Is There Such a Thing as "The One"? Does God Predestine Your Spouse?
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Is there such a a thing as the one? Does god predestine your spouse? Does God plan who you will marry? Does God choose your husband or wife? Does God choose your mate?
These are complicated questions that go beyond the topic of relationships and are really more theological. If you are a Calvinist, you must say that God plans your marriage because he plans everything. If you are an Arminian, you will say that God does not plan who you who you will marry because man's free will is what determines the outcomes.
Is there such a thing as the one? You will answer this question differently based upon your understanding of God's sovereignty and man's free will. I believe that God does choose your spouse but he will bring about "the one" through you making free choices.
However, I respect that some do not believe in "the one" and say there is no such thing because they have a different understanding of what the Bible says about God's will and man's will.
My biggest point is that you should make sure you are basing your beliefs on Scripture and what the Bible actually says rather than your personal opinion about "Is there such a thing as the one?"
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Is there such a a thing as the one?
Does god predestine your spouse?
Does God plan who you will marry?
Does God choose your husband or wife?
Does God choose your mate?
I believe if you talk to God and pray for the right husband, God will answer you, God did it for me and I'm holding onto His word.
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God did it for us, it's so true God does answer and we have 9 children and a few more. God have us Devine confirmation and which neither one of us ever had dating before and we did everything in Gods way. No sex before marriage and my husband and i would pray together then and now but he revealed little things to us over time. My husband showed me that he loves my spirit just as i do. God Bless you and yours!
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord ’s purpose that prevails.
Proverbs 19:21 NIV
marie kimberly naparota amen!
Amen
U r right marie but God grants us according to the desires of our heart
Marofu Humphrey yes.. Like Ps. 37:4 says delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your hearts. And delighting Him is by walking into His will so if we walk to His will our desires became what He desires for us. 😇
Amen !
When God gives you a dream...you will know. There will be no question. When God tells you something, its personal...he will make sure that you have understood that its definitely from him. My sheep know my voice. Believe and don't doubt. God knows what you will think before you think it, what you will say before you say it...Isaiah 46:10, he declares the end from the beginning. He can and will show you who you will marry, if its in his will...but you got to step close to him first and ask him. Just think it or say it. He knows you already. Hes an awesome God.
Gilbertlouise Amen thank you God bless you
Gilbertlouise hallelujah Jesus...May the Lord bless you for this wonderful comment , it has really ministered to my heart through the power of the holy spirit ....God bless you and May your Dreams come true in Jesus name...Amen .
It's so true. Ibelieve I've seen the woman I'm gonna marry in my dreams almost a dozen times now. We've never met in person but the dreams they just feel so real, it's as if God really is showing me who I'm gonna marry.
All I know is before God created Adam he said it is not good for man to be alone I know that's true I've been divorced for 9 years then raising my son for the whole time and I have not been as close to the Lord as I should have all I know is I need to put him first so he can bless me with the one I want to be with so she could be by my side and do God's work I'm just seeking confirmation and I really need it
@@lifemediauganda4859 That's a truly wonderful story friend. It sounds a bit like what I'm going through but I'm not a new believer. I've found my lifes purpose and I'm following it now. Now I'm just patiently waiting for the woman in my dreams and I to collide. All in divine timing of course. I have a feeling it will be soon though.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Mattthew 6:33*
Dallas Morgan such a powerful Bible verse
Dallas Morgan the verse speaks of the necessities i/e food and raiment
Yuip.
Adoknight Official that is not entirely true. Read the whole chapter with the help of the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit will show you that this commandment, "seek ye first...," is appropriate and applicable to all occasions, even on waiting on God, to know His choice of a spouse and His timing of fulfilling that holy calling in each of us, and any other activities, not according to our works or merit, but according to God's purpose and grace which was given each of us in Christ before time began, for the mere reason that He is our Father and also that we are prone bc of our sinful and or fleshly nature or the devil deceiving us at taking matters in our hands, instead of trusting God, and leaning on our understanding, to solve the situations challenges difficulties hardships problems and i should add, which are a fabric of our spiritual growth and well- being in Christ, that we encounter in our relationships with things, ideas and people.
Throughout scripture God admonishes, obey my voice and I will be your God. Let us take God at His word. Father in Jesus name let it be unto each of us according to Your word, accordin Your purpose and grace which was given each of us in Christ before time began!
Dallas Morgan Amen!!
God knows best. Pray about it, God will give you the answer. And please, wait,✋ stop,⛔. Don't rush just to accept anyone in your life because you feel lonely.
Amen
Yes🤘
Yes
Absolutely 👍
Most people don't get to choose who they want. They get what they can get because of the cards they were dealt in life when it comes to physical attractiveness. It's simple math, science, and logic. If God gave us free will, then he can't force people to come together and love each other
If God plan’s who I will marry.... I’ll do it!
I go with God’s plan❤️
Yessss
@@aishariley7853 yes & Jesus know the future and the present =a gift! as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .Yessss..except feelings can lead us instead of His guidance..the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com ty Aisha & all
Yes and Amen!🙏
Amen
Yessss stick to it
What you're saying here reminds me of a scripture: "A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps" Proverbs 16:9.
yes...surrender to Him..relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com..ty Val and all
Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love this!
My husband and I have been married for 12 years. It's only been in the last 2 years that we've come to realize how perfectly we compliment one another! We married in our 40's, both of us having very different lives, but both of our lives had been tumultuous. We'd both been through different hells. Our marriage was tested HARD recently, from severe bullying by extended family members. We went to couple's therapy. Our therapist is a former Pastor. We realize now how we are healing each other, protecting each other, learning together, celebrating our victories, and fixing our mistakes.
Yes, God made me for him. And God made him for me. It's not always easy, and it's rarely perfect, but we feel God beaming at us as we struggle TOGETHER.
Blessed and thankful.
Tristan Arnold amen, what a great testimony!
Praise the Lord !
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Amazing! all glory to God our master designer
Woww, it's so beautiful blessing of yours
A very old Christian once told me " you can't steer a parked car" in other words ....live Godly go in what you think is Gods direction and he will adjust your course.
Soo....does God put the car in park? Is that the reference?
@@DukeNukenum No. The "parked car" refers to the individual not taking action.
Love this
Lol lots of parked cars everywhere. She wont fall into anyones lap.
According to Psalm 32:8 God said HE will lead and instruct us,so I respectfully disagree with this person.
I love when my pastor says that God is so thorough that he requires you to seek his will so that he’s able to guide your choices 🙌🏽🙌🏽
yes so true..relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com ty Kim
I am praying for and listening for my husband. I met someone who was obsessed with the idea of the one and used that and God as a scapegoat for his CLEAR bad behavior in relationships and his previous marriage. I saw him get super stressed over the idea of 'the one' ...and the spirit of that reminded me a lot of what I used to encounter in the new age. God is not a God of confusion. Focus on drawing near to God and his will- pray to be a wife (or husband). Pray for your future spouse..walk in the Spirit and you will know them when you see him. I believe God placed the desire to be a wife on my heart so I am confident that I will be. :) But Satan wants to whisper to God's children,"It's too late, etc." so we rush into the wrong thing and accept a counterfeit. BE STILL and God will go before you!
God bless you sister 🙏🏻✝️❤
✨Thank you. I’m trust in God’s plan. I’m free to wait on God’s choice for my wife. As I’m sure she is doing the same.
God is the best matchmaker but we stil have free will.
Free will to not follow Gods plan? The reason why relationship is not working out because they not meant for each other. But some people still pushing through and they think its just challenge that they need to overcome. Instead its not a challenge but just being in a really complicated situation because your not on a right person.
exactly....free will or His will be a witness in the mean time to the lost
Free to pick Christian or none Christian ;)
God is not going to set you up with someone who you don't want to be with.
@@saynotohookups amen also soulmates aren’t biblical either theirs no where in the Bible where it says God chooses your wife instead it gives us a list of requirements from God on what you should look for in a wife/husband
Simply seek God. Ask him. Just make sure you can handle his answer if it's a no. The Holy Spirit does use the Bible and we can learn a lot from the Bible about what God has done before...But please guys, understand that he is with you always. You don't have to seek a man to ask about God...simply ask God.
Amen! beautifully and simply said :)
Perfect! Let God be in control. If only I had understood this years ago. How wonderful it is to have a merciful and forgiving God.
If the answer is a no, then there wouldnt be a desire to marry. It depends on each persons desire.
Gilbertlouise Thank you for your reply, however I have have asked many questions, that are never answered. I have sought a Christian mate that went with me best, but no answer or reason comes. I’ve given up I guess. It’s very disheartening.
@@hasba6907 We have plenty of desires that are not in God's plan
The "one" that accepts you for who you are in (Christ ofcourse) will be your soulmate
It's a lot more than that. Many ppl accept me for who I am, that doesn't automatically mean they're my spouse. We also have multiple soulmates in life. Soulmates aren't always a romantic thing.
OG CRIPPING no it's not right.
@Will Woodfall How can you become a Muslim if you are in Christ?
God speaks to us in so many ways. I’ve never dreamed about my husband but I will know who he is. Keep in step with the Holy Spirit and you will know!
Pray for me. I m looking for God-fearing and honest woman who must love Jesus
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Amen! And you will find her.
@@LizaLavolta thanks
Amen ,God's will is the best
@@dianeankunda7891 Amen
I was hesitant to like this one until you clarified what “the one” meant to you. Yes you said it wonderfully. The one isn’t the person God has for you that you’ll never have problems with or makes you “feel a certain special way” since we know that emotions can be tracked to just about anyone. What God DOES have for us who are called to marry is the right person for the right season that will help us accomplish God’s will for our lives. Not saying emotions and decision making is irrelevant here, but rather that the ultimate purpose of every marriage is for both parties to enhance each other and bring each other closer to their God given destiny, glorifying Him in the process. The more we live on our knees, the more we see who God has for us
“A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.”
1 Corinthians 7:39
Amalia Normil amen!
Amalia Normil study to shew thyself approved rightly dividing scripture ... 1 Corinthians 7:26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
What about forced marriages and divorced from someone who literally tried to murder their wife and kids? I believe God has forgiven me for getting away from that and healed me and made me pure so i can one day marry willingly to His choice .
Absolutely Christina, if you are being threatened with being murdered??? Totally horrible!!! That is demonic, not a Christian marriage. God doesn’t expect us, wives/children/ even husbands to stay in an abusive situation
@@oomybeauty...you're not going to like this response, but God only allow divorce for adultery, and he only allows separation if the departing party is a non believer... but God still beholds them to the spouse. people say that God wouldn't do that, but God says he does, and he will. read Luke 45:7, read John 3:16.... think about it, does anything happen without God's knowledge? isn't our lives predestined? What does this mean? our problem is we try to apply human logic, and common sense to God's thinking... his thinking is above ours, we will never understand his thinking... all of this is written, why do we think otherwise? ... God tests us, he puts us through extreme trials... and yet, we think that God doesn't know or ordain, when God is behind it all... you say these things are demonic, not a Christian marriage, but what does Eph.6:10-20 tell/teach us... God clearly tells us what we go through isn't of flesh and blood, but of what?... we choose not to believe, but that's on us... still what does God word says?
I have been married 3 times and now single for 21 years. I am still waiting on The One .i believe i have met him . He is 65 and I am 72. We are both Christians. Pray for us sandy and robert
Thank you for sharing this. You give me hope. I will pray for you both.
Awwwww
Well, when you don't wait until marriage it becomes harder to find the one. The Bible talks about divorce as well.
If God’s will is sovereign, then you could say that God “determines” who’s going to Hell. But the Bible says in 2 Peter 3:9 that it’s not God’s will that any man should perish. If sending people to Hell is not God’s will, yet people still go there, then that means that people send themselves there. God talks about us having free will all throughout the Bible. Just because He knows what’s going to happen doesn’t mean that He orchestrates all of those events. Similarly, I believe that people have the choice to do what they want and marry who they want, even if that’s not the person that God had in mind. If one person chooses not to marry the one that God has chosen for him/her (thereby leaving their God-chosen potential spouse without a husband/wife) I believe that God can choose someone else for the person whose original future husband/wife is now taken.
The Bible says that God can turn any situation around for good. We mess us and God re-routes us. That’s what I believe. Like you said, it’s complicated and it would take more studying but with the dynamics of free choice, I don’t see how God could possibly get His way in everything. At the end of time, God’s plans will ultimately prevail (eternal bliss for those who chose Jesus), but in this life and right here in a sinful world, people constantly make the wrong choices. If people can choose to make the wrong choices in so many areas, why would choosing the wrong spouse be any different?
Edit: In John 14:30 the Bible says that Satan is the god of this world...in the same verse the Bible does says that Satan has no power over Him (Jesus), nonetheless, Satan has some kind of rule over this world. Satan can’t control believers but the influence of sin is still there and as long as someone is sinning (disobedience is a sin as well) that person is not walking in God’s will because God hates sin. I’ve never been on board with the Calvinist view because I feel that the Bible has numerous examples of people choosing to do their own thing and facing the dire consequences. But the hope is that God can transform the lives of those who turn to Him and rely wholeheartedly on Him.
Gabbi this is exactly what I believe! Thank you for putting it into words.
Wow I agree
True! Its like saying only the elect will be save.
Wow sis well put together 🤔😯
Agreed! Well said.
I've been with the one for 15 years, and believe me, the odds were stacked against us ever knowing each other that it took several huge barriers to be moved that ONLY God could have done it. There was no prayer, no faith, no desire to know the one. This was college and party time, yet we were meant to find each other like two magnets. We are imperfect for each other and come from different Christian denominations but we complement each other like a well oiled machine. You won't know it til years after you find the one: you'll recognize who, what, and how you got to meet and know the one, you will laugh and be shocked at how messy and MAYBE unChristian-like the whole process was. Depending how dense you are, God will literally use the least expected people and situations to impose His will. You're on His timeline and His stage, stick to the script.
We just have to pray and put our trust in GOD
God chose Rebekah for Isaac. God picked her.
I’m not sure if that counts or not. Because it’s involving the Abrahamic covenant and family tree?
Abraham pleaded to his servant to find his son a good wife , they both prayed for it from the Lord. His servant vowed to Abraham to find the right one and asked God for a sign.
If the servant disobeyed Abraham, then Isaac might marry the wrong one.
God has a good one for all of us. It was Isaacs obedience that gor hi3n to where he prayed to be.
Rebekah is the perfect example of free will. Even God spoke + there were agreement between all involved persons they still asked Rebekah if she even wants.
"And they said, “We will call the girl and ask her what she prefers.” 58So they called Rebekah and said, “Will you go with this man?” And she answered, “I will go.”
(Gen. 24,58)
There is no doubt that God picks your partner. It’s happened to me and it’s biblical.
How do you know God picked them and that they’re for you? Curious
@@missjuliedee the timing is one thing but i have to say God spoke to me clearly and told me who my wife was. I was left with no doubt. Have been married 26 years
@@captainjamescook2978 wow amazing! I’m at the point in my life where I’ve been wondering about my future too and how that looks like and who I am to marry.. I’ve been praying about it quite a bit but not sure if I’m just not getting anything yet or maybe he has shown he and I am not able to notice his signs? I always question if I’ll truly know when God tries to show me..
@@missjuliedee All i can say in my situation is it just happened out of nowhere. In 1994 i started going to a Bible study group and i saw this girl there and i just knew she was the one. Within 3 weeks we were dating. And it happened so smoothly. It was definitely of God. Just keep believing.
@@captainjamescook2978 that’s awesome that it worked like that. I will keep believing. I had a handful of dreams a few weeks ago about a friend I met at church and they were all very pure happy dreams and I’m wondering what they meant. Not sure if it was signs from God or not
Great analysis of the push-pull of sovereignty and free-will.
Just because God knows how everything will work out and puts things into motion accordingly, doesn’t mean He removes our free-will. He just works through it.
well said
Lord Jesus is coming soon let's seek first heaven and God's kingdom then other things..... amen
He knows our beginning and end so our “choices” doesn’t surprise Him.
yes exactly...but the do please Him when we make the right ones. relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com .. ty Shermineh
I believe that God has predestined a spouse for those who are called for marriage. Maybe it's difficult to understand how things happen with the sovereign will of God and man's free will, but God said in His words - "Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart. For it is I who gave you those desires." Indeed God is sovereign and it's up to us to listen to Him or not if we want to be with the person He prepared for us.
God told me who "the one" was through an angel... he literally said "he's the one". I didnt believe it at first, but I prayed for confirmation over & over. I received confirmation through the bible, everytime I opened it for a while all he led me to was scriptures about Angel's & them speaking to God's people. I also, asked him if he is the one let him message me now awhile back, I know that's far fetched but it happened. I tried going another way, being with another guy... but he kept leading me back to him. Even in my worst state, God was still sending me signs. We're not married yet, things arent perfect right now, but I think we both believe in our spirit we're meant to be together. I dont know why. But after going against what God told me first, I would rather trust him with this & it hurt me than not & it hurt me. I truly believe God sent him & for some heavenly reason let me know he was the one.
yes...and God does open doors and closes them for us..relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com. ty Chasity and all
Interesting. I feel like I'm in the same situation. I have the best boyfriend in the world right now. But over the years I've felt like God has drawn me to a certain other person. Now the feeling is stronger than ever. Pray for me!
That happened to a friend of mine when she was just out of high school. They are in their late thirties now and still married.
That’s awesome!!! I’m going to be praying for that type of confirmation. What did the angel look like? Did u guys end up getting married?
Angels don’t talk to people, what you heard is a demon. I’m hoping your wisdom will guide you 🙏❤️
I love the way you explained it and I totally agree. God is sovereign and His will must and will be carried out through our own choice. Grateful for AGW!
Amen!
When I was 19 years old I met someone who made me very happy. We moved in with one another, and He and I truly loved another. turned 21 and we were not on the same page, I had my own ideas on happiness. He did too. I didn’t understand and nor did he.
We met one another 8 years later and so far we’ve truly gotten to know one another again yet it isn’t like it was before. He and I have been in relationships since, my relationships before have given me insight on how to actually be in this relationship.
I'm in my sixties now. But I believe that God had a soulmate for me prior to this but because of poor choices I could not obtain that soulmate. Now that I'm in my sixties it doesn't mean that God can't bring the soul mate that he has for me this late in my life. So I still believe that there is one out there for me and for the other person he has planned for me
Yes, you're right & the fact that we have eternity for these things is such a blessing. There's no end to priesthood, to God's unity, to marriage or to love. No end. We're all given these beautiful opportunities.
God has a perfect partner for You, which is SWEET. That's one thing less to worry about!
Actually I somewhat disagree. God grants us the perfect path for us so long as we follow Him. So long as we work to please God, our lives and partners will be pleasing to us and/or will benefit God’s greater good and our eternity will be pleasing to us.
Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love will find life, righteousness, and honor.
Proverbs 21: 21
I agree with you. A verse in the Bible says something along the lines that man makes his plans but God directs his paths.
Amen!
Gods sovereignty and his wisdom will play a huge part within our free will. Obeying the Lord is crucial! His sovereignty has a huge part to play when we make horrible decisions if we repent and turn to him. ♥️
I like how you approach this topic. "Make sure your beliefs are rooted in the Scripture rather than your personal preferences." I am with you from start to finish! Praise God for your life! God bless you!
According to scripture, nowhere in the Bible God will choose your mate
I agree with your last point. I have personally found that many people who are resistant to this idea of "the one," they assume that people who do believe in "the one," have unrealistic expectations of this person. Meaning, they think that we think we expect that person to be Mr. or Ms. Perfect. But, we know that the ONLY perfect person was Yeshua our Messiah.
To me, for someone to be "the one" does NOT mean they're perfect. It means that the person, with all they are, with all their strengths and shortcomings, are compatible with my strengths and shortcomings. To me, them being "the one" does NOT mean I give an excuse to divorce them later because they turned out to be imperfect (which is what opponents to the idea of "the one" believe). Rather, it means that because I appreciate that God took the time to make the right person for me, I honor that gift by being diligent to nurture and maintain that relationship. Meaning, scripture teaches that we ought to be good stewards of what He gives us. The marriage relationship, I believe is one of those things we should be a good steward of.
I never believed in finding "the one", i believe it's stitting down. In a quiet place, and letting God speak to you.
God will provide us with wisdom.. 🙏🏽
Isn't it amazing how miracles happen? Even while sitting down thinking it's hopeless, when God sends you a lover it means he brought you what was missing to strengthen your faith and purpose in life. Now you can pick yourself up! God bless.
Wow, praise God for the way He spoke through you, brother! This has never been explained more clearer then how you explained it. Thank you! Will be sharing!
What an encouragement! Even if one feels they married the "wrong ONE" that is still part of the Lords plan and even if they feel they have a terrible marriage one can take comfort in the fact that God has a reason for allowing the marriage to take place!
While listening, I have this thought: you can do whatever you want, you can chooose whatever you do, but you will never escape the consequences; so, in that way, God is sovereign.
I agree... I also believe that if you align yourself with God. He'll order your steps... He tell us in Prov 3:5-6 " TRUST in the Lord with all you heart..." and "In ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He'll DIRECT your paths" Continuous Blessings! Keep up the good work.
I appreciate your Scripture-based response. You are the first I've come across to speak God's truth on this matter rather than manmade doctrine, and it's quite refreshing. :)
Thank you for this topic. I believe in predestined. "What God has brought together let no man tear them apart" or something to that effect. God bless.
God bless you too :)
You are very correct!! If u are living a holy life and seeking God's will then when u meet someone u will be able to discern and screen them through the word of God that is already told u what to look for in a mate....The problem is, if u are not living holy then your will is not surrendered to the Lord Jesus Christ and your discernment is tossed out the window and u will screen a potential mate through the flesh and soul only.....If u are led by the Spirit u will run into that person and u will know without a doubt through the counsel of the Holyspirit if the choice is of God....I must meet that criteria of godly living to receive that kind of mate for that other person seeking God will be deserving of the same....If marriage is ordained by God for u and u follow his will it will happen...My parents were not saved when they met and they got saved later...God's will was still accomplished sovereignly in that matter....They did not know God and they were equally yoked sinners....They became equally yoked saints.....But, if u have the instruction prior to marriage and u are born again then seek God and hear his heart for u.....I was married and he was a believer and so was I....He was bound by pornography and committed adultery on me and I did not get the counsel of God on these things early on.....I wanted to be married!!!! I did not know the bondages he had and he divorced me ...I was not unfaithful so I am free to get the one for me....God was sovereign even in my divorce.....God didn't want unfaithfulness but he knew all of that would happen....I believe I will ultimately meet my match for the glory of God and his purpose....So God is sovereign and brings things to pass ....Hold on...It ain't over yet!!!!
Jeanette Wessner lots of great points here :)
Romans 9: What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all!15 For he says to Moses,
“I will have mercy on whom I have mercy,
and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.”[f]
16 It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God’s mercy. 17 For Scripture says to Pharaoh: “I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.”[g] 18 Therefore God has mercy on whom he wants to have mercy, and he hardens whom he wants to harden.
19 One of you will say to me: “Then why does God still blame us? For who is able to resist his will?”20 But who are you, a human being, to talk back to God? “Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?’”[h] 21 Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use?
22 What if God, although choosing to show his wrath and make his power known, bore with great patiencethe objects of his wrath-prepared for destruction?23 What if he did this to make the riches of his gloryknown to the objects of his mercy, whom he prepared in advance for glory-
👍 Thanks for sharing your testimony. 🎁❤
AMEN 👏👏👏
This was mind blowing! I love this example you used to explain His sovereignty! Excellent!
T.L. Simpson God is good!
God has given you so much wisdom 😊 I love how rooted in the Word you are. God bless you and your family!
Thanks Eevu, I appreciate that encouragement:) God bless you too!
Thank you for your insight. I deeply appreciate how you directed people to focus more on the sovereignty of Our Heavenly Father vs the delusion so many indulge in when it comes to "the one". My husband and I are married because of God's Sovereignty. Because of His perfect will & His promises to His faithful children who trust in Christ Jesus. Even in the midst of challenges that would in most cases cause a relationship to fail, God not only brought us closer to Christ, also closer than ever to each other My then fiance, now husband made a bad choice to accept a brand new firearm as payment for work he did for a friend. Due to his felony status & being on probation, he was arrested a year later from the time he'd accepted the firearm. Tucked away, he'd forgotten all about it. He was sentenced to 2 1/2 years in prison. He's currently served 28 months. God willing, he'll be home this coming March. I can only give God ALL of the glory to our testimony. God can take an imperfect situation, two imperfect people in an imperfect world & create in them a deeper understanding of Jesus & For each other in ways that may impact others through our testament of God's mercy, grace & supreme power. Thank you for the opportunity in allowing me to share God's hand & provision in my marriage... To God be all the Glory! God Bless.
If you've given your life to God and you make decisions based off of the inspirations and intuitions that God put inside of you that you know will please Him, then you will never go wrong. This is the connection between God's sovereignty and free will.
In the Biblical couples in the case of Rebecca where the servant prayed for a wife for Isaac and as soon as soon as the servant stop praying, Rebecca came out met the criteria symbolizing that was who God wanted Isaac to marry. Even the same with Jacob and Rachel as soon as he saw her he loved her. I mean he got tricked into marrying Leah (hence the free choice) but he still ended up marrying Rachel. And even when Esther married the king, even Mordecai said that she was chosen or became queen for a time such as this. So I do feel that God can choose one.
This topic is awesome. Such a respectful way of speaking on it. Go about your life and trust God's sovereignty perfect will great way to end this one.
I added this video to my favourite playlist cause it's surprisingly hard to find someone who thinks that way. THANK YOU! God bless you! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Glad you liked it!
My first marriage a disaster. My second wonderful , however far to short as the love of my life was unexpectedly called home. I'm done trying to figure it out.
Plz check Mark 10:11!
I am very sorry! :(
P.B. so,I should have stayed and died in my first marriage, I almost did. My second husband was a good man, God killed him because I divorced the first? You are a very sick person.
C J very sorry to hear. But you’re right. This topic is so dang confusing. I’m tired of trying to figure it as well.
I find it very encouraging that God has someone for you. If there is no person for you that would mean you could just fall in love with anyone.
I understand exactly what your saying and completely agree. I say as long as you stay in gods will the right person will come 😌
It makes perfect sense to me! God made me a promise that my wife and I will be together again. I have blown it over and over and yet we’re still coming back together. Slowly but surely but God’s will absolutely will come to pass. I know it. I love your points of view on the word.
Look up little light studio. There is a man on there that was separated from his wife but the wife prayed everyday for him to come back and to break him free from sin and now they are
God has already revealed to me things about the one I'm going to marry, so, it's all good.
Same here
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Praise God! I believe I know as well but I need a bit more guidance and clarity.
Bexy Evans i wish you the best God bless you!
Brethren,may I ask you how did God do that?
The more I pray about it,the more I keep having dreams about this particular man. The dreams are never sexual or filthy,they are about trust,comfort,protection and bonding and even praying!
That's why I'm asking you because I have had several dreams on different occasions,different dreams with same meaning. It's like a puzzle.
Great video brother! Complete and comprehensive. Not just a relationship video, it has the best explanation for reconciling God's sovereignty and our freedom 😊
I'm so glad you found this helpful Maria!
You are absolutely right about God's sovereignty. Thank you AGW, God bless you! Let's just hold on to the one who loved us first. Jesus. He is more than able to provide a soulmate at the right time. It is a matter of unconditionnal trust in him.
Hi Mark, this is always very refreshing and heartening to hear. Becos it taught me to just trust in God's plan. I guess it was additionally encouraging for me to hear becos i thought God had also revealed to me my future husband whom i now also admire. However, you said to look at the circumstances as well and not be too caught up in what God has revealed. Based on circumstances, things are quite disappointing becos from a great friendship where we had liked each other before(i asked him directly and he said he did and even thought of a possible future tgt but he feel not the time now as both of us were not ready). Afterwards, i guessed i ruined it by being too blunt with my feelings that i poured out to him which made him feel forced. I guess its due to my impatience. I had apologised and explained to him and tried to keep as much distance to make sure he doesnt misunderstand me as forcing him again. Things has been stagnant for many months now but i also know God might still need to do His work. What do you think are the chances of us getting together in the end? I feel i need some counsel
".........let her be the one you have SELECTED as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.” Gen 24:14
Lol bro stop
Let us call the girl, they said, and ask her opinion. So they called Rebekah and asked her, Will you go with this man? She replied: Yes. Genesis 24:57-58
Even though God spoke, the girl had choice to accept or not. It's was not a mandatory.
God made a promise to Abraham, so he accomplished it. Nothing else.
God won't choose your spouse buddy
If the answers were laid out perfectly we wouldn't grow in our faith or be bothered to ask questions.
Amen
I love how you are led by The Holy Spirit towards discernment. I heard exactly what you were trying to convey. It’s deep rooted in the greater understanding of the essence of God.
God doesnt let us down...ikr relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com. ty Gina
You've dealt with this supremely difficult and complex situation brilliantly. It's not possible to deal with it quickly, but you've used the short time you have really well. I've got more answers to life's questions than I could ever imagine, but I always struggle with this one. It would be easier if I like many other people hadn't been sent the wrong way by the endless amount of false information from the media. The films and dramas we watch would generally suggest the opposite to God's word and comes up with ludicrous statements such as "There's plenty more fish in the sea". When I first met my wife, (who is now my ex wife) I prayed about it as usual and the Lord just said "She's the one." I'd waited 15 years for her and was married 25 years. She went back into the world.
I discovered this scripture yesterday from the Living Bible instead of my usual KJV/NKJV but accepting it is like taking in the hook, line and sinker. Psalm 139:16 You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
I'm 21, never had a real life girlfriend and I been serving Jesus for almost 11 months ago. I recently started praying for a wife.. The battle against the flesh is a struggle. I want marriage so I won't sin in THAT area.
Al Ex isn’t that how divorces sky rocketed in the 50s
Don’t listen to the enemy or fall into his traps. You’re doing the right thing. Just have to patient, grow your relationship with our Lord first! And know it will come in his time not yours. 💕🙏 it will be well worth it.
@@Christina_xoxo ??
I'll pray for you
Hey brother, it’s been some time since you posted. I’m about to get married in June. I trust that the Lord is answering your prayers. I pray that you know that your wife will not be the solution to your struggle with sexual lust. You must trust that Jesus is the solution. There is no sin Jesus didn’t die for. He doesn’t intend for us to live in bondage. His way of purity is the truth and it is much better than the way of this world, but I confess that the world is very tempting. Trust in the guidance of the Spirit. I believe he will reveal to you a woman who can fit the position. It’s your job to love her the way Christ has loved you, to the best of your ability. God bless.
Psalm 139 says "our days were written in his book before one of those days came to be." That let's me know that my life is planned out and God knows what choices I will make. He does give us free will in our choices.
Amen Sister! You get it. God Bless you, and thank you for posting!
AlphaMega Radio Channel God bless you!
Mark, thank you I understand the way you explain Gods sovereignty and mans free will.
We have to trust in God's
Will, talk to Him, praise God in what He will do and Thank Him!!!!
Man of God You are so wise. I have been looking for a husband, but I am confident that God has it all under control now . God has planned my life before I was ever born , and that's good enough for me.
Amen, God will lead you in what to do when you follow him, God bless!
Always pray and waiting for God's time.
Wherever you are I pray to you my soulmate (God will bring you to me and bring me to you). AMEN.
Hi from me in West Papua. God bless us ✝️😇
This gives me hope. Because I do believe God has someone for me. So thank you for clearing this up for me. I know He has someone who can enhance my life and vice versa. He knows my heart. This gives me hope. Thank you!
You answered that question perfectly ‼️‼️ Thanks for this video !! God is good 🤗
I had my one and lost her to cancer. Hoping for another one. But I do think it's possible to be compatible with multiple people. I used to be convinced that God did have just one person in mind. Now I'm not so sure. Such a hard concept of God's sovereignty vs free will. But one thing is certain. If I expect to have a great second marriage, I must approach it with a servants heart looking to improve someone else's life and stop focusing on my own. This is really important especially for anyone who is looking for the perfect one as you talk about in your last point.
Yes I agree with you on that
Please just remember to bring your concerns to the Lord in prayer. He will guide you with His Holy Spirit.
Trust God will give us the desires of our heart Trust Gods will in Jesus name we pray Amen
This is always a tricky debate. Thanks for breaking it down! I always like to think God is bigger than our weaknesses which can be very comforting rather than having anxiety about always trying to do the right thing and not mess it up.
i heard someone say be the best mess you can be...in Jesus love. relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com. ty...ty Sharon
What an excellent explanation to help understand that although God's Sovereign Will always reigns and has the final say, it is important to know how every decision made by Man's Free Will only plays a part in helping to fulfill the sovereignty of God.
2 books that back this up and are some of the best books I've ever read are Pathways and Detours by Dr. Tony Evans. Thanks for sharing this!
God showed me my future wife at 15. I asked God to give me that special feeling that this is the one he has for me and the one that's best for me. God gave me this special feeling when I seen her.
I am agreeing with you.
God has blessed us with LIFE, and, we have the FREE WILL TO CHOOSE how each individual would like live a life, PLEASING GOD OR PLEASING THE WORLD.
True
This is good news, it's going to happen no matter what, and my choices will be somehow guided to meet the one. My hopes have been restored.
I believe in God's will about our final destiny, and how we get there is our choice…whether we want to go the smooth route to listen and obey to get there, or go through trial and error and hurt to teach us the lesson the hard way. Since our spouse isn't really our final destiny, I believe we will learn the lessons we're meant to learn, or teach the ones we're meant to teach, but there isn't "the one" to do that with.
Things Go According To Plan , When We Have a Heart Towards God that says " Nevertheless , Not My Will , But Your will Be Done." I KNOW God Chooses who We are To Marry For Sure!!!!❤💜🎁🙏
It is crystal clear you received the gifts of knowledge and teaching. This argumentation is perfect, expecially the explanation of the passage in Acts. Thank you very much!
Brother! This is on POINT! I pray for god to Help me in xyz and like almost Immediately he sent me my now husband of 4 years and I Literally learn MORE about myself then I EVER believed I would even be gifted to understand! He has Allowed my to be sooo filled with the Most anger I have WVER felt that it Broke my little spirit enough to Soften if so that Christ could tell me his True will for me and of Course it hasn’t been easy but Man it’s been smoother. I don’t get as focused on worldly validation but Christ’s validation, I am not a quick to turbulence but stand firm in the Holy Spirit I was gifted with to be assertive and not ashamed. I prayed for these feelings my Whole life and my phyco cough cough** I mean energetic husband has allowed me to reflect and mirror my worst fears into this matrix of Enlightenment only brought by my FIRST AND TRUE LOVE, Jesus Christ!
Can I get an amen brothers and sisters?!?
Thank God that He has spoken to me about “the one” He has for me, so, I wait. 🙂
Maybe one of the reasons men or women can't find the person God has for them is because their married to their cell phones. Even in my church and it's a small one. At least 3 ladies can't put the cell down. Even during the sermon. You think idols are only statues made of metal or stone or wood ? Think again.
Agreed. The plague of narcissism is more rampant than ever around the world, propagated and accelerated by: technology, social media, instant gratification, and overall increase in lawlessness and godless cultural thought. Paul warned Timothy that near the end, it was be this way. We the Church need to be vigilant in our being reminded of that, and do all we can to avoid being trapped in those cycles. "Self" is the new idol of choice today. Nothing new under the sun. "Self" was Lucifer's idol of choice when the first sin was ever conceived. Its close-cousin "Pride" rides shotgun with "self-worship." What was Jesus' command to anyone who might follow Him? Right off the bat... "He must DENY HIMSELF and take up his cross and follow Me." Jesus made it clear that "self" is the primary obstacle getting in the way of every man or woman... and the God that created them and loves them.
Wow yes.
AlphaMega Radio Channel Amen
I so agree with u
True .....
I'm one of them .
When I go to church my phone off as soon as I find a seat ...
What most important then God 💁💁💁..
It's like a job .
No phone allow.
In church I made my rules no phone .
I gotta tell my friends 24/7 put the phone down ,they can't out it aws6 smh.
brother nobody should get mad at you. keep on posting!
I am impressed you try to tackle the questions you do. We are ultimately responsible for our own choices. I believe He works In relationship with us rather than dictates our lives. That’s simply my belief.
And those He predestined, He also called; those He called, He also justified; those he justified, he also glorified. - Romans 8:30 The life of every believer of Jesus Christ has already been predestined by God. He knows everything about us, I mean if the hairs on our head are all literally numbered by Him of course it's not hard to believe that He knows who we are predestined to marry. I'm so glad to see someone else believes that God does have a role to play in who we marry and it's not just coincidence it's a predestined spouse. I've always believed in a predestined spouse, the one and only. The part people get confused about is the waiting and trusting in God part. But there again we can be assured that God makes all things beautiful in it's time and in His time He will beautify that aspect of our lives if we can be patient enough to trust Him. He's a good and faithful Father who desires the best for His children.
Well said Renee Allison Media! I enjoyed reading your comments :) God bless!
Thank you for your insight brother. I will seek the Lord more on this topic.
Amen!
Thank you very much Mark, for this video. I definitely agree with you. Many years ago I read a book called 'God is a Matchmaker' by Derek Prince who had a very powerful, international ministry. In this book he talks about how God lead him to his frist wife and after she died. he was lead to his second wife, both who were absolutely excellent women of God, praying, godly wives who served alongside Derek Prince in his ministry and who were a pillars of strength and support to that ministry. I also believe that in order to be led of God to the person God knows will be best suited to you, you have to surrender your free will to HIM and walk in obedience to His Word, and desire His will for your life - living a godly life.. You can't be doing your own thing out there, in your own way and then expect God to suddenly break into your world and point the one out....if God just dropped the best spouse into your world, would you be ready, and prepared to handle this person, and the responsibility of marriage? I have heard the testimonies of several godly couples and how they spent time praying for a godly mate, someone who God knew would be the best fit, and through patience, faithfully serving God, and continuously praying, seeking God's will, they were eventually directed and guided to that specific person. If you invite God to be part of this area in your life, HE will be faithful to lead and guide on the right path so you can connect with the one He has prepared for you. I am 54 years old, never married and no kids but as a single I choose to walk in Gods will for my life, and in obedience to His Word, knowing He will work things for me eventually. God bless you!
Praise the lord give me your holispirit to be strong and believe in your will help me to not to loose my hope in mighty name Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
YOU HAVE TO BE EQUALLY YOKED
True
@ Ivalina Passe
Yes this is vital, even if everything else fits and this doesn't it won't work. You must both be going in the same direction
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together unless they are agreed?
What do you think, be unequally yoked with a spouse or not yoked it all?
Bullet Point - well since I have deconstructed my faith and my wife is still strong in hers, I guess we find ourselves unequally yoked. Yet somehow we still seem to be able to make it work and actually have a bit more interesting and thoughtful conversations.
@@ardbegthequestion that's cool, I have a stumbling block where I brought someone into my church a friend. I think he married the woman God intended for me.
Trust in him and pray ❤️💫he will give everything you want which is righteous ❤️💫amen❤️
It’s amazing how beautifully God can answer very specific prayers
Um... I prayed to God tonight about help with understanding his word and its application in my life. Um... I typed in ‘how God works in my life’. I found your videos. I am amazed at how well I get what you’re saying so clearly. I am very grateful. Thank you for your videos.
Amen Joyous Eastmanous! Thanks for sharing this! That's so encouraging to hear :)
Joyous - ‘how God works in my life’?
also, learn to listen to that "still quiet voice". It takes a bit to learn to hear Him (Holy Spirit).
Thank you for this. I subscribed to you. I too believe that God has ordained a specific person for us but it's up to us to be obedient. We need to constantly stay in prayer and communication with God b.c when he hear his voice we will follow it. IMO people who walk by sight and nit by faith will be the one's who miss God's call not just in marriage but lots of other areas as well.
Amen, I'm enjoying your comments. Great stuff :)
Amen Amen Amen, you said it right, constant prayer and faith not by sight,
i just subscribed....and Jesus has a perfect will for us...relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew...and .. feelings can lead us instead of His guidance. Let us let.the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com ty Hannah
There is a sovereign will and anythin in that we will not miss
In terms of man's free will, I'm going to leave this comment here for the sake of anyone who needs Biblical context on free will;
It has been clear since Genesis that man has free will. This is why God placed the Forbidden Tree in the Garden of Eden; *because how can man willingly choose to follow God if there is no other choice*, and *how can man be judged for their sins (thus needing Jesus as their savior) if God is the one who allowed Sin into the world by making Adam and Eve sin?
Even so, we see throughout time and the Bible that man alone is not able to do anything good because of their sinful nature as a result of The Fall. This is why God divinely intervenes and gives Man the Law in the Old Testament so that His people are not completely destroyed physically, mentally and spiritually like other sinful nations which fell as quickly as they rose.
It is because of this total depravity that God sent His Son so that not only would we be saved from our sinful nature and be re-united with God, but also for God to do His will through us. How do we do this? Well, Jesus tells us in scripture how he was able to do what he did;
John 5: 19
"Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does..."
John 6: 38
"For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me..."
John 8: 28
"...you will know that I am he and that I do nothing on my own but speak just what the Father has taught me."
Jesus is saying that everything he does, every action and word, is the Will of God; nothing He does is of his own will. While Jesus certainly would have had free will, and even expresses this in the Garden before he is taken to his crucifixion (not by will, but yours be done), he humbly submitted to God's will in all things.
This is what we Christians should do as well. How do we do this? First, by fulling accepting that there is absolutely nothing good we can do on our own. Even if it is a "good" thing, like donating to charity or volunteering, on our own we simply do this to "feel good", to earn other's approval and/or to earn God's approval. Yet once again, there is nothing good we can do on our own, so God can never be pleased with that;
Ephesians 2: 8-10
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith-and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God- not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Instead, we must accept God's incredible grace and unconditional love, and dedicate our lives to learning more about this love so that we can better love God and others in all things that we do. We do this by reading the Bible and following God's commands.
4Tifier thanks for the comments, I enjoyed the read, great Scripture references too!
I believe that God's word indicates God has a sovereign will and permissive will. What I wonder is which of those wills our spouse would fall under, if it is sovereign then there is indeed "the one" if is his permissive will then we have an option in our choosing
4Tifier good thoughts. God bless
Thank you so much
Ya did awesome!!! This is exactly what I have come to believe as well. :-) there’s too many references to predestination . So it gives you a clue into the way God works. Thanks for tackling this subject.
My pleasure!
Thank you God bless you Brother, i been prsying fir a long time, because u heen single for 8 years i have 3 sons and 6 grandkids but I feel happy the way I am nobody believes me, I cry sometimes because they say us impossible that I connot be interested to be with someone, I cry to God because I don't want to think that I am supposed to be w/a person Glory to the Lord, I been through a lot in life and I am so happy w/My granddaughters and my sons that I honestly don't think about nothing all I do is meditate w/the Lord and listen to the preachers go to church and I am happy you have a new subscriber God has answered my prayers. Glory to the LORD. GOD BLESS YOU. 🙏
yes.. relax in Jesus and be a witness Acts 1:8 in the power of His love to the lost...in your gift...of helping people, or as He leads...as an evangelist i am a Messianic Jew..let Him lead.. ty Millie