Do This to Lift Your Mood Immediately
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Life will always have hardships, but everything you do to improve your life will run aground unless you know how to also lift your mood. It's not just happy talk. In this video I teach actions you can take right away to start feeling better, and to gradually change your life.
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Anna, I love you so much. Because of you, three years ago I realized I had severe CPTSD. I'm currently in therapy, weed addiction free, back in school, living my best life and getting better, showing up for my self. For me, you are one of the biggest blessings EVER.
THANK YOU â€
Wow, that's amazing! Thank you for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
That's SO awesome, well dune and keep loving you! đđïž
@@lulumoon6942 thank you so much â€ïž I wish the same for all of us
The good thing about knowing about other people's trauma is that we do not feel alone in it..when we realize that we are not the only ones.
Also, you canât fix what you donât know is broken, but she has a point.
You are right. Validation from the experiences of others has been very very healing for me.
Wake up an hour earlier
Write
Meditate
Excersice hard/
be outside
Movement with a group
Eat protein with Every meal
Dont talk about negative stuff
Deal with what You are avoiding
Do kind things for someone else
An expert said we heal by talking about our trauma too, and crying as well.
Thanks for listing these. I was getting frustrated.
Being outside & doing something kind for strangers really works for me. Hope you all have at least 1 thing on this list that _works instantly_ for you.
Thanks a lot
What is best to write about in the morning
@@laceyjones3046 Fears and Resentment, search in channel for daily writing
Anna, you are absolutely right. Knowing every detail about trauma doesn't make it go away. It still hits like an atomic bomb.
My interpretation of what Anna is saying is - you can experience happiness in life no matter what you have experienced in life. This doesn't mean you have to be happy all the time on the healing path (not possible) it means that CPTSD doesn't have to steal your joy and happiness. That doesn't mean that validation and therapy and medication and rehab and inner work aren't also a part of life as well. Thank you Anna for articulating this and emphasizing this. Hugs and love to you and all the people in pain here.
I really need simple, step by step directions. Preferably small words with diagrams....
The advice starts at 6:00 âš
And remember to do fun things too! Things you enjoy!
Absolutely! :)
Nika@TeamFairy
Iâm trying to quit smoking and I have to distract myself so Iâve gone gardening crazy lol Being outside and busy has been really helping.
To quit smoking successfully. Don't do it cold turkey. Start gradually diminishing the amount of cigs you smoke a day. Nicotine is a drug as a result now your body craves it. 2. Cig smoking is a habit tgat helps with the rewards system. Everything g goes well you smoke to celebrate, feeling anxious and nervous a cig will help. Start practicing ways to deal with situations that are not cig centered. Chew gum buy popsicle. 3 stay away from smokers.
I used a book to quit. The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr. It's a very different approach, he encourages you to smoke whilst you read it and it absolutely did the trick for me. Finished the book, finished the last cigarette, job done. It was as he said, "Easy".
@@lauracox3856 not me I did what I shared and it worked
I looked at really gross cancer pictures. That definitely worked!
You got this! We're all sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Yes! This is a great video. Being a few steps ahead of yourself is doable. Sometimes when I know it's going to be a busy week or a sunny week at the beach, I prepare some food in advance before I leave, so I've already made it easier to cook my food whenever I come home or something to eat over there. The weather was bad for months. But once the sun started to shine, I got out of bed way earlier to enjoy more hours in the sun. I'm socializing way more than before. Sometimes it doesn't seem like it, but my progress from burnout, homelessness, debts, to homecoming, getting past burnout, quitting alcohol, complex trauma processing and even allowing myself to finally enjoy life and help myself ahead for it, that a monumental progress. People are noticing that I am becoming radient and a happier person than they've seen me before.
Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
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I may travel down to the coast in a few days to a beach and I hope to remember to take my kite this time. At the moment it is a pipe dream but a comfortable and feasible one.
I wish I could come watch you fly itâ€
That sounds like fun
It's so important to say Jesus' name deep in our heart while we meditate. He protects us and heals us. I had terrible meditation experiences before.
I do it.
I am so happy to have found you. You have changed my whole life. I was an addict that comes from a home of where I was the scape goat. I later became a drug and alcohol counselor. I then found Dr. Ramani (sp?) and healed from narcissistic abuse and have taught that for 2 years. Now I found YOU to help heal my CPTSD. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I have shared your work with my clients and friends and we ALL appreciate you so much. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. Bless your every breath. đđđ€
Wow, I'm so glad you found the channel! Thank you for sharing this, I'm sure Anna will appreciate it :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy It was a dream come true to find her. Thank you ALL for your service. đ
I so love your direction. I have had extreme CPTSD. So much death and loss, emotional and physical abuse. I am turning 65 and learning a lot about myself. I want to help others such as women of abuse and especially some within my family.
I have physical limitations and chronic pain from degenerative disk disease and other things that can be exasperating but, still moving forward.
I am gleaning so much from you!! Thank you so greatly and God bless you â€
It seems that because we had our painful feelings dismissed growing up, we need to overcompensate it by honoring too much our pain in adult life.
Exactly â€
Iâm coming to this understanding just lately. It feels like a very important thing to notice.
I love the 1st tip of getting up earlier. I have adjusted to waking without an alarm between 4.30 and 5am. And occasionally I'm on the golf course for 6am before heading straight to work, with stick and ball.
It's the 3km walk, with rabbits, ducks, squirrels and various birds.
I'm the only human there and its priceless!
Also, it gives me more clarity on how to deal with the heat at work.
This CZcams channel is beyond !!! years of years of therapy, even try EMDR recently but Anna, you are the first who made feel not "crazy", creepy or alone. Even therapist sometimes seems to judge "anormal". I isolated myself a lot, not friends, not having love relationship for 6 years, I let so many people hurting me again and again and again, because and I have no boundaries and re-create the dynamic of my family. I don't just not trust anymore anyone. But now, I feel hope again in my heart and the desire to re-create a life. To heal and live... finally the life I always wanted. And not just the desire but to DO IT. Thank you so much Anna to make me believed again in myself.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so glad the channel has been helpful, we are all sending you our support! Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
It's easy for me to stay in the dark. It was once I starting reaching for joy that things changed, I changed, and started healing. I couldn't wait until I felt like I deserved it, had to love myself, despite myself. đđïž
I got up early today on my own, and just as you were mentioning the kitty in the window my little kitten was trying to get to the window in my bedroom.
Also, have a routine and planned healing rituals, like that hot beverage! đ
When you said being tired is not an emergency, I felt instant relief because for me it usually feels like an emergency along with so many other things all day. I'm starting to remind myself everything is not dire and is not an emergency.
I remember watching this and going to a zumba class that dysregulated me totally coz the instructor had a class that just knew everything and I couldnt catch up at all, and the girls reminded me of a bad time with my sister too even though they were perfectly neutral,chill women.I came back and cried but still do exercise everyday outside before work. :)
I then made notes with my friend on the conversation bit and my god, I do take part in small group activity even though I feel lost a bit at least others react nicely to me,they also appreciate my contribution normally. Too many icky folk surroundings really took that away from me, Anna showed me a lit path. :)
you are doing a great job! thank you!
You are a wonderful CZcamsr. I love this idea of 10 actions. We love lists here! Good idea!
This was a timely one for me! I've learned many of the practices you described, though I have avoided the Daily Practice. Oddly,I used to write poetry and short stories, and do more journaling. I want to commit to starting again. I've also learned so much from Dr. Joe Dispenza on meditation, healing ourselves and creating new neuropathways by stopping the train using breathing and meditation.
Thank you for all you do!
Thanks for sharing! Hope you can try again with the Daily Practice and will find it beneficial. Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
I'm excited for what's next!
Thank you so much for this
Wishing you offered a condensed version of your posts. I wrote out the why's but decided not to mention them and instead just request an alternate option. Thank you for everything!!! đ
This is a really helpful list! Thanks for going into the archives!
I needed this.
Thank you for posting.
I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I've listened to this before, yet perfect for today to hear it again. Thanks for your work/service!
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I can relate. Thanks
Just being surrounded by my plants & my dog helps. I'll try more on Anna's list too. I will. I _will_ do it.
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging.
My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived.
I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family.
I would appreciđate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
Are you disposing of the papers as soon as you're done writing? Anna recommends that everyone do this, and it may help to ease your worries :) -Calista@TeamFairy
~Ive found the best way to dispose of paper is to crumple it up & hold it under the water faucet & then squeeze it tight~Once it dries itd be impossible to open or read~âĄ~
Great content as always. You are so special.
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Such wise advice... Thank you! đâ€
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This video is so positive exactly what I am looking for â€
We're so happy to hear that :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Being aware of sinful behavior's while exploring a new environment and realizing pain hearing other people's expression . I ask a question ? Lord why do I have so much and yet our nation is falling by the waste side? Alone learning to pray is difficult .
LOVE LOVE LOVE â€â€â€
Play with not talking about it đ
The best I could do when I ran into one of the people who ghosted me during the time a tumor was cutting blood flow to my brain (sometimes cptsd isn't the worst thing happening) and I was sick, confused and medically pooh-poohed such that in the end I had nobody, not even family, til the ER surgery... she asked what happened to me? and my panic was prodding me for a more enlightened way to answer... I said, I died! But feeling much better now! đđ
Needed this real bad Anna, love the carrot pink lipstick on you beeteedubs†:)
Thank you for sharing đđđđŻđ¶
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
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Thank you for going over this. Iâve done them all except meditate, I just donât get it? Clear my mind in a quiet place? As of late my physical health has made my mental health go down hill- I take a few medications, they kinda help. But since Iâve been turned down for disability and my partner is divorcing me because my health has made me so angry. Then I get lost in the American health care system, go months before I get into a doctor⊠I have no income of my own, so Iâm stuck living with my soon to be x- 6 months of this arrangement has set me backwards as I no longer trust anyone. Iâm gay so no biological family(christian) Iâve lost 4 friends in the past 5 years and at 54 Iâve got no one to turn too- there is no place for me to go- oh and outside, I live in Las Vegas, itâs 112 today- any advice? Iâm at my wits end- be homeless? Itâs looking better every day- 11 years into this relationship- they are tired of my illnessâŠ
That's a lot of hard things. I hope you get some relief.
All will be well. â€
@@lisaschmidt8466 thanks, me too
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Thank you! Not talking about the things that are bothering you... so good! đ
OMG Iâve been on a potato chip bender lol but I have a healthy weight so even if I gain weight I know I can lose that easer than quitting smoking!
Nice re rerelease and profit while also spreading your message i like it! I was on your website and i like it but i wish there was a darkmode
Dear one, I just told new friends about CPTSD. Can you link me to a video that is appropriate to introduce the concept to new viewers? They were both abused by parents and spouses with narcissism. They are now married and so kind to one another. I would like to provide some information to them. Thank you.
Absolutely! Here's a video: czcams.com/video/2DeFHOEEgrM/video.html
-Calista@TeamFairy
Solutions!!ÂĄâ€â€â€â€â€
This video is more helpful than a decade of therapy.
Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!
Nika@TeamFairy
Why are so many people traumatized just by life? I suppose it happens in certain eras. I guess entire generations were terribly traumatized after the three Punic Wars or the Roman Civial Wars. Caesar had nightmares all the way to the end of his life. Maybe life is just traumatic at times and eras.
Probably because trauma is an inherent part of life and it shows us the direction we want to move into⊠itâs actually quite valuable even if painful.
Sometimes a reminder of trauma can bring it back. Lifting my mood and driving off trauma ground
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Your teeth look FABULOUS, and it's nice to see that you take your self-improvement seriously.
..like big chicklets
I lose track of time
Thanks for your effort, dear fairy! Lot's of truth in this share!đ€
What can you do when these don't work?
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Cause of all suffering is Desire!
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Do u have episodes about existential loneliness
Here are more videos of Anna on loneliness. Maybe you can find the one that interests you: www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy/search?query=loneliness
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you
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I take the time to laff at myself almost daily. Iâm so messy lolol
I found you a few years ago but looking at all of this was too painful so I stopped watching Iâm 64 years old I suffered severe CPTSD and lived 25 years in what can only be called an extremely abusive belittling marriage in every way and thatâs not an exaggeration I suffered depression blame myself for everything. My entire family was torn apart. Iâm a Christian so every person I know rejected me because my life fell apart. I lost my house and pretty much could never find a job every job Iâve ever had. I was bullied I had a meaningful Relationship since I was nine years old, Iâm actually pretty happy as long as Iâm but I live in poverty which Iâm pretty used to. I really wish I could have a friend. Iâm not depressed anymore. I would just like life to be a little more have one person who actually cared, and loved me. Iâm a very loving person. I have grandchildren who adore me, but my kids rarely let me see them. iâm one of those people who just canât seem to stop from telling everyone that I meet when I first meet them about my horrible past thinking that will make them. I am which obviously doesnât work. I thought I deserved everything Iâve been through, but I realize thatâs not true, but I would just like to learn how to be happy without regret for all that I allowed to happen to me and all that I live through because I donât know how to do anything but submit to other people due to me or say to me, anyway Iâm going to be brave and watch your videos and maybe someday I will have one person who is good to me respect me and actually cares. I know it starts with self-respect and thatâs what I do have now.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Up the booze.
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging.
My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived.
I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family.
I would appreciđate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
You know I'm not Anna LOL and I'm learning just like you... But if I were you and I had this issue I would try with just writing one thing down. Even a word even a sentence. And over time maybe you'll feel more comfortable to write more and more knowing that you're safe and realizing that you're not in danger any longer
Anyway good luck to you God bless