@satsujuns it certainly does! I was a social guy, always popular, had lots of friends and such. Now I live alone and have no friends. Thanks internet!
I'm so glad that I'm more of the solo person and do not need others just to make myself feel better or feed someone's ego at my expense. If there's an expat community here in Southern Leyte, I'm unaware of it and not looking for it. Eleven months in country and doing great with just the Mrs. and the family.
Hi Steve. Good evening. I’m just eating my dinner now after attending English Catholic Mass here in Japan and grocery shopping. It’s perfectly normal to desire alone time with your girlfriend or just hang out with 1-2 friends when in the mood to socialize. I’m like you, I tend to prefer doing something social with 1 person or perhaps 2 people maximum at once. Sure, sometimes larger groups can be fun occasionally. I think it’s important for people to realize we are all individuals and will be more compatible with some people than others. Becoming jealous can be a natural feeling we all may experience now and then, but I make an effort to avoid such feelings since it is not productive. I do often hear how ultra jealous Filipinas can get. I could be wrong, but I suspect if they were more independent financially, they wouldn’t get jealous nearly as much. Just a hunch. Having said this, I do believe men and women returning to traditional roles and values is something we will all benefit from in many ways.
Most fellow expats I run into while out and about seem to be lost in their own world. Avoiding eye contact, not returning a hello, being aloof and standoffish. Not a problem for me, as I have found Filipinos to be friendlier than fellow expats. I think they are running from something in their past, but that is just my opinion, and we all know what opinions are like. I live in a nice gated subdivision in the suburbs of Cebu City. I am pretty sure that I am the only expat there. I don't avoid people, but don't ask me for help after avoiding me. Peace. Great channel
It's not your job to be everyone's tour guide, keep them entertained, or care if you hurt their feelings because they were excluded. It's EXHAUSTING trying to think about/include others and some where along the way you lose yourself and stop living for YOU. Those whiny ADULTS can take their hurt feelings and go sit in the corner and cry by themselves. Those that need to bring drama to their channels do it because they know they have nothing original or useful to offer and need those clicks&views to make themselves feel more important, and drama gets that. They take the lazy way out and try to put others down so they can feel someone else has it worse off than they do, so their miserable life doesn't look so bad, instead of putting in time and effort to build themselves up. I agree with the "Don't put a camera in people's face." When you make a "donation" video, then you haven't donated anything, you just exchanged goods/services for your video for notoriety/monetary gain. I get wanting to get the reactions and happiness of those people getting some help, but videoing it says it was for selfish reasons, not because you genuinely wanted to help. Just like those walking tour videos (Poverty p*rn), walking through slums, videoing people and their struggles to survive, just so you can upload it to CZcams and make money. How much of that money are you giving back to those people you are taking advantage of in your video?
It's a battle of personalities, some people will get bent, and others are not as concerned as much. I found that it's like being in alcoholics anonymous, and they appoint you as a sponsor to kind of play it forward. It's kind of a way to delegate responsibility to others and allow yourself to have some space. Just like you did with Rich, and that allows them to be a part of the program, and in the process, they can play it forward to others . I know it's difficult to trust other people and pass the torch, but imitation is one of the greatest honors one can have, and having more people doing what you are doing will reach out to more people.
Good content Steve. I am more a visitor than a resident of the Philippines right now, even though I have a yellow card. Most of my acquaintances and friends when I am in the Philippines are my wife's family and friends. My efforts are always to preserve peace with them. And all it has taken for me to accomplish that peace in these last 15 years is a reasonable effort. They try hard and I try hard and it seems to work out. Yet....there are things on both sides that the other side just quite can't understand. But we just have to accept we can't understand it all. Not understanding them is not the same as not liking them, or hatred or contempt. Expats are an enigma to me. I don't spend a lot of time with them unless I see a potential friendship. I am selective in other words.
You built the sand box and invited everyone in and now you and they are having problems getting along. Big surprise. I don't involve myself with 250 people especially exspat's. I can count on one hand how many American friends i keep here in the Philippines. I can be as busy as i want or not just helping my wife's family. I came to live a stress free peaceful life here in the Philippines and i do by not wasting my time with expat's. I can honestly say i have benefited from watching your channel monetarily as well as establishing using some of the more common sense things you've put out. But i knew from day one we would probably never meet in person or ever be friends. Because our needs are completely different. You need 250 people or more to feel whole, i definitely do not. Good video Steve.
I don’t mind a get together or social gatherings but I’m not into drama. I can definitely appreciate the idea of a potluck so everyone that wants to can feel they contributed. Get invited to a pig roast and show up with a kilo of garlic shrimp and a couple of party trays of pancit. That’s how I would be fair.
Over there the world is all about jealousy…relationships wear out like old cars …just hang out with people that don’t know too much about you and when they do make some new friends
I know a lot of times.. The philippines remind me of junior high School... With all this jealousy and toxic people.. just my observation... I have a great day.. Just Another expat from Massachusetts.
Your good man, Steve. I am FilAM.I am also USVET....throughout my life, I have chosen who will be my friend. Why so much jealousy and narcissistic personality? In America, both military and civilian, therefore I learned how to live a simple life... I am getting older and looking back ....yes humility is the key 🔑 of happiness and being faithful to God . Life is Short. Enjoy every moment. Thank you.
We have reunions for our submarine every few years. We invite people from a six year period before decom, which makes some feel slighted who were on the boat before us. Have to allocate resources.
I agree, just seek the Pinay for you and micro manage your social circle. People on the low can envy you or try to put you down as a form of projecting. Not realizing your life isn't their life. Also, I've run across a lot of 'expat-weird' since I've been here. Liars, sneaky cheating unhappy no matter what they have weirdos. Also, we have expats that put down Filipinas based on how a Filipino male would rate them. When infact, she at her worse is probably better than the best he ever had back in the West. Too many (not all) expats be low-key toxic, envious, illogical, and miserable. The Pinays here have all treated me extremely well, but I don't judge them based off external none relevant factors✌🏾
When someone gives money or things or helps others in need, Matthew 6:3, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. However, Matthew 5:14-16 says let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify God. The Bible says, to let others see your good deeds, then in the next chapter it says, don’t let anyone see your good deeds, not even your other hand. The difference is, are you doing it to bring praise to yourself, or are you doing it to bring praise to God? All Glory belongs to God, Ephesians 3:20-21. Therefore, whatever you do, whether in word deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him, Colossians 3:17.
People are very fickle. You know of me, but you don't know me. And I prefer to keep it that way. I'm friendly, but I will watch from afar, watch and listen. Then make my mind up on how far I will go with friendship with someone. Could be deep, then it might be just the opposite. I have been talked about, stories spread about and I'm still here. I just move on. Great video Steve, keep them coming.
My girlfriend and I ( plus her 5 children) stay very much to ourselves... Although my girlfriend's family includes us alot in bday parties etc.. I struggle to fed all 7 of us on my $500 monthly SS retirement income but we make out ok... I don't ask/ expect anyone to help us out financially ( nor has anyone 😂) and pray to God that we stay safe and live in peace/ harmony.... Although secretly in my heart I sometimes wish that someone had a heart for me such as I have had for others in the past when I was able to help 😊
Don't take this the wrong way but it all sounds very childish. Retirement is all about managing a new life no matter what country you're in. I think when some people leave the workforce, they struggle to feel relevant and look for ways to compensate. Others, having spent their lives in a bubble, never really developed the social skills necessary to be successful in their new lives. Then, of course....... some people just suck at life.
It sounds like some of your subscribers and fellow bloggers have 'gotten on your nerves'. I get it!! The problem is basic. When you become a 'public figure' you open yourself to 'praise' or 'criticism'. Most bloggers ( no matter where they live ) are amateurs with too much time on their hands. They are hiding behind their computer screens or their opinions. My thinking is that if you can't say something positive...; don't say anything at all. A lot of these people are merely seeking their "15-minutes of Fame".
@@taximan683 If for some reason your Wife gets pissed off at you the 13A can get pulled. The SRRV can't get pulled by your Wife. I've been married to my Wife for 32 years and still chose the SRRV because it's up to me to stay long-term.
@taximan683 There are others. Read here. pra.gov.ph/SRRVisa?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwrKu2BhDkARIsAD7GBotILIMEGpMOxlPHbIAZJGZwtQcP7ZQj3dSD6PBPsR8nQ68oTp1Yd9gaAhgBEALw_wcB
Do some research, because there’s some extenuating circumstances. If you’re a veteran of the US military, the SRRV would be cheaper than it would be for someone who is not a veteran. There’s other things to consider, like your age. You could put money in a Philippine bank, or you could do something like buy a condo. This channel has some videos on the subject. Others have some good information too, like Mike’s Philippine Retirement, or Vlogger Grandpa. There’s others too, but this channel is the best, in my opinion.
After watching many vlogs over the years it seems the chismis and a local competitiveness for views creates a toxic environment. It would be the case most anywhere so not exclusive to the PH. Absence making the heart grow fonder seems to create some unwanted attention. Live your life our days are not guaranteed young or experienced alike. Record memories and have a good time in the life of leisure as they call it is really important and necessary✌️
Look. I try. But, I am an extreme person. I dont know who likes me. I know who doesn't real quick. Or I think I do. Either way, I am just trying to learn to be a part of the pack perse... I do not want to die alone. That's all. That is why i am here. If yall cant understand that then fuck ya. I will die alone. Not scared. Just trying.
Yes, but.....slowly progressing to a 2nd world status...BUT....SLOWLY! PH is still a long ways from being a 1st world country, if ever. The fact is the PH is what one makes it while living/visiting there. 😊
@@bhinbayoucity5691it's still light years away to becoming a developed country. The Philippines deals with severe over population still, not much being done about it. Their biggest export is people. People needing to work elsewhere as OFWs. It really is sad this place where a spinning it's wheels. I say that as a half Filipino myself.
I'm so fully in agreement with you. "I'm done!" It also applies to family as far as I'm concerned.
Life is 100% better when nobody knows anything about you.
It's paradise to not have any "friends". Don't tell anyone your name.
@@David-c9o1kSeems to be headed that way.
@satsujuns it certainly does! I was a social guy, always popular, had lots of friends and such. Now I live alone and have no friends. Thanks internet!
Psalm 37:3-5. Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.
Steve you’re my favorite blogger….period, more bloggers should watch your videos and take tips from you
Thanks 👍
Treat each other, like you like to be treated. Especially in the sandbox.
My father always said that no one needs to know everything about you. I believe that a few very close friends are better than having many friends.
Peace is so important!
I'm so glad that I'm more of the solo person and do not need others just to make myself feel better or feed someone's ego at my expense. If there's an expat community here in Southern Leyte, I'm unaware of it and not looking for it. Eleven months in country and doing great with just the Mrs. and the family.
I love being recluse, I know it doesn’t get me any acquaintances but I prefer to do my own thing with me as my company
Agree 100% Steve ,all the best from Norway
Hi Steve. Good evening. I’m just eating my dinner now after attending English Catholic Mass here in Japan and grocery shopping. It’s perfectly normal to desire alone time with your girlfriend or just hang out with 1-2 friends when in the mood to socialize. I’m like you, I tend to prefer doing something social with 1 person or perhaps 2 people maximum at once. Sure, sometimes larger groups can be fun occasionally. I think it’s important for people to realize we are all individuals and will be more compatible with some people than others. Becoming jealous can be a natural feeling we all may experience now and then, but I make an effort to avoid such feelings since it is not productive. I do often hear how ultra jealous Filipinas can get. I could be wrong, but I suspect if they were more independent financially, they wouldn’t get jealous nearly as much. Just a hunch. Having said this, I do believe men and women returning to traditional roles and values is something we will all benefit from in many ways.
Most fellow expats I run into while out and about seem to be lost in their own world. Avoiding eye contact, not returning a hello, being aloof and standoffish. Not a problem for me, as I have found Filipinos to be friendlier than fellow expats. I think they are running from something in their past, but that is just my opinion, and we all know what opinions are like. I live in a nice gated subdivision in the suburbs of Cebu City. I am pretty sure that I am the only expat there. I don't avoid people, but don't ask me for help after avoiding me. Peace. Great channel
It's not your job to be everyone's tour guide, keep them entertained, or care if you hurt their feelings because they were excluded. It's EXHAUSTING trying to think about/include others and some where along the way you lose yourself and stop living for YOU. Those whiny ADULTS can take their hurt feelings and go sit in the corner and cry by themselves.
Those that need to bring drama to their channels do it because they know they have nothing original or useful to offer and need those clicks&views to make themselves feel more important, and drama gets that. They take the lazy way out and try to put others down so they can feel someone else has it worse off than they do, so their miserable life doesn't look so bad, instead of putting in time and effort to build themselves up.
I agree with the "Don't put a camera in people's face." When you make a "donation" video, then you haven't donated anything, you just exchanged goods/services for your video for notoriety/monetary gain. I get wanting to get the reactions and happiness of those people getting some help, but videoing it says it was for selfish reasons, not because you genuinely wanted to help. Just like those walking tour videos (Poverty p*rn), walking through slums, videoing people and their struggles to survive, just so you can upload it to CZcams and make money. How much of that money are you giving back to those people you are taking advantage of in your video?
Steve, dont worry about little billy being upset about you not hugging him and wiping his little nose. Live your life
Steve, a great man, giving his wisdom away for free. Who does that in year 2024?
I thought we left that sort of thing back in high school 🤷🏾
@@Gmantrini I wish many did
It's a battle of personalities, some people will get bent, and others are not as concerned as much. I found that it's like being in alcoholics anonymous, and they appoint you as a sponsor to kind of play it forward. It's kind of a way to delegate responsibility to others and allow yourself to have some space. Just like you did with Rich, and that allows them to be a part of the program, and in the process, they can play it forward to others . I know it's difficult to trust other people and pass the torch, but imitation is one of the greatest honors one can have, and having more people doing what you are doing will reach out to more people.
Good content Steve. I am more a visitor than a resident of the Philippines right now, even though I have a yellow card. Most of my acquaintances and friends when I am in the Philippines are my wife's family and friends. My efforts are always to preserve peace with them. And all it has taken for me to accomplish that peace in these last 15 years is a reasonable effort. They try hard and I try hard and it seems to work out. Yet....there are things on both sides that the other side just quite can't understand. But we just have to accept we can't understand it all. Not understanding them is not the same as not liking them, or hatred or contempt. Expats are an enigma to me. I don't spend a lot of time with them unless I see a potential friendship. I am selective in other words.
You built the sand box and invited everyone in and now you and they are having problems getting along.
Big surprise.
I don't involve myself with 250 people especially exspat's.
I can count on one hand how many American friends i keep here in the Philippines.
I can be as busy as i want or not just helping my wife's family.
I came to live a stress free peaceful life here in the Philippines and i do by not wasting my time with expat's.
I can honestly say i have benefited from watching your channel monetarily as well as establishing using some of the more common sense things you've put out.
But i knew from day one we would probably never meet in person or ever be friends.
Because our needs are completely different.
You need 250 people or more to feel whole, i definitely do not.
Good video Steve.
I don’t mind a get together or social gatherings but I’m not into drama. I can definitely appreciate the idea of a potluck so everyone that wants to can feel they contributed. Get invited to a pig roast and show up with a kilo of garlic shrimp and a couple of party trays of pancit. That’s how I would be fair.
Over there the world is all about jealousy…relationships wear out like old cars …just hang out with people that don’t know too much about you and when they do make some new friends
Thanks Steve, great job.
good info, Ice Cream truck, that brings back memories from years gone by, those were the days
Yes it was
Yep your absolutely right Steve I experienced that jealousy
How is said growing up. Reaching into your 20s you realize that you're good friends you can trust . U can count them on one hand
Yes, friends (real friends) you can count on one hand......any other is an acquaintance.
Thanks for this video Steve, this helps me here too! 👍
My cat had a small sandbox in the house but my mother wouldn't let me play in it 😢
I know a lot of times.. The philippines remind me of junior high
School... With all this jealousy and toxic people.. just my observation... I have a great day.. Just Another expat from
Massachusetts.
Your good man, Steve. I am FilAM.I am also USVET....throughout my life, I have chosen who will be my friend. Why so much jealousy and narcissistic personality? In America, both military and civilian, therefore I learned how to live a simple life... I am getting older and looking back ....yes humility is the key 🔑 of happiness and being faithful to God . Life is Short. Enjoy every moment. Thank you.
You either connect with someone and want to spend time with them.. or you don't. I like helping people too but 'quality' time is another matter.
Well said.
God Bless you and your family.
We have reunions for our submarine every few years. We invite people from a six year period before decom, which makes some feel slighted who were on the boat before us. Have to allocate resources.
I agree, just seek the Pinay for you and micro manage your social circle. People on the low can envy you or try to put you down as a form of projecting. Not realizing your life isn't their life. Also, I've run across a lot of 'expat-weird' since I've been here. Liars, sneaky cheating unhappy no matter what they have weirdos. Also, we have expats that put down Filipinas based on how a Filipino male would rate them. When infact, she at her worse is probably better than the best he ever had back in the West.
Too many (not all) expats be low-key toxic, envious, illogical, and miserable.
The Pinays here have all treated me extremely well, but I don't judge them based off external none relevant factors✌🏾
When someone gives money or things or helps others in need, Matthew 6:3, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. However, Matthew 5:14-16 says let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify God. The Bible says, to let others see your good deeds, then in the next chapter it says, don’t let anyone see your good deeds, not even your other hand. The difference is, are you doing it to bring praise to yourself, or are you doing it to bring praise to God? All Glory belongs to God, Ephesians 3:20-21. Therefore, whatever you do, whether in word deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him, Colossians 3:17.
Just heard a new immigration requirement is a psycholgy test if you plan on applying for Drama-guete residency 😮 😂........
People are very fickle. You know of me, but you don't know me. And I prefer to keep it that way. I'm friendly, but I will watch from afar, watch and listen. Then make my mind up on how far I will go with friendship with someone. Could be deep, then it might be just the opposite. I have been talked about, stories spread about and I'm still here. I just move on. Great video Steve, keep them coming.
Key point Steve, we don't need this stuff in our lives.
Bingo !!👍
The actions of the Trolls... Is the Major Reason I won't have a YT Channel.
My girlfriend and I ( plus her 5 children) stay very much to ourselves... Although my girlfriend's family includes us alot in bday parties etc.. I struggle to fed all 7 of us on my $500 monthly SS retirement income but we make out ok... I don't ask/ expect anyone to help us out financially ( nor has anyone 😂) and pray to God that we stay safe and live in peace/ harmony.... Although secretly in my heart I sometimes wish that someone had a heart for me such as I have had for others in the past when I was able to help 😊
My elders used to tell me: "it is very easy to say something bad or negative." The troller's Red Bull Fix is getting under the skin of a vlogger.
Insecure people are way more problematic than secure people.
Don't take this the wrong way but it all sounds very childish. Retirement is all about managing a new life no matter what country you're in. I think when some people leave the workforce, they struggle to feel relevant and look for ways to compensate. Others, having spent their lives in a bubble, never really developed the social skills necessary to be successful in their new lives. Then, of course....... some people just suck at life.
@@christopherbradley5575 I agree, it’s a bunch of issues that cause this.
ANOTHER GOOD VIDEO
It sounds like some of your subscribers and fellow bloggers have 'gotten on your nerves'. I get it!! The problem is basic. When you become a 'public figure' you open yourself to 'praise' or 'criticism'. Most bloggers ( no matter where they live ) are amateurs with too much time on their hands. They are hiding behind their computer screens or their opinions. My thinking is that if you can't say something positive...; don't say anything at all. A lot of these people are merely seeking their "15-minutes of Fame".
It’s a mix of different things I’ve seen recently and decided to vlog it.
All i could muster was shake your hand. I am scared as hell.
What is better about SSRV compared to 13A? I could go either way. Moving with Filipina wife to PH next year.
The SRRV guarantees your legal residency in the Philippines regardless of your future relationship status.
@@Synfulz Is that the only benefit?
@@taximan683 If for some reason your Wife gets pissed off at you the 13A can get pulled. The SRRV can't get pulled by your Wife. I've been married to my Wife for 32 years and still chose the SRRV because it's up to me to stay long-term.
@taximan683 There are others. Read here.
pra.gov.ph/SRRVisa?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwrKu2BhDkARIsAD7GBotILIMEGpMOxlPHbIAZJGZwtQcP7ZQj3dSD6PBPsR8nQ68oTp1Yd9gaAhgBEALw_wcB
Do some research, because there’s some extenuating circumstances. If you’re a veteran of the US military, the SRRV would be cheaper than it would be for someone who is not a veteran. There’s other things to consider, like your age. You could put money in a Philippine bank, or you could do something like buy a condo. This channel has some videos on the subject. Others have some good information too, like Mike’s Philippine Retirement, or Vlogger Grandpa. There’s others too, but this channel is the best, in my opinion.
After watching many vlogs over the years it seems the chismis and a local competitiveness for views creates a toxic environment. It would be the case most anywhere so not exclusive to the PH. Absence making the heart grow fonder seems to create some unwanted attention. Live your life our days are not guaranteed young or experienced alike. Record memories and have a good time in the life of leisure as they call it is really important and necessary✌️
I want to play in your sandbox please gimme a chance
Did Rich in the Philippines start his own channel?
No not yet
He will soon
People dont understand me and I dont understand people.
Look. I try. But, I am an extreme person. I dont know who likes me. I know who doesn't real quick. Or I think I do. Either way, I am just trying to learn to be a part of the pack perse... I do not want to die alone. That's all. That is why i am here. If yall cant understand that then fuck ya. I will die alone. Not scared. Just trying.
Again, what is your background?Should I listen to your advice????😮
@@craigkleinfield272 I worked many years as a Theraputic Mentor for kids and families.
This is a 3rd world country.
@@user-rf4yl2pz1j Yes it is
Yes, but.....slowly progressing to a 2nd world status...BUT....SLOWLY! PH is still a long ways from being a 1st world country, if ever. The fact is the PH is what one makes it while living/visiting there. 😊
@@bhinbayoucity5691it's still light years away to becoming a developed country. The Philippines deals with severe over population still, not much being done about it. Their biggest export is people. People needing to work elsewhere as OFWs. It really is sad this place where a spinning it's wheels. I say that as a half Filipino myself.
Gold diggers and give me, give me people.
This is an unusual video from you, what happened? Are you OK? IMO, if you don't like the heat, stay out of the kitchen...same for sandboxes.
Nothing happened, I just thought it would make a great video because it concerns the way people are here.
kimbra
When they ask me for free stuff I always ask them if I am screwing them and when thesay no then tell them I am not supporting them either.