The Reason Adult Children Are Still Living With Their Parents | Trade Off
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- čas přidán 22. 05. 2022
- Generation Boomerang
More than half of young Canadian adults aged between 20 and 29 still live with their parents. After a childhood of overprotection, overindulgence, over-everything, today’s young adults are finding the real world a little too real. Generation Boomerang examines the reasons why so many of today’s young adults are slow to launch out into the world. A tough economy gets much of the blame but a peek below the surface reveals that this is a generation reluctant to give up the comforts of home. Generation Boomerang weaves together personal stories with expert analysis. Sociologists and psychologists weigh in with differing views on whether this trend is a good thing or whether we are raising a generation of Peter Pans who will never grow up. For better or worse, this new living arrangement is something many experts believe is here to stay.
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yes but people dont understand that rent is super expensive now in days. if you are making 2600 a month and rent is 2k then how are you going to afford to feed yourself.
It basically depends. If the son/daughter don’t want to pay rent and or want everything done for them at home yet they don’t want parents giving them chores or telling them what to do
Feed yourself by dumpster diving and foraging
How are you only making $2600 a month dude? To your point, I do better than that and I still cant afford a house.
I know someone is 48 and lives with his parents. The reason he can't afford his own place and if he was going to get his own place he would have to give up his car.
He told me he would rather have his own car. Can't drive to the sea or drive on the open road with your own flat.
@@joemcconnell2674and his parents should have said no way it made him sell the car to live at home . They are enabling him
Staying with parents is good. It is still prevalent in most asian countries. It is beneficial socially, financially, and emotionally, but one must remember to support and respect one's parents and not live off of them and ruin their peace
And Latino households, there is nothing wrong with it.
This is not true with all Latino's households. I expect them to do their share, pay their part of expenses, including contributing to groceries, or simply buying their own.@@VDiaz-cp9iu
The saddest part is when the parent becomes ailing and the adult child doesn't step up to care for the parent or pitch in on expenses. The adult child resents the responsibility of caring for the parent. Also the adult child may start to critique what the parent is or isnt doing stirring arguments and agitation between the two. I dont want to justify to my child what I do or don't do.
So few are gifted with your insight. I hope it all works out for you.
My father lived in my grandmother's house until he was 59 years old. My grandmother had to leave because she could no longer walk. I lived in my parents' house until the age of 61 when my mother died. Now my daughter lives with me. Still in the same house.
Gross
sad
Always thought keeping kids at home was not a good idea until my adult convinced me to ..never again!!! They’re irresponsible & have lots of excuses as to why they can’t rent yet they will spend their $ on whatever
Too bad some adults take advantage!😥😥
@@bovnycccoperalover3579most of these grown children are either spending their money on other stuff instead of saving to move out or live in a dream world
Exactly!!!!
I could not wait to go to college. Left home at 18 upstate ny. So did my brother and my sister. Got my masters at 26. Had to return home in my 50s to recover from an illness. But got better and moved and living on my own since. Bought a condo cash. 😊😊😊😊😊
You should have been in the video, though I could not get past 9:40 when they say "Kristy has a lot of baggage" and Mom asks is there stuff we can get rid of...NO...Do we have to keep everything...YES.. Daycare takes over her Mom's Living Room. "Mom does it all" I will never cope trying to do it all myself.😎
Don't blame them. Renting prices are crazy.
Stay at home.
they did not have a housing market that ballooned to 3 times what it was in the 70s to the point a young adult needs to work 3 jobs to pay for a house you could afford on 1. You also didnt have to deal with an environment that has been utterly destroyed by the past 3 generations to the point where it will be lucky if we even get 3 more. An economy that the boomer generation fubar'd to hell and back, and you also didnt have to deal with being in an age where tuitions have raised over 30% on top of the fact minimum wage has not risen to meet the rising cost of living in over 35 years.
@Michael Firsthley Most refuse to take any money!!! That's why we do home improvements for them instead. We're not all the same. Fix your head.
Exactly. Thank you. 👏
Get the cheapest place and get a roommate. Don’t have a car you owe on . That’s how you are gonna start to live outside your parents house . Any parents who keep allowing their kids to stay with them without making sure they are doing all those things are enabling them.
@@justin9202then don’t get a house ! Get a cheap apartment and get roommates and have a cheap paid off car and work one or two jobs to save for a home one day . Who knows what the housing market is going to be in five years ? And since you can’t afford a house you should not be caring either . You should be figuring out how to be a responsible adult and live on your own with your roommates. Or whatever . No parent should have to support their grown children
Having your adult children living home can be a great blessing. But, only if they’re actively making progress towards independence. They pay rent or at the minimum helping off set other responsibilities. Like care for the yard, the house, the pets. Making dinner etc.!! That said, if your supporting someone who’s wasting their life. Wasting their potential and exhausting you with their irresponsible behavior and excuses! I say save yourself because we can’t change others!!
When these kids need to pay rent more than twice the parents house payment
TRUE
And gas cost 00.28 back then, but it’s $4 now…
IF we were forced to be out by 25, imagine ALL the HOMELESSNESS we'd have..
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Wen ppl live with their parents it can cause them to revert to the belief that just like in childhood they r unable to change negative conditions and stressors in their life the thing is they aren't actually a child anymore nor r they actually in the same situation they actually can change it now but being around their parents causes conditional powerlessness to kick in
We evolved in tribal societies where we mostly lived in comunity dwelings with more families living together or if you wanted your own shelter for your own family you just build it from natural materials surrounding you. And it was like this for hundreds of thousands of years if not millions. This whole moving out and having your own house or apartment is new fenomena.
It’s ok when adult kids are giving as much while they live at home . Which means working 1-2 jobs . Saving g every penny . No going out . Whatever it takes to save up to move out . But they don’t . They abuse the privilege
Yes we know that rent is expensive now but how many of these young people also HAVE TO HAVE vacations, Smart Phones, special vehicles, Starbucks, going to bars, eating out etc. When we started out we lived on whatever we made and lived in a house with five roommates and shared costs. I left home at age 17 I was in college did not have any health insurance, no vehicles, no gaming etc. and I was putting myself through college without any help from anyone. We all had jobs where we were not happy until we moved on. I was a cashier in a grocery store working nights and weekends.
I GUARANTEE those who say they cant afford rent or whatever is because they choose to eat out and spend money in areas of life that wont allow them to. They dont want to be uncomfortable. They still want a lifestyle and they dont want to sacrifice those little luxuries
Even if they dont eat out or spend in luxuries most of the time their wage is not enought to cover the minimum expenses
Every family is different and it really depends on how well they get on together as a family. In some cultures it is even expected of the oldest son to take over the family home and become the head of the household as parents age and retire.
If I were to move back home, I would actually purchase myself a sturdy wooden shed that I could convert into my personal space and put it in the backyard. This way at my parents start to annoy me, I have a personal space to myself. Assuming that it’s large enough, I could make it into my bedroom that is not attached to the house lol. This way I have some privacy.
Glad to be childfree. I like my house for myself. I have freedom to move if I want, and no arguments about cleaning etc Also much cheaper if no food spent on them.
Help pay off your parents homes you have back up for life ❤parents are the best
Go to the thumbnail. Look at the father's face. Look at the pain. My god, that makes my stomach hurt.
I actually laugh at adults, even those older than me, who still live with their parents. They still depend on their parents. Some told me they're afraid to live on their own. Even if it's "culture/tradition" in my country. I'm countercultured. I chose to leave to mature and have my freedom.
You have a bright, dignified future ahead. Good luck, friend.
I stayed at home until 24 years old, went to college in that time and worked all throughout, saved up plenty. Had and still have a great relationship with my parents. But seriously, moving out improved my life in SO MANY WAYS and helped me grow immensely as a person. Most of my peers (I'm almost 27 now) still live with their parents and are super dependent and emotionally immature, it makes me sad.
I've struggled living on my own, sure, but it has been well worth it and I would never go back to my parents if I can help it because nothing beats the freedom, independence and personal growth I've experienced.
I dont think they should live rent free they should help pay the house bills
But if they do how can they save if the cost of living goes up and pay stays the same there’s no way unless they move out to a different state
What would they do if their parents pass away?? Learn to stand on your own when you are grown and stop stressing out your Parents
20:32 so true 👍🏿the childs life cannot be choreographed by the parent The adult child HAS TO find their way, make their way, figure it out.
Adults have to strong, decisive and develop their maturity through responsibilities and expectations to come through.
No empathy whatsoever for the parents. You allow it. If you pay for your adult kids you enable that behavior. It is a disgrace. 😢😢😢.all 3 of us were out after high school. None of us had children. 1 only got married. We are in our 60s. 😊😊😊😊
Yeah when rent wasnt $1200 a month and jobs paid you enough to survive. You spent your life ruining our future and you want to blame us? We arent the reason. We didnt help ruin the American dream. Thats people between 60 and 80 who made terrible choices and voted poorly. Now here we are.
It's not that simple when the adult children are very unwell. Please remember not all illnesses are visible.
Lucky to have parents in these troubled times.
I would like to see a study on why we boomers raised our children this way. Our parents didn’t do this so why have we? I know my husband and I are guilty of it.
This has to do with the outrageous costs of rent and housing which has more than tripled in the last five years while most wages have remained the same.
Life is just not as affordable as it once was… it was relatively cheap to buy a house a few decades ago, but it’s almost unthinkable for the majority of young adults… everyone wants to be independent and live their lives, i don’t think anyone actually likes being dependent on anyone if they can truly help it.
If adult kids are living at home they should be contributing to household cost water, sewer and garbage, electricity, Internet ,cable or dish, or salalite TV and food cost.
There is nothing wrong with living at home and my son can live with me as long as he wants and being old now he looks after me every one has to remember that they are going to get old as well and need someone to help them young people need to get over themselves people are jealous that ther kids don't want to be around them
Still live at home? This is my home. This is it. This is life, inheriting what my parents were able to accomplish when the economy functioned well. I can't make it work and nobody is gonna help me make it.
The problem is simple: most of young people’s wage do not cover their minimum expenses
Then work two jobs . Get a cheap apartment with a roommate. Only have a car that’s cheap and paid off . That alone would get everyone out of their parents house . But you want luxuries you can only get by living at home
@@sandysmith71 you are living cheap with no savings, no privacy and working double shift….and you cant even but a starbucks cup because its a “luxury “
@@fernandosouza6794 it’s the living with roommates that you don’t like due to “ no privacy “? But you will live with your parents which is no privacy either . The difference is that with a roommate you are accountable to someone else to pay your half of things so you are less likely to buy that Starbucks so you can save more to move out or to make sure you can afford rent AND you live poor when you live and share expenses with another poor person . But if you live at home you can live in more comfort and you can easily decide to keep partaking of some luxuries because you can get away with more at your parents . This kind of behavior is lazy and it’s immature and if you treated anyone else like you treat it expect from your parents it would be immoral . Quit making excuses for wanting an easier life
@@sandysmith71 you are going to live with a roommate in a cheap rent appartment with no savings until you die??😄
@@fernandosouza6794 no, what I did was live in an apartment with a roommate who split half the expenses and worked extra hours and saved my money . I didn’t go out to eat or buy Starbucks. And I paid my way through jr college this way . Became a nurse and made more money and saved more money until I could afford to live alone . No college debt . And the hospital I work for will pay for my BSN degree and part of a masters if want .
When the current generation complains that they don’t understand why they have to pay bills or they complain they don’t want to work their life away, I know where the problem is. Guess what….get two jobs, get a room mate if you have to. Life does not care about feelings or being fair. The biggest issue is going to a college, paying too much money for it and select a major that does not offer a realistic future. Paul Lermitte is the only one who understands how to prepare his sons to be productive members of society. The English woman who is allowing her daughter to use her with the 3 year old child, is an example of the opposite.
Boomers, and millennials no mention of Gen Xers… typical.
boomers are the biggest problem, they f'd it up for all the newer generations.
Many of us opted for the streets before coming back home...and if we do it's no more than a year
Gen X came up when the economy was at its best (the 90s). What is there to talk about?
@@ecclairmayo4153. GEN is much tougher then these wimps
I read of Gen X that "we were 30 at 10 and are still 30 at 50".
I'm so grateful to have squeezed in a real life before the internet. Thank you God for making me Gen X.
Do they help with the housework or does momma still have to break her back at a time she should be able to spend her last years of time and energy doing things she put off to raise them? Truthfully, I am getting bitter
Guess when the first guy said “I promised my mom I would clean the bathroom “ says it all regarding the level of responsibility.
They need to be scrubbing the floors with a toothbrush. We do.
The lady in Vancouver says a lot of her friends are educated and live at home . So get together and live together as roommates. Problem solved
Ricky tricky: What if you were 75 yrs old with fixed income of $1617/mo and rent if $1370 + utilities? How will your parents have anything after you have finally moved up & out? Will you be willing to care for them in their old age when they have very little to put in the &pot?
Exactly!
These parents are ruining their children's lives.
Basic life needs are no longer affordable.
For me, I know that I'm looking at jobs, and I'm not sure where I'm going to be. I could be working just a few towns over, or I could be working several hours away. My commute could be anywhere from a 1/2 an hour drive to a 4 hour flight (and the jobs I'm looking at already require a lot of flying while on the clock).
No companies pay a LIVABLE Effin wage!!!! and that won't keep up with the rising cost of rent ever.
I paid for my daughters nursing degree 100k a year no debt.
At 18:40 the Latino family that’s exactly how my mom believes my mom is of Latin decent from Spain 🇪🇸 and she believes like that family 😊
35:48 Patrick needs a D-day to step into reality. Caleb will have a good blueprint and role models of what to do, how to do, come into manhood and head of household.
Im don't be uncomfortable so i will make my old tired parents uncomfortable
1:54 Hate to break it to you boomers, but there's unmarried grown ups in their 30s still trying to figure out their future.
Hmm 🤔 this is very common where I live (Hawaii)due to cost of living. I actually grew up with my grandparents living with us. They originally owned the property but my father paid to construct a new house for us to live comfortably. My grandparents and my father passed away and my sister moved to another state leaving the 5 bedroom house to just my mother and I to use which is more than enough space. There is no mortgage on the home but when it comes to large repair bills that can cost thousands of dollars I always contribute to the bill. If I do leave and live on my own then the house would be extremely underutilized with just one person living in a 5 bedroom house. My Mom was thinking of just renting out the house and moving into a smaller home for lower rent but after calculating taxes she would owe she would be worst off doing that because the additional rental income would kick her income tax bracket higher and Hawaii has a law for investment properties over a million dollars and are taxed much higher than residential housing. She was thinking of maybe just renting the vacant bedrooms but she doesn’t want to give up the privacy we have been enjoying.
She is a professional student…lol
Seems like it was from around 2009-2010, bet it's even worse now.
Just after the 2008 Great Recession but. Disgusting that countries who suffered didn't fix things rather than putting a bandaid on the problems.
I"m done wanting the "American dream." NO such thing anymore.
Kick them out and stop making it comfortably for them, that's the problems!!
Has nothing to do with massive inflation, extremely over priced rent, a broken housing market or the fact that section 8 gives incentive to landlords to keep real ppl, good ppl, working ppl out of homes by jacking their rent way high and allowing section 8 scum bags to rent instead so they get tjat guaranteed check every month. We probably need to stop the social programs and the hand outs, get out economy back on track and make this country worth living in. The American nightmare has got to end.
So today's parents are different to the parents of the previous generation? I don't think so. The reason my son hasn't moved out is because he hasn't had opportunities. He's tried to get work and he's tried to study but everything costs money. That's why so many are home.
1500 a month $50 a day oh no😮 😂 some people just ain’t here
It is BAD parenting!!!!
Bad economic policy. Inflation way up. Low-skill wages stagnant. High-paying manufacturing jobs sent to other countries. You can't accuse half of the world of bad parenting and be serious.
No, the worse thing is being awake at night.
but your Parents did all that, my 31 year old is still at home I want he out but his mommy still thinks hes 12
Paying bills and taxes is a sin. People should be living in solar off grid homes and RV trailers or Futuro homes instead.
Your straight out of HELL
A man living with his mommy and daddy is so pathetic and emasculating.
And yet it is how the majority now live because of bad economic policies and greed of the older generations.
These people have it easy.no struggles or hardships to go through
That's death it's nice to live at home but that's death to a grown man or even a woman
These people have it easy.no struggles or hardships to go through - agreed and when reality hits or something bad happens to parents it’s gonna be so much worse
Would not get married. Not interested. No thanks. Not for me. ❤ my freedom. Never cooked a day in my life. Like it that way. Like my peace. Like things my way.😊😊😊😊
I feel exactly like you❤
Mickey Mouse jobs don't pay enough for 1 person to live on .
It’s very expensive to live on your own
Stop making excuses and make let them grow up I let home at 19 and never looked back!
Gotta leave USA to afford living alone.
@@jonasbaine3538 very true I believe it
Looks like it's the same for Canada, Australia and the UK.
@@bovnycccoperalover3579 Canada is horrendously expensive even compared to USA. All the Canadians I know complain about taxes and cost of living. Basic homes $500k
People living with their parents because the culture is changing and housing is really really expensive! Plus theres nothing wrong about it. Its Its your house too.
It's weird and wrong. Youre never going to establish a relationship with another person when you live at your parents house. Its unnatural not to have your own space and freedom.
@@inzerdody2023You seem to be willfully ignoring a pertinent fact, establishing and solidifying independence and getting into a relationship with someone takes a BEEFY amount of green greens (y'know, money), and access to abundance of such and having connections with certain people. The freedom and financial proficiency to date and move up in life is extremely difficult these days if you weren't born into a wealthy family or born into a family that's connected WITH wealthy families or knows wealthy people.
This isn't excuses, this is an acknowledgement of just how unforgiving today's socioeconomic and societal climate is. Plain and simple bruh.
Lack of multigenarational family business is a major root cause.
For the last 20 years all young adults were told to go to college even if it meant student loans.
It's the parents' fault they enable deadbeat behavior.
BS, these parents got soft.
100 years ago we were all out the door when teenagers grinding.
You all crazy making excuses for them.
You also had an economy that supported those endevors, did not have a housing market that ballooned to 3 times what it was in the 70s to the point a young adult needs to work 3 jobs to pay for a house you could afford on 1. You also didnt have to deal with an environment that has been utterly destroyed by the past 3 generations to the point where it will be lucky if we even get 3 more. An economy that your generation fubar'd to hell and back, and you also didnt have to deal with being in an age where tuitions have raised over 30% on top of the fact minimum wage has not risen to meet the rising cost of living in over 35 years.
Maybe rather than blaming the kids you look at your generation and realize what lead to this result in the first place.
@@justin9202 well said 🤝
@@zolabison2744 thank you. Just trying to spit some truth
My aunt lives in Guatemala. She is 65 y.o. She and my uncle had 5 kids. The oldest is in his 40s. Still lives at home. Never married. No kids. Takes care of the parents. I don't know why the West makes such a big deal of this. Ridiculous and disgusting. Look at the downsides of kicking your kids out at 18. Divorce rates are thru the roof. Single moms everywhere. Homelessness. Drugs.
Overdoses. Suicides. The US has the highest incarceration rates in the WORLD. Senior citizens in awful nursing homes. We would NEVER put our parents in a home in OUR culture. Literally no one, ever. No matter how bad they were to us, even if they abused us we STILL wouldn't toss them in a home like garbage. This shyt in the West is nothing but the media brainwashing people to put their own CHILDREN out on the streets so that companies can afford to pay us a handful of peanuts while we have no roof over our heads. Teach them to do the chores and charge them for their share of the utilities and then stfu. Be grateful for your children cuz one day they're going to be the ones wiping your a$$es when you are no longer able to. Selfish Boomers. Insane.
Lol I work in banking and still live with my Mom. The stigma was promoted to make the housing and mortgage markets richer. Most parents have enough house space and capacity for multiple generations to live in but we are encouraged to buy our own space which most of us can’t afford so we end up owing money for something we don’t really need when there are better alternatives.
So what.
Ridiculous, I bought my first house at 21, had my first businss at 23. But then I had part time jobs all during high school and worked my way through college.Stop making excuses for poor parenting and lazy kids
You also had an economy that supported those endevors, did not have a housing market that ballooned to 3 times what it was in the 70s to the point a young adult needs to work 3 jobs to pay for a house you could afford on 1. You also didnt have to deal with an environment that has been utterly destroyed by the past 3 generations to the point where it will be lucky if we even get 3 more. An economy that your generation fubar'd to hell and back, and you also didnt have to deal with being in an age where tuitions have raised over 30% on top of the fact minimum wage has not risen to meet the rising cost of living in over 35 years.
Maybe rather than blaming the kids you look at your generation and realize what lead to this result in the first place.
@@justin9202 Well its all about choices, I have neighbors in my neighborhood who are in their 20s and are buying their first homes. You do not have to live somewhere that the median houshold price if 400K when you are just starting out there are places where its only 60-100K. As for tuition I went to an out of state school so I paid out of state rates and it was quality college so it was not cheap at that time and the cost of living was quite high in the place i lived, but I managed (my mortgage rate was 14% interst as we were in a period of high inflation). The minimum wage has nothing to do with anything if you are a college grad and have any work experience. Minimum wage jobs are jobs you work to get experience and some extra money to put towards college. My current home bought in 2015? Cost me 32K in a small town within reasonable commute to much larger cities. If your lifestyle expectations (new iphone and every cable channel known to man) are more than your rent? You have lifestyle problem. A lot of people in their 20's are doing well. A lot are not, It is no different than when I was in my 20's. There were people who felt entitled who blamed all their problems on everyone else back then too,
Those people are the future generations to keep society going, it’s actually terrifying. No one is looking at the consequences of there actions for the future world
Good on you. It also depends on culture.
@@wanderingstar5673 not everyone is as lucky to be living in a place that provides the income to do that, a large majority of the country has housing that is way too expensive to even attempt to that. But what is known is that a large majority of the country cannot afford it. Even on two incomes.
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