I love when she said her friend’s life was not about the last decision he made, or something like that. There were a whole bunch of years of great times and laughs before that. That’s how I’m going to think about my grief now.
Sadly, and accurately, that's how the majority of people will remember you, is your last actions... I say this not to harm you but to discourage anyone taking their life needlessly. With that said, I hope you find peace...
What a cool conversation. At 77..believe me I've gone through grief from loss more than I ever expected. Eventually it moves to the back of the bus...but it never goes away..it just quietly chips away at your heart.
I lost my 17 yr old brother in a car accident when I was 12yr. I can relate to the uncomfortable nature surrounding grief, cause not only did people, my peers especially, not know what to say to me, but it also made *me* uncomfortable. I remember a few years later at a pep rally, the band/guests, whoever they were, who were speaking/performing at the pep rally spoke of my brother's passing. They remembered the last time they were at our school 3 years earlier, how a junior student (my brother) had died. I was embarrassed by it. Of course I swelled up with emotion at the mention of him, but at the same time, I sunk down in my seat, not wanting to b noticed tearing up. I was ashamed, embarrassed, & horrified of any attention it might bring me. Of course, as I've grown up & matured, I realize the undue burden of others' squeamishness that I placed on myself not wanting to make others uncomfortable, when I honestly should've just allowed myself to grieve. I added to my suffering by pushing down those feelings & not wanting them to b seen publicly because I must've sensed people's reaction & not wanted them to b uncomfortable. I sensed that at 12. Of course as adults we're more tuned in to cues & body language, so I imagine many who grieve are influenced by a desire to filter or conceal their grief in order to cater to others, when I think we'd mostly all agree, in actuality, it should b quite the opposite. At our darkest moments, the comfort level of others should *not* b a priority. Sadly, for me it was. Here's hoping for others, they don't feel this burden.
"...the undue burden of others' squeamishness..." - This is SO spot on! I had the usual losses in my life, and from a purely subjective POV they NEVER really went away, they just weren't here anymore... Man, do I wish that how my family responded to my way of handling grief would've left some space for this feeling!
@brianc5617 While your point is not necessarily wrong, it is such a strange and humanly disconnected choice to say this to a person who is sharing a very real experience about losing someone to death. This doesn't seem nearly the appropriate place to make this point.
I lost my brother to suicide one and half year ago. The pain is here every day. I cried watching this. Thank you for bringing the topic of grief to the Daily Show. I will read this book.
I lost my baby brother 13 years ago. He was 33 years old. I lost my best friend last year. She was 42. There are holes in my heart where they lived. Nothing can change that nor those holes will never be filled. What I want to say is, though it'll never go away, the days will start to get easier over time. How much time? As long as it takes. I still cry. I miss them both. But it does get easier. Peace & Love.
We have to always check on our loved ones. To make sure they are ok. You never know what someone is going through. I hope you guys are at peace. I try my best to not take anything for granted
I’ve been been providing grief counselling as a therapist for many years. The part most struggle with is letting go of the grief as people sometime believe” if I stop grieving I no longer love or care for the person” , however, letting go of the grief means the love for the person will live forever in your heart and memories move from constant sadness to reflexive happiness. ….If the grief continues on past two years then there are broader issues ie., clinical depression etc.
Been reading Sloane Crosley's works since 2010. I'm happy to know she's gotten into this difficult genre in this book. She writes so excellently on everything, especially very sensitive topics but she pulls in comedy too without being offensive. Enjoyed this interview alot!
My first ever mentor died soon after his son died very suddenly, it was tragic and, still, it felt like I had no right to mourn as much as I did 😢 Thanks for bringing this topic to the table
Lost my best friend when i was16 then my next bf the next year. I am 48 now and am still processing grief. Maybe i buy this book, maybe we share this grief.
I’ve lost two best friends. It’s not a club you want to be in. The worst question to be asked. _Were they a born again Christian?_ If the answer is - no, how the f is that comforting?
Did you know that the University of Virginia has been doing research on that topic for over 50 years. Reincarnation with kids who remember past lives. They also have been collecting data of people with NDE. And some of those kids also remember the in-between lives and they do match to some of the people who have experienced NDE. But NDE is tailored to the one who is experiencing it and not 100% accurate. I could talk regarding this topic because it's amazing. But Look up "University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies"
The answer is yes they will be born again. The video link is regarding the University of Virginia and the data they have regarding the topic. They probably might not say regarding it in the video but they have talked about it czcams.com/video/gWBQeQV0VhY/video.htmlsi=xH2tmc_bGjzL92Tz
@@silver831cali3 Thanks. I added it to my watch later videos. I’ve become agnostic over the last 15 years but was raised southern Baptist. One of the worst in my opinion. Thanks again. Have a great day.
While Kosta will probably hate this when watching it back - he could of handled it better in many different ways - for me, it was still a great interview and humor surrounding the most serious of topics is the best type of humor out there.
i thought it was a great interview. kosta was authentic and had obviously read and processed the book, and that gave her an opportunity to share her insights.
Theres an entire subset of study of grief solely and specifically focused around online and long distance relationships. To say that there isnt content available for understanding the loss of a friend just shows that it was never even pursued.
i think she was talking about grief in the larger culture. loss of a friend is not something you find a hallmark card for, it's not something people often think to even express sympathy to a person about. people's condolences are usually for family, but friendship ties can be just as deep, and so can the grief at the loss of them be.
John Stewart hosts every Monday. The rest of the week is for one of the correspondents to host. Desi's turn was last week, she hosted 4 consecutive days. But you don't care about that because you are a troll. Kosta is doing a fantastic job, he feels so natural as a host.
Americans have this strange combination of exploiting grief and at the same time never resolving it. Could Americans get through grief without yet another book about grief??? Honestly, why was this book written?
I had a colleague who wrote one after she lost a sibling because there were no support groupsb or anything out there for her. It was always related to the grieving the loss of a spouse or a parent. Etc.
Are you serious. She got her Shtuff stolen and her friend committed suicide. So that makes her super unlucky and makes her an expert on grief. You must be...me.
What is the point you are trying to make? Does a book only hold value based on its length? Can you explain your experience with writing books, maybe there is some knowledge you could share about why the size of this book is funny 🤔
@@savannah9398 i mean how smart you have to be to know that grief has nothing to do with being funny! she remembers the exact date her jewelery was gone, instead her colleague was gone. and the book is thin..do the math!..she wants money to buy new jewlery.
@@hrabmv I do not think understanding grief has anything to do with being smart, it has to do with experiencing it. Have you lost someone important before? For some, humor is a fantastic way to overcome the immense weight and darkness that is grieving death. This author is clearly not "trying to be funny", they are trying to find a less serious medium to reach other people who otherwise may have a hard time coping with this experience. You really seem like an ignorant and closed minded individual to not only believe such things, but have the audacity to put them out into the world to other *real* human beings. It may not seem so to you, but the internet is not a synthetic, virtual space free from connections to real human beings. On the other side of the videos you watch and the words you type, are real people with real life experiences. How smart does someone have to be to understand this? Sadly this doesn't really have to do with intellegence either, rather empathy and compassion. These two things, it is obvious, you lack. Touch grass.
The opposite of hate is love. The opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy. The producers and the advertisers like that you watched (clicks) AND commented.
I love when she said her friend’s life was not about the last decision he made, or something like that. There were a whole bunch of years of great times and laughs before that. That’s how I’m going to think about my grief now.
Sadly, and accurately, that's how the majority of people will remember you, is your last actions... I say this not to harm you but to discourage anyone taking their life needlessly. With that said, I hope you find peace...
What a cool conversation. At 77..believe me I've gone through grief from loss more than I ever expected. Eventually it moves to the back of the bus...but it never goes away..it just quietly chips away at your heart.
I lost my 17 yr old brother in a car accident when I was 12yr. I can relate to the uncomfortable nature surrounding grief, cause not only did people, my peers especially, not know what to say to me, but it also made *me* uncomfortable.
I remember a few years later at a pep rally, the band/guests, whoever they were, who were speaking/performing at the pep rally spoke of my brother's passing. They remembered the last time they were at our school 3 years earlier, how a junior student (my brother) had died. I was embarrassed by it. Of course I swelled up with emotion at the mention of him, but at the same time, I sunk down in my seat, not wanting to b noticed tearing up. I was ashamed, embarrassed, & horrified of any attention it might bring me.
Of course, as I've grown up & matured, I realize the undue burden of others' squeamishness that I placed on myself not wanting to make others uncomfortable, when I honestly should've just allowed myself to grieve. I added to my suffering by pushing down those feelings & not wanting them to b seen publicly because I must've sensed people's reaction & not wanted them to b uncomfortable.
I sensed that at 12.
Of course as adults we're more tuned in to cues & body language, so I imagine many who grieve are influenced by a desire to filter or conceal their grief in order to cater to others, when I think we'd mostly all agree, in actuality, it should b quite the opposite. At our darkest moments, the comfort level of others should *not* b a priority. Sadly, for me it was. Here's hoping for others, they don't feel this burden.
I'm sorry for your loss. Your brother had one of the greatest blessings he could have in your love.
@@brianc5617Seriously?! Inappropriate time to make this comment. Wow.
"...the undue burden of others' squeamishness..." - This is SO spot on! I had the usual losses in my life, and from a purely subjective POV they NEVER really went away, they just weren't here anymore... Man, do I wish that how my family responded to my way of handling grief would've left some space for this feeling!
Wow! A deeply moving post. I am grieving and was touched by your post.
Thank you.
@brianc5617 While your point is not necessarily wrong, it is such a strange and humanly disconnected choice to say this to a person who is sharing a very real experience about losing someone to death. This doesn't seem nearly the appropriate place to make this point.
Those of us who have lost our Persons love being asked about them. Thank you, Michael Kosta for asking the question.
I lost my brother to suicide one and half year ago. The pain is here every day. I cried watching this. Thank you for bringing the topic of grief to the Daily Show. I will read this book.
I lost my baby brother 13 years ago. He was 33 years old. I lost my best friend last year. She was 42. There are holes in my heart where they lived. Nothing can change that nor those holes will never be filled. What I want to say is, though it'll never go away, the days will start to get easier over time. How much time? As long as it takes. I still cry. I miss them both. But it does get easier. Peace & Love.
We have to always check on our loved ones. To make sure they are ok. You never know what someone is going through. I hope you guys are at peace. I try my best to not take anything for granted
I cried too 😢
Sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry.
I’ve been been providing grief counselling as a therapist for many years. The part most struggle with is letting go of the grief as people sometime believe” if I stop grieving I no longer love or care for the person” , however, letting go of the grief means the love for the person will live forever in your heart and memories move from constant sadness to reflexive happiness. ….If the grief continues on past two years then there are broader issues ie., clinical depression etc.
A Grief Observed is an amazing book that's helped me through so much grief.
Heartfelt interview about the realities of the human experience. Thank you 🙏
Sloane's books are great. She's an excellent humorist. I'm so very here for the grief next.
Been reading Sloane Crosley's works since 2010. I'm happy to know she's gotten into this difficult genre in this book. She writes so excellently on everything, especially very sensitive topics but she pulls in comedy too without being offensive. Enjoyed this interview alot!
Great to see authors and poets being interviewed.
Hearing Michael Kosta being serious, and not the extreme comedic relief he usually is is wild lol
What a beautiful and important interview. Thanks
The lovely Sloane Crosley!
My first ever mentor died soon after his son died very suddenly, it was tragic and, still, it felt like I had no right to mourn as much as I did 😢 Thanks for bringing this topic to the table
I like Sloane Crosley, i'd get to know about her because her apearances The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson; and those interviews are priceless.
"Love Never Dies" by Larry Barber is also a fantastic book for those grieving a recent loss
"This novel was pleasantly chesty" was an interesting take that I did not expect.
Keep your heads up everyone no matter what 🙏
Lost my best friend when i was16 then my next bf the next year. I am 48 now and am still processing grief. Maybe i buy this book, maybe we share this grief.
Grief is the worst. It's the Room 101 of the living.
I’ll be back. Michael Kosta has specials & after I hang my head in shame I have work to do. 🏃
FantastIc Sloane!
I’ve lost two best friends. It’s not a club you want to be in. The worst question to be asked. _Were they a born again Christian?_ If the answer is - no, how the f is that comforting?
Did you know that the University of Virginia has been doing research on that topic for over 50 years. Reincarnation with kids who remember past lives. They also have been collecting data of people with NDE. And some of those kids also remember the in-between lives and they do match to some of the people who have experienced NDE. But NDE is tailored to the one who is experiencing it and not 100% accurate.
I could talk regarding this topic because it's amazing. But Look up "University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies"
The answer is yes they will be born again.
The video link is regarding the University of Virginia and the data they have regarding the topic. They probably might not say regarding it in the video but they have talked about it
czcams.com/video/gWBQeQV0VhY/video.htmlsi=xH2tmc_bGjzL92Tz
@@silver831cali3 Thanks. I added it to my watch later videos. I’ve become agnostic over the last 15 years but was raised southern Baptist. One of the worst in my opinion. Thanks again. Have a great day.
Sorry for your loss. I completely understand your comment. I lost my best friend too. I hope her book brings you comfort. I can’t wait to read it.
@@danieldib2286 thanks.
Love sloane
Great book. I just finished it.
Thank you.
While Kosta will probably hate this when watching it back - he could of handled it better in many different ways - for me, it was still a great interview and humor surrounding the most serious of topics is the best type of humor out there.
i thought it was a great interview. kosta was authentic and had obviously read and processed the book, and that gave her an opportunity to share her insights.
@@ubertante I agree.
Well done
How beautiful is life that we never, nowadays, can go forward with the things they write and do so from their own minds
she did it
Wow! That seems like way too much work, and way too complicated, but you do you! I generally kit up by numerical order, but that is what works for me.
😕Son of a gun. For a moment, I actually thought _The Daily Show_ was interviewing AOC.
North American culture does not shy from death… Mexico has a Day of the Dead. I think Kosta meant to say American
I think you meant to say that he meant to say USA
Am I the only one that thinks Kosta and Sloane are straight up chopping??
Theres an entire subset of study of grief solely and specifically focused around online and long distance relationships.
To say that there isnt content available for understanding the loss of a friend just shows that it was never even pursued.
i think she was talking about grief in the larger culture. loss of a friend is not something you find a hallmark card for, it's not something people often think to even express sympathy to a person about. people's condolences are usually for family, but friendship ties can be just as deep, and so can the grief at the loss of them be.
"As a human being, I'm deeply unlucky". Um, no. You're a successful writer who's made it to The Daily Show.
she can be both
Interviewer does not seem like he cares or is engaged
Very unlucky person she says with a straight face. The Gaul is astounding. The poor delicate wilted flower.
can someone please tell Kosta to stop saying "yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah"
Caucasian AOC over here haha
What's up with all these dude hosts?!?? Why can't you hire females as hosts? Put what's her name back on. Desi. Yeah! That's her.
John Stewart hosts every Monday. The rest of the week is for one of the correspondents to host.
Desi's turn was last week, she hosted 4 consecutive days. But you don't care about that because you are a troll. Kosta is doing a fantastic job, he feels so natural as a host.
Desi hosted last week. She will be back. Just because you see guys hosting doesn't mean they forget about chicks dude😂😂😂 relax.
@@rzwitdauncut Muah! :)
@@doko3000 John on Mondays. Desi the rest of the days!!!! :P xoxo
I love Desi. ❤
I'm always a little turned off by these types of interviews, cause they are just adverts to sell books.
Well, that is about 99% of what talk shows are about. It is literally thier function.
@patreekotime4578 Exactly. Better that it's a book and not some vapid movie or TV show.
what's wrong with letting people know about books they might want to read?
AOC in 20 years
Americans have this strange combination of exploiting grief and at the same time never resolving it. Could Americans get through grief without yet another book about grief??? Honestly, why was this book written?
I had a colleague who wrote one after she lost a sibling because there were no support groupsb or anything out there for her. It was always related to the grieving the loss of a spouse or a parent. Etc.
True !!
🙄 You sound angry, unresolved grief there yourself? Perhaps you need to talk about it more too. Just saying.
@123spleege, maybe it was to help her heal and it could help others. Smh.
@@helios7212 uh...ok....why so defensive? You might want to read my comment again. No anger there.
Secure the border.
Get on down there & secure it yourself. 🤭🤣
Tell that to magat obstructionists in Congress who blocked the border bill at Dumpster Fraud 45's request.
That's not my job, is it?
Are you serious. She got her Shtuff stolen and her friend committed suicide. So that makes her super unlucky and makes her an expert on grief. You must be...me.
hahaha what a thin book😂😂
What is the point you are trying to make? Does a book only hold value based on its length? Can you explain your experience with writing books, maybe there is some knowledge you could share about why the size of this book is funny 🤔
@@savannah9398 i mean how smart you have to be to know that grief has nothing to do with being funny! she remembers the exact date her jewelery was gone, instead her colleague was gone. and the book is thin..do the math!..she wants money to buy new jewlery.
@@hrabmv I do not think understanding grief has anything to do with being smart, it has to do with experiencing it. Have you lost someone important before? For some, humor is a fantastic way to overcome the immense weight and darkness that is grieving death. This author is clearly not "trying to be funny", they are trying to find a less serious medium to reach other people who otherwise may have a hard time coping with this experience.
You really seem like an ignorant and closed minded individual to not only believe such things, but have the audacity to put them out into the world to other *real* human beings. It may not seem so to you, but the internet is not a synthetic, virtual space free from connections to real human beings. On the other side of the videos you watch and the words you type, are real people with real life experiences. How smart does someone have to be to understand this? Sadly this doesn't really have to do with intellegence either, rather empathy and compassion. These two things, it is obvious, you lack.
Touch grass.
@@savannah9398 nothing is more obvious than your lies
@@hrabmvyikes
Horrible interviewer!
stolen jewelry = stolen generational money = stolen vacation money = robin hoods justice ...i only feel sorry for not feeling sorry for you.
The response of a truly horrible person. What’s wrong with you?
Get this dumb show off the air.
How about you just go back to watching Fox News. Smh.
The opposite of hate is love. The opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy. The producers and the advertisers like that you watched (clicks) AND commented.
Sorry, but how did this tool (Michael Kosta) achieve this coveted position?
His head is perfect square. He is Jim Acosta boyfriend.