Letting Go Of The Past - How To Get Over The Past In Minutes
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We've all had experiences we'd like to forget. While past experiences can be instructive, re-living them and nursing the festering wound of a past event adds nothing good to your life. Once you've learned the lesson to be had from that experience, you can choose to let it go.
The past, while real at one time, is now just a concept, as is the future. The only time you have is now. Don't let something in the past rob you of your present productivity and happiness. Choose to let it go and live. When you have trouble letting go of the past, it's typically because you keep bringing it back into your life.
Identify the memory that besieges you the most. Use guided meditation to let it go and replace it with the present. During the guided meditation, you dwell on the present, which forces the past out of your consciousness. Repeated sessions of guided meditation will teach you how to deprive the past of the life you've inadvertently been breathing back into it.
Designing a more positive present that's too busy to dwell on the past can help push it out of your life. So can journaling, introspection, and counseling or coaching. Make the choice to stop reviving the past. - Jak na to + styl
Just think of it like this. You can’t move on to the next chapter of a book if you’re keep re-reading the last chapter
Spot on. That makes a lot of sense.
Thank you I needed to hear that
Makes perfect sense! Thank you for that g!
Thanks but still.its very hard for me to let go
Indeed! Yeah, I'm still learning to move forward.
The hardest part for me, to overcome the past. Is the Decision I could’ve done differently to potentially change that out come drastically.
definitely I’m with you on this one if we make wise choices from start we don’t regret the end
If I could only go back in time I would.....do this....that.
So hard to forget the past ...
same. crippling regret's a poison that tortures and kills you slowly. add on top of it the hardships that one has to go thru at the same time..
Yes my present would be much different if I had done some things differently
Thank im crying now idk why i just found out that the past doesnt exit i feel so much better now
crystal wolf great Chrystal just in case you’ve forgot this video have a look again. Where are you at with yourself now? 👍
crystal wolf I felt so much relief when he was talking in the meditation. It did make me feel a little better
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Iknow right!!
Where are you now?
I’m
I had a problem for a long time. I allways got stuck in the past and sometimes i stressed about the future. While i listened to this video i realized that the past doesn’t matter that much and i don’t need to overthink the future. I don’t need to waste my time on worrying the past. I can just live the moment. This helped me a lot.
You'll probably never see this but if you do, just know I really want to hug you. Thank you
Aaron Cornette same
Gay
@dream niches not straight
@dream niches hugging people to solve ur problems is for women and gay boys.
@@AllthatremainsMV every human being has feelings, except for spychopathic narcissists.
And everyone needs to be hugged at one point or another in their life time.
That's a human thing. Not a girl or gay boy thing, dude.
"You don't have time to sit and ruminate about all that past garbage."
That was the most perfect way to end it. This video is amazing and it really helped!!
Went from crying like crazy, to breathing calmly. My concepts are soooo emotionally charged, but I'll keep working on letting go. The more i focus on the now and planning/strategizing for the future the better i feel as well, so will definitely work on doing more of that. Thank you so much for this video.
He's basically quoting from Sam Harris Death and the present moment (youtube)
how are you now
Who knew a video from 2014, could help me so much in 2022. Thank you so much. I’ve been trying to let go and decided to add this my daily ritual. When you said :” the past only exists cause I keep bringing it up” it’s true. The past and pain doesn’t have to exist anymore if I don’t let it. It’ll be there but I don’t have to fixate on it. I choose to let it go. I can’t do anything about it. And can’t even worry about the future. This helped my anxiety more than anything else. ❤️
It sucks when the past is facing you every single day, and you can't just breakup a family off of someone's mistakes. I would love to forget the past.
brittany, before we incarnated in this world, we agreed to meet everything that we have met in our life, we also agreed to deal with them in love and not hate. but the beings that send us here, helps us along , by sending spirit guides to assist us , and also bring some of our situations to an end, and give us the opportunity to start over. we should grab these opportunities to start over , realizing that, everything that happen to us, happened so that we could be a higher consciousness being. and live in a higher consciousness plane . if we harbour hate in our lives, then we may have to face it again , until we finally come to the understanding . so please see bad things that happen in your life as, stepping stones not stumbling blocks, ..........peace and love to all.
You can't forget the past. Nature provides us with a memory for a reason. What you CAN do is recognize what you need to do, or NOT do in the present to feel the best about yourself that you can. And remember having a wonderful past is not an entitlement, it's a blessing. Some people like me and many others, simply lost the lottery for how their past was set up for them.
Same
I have the same issues but it's my grown children. They drain. I don't know how to break loose from them.
She fucking lives 6 ft away from me in the next fucking apartment ?? How the fuck you leave this behind while getting reminded every single second ?
I hurt someone who was my friend. What I did was against my morals and I felt immense guilt and regret. I don't want it to repeat again but the stress of guilt and shame weighs heavily in my mind. Your videos help me a lot. I'm still shaking from guilt and shame from that incident but I believe I can get better and become a better person
Alexander Morteo Vermillious Be kind to your self.
no i am not, im actually a virgin. It is hilarious that you would think that I am a pedo :))))michael Jacobs
Alexander Morteo Vermillious that's good may I ask what you are feeling guilty about?
I simply hurt former friend michael Jacobs
I also did, I did it 2 years ago and I still feel guilty and terrible about it, and I know I need to let the past go, but it is very hard for me
Who did this help in 2019?
Me.
Love this guy💯✌️
Kernisha Gomez here is the validation you crave.
Yep he is amazing , using the knowledge is even more amazing
2021
I have a problem that I feel like my past haunted me,all my mistake,my failure,everything that I feel that I shouldn't do in past is hunting me.😢😢😢..I hard to get rid of it..I hope this video going to help me..
mistakes are made to be learned from. all the succesfull people in life didnt get there without any problems.. fall down 9 times and get up the 10th time always get back up because staying down is only going to make it worse i hope your doing fine now and that u found your inner peace for me really sitting on the ground and thinking about what is going on with me such as my back pain.. when i meditate i realise what is wrong with my posture and what i should work on more its difficould because id never had anyone in my family to support me.. but then i realised i dont need them to support me i need to support myself.. if anyone is going to believe in you its you. i wish u the best and may you find happyness... u cant apriciate the sunshine if there is no rain you will be okay.. i thought id never be happy again after so many mistakes and failures in life thinking i was a waste of time and got depressed but sooner or later you will find that fire inside of you that will give you goosebumps just thinking about it.. set some goals, small steps are better than no steps! best of luck you are thought off
@@brokecollegestud8139 thanks for your advice . I appreciate it 😊..
mohd haniff we all do embarrassing things, even really messed up things. But the only way to improve is to choose to love yourself anyways. If you choose to love yourself, you can accept your weakness and choose to grow from them in the future :). Love everything about yourself, the good and the bad. Only when you love yourself can the good in you prevail over the bad
Mohd haniff make that into a story but then make up your own ending.
Same
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You've changed my life in the matter of 20 mintues. I congratulate and thank you. What you did to me not healed me but also set me up for future. Thank you for helping me get over my dark lonely past.
Every time I let my mind wander I think of pointless childhood memories both good and bad. Often times when I talk to the people from those memories today in real life they don't remember those things. Essentially I'm holding on to things that meant more to me at the time and to this day and I rationalize that as me caring more than other people and that stops me from letting go. I feel like a historian for a time in life when no one was thinking about the future and were just trying to have as many experiences as possible. It bothers me that's it's all subconscious and the second I start relaxing I'm suddenly thinking about about a day in the 3rd grade when the class made ice cream sundaes and had fun playing board games. I just want to relax but it's like these memories just persist.
Louie same
I feel the exact same way - my mind just wanders to the past so often that it’s now a mindless habit. I think daily mindfulness meditations will actually help so that even in our idle state, we are living in the present! (At least I hope... because being the “historian of my past” just like you described is so useless!) How has your mindfulness journey been treating you?
I can relate to both of these comments. I think many of us can
It's mentioned by the great sages from all over the world that policing our thoughts is like weeding a garden. It should be mandatory if you're seeking a peaceful and fulfilling life
And when done regularly, it's easy to stay on top of it. Practices like these, mindfulness, presences, are like training the psychological "muscle". The more you train it, the stronger it becomes... strength to keep the mind focused and rooted in the now. Because the present moment is the only place that matters and it's the place where things are usually alright. And in there present moment, if things are not to your liking, this is the only time you may do something about it or change it so it is pleasant.. the present moment
I'm sending my love and healing energy your way ♊🧘♂️💪❤🕺🙏🕉
Same, I find myself in the middle of the night remembering things from middle schools, interactions with people from my past, re living each moment that I remembered. It makes me feel shallow inside and makes me want to time travel back to where life was simple for me, I’m still trying to learn how to move on from the past and make new memories.
@@isaiahmenendez2336 I feel that. And then I get frustrated with myself for still thinking about it so much after all this time has passed since the event but even with the guilt I can’t stop thinking about it
I just really missed the pass years, I had really good memories and want to re-live them.
instead of reliving them try to make new and better onces i understand your pain.. i lost all my friends and majority of my family but that doesnt keep me from striving to be better each day.. hopefully u are doing better than before
BrokeCollegeStud Thanks dude. It’s been the same lately but I’m starting to make more memories with my family, I really don’t have any friends anymore.
@@brokecollegestud8139 I lost one of my great friend and now my life is ruin well... Not to ruin it affects me also the thing that affects me I lost my PS4 and am so mad at my self and sad at the same time
Brianna Peters I didn’t necessarily lose any friends I miss at the moment, but I had to move schools and stop hanging out with them just because of one dumb decision. I miss my old school and friends so bad sometimes and I’ve been struggling lately because I just want to go back and relive those memories so bad.
LyricalPanic in the exact same position dk how to get over it
Thank you Leo. I suffered some traumatic times in the past serving as a British Solider in Afghanistan. And this video has helped me. John
Thank you for your service brother. I have a friend who served in the Paras. He came back completely changed with a hatred for war. I wish you well.
EMDR can be really helpful for PTSD, many blessings.
God bless you. It must be terrifying to be a soldier in war. I can't imagine the pain but i know it is horrible to see all the deaths and terror.
Fuck memories .
you ll still have them when you're 80 .and you ll have the whole time on earth to go through each one of them.
Now you just make sure you're making as many positive ones as possible !
Loved that comment, never thought of it like that, but its so true 😊
before we incarnated in this world, we agreed to meet everything that we have met in our life, we also agreed to deal with them in love and not hate. but the beings that send us here, helps us along , by sending spirit guides to assist us , and also bring some of our situations to an end, and give us the opportunity to start over. we should grab these opportunities to start over , realizing that, everything that happen to us, happened so that we could be a higher consciousness being. and live in a higher consciousness plane . if we harbour hate in our lives, then we may have to face it again , until we finally come to the understanding . so please see bad things that happen in your life as, stepping stones not stumbling blocks, peace and love to all.
Listening during lockdown COVID19 pandemic! Thank you Leo, it's hard to stop obsessing about the past when there's literally nothing good from your past but pure misery, darkness and horrible memories...
I keep worrying about how people bully me in the past, just by listening to what you said, it helped me a lot. Thank you
Dont! theyre not relevant anymore. Anything that holds no value in the present needs to be forgotten and thrown back. Dont let anything hold you back, theres nothing for you behind you, all that exists is whats ahead
I have a similar experience in the past.
What happens if your family tried to hold you back and bullied you can that be hard to forget
@@therandomgamer9631 I know someone who still today has to deal with his toxic family. I would say the best thing is to let go and to cut the contact as good as you can.
@@danield6675 Like what
Powerful beyond belief. I don't think that I've ever been this relaxed my entire life. I now believe that I can leave decades of horrid abuse in the garbage can, and leave it there. Thank you Leo. You are a Savior I've been searching for my entire life.... Euphoric!
Holy shit this gave me a new perspective on my pain. Didn't take it away but I now have a place to start from.
David Arriaga i think detaching onself from the past (like cancer) is a little extreme, i appreciate him being strong minded and offering an intelligent approach to the matter but effectively what hes asking is to detach yourself completely from the past... Noone can really do that, the only thing you can do is acknowledge it and simply move forwards and do your best not to let it affect you and by being strong. It certainly isnt as easy as his quick fix solution, you cant just forget in an insant, i appreciate hes trying but sometimes can be too enthusiastic. also everyones past is different and so requires a different solution.
The 'human mind', or to be specific for each individual 'the person', will always strive to survive. It's the main reason why 99% of the worlds population will never accept this kind of practice, because this video actually shows that the 'mind' or 'the person' is actually an illusion, this video shows that the Awareness is ones true self, not 'the person'. Best example i can give to show that 'the person' is nothing more than just an illusion is an individual having permanent amnesia, 'the person' is totally erased while the Awareness remains exactly the same, perfect and whole. You actually find yourself living in total freedom (without pain and suffering) when you fully realize that you are the Awareness, and not 'the person'. enjoy! :)
I was cheated on, abused and taken advantage of financially, recently I've started new relationship with someone who is incredible but my past keeps coming up in my head. I've searched online for the answer. I spent too long blaming my past on my current, I couldn't trust, I can't change. It sounds small but that 2 minutes of letting go and telling myself it's just a fake memory that isn't worth keeping really helped. She loves me and wants a break so I can work on myself, I hope I can change. Thanks for the videos.
It's a real memory it did happen and no the memory can still hurt you rather if you ignore it or not and sooner or later it comes up and even if really trying to really let it go then really you shouldnt even say what it is that you went through because that can bring back the memories and make the person more upset you shouldnt really run from your past either or pretend like it never happened at all don't avoid it because if you avoid and pretend that the trauma never happened at all then that is a risk that soon rather if you like it or not that trauma can still be hurting you and you may not no what's causing you're emotional discomfort or even physical comfort when it may be the trauma that you just ran from and it really sucks hurting when you don't know what could have caused it I think this guy was talking nonsense all the time
David Tichborne l know right this is so dumb
@@davidtichborne2912 I disagree. I've been through therapy several times. Talking about it did give me some relief to keep going. But it did not give me a fulfilled life trying to work on past events again and again. I'm not a fighter, because my past holds me back! I'm not happy, because my past holds me back.
I have never just let it go. I couldn't, didn't know how. I obsessed about the past. Trying to understand the meaning, trying to learn from it. There is nothing to learn but pain and darkness.
I will try to avoid it from now on. For too long the past has been holding me back, every single day. And guess what - yesterday was thr first beautiful day that I could really enjoy for a long long time. It's gonna be hard to maintain blocking out the past, but I'll try.
It felt good yesterday. I want to be happy.
This night on 11/27/2022 early morning I realized that I had been holding on to the past!! And this did help.
Thanks.
"The past has no use to me"
I'm happy and shocked at the same time that some of your tricks actually WORK! There's someone in the past that I would like to forget (it's been like 4 months that I constantly keep thinking about that person)so everyday in the shower or in the car while driving to school, I say to myself repeatedly "I will forget the past" or sometimes "I live in the present". Its been about 6 days that Ive been doing this and I noticed that some of the memories started to fade away. Seriously, I really thought it was some BS technique at first but i'm literally mind blown right now. Thank you for bottom of my heart, you deserve a nobel prize mister.
Lol
fearfactz1 I
fearfactz1 I'm really glad to hear that this has been working for you, in that case Ill definitely give this a shot. Hope you've been feeling better:)
tears. I find myself in tears.
Hard not to when he's telling you to envision something you're ashamed of, or something that really hurt you. Forgiving yourself or someone else can be a very emotional experience.
lucille reyes dude same...
me too
That moment in the now is when I cried, I don't understand that.
Namra Reyes Good to know I wasn't the only one
Did i cry? Yes
Do i know why? No
Seriously this man needs an oscar.
An Oscar? He needs a Nobel peace prize. Jokes aside, if you wanna support him go to his Patreon :)
Same, the present felt so quiet
I believe that in order to let go of the past you need to face it, examine it, make peace with it and let go. You can't let go of something unresolved. "Un unexamined life is not worth living"
This is awesome. The best thing I heard recently was, "The past doesn't exist. Only your interpretation of the past exists." This confirmed it! Wish I had come upon this concept many years ago...I got stuck like a riptide.
Like Buddhism. Let go of your past, don't think of your Future.. Just live in the present
BHuynh this helped me more then the video thank Gold
@rare savage find some different stuff, get out of your comfort zone, let go of people that have a negative impact on your life, its not worth it to stay around those who only wanna bring you down to make themselves feel better, i lost all my friends and majority of my family.. ive been crying alot lately and i havent done that in years.. i didnt even cry when i was on my grandpas funeral when i was a kid. saw my mother almost die because of an overdose on medication and had to save her life plenty times throughout my teenage years.. i understand that its difficould but i believe in you.. there is so much more in life than this. make tiny steps and eventually you will get where u want to be. it takes alot of time but its worth it in the end just start small and dont do too much at once i wish you the best
This is changing my life and I know that it might come up again but from now on I make the decision to let go for all of it and only focus on what I want now in the present. Only this video is amazing beginning ways for me to have my best life ahead of me. For me I know that whatever I did I never meant to do it that way but it is alright (no need to rethinking it over and over like I did for my whole life) I feel so thankful and free even more, yet I also want to master this. I hope everyone here is also healing from your past no matter how bad it is. You are now can change your life and it is up to you. Your life is yours. Thank u Leo for your very impactful teaching. Thank u from the bottom of my heart :) I feel like I really free from my thought this time.
you cant start reading a book backwards you read is forward that is how my mind works now
thank you leo
I feel Batman should see this
You sir, made my day
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Blahs, love that comment. Batman does has some issues.
you called me?
MarkFilipAnthony what's with the blue pedo triangle?!?!?!
HONESTLY... bottom line is no matter who it was or how bad they hurt you chances are your spending more time dwelling over it then they are so when you let go of it , you may not be doing it because you forgive the person but your doing it so you dont waste more of your own time worrying about it.
jake hagen very well said my friend
Yes! You are wasting your life away beating yourself up while the other person doesn't care.
This is absolutely true but so hard to drill in your head. It’s because we’re trying to put together a puzzle, the answers to all our whys?. If we were to really decide to forgive and let go of the past, we regain our power and have all our energy back to focus on a building a better present you. It’s a practice….and hopefully one that we can all perfect.
Love and light 💓
The past might “not be real”, but the person I was wasn’t real either. The beautiful person that I used to be wasn’t real either. We’re not grieving the past we’re grieving the fact our realities are very different to how they should be.
The person that I was to attract a partner isn’t real, the person that I was to build my future isn’t real, and the pain I never felt isn’t real but the pain and loneliness and a life of nothing is real.
This video wasn’t meant for you you’re going through something completely different maybe you should look for ways to cope with your new life or make your new life better not look for ways to forget something you have to live with now
I get you bro, I felt like I lived a fake life too, and suddenly time flies so fast, I don't know what to do at all
This video was amazing. I’ve been dealing with a lot lately on my mind. In fact I’ve recently experienced what I believe to be an anxiety attack for the first time a few days ago and another one last night. My whole life I’ve ruminated on the past, I know I shouldn’t but it’s like I can’t help it, but knowing the past isn’t real is oddly satisfying. Thank you.
Mason Cullen it’s a concept in your head mason just as the future is 👍 now and what you are experiencing in this moment 👍
Hi, sorry if I'm bothering you but how are you feeling now 2 years later? Hope you're fine I'm currently experiencing what you went through.
I'll admit it...this does work for a while because its a coping mechanism. I've done something like this too many times. Its called repression. You repress your bad memories and not think about them or how they make you feel and it seems to work, but for many cases (me included), this isn't a good way. If you continue to just not think about it when it comes up, than you're depriving yourself from the emotions. Those emotions will build up without you realizing and then one day something will trigger it and BOOM the feelings come out. What you need to know is that yes, they are in the past, but all things in the past make you who you are (ESPECIALLY the bad ones). You should work through the bad memories and learn from them instead of ignoring them.
Something I did with my counselor is walking through the situation step by step. Going through it again is pretty painful, but talking about it is the first step. It can really help to look back and see things you missed. The next is to try to learn from it. "What can I do to make sure that doesn't happen?" (if its possible), but don't let your past control you either.
Sonny Starr I've tried repression, but now I can't sleep, it's as if a dam has broken, I'm feeling physically ill, this is the worst I've ever felt, by FAR, this vid dident help because ove tried this too many times for it to work anymore
You're confusing"repression" with "supression". One does not know that which is being repressed because it never makes it into awareness. Suppression occurs when a memory occurs and we attempt to force it out of awareness.]
One more thing: how many times do you have to dredge up a memory to learn from it. Let's say you accidentally ran a stop sign, struck a pedestrian, and put them in a wheelchair for life. How many times do you have to look at that moment to learn anything that gives the victim the use of their legs? Constantly revisiting painful memories is often a form of self punishment or trying to undo the past or the consequences of those memories. In either case, it is futile. Nothing changes but the sum total of your suffering.
Sonny Starr yes well said, i understand this guy is very knowledgeable and logical. But like you said even when you do that (like cut them off) the emotions still flood back. I appreciate this guys output and i think hes really trying hard to help and like his strong enthusiasm but trying to ignore your emotions makes it even more so, the more you try to forget the more you remember, its always the opposite and theres always a catch. However i think cutting off memories is a little extreme, the past is the only thing that roots us to the ground.. I wouldnt take his advice too literal and is always hit and miss, for some it works, others not.
Tommy Chappell you need to watch the video again because he’s not once said you need to ignore your feelings. you don’t understand the concept of letting go which he so eloquently described. There is a difference between letting go of the past and not feeling or ignoring your feelings. He is not asking you to ignore your feelings in fact he even said talk about them with your therapist or your coach you just did not listen to the video you just want to make a comment for the fuck of it
why dont i find friends like you... people who challenge you... fucking intelligent as well,.. people like you are so rare :(((
I'm kinda like that
Half-Alive cool. but sadly until i have started working on myself i have never really seeked for people like this. maybe i will find more in the future. you give me hope bc at least one person is replying! lol i hope you have a nice week
Thanks
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This has helped so much, I watched this after my panic attack, thank you so much!!
The past is reality on the internet, as old messages and images can be revisited..
Revisited by whom ? At the end of the day having an image you look at on a computer screen is the same as in your head.
DarrenFitness You can just forgive and delete those messages and things that keeps you low.🤗
I agree
One thing that helps is to stay busy with projects, hobbies, new goals. When my thoughts are preoccupied on other things that I’m working towards, I’m not thinking about the past.
I come from of a long line of residential school survivors and I’ve lived the impact it has on them . I’m 40 and I’m finally learning to live my life of peace.
Good luck I hope you are able to move on!
I love you so MUCH!!!
I'm a dude who suffers from extended thinking of negative past, and after watching this video once and doing the exercise a single time, even though I have bent the rules slightly, and I already feel immediate results!!!!!
This guys a diamond 💎
The information he provides is priceless !!
May God bless his heart ❤️
~ Afghan fan
Leo, you're a life saver.
I've been struggling with anxiety and mindless thoughts for 2 months now; I never knew the solution was this simple.
Thank you so much Leo :)
Well... this is not going to fix all your anxiety issues. But it's a baby step in the right direction. Make sure you start a daily meditation habit.
the past will tire u down
+TheGhostbuster1989 even thought it was just a big injury from a tv show i still got over it.But all i needed to let go of it was to listen to him talk for like 6 mins it was SO FCKING BORING that i got over it
+Actualized.org I like ur video
*****:) gotcha
I just realized the painful past after experienced it 3 weeks ago and it still haunts me now and decide to search for videos to forget about the past and Thank God I found this 7 years old video. The answer to this is actually just let the past go because it has done, nothing can't be changed and perceive the world you live right now.
what do you do when beautiful memories are mixed with bad memories in the same event. Do you through away eveything away? Some good memories cant be separated out. In addition, denying the past didnt happen robs you of your history and any lessons you can learn from it. Some bad memories cause deep wounds, and although the wound heals, the scar never goes away.
Roy Boy
Yeah... The memories that hurts me to this day was the most beautiful memories of my life.
It was my first time trying meditation, and it was honestly amazing, to be detached from the spirits of the past and the anxiety of what's coming. Thank you, I really needed this, thank you.
I was in tears for the most
of this video, thank you so much
I've downloaded this video to listen to it everytime I start thinking of the past. "The now it what real and the past is just a concept" Thank you so much Leo🧠
This really helped me alot, hearing you talking for 18 minutes was way more worth it than listening to a whole speech that requires tons of money
My problem is not bad memories from the past. My problem is I can't let go of good memories from the past. I am always feeling nostalgic about things and get depressed. My life when I was in school, my friends back in the day, my family , the fun times I had. All those memories should make me happy but instead they haunt me and make me cry.
That's literally me haha
I've heard of a saying: "Don't be sad because it is over, be glad because it happened. "
SAME! and my childhood wasn't even good lmao but I feel like the vibe was and that's what I'm missing... idk
I couldn't figure out how to stop the pain in my heart from my father abandoning me every chance he got. I finally realized that he just doesn't want the role to play. This video helped me health that pain. Thank you sir!
I want to forget about something embarrassing that happened three years ago but i keep getting reminded about it by the people who were there. Every time i see them in public they say something to me to taunt me. They told their new friends too to get them in on it. I really don’t want my friends finding out about it. It stresses me out a lot and when i’m out with my friends in public i stress about the thought of seeing them while i’m with my friends cause i know that they’ll say something. I keep trying to forget but i just can’t. Occasionally i get messages from them reminding me and threatening to expose me. I don’t mean to be one if those people but i just don’t know what to do anymore.
What happened
@@dementedpuppy i’d rather not say
Dang it’s that bad huh? If it was me, I would block them on everything. And if they brought it up in front of my friends, I would act confused and say that they are making it up(I would say that once they walk away, so that they can’t bring up proof or anything.) and what are the chances that you would see them in public? Or you can admit it and accept that u did that thing so that you wouldn’t have to worry about it. Like if you told your friends what happened, you wouldn’t have to worry about them finding out.
his head comes to a point like a rain drop.
Thanks I realized that I've used up a lot of energy dwelling on my past mistakes. The activity was helpful. Instead prioritizing my time wisely; I've wasted time festering over my past mistakes and doing negative self talk. That kind of behavior has cost me opportunities of creating great experiences with friends and family. After watching your videos..i thought continued to live a self defeating life or self prophesy anymore.
David Collins :)
During the exercise, I felt free. I felt like something was lifted or opened and it made me happy. I felt like nothing was holding me back. Thank you for this. I really really needed this.
This helped a lot my friend died and I was feeling depressed
Thanks a lot... It really helped me!
AlexHessalter i appreciate that he has a solution but its a short term solution not a long term one.. And also slightly unrealistic, i appreciate his passion and stuff but its easier said than done and noone can detach from their past no matter how god like they are.. So yes being in present does help but the thing will always be there..
The 'human mind', or to be specific for each individual 'the person', will always strive to survive. It's the main reason why 99% of the worlds population will never accept this kind of practice, because this video actually shows that the 'mind' or 'the person' is actually an illusion, this video shows that the Awareness is ones true self, not 'the person'. Best example i can give to show that 'the person' is nothing more than just an illusion is an individual having permanent amnesia, 'the person' is totally erased while the Awareness remains exactly the same, perfect and whole. You actually find yourself living in total freedom (without pain and suffering) when you fully realize that you are the Awareness, and not 'the person'. enjoy! :)
Thank u
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@@tommychappell6359 if it repeatedly works when its needed then is that not a long term solution?
This helped me let go of my past Wich I've struggled with for years now thank you so much 💛
This 6year old video is still helping me and others 🙏🙏
Wow, Leo, you posted this video over 6 years ago and it's good to see how much you evolved but at the same time how relevant your previous work still is. This must be the 3 time I'm watching this one. :) Thank you.
I did the Practice exercise, and i felt i slept for more than Five Hours. IT Works.
I love that sleeping feeling, it does take a practice though for sure, accepting it is the hard part, letting go is what i am in the process of letting go. Breathe
My brother committed suicide a few months ago and its the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with and I don't know how I will get over it. And it's very real.
Something that significant and recent you will first have to grieve through. Don't try to let go of it too soon because that would just be a denial or escape. This technique is intended for letting go of old stuff.
+A.C. Tilly so sorry to hear this hun x sending you hugs love and light x its hard atm but gets easier in time the pain will always be there were u miss them, but in time you be able to cope better x my grandad n nephew died a week apart a while back and it broke me have to stay strong though but dont be afraid to cry xx
Thanks a lot that's very kind.
Your welcome x remember we are all just spirits trapped in a body x when its our time we are free to roam and be free of pain and the things that hurt us. Xx your brother will be around you keeping you safe x just need to keep on going tomorrow is a new day and what better way to spend it then doing what u love most as your brother wouldnt wanna see u sad xx
+A.C. Tilly . Im sorry to hear of your loss and understand to a degree how it effects you. Certain unique feelings or emotions are associated with grief. Watching a loved one die through prolonged illness , sudden accidental death etc all create different emotions . I found my friend after he committed suicide. His wife called me about him leaving for work, without taking his car and he could not be contacted etc. He left that morning as normal Kissing her and his kids. I had been with him the evening previous and he was ok.I went over and found him in the garage . The best thing that was said to her came from their local Priest. He said, if her husband survived ,he wouldn't understand or remember why he acted so. We will never know the answer or understand. Its a tragedy and in time we come to terms with it. If he took his car and had a mysterious fatal accident would have been similar. Its very raw with you A C and I hope what I write here will be of some comfort. God bless and strengthen you at this time
This video changed my life and perspective today.. u can’t change the past & u can’t change the future but what u can change is what’s happening rn in the present
Late at night, when my partner’s asleep sometimes i get this rush of emotions and immense sadness out of nowhere, ruminating my incredibly sad and cruel childhood and throughout my teenage to early adult years. It comes out of nowhere, i could be scrolling on my phone and then boom a flood of memories and tears. I’m fine in the day time. Ultimately it is the past, it cannot be changed, its there forever. But i have power/ control at least more so then as a child to change my present and future. Praying for all those who also seek healing
This video was very well done! I think a lot of the time people are stuck in their heads too much and cant escape. I hope more people come across this video so they can let go from all the pain
I'm so glad I've discovered this channel. I am stuck in a negative loop, I've been trying desperately to escape. I feel like I'm actually in the movie "Ground Hog Day". I will be applying these techniques to my daily life! Thank you so much for helping me with this behavior
matt parker great comment thanks.
"A cynical modification of letting go doesn't bring forgiveness, it's when, once you forgive, will you be able to let go."
I feel relashed now. I’ll be doing this everytime I think about the past from now on. Thank you Leo, wish you the Best!
How are you doing man?
Honestly I'm here to forget my embarrassing musiclys😳😳
Margie just be here now Margie it will fade to oblivion lol 😂
I just deleted mine😂
Here to remind you
Lmao
If that’s what haunts you in life I’m jealous
The past is only a concept. It is not real. Don't let the past shape your now.
Daryl Wilson i would say yes and no, i think the main moral of the story isnt the message that the past is just a concept, in theory yes it is just a concept, but in reality noone can just forget or detach from their past. Its about being talking to yourself in more encouraging ways, like 'i can only try'.
If that were true you wouldn't have a Hippocampus, or an Amygdala.
I find your information very helpful Leo! Thank you for sharing this deep well thought out information! I’ve been saddled with past emotions of a 20 amp year marriage that ended because of my spouse infidelity!
It has caused issues with trust in my new ones that have ended because of it!
I am deciding right now to let go of that past emotionally divorce and accept responsibility for it! I have to get clarity and reckon with it and see it for what it is, a past wonderful event that ended with a negative experience!
It happens to many people, but it is the way that we interpret it and the emotions that we attach to it! So I’m going to label it and catalog it as past and move on! I will not allow myself to label my future mate as untrustworthy or look at her through the suspicious lenses as I have been! Thank you Leo 🙏! I will continue to listen with a empty mind that is open, so I can develop as a sound minded individual!
this literally helped me so much, i’ve been hanging onto the past for the last 4 years and it’s limited me so much, i can’t be creative or grow relationships with people, or grow myself, this is a step in the right direction. thank you for helping me. i will be coming back to this
Memory of the past is an important defense mechanism to avoid future danger or risk in the present
+Yato The lonesome one What if I told you there is no better version of your self, there is no better version of anyone. You are just you, and you did what was best for you at that particular moment so don't be so harsh on your self, if anything don't force things to happen, most things happen naturally and with the flow.
שחר ש if you think that will better your life man
שחר ש but sometimes that instinct is not helpful to modern day humans
@שחר ש It all depends on WHAT the past is, what you WON'T let go of, everyone takes problems on an individual level.
And which is why my life is ruined
Meditation starts at 7:30
i dont give a fuck thanks
Are you an angel? XD
@JustSplarrow his name is IDGAF
wolf pal OMG 💀
@@wolfpal7 LMAO
Nice one! I recently ruined the best relationship I have ever been in by bring up my ex wife too many times. To me it felt the stories were just stories about a topic of event. That would have been fine if I had left it at that but each time, I mentioned my ex in the story. I've been divorced for 17 years and have two daughters from that relationship. In my new relationship, we were declaring a deep connection, profound love, best friend status, soulmate, 100% commitment and all. Now she's gone because I was not aware enough to realize that I was sabotaging this connection. I hope videos like this one help to once and for all lead me to absolutely release the past and never look back or speak of it again... Now I need miracle. Bummed in Vancouver
Thank you, you saved me from getting to a place i wouldnt know i would get out of
I'm watching this in 2019 and it was published when I was 6 2014
XxsumthinxX some people are really young on the internet at least your not lying about ur age like some kids keep it up
Joseph Shamon Bruh look at his profile pic😂
Nobody cares.
Good for you? I guess, even though no one asked?
Imagine being rude to a child. Couldn’t be me. No wonder you guys are all watching this video y’all need help for sure
Wow thanks a lot this actually help me see that remembering the past won’t help me and to live in the moment, thank you 🙏
The past is an asset from where we can draw lessons from. It's valuable and precious. I've learned to treasure my past and I like looking back. I like my nostalgic personality much more than anything else I represent. Things were nice back in the day, I don't wanna forget.
This video has done me wonders in life. Whenever I think about traumatic experiences, I remind myself that it is an concept and that it is now just a thought inside my head. I salute you
Oh my God, I never knew there was such an amazing and life changing video uploaded on CZcams. Well thanks a lot. Thank you.
One of the reasons the past keeps coming up is how harsh our system is on our mistakes. Our backgrounds follow us on job interviews, mistakes we made as young adults follow us and the system won’t let it go. What we did defines who we are...at least in their eyes. I don’t believe that, but it’s a tough one to deal with. The constant reminders.
Definitely agree.
this was so powerful it made me tear up. thank you so much. you have helped me lift a weight that has been keeping me down and crippled for months. i have been wanting to end my life recently because i was so tired of being haunted by the past. i seriously was ready to end it all because the past events were so painful that i was ready to just completely start over with a new life. i know it sounds dumb but thats just the state of mind i was in. i understand im not completely over it all but this was a huge start.
you have changed my whole perspective on.. well.. life. And I will be forever thankful for people who dedicate their time and effort to help others in need. I’m going to pray for a wealthy, healthy life for you💓
Very cool video Leo. Thanks that helped me, and like you said its a start. You're a good human soul, appreciate you brother!
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Seriously? Just stop thinking about it? Gee, why didn't I think of that before? I'll bet you tell people who are depressed to just get over it and be happy.
His voice gives me so much comfort
Thank you for providing a tool to helping me to finally know it's ok to let go.
This was an amazing video, Leo! I really really enjoyed the mindfulness exercise. Extremely valuable to get a reminder of the fact that the past is just a concept. Only the present moment is real, so the past feels real because we keep bringing it up. If we stop this habit, then the past is gone (and with it the bad memories) forever.
I’m here because I’m filled with regret of pushing an old boyfriend away because of anxiety. He haunts my dreams and I think of him every day. Its a huge and heavy discovery for me. Leo really helps a lot
That’s heavy. Thanks for sharing.
@Eric Carlson it’s difficult situation to stand in. I hope the very best for you
You were doing what was best for you. Don’t worry💗💗
@@klima1237 and have you tried reaching out to him? Maybe you could rekindle the relationship?
@@esther9210 he has a girlfriend now, has blocked me everywhere. Haven’t seen him in a year now. If I’ll bump into him I’ll just say hi and smile. I hope the best for him
It's a 7,5 years old video but it hit home, cried after the exercise, thank you for this!
Yet another amazing and inspiring video. After your "how to stop being a victim" episode this is one of the most important videos in aiding self improvement, certainly when it comes to my journey anyway. Thank you, Leo x
I cried during the whole video, its hard to let it go, especially since the person is still around in my life.
Like or comment if you feel the same.
Same..
I'm only 14 and i have developed depression over the past year, i recently left my school and move a very large distance away from hat school and i also had some good and very bad memory's from that school, to break it down i'm struggling, but this video brought tears to my eyes because i was almost like a small sigh of relief. Thank you for your help :)
Hang in there man. Your whole life is all ahead of you, and right now you get to define what you want it to be by selecting how you want to feel and what you choose to focus on.
You're only 14 trust me don't lose any sleep over it
i was going through a depressive episode because of something that happened a few days ago and i couldn’t shake the idea of it and it effected so much that i thought it would effect my future and this helped me so much thank you so much ( it’s crazy how powerful our minds are)
So simple and yet so powerful. Thanks for sharing!
I'm having a difficult time and this really has helped me. Thank you.