Narcissists want you to be as miserable as they are, and they are jealous of your contentment, so they must destroy you. Stay far, far away from these sadistic creatures.
You must have not even been discarded, gaslighted or manipulated by a narcissist to not believe their nature is sadistic. They feel powerful when they hurt others. Not advised to be in any sort of entanglement with a narcissist. But go ahead and try and come back and tell me how it went.
This is a demon spirit evil that controls people who hate themselves and anyone who exhibit the pure light characteristics of Christ. The age-old battle of good vs. evil. Sad.
Recently I told my mom how much I love gardening and said I wish I could just go around making everyones yards beautiful. She said "well I wouldn't, I don't want other people to have nicer things than me". She doesn't even try to hide her narcissism
@@glory4645 no it's not selfishness. Selfishness would be "no you can't go around tending to other people's gardens, you need to always be fixing mine". Narcissism is not wanting other people to have better things than you
That’s how my ex husband was. He was extremely dangerous. I wish I could have left way before. He was the most extreme you could be. He messed me up for a while
Mental health is very important. If someone is not uplifting you and bringing you down, immediately remove them from your life including parents and spouse.
@@elliemay7569 Me too. It's sometines hard and lonely but it felt like I didn't have a choice. I spoke to a coach, specialized in narcissistic abuse to help me move forward, give me some answers and lift a burden of guilt and shame. Also the coach told me the traject will help to not be receptive to narcissists. Rationally I know every red flag and I do speak up or step back if I feel hurt through feeling ignored by another manipulator. I still allow poor treatment here and there. Atm a man I'm in talking stage with is quiet for 2 days after first very sweet affectionate etc. His last text was " Had to think about you x you are sweet. I replied. He reolied: I have to run now talk soon x". I was fine until now. I'm holding in my feeling of hurt and telling him I'm done bc I feel it's like he is keeping me in by now and then throwing a small candy". Yet I'm controlling myself with stretching my patience bc he is on vacation so I give it 2 more days and if no text I will tell him like it is. He started with " your messages make me feel warm". I see the signs. I registrate every detail but...I always worry to conclude to early. Etc. It's exhausting but I try to not show my emotions to him and if I will send him my opinion calmly it will be my closure😢 I often feel related like a dog sent back to the corner when selfish ppl are distracted by other entertainment. If you call them out they attack and will even accuse you of only worry about your needs while they are the selfish ones playing with your feelings and ignore you of and on when it suits them. We are objects to them and their seemingly caring sides are just small moments to keep us hooked for love which will never come.
It's well known that cats like to play with mouses and torment them and snakes like to strangle their pray ALIVE before swallowing it, otherwise they are not interested, but we wouldn't say that these predatory animals are "evil" . We would just say that it's just nature, right? So I was thinking, yes, narcissist people are predators and sadistic, but is it really evil, or just an evolutionary adaptation by nature? Don't forget, back in the day, it was all about survival, life or death, and that probably meant that you would need to be a little narcissistic in order to survive. I am right or wrong?
Well even if they don't realize it , it certainly doesn't make them innocent, but the pain they cause you they are well aware of and the more they can cause to you the better they feel about themselves .
@@EvaCFricke Or not trying hard enough to get out of it ...since the rationalize their behaviour as right , no matter how punitive and disproportionate it might be . And that they must be seen to have 'won'.
@@brendaplunkett8659they do gain, ravishing in negative energy, it feeds their dark souls. The more victims the stronger they get, until karma gets them
May god protect us from these sadists. They feed off of your energy. When you are broken down by their actions then they call you overly sensitive or crazy. Energy vampires.
I didn't either, but now I understand that is actually the critical element. Without kindness and compassion, you wouldn't let a narcissist in your life or stay with them. They are able to target those sensitivities to manipulate you. It also gives them a deeper satisfaction to see the hurt they exact. If they can't hurt you, it's no fun. That's why when you are around one you give them no emotion nor do you engage in conversation. If you have to talk you calmly answer briefly and don't engage in disputes.
They get jealous if their own children. When my then ex husband and I had our daughter he was so jealous of ppl coming to visit me and the baby in the hospital that he gave me the silent treatment in front of my friends. And even when our daughter was just six weeks old he was so jealous of her. It scared me. He hated how she took my time and attention.
@@poeticlovee This is what I saw too. It didn't matter if it was food, time, or attention. Any of those were something to combat. I look back now and reflect on his behavior and the degree of his sickness is astonishing.
They love nothing more than taking a strong confident person and tearing them down to absolutely nothing, all so they can feel better about themselves.
I believe envy is the karma for narcissists. No matter how good they fake happiness they can't feel it. I guess they only know the pleasure of bringing people down. What a miserable life!
They seem to feel glee and desire, but maybe that's just a tiny, minor flare up of humanity, doomed to drown quickly in the lake of narc living. They are so superior and when they are setting up a nasty surprise meant to teach you your place, it seems like they are gloating and delighted.
So that basically means my being raised by a narcissistic mother is that she feared my natural gifts and destroyed my life so she could be in control and to take credit if I ever did anything good.
No. They target weak people. High quality people just ignore the narcissist. But for that, you have to be immensely komfortable in your own skin, or immensely educated about the systems they employ. Well, naybe 5 in 100 people dobt get manipulated, the Rest is toast, me included.
@@obelixpfeifenreiniger2863 Narcs don't just target weak people (because it's too easy for them to take control over weak people and they often get bored very quickly). Some of narcs (especially the covert narcs) also target people who is content with their life, who is strong, independent and good hearted, because they envy them. Narcs know they can't have those traits and can't be like those good people. Also they find it more exciting to conquer those good people in their chasing.
Narcissists are jealous bunch. I took my then boyfriend to my newly rented office space, thinking he would be happy for me. To my surprise, the first thing he said was, ' I am so jealous!'. At that time, I thought he was joking. He was not joking. That was his true feeling. What a stupid jerk!
@tonnieverse4038 So true! I've been thinking for a long time ... 'Is it me or him? Maybe I was being too sensitive ..' until I realized who he really was. The Narcissist!
What I am starting to realize is that for some reason everyone don't get that level of mental closeness from narcs. I have had two to say nearly the very same thing. One was a relative. Their eyes almost lit up with joy talking about what they systematically do to people. They even smirked and laughed....and I realized the more I didn't interrupt them when speaking, the more they spoke on details. This is when I realized, they are very much so conscious of not only what they do, but likely the outcome for the victims.
Yep my sister actually brags about how much she hurt someone's feelings. She says she knows exactly what to say to each person and to "cut them deep" ..she has a smirk on her face while saying this. We are no contact 7 years now.
@@jenster29Dang 😮 imagine what harms she doesn't admit to! My sister also enjoys verbal attacks in front of an audience and only got more brazen as time went on. Always with a mean smirk and loud voice. Looks to see how it landed ! Proud and expecting applause 👏 Moved far away, so get fewer hovers. Sad loss, needed for my health and prosperity though
@@summacumsoap8983 yeah it's pretty nasty actually. The amount of dirt I have on her would bury her but I'm nothing like her so I just keep my distance..she almost messed up my marriage but by husband was onto her even before I was ha. These people are dangerous and its sad we have to stay away but they are not the people we wish they were.
That is because that is how they feel . They can't give away what they don't have. I found that they will not get any real help because then they will have no reason to treat you the way they do. But they don't Realize that when they meet God face-to-face without repentance. They will live in hell for eternity. And they will get the same results back to them as they gave to others here on Earth. They will never be able to escape their Pay backs.
I spent 46 years dealing with multiple family narcissists. I finally walked away. That didn't keep them from tearing me down, but at least I wasn't around to hear their relentless crap.
@@DarlingAngel-ui6kl My family, all that is left of it will try to reach out maybe on holidays but for everyday stuff never. I have left 1 blood sister, 1 step sister, 1 half brother and a step mother. When I confided in my step mother what all my sister had done to me she didn’t believe me. Communication stopped from her and it wasn’t all that great to begin with, the 2 sisters would get together with the step mother they all did stuff together but never included me! One time I kept contacting the step mother to do something for her bday she gave me every excuse in the book as to why she couldn’t go on all the different days I suggested. Each time I called or texted her there was an excuse I finally told her You let me know what day would be best for you. She replied Okay, I knew she was lying through her teeth and when I went to call her on her bday she didn’t answer the phone so I left a text message and her reply was “thank you honey I’ve already got my bath and I’m upstairs getting ready for bed so I will talk to you in a few days” she had been watching a woman during the day and I figured she was just tired. Well I came to find that both of my sisters were at her house when she lied and said she was going to bed my step sister made lasagna and they had a bday party for her. I was really hurt I had been trying to connect with the step mother once again since my Dad died but she made each time seem very strange. I could go on and on with more strange stories but in an answer to your question, sure they try to connect but I won’t do it anymore all they do is lie and talk about me behind my back. I say Fuck that! Sorry for the harsh language but I’m done with them treating me like crap.
@@DarlingAngel-ui6kl Move. Don't share new location. Delete block forget. Had to do the same. Covert NPD "mother" and ASPD "father". Made it out with CPTSD but lots of love and joy to share.
I did the same. It's easier than you may think when you are ready. I tell them to go away and don't open my door. They know they aren't wanted here and I won't be bullied or shamed. These same people tried to ruin my life. See ya! 🎉
Imagine the good person that is intertwined with the narcissist daily, having to talk badly about themselves or dim their own light to make the narcissist happy. Imagine the emotional erosion.
Yeah, that's what they do. They are attracted to someone who has something they don't. Empathy, not needing to use others to prop up your ego, a stronger sense of self, your light just shines brighter. Then they get envious of what ever it was that made you attractive to them, then they try to destroy you. They are totally insane.
And they revel and find their joy in your destruction. They enjoy causing pain and confusion. They will chase you across oceans and countries, and cities and towns, until your so beaten down that you feel like you'll never be strong enough to get back up. Their obsession is sick beyond belief. Peace and love and strength to all of you who aren't like them.❤
Yep. I told my exnarc he must like weak people, he said no I like strong successful people to bring them down. He said we need to be humbled. ...lol not me he said I'm too strong for him so he left. But God 😇
The ex once told me he had someone fired at work via bad rumors because he disliked him ( both were private jet pilots ) 😮 Narcs are jealous and envious. Run away and as fast as you can from those demons. God bless and protect us from evil,amen.
They always tell on themselves; this video is a reminder to not let them know you are bothered by their behavior. They love to bait you into an emotional and/or angry response.
Your right. And it’s weird, because when my boyfriend has a drink or two, he sometimes confesses of things. In a year or dating, I’ve only seen his real self ones. And that’s when I realized he didn’t get enough love or attention as a child.
One I know said, "I only want to talk about me or sometimes, them." He will not talk about anything not connected to him, and then only in the "I" or "me" reference to it.
When I first started to learn about narcissism it was after being attacked & betrayed by my brother after our mother’s death. I would confide in my husband about what I was learning & in my shock I asked him, “did you know this was a thing & that people are like this? Have you ever know someone like this?” His response, “yeah, me”. He straight up told me & I didn’t believe him. I do now…post discard.
@@gjinkalla23 i didnt even notice but yeah that with other things mixed in that just seemed strange...and it wasnt until months later i looked back and was like .. woah who was i with.
@@GNS_Waffles glad you made it. They intend to kill your peace of mind and soul and be an empty vessel just like them. I had the same experience attackinh a genuine person is their favourite snack makes them believe they are God's and can totally destroy a person and for sure they do...if it wasn't my strong believe in my Lord I would be dead
My mother was the same, my father said as she wrecked his life, nothing makes your mother happy, she never says she was wrong and the worst is she doesn't say sorry. I remember him tearing up, it broke my heart, and then she did the same to me. It's not a joke they will strip you of everything, your mind, and worse, your health. Keep away, run from a relationship and don't bring children up around it, it's not a life they will thank you for.
My x friend who's a narc, says to me one day. If I'm in relationship I can cheat on them but they can't cheat and on me.😂😂😂 I was like😮 who's even says shit like that. Narcs are serial cheaters. Always
Narcissists remind me of cannibals. It's like they want to consume the ones they admire, thereby, destroying what they love. They are self destructive and self loathing in the end and suffer for their tendencies in ways they don't comprehend.
Your comment strangely made me feel better Nark spouse fits your comment precisely, though I have changed his game and no longer participate Made me see the Real Power was within me the whole time. Just needed to embrace it...
Show them it's possible to become like you and they are intrigued until they find out it takes work on their part. They go right back to hating but twice as much this go around.
@@karenmachado4065 There are so many Survivor's who have or had a narcissist mother. I was lucky that I had a lovely mother but she died when I was still a child, my older half sister took me in to live with her and her family, back then you were put in a children's home if you weren't under someone's care. Years later I realized she was my original narcissist.🥺
As a therapist foor many years working with Npd ,I learned a lot. And one of my npd customers when I asked her :" what would she do to people if she knew she wouldn't be punished ?" She said: " She would want to see them in the most weak and vulnerable state and to kick and push them down to see them suffer and to be above them . " When I asked what for ? She said : this is how she gains power. Because she is scared to death of people. And people are a threat for her .
I'd really like to hear more stories about your NPD patients. It sounds like you even had some patients with ASPD which is the very high end of the narcissism spectrum. Scary stuff indeed. They care not for the lives of other human beings.
@@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552 i share this info to many of my customers,cause knowing npd system helped them to really save their lives. What I learned through almost 5 years or more with that npd client is : Everything they do ,only about them ,to regulare their system. They dont see people and they dont know people ,cause they interact with a snapshot of a person and see people as dead objects. Cause their mothers were so called " dead mothers ". They see the world as 2D not as 3D reality. And they have never been in reality ,cause it is mortifying for them. All in the phantasy of grandiose false self,this is where they are queens and gods . They are very scared ,weak creatures even overt npds . Their system is very predictable and primitive no matter how much they show off their fake cleverness. The biggest fear is to be exposed that they are as my customer said weak, fearful ,incapable and empty creatures. They learn to simulate people's emotions and can play them easily. Like my customer could intentionally cry to get a supply and then quickly change into something different. No empathy, just not in their system. She said once : image a washing machine ,when it is broken you can't use it anymore and throw away . The same they do with people either discarding or avoiding when they can't use them anymore . And forget if not needed when tas if they never existed . Npd hates people but can't live without them . Very dependent type . No core no self ,only so called narcistic constructs and fake facade. Inside npd is like a ghost or and absence, non existence, darkness and emptiness . They need to be seen to exist and to have either negative or positive reaction out of people. Like zombies, alive but dead inside and totatly disconnect from reality ,that's my customers words. Thre is much more I learned but what she said in this sentence was eye opening : " people allow us to treat them like this. They dont listen to their guts . If they could put strong boundaries, strong "no" ,having sense of self and not allowing to use them ,she would be able to interact with those who she hooked on her fake persona. It is important to educate ourselves on this and heal ourselves first and stop allowing this creaters to manipulate. They dont give a heck about humans .
That is exactly how my mother and sister are! I'm so glad I got away from them. They are very sadistic. Little things in life make me happy im a carefree type of person and they could not stand that and did everything in their power to ruin me, but they didn't!!!
Everyone needs to pray for protection. The minute we open our eyes in the morning give thanks and gratitude to God and pray to be protected from such negativity.
Wow! My ex told me the same thing once. She said she likes playing with men and raising their hopes just to drop them when they get close to her. I always thought that was some sort of BS comment. But this is exactly that. The pleasure of bringing someone up just to watch them fall. I'm so glad I am out of that relationship. Assuming it was a relationship. That is sadism.
There's a inferiority complex behind too. People who are not narcissistic admire others who have traits they don't have and they can look at them as role models but they get a fix bringing people down because there's no humbleness in them so they can't change and don't want to because their delusional fake self.
Had it done to me many times...watch out for future faking false promises...they have no intention of doing those things...they are liars. Don't get your hopes up...ever! They'll let you down then enjoy watching your hurt. They are just evil sadistic demons.
Everything put out into this world comes back home to you. String theory is real. If you can remember this then you can break vicious cycles. Thank you.. love your wisdom.
This makes so much sense when I left my narcissistic ex i told him “I want to do good in my life again with you I have just fallen off the person i use to be” when i looked up at him he had this angry face it stuck with me his look and now i understand why that was so insulting to him, how dare I get up from the floor he punched me (literally) down unto.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
My ex was on the side of Chris watts when we watched the Netflix documentary and he basically said Shanann caused herself to be killed because she was annoying and talked to much was bossy and drove him to kill her and the 2 daughters. 😳 He said Chris was the victim and Shannan was abusing him and that’s why she got killed! Also this same guy I made him take several narcissism online tests and he failed and he wouldn’t show me his sociopath results.
Yes. I used to admire the antics of JR Ewing on Dallas. He probably qualified as a lying cheating manipulating grandeoise narcissist with a dollop of machiavellianism thrown in. You either liked him or hated him. For me it was fantasy I think.
I'm dating someone who I truly believe could be a narcissist, and I didn't know this was a thing! I noticed he roots a lot for the bad guys that normally most people are angry at and don't like. Or he compliments/praises them calling them "badass" or saying "yeahhh!" Just strange comments that catch me off guard; Meanwhile, I'm watching and feeling for the good guy. The bad guys will do something terrible and cruel and I'll be upset and I hear these things from him and see him smile and I'm like wtf??
My Ex took pride in destroying businesses of two former "best friends" and putting her last two BFs in handcuffs. Naturally, before I talked to those people for their side, they were terrible and she was a victim. When I caught her cheating, she tried a smear campaign, stole things (some with no value outside of sentimental), and I suspect is still stealing my mail, and still trying to find a way to "ruin" me. I know for a fact she goes to the old house to look around and take things. At first, I thought, she wasn't over me, looking for some kind of connection or way back in. But, I realize it's about making sure I cannot be happy. Trying to keep me from moving on, because the misery of others makes her feel better. Makes her feel powerful instead of insecure.
wow. a lightbulb just went on. that hit the nail on the head. that encapsulates at least 3 such people I know in my current city. you always have many spot on insights I've not seen elsewhere. thx.
The down fall of a narcs is they have this hamster wheel mind game they play by themselves the what if game, your scripted to respond certain way. Then the say their script line. In their mind it's a movie, their the main villain character.
Pt2 ultimately playing this actor game. Is gonna use up their life time. End result they have no body when their 50+. Alone with their thoughts of all the damage they've done. Sit in resentment
My ex husband's diagnosis: narcissist personality disorder AND agressive, sadistic personality type. 7 years of absolute mind blowing hell on earth. I've been free for nearly 4 years and I've never in my life felt so peaceful, happy and free ✨️ 💗
I'm sorry you had to know one closely. Mine is evil and passes by in life as a regular guy....he's not. He's incredibly sadistic and cruel and irrational. So insidious. No diagnosis. He'd just lie. But he's a narcopath.
Dude. My ex is fucked up. While he didn’t try to kill me, he ended up raging again which scares me. But the worst of it… the way he messed with my mind over the past month after I told him I’m leaving is almost inexplainable. I just left a day ago and i can barely process whatever the fuck he did to my head.
It takes time to understand it and more to heal. Distance and no contact gives you a better understanding but check your childhood and parents. Usually, the people who fall into their arms carry limiting core beliefs about ourselves that were adaptations to neglect or emotional abuse in our childhood, even if you don't remember a major trauma.
Stay strong you can do it! It does get easier but best way is absolutely no contact!! They promise the world just to snatch it away if you go back you have to pay for embarrassing them
I've known this about my narcissist coworker for quite some time. Some people get jealous and envious of others who have accomplished more in their lives and or careers and they try to tear that person down. They'll invite others who also are starting out in their careers or have a low self esteem to join them in their quest.
My ex narc husband believed he could do anything he wanted because as a good Christian wife, I would never leave him. Well, God doesn't like his children being abused and when He gave me the green light to go, I went. My ex told me he never thought I would do it. Of course he had to then destroy my reputation and get me and my daughters shunned by friends and church but I understood that God called ppl sheep for a reason. I held onto God and my kids tight and took one step at a time toward healing. Hardest years of my life but when God says he makes beauty from ashes I know what that means. ❤
Yes! They feed off of your goodness because they have none. My ex actually told me - "I have to break you." I made the unknown mistake of saying - "You won't break me." From then on, he made it his SOLE MISSION in life to make that happen. I left. I HAD to.
That's why I recommend the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. He said the narcs and psychopaths he interviewed practically wrote the book for him. Said they were eager to brag about the tactics they used. I buy several at a time and gift them to women in my life.
Thank you for this book recommendation. I've read the first 40 pages and my jaw dropped so many times. They (abusers) know what they are doing. It's good that this knowledge is available and thank you for spreading this piece of gem 💎.
@@adeled8833because it’s a book written for a specific audience therefore interviews specific people. I hope you’re not trying to imply there’s any sexism going on here. It’s simply that it’s a book written for women who are abused by men. It can be just that without implying that men are the only narcissists or abusers out there. Not everything has to be a battle between the sexes.
You have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for the last four years and it wasn’t until I watched him turn on my little fragile 63-year-old mother and beat the absolute crap out of her for trying to help me that I realized I had to get rid of him. he was attacking me, and she tried to help and then he turned all of his anger and rage on her. I’ve never done anything to this man, but meet him and try to have a relationship with him and now I can’t get away from him. i’ve had them thrown in jail, restraining order, the whole 9 yards, and nothing will stop him from trying to destroy my life, even when I did nothing to him, but love him and open my home to him and do everything a good woman would do for her man and it was never enough. I was never good enough. He loved to see me suffer. your videos really help me understand why he is the way he is. Thank you for sharing your expertise. It really does make a difference. at least it has in my life.
As one of my beloved adult children said about the narcissistic people I grew up with and unfortunately share DNA with and whom I finally realize I had no option but to cut contact with , “It sucks to be them”. On point!
I always thought it was so strange how people would compliment me to him, he would say to them, well, what about me? If someone compliments my significant other, I would be so happy about it!
Yup. My ex always said that people needed to be taken down a peg. He'd call them smug and cocky, but it was literally just people living their own lives. He didn't think other people getting a degree, a new job, or completing a marathon deserved praise. Yet he wanted to be thanked and praised for doing his own laundry, like it was a favor to me that he washed his own clothes. Narcissists are wild.
I'm not sure what disorder my dad had but he was an alcoholic in AA. He said one time "alcoholics want praise for something they should have been doing all along". He had his good moments when sober.
Happened to me I think. She set her sights on me when I was at the top of my game. Took me years to get over it. It’s hard for me to believe that there are people like this in real life.
Makes sense, he always was jealous of me and how much people liked me and what a heart I had... He sucked the literal Life from me and so weird to see him pretending to be like me to others 😮😅
I remember my daughter telling at home... when was asked why she always picked on her mother..she simply said ...I JUST WANT TO HAVE AN EDGE OVER HER.... I SUFFERED a long under my own daughter... and all this she learnt under the influence of her boyfriend later on and presently her narc husband ....
If you can't get no contact, don't fill her in with your info, you can even lie to her to keep her at bay...Lying is not bad when it is for protecting your peace.
People can’t just “learn” - being a narcissist from someone. Specially if it’s a romantic relationship. Looks like you really need a deeper look into your problem.
My husband, today...he's breaking me via his cruelty. I am loving, kind, compationate to him...he plays sick, hurt etc.. then after he has drained me he is quite cruel even as I am broken down into tears...he screams & criticizing me until I am no longer able to function...then comes his Sneering, teeth gritting grin...eyes blackened. I live in fear.
For your own long-term health and safety work quietly in your own mind on a way to escape this marriage. God doesn't expect us to live with someone who doesn't have our best interest at heart. Never confide your hopes, dreams or plans to a narcissist because they will conspire against you to stop you achieving them. Tread carefully and leave when he is not around, narcissists are vengeful people and he sounds like a sadistic narcissist keep your cards to your chest, these types get much worse as they age.🕊
God has power to help you, as soon as you commit to live as a Christian, pray everyday and visit church every week the change will slowly come. You can also choose saint patron for yourself. There are so many of them but people keep forgetting about them and their power against evil.
When you accept he will never change and his intent is to destroy you then you can start planning your escape. Hold onto God for your strength and seek out help from those around you. I have just prayed for you. You can do it.
And they also particularly love the feeling of power of being able to direct and control other people's emotions at will in such situations. That gives them that extra kick, the icing on the cake...
Thank you for jumping in with the narc so we don’t have to. But I’ve had my share, family, ex wife. Kids, coworkers. I walked away and shut the door for good. They get fuel by hurting you with minimal effort.
Yes, it's pretty much well known that they are evil, and have no soul and even as possed, but a confession is amazing because it leaves no more doubt in anyone's mind.
This is very much my ex. When we bought our house - I chose it because it felt like home. My ex chose it because he could displace a renting family of 6 and that gave him pleasure. There were many instances of him choosing to do something only if it caused displeasure to someone else.
Wow. My son DIDN'T buy a house he liked because he didn't want to displace the renters during a pandemic. He purchased an empty house where the guy recently passed away. His dad and sister are narcs.
Yes! I believe this as true! My ex was just like this. When I first met him, we both had jobs and he was a great! He had a son with his ex but had me believe he moved on. Slowly as the years went by and he lost his job, he would do things to make me choose him over my job. If he didn’t want me to go into work he would say I didn’t value him. Or he would throw me around if I tried to leave or he would insult me to tears and choke me until I threw up so I would give in and stay. It was horrible who he was. I was so trauma bonded! He would tear me down every day telling me I wasn’t good enough and no one would want me and that I was used and old. He would tell me the all I cared about was my career even though my job is the only job that supports us because he’s not working. I finally ended. He’s trying to come back. He’s relentless! I am so done with the abuse and the toxicity of a relationship. The last straw? He cheated on me with his ex and she’s now pregnant! 💔 the worst part? He said I was selfish for only wanting him to have one son with her when cancer caused me to get a hysterectomy and I could never carry his baby 💔. I left. I’m no contact, but his attempts to come back are daily. I just want him to leave me alone!
It’s a classic bully mentality. They are insecure and jealous and they project their pain on others by trying to bring them down. Your positivity and good energy is a threat to them. Darkness hates the light.
My Nex fiancé TRIED to do this to me, but when he realized he really couldn't, he "discarded" me. He ended up in therapy after dealing with me, but so did I. Just a terrible outcome. I am better now and on the road to healing❣🙌🏽🙏
Yep And I got broken and I keep on coming back better than ever. I am resilient and strong. His true colours are out and won't ever tolerant bad behavior from anyone. ❤😂🎉 I create I thrive I grow I evolved, kind and humble
No surprise Narcs tend to brag about their cruel ways. In their mind it's normal behavior so they don't see the wrong in it. Narcs are cable of feeling embarrassed, resentment, jealousy, uncomfortable. Never full ranged sadness of empathy. If they do cry it's forced tears. 😢 Some of them can't cry
My father! Every time I am happy he says things and starts acting up to hurt me and to upset me. He can’t stand it when there is laughter and joy. And narcs love the feeling of control over others, it’s bring them joy to see other suffer.
Narcissists want you to be as miserable as they are, and they are jealous of your contentment, so they must destroy you. Stay far, far away from these sadistic creatures.
But in trying and failing they just get more miserable. I wear the armor of God, what can a sinner do to me?
Dude chill narcissists might not be the ideal person for a relay but they are still people they are still human beings not sadistic creatures
Even if they are family.
You must have not even been discarded, gaslighted or manipulated by a narcissist to not believe their nature is sadistic. They feel powerful when they hurt others. Not advised to be in any sort of entanglement with a narcissist. But go ahead and try and come back and tell me how it went.
This is a demon spirit evil that controls people who hate themselves and anyone who exhibit the pure light characteristics of Christ. The age-old battle of good vs. evil. Sad.
Recently I told my mom how much I love gardening and said I wish I could just go around making everyones yards beautiful. She said "well I wouldn't, I don't want other people to have nicer things than me". She doesn't even try to hide her narcissism
😮😮😮
What a beautiful dream of yours ❤!!
Wow!!
That is not sign of narcissism just selfishness, but perhaps she has other indications.
@@glory4645 no it's not selfishness. Selfishness would be "no you can't go around tending to other people's gardens, you need to always be fixing mine". Narcissism is not wanting other people to have better things than you
In the famous words of Maya Angelou - "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."🎯
That’s how my ex husband was. He was extremely dangerous. I wish I could have left way before. He was the most extreme you could be. He messed me up for a while
@@aprilsallie8239 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖
@@aprilsallie8239Yes I understand. It’s almost unbelievable what they are capable of doing. If you haven’t experienced it you’d never believe it.
I agree 💯 percent
" when someone shows you who they see, believe them" Maya angelou
Mental health is very important. If someone is not uplifting you and bringing you down, immediately remove them from your life including parents and spouse.
I will
Demonic!
I DID.
@@elliemay7569 Me too. It's sometines hard and lonely but it felt like I didn't have a choice.
I spoke to a coach, specialized in narcissistic abuse to help me move forward, give me some answers and lift a burden of guilt and shame.
Also the coach told me the traject will help to not be receptive to narcissists.
Rationally I know every red flag and I do speak up or step back if I feel hurt through feeling ignored by another manipulator.
I still allow poor treatment here and there.
Atm a man I'm in talking stage with is quiet for 2 days after first very sweet affectionate etc.
His last text was " Had to think about you x you are sweet. I replied. He reolied: I have to run now talk soon x".
I was fine until now.
I'm holding in my feeling of hurt and telling him I'm done bc I feel it's like he is keeping me in by now and then throwing a small candy".
Yet I'm controlling myself with stretching my patience bc he is on vacation so I give it 2 more days and if no text I will tell him like it is.
He started with " your messages make me feel warm".
I see the signs.
I registrate every detail but...I always worry to conclude to early.
Etc. It's exhausting but I try to not show my emotions to him and if I will send him my opinion calmly it will be my closure😢
I often feel related like a dog sent back to the corner when selfish ppl are distracted by other entertainment.
If you call them out they attack and will even accuse you of only worry about your needs while they are the selfish ones playing with your feelings and ignore you of and on when it suits them.
We are objects to them and their seemingly caring sides are just small moments to keep us hooked for love which will never come.
They literally evil. Narcicists made me aware the excsitance of evil.
Oh yes, me too!!!!
Me too
It's well known that cats like to play with mouses and torment them and snakes like to strangle their pray ALIVE before swallowing it, otherwise they are not interested, but we wouldn't say that these predatory animals are "evil" . We would just say that it's just nature, right? So I was thinking, yes, narcissist people are predators and sadistic, but is it really evil, or just an evolutionary adaptation by nature? Don't forget, back in the day, it was all about survival, life or death, and that probably meant that you would need to be a little narcissistic in order to survive. I am right or wrong?
If you have to " survive" a relationship, well then it is none in my opinion.
Exactly, me too, real eye-opener
This why I don't agree with people who say Narcs don't realise what they're doing
Well even if they don't realize it , it certainly doesn't make them innocent, but the pain they cause you they are well aware of and the more they can cause to you the better they feel about themselves .
They know EXACTLY what they are doing.
EXACTLY!! 💯
They realize but they don't know how to get out of it. Some have tried but the dysfunction is too powerful and is there for decades.
@@EvaCFricke Or not trying hard enough to get out of it ...since the rationalize their behaviour as right , no matter how punitive and disproportionate it might be . And that they must be seen to have 'won'.
They are sadistic because they require the suffering of others.
Endless and needless amounts of pain for no gain.
@@brendaplunkett8659they do gain, ravishing in negative energy, it feeds their dark souls. The more victims the stronger they get, until karma gets them
Sick, sick individuals.
May god protect us from these sadists. They feed off of your energy. When you are broken down by their actions then they call you overly sensitive or crazy. Energy vampires.
@Dovelunalove Yup, been living with a narcissistic father for 30 years 😢
I have never knew narcissists were jealous of good and conpassionate people.
I didn't either, but now I understand that is actually the critical element. Without kindness and compassion, you wouldn't let a narcissist in your life or stay with them. They are able to target those sensitivities to manipulate you. It also gives them a deeper satisfaction to see the hurt they exact. If they can't hurt you, it's no fun. That's why when you are around one you give them no emotion nor do you engage in conversation. If you have to talk you calmly answer briefly and don't engage in disputes.
They get jealous if their own children. When my then ex husband and I had our daughter he was so jealous of ppl coming to visit me and the baby in the hospital that he gave me the silent treatment in front of my friends. And even when our daughter was just six weeks old he was so jealous of her. It scared me. He hated how she took my time and attention.
Very jealous it's scary
@@poeticlovee This is what I saw too. It didn't matter if it was food, time, or attention. Any of those were something to combat. I look back now and reflect on his behavior and the degree of his sickness is astonishing.
Good & compassionate people are there number 1 target. Found that out the hard way !!
Almost destroyed but God rescued me ,,
Me too❤
Me too
Me too, thank you God! ❤
@@jamievaldez9986 is this a higher calling for us here
I am lucky I am a believer I don't think I would still be here, my mother was one.
They love nothing more than taking a strong confident person and tearing them down to absolutely nothing, all so they can feel better about themselves.
I believe envy is the karma for narcissists. No matter how good they fake happiness they can't feel it. I guess they only know the pleasure of bringing people down.
What a miserable life!
Exactly
They seem to feel glee and desire, but maybe that's just a tiny, minor flare up of humanity, doomed to drown quickly in the lake of narc living. They are so superior and when they are setting up a nasty surprise meant to teach you your place, it seems like they are gloating and delighted.
Actually, there achievement though is always met, so they have a better one than the victim.
They Enjoy drama that THEY CREATE
They are Satan children they can't stand to see people if it's not them jealousy is there motivation 😢
Narcisist target High Quality People....
Be aware of them!!
So that basically means my being raised by a narcissistic mother is that she feared my natural gifts and destroyed my life so she could be in control and to take credit if I ever did anything good.
No. They target weak people. High quality people just ignore the narcissist. But for that, you have to be immensely komfortable in your own skin, or immensely educated about the systems they employ. Well, naybe 5 in 100 people dobt get manipulated, the Rest is toast, me included.
@@obelixpfeifenreiniger2863 yeah that's correct too..👍🏻
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Narcs don't just target weak people (because it's too easy for them to take control over weak people and they often get bored very quickly). Some of narcs (especially the covert narcs) also target people who is content with their life, who is strong, independent and good hearted, because they envy them. Narcs know they can't have those traits and can't be like those good people. Also they find it more exciting to conquer those good people in their chasing.
Narcissists are jealous bunch. I took my then boyfriend to my newly rented office space, thinking he would be happy for me. To my surprise, the first thing he said was, ' I am so jealous!'. At that time, I thought he was joking. He was not joking. That was his true feeling. What a stupid jerk!
Well you knew what you were up against, got a heads up
Not really. She didn’t even know he was serious.
What comes out...of these people's mouth..can be unbelievable....till you finally realize...you have to believe it...
If you are not like them you don't get it at the beginning because you don't have that hate.
@tonnieverse4038 So true! I've been thinking for a long time ... 'Is it me or him? Maybe I was being too sensitive ..' until I realized who he really was. The Narcissist!
What I am starting to realize is that for some reason everyone don't get that level of mental closeness from narcs. I have had two to say nearly the very same thing. One was a relative. Their eyes almost lit up with joy talking about what they systematically do to people. They even smirked and laughed....and I realized the more I didn't interrupt them when speaking, the more they spoke on details. This is when I realized, they are very much so conscious of not only what they do, but likely the outcome for the victims.
Ez annyira ijesztő.
Yep my sister actually brags about how much she hurt someone's feelings. She says she knows exactly what to say to each person and to "cut them deep" ..she has a smirk on her face while saying this.
We are no contact 7 years now.
@@jenster29Dang 😮 imagine what harms she doesn't admit to! My sister also enjoys verbal attacks in front of an audience and only got more brazen as time went on. Always with a mean smirk and loud voice. Looks to see how it landed !
Proud and expecting applause 👏 Moved far away, so get fewer hovers. Sad loss, needed for my health and prosperity though
Don't forget the big picture though: they are typically not well liked, whether other people say it out loud, or not, because they are mean.
@@summacumsoap8983 yeah it's pretty nasty actually. The amount of dirt I have on her would bury her but I'm nothing like her so I just keep my distance..she almost messed up my marriage but by husband was onto her even before I was ha.
These people are dangerous and its sad we have to stay away but they are not the people we wish they were.
Narcissists will always attract to reject. Make us feel unimportant and rejected.
That is because that is how they feel . They can't give away what they don't have. I found that they will not get any real help because then they will have no reason to treat you the way they do. But they don't Realize that when they meet God face-to-face without repentance. They will live in hell for eternity. And they will get the same results back to them as they gave to others here on Earth. They will never be able to escape their Pay backs.
Damn. You hit that on the head: attract to reject.
I spent 46 years dealing with multiple family narcissists. I finally walked away. That didn't keep them from tearing me down, but at least I wasn't around to hear their relentless crap.
How you did that...?Didn't they try to reach yoi
@@DarlingAngel-ui6kl
My family, all that is left of it will try to reach out maybe on holidays but for everyday stuff never. I have left 1 blood sister, 1 step sister, 1 half brother and a step mother. When I confided in my step mother what all my sister had done to me she didn’t believe me. Communication stopped from her and it wasn’t all that great to begin with, the 2 sisters would get together with the step mother they all did stuff together but never included me! One time I kept contacting the step mother to do something for her bday she gave me every excuse in the book as to why she couldn’t go on all the different days I suggested. Each time I called or texted her there was an excuse I finally told her You let me know what day would be best for you. She replied Okay, I knew she was lying through her teeth and when I went to call her on her bday she didn’t answer the phone so I left a text message and her reply was “thank you honey I’ve already got my bath and I’m upstairs getting ready for bed so I will talk to you in a few days” she had been watching a woman during the day and I figured she was just tired. Well I came to find that both of my sisters were at her house when she lied and said she was going to bed my step sister made lasagna and they had a bday party for her. I was really hurt I had been trying to connect with the step mother once again since my Dad died but she made each time seem very strange. I could go on and on with more strange stories but in an answer to your question, sure they try to connect but I won’t do it anymore all they do is lie and talk about me behind my back. I say Fuck that! Sorry for the harsh language but I’m done with them treating me like crap.
@@DarlingAngel-ui6kl Move. Don't share new location. Delete block forget. Had to do the same. Covert NPD "mother" and ASPD "father". Made it out with CPTSD but lots of love and joy to share.
@@Joulean happy for you.
I did the same. It's easier than you may think when you are ready. I tell them to go away and don't open my door. They know they aren't wanted here and I won't be bullied or shamed. These same people tried to ruin my life. See ya! 🎉
Imagine the good person that is intertwined with the narcissist daily, having to talk badly about themselves or dim their own light to make the narcissist happy.
Imagine the emotional erosion.
My mother
Is what I watched for way too long bc it was hurtful experiencing it for both of us
I don't need to imagine it sadly...
@@cleangal71 I can totally relate ❤️
I witnessed it in my own family for almost 20 years. Very hard to watch.
Yeah, that's what they do. They are attracted to someone who has something they don't. Empathy, not needing to use others to prop up your ego, a stronger sense of self, your light just shines brighter. Then they get envious of what ever it was that made you attractive to them, then they try to destroy you. They are totally insane.
Excellent description
And they revel and find their joy in your destruction. They enjoy causing pain and confusion. They will chase you across oceans and countries, and cities and towns, until your so beaten down that you feel like you'll never be strong enough to get back up. Their obsession is sick beyond belief. Peace and love and strength to all of you who aren't like them.❤
Yep. I told my exnarc he must like weak people, he said no I like strong successful people to bring them down. He said we need to be humbled. ...lol not me he said I'm too strong for him so he left. But God 😇
Nice
So then basically he doesnt like strong people at all.
He sounds extra nuts...
But GOD!!!!!
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
My testimony indeed!
So happy for you!!! You are truly strong!!
Literally had someone tell me that if they're unhappy they deliberately make others around them unhappy too. I'm so over these type of people.
The ex once told me he had someone fired at work via bad rumors because he disliked him ( both were private jet pilots ) 😮 Narcs are jealous and envious.
Run away and as fast as you can from those demons.
God bless and protect us from evil,amen.
They always tell on themselves; this video is a reminder to not let them know you are bothered by their behavior. They love to bait you into an emotional and/or angry response.
I left my narssistic ex leaving everything behind. It was worth it.
I'm telling you-- There's NOTHING, NO THING- like Peace!!
Same here
Me too!!! but battled court for my daughter and won!!
Me too! Peace is a beautiful thing!
Me too.
Evil does exist but Good always prevails!!!
They are dangerous 😳 ☠️
No! They are weak! Love is the strongest we ever are! Keep being beautiful and give them zero respect ... worship God only!!!
They are (Extremely) dangerous!☠️
@@peacefulself7848As a partner they can be, but still don't stay. It's not a life worth living.
I am under attack. There are more crazy people out there then I ever imagined.
One is targeting me right now.
@@joanwalker9809True.We are more kinder,nicer and good .
Good =god.
It's a challenge!!
Never give up.
Battle given to us. U got it
Don't ever let anyone take you down. Be at your best, always.
They do seem to like to confess. The target never believes them until later, but in my experience they always tell you somehow.
So true
Your right. And it’s weird, because when my boyfriend has a drink or two, he sometimes confesses of things. In a year or dating, I’ve only seen his real self ones. And that’s when I realized he didn’t get enough love or attention as a child.
One I know said, "I only want to talk about me or sometimes, them." He will not talk about anything not connected to him, and then only in the "I" or "me" reference to it.
When I first started to learn about narcissism it was after being attacked & betrayed by my brother after our mother’s death. I would confide in my husband about what I was learning & in my shock I asked him, “did you know this was a thing & that people are like this? Have you ever know someone like this?” His response, “yeah, me”. He straight up told me & I didn’t believe him. I do now…post discard.
“Look what you made me do to you.” -quote from a real narcissist.
I cannot count how many times I've heard that.
" i loved you because of how pure you are and your view on the world" was one of the last things he told me... wth
Cruel 😢
@@gjinkalla23 i didnt even notice but yeah that with other things mixed in that just seemed strange...and it wasnt until months later i looked back and was like .. woah who was i with.
@@GNS_Waffles glad you made it. They intend to kill your peace of mind and soul and be an empty vessel just like them. I had the same experience attackinh a genuine person is their favourite snack makes them believe they are God's and can totally destroy a person and for sure they do...if it wasn't my strong believe in my Lord I would be dead
Those are the ppl (kind, compassionate) they target just as he said in this video.
@@GNS_Wafflesa demon
They have a 10 yr. Old brain and a 5 year old speech. That's how I look at them.. how and with who I spend my precious time is very important...
Rare conversation!
Narc straight up told me, he never apologizes bc only bad people apologize - how is that even possible to think like that?
Sickos!
My mother was the same, my father said as she wrecked his life, nothing makes your mother happy, she never says she was wrong and the worst is she doesn't say sorry. I remember him tearing up, it broke my heart, and then she did the same to me. It's not a joke they will strip you of everything, your mind, and worse, your health. Keep away, run from a relationship and don't bring children up around it, it's not a life they will thank you for.
I guess in their minds they're the good ones...
My x friend who's a narc, says to me one day. If I'm in relationship I can cheat on them but they can't cheat and on me.😂😂😂
I was like😮 who's even says shit like that.
Narcs are serial cheaters. Always
Narcissists remind me of cannibals. It's like they want to consume the ones they admire, thereby, destroying what they love. They are self destructive and self loathing in the end and suffer for their tendencies in ways they don't comprehend.
They don't love because they don't even comprehend it. Kindness, gentleness, selflessness, forgiveness and general goodness befuddled them.
I have always thought like so, about them.
Yes the narcissist's jealousy turns into obsession and they want to be like you and because they can't they become angry and resentful towards you.
Your comment strangely made me feel better
Nark spouse fits your comment precisely, though I have changed his game and no longer participate
Made me see the Real Power was within me the whole time. Just needed to embrace it...
@@arashigumdrop Well said, keep happy narc's hate that.👍🙂
Show them it's possible to become like you and they are intrigued until they find out it takes work on their part. They go right back to hating but twice as much this go around.
Narcissist mother fits your comment to the tee!
@@karenmachado4065 There are so many Survivor's who have or had a narcissist mother. I was lucky that I had a lovely mother but she died when I was still a child, my older half sister took me in to live with her and her family, back then you were put in a children's home if you weren't under someone's care. Years later I realized she was my original narcissist.🥺
Don't ever ever ever let them overcome your greatness. Just leave them alone!!!!!
As a therapist foor many years working with Npd ,I learned a lot. And one of my npd customers when I asked her :" what would she do to people if she knew she wouldn't be punished ?" She said: " She would want to see them in the most weak and vulnerable state and to kick and push them down to see them suffer and to be above them . "
When I asked what for ? She said : this is how she gains power. Because she is scared to death of people. And people are a threat for her .
That is one of the sickest things I've ever read.
Just when I think narcs can't get any worse...
Sorry you had to deal with that.
I'd really like to hear more stories about your NPD patients. It sounds like you even had some patients with ASPD which is the very high end of the narcissism spectrum. Scary stuff indeed. They care not for the lives of other human beings.
@@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552 i share this info to many of my customers,cause knowing npd system helped them to really save their lives.
What I learned through almost 5 years or more with that npd client is :
Everything they do ,only about them ,to regulare their system.
They dont see people and they dont know people ,cause they interact with a snapshot of a person and see people as dead objects. Cause their mothers were so called " dead mothers ".
They see the world as 2D not as 3D reality.
And they have never been in reality ,cause it is mortifying for them. All in the phantasy of grandiose false self,this is where they are queens and gods .
They are very scared ,weak creatures even overt npds .
Their system is very predictable and primitive no matter how much they show off their fake cleverness.
The biggest fear is to be exposed that they are as my customer said weak, fearful ,incapable and empty creatures.
They learn to simulate people's emotions and can play them easily.
Like my customer could intentionally cry to get a supply and then quickly change into something different.
No empathy, just not in their system.
She said once : image a washing machine ,when it is broken you can't use it anymore and throw away . The same they do with people either discarding or avoiding when they can't use them anymore . And forget if not needed when tas if they never existed .
Npd hates people but can't live without them . Very dependent type .
No core no self ,only so called narcistic constructs and fake facade. Inside npd is like a ghost or and absence, non existence, darkness and emptiness .
They need to be seen to exist and to have either negative or positive reaction out of people. Like zombies, alive but dead inside and totatly disconnect from reality ,that's my customers words.
Thre is much more I learned but what she said in this sentence was eye opening : " people allow us to treat them like this. They dont listen to their guts . If they could put strong boundaries, strong "no" ,having sense of self and not allowing to use them ,she would be able to interact with those who she hooked on her fake persona.
It is important to educate ourselves on this and heal ourselves first and stop allowing this creaters to manipulate. They dont give a heck about humans .
@@LadyGoddessSephiroththink of all the people in her life who have no idea that’s what she truly thinks about them!!! 😮
She is free to live in the woods alone.
That is exactly how my mother and sister are! I'm so glad I got away from them. They are very sadistic. Little things in life make me happy im a carefree type of person and they could not stand that and did everything in their power to ruin me, but they didn't!!!
❤
Anyone who gets joy out of making someone uncomfortable is pure evil. Stay away.
Everyone needs to pray for protection. The minute we open our eyes in the morning give thanks and gratitude to God and pray to be protected from such negativity.
He told the truth... that's their mission
Actually, the go after truth tellers all the time.
I now understand why my ex treated me the way he did. It was like he was practically draining my soul. Thank God, I got the strength to leave.
its true. the worst thing to do is underestimate them.
Underestimating how sadistic they can be.
That’s impressive that you were able to get them to admit this
Wow! My ex told me the same thing once. She said she likes playing with men and raising their hopes just to drop them when they get close to her. I always thought that was some sort of BS comment. But this is exactly that. The pleasure of bringing someone up just to watch them fall. I'm so glad I am out of that relationship. Assuming it was a relationship. That is sadism.
There's a inferiority complex behind too. People who are not narcissistic admire others who have traits they don't have and they can look at them as role models but they get a fix bringing people down because there's no humbleness in them so they can't change and don't want to because their delusional fake self.
Just to watch their hurt reaction. definitely sick!
Provides a sense of power and control to those who fear losing it or are jealous of those who have it.
Had it done to me many times...watch out for future faking false promises...they have no intention of doing those things...they are liars. Don't get your hopes up...ever! They'll let you down then enjoy watching your hurt. They are just evil sadistic demons.
That was honesty. Something most narcissists aren't capable of.
My ex did this to me. Worst pain ever.
That's their bappiness.... much like Dahmer and the rest.
@@Love-np2rtNO, they were psychopaths, don't get confused with straight out murderers and these people.
@vivrowe2763 Murderers, rapists , evil people hurt people for fun, they don't have a conscience- you don't understand NPD well enough.
Everything put out into this world comes back home to you. String theory is real. If you can remember this then you can break vicious cycles. Thank you.. love your wisdom.
Whenever narcissists reach their extreme, they become the saddest. Their joy is derived from others' miseries.
This makes so much sense when I left my narcissistic ex i told him “I want to do good in my life again with you I have just fallen off the person i use to be” when i looked up at him he had this angry face it stuck with me his look and now i understand why that was so insulting to him, how dare I get up from the floor he punched me (literally) down unto.
Satan is the head narcissist. Pure evil!
Also called the great deceiver. Narcissists are devil's advocates and followers.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Jesus came to save us from these devils 😈
Sooo true
Indeed
This was exactly what happened to me.. the damage was irreversible,
Watch a movie with a narcissist and pay attention to who they root for!
My ex was on the side of Chris watts when we watched the Netflix documentary and he basically said Shanann caused herself to be killed because she was annoying and talked to much was bossy and drove him to kill her and the 2 daughters. 😳 He said Chris was the victim and Shannan was abusing him and that’s why she got killed! Also this same guy I made him take several narcissism online tests and he failed and he wouldn’t show me his sociopath results.
Yes. I used to admire the antics of JR Ewing on Dallas. He probably qualified as a lying cheating manipulating grandeoise narcissist with a dollop of machiavellianism thrown in. You either liked him or hated him. For me it was fantasy I think.
My x n liked evil movies only. Bloody and violent movies. Nothing else.
I'm dating someone who I truly believe could be a narcissist, and I didn't know this was a thing! I noticed he roots a lot for the bad guys that normally most people are angry at and don't like. Or he compliments/praises them calling them "badass" or saying "yeahhh!" Just strange comments that catch me off guard; Meanwhile, I'm watching and feeling for the good guy. The bad guys will do something terrible and cruel and I'll be upset and I hear these things from him and see him smile and I'm like wtf??
@@amandab728It depends on what they do, what is evil in your understanding?
I fell victim of a narcissist. Stole my identity. I've remembered who I am now, many years later. 100% what they do. Video is facts.
Vengeance is mine, I shall repay; says the Lord.
All boils down to complete and utter deep rooted jealousy!…..
Ignore a narc for the rest of ur days!…..
Once you know people like that exist you can observe them trying to do this to you and fail. Thanks for raising awareness about these sad individuals.
My Ex took pride in destroying businesses of two former "best friends" and putting her last two BFs in handcuffs. Naturally, before I talked to those people for their side, they were terrible and she was a victim. When I caught her cheating, she tried a smear campaign, stole things (some with no value outside of sentimental), and I suspect is still stealing my mail, and still trying to find a way to "ruin" me. I know for a fact she goes to the old house to look around and take things. At first, I thought, she wasn't over me, looking for some kind of connection or way back in. But, I realize it's about making sure I cannot be happy. Trying to keep me from moving on, because the misery of others makes her feel better. Makes her feel powerful instead of insecure.
wow. a lightbulb just went on. that hit the nail on the head. that encapsulates at least 3 such people I know in my current city. you always have many spot on insights I've not seen elsewhere. thx.
"I just wanted to see how far i can push you"
That's exactly what my ex said!
The down fall of a narcs is they have this hamster wheel mind game they play by themselves the what if game, your scripted to respond certain way. Then the say their script line. In their mind it's a movie, their the main villain character.
Pt2 ultimately playing this actor game. Is gonna use up their life time. End result they have no body when their 50+. Alone with their thoughts of all the damage they've done. Sit in resentment
Because of their envy and jealousy, they pull a person down to damage and destroy that person.
OMG. That is pure evil. Experienced it.
Me too
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“I like bringing people down” no truer words
My ex husband's diagnosis: narcissist personality disorder AND agressive, sadistic personality type. 7 years of absolute mind blowing hell on earth. I've been free for nearly 4 years and I've never in my life felt so peaceful, happy and free ✨️ 💗
I can’t even imagine dealing with that sadism. A narcissistic husband is bad enough but that on top of it is just crazy
I'm sorry you had to know one closely. Mine is evil and passes by in life as a regular guy....he's not. He's incredibly sadistic and cruel and irrational. So insidious. No diagnosis. He'd just lie. But he's a narcopath.
Why did you marry him and have kids with him?
Something doesn’t make sense here.
@@5150Budsame
@@5150Bud Manipulation. I recommend you Google the subject and you will get perspective.
When the devil cant reach you he sends a narcissist. Lol
Dude. My ex is fucked up. While he didn’t try to kill me, he ended up raging again which scares me. But the worst of it… the way he messed with my mind over the past month after I told him I’m leaving is almost inexplainable. I just left a day ago and i can barely process whatever the fuck he did to my head.
It takes time to understand it and more to heal. Distance and no contact gives you a better understanding but check your childhood and parents. Usually, the people who fall into their arms carry limiting core beliefs about ourselves that were adaptations to neglect or emotional abuse in our childhood, even if you don't remember a major trauma.
Stay strong you can do it! It does get easier but best way is absolutely no contact!! They promise the world just to snatch it away if you go back you have to pay for embarrassing them
thank you! @@Bille62
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God can heal your mind, he healed mine! I was so messed up mentally from my npd ex. I am a walking miracle, I know He healed my mind 🙌🏼
My second to last supervisor was THIS. She did this to two others before me. And she will continue.
I was recently targeted by a narcissist and I strongly suspected he both admired me and was jealous of me. This confirms that. Thank you.
I've known this about my narcissist coworker for quite some time. Some people get jealous and envious of others who have accomplished more in their lives and or careers and they try to tear that person down. They'll invite others who also are starting out in their careers or have a low self esteem to join them in their quest.
Yes, new generations, evil and entitled, joined forces with fb, messenger aso.
They are plain evil. Let Jesus be your shield and they lose
YESSSS Allow JESUS be your shield and strength
My ex narc husband believed he could do anything he wanted because as a good Christian wife, I would never leave him. Well, God doesn't like his children being abused and when He gave me the green light to go, I went. My ex told me he never thought I would do it. Of course he had to then destroy my reputation and get me and my daughters shunned by friends and church but I understood that God called ppl sheep for a reason. I held onto God and my kids tight and took one step at a time toward healing. Hardest years of my life but when God says he makes beauty from ashes I know what that means. ❤
WOW! Thank you for sharing narcissists secret thoughs & motives! I always wondered if jealousy had something to do with it.
Yes! They feed off of your goodness because they have none. My ex actually told me - "I have to break you." I made the unknown mistake of saying - "You won't break me." From then on, he made it his SOLE MISSION in life to make that happen. I left. I HAD to.
Good for you keep it up .my narcissistic family is succeding in breaking me🥹
Congratulations ! You left !!
Its all about them craving praises and control. And making you co-dependant on them.
I’d like to hear the complete story from the other persons perspective.
@@5150Budwow, you must be the ex. I hope you’re having the life you *deserve.*
Lord I pray healing body soul and mind over all those that have been targeted by a narcissist world wide.
That's why I recommend the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. He said the narcs and psychopaths he interviewed practically wrote the book for him. Said they were eager to brag about the tactics they used.
I buy several at a time and gift them to women in my life.
Thank you for this book recommendation. I've read the first 40 pages and my jaw dropped so many times.
They (abusers) know what they are doing.
It's good that this knowledge is available and thank you for spreading this piece of gem 💎.
Funny its name has He but not they
@@adeled8833because it’s a book written for a specific audience therefore interviews specific people. I hope you’re not trying to imply there’s any sexism going on here. It’s simply that it’s a book written for women who are abused by men. It can be just that without implying that men are the only narcissists or abusers out there.
Not everything has to be a battle between the sexes.
That's a very kind act for you to do. I wish you the very best for you.
You have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for the last four years and it wasn’t until I watched him turn on my little fragile 63-year-old mother and beat the absolute crap out of her for trying to help me that I realized I had to get rid of him. he was attacking me, and she tried to help and then he turned all of his anger and rage on her. I’ve never done anything to this man, but meet him and try to have a relationship with him and now I can’t get away from him. i’ve had them thrown in jail, restraining order, the whole 9 yards, and nothing will stop him from trying to destroy my life, even when I did nothing to him, but love him and open my home to him and do everything a good woman would do for her man and it was never enough. I was never good enough. He loved to see me suffer. your videos really help me understand why he is the way he is. Thank you for sharing your expertise. It really does make a difference. at least it has in my life.
As one of my beloved adult children said about the narcissistic people I grew up with and unfortunately share DNA with and whom I finally realize I had no option but to cut contact with , “It sucks to be them”. On point!
I once observed to narc(?) the delight/enjoyment in his eyes as he was putting me down. He (of course) denied it.
I always thought it was so strange how people would compliment me to him, he would say to them, well, what about me? If someone compliments my significant other, I would be so happy about it!
Yup. My ex always said that people needed to be taken down a peg. He'd call them smug and cocky, but it was literally just people living their own lives. He didn't think other people getting a degree, a new job, or completing a marathon deserved praise. Yet he wanted to be thanked and praised for doing his own laundry, like it was a favor to me that he washed his own clothes. Narcissists are wild.
I'm not sure what disorder my dad had but he was an alcoholic in AA. He said one time "alcoholics want praise for something they should have been doing all along". He had his good moments when sober.
Wow.. DEMONS they are!!
Literally.
Was gonna comment just that.
Pure Demonic Demons...I'll never stop believing that Black soulless demons
Definitely...born demons
No, they are just sick human beings. Stop giving them power they don't deserve.
Happened to me I think.
She set her sights on me when I was at the top of my game. Took me years to get over it.
It’s hard for me to believe that there are people like this in real life.
Makes sense, he always was jealous of me and how much people liked me and what a heart I had... He sucked the literal Life from me and so weird to see him pretending to be like me to others 😮😅
These tendencies are a lot more common in the population than we think. They're not just consigned to narcissists, many people like to do this.
I remember my daughter telling at home... when was asked why she always picked on her mother..she simply said ...I JUST WANT TO HAVE AN EDGE OVER HER.... I SUFFERED a long under my own daughter... and all this she learnt under the influence of her boyfriend later on and presently her narc husband ....
Np contact ever again, sorry to say
If you can't get no contact, don't fill her in with your info, you can even lie to her to keep her at bay...Lying is not bad when it is for protecting your peace.
My daughter wants me dead.
Especially, now in the age of the disrespect and discard many kids are horrid. I could write a book on the sh** they’ve pulled.
People can’t just “learn” - being a narcissist from someone. Specially if it’s a romantic relationship.
Looks like you really need a deeper look into your problem.
Sadism was a big player with the narc who was in my life for eight years. He relished every drop of my despair. Thank God he's now nothing to me.
My husband, today...he's breaking me via his cruelty. I am loving, kind, compationate to him...he plays sick, hurt etc.. then after he has drained me he is quite cruel even as I am broken down into tears...he screams & criticizing me until I am no longer able to function...then comes his Sneering, teeth gritting grin...eyes blackened. I live in fear.
For your own long-term health and safety work quietly in your own mind on a way to escape this marriage. God doesn't expect us to live with someone who doesn't have our best interest at heart. Never confide your hopes, dreams or plans to a narcissist because they will conspire against you to stop you achieving them. Tread carefully and leave when he is not around, narcissists are vengeful people and he sounds like a sadistic narcissist keep your cards to your chest, these types get much worse as they age.🕊
God has power to help you, as soon as you commit to live as a Christian, pray everyday and visit church every week the change will slowly come. You can also choose saint patron for yourself. There are so many of them but people keep forgetting about them and their power against evil.
Look for help at a trustful place, please. I wish all the best and strong nerves!
Exit plan! Please start one, but don't tell him. Easier said than done but it can be done.
When you accept he will never change and his intent is to destroy you then you can start planning your escape. Hold onto God for your strength and seek out help from those around you. I have just prayed for you. You can do it.
A narc once told me they wanted to get back to when they were happy and I was miserable. They knew what they were doing the entire time.
Pure evil 👿👹 they wanna destroy everything amazing about u, dont let them, thats where your power is ❤🙏🏻💖
And they also particularly love the feeling of power of being able to direct and control other people's emotions at will in such situations.
That gives them that extra kick, the icing on the cake...
Thank you for jumping in with the narc so we don’t have to. But I’ve had my share, family, ex wife. Kids, coworkers. I walked away and shut the door for good. They get fuel by hurting you with minimal effort.
😮wow. Unbelievable the depths of a narcs mind and the darkness of their soul.
Yes, it's pretty much well known that they are evil, and have no soul and even as possed, but a confession is amazing because it leaves no more doubt in anyone's mind.
Sounds honest to me. If they don't get the reaction they desire, they will resort to more sinister, destruction.
This is very much my ex. When we bought our house - I chose it because it felt like home. My ex chose it because he could displace a renting family of 6 and that gave him pleasure. There were many instances of him choosing to do something only if it caused displeasure to someone else.
Wow. My son DIDN'T buy a house he liked because he didn't want to displace the renters during a pandemic. He purchased an empty house where the guy recently passed away.
His dad and sister are narcs.
Yes! I believe this as true! My ex was just like this. When I first met him, we both had jobs and he was a great! He had a son with his ex but had me believe he moved on. Slowly as the years went by and he lost his job, he would do things to make me choose him over my job. If he didn’t want me to go into work he would say I didn’t value him. Or he would throw me around if I tried to leave or he would insult me to tears and choke me until I threw up so I would give in and stay. It was horrible who he was. I was so trauma bonded! He would tear me down every day telling me I wasn’t good enough and no one would want me and that I was used and old. He would tell me the all I cared about was my career even though my job is the only job that supports us because he’s not working. I finally ended. He’s trying to come back. He’s relentless! I am so done with the abuse and the toxicity of a relationship. The last straw? He cheated on me with his ex and she’s now pregnant! 💔 the worst part? He said I was selfish for only wanting him to have one son with her when cancer caused me to get a hysterectomy and I could never carry his baby 💔. I left. I’m no contact, but his attempts to come back are daily. I just want him to leave me alone!
House of flying daggers explains 2 types.
A. Love is when the other is living best life
B. If I cant have, no else can either, finders keepers
I love that movie❤
It’s a classic bully mentality. They are insecure and jealous and they project their pain on others by trying to bring them down.
Your positivity and good energy is a threat to them. Darkness hates the light.
My Nex fiancé TRIED to do this to me, but when he realized he really couldn't, he "discarded" me. He ended up in therapy after dealing with me, but so did I. Just a terrible outcome. I am better now and on the road to healing❣🙌🏽🙏
Yep
And I got broken and I keep on coming back better than ever.
I am resilient and strong.
His true colours are out and won't ever tolerant bad behavior from anyone.
❤😂🎉
I create
I thrive
I grow
I evolved, kind and humble
It's a miracle to me you Got that truth out of him.
No surprise Narcs tend to brag about their cruel ways. In their mind it's normal behavior so they don't see the wrong in it. Narcs are cable of feeling embarrassed, resentment, jealousy, uncomfortable. Never full ranged sadness of empathy. If they do cry it's forced tears. 😢 Some of them can't cry
My father! Every time I am happy he says things and starts acting up to hurt me and to upset me. He can’t stand it when there is laughter and joy. And narcs love the feeling of control over others, it’s bring them joy to see other suffer.
This guy is totally correct.
He's jealous of people.
That are everything that
narcissist isn't.