my Mom opens up about being married to a NARCISSIST husband
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
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Thank you for your inspiring story. God bless you abundantly always.
Hi Lily, I thought you had a younger brother?
I did
Lilly do you have a way for someone to send a special gift to you and your mom? I can send to two different places. Example…. One to you in Thailand and one to your mom in the states. I know some people have PO Boxes. Thanks and much love to you and your mom.
Thank you for sharing your struggles. It made you a stronger person.
I was married to a narcissist for over 20 years. I wanted to leave so many times. I didn’t want to want to be a failure and be judged. He was horrible to me and my children as they grew up. He asked for a separation 8 days after I was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer in 2013. He was 17 years older and he told me I wasn’t going to be the younger prettier wife. This was the biggest heartbreak for me but I realized if I was going to live I had to fight for me. I am now remarried and my life is beautiful and I am still alive.
10years ago. You are a surviver and sound happy. You will be always younger than him and have a happy heart. ❤
I was marr to a narcissist for 30 yrs and the stress caused my adrenals to shut down. Get out people! It can kill you. It’s left me very sick. I need prayer please!!!
I think lily's trying to guide her mum and steer her through it as she's said she doesn't like talking about it. When you both know the same story, you both talk together ❤
Totally agree, her mom got emotional.
Yeah but there is a difference and that’s all we’re pointing out😉
I love your mom She is amazing. Lilly, please stop interrupting her. Let her tell her story in her own words. Sending love and light ❤❤
I wanted to hear the experience from her mother's point of view but Lilly did not let that happen because of constantly interrupting her mom n never let her complete wat she was saying
And I would like to add for everyone getting upset about how Lilly is butting in, you can clearly tell this isn't just an interview this is a therapy talk between them both. this wasn't just Gigi's crazy life the kids had to process this as well and is still trying to unpack all of this.
Yes Doctor. Why are you angry because a few people are saying the obvious?? You may not to reflect on this.
@@lizarce272 lol this was posted 7 months ago lol so I dont know what you are so triggered about 😁🤣
Yes I feel this was therapy for both of them. Mum and Daughters talk like this. ❤
I wanted to hear the story from her mother’s perspective and not to be constantly interrupted by Lily. Lily’s mum has a great knack for story telling, hope she can speak uninterrupted next time. Thanks anyway for opening up and speaking about your dark past Gigi 🙏🏼
I think that Lily was chiming in at times to support her mom as it was a difficult story to tell. I found the interruptions to be support interruptions and in that way it was understandable.
@Margie... you have a valid point there.. because Lilly's perspective of her father as a child would have been different ...and this was her mother's story...However it was still good .....and Lilly.remember you don't always have to control the conversation..many victims of controllers have to guard against becoming controllers themselves....allow and trust the Holy Spirit to flow the Vlog....you closed out nicely though...we're all learning and can learn from each other...be still and know that He is God...❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
My words exactly 💯 Lilly is a Narcissist as well. That's why she allows her husband to live off her and her moms money. She needs to stop it so that those boys will grow up to be strong men and not live off women
Thanks for sharing however yes it was not coherent with the interruptions from Lily. Would have been better if you had let your mum finished her sentence first before continuing…
Lilly did bad conversation, she interrupted her mum the whole time, it was irritable.
I love your mom. She’s an amazing woman that has a lot of wisdom to impart.
Such an interesting story, but I would have loved to hear Gigi tell the story with less interruptions - difficult to listen to.
Lily is always like that. Still.
I agree that Lilly should have let her mother tell her story with less interruptions from her. Her mom is very articulate and intelligent!
Lily needs to stop trying to control her Mother's story. It's very disrespectful to her sweet mother and very annoying to viewers. Please stop Lily.
Her daughter is just keeping her on point. Doesn't bother me at all.
@@dmacdinfl3 Well it bothers alot of us. Lily doesn't need to keep her Mother on point. She is very capable of telling her own story without constantly being interrupted by Lily.
I agree
We have to consider that Lilly had to endure the suffering as well.
Lilly please let your Mother talk. You kept interrupting her. I realize I do that a lot to my Mom too. She will actually stop me sometimes and tell me to be quiet so she can finish lol. So I totally understand but watching you made me realize I need to follow my own advice. Btw you and your Mother have very pretty eyes. Thanks for having your Mother to share her story 😊
Lilly has ADHD, she does nothing with her children , therefore has help of nunny
Now u can understand why Lily is so controlling over her husband Wat. She was so traumatized by her father and her dark childhood that it has affected her relationships with her husband and family members.
Shes does it they are on a time thing on CZcams videos!!
@@adrianaglavin3762 shes a wonderful Mommy! Shes a Great Wife to Wat!! shes in Business with her Mom!
@@joanncoopertroupe3506 Lily can't help herself. It's her controlling personality. Has nothing to do with a time frame.
Lilly, your mom is the strongest, most intelligent, hard working woman. Be so proud of her❤️
My mother was a narcissist I understand completely!!! My sons father was a narcissist I left him when my son was a year old with nothing. I had to leave secretly while he was at work. Scared and freaked out n afraid he would follow and find us. I can understand everything your mom is saying. Between him and my mother I had a double dose of narcissism. When my son was born, I was the bread winner. I went back to work in 1 week. It was awful. When I left him he never offered any support or help. He eventually came and took my car and I had no way to get to work. But, my son made it through. My son is now 31 and it was the best decision I had ever made to leave. Oh I didn’t tell you my deciding factor that made me leave him. He locked me out of our condo by gun point. I sat under my babies window all night. Bless us all that deal or have dealt with narcissistic people. And thank you Susan for sharing your story. I DO KNOW how difficult it is to talk about even after all these years. The scars never go away!!! @Lilly please don’t interrupt in the middle of an interview or a story!!! I think you are awesome but give someone a chance to talk especially about their pain. Love ❤️
Tonja, I went thru similar, leaving my ex-husband when my daughter was almost 3. Then he tried his best to destroy me. I was so fearful when I had to take the dog out & would necer go the same way. My daughter is now 16 & doing well, thank goodness.
Your story sounds like my story, when I use to be married to a vile narcissist, like you say the scars never goes away, and like you it was the best decision I took to leave when I was 2 months pregnant and a 13 year old at the time, my boys are now 29 and 16, he went on to he's next victim after I left him, I've never heard or seen him after I left him, I have no contact with him, I was told by people I know, Karma caught up with him, and that he's in a terrible state, the woman he got married to after me have two son's and they dont put up with he's nonsense, I was also told that he met he's match now, apparently the woman comes from a gangster back ground, all her brother's are gangsters and her two kids, thank God for Karma!!!
But she did give her plenty of chances to talk and she talked well
I was going to say the same thing about over talking her mom , how rude
Thank you for watching Bridgett. I will do better next time 🙏🏻
SADLY MANY FEEL THE NEED TO COME ON LINE CRYING TELLING THERE TALES OF WOE
For me it was not rude they seemed to speak well together in combination
@@graerindley6312Lilly is like a reporter, she filled in the details that her mom might have left out 😊 Lilly is very thorough 😊
Please do not interrupt your mother when she speaking it's her story she knows what happens I say that with respect
she always does that. not so nice and at one of those videos, her mom told her not to interrupt her 😂
Yes , I’ve noticed that . She always does that several times even with other people ( Sonya.,, )
What happened to your face . You look so fake .
I noticed that a lot with people lately, its like no one wants to listen and everybody wants to talk, what is that? And a part of me don't think that people realize that they are doing that. I noticed on the last video her mom just stopped and said "wait, I'm talking" and Lilly apologized, but still kept interrupting...LOL
You do understand when making a video/vlog,there is a time constraint,therefore you have to get to the point
Lilly understands that,so she has to encourage people to get to the point
(précis) She is not trying to be rude.
Thank you for sharing your heart Gigi. I’m divorced from a bipolar narcissist attorney. My life was hell. Married at 24 he was 35. Educated at a top Ivy League college, can’t keep a job, because everyone else has the problem. Many addictions, money problems, multiple bankruptcies, and so much more. My 3 children have suffered so much. I’ve been divorced 8 years and still dealing with his craziness. When I filed, he said he would destroy me, and he did. I called him “napalm Perry” because he loves to come in and destroy everything and everyone that make him angry. Never paid me, and my daughter and I were homeless for 2 years. I’m glad to hear your story as much as well to painful to tell. Thank you! Much love to you! ❤
Oh Jeannie that really is a stinging combination 😔 bipolar, narcissist and an attorney so that his professional training was how to find fault and argue - best wishes for you in your life now 🌻
Oh my that is so hard. I had some help from my parents and his family were also very supportive of me. But even now after 25 years it’s hard for me to think about.
Sounds like many of us STRONG women are in the same boat. Keep rolling.
Your moms life sounded like mine, I finally had enough with my ex when my girls were 6 years and 14 months old. I was tired of being physically and emotionally abused. Didn’t want my girls to think it was ok to be treated like that. I remarried when my girls were 7 & 12 years old, to a wonderful man who helped me raise my girls, whom I’m still with today 28 years married now. God truly blessed me the 2nd time around. We have a son together who is now 24 years old. Much love to you both for your story! ❤
Lilly, you have a mom with a beautiful heart. Try to be like her.
Hello how are you doing?
You will be very sneaky and aggressive with that comment
I love your Mama such a classy lady and full of grace and love. God Bless You All!
Hello how are you doing?
I admire your mom’s resilience while going through such a challenging period in her life in the past. She truly deserves the happiness that she has found in her present relationship with your stepdad!
Love to watch both of you!!
❤️❤️
Wow, what a strong and resilient woman your mom is.
Very sad. I wish Lilly would have let her mom speak without so many interruptions.
Please Lilly let your mother speak with less interruption.its pretty rude
Thank you Gigi for bravely opening up about the tender parts of your TESTimony! Lilly, thanks for gently encouraging your beautiful momma to do so! Bless✨
Thank you for sharing your story. Your positive outlook on life and giving God the credit brought tears to my eyes. I’m so glad I found lily’s channel.😊❤
I noticed that, but the time is limited to more questions to be discussed. Lilly needs to bat in or interrupt Mom, otherwise, she wld go on and on, overwhelming sharing the past. Peace out♥️
Mom has gorgeous eyes. So soft.
Your mom is beautiful inside and out. She's wise and so well spoken. I hope she continues to flourish and continues to help those around her. I know she is such a hard worker and her heart is in the right place. Enjoy the journey ladies and remember to continue to help those less fortunate than yourself. Most important to learn from this is... health, mental or physical is not chosen it is part of the way we've been created. Learning to live with empathy, humility and compassion for those we encounter is the journey.
Hardest part is not realizing you're living with a Narcissist...and feeling alone. Even if/when you finally break free, the scaring that is left from the abuse can last a lifetime. Surely feels better knowing others have endured and survived. Thanks for sharing your story. Although it stirs up emotions you would prefer to forget about, know that your voice helps untold number of people. Message of hope. :)
Yes I did not know what a narcissist was’
@@GigiAtGraceAndJoy I am sorry you had to have sooooooo much pain. I am in the same boat, You all just need love and acceptance, I am forever feeling I have to explain, I need my daughters to know the pain and how hard I tried. But you know, I think they get fed up always hearing me defending myself as their mum. I think you have to have lived it, to truly understand the emotional impact it has on a mother. Now I know and understand, no matter how much I want to justfy myself, the past is the past. We just need to live in the day and love, respect, and cherish the present. Sending you both love and light. The past was a prison and a test, leave it there. Embrace both your freedom and start creating your dreams, You are all free now. From a person who is still married 30 years now, it's still hard. It is not easy to get away, have to share a home, and live separately, I do all the house stuff, and he is very ill. So in limbo. Don't worry, I'm still smiling as WE always do to the world anyway.
I can see the angst in your eyes Gigi! You're so brave & gutsy & your strong resilient character is really a good lesson for your kids to learn life lessons from. I have the utmost respect for you!
Aww thank you. That is so kind.
I would have loved to hear your mom's story without interruption. She was on the verge of saying important things and she was cut off! Your mom can tell the story best...a wife's perspective.
The mom want to acknowledge the good parts of her husband. I am a child of alcoholic father. My mother cope with it because she had 8 children to care for. I am more angry than my mother. I understand her point of view also
Trauma makes us interact like this will talking about the Trauma. PLEASE try to understand .
@@verlindaallen3335 I do understand them so much more now. ...today, I wouldn't make that same post...I spoke too soon..so sorry 💕
Thank you Gigi and Lilly for sharing your story. I was married to a Borderline narcissist for 24 years. It started beautifully and turned into a hellish nightmare, just like everyone knows, who had an experience with a narcissist. We had no kids, thanks God, but I am still struggling, now 3 years after finally getting the divorce. The experience has casted a dark shadow over my soul and has even affected my once very strong faith in God.
I'd love very much, if you'd say a short prayer for me. I know it will help. My name is Christina.
Thank you sweet ladies and God bless.
Prayers for you Christina 🌹
@@beckystrozenski5187 Thank you Becky🌹when very little I've learned that showing pain was considered 'weakness' and only made things worse. My mind knows that sane people do not react with hostility when noticing other human's pain, experiencing it though, is what's truly healing ♥grateful for your prayer 🙏
@@misssaiwasn6935 Hi Christina, I pray that the LORD will bless and protect you, and that he will show you mercy and kindness. May the LORD be good to you and give you peace, amen 🙏🏻
Much love 💗 Lisa
I understand everything your mother is talking about because I am married to a malignant narcissistic person with narcissistic psychopath tendencies. Financial abuse can take the toll on you because it's like they're trying to destroy you in every way they can . I'm tired, and I feel like I'm living in a nightmare. With the help of God, I'm going to get out of this nightmare and go on to a healthier non-toxic life.
Love your sweetheart of a Mother ❤🎉. Bless her on her journey through her illness. ❤ 🏴
Lilly, love you & your mum, BUT, please stop butting in & let your mum tell the story 🙏
Gigi I am sure it took a lot of courage to tell us some things about your past. I can only imagine it can help others. Your advice about forgiveness is powerful.
Gigi you should write a book about your life story. Thx for sharing your story.
Best comment EVER Gigi, ‘he gave me those 3 beautiful children!’ Amen❤
I have been through it, he was a phyopath.. 10 years of a mental marathon. It's crazy how strong you have to be. Thank you for sharing Gigi
Hello how are you doing?
Thank you for sharing your testimony.. I too went through a very abusive marriage had to start life all over again at the age of 56 with no resume but I had the Lord Jesus Christ and I've had to walk a walk of faith for the last 20 plus years and HE has healed my heart and provided for me every step of the way... I'm still walking by faith... I live in Los Angeles.... God called me back into acting at the age of 64... I've been doing TV commercials ... But have not worked the last 2 years since Covid... I continue to walk a walk of faith at the age of 74.. 😇🙏❤
@ Jordan..you don't look 74...the Lord is keeping you...let your light shine...
Lilly your mom is such a beautiful soul!!!!!
I just want to give your mom a hug, she was brave enough to share her story, even though as she said, she didn't want to. God bless her and George xx
I think Lilly meant well but it was difficult with the interruptions.
Thanks to your mom for being so open and honest with her story. We all have dark moments and how she has chosen to live her life inspires us all. We can learn and benefit from each other. Your in my prayers.
Dear Lilly: Your mom is truly inspiring. Her strength and courage is so admirable. I am very happy to hear that your mom has a blessed life now.🤗🤗
I am so sorry that you had to endure that 😔 💔 you still managed to raise i credible children. Im so happy you met George. He is kind, respectful, positive and so funny! You deserve the world.
Inspiring story. Talking about our traumas help us heal.
I was also married to a narcissist and was with him for over twenty years. It was exhausting. Me and the kids were never good enough for him. I tried everything I could to change him. No human being can ever change who he is.
Happened to me, too, at a young age. They know to get you while your naive. Then you have children and you're stuck. We were married for 12 years and I found a picture of a young girl in the same pose he had me do 12 years prior and he left me with 3 little kids below age of 6 for her. She was 17 years younger. Young and dumb, too. He stopped paying child support and I raised my kids alone for 5 years and then met my soul mate who married me for who I was, strong and resilient now
Thank you for sharing your very personal story. I am always amazed at how mothers manage to turn the worst situations into better times for their children. There's a strength, a fortitude that makes them say "I have to make a change for the safety of my children." and do whatever it takes to make it happen. I was truly blessed to have two wonderful, stable parents who raised us well and, at age 62, I'm still grateful every day for the choices (and sacrifices) they made.
Lilly, .... I surprised Gigi went through all that, I recovering from 21 years of narcissistic abuse.... Thanks for sharing about your struggles, it gives me hope that my story will get better someday....
Thank you for sharing GIGI! You are not alone in your experiences! I just got out of a narcissistic relationship after 21 years. I was also 18 when I met him. He was older than me, charismatic and good-looking. I can totally relate to everything GiGi said about the way she was at the beginning and why she married him. I also lost everything in this relationship, my health, several children, friends and money. I also tried to help him and save him with all my strength and even a couple of therapists. In the end, I had to save myself. I am sure I would have died if I had stayed. God saved me. I don't think I could have gotten out and lived if he hadn't saved me. I have been out for 9 months now, and all I want is to heal and start a new life! I am praying to God for a new life and light in my life!
Lily, please let your mom finished talking ....
Must have taken after her father
Was thinking the same 😂
It’s their story...idt she was trying to be rude...I have three daughters and my life raising them was very similar...when we all get to talking we talk all over each other😂
God bless you Lily and your mom. The Lord is what turned my/our life around as well. Thank you for sharing and I’d love to see the two of you again in another video. 🥰
She was rambling and Lilly kept her on track in a loving respectful way with the purpose and time constraints of the video in mind. ❤️
I think she has that issue in general! Shouldn't push her to talk about something that makes her uncomfortable so publicly.
Thank God you made this video.
You got to show us who your mom really was and I believe she was
one in a million.
I feel so bad for all of you.. I can t believe she has left all of us....
What a beautiful woman inside and out. I"miss. her so much in your vlogs.
And George..... What a great man she has as a husband....
Remember, she will be watching over all her family and you will know
when she is, sending love and prayers to all of you...
This journey has been so cruel and hearth wrenching ❤❤❤
Lilly thank you for sharing you and your mom’s story with us. I have a lot of respect and admiration for Gigi. She is a courageous and strong woman. I can tell you got your strength and positivity from her. Now in this season of life she can look back, not with regrets but how it has shaped her and her children. God bless you both🙏🏽❤️
Lily Why do u keep butting in when ur mom is trying to tell the story?? STOP it is so irritating 🙄
This is about you mother, so please let her to speak.
Inspiring story with an important message. I’d love to hear a happy story next about how your mom met her new husband!
Miss Kay. Great comment. Lets hear a happy story for a change
Instead of all the doom and gloom from Gigis first husband.
Yes Lily is trying to help her Mum through her story after all she is putting it out to the world
Well done beautiful Mother, a saint if ever there was one in the world right now. Have a happy third half to your life and family. Enjoyed this story everyone should listen to this it’s the story of many silent Mothers.❤❤
So irritating to see Lily interrupting her mom ever now and then.. I think you should learn to let other talk without interrupting.. you are an amazing woman , Lily so I know you’ll work on this too
Lilly...this was Really hard for your Mom to do and I just want her to know that I am so glad she came through all the struggles! I am especially glad that she chose to forgive and mentioned it, because that truly is so important for all of us to do. She is a beautiful lady inside and out! 💖
I have never seen a daughter interrupt her Mom so much.
it is perfectly fine. That's a normal conversation
Exactly ❤ they have both been through a lot 🎉
I have never seen any adult interrupt another adult so much.
Such an important topic, especially in our world today. As we all know there can be a genetic factor with respect to mental illness and I think it is highly commendable that both of you beautiful ladies took the time and effort to step out of your comfort zone and share a very difficult part of your personal life with us. It can at times be so easy to be judgmental toward someone that you know nothing about, as we are all pretty adept at making assumptions. Gigi you are the epitome of Grace and Joy 💜 Lilly I'm proud of you for not being afraid to show your true colors. Sending you both a big hug, much love and many Blessings 🙏 Enjoy every moment of your trip 💖
Don’t just make her relate past unhappiness becos u need content. She is an amazing lady. Past is past.
I’m so happy you shared your story. We all need to hear how God intervene’s. Thank You
Omg! I went thru similar situations with my kid's dad. Whom, I finally had the courage to leave 12 years ago. One thing I can tell you. The reason why a person is so sweet and kind, is because they went thru so much heartache and pain. They treat people with love and respect because they know what it feels like to be treated badly. And they don't want others to feel that way.
Your Mom needs to write a book❣️
As someone who has benefited from the single MOST healing modality...
👉 of studying narcissism👈 and studying it extensively, 6 years, and I give myself credit for the 55 years, that I've lived, having a grown up scapegoated in narcissism and with two sisters who turned out to be narcissist AS LEARNING about Narcissism.
and as a matter of fact my father, deceased, and two sisters are all also, psychopaths,...
I appreciate you and your mom for being generous, telling us y'all's stuff, telling us about your experience in narcissism. Thank you. Your mom is awesome, love her.
When your mom says, the narcissist is not going to listen to you. YEP.
"The Narcissist will NEVER participate in life" ~ Sam Vaknin
Thank you so much Gigi and Lilly for sharing. I can relate to your story. I am overwhelmed happiness that you got out of this situation. You show how strong willed you are with your mind and strength to move on with your children, no matter what barriers were put in your way. I enjoy watching your channel Lilly and glad everyone in your family is in a better positive place now. Many continious showers of blessings!
What a great video. Your mother is a hero. I loved her kind, gentle but incredible strength. Bless you both
I just found yr videos. I love yr mom, she is a terrific Lady, so Gracious. No wonder she supported you in your life’s journey.
Blessings!!
Your mom has the best advice, pray and get out! That's literally all you can do in a relationship with a narcissist.
They do everything to save their ego, even if it's in the moment
Thank you ❤️ it sounds like your mom's ex husband was sociopath, because they have no problem to steal from family, friends and doing it on a compulsive way, without thinking. They have no moral standards. Narcissist would try to isolate your mom and destroy her mind and soul. It's terrible to live like that, she couldn't rely on him at all...couldn't even leave him with his own children without worrying.... big hug to your mom, beautiful and strong woman❤️
The man build a business. Listen to Lilly’s mom . She has empathy for him. Lilly is painting the worse
I don’t know why. Her father drove her to drink and act out. Stop playing on our sympathy. Make a show with your family much more interesting.. forgave yourself and move forward
Your mom is such a lovely lady and a wonderful caring mom,so strong.Thank you for telling us your story.💕x
Please Lilly.let your mother speak we want to hear her story with less interuption.its pretty rude
She’s not rude
She was not rude. Lol
We never know what other people are dealing with. God bless you Gigi.
I loved that your Mom could tell her story and be a living testimony to others. I too was in a bad relationship and am on the other side of it now with my children and grandchildren whom I love dearly. It great to see you have found love again and George is such a great guy so I have hope. Thank you and God bless you.
Gosh your mum has so much strength and gentleness at the same time… her story touched me to the core… after dark times with the help of God we can find good times if we remain good to people. God bless❤
A very relatable video! Your mom is awesome.
That was heavy.. thank you Susan for sharing. My father (RIP) had bi-polar disorder and was very creative and extremely narcissistic during the manic episodes of this disorder. It was like I had 2 fathers, a depressed dad who would hide away and read and the manic dad full of grandiose ideas.
When Lilly refers to families being cursed with darkness, she is describing what is termed intergenerational trauma.
I love your mom, SO inspirational, I know she doesn't like to talk about it but it's so important and I love that she can laugh, that's how I get through things as well!! Praise God!
Thank you so much, Praise God.
@@GigiAtGraceAndJoy It's you! Haha Looking radiant in Italy safe travels to you all!
You both are resilient and strong , overcome difficult times .. May your Dad Soul Rest In Peace . God Bless you both .. 🙏❤️❤️
it's good to tell your story, because so many people are going through the same.
I love how you two are very positive people. Good inspiration ❤️
What a story of your mom God Bless her! I just wish you wouldn't keep interupting her ugh it's her story.
Thank you "Mom" for your openness. My family went through a similar life with our Dad. God heals and delivered me from that. I am a strong Godly woman because of my life. God bless your journey
I am admired your mom, Lily.
God is good and He’s always good to us.
Why when your mom starts to talk you always cut her off? Let her tell her story please
Maybe she doesn't want her mom to be the center of attraction lol
My thoughts exactly 💯
Your mother was exceptional to do this video with you...
She has helps so many by expressing her history... Tell her I love her and admire Her strength.
Well said.
I love your mom story and she has beautiful and amazing life now, may Lord continue to bless you and your family grace over grace ❤
Good story if Lilly let her tell it. Constant interruptions and her mom said at the beginning she don’t like to talk about it.
Annoying with all of Lily's interruptions while her Mother is trying to tell her story. Of course it ends up with a religious content.
@@lizdahl847 soooo true!!
This sounds like what my Mom went through! Exactly! My Dad came from an abusive family
I have an old good friend who has a husband who is very similar erratic, you never know what he's going to do. Really sad. I hope she figures it out soon before her two kids are affected negatively. She's reached out to me alot but we live far apart. It's hard to know what to say to her over the phone. I feel like she really does need to leave him. But she's gotta make that decision in her own time. God bless you guys! WOW your momma and you Lilly have the same beautiful eyes! Your momma is a warrior!
Hi Lily and Gigi, you both are amazing! Thank you sharing your story! God Bless you and your love ones🙏🏻❤️
Hello how are you doing?
Yes, walking away is the best I did. It is never too late to start over when trusting in a higher power and yourself. I was 60 and had faith it will work out and it has. Moving forward with life and living happy and free.
Lilly you need to let mom talk your a beautiful young lady but you have a habit to over talk your Mom
I say that exact same thing, i love Lilly but she never let her mom complete wat she's saying or give her time to express the way she wants. I was watching n feeling annoyed because it was not once or twice she was doing it again n again
Yes she can be Rude when other people are talking including her husband.
I don't think she talked over her mom. She was asking her mom the right questions.
Lilly let ur mom talk.You like interupt her all the time.Sorry but yea.
@Nancy Imbleau That's because she too has a personality with streaks of control like her father.
Thank you Lilly and Susan I can relate to everything you both have said my life has been broken and ripped apart with a full narcissistic family it was terrible only god was my comfort and protector I believe the good lord is not finished with me yet and I’m waiting and ready for his blessings thank you dear sisters in Christ may the good lord continue to bless you both with every good thing
Lilly. I so enjoy your Video's. And your precious little family. What your Mom shared about her life, took a lot of Courage and Strength. I'm sure she has helped so many by sharing her life's experiences. God bless you both. Hold on to your Faith. Thank you.👍
Thank you for sharing your traumatic story. I could see in your mom’s face how hard it’s was 😢 but Thank God it’s over!!
I am about Lilly’s age I think, (37) and I grew up in a VERY dysfunctional family household. Both of my parents were hard working and provided us with our needs which I am thankful for. I never went without food, clothes or shelter. However, my father was emotionally and physically abusive to my mother and the us, the children- I think especially my brothers in specific my middle sibling who was a bed wetter. Now I know he would wet the bed because of all the anxiety in the house. My Dad’s problem was that he was very explosive and didn’t have much patience- and was very critical/perfectionism. Later in my teens he shared he had been diagnosed as bipolar but never took medication. My parents have always been believers in God- but didn’t go to church often.
Arguments in the house would be about trivial things - having a “messy” house, my mom being too “fat” and letting herself “go” and perhaps just the stress of having to take care of a family etc.
My parents showed us love but the dysfunction was equally there. I remember being criticized to not get “fat” since I was a preteen and going on diets. I remember walking to elementary school sad because of fights that had happened in the house and the abuse I saw done to my brothers and mother.
Since I was the oldest I would always try to keep the peace and reconcile each other.
I would even record music from the radio onto a tape and have my parents hold hands and look into each others eyes 👀 in hopes they would make up 😂 so sweet to think that would help and that I did that as such a young age.
I think as I grew older into my teens and older my self esteem suffered and all my focus was on my family’s problems. My brothers who are a few years apart in age Never we’re able (or taught) to build a healthy relationship and were always at odds- competing for my dad’s approval, I think. My mom was diagnosed with severe depression at some point before my teens and that also affected the family . Which I understand and do t blame her.
The “excuse” was that they stayed together for us (the children) and the “goal” was that they would eventually get a divorce when we grew up 🙄
As a preteen and after seeing all their fights and the nasty things my dad would say to my mother, I would encourage the divorce and suggested that it may be better for everybody including them to get a divorce but of course I was just a child so they never went through it .
I always wanted to escape the drama and my thing was dancing. In my adolescent years I would dance in front of the mirror 🪞and I felt like I was my true self . Later in my teens any chance I would get to dance at a party I would and since we lived near Mexico (San Diego) it was easy to get into the clubs and I would go since with friends every chance I could.
In my 20’s I still lived with my parents even though my dad had kicked us out many times by then we would stay.
Finally when I was 23 I met my Knight and shining Armor who became my husband- after I got kicked out by my dad after not coming home one night.
After that I didn’t speak to my parents for a whole year but then reached out to make amends.
My father never really changed as I saw his temper rise outta control with my brothers and mother. I was well into my 20’s and was never felt ready to have children. I love children and I actually work with them but never thought I would be a good role model since I would drink a lot (not alcoholic style but still) and dabbled in other drugs.
By the time I was 30 I was so done with the drama and trying to fix relationships that I started distancing myself. The more I distanced myself the less I wanted to hang around them and I became critical of them as well until a couple years ago I cut ties with them.
However when holidays come around it is extra hard because I love my family and wanted for us to be united but it never worked. This year I turned 37!! And it was very hard for me to realize that I am almost 40!! 😮 How times goes by so fast . Life is so short and me not talking to my parents and basically shutting them out felt good- maybe not good but okay. But, as time goes by it breaks my heart and I know deep down that God doesn’t want me to feel this way.
I feel so empty and sad that I gave up. Instead of taking all the burden of what went wrong and how I could fix it, I think God wants me to let it go and leave it to him. I don’t want to hold any anger or bitterness towards my parents because it consumes me and I always think about it.
A few years ago I was taking anti anxiety medication and for a few months antidepressants. They seemed to help but them I felt like I was a slave to them and would have to take them all my life to feel better so, I stopped taking them. I’ve been off them for over a year now and recently feel like I am more sensitive to my feelings as opposed to when I took medication.
Anyway, just a few days ago, I reached out to my parents and told them I always think about them even though we haven’t talked in a while. Instantly my dad texted back and my mom too- they were happy I texted and they want to reconnect.
I feel inclined to try again with them because they are my parents and I know they did the best they knew. I am an extreme empath and know that their childhood trauma affected the way they grew to be etc…
It gets complicated in my mind but I feel in my soul that I just need to love them unconditionally and not get so emotionally wrapped up in the details.
Anyway, I will be seeing them again after a couple years of distance. Please pray for me
and my parents and my brothers. Pray that I can accept each of them as they are and not get so angry/sad when disappointment comes along. I am not perfect and I don’t expect them to be either.
I just want my family to respect one another even if it means - agree to disagree and don’t criticize but love one another unconditionally like God loves us.
Again Thank you so much for offering to share my story (part of it) and being a positive influence in my life. I love watching you guys and especially love how humble, honest and transparent you are with sharing your lives 💗
See guys again you soon! ❤
@ Es Lavicky You did the right thing. Forgiveness frees you. The Bible tells us to forgive those who have trespassed against us and pray for them. Only God can help your Dad. It is not your responsibility. Cry out to God for him. Many of us take on things that are God's burdens. He said to cast yr cares on Him..your Mom needs healing too...and your brothers...bipolar is a spiritual disease...I have seen it affect many I have encountered. I am going to pray for your family for God to deliver them that you all may have a powerful encounter with Jesus Christ. Salvation changes ppl. Always remember the great love❤️ God has for you. We live in a fallen and broken world. Jesus came to set the captives Free. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 you are not alone.
@@MsEller316 Thank you for taking the time to read my post and extending your prayers 🙏🏽 and goodwill 😇 My spirit has been lifted and I don’t feel sadness in my soul since I reached out to my parents this week.
We’ve been communicating via text and sending good intention and blessing to each other. I know God is prevailing in our lives 🙌🏼I’m thankful to feel God’s love & grace- & with this, I’m reminded to extend the same grace he bestows upon me 🥲
God bless you in everything you do and everyone you love and encounter 💗 Have a wonderful day! ☀️ 🌙
I am so sorry for all of your struggles. And yes forgiveness is key to moving on and healing. My ex-husband died a bitter man at 56. He was bitter until the day he died. Even after our divorce and I remarried he continued to try to destroy everything I had. But I prevailed with the Grace of God.
keeping fingers crossed that over time your relationship will improve
@@MsEller316 To even suggest that mental health issue(s) are a “spiritual” problem shows your ignorance. They are caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. Sheesh! smh 🤦♀️
Gigi, I understand the hell you lived with a narcissistic man. I'm married to one. I've been praying and asking the Lord to make a way for me to move out. I have an entire house to pack up. I'm more than willing to leave him the house. I want nothing from him, not even his last name. Starting over at my age is not easy. I'm in prayer about it and TRUSTING that God is working on my behalf. Hurry Lord. I haven't much time.
i suggest you dont pack up...why should you its your home, you did nothing wrong, why should you leave the comfort of your home. You know he is a narcisstic pain, you know his tricks, you know his habits and addictions... start creating and living your own secret personal Life away from him, no need for him to know everything you do, or like or not like...but do it in the comfort of your home... under the secure roof you live in, where bills are paid and food is on the table...
start findinding and living your own chosen path away from his energy whirlpool...start fueling your energy cycle to work around his, all without his knowledge...then with time, his noise and actions will bounce off you, and he will weaken. Start turning things around in to your vibration...its a process, a journey and along the way there will be emotional detox from your side in tears or anger...but as you change, you will attract more like your self vibration...and you do it in your home. No need to invite hardship again in to your life by starting out with nothing because you left your home and him. Fix and turn things around in to your favour.
@@greenleaf8226 Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Your advice is on point and I truly appreciate it. With that said, I must say its easier said than done. I want my life as far away from him as I can get. I realize I could be facing potential hardship, not looking forward to that. But I'm desperately looking forward to putting a key through a door and not feeling or sensing the evil presence of narcissism and all that it brings. Hence my heartfelt prayer to God. I won't/can't make a move without the Lord opening doors. I won't go ahead of God. Greenleaf, God is, and has always been, good to me. I wait on His timing but it's not easy. By the way, I've taken a snapshot of your advise. I will type it out onto a word document so I can read it for encouragement. Thank you Greenleaf. 😊
@@mitzialamo9352 good luck
good patience good strength
It's Gigi's story to tell and only hers. So sorry for your experience Gigi. May the Lord bless you for the rest of your life.
You mom reminds me of my own mother. She was abandoned and cheated on by my biological father who was and is still a narcisst. I don't have a relationship with him but I hear he has a bad reputation still all these years later. She went through a lot of heart ache as a young woman in her twenties but luckily met my step dad who is a wonderful man. My mom is also very hard working and many people praise her work ethic. I think it came from her heart ache just like how your mom had to take charge.