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So basically, how to raise a narcissist 101.
That long haired boy had 0 chance before entering this world because his mother is contaminated and extremely narcissistic. I wouldn’t be surprised he will become a she soon.
I can't even imagine what kind of tantrums he throws
Narcissism is seen as a good thing nowadays
Bingo
Worse, psychopaths.
People who take their parenting advice from Tik Tok shouldn’t be parents.
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Some people don't need kids!
People who have a trans child are bad parents
*ITS FINALLY FINISHED*
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This isn't just bad parenting, it's child abuse.
100% they are damaging that poor kid
Having fun with your kids is fine, but filming them for TikTok is not necessary to me. Calling it abuse is an overreaction.
@@Icewallowcome6 I'm talking about letting a kid do literally anything and everything they want. That is abuse - letting a kid just eat literally anything, if they want candy and ice cream all day? No problem. Totally unlimited screen time, never making them do ANYTHING they don't want to do (like, go to bed, brush their teeth, bathe, etc., etc.) --- that is abuse.
@@zzevonplant I will call it abusive. More like a spoiled rotten.
Matt Walsh is my favorite dad
The thing that bothers me the most is the thought of the utter havoc this kid will wreak on _other_ people's lives when he grows up
Actually, what is even far worse is the response this kid will get for this type behavior. He doesn't know any better and will not know...until the society rejects him over and over and over again. These parents are setting him up for a life long suffering and confusion as to who he is. And at some point he might be excommunicated by his peers, coworkers, and the society in general. So I feel bad for the kid, because of he wreaks havoc on people's lives...people will simply turn their backs on him and move on. While he will be left behind not understanding what is going on and why people are treating him poorly.
@@slaviapolandia7541 That is a very good point. Let's hope that, early on, the kid will be exposed to positive influences powerful enough to override the poor upbringing he's being subjected to
They didn't care enough to do the hard part
My thoughts exactly, God help the babysitter/ grandparents or anyone else that has to mind this child for even one hour, they are setting this child up to fail in life because he won't know how to handle any kind of authority or understand rules, poor kid won't even get invited to kids parties, he will cause mayhem at them because he is so spoiled 🙄
Exactly.@@sarahbell3038
I worked with a student who was raised like this. She would stand up on the tables and desks at school. Disrupt the other kids. Refuse to participate or do classwork. This is why I was asked to work with her. Intelligent, but used to her environment shifting for her. I didn't feel like playing that game. We worked together for two years. I received a letter from her, years later, saying thank you. She tried hard to push me away, dislike her, but it didn't work. She said at the time I came into her life, she was depressed. Wanted to die, looking for the wrong attention. I wouldn't t let it happen. She knew I cared. She never thought her parents did. I didn't make a lot of money, but I'll admit I felt pretty wealthy after reading what an impact I had on her life.
That's awesome that you did not give up on her, and she thanked you.
@@andshewas296 Thank you, that is nice. She was a great kid, she just needed someone to set boundaries.
You may have saved her life..for this, thank you.
Maybe that’s why god put YOU in her life, to save her! It seems that it was a job well done, thank you!
I’ve said that to many parents who parented the way this TikTok displays. Kids need boundaries. My 4 kids have thanked me for being tough with them when they were little. They didn’t like it at the time, but they grew to respect me and my Wife very much for it. Kids who are raised like this video, grow up to resent their parents when older.
P.S…glad you were part of that child’s life.
Do not give your children a cell phone.
It would be good if it was law that you have to be 16 or older to own a smartphone...if kids need a phone to keep in touch there are phones without internet access that they can use. The smartphone is destroying society, although I like my phone I can still see the damage they are doing all around me.
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A kid doesn’t need a cell phone before the age of 13.
@@FatherManus A kid doesnt need a cell phone
@@defectiveindustries I had terribly overprotective parents growing up, and the only thing that allowed me to reach the outside world and learn new things was the internet. A kid doesn't "need" a cellphone. They need good parents. Good parents know what decisions to make in order to keep their child safe. Some children can handle technology at a younger age, but the question is addiction, I agree.
@@FatherManusAge 13 is far too young, when they shove LGBTQ filth down their throat at every turn.
I know a kid who was raised like this. She was an absolutely insufferable child - would yell, scream profanities, hit, punch, was completely and utterly degenerate, yet her parents did NOTHING to stop her behaviour, and in fact justified her behaviour to herself and others constantly. It was never her fault, always someone else's. As she became a teen, she realized that other people, and the world at large, absolutely does NOT tolerate her disgusting behaviour. She couldn't make friends and developed a horrible self-image. Now that she's an adult, she's chronically depressed and doesn't see the point of living. Parents like the ones in the video are creating extremely ill-adjusted adults who are a menace to other people, and ultimately to themselves.
@frenchlearner19 Absolutely true, well said.
As an elementary school teacher, these people terrify me. Do you know how difficult teaching is normally, let alone if the kid has never heard no before?
Which is why I risk hellish fury to stand up to parents on this, it's your kid and you can raise them how you like...but in my classroom that hippie lunacy does not fly.
Sorry but I have to share my experience. I recieved a phone call from my son's teacher the other night. I was almost expecting her tell me she was concerned about my son because he is quiet and kinda anti social... but no.. she said I just want you guys to know that you are such good parents. So many of my students blatantly tell me NO when I ask them to do something but your son is so polite and anytime I ask him to do something he says OK and does it. Made me feel quite good about my parenting 😂
Teachers need a pay raise
@@tylersoto7465agree 100%
@@BoudicaisbackI’m proud of you guys, keep it up seriously 😊
In my region the teachers are educating the child of a supervisor in the education department. The child is completely spoilt rotten and the teachers feel powerless.
I worked in nursery schools. We had children like this - the parents would give in and give to them ANYTHING. They RUINED their children.
In China they call them 'Little Emperors' . It is horrifying , especially once they grow up and you see how fragile and disruptive to society they are . They are simply broken and unfixable . That is the goal .
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Yup. Spoiled is not a good thing. The only thing spoiled fruit is good for is the trash.
I've learned something by my dog (I know it's unfair to compare it with children). When my dog was few months old, i was teaching her to listen to me when we were walking around town (I live in small town). I wanted taking her walk without leash. I was somewhat strict, I rewarded her when she obeyed my commandement ("stop", "come back", "let's go" - that's basically it) and punish her when she didn't. After few months, I succeded. She gain my trust and I'm taking her for a walk without leash (except in town when there's a lot of people, some people are scarred of dogs). Today, during walks she can GO wherever she want, but when I say "come back" (mostly when her or other's safety is at risk) she immidiately comes back. She can DO whatever she want, but when I say "stop" she immidiately stops. She can do more things and go to more places than she would with a leash. In conclusion, all effort and punishments put in training were sacrifice for freedom she now has. No freedom was ever made without sacrifice...
@@dinchy12that was perfect🥰
They are stressing their children out SO BAD. They WANT limitations. They WANT boundaries. They don’t want the stress of having control they’re not equipped to have.
Not want but need
@@richrich2862Deep down they want it. Thats why kids who are let go act up more. They want push back from their parents which shows them that their parents care
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Exactly!
Need and want. They will test to see if there are fences so they can feel secure and happy.
I know several kids that were raised like this. They are all now mentally ill adults who can barely function in society.
I witnessed one in my own family, too, unfortunately.
She's creating an emotionally stunted child. The moment he comes against someone who says no, he won't be able to cope, no emotional resiliance.
Rapist in the making cause he will not understand the concept of consent from a potential sexual partner.
Child set up to fail in the real world
I was basically raised this way. With no boundaries or discipline. And, I became an irresponsible drug addict throughout my teenage years and my 20s. I'm in recovery now and doing better for myself, but I can assure you that letting a kid do whatever it wants is a setup for failure.
Wishing you the best of luck my brother in recovery!
I was thinking this seems like a good way to set a kid up for addiction down the line, never learning to delay gratification.
Anyway I wish you the best. It is hard learning how to be a functioning person as an adult instead of as a child. My NA family has helped me so much.
Thanks!
Praying for your recovery! Keep going🙌🙌
I can relate to this. Absolutely no boundaries and thank God I was saved from the generational curse in recovery from 2012 on. My son is his age and thank God he will never be raised like me. Congrats on your recovery!❤ we are changing generations 🙌
God bless happy for you!
This isn't bad parenting, this is more akin to a psychopathic medical experiment.
Was thinking the same thing. When he grows up and kills them both in their sleep he will have the perfect alibi.
I hope the kid grows up well adjusted and won't crumble at the first sign of any real adversity. The consequence of sheltered kids is going to stunt them when they have to leave home where nothing is guaranteed. I know a few people with kids who just don't work because they were sheltered and have anxiety. One of my coworkers has one that's 30.
It's child abuse. They are not parenting. They are just zoo keepers.
It's not even that, they're just lazy and want to spend as little time as possible raising their child, so they always choose the path of least resistance and then pretend it is some special 'parenting style' to gather likes and affirmation on Tiktok.
And it's going viral because thousands of other parents who are similarly lazy and irresponsible love videos like these, as it suppresses those feelings of doubt and guilt they have about their own parenting style, or lack thereof.
@@cherylrobinson7876 that's if he doesn't die of diabetes before he can reach adulthood with all the junk he'll eat all day long.
Please don’t send him to public school - he’s gonna be a nightmare for the teacher and his classmates😳
Don't send him anywhere else either. Who wants that in a private school that parents pay extra for?
Don't put him in a homeschool co-op either. He'd get kicked out of ours if he refused to listen and respect the volunteer teachers.
That was my comment exactly. I had a child like this. You can’t have 20 kids doing whatever they want in a classroom. And the kids do enjoy themselves when there are classroom rules and expectations for behavior.
That is why the rules for public schools need to be changed. About day 2 in the public school I grew up in this kid gets his ass kicked by another kid. Public school used to be able to give you a reality check.
He's going to get bullied for sure
I was at the grocery store the other day and a woman was insisting her toddler choose which kind of peanut butter and jelly they purchased. She thought if he picked it, he would surely eat it when they got home. She was making him look at all these jars asking him over and over as he ignored her and attempted to climb around on the cart. 😂 I was thinking he literally doesn’t give a shit lady and you’re creating chaos. Letting your child control everything does not make them behave better.
Honestly I’m tired of bad parenting going viral. Why can’t examples of good parenting go viral?
Good parents don’t want to go viral
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Because it's normal and expected thus not a spectacle that provokes derision and/or disgust.
The algorithm is controlled intentionally.
Because no normal and healthy person puts their family lives on stupid Tiktok
They aren't raising their child. They are feeding and housing him.
Whoever the "we" are, they sound like lazy pigs raising same.
Free range children I call them
They are going to raise obese, stupid children, who can't deal with reality.
"feeding" is a big word...
Imagine the kid's first year of school when no means no, I feel bad for the poor teacher that has to deal with it.
That video is heartbreaking. The kid is so innocent and they are setting him up for disaster.
This mom has no idea the monster she's creating and how much she's setting him up to fail.
Some kids succeed despite their parents
To be honest I think she has idea. Just doesnt care. Because this is just lazy parenting...
@@personalcheeses8073not this kid
That’s not parenting. There’s no guidance. The mother is making no effort to teach the child why bedtime is important. And meals should be healthy. Toddlers do say no to everything.
Bingo! I only made a couple of these mistakes out of love. We have her back on track but oh man I wouldn't have wanted to be her first grade teacher. She wasn't an accident and I thought I was ready.
Oh how wrong I was
I knew a woman who along with her husband raised a son just like what was described in that video. Today that boy (a man now) is very dysfunctional. He's depressed, very overweight, angry, and basically a horrible person. Very, very sad. And yet his parents don't think any of that is their fault. Unbelievable.
Apple don’t fall far from the tree. If they don’t look like that on the outside, it’s definitely on the inside.
I know that family too. I believe his name is Dudley..
@@biffm.2806 that’s a double set up for failure. That parenting style, and that God awful name.
@@biffm.2806Dudley Dursley
@@biffm.2806 Harry Pottah
There was a time when no one cared how children felt. Now, in modern times, we've overcorrected and decided children should not experience any negative emotion. Modern parents go to great lengths to make sure their child never suffers even when it's not in the best interest of the child.
So true.
And worse, they teach their kids that they should be ruled by their emotions. The opposite is true. We shouldn't let our emotions govern our actions. We should let our actions bring about our emotions. Do what is right and good, and *then* you will feel right and good.
Yeah but where do we go from here I mean your not suggesting we go back to old-school parenting right?
@@Tast-1934. the right answer would be somewhere in the middle of the extremes?
I wasn’t forced to do anything as a kid (though I did have lots of love which I’m grateful for) and not having structure and boundaries has affected my whole life till this day. I wasn’t sure how to manage my space/home or personal hygiene. I find it difficult to manage my time and resources so I’m always late and overspending. I have a terrible relationship with food. I have had great trouble controlling and dealing with my emotions. I’ve somehow made a “successful” life but it wasn’t easy to create and it’s not easy to maintain. I feel sorry for the kids cause this does not serve them at all.
An older woman told me her parents let her do whatever she wanted with no boundaries or consequences. I asked her what she thought about her parents treating her in that way. Her answer, "I thought they didn't care about me." As a teen, she said she tried to push her parents to take action, by drinking, using drugs, and staying out all night. Her parents' response? Nothing. This woman became even more convinced that her parents didn't care about her.
Proverbs 13:24 "If you don’t correct your children, you don’t love them. If you love them, you will be quick to discipline them." (ERV)
Gen X many felt this way.
It's actually easier to "parent" this way than to take time, energy and patience to discipline kids. It's completely understandable that she felt that way.
Maybe they just didn’t care
I was parented the same way . My father died in a car accident while he was drunk driving. And my mother never ever told me no or anything at all . I did whatever I wanted and ended up getting pregnant at 14 years old. I always felt like she didn’t even love me or care about me at all . I’m very different with my children.
Some people don't deserve to be parents.
For instance the Alphabet people.
@@herbiehusker1889 Agreed!
Yes democrats!
Mr Walsh apparently completely disagrees as he has stated in previous videos that people need to get married & have kids.
This woman is raising her child to spite all the times she was told NO by her own mother.
Dear Matt, I have worked as a pediatric speech therapist for 23 years. I have seen a lot of changes in that time. None of them good. I meet children and their families who are much like the one you posted all the time. Even if I can get the child talking, their behavior is out of control. The hardest part is that parents are being told that all of the child’s frustrations will end when they talk! Yet these children continue to be very disregulated and problems continue.
My husband and I believe in structure, rules and guidance. We raised three kids this way. They are adults now. However, raising kids “the right way” gets terribly challenged in a backwards world where wrong is right. Discipline has taught my kids good lessons, but it is such a struggle when the world rewards bad behavior and punishes the good guy. Wish us luck.
My friend's grandson is very late to talking raised during COVID he was left alone all the time with a stay at home dad who did minimal toileting, feeding, but didn't interact with child much. The two yr old is now developmentally delayed spends hours pretending to drive a car and the father reads or watches computer screen and the mother works full time. Parents who don't interact with single child are asking for delayed speech.
Her "strategy" is the antithesis of parenting.
That kid is gonna grow up very messed up.
Gonna be an asshole, to put it bluntly.
I worry about the world our kids and grandkids are going to be left with. It’s scary as hell.
The primary reason I (at age 36) have to forgo having children is because I don't want my children growing up in modern day Sodom and Gomorrah. There are other factors too, but that's the main one because they have already destroyed my generation (the millennials) and I already worry about my young niece and nephew.
@@Eric19877That’s not to mention that our generation was heavily influenced by social media, particularly MySpace in the mid - late 2000’s.
Our idea of a good television show is throwaway reality tv, complete with toilet humor, drama queens and fake relationships. Filmed in Los Angeles, where idiot directors and producers can drop us with the tip of a hat.
Our college education was already subverted. I went to college, ended up with a bachelor’s degree in Business only to find it didn’t net me anything. I have earned more money from jobs that didn’t consider my business degree then those jobs that considered it.
And now we have Gen Alpha, the kids my generation is raising, who are already turning into spoiled brats who lack any conception of reality. We believed in Santa Claus, but I wasn’t spoiled with hoards of gifts. I had to earn what I got.
Now college is more expensive than ever, it’s more useless than ever, and our job market is filled top to bottom with diversity hires. Now I’m afraid to say anything for fear of being fired by HR department over a nonsensical comment.
Our entire system needs to go.
Key word is LEFT. If we have grandchildren, they will be Marxists.
I think thats their whole goal.
It is always scary. Have faith that providence will provide a path. Be humble before the Lord and trust Him to guide us.
I miss the times when grandparents used to spoiled kids once in a while.
Now parents are, 24/7
It makes my mom so happy that all the grandkids know that going to her house means they get ice cream. She loves spoiling them and she has earned that joy by the years and years of hard work she put in raising us. These parents are turning their kids into brats and they are taking away one of the most joyful parts of the grandparent/grandchild relationship.
@@samantha9446 oh no , we've passed brats, modern society and media is raising complete and potentially dangerous narcissists.
Lol do people really care about kids being spoiled? There’s a way to spoil and still not create a brat. Let’s focus on real problems ,like parents beating their children or parents molesting their kids, or parents who are so drugged up the kid doesn’t have anything at all and stares at needles everyday,or parents who bully their kids. Are we really worried about spoiling when kids out here are being r*ped? I’d much rather my kid be a spoiled brat than dead or trying to commit, or them becoming the abusers. Let’s think about the real problems and not kids having it good. Good for them, stop being bitter you didn’t get shit in your past lol everybody who is so worried about others children who have it good are worrying on the wrong problems. Go out and focus on victims of domestic assault and s*xual assault for children if you’re so worried about a kid becoming messed up. Become a foster parent if you’re worried about kids becoming messed up, I’ll warn you though kids in the system aren’t there for some spoiling, they’re more than likely in the system because of surviving and hustling at around 14 because they’re parents are addicts and only care about the drug. I’m sure these kids would love to be spoiled. Go in the system and see what kids REALLY go through, it’ll open your mind up a lot more and you won’t care about such trivial things that aren’t even problems.
@@Moonlight-rave it is a real problem, did you like not ever see Charlie and the Chocolate factory?
But you are absolutely free to call out tiktokers who film themselves beating children.
@@Moonlight-rave The whataboutism is incredible. "I can't worry about changing this light-bulb because I need to prioritize renovating the porch". This is the logic that is being used here. One is not related to the other at all, yet you drag your own muddle-minded comment here talking about nothing related to the video. You only use it as a springboard to bring up your own issues.
There are some parenting tips I see online that do see good. One I saw was giving your child limited choices like Matt mentioned. Example: “hey kid, we have to either was the dishes or fold the laundry. Would you rather was the dishes or fold the laundry?” This gives the child a choice but still a choice you want them to make.
My friend still remembers when her father made her wash the dishes but not her brother which she felt was very unfair.
The parents are just setting these poor kids up for failure at this point, I am absolutely horrified for our future generations. And I'm a gen z.
Then these types of parents drop off their children to childcare workers like me and force us to deal with their bad (taught) behavior, then get mad at us for telling them no 😁👍
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Those parents are a bunch of liars. You damn well know that when it's time to take the kid to the doctor to get shots, and the kid says "no," it's ignored.
I agree. Total liars. They probably spoil him rotten, but the idea they never say no is just ridiculous.
Good. All vaccines are nothing but poison.
Yep agreed. They certainly say "No" when he reaches out to touch the hot stove or when he wants to run across the busy parking lot without looking.
This is one instance where the kid is right. Don’t give your baby shots!
@@wilfredneumann3413Just let it die from the measels?
I had a friend who raised her son like this. She actually scolded me one day for spanking my kids. By the time he was 4 she had called police several times on him. When he started school, he would urinate on other children. She would call me at work or my daughter who was 16 by this time to get him into the house because we were the only ones he would listen to. He eventually got so bad that she ended up giving him to his grandparents. They got to a point where they couldn’t make him mind and ended up giving him to an uncle in a different state. He was in the military and worked hard with him until last I heard he was doing well.
That is terrifying!!
@@christineroulin9518 what keeps me up at night after all these years is that one day I was talking to her and she said “you know how a lot of parents are afraid of school shooters? I’m afraid my kid will BE the school shooter.” It still gives me goosebumps.
Boundaries are VERY important when raising kids. My sister had a young daughter who rebelled at being told to do necessary things...so my sister would give her the following choice, for example: "Do you want to have your bath BEFORE dinner or AFTER dinner?" In other words, the bath was not an option! But it gave my young niece a sense of having some control over her daily routine and life. Worked like a charm. She is now a lovely young lady and pediatric nurse. Thank you Matt :))
My three year old is already outsmarting that NLP phrasing. So he gets the option of having mama or papa helping him. He knows he better chooses mama while he can.
I was raised very much like that kid. A lack of discipline as a child makes it very difficult to not be hedonistic as an adult.
Thanks for being honest 🙏
At least you have self awareness
@nickca6104 I'd like to see the stats on children raised like this and drug addiction when they grow up. I suspect we'd see a strong correlation.
@@edpoe1108 Biden family
These kind of parents are setting up their kids for failure...
These children grow up without the ability to emotionally regulate and it’s terrifying, exhausting and saddening all at the same time
Can we all take a moment to appreciate Matt Walsh here? While every one of us would instantly know how wrong that parent is, Matt has a unique ability to express why better than the rest of us ever could.
My parents both went out of their way to adopt my little sister and I from China. Adopted at different times from different biological parents, but still. I'm insanely thankful and grateful that my parents had a beautifully healthy balance of discipline and leniency. I was taught to work for what I want, we were limited screentime, eat healthy, and most importantly, be thankful for what I have.
That kid is gonna end up in prison.
Edit; By work I meant little chores such as cleaning up our toys or helping sweep a room for a dollar. Now chill.
Future prisoner... My thoughts exactly!
Kids should NOT work; Work is for ADULTS. Kids are not stupid, they know that adults work, Parents are the carers and PROVIDERS!
@ThemisPapaioannou you do understand that for most kids work is doing chores or cleaning up after themselves right? Parents are supposed to teach their kids to work for what they want not to just hand it to them
@@ThemisPapaioannouBring back child labor!
No, it will be worse. They will never be able to retire bc they will have to raise one of his kids, or him staying there until they are dead.
This kids gonna have a tough time in life when he leaves his bubble and discovers the world won't cater to him and you can't just say no to everything.
Yeah in school when he isn’t allowed to take soda
Diabetes and Heart disease don't cut slack either just because your idiot "parent" let you eat whatever trash you wanted since infanthood. I feel sorry for this kid.
Oh but Democrats will encourage and reward everyone like him for no other reason than to give them affirmation, creating a block of useful idiots that will blindly give them their vote and riot on command.
I have a 23 year old niece raised like that by Leftist parents. To list some results, she's never held a job or got a driver's license, and still lives with parents.
Some people don’t enter the real world ever in their lives.
I remember watching one of your older videos where you mentioned that "No" should not be an option for kids. And that stuck with me. I am a mom now, and I realize how important it is to have the power to say "No" as a parent.
Why does the parents get to say "no" but the kid doesn't?
Alot of parents in the nineties started this crap. Participation trophies, not giving kids consequences etc. We are now seeing the results of this in, especially Gen Z. This will not end well for any of us.
Nothing Matt has said should be controversial or even surprising to even people who are not parents. It’s simply common sense. It’s consistent with the definition of parenting.
Well said Cowboy!
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lol my daughter has had her own phone since she was 7 , she has a bedtime on school nights but that's about it . she eats mostly whatever she wants . she's on the middle school soccer team isn't obese and is a very well adjusted and healthy 11 year old. matt is right in most things , but on this one he's just wrong !
@@Hard_Right Consequences do not always come immediately. Come back to this post when she is 22. Maybe sooner. Discipline, no phone exposure and learning to accept no from authority figures are important. Even the designers of tech products do not give it to their own children.
@@aubreystrong2780 my oldest is 18 and in college for nursing , she has a brand new car she bought herself and carries an average bank balance of 18 grand, my middle has a job at the same nursing home her sister worked at all through school and bought her own car is on high honors in school just like my other two daughters ... my kids are all well adjusted but i am just not a helicopter parent!
A friend of mine years ago raised his kid to follow his feelings. Later, he confided that he raised a monster. He was a trained counselor. What did he expect?
I suspect that he didn't "expect" at all. He clearly isn't the kind of person who thinks very far ahead. Probably a crappy chess player, lol.
You should see the push back I get when I tell other adults (even parents) that I can't do something because my child's bed time is at 7pm every night (except holidays). I might as well have told them 'I can't do the fun thing you want because I have a puppy kicking appointment scheduled.'
It’s terrible when parents neglect their children, and then just buy them things as a way to compensate for it nothing can compensate for a parents attention for young children
Boundaries tell a child they are loved and cared for.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
" Mommy Im going to go play in traffic !! "
OK DEAR .
"A well disciplined child is a well loved child."- Wise words from my mother. It's absolutely true. Pleasant children are loved by all.
@@SabbaticusRex ... and a Pokemon tattoo.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!@@Godstud
In my experience children who aren't given boundaries will do whatever they can do to establish boundaries. They will start to behave badly trying to establish where the line is. Whereas children who are given boundaries grow up feeling secure, taken care of and loved. Seems like a simple enough decision to me.
A lot of the parents in NYC leave their kids with really abusive nannies. See it every day, horrible. It makes me realize why so many grow up to be psychopaths.
I saw a little 3 yr old being abused by a caregiver on way to subway I said something she laced into me very aggressive. She ran into people she knew on subway. I went up to them to say what I had witnessed and to tell the parents.
@@WindTurbineSyndrome . Yes, the bullies can get very aggressive when you say something. I try to talk to the child in a calm way. It is great you let the friends know.
Those people are just bad and lazy parents. It takes effort to be a good parent. It takes effort to give a kid boundaries, structure, routines, healthy food, limits on what they want, etc. Those people do not care about their child if they don’t set limits and boundaries. It’s sickening.
I had a neighbor who parented her two daughters this way. She literally couldn't leave them with anyone (to run errands on her own, travel etc.) because no one would have them .. even their own grandmother. Their behaviour was so terrible that she was stuck with them and couldn't take a break which is fair tbh.
Great reward!!!
She deserves what taught them, HELL FOR HER 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was raised like the kid in this video. Throughout my life I have struggled to connect with others. I have struggled to maintain jobs. I have struggled to leave my comfort zone. I was so used to just being given what I wanted as a child, so that when I started to face the dark realities of the world I wasn't mentally prepared at all.
How did you cope?
How are now?
I felt very sad for this child. He doesn't have parents that care about him.
That kid is going to be a NIGHTMARE to everyone around him the second he reaches school age.
Imagine how many people are gonna have to suffer from being around that child and that child’s parents. Imagine how much that *child* is going to suffer in the future…
If I was such a child my understanding very quickly would be ; ' Well .. my own parents don't love me . They don't care what happens to me . They aren't looking out for me . I am on my own . There is something wrong with me ? Why don't they love me and only love themselves ? '
I hope a kind hearted normal human being with a soul find these kids , an uncle , an aunt , a teacher , a friend -- and gives them what the parents are too afraid and selfish to . Before they are broken forever .
@@SabbaticusRexProverbs 13:24 "If you don’t correct your children, you don’t love them. If you love them, you will be quick to discipline them." (ERV)
Refusing to say no and discipline your child should be felony child abuse, resulting in loss of parental rights imo.
@@trevie7589 Yes, but America is the country of freedom, so the laws would never change to make that illegal, sadly.
@@Drud I think freedom has been abused in this country tbh. 😤
Path of minimal resistance. Society just thinks that everything even slightly painful or hard, is wrong and has to be eliminated
Education is hard, sports as well and everything with a greater benefit is hard
This is called "Permissive Parenting" or "Indulgent Parenting" or child neglect. The effects on the child are well-documented and include low achievement, increased aggression, inability to manage time/emotions/habits, depression, increased likelihood of delinquency and substance abuse, worse academic performance, poor impulse control, worse social skills, more likely to be overweight. I call it child sacrifice, child exploitation for the sake of making a buck (or "fame"). It likely destroys the child's chances of success and happiness in life.
True story, I had a acquaintance who only served her kid processed food, because she didn’t want him to have to eat anything he didn’t like. He came down with an autism like disorder where he would just freeze up, like a robot running out of batteries. Eventually it was determined it was diet related. That was my suspicion all along. It was a messed up form of child abuse. Just as dangerous.
Being the parent that wont say no to there child means that the child will never learn what that word means.
He'll learn someday. Probably from a cop.
Exactly, he will grow up to people pleaser and do what others want all the time. Everyone looks at it like he will be a horrible person because he isn't made to do anything but 9/10 kids grow up to not understand the word no in many toxic ways. As I don't agree with many things this mother does, I agree with a couple things. Not everyone does everything right or wrong. There is no right or wrong, it is only ones perspective.
@@cristasattler9216 Romantic relationships (and/or sexual encounters), suffer the consequences of poor parenting and sibling relationships.
@@aubreystrong2780 childhood trauma does. One has to be right within self before they can do right by another. Energy attracts energy, period.
@@cristasattler9216 I was just disagreeing with “There is no right or wrong”. The current state of society would show otherwise.
I hope these "parents" are saving for, not just his therapy, but for his lawyer.
These people are damning their child to a future of loneliness or becoming an abuser. By not learning to respect a parent saying, "No," you don't learn that other people matter just as much as you. I knew plenty of kids whose parents spoiled them & they were the kids who took my stuff or demanded to play with my toys & would cry until the teachers would get angry at ME for "not sharing" when what they were actually angry about was that they couldn't give the smack upside the head the kid NEEDED. He was saying it about dogs,but I think it's even more applicable for kids when Don Sullivan said, "when you say that you _spoil_ your dog, what you really mean to say is that you're __RUINING_ your dog." Like animals, kids need boundaries. Those boundaries teach them that other people need to be respected, too, that their rights are just as important as yours. If you want to be respected, you need to respect others.
I enjoy true crime and I can bet I'll be hearing about him in an episode in a few years
Correction: if you want to be respected, then you need to respect yourself first. Respecting others is a natural consequence of this.
My wife and I are thinking about having kids soon. However, seeing that kids like these will grow up to be our potential kids' classmates and colleagues..horrifies us.
My mother always said. "I'm your mother not your friend. My job is to groom you into a respectful member of society"
I thank her for that
Did you ever rebel against her as a teen?
What if the child says *no* to coming out of a busy street? What if he says *no* to a life giving medicine or vax? What if he says *no* when asked to get off dads ladder to the roof? Does no mean no then? How about if he refuses to hand over the Clorox he found and wants to drink it? These parents are not parenting at all.
This kid is going to end up in prison.
Or in a pine box early.
@@talia8581A coffin for anyone wondering.
Nah he will,probably be a politician.
@mikepalmer2219 why not both?
My moms best friend raised her daughter like this. She has become the most insufferable, miserable, nasty, and meanest woman I’ve ever met. She screams at her own mother in front of everyone, calling her every name in the book. Apparently she’s married, but her husband spends every minute of his free time golfing with his buddies.
This is why death penalty should be a thing for certain parents, when the child becomes a criminal and there is clear evidence that the parent is also at fault.
I grew up not spoiled, but I was certainly not disciplined. I always used to be jealous of my friends cause they got grounded and I did not.
I struggle to this day. I AM getting better finally, after many years.
Parents today are children in adult bodies, so I'm not surprised that the kid wears the pants in the family.
Disney Adults . Forever Children . Arrested Development . Exactly right ... never taught responsibility , common sense , morality , sacrifice , honor - NONE OF IT . . Their heads are pure mush .
The strategy here is basically 'I've decided I'm too lazy to parent my child'
These parents are really just being lazy. It's as you say Matt, parenting is in essence helping to eliminate the confusion and uncertainty inherent to being a new soul. That is a big responsibility, and it requires effort and conviction. So by telling their children that it's all up them, they are effectively shifting this massive burden off of themselves, and onto their children. When you look at it like that it seems downright abusive!
I really hope we can come back here in 15 years or so and see how this kid turns out. Someone make this a scheduled return.
We'll likely read about him in the news- in the crimes report.
Poor kid…real life is gonna hurt!
In my opinion the hardest thing of parenting now is that both parents have to work full-time and often overtime for less financial security than former generations got to enjoy with only one working full-time.
Everything you said about parenting and child-rearing is 100% true. I tell my children (and have told them ever since they were born) that my job as a mother is to teach them everything they need to know so they can function in society one day. That included disciplining them, giving them boundaries, setting expectations, and teaching them that there really is a right/wrong/good/bad. I taught them these things because I love them. It wasn't easy to discipline them, especially when they cried. It broke my heart to see them sad, but I love my children too much to not teach them. The truth is many will speak into their lives, but I had to make sure that my voice was the loudest. They listen to me because I built a relationship with them, and they trust me. They may not like or appreciate having boundaries and discipline, nor do they always agree with them, but they understand that they are there to ensure they will learn and understand our values so as to succeed in life. They have understood this better as they have gotten older.
My sister-in-law once scolded me for disciplining my oldest child when she was a toddler. She told me not to "break her spirit." I told her that I didn't plan to break her spirit. But two things: 1) when that spirit is directed right at me, it will get "broken." 2) Even if I wanted to break her spirit, I couldn't. That is a God-instilled energy that is part of her core makeup. Instead, I told my sister-in-law that I was trying to harness her spirit and direct it toward something productive that would help her grow into the person God had created her to be.
And it paid off! This harnessing has given my daughter the freedom and discernment to fully be who she was created to be, and as a result, she now has the tools to function beautifully in society. She graduated from high school last year and is attending a Christian college. She has so much awareness of herself and those around her that she is able to successfully navigate relationships of all different types. I'm so proud of her as I watch her process through different opportunities and "storms" that she encounters. She possesses maturity and confidence, and I'm not the only one who sees it. Peers and teachers acknowledge her confidence and ability to handle whatever gets thrown at her. She's got it! My two other children are growing and thriving in the exact same way, and I look forward to seeing them soar once they are on their own. Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old, he will not depart from it.
"Kids need structure, boundaries, routine and guidance". Absolutely true! But Matt forgot the most important thing ; they need a good rolemodel. Someone who teaches/leads by example from a very early age (at least when they start to crawl, touch, explore etc) So many people seem to think that the 'real' parenting starts at the teen years .... The first 7 years of a childs life are the most crucial and will set the foundation.
Being a good parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world. If parenting is easy, meaning you don’t fight or have to push your kids to do things they don’t want. Then you are parenting incorrectly. Kids are always pushing boundaries because that is how they learn. It’s up to is as parents to make sure they don’t cross the boundaries that can either hurt them today or hurt them in the future. Last point: best parenting advice I ever received. “Your goal as a parent is not to be friends with your kids but turn your kids into adults you want to be friends with.”
How do you get someone to watch this without saying YOU ARE A TERRIBLE PARENT -
In the last year + of getting to understand Matt's views, I could not be more appreciative for his important presence in society today. He helped me learn to articulate my views on these very sensitive topics, Thank you for the sanity, clarity , honesty , God Bless you and yours.
It should be written in law that you have to be 16 or older to have a smartphone, there are basic phones if your child needs a phone to keep in contact with the parents. They are dangerous and are causing all sorts of damage to society and the moral attitude to others. I have watched the world fall apart in my lifetime, I'm 62 and everything has gotten worse since around 2004...and is steadily increasing as the years go by.
So sad, as it's an incredible piece of technology.
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Smartphone≠destruction
I'll let children at the age of 10 to borrow my secondary phone
If you let the mindset of "smartphone=destruction" then you wouldn't progress as a person
@Irishmando155And no one needs a phone. Convenient, but not necessary.
@Irishmando155 dude youre not wrong. That is the delicate balancing act between freedom and security. The people with the most freedom on the planet are homeless, they have no restrictions, no obligations, no responsibilities, nothing that requires their time and attention, they are completely and totally free. The people with the most security on the planet are in solitary confinement in prison. Behind so many high walls, armed guards, locked doors, leg shackles, handcuffs, security dogs, etc.
Extremes of anything are always bad. Thats why they're called extremes.
Still... we have laws that say you can't drive a car until youre 16. Because the potential to cause damage to themselves and others is so high, a person needs to meet a minimum threshold for maturity before they can be entrusted with the keys to a car. I dont see that as any different...the fact is, we know that screen time and social media is detrimental to adult's mental health and well being, of course it must be even worse for the age group of humans who are still stabilizing sex hormones and learning to negotiate the breadth of their emotions. There are numerous studies and testimonies from the people that invented and optimized social media and they all say the same thing, it is overwhelming negative on our psyche. This is a huge part of what is destroying the morale and character of our young men and causing them to withdraw from the world.
I read a post on Reddit today about a 19yo "man" who is upset because his GF was sharing details of their sex life with her friends. Those details include her peeing on him because he wants her too. That is not okay. That is not healthy. The people who push this whole "don't kink shame" thing are the same kind of people who say "healthy at any weight". It boils down to this...its never skinny people that say being fat can still be healthy. And it isn't someone with a good moral compass and healthy sex life that tells you not to shame them because they like human feces on their face. There isn't a single confident, successful, well adjusted person who is into that stuff. That is a young man with serious self-esteem and confidence issues. Just the same as the hot wife stuff and watching other men have sex with your woman. That isnt enlightened. The men who "get off" on that do so from a place of deep shame and believe they are incapable of being adequate themselves. That is the whole psychology behind it. And that is 100% because of smart phones and the constant free flowing pornography that is available at the touch of a screen. Some sugar is okay, good even. But too much and your teeth rot out of your head. Its the same with sex, only its your soul that's rotting.
Yes, if you need to introduce technology to children have a family computer out in the open so a parent can pop their head in every once in a while. Also limit their time by setting specific days they are allowed to use it. I was raised in a family that only allowed technology on weekends, Friday Saturday and Sunday. And other day of the week was a no no and you would be punished for not respecting the rule.
What in The Damn Twilight Zone is wrong with people??? 🤷🏻♀️
Forest Whitaker has entered the chat lol
I have a friend who raised his kid that way. He has had all kinds of situations with no coping mechanisms. He had not finished anything that he has started. Now, playing video games in dad's basement and working 4 hours a week at a local coffee shop.
Thank you for mentioning how a lack of routine and structure creates anxiety. The most worrying thing in this video for me was the lack of a bedtime routine. Living in that sort of chaos is going to wreak psychological and physical havoc on that poor kid. Even adults need structure and routine!
I babysat a lot when I was a teenager. One couple I babysat for once (and once only) told me they basically let their 2-year-old decide when he wanted to go to bed. As soon as his parents left he threw himself down on the floor and had an epic tantrum for about 30 minutes, then fell asleep where he lay. I picked him up and put him in his crib. Easiest babysitting gig ever.😄But I have noticed that kids with permissive parents usually seem to have the greatest separation anxieties.
One thing I’ve learned as a parent of four grown children, no parenting style works for all kids. Kids are unique and a parent who can recognize the differences and adjust accordingly are few and far between. Does the child know they’re loved unconditionally? I think that determines a lot of the outcome.
This video spoke to my heart. I grew up in an environment without structure, and without guidance. I have been so lost throughout my life. Growing up, I wasn't as mature as most other kids. Throughout my life I have been deeply depressed, deeply anxious, and hedonistic. I also was not taught how to control myself as a child, so I lack self-control as an adult. Over the past few years I have been trying to put my life in order. I have been making some progress, but it's very hard.
Praying for you my friend! I know from experience it is so hard to learn how to function as an adult, instead of throughout childhood the way it is supposed to go.
I wish you good luck, and I wish your parents had given you structure and boundaries because that’s what kids need to feel secure and loved. I’m disappointed that they didn’t do their job and have made you suffer the consequences of their poor decisions.
I can totally relate....
Matt Walsh needs to write a parenting book. Everything he is saying about parenting is rooted in child psychology. I wish that parents were given lessons about child psychology when they have their first kid. I feel like this type of education would be highly beneficial to society.
I hope they plan to homeschool their child. He would be an absolute nightmare for any adult having to work with them in school. In school, a child has to do what the adult in the room tells them too. This boy is learning to be a nasty little tyrant that expects the world to revolve around him. So me day they will this tyrant out into the world, and it’s not going to be pretty. That poor child is getting set up for an awful lifetime.
This kid will have trouble making friends, trouble in school, trouble in the workforce. They're setting him up to fail. It's another form of child abuse.
Proverbs 13:24 "If you don’t correct your children, you don’t love them. If you love them, you will be quick to discipline them." (ERV)
I'm a teacher and some of the most heartbreaking kids to teach are the ones who've been so spoiled that literally no other kids want to be their friends. They get bullied because they bully. Their parents have committed the cardinal parenting sin that Jordan Peterson spoke about, which is failing to ensure their child is someone other people can like.
Matt is very correct about this. My parents divorced when I was 3 and I had a very unstructured childhood, with a decent amount of abuse thrown in there as well (from a family friend -- not from parents). I have suffered tremendously with anxiety and attention issues as an adult. My identity is malformed because I was never able to develop real interests as a child and pursue them, or learn a real set of values and put them into practice.
I have accepted that it's going to take years to unfuck my brain at this point, but one thing is for sure -- I will do everything I can to ensure my young daughter is not doomed to this fate.
I have a 3 year old daughter, a 1 and a half year old daughter, and my wife is pregnant with our third. This is basically the exact opposite of the way we parent. We have very limited TV time, no phones or ipads with the kids, candy very rarely if earned, strict bedtime and sleep trained. They have to clean up what they were playing with before moving on to something else. Those parents are creating a wildly entitled and incapable monster. .
That child will have zero friends & never have a longterm partner being raised like that. Those parents are forever ruining his relationships with others because no one will want to put up with a severely spoiled person who is always used to having his way & not having to do difficult but necessary things. Poor kid... it's gonna be lonely.
Just the bedtime thing alone is a disaster. I have seen many of my friends make that mistake before the child is school age and it becomes a nightmare to try to get them on any kind of schedule.
I don't have children but that's what I was thinking.
Then the parents will expect someone else to handle the problems I imagine....feel sorry for this child and for his future teachers.
My cousins’ son used to stay up late with the parents, but when he was ready to start school they got him on a bedtime schedule and he sticks with it. Extended or busy weekends can be tough to get back in the routine, but he’s pretty self responsible and knows his limits.
If mom or dad are busy working on something, he’ll get himself ready for bed and just say goodnight to them. Or he’ll just crash wherever they’re at.
My mother always told me I was very intelligent, very smart, very bright - told me I could already read at an adult level, didn't need to do my reading homework - her comments and attitude hugely disadvantaged me.
You have to praise the EFFORT, the JOURNEY. Don't just label your kid as gifted - it's all about the hard work.
As a burntout "gifted" child myself PLEASE normalize not constantly praising your child's intelligence it did me so so wrong
@@Quingle_ same here
I think it's important to note that parenting strategies such as this are in retaliation to overstrict parenting. When the pendulum has swung too far one way, people tend to swing too far the other way. The truth is usually found somewhere in a balance in the middle. Therefore I think it's helpful when we see things like this, not to tear them down but to see partial truth in what they are saying. To bring people back to the middle.
I'm from iran & i watched your documentary "what is a woman" 6 month ago & I think it was so great & informative, it is so nice to see someone is speaking the truth, please keep going matt 💪
In my experience, the people who parent this way had very controlling and often abusive childhoods where their emotional needs were ignored completely. These parents, in response, swing in the opposite direction.
100% this is my experience ... I have a friend raising her son kinda like this.... She thinks he is on the spectrum or something but it's just like no... you just never disciple him and he knows he owns you 😂 .....
Yes! That was my mom....
Then they should not become parents until they sort themselves out, hopefully with intensive therapy, since they are damaging their own children just as significantly, sometimes in the same irreversible manner, by "swing[ing] in the opposite direction." Parenting is about balance, not the extreme.
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I'm so glad you said that! What a compassionate take on this situation. Sometimes parenting can be healing, but if that healing takes precedent over meeting your child's needs, you need to change direction.
They call this free range parenting. On the CZcams channel jubilee they had a group of parents on one of them broke this down. It’s really just lazy parenting because you don’t want to take responsibility for anything and you think that by letting your child do whatever they want they will leave you alone so that you can spend more time doing whatever you want to do🤦🏾♀️ It’s all fun and games until they are calling you from jail to come and bond them out or until they are unable to maintain friendships and relationships because they don’t understand boundaries and Compromise🙄 where is his daddy?
They said WE... I think he is, also, there?
They need so setup a separate bank account for lawyers fees!
I thought "free range parenting" was just parenting like I was raised in the 1970s. We had a lot of physical freedom and independence, far more than most kids these days, but we certainly weren't allowed to do whatever we wanted, or given everything we wanted. And if we misbehaved around the neighbourhood it was guaranteed our parents would hear about it, and there would be hell to pay.
I'm 35 and still trying to figure out what that delayed gratification is all about. My parents kind of abandoned me, they fed me and sent to school, they didn't care beyond that.
It's incredible how anything Matt says is almost always just pure gold