prior to the surgery?
@@Falney she says as early as a month into their relationship he cheated and he regularly did leading up to therapy just before the diagnosis. Did you not listen to the first ten minutes?
Why do these things always come up at weddings?
bro said "no booba no love"
Jeez this woman is the most emotional doormat ever! I swear every little thing brings a “wave of emotions” over her like seriously?
Some people are that emotional. It's what you do with those emotions that count. Also, I think she has every right to be emotional. I mean, she did go through cancer and then who she thought was the love of her life left simply over boobs. All that effort, time, and memories....for what? Her self-confidence took a hard blow, and it takes time to rebuild yourself. I mean, me personally, it took me years to cultivate the self-love I now have. I can't imagine the devastating blow of your spouse essentially calling you unattractive over a LIFE SAVING SURGERY.
I am more baffled than anything. He stuck with her through the worst of cancer treatments. Watched her struggle and fight as hard as she did....only to then leave over breasts.
I would be pretty emotional, too, if I had been delt such cards.
I am sure a man going through such a thing would be just as emotional if he was facing cancer and found out his wife was leaving him because he couldn't work due to health and/or she just couldn't see him as a man anymore as his body would have been put through hell.
Like seriously....and??
Anyone else agree the ex is a narcissist
Most of your stories now are AI😭, I wouldn't mind made up stories but when they're this obvious it gets super infuriating to listen to yk
Agreed. So blatantly AI.
She is soo not the a hole. he went no contact for soo long and who would want to waste money searching for a jerk???? no one thats who
Alexa, play Closure by Taylor Swift
Why is there a aita in this, how in the world is this an aita scenario
It's AI
Ive asked this from some other stories and I am going to ask this again.
I am currently at the 2min Mark and I wonder, How did this relationship even get to the point of talking about Marriage if he cheated on you several times?
🦀 *S I L E N C E A . I !* 🦀
This Whole Story Could Be Fake But Thats So Messed Up Either Way
People who stayed in relationships after being cheated on, disrespected or mistreated never had their parents or someone in their life tell them that after forgiving something like this You are seen as a spineless coward that didn't leave the first time probably because you yourself thought You could never do better so if you are still here after the first time nothing will happen if they do it again, it is important to understand that people will never value you more because you forgive them.
Last it may look cruel but she should have known that his problem with surgery was that with a double mastectomy he wouldn't find her atractive in the same way that women reject their husbands when they have accidents and become disabled, i am not saying it is right but the notion that love makes everything possible or solves all problems will lead people to a bitter disappointment.
Too many red flags came before u at the start of the relationship itself u ignored and still married and now ranting about how he abandoned u ..YTA for ignoring 🚩 and being dumb and went ahead marrying 🙄🤦🏻♀️
I wonder if he also think that women with double size A cups are also considered men to him
Good fucking lord I hate all the flowery ai language- I remember reading this story a few years ago clearly but hearing all the added monologuing sucks.
Literally, I was super sure that this was definitely just a creative writing project and not a real story. Even now I’m not convinced that it wasn’t considering what seems like manufactured drama and OP blaming themselves for everything just a little too much to be realistic. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a recovering people pleaser myself but this just seems like Mary Sue levels of “heroic self doubt” I’m pretty meh about this channel anyway tbh. Next.
Man what kind of twisted "Odyssey" is this 😂
Everyone getting heated over a made-up story 💀💀 go get'em tigers!
ffs with these fake stories
This one is definitely definitely fake
Some men can't cope, w breast cancer and cut run
You reap exactly what you sow, these idiots are the type who think you only live once and worst can happen is death but well, death is nothing compared to god’s wrath
if i hear the word profound one more time 🤬
While I like these stories, the over explaining in some of them are exhausting.
4:21 to 4:33 is so ai written. Solace is repeated, and the uncharted waters of [X] is a dead giveaway.
Yea and 8:14 is also so ai. Mind you the general events could've been fed into an ai thing, the the text itself is ai generated 100%
Way to long and convoluted. Peace out.
Sounds fake. Just from how it sounds.
this story is just so fake the description op gives at every moment of her life with way too many details like yeah you remember things 20 years ago perfectly/
the redest of red flags
Why the fuck would your mom tell you that on your wedding day
“as long as I have breasts, I can get cancer”
Sorry honey it’s kinda impossible to 100% remove breasts, men can also get breast cancer, it’s just really really unlikely. I mean, chickens have breasts too
The corny, sappy way of writing is not how an average person expresses themselves.
Stories that are dramatic and personal are told using vernacular, cussing, and tangents, not "and came back home to a space filled with desolation and lost dreams," ffs.
This is written by an AI or a gifted highschool loner with a penchant for angst.
wait how do u breastfeed the baby with no t.ts-
Fake story, too many details in all the wrong places.
Fake and AI
Well this time I am kind of on husband’s side, like why there was no say of his in 2nd breast cut?
You’re afraid that your cancer will come back on 2nd one which is unlikely, was he not supported you or will not support you then? Why can’t you keep it for him?
Bro would you rather have a low risk of cancer or zero risk of cancer.. Keep it for him? And if the breasts develops cancer anyway then what? You agree with the husband because you're both selfish people. He'd rather his dong be happy than his wife be healthy.
Am i the only one annoyed by the writting ?
No. I am