Dating Advice: You Won't Hear From Anyone Else!
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Im not Jewish but this advice would have saved me 40 years of heartbreak and bad decisions. Wonderful video. ❤
Finally some religious man I can listen to without getting stressed.
I wished all of us had some of these teachings. Most that aren’t Jews don’t have these foundations unfortunately we don’t have examples or the principles that would guide us.. I appreciate these CZcams messages thank you 🙏🏾
My God Rabbi...these are the customs we have before getting married! The more I learn the more something deep inside clicks.
You somehow just explained my aversion to dating in 7.5 minutes and I'm not even Jewish.
Hahaha same here I don’t date and have no need to date 😂 Strange as it can be I’m happy being single but naturaly we are all in search of other half. I gave it up to GOD, if it’s meant it will came to pass if not it won’t 😀
Yep me too i don't date
Yeah, you only fuck around with guys you pick up, eh?
Even goyim such as me can understand the deep and profound logic and wisdom of Jewish relationship advice such as this. Truly sound and solid words. G-D bless you ❤
I'm living proof this man's words are true.
Wish I understood this 37 years ago.
. . And then you are trapped in a toxic family with a child , for life, it doesn't matter if you're divorced.
Go and work independence = freedom 🎉
105:45 Not the same situation but similiar, a boyfriend once asked "Which celebrity or movie star would you like to be with if you had the chance?" My answer was " No, sorry but i don't play that game." He looked surprised. He continued with "C'mon what do you mean, its no big deal, who, who is it?" I said "Nope, this serves no good purpose, why would i want this conversation?" He responded with "So you can tell me, and I'll tell you mine, that way you'll know why I want to watch certain movies."
I told him, "Cute, nice try."
See, he was trying to trap me into telling me something to spark jealously through fantasy land of movie watching. A very lazy way of attempting to cause jealousy without actually doing anything or knowing anyone.
All weird bizzare questions that serve zero purpose other than possible hard feelings are meant to be a trap.
“I will give you thanks, for you answered me;
you have become my salvation.
The stone the builders rejected
has become the cornerstone;
the Lord has done this,
and it is marvelous in our eyes.” Psalm 118:22-23
Wow I wish I'd heard this before. you just described the history of a failed marriage
Thank you, Rabbi. This is more or less about how I met my husband. I was invited to his home for the first date. When I saw his father, his hospitality and friendliness...and their relation...i was absolutely taken by it and knew straight away this man was going to be my husband. He isn't Jewish though and I am Jewish but, unfortunately, only by my genetic inheritance (my heritage was kept in secret due to the Holocaust. I live in Poland).
Nurturing is a labor of love...it is giving, it is light of heart and it feeds the child and the nurturer.
The best marriage is knowing who you are exactly and then reflect by seeking the exact you then you have peace 4ever
i like how dating with someone in between preserves the dignity of the person, it's such a healthy and lovely way to not put down the person, it feels like an art that was lost
Ive never met anyone in my life who believed the same thing about dating as me! haha this is amazing!!!!
I've been really enjoying your lectures, they are so healing. This is what timeless wisdom sounds and feels like no matter your background. As someone wrote in the comments below, we're really missing some of these important teachings today.
My nervous system just had a big exhale 😌 thank you!
One of the most wise people are Rabbies ❤❤❤❤
I found he relationship advice really useful. I was not so comfortable with the suggestion of child marriage 15-16 year olds. I'm a social worker and have noticed in my past work that younger mothers tend to have more energy and enthusiasm, I worry that young girls could be taken advantage of. Thank you Rabbi for the advice around the importance of our own relationships with our own parents and how they need to be resolved and settled before successful marriages can happen.
Kids in Russia at 1:33:11 hit a nerve with me. My maternal grandparents lived in Russia during World War I, during the Revolution and Russian civil war. My great grandfather on my father's side was a Russian Orthodox priest. My parents and grandparents lived under Joseph Stalin. I think today's generation in the US have lived with so much freedom that they are forever children. Most of them are clueless about Russia. Some of them want to get rid of the 1st Ammendment which protects freedom of religion and speech. Now that is horrifying. 1:33:12
Thank you Rabbi for sharing your wisdom!
It's good to know
Thanks for taking care of us rabbi
I love your perspective on life. Always!
Dating is how you get to know different people and what kinds of things you find objectionable in a possible mate and what kinds of things you like. I went on one date with one guy, to a bar, and in 4 hours he had 7 drinks. I did not date him again. Went on two dates with a guy who graduated university two years before and found out he had not opened a book to learn anything new in two years. Went on one lunch date with a guy who believed a man should not have to open a car door for a lady. Dropped him. What body shape are you attracted to? What kind of brains are you attracted to? What are their values compared to your values? Do they show kindness?
When I hear this teaching of rabbi... dating is not approved for many reasons.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom,Rabbi.
I watch so many of your videos and I am very appreciative of your wisdom. It is very insightful when you said "ask him about his father"..
.I wish I was raised with Judaism in my home. My family is secular Ashkenazi and I am feeling that G*d wants me to change the way I live and bring up my son on these beliefs you teach. I wish you good health and prosperity.
I appreciate this speech. Thanks for sharing!
Dating is unreligious and that is why it always fails when you are ready just choose what you think appropirate .but what is most important is for sucessful marriage you must practice religion as a tool for your daily life after you marry
Religion is the problem in the first place
Use all your intelligence to know another and how they relate with you. Do your best to see your own weaknesses and good luck :)
So much wisdom! Thank you!
Wow 😲 it's amazing teaching.It's great treasure to anyone who accept it and to live according to it.
God bless you, sir Rabbi 💯🙌🙏👏
Wonderful teaching. Thank you!
rabbi spittin that real talk
Thank you rabbi 🙏
being confortable when with others is mostly depending on how much a person is secure with herself/himself.. someone ok with himself/herself will be confortable with almost anyone, so it's difficult to understand based on this criteria..
This man is so wise.
Thank you.
Very good advices, thank you
Great video.
The Bible teaches us once you are married trials and tribulations comes. We just shouldn’t be sexual active because of the control issues. Most people just want sexual activity and not in it for love.
In order to understand the bible , you need to understand the Torah....
Love , is not a good reason to get married .... please pay attention to the teaching... is deeper than what today's world so called "love " is more like lust
Johana Bermeo
Amen in order to understand God everyone needs His Holy Spirit. He leads to all truth. Amen brother
Love is already dead because of money
Спасибо Вам Дорогой Рэбе!!
Amazing Guidance.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤
At 27 I have recognised my aversion to dating. I have always thought of long term and it has scared people away
Rabbi I respect your visions. I am a women age 73. I hope to date a lovely man to have a wonderfull time together for the time being...♥️
You surely will
How is it going
Probably already passed away dreaming
I turn 73 next week. Never married. I gave up that dream decades ago.
@@garyfrancis6193 I understood this in my 20s now I know there is no such thing as soul mates or love all that is bs and farytales the one doesn’t exist it’s a matter of “who”…life happens without knowing so meeting a person one thinks is the one and the divorce rates are like 70% of all marriages have ended it’s all fary tales once more…they can go meet someone else and call them soul mate even after one dies the other spouse will find another
I appreciated your explanation of nuture an hour in. Everyone wants to be welcomed with joy 😊
I appreciate this.
How a man treats his mother, sister, is how he will treat you. How he treats you is how he treats his daughter.
There are men who treat their Mother's horribly yet love/are loyal to their wife and vice versa. There are also men who treat 1woman horribly and then take a Uturn and treat another very well usually because of money or convenience.
Not really. I treat people based on their character and behaviour
Do you have a teaching from the male side on the lines of this subject
the real problem with men is their relationship with their mothers.. so many look like they are already married to their mothers ..
Many secular Jewish men are, unfortunately. And the ones that aren’t, hate their mother and have a toxic relationship with her. Therefore, it makes it difficult either way. Hard to find a man with a healthy relationship and attachment to his mother ready to move onto starting a life with his wife.
superb
I would LOVE for guys to tell me what I'm like. You'd think they would after I end it, but they act like it's a secret cause they don't want me to learn anything.
Ok ok I will tell you 🙂
Don't think for others wide wisdom souls congratulations from Kenya
What about when you have been divorced, how does this apply to getting married again?
Oh my heart I feel your pain.Feel ours.
We are made for love.Nothing else.
Profound...unfortunately not known/understood in the secular world..
Todar greetings from Salomon from Amsterdam
I agree with so much of what the Rabbi is saying. My only dispute is a girl of 15 having a baby. Any age below 20 are required to to take a lot of calcium. Why? Their bodies are still growing until about 19 and a child before that take from the mothers bones not her calcium. A mother younger than age is a higher risk pregnancy and have more complications than a 20 year old. So marry at 19 and have a child at 20 and 9 months. A man reaches maturity closer to age 30 and is better equipped to protect and take on the physical burdens of life. His temper should be more even. A man’s brain does not reach full growth until age 24-26, allowing for better decision making after maturity. So a woman marrying at 20 and a man after 24-26 makes better sense. Are some more mature earlier, yes. But why not take the best ages to be long lived and mature. The age age of death was also 47-50 a the turn of the century and earlier for many reasons.
yup
What about people who end up single? And since the 1980s, so many of us do or really struggle NOT to be. Does it mean God never meant them to marry? That there was no one to "reunite" with for them? Really want to know.
I listen to all the wiseguys
Sixty, single and happy after abusive husbands... Am I ok being happy and single?
It’s Ok , to have another, than not having at all
You are OK, if you marry another man he would very probably be an abusive husband too.
Husband”ssssss????
Howcome you pick so badly repeatedly?
I ❤that you don’t do that call someone from another room I keep telling my daughter she doesn’t understand
Marriage is great, getting divorced is extremely messy. Unfortunately, it has become a business matter that requires a contract or premarital agreement. That starts taking a little wind out of your love storys sail right away for some folks. Good! That is a sure sign of what they wanted, you or the money. Good Luck!
God Bless!
Podrían hacer el esfuerzo de traducirlo al menos subtitulado en español, Shalom
16:01 - 16:22.
WOW!
So what happens if you marry a bad person
Well, you have to fix your mistake?
If I had of been married at age 13 then I would've loved to have live happy well adjusted lifetimes productive contribute to society stand and be counted
The what? Chaperone? System? LET ME IN ON THE WISDOM 😭
The Shadkhan. It's the hebrew word for a matchmaker
How about if you dont get along, marriage is better if is based on friend ship, jsnt it?
I want to meet you live
But I married quickly at 19 and it was very bad. He was Jewish, I am Jewish. He beat me, I got away when I was pregnant.
I didn't get to know him well enough!
I married husband number 2 after dating longer and it was better.
He was a good father to my daughter.
My Great- Grandmother married a stranger. She left her family in Galicia to marry in Bukovina. My Great- Grandfather was Hasidic from Sadogora. Much unhappiness and tragedy followed .
Sorry, but this advice is wrong.
You need to know the person first!!!!!!
❤
Exactly, his advice is "good" if the setting is "the same by default". Unfortunately, it's not the case.
I think he’s saying get to know them like a business relationship versus whimsical dating with romance and sex. A marriage is meant to be practical.
It’s the perspective that’s important. When you feel comfortable being you in his or her presence that’s a good sign.
you can't know a person. all these divorces all arround, 95% of them took enough to know each other, but.....
That’s why having a community of support and a trusted advisor, asking the right questions and evaluating behavior with the help of more experienced adults (parents, rabbi/rebbetzin, teacher, etc).
Rabbi what is this year 2023? You mentioned two years ago was the year of togetherness.
I need to figure out why I keep falling for people who have parent wounds
6:25 Does this speesh also apply to young men?
What is this word that he says at 13:24 Talk to who?
L'chaim!
🙏
Too many people who come from broken families
RABBI WHAT IF THE MOTHER AND FATHER ARE DEAD??? Is it okay to marry
❤
No doubt all this trouble is there today and I myself have felt it. But, is teenage marriage something to be nostalgic about? Almost all my grandparents were married as teenagers and I know one of my grandmothers hated it and never got over it and let us know how miserable she was on the issue. Her negative attitude was a legacy she gave to at least 2 generations to endure. Funny, I used to see her in best light but I don't think that highly of her anymore.
4 years ago I did go go Israël . The man that wanted to marry was homeless...!
🙄🙉 you clearly listen but pat no attention to the message
I was homeless, write a book and now I'm not. People that are homeless are lacking something, if your able to provide that something, people can make remarkable changes. The books titled "Signocology". Follow your heart.
Never liked dating, thanks!
I KNOW!!! Let’s hang out and not date Celsa lol jk
53:56
I HAVEN'T SOLD MYSELF IN MY LIFETIMES
Aaaand not having this advice is why I’m getting divorced 😢
Rabi this is great wisdom but obviously suitable for jews. Unfortunately, a Shadchan is not always available for all cultures. Perhaps, my local parish is the best option....
Hi. I am Akamumpa DAvid from Africa. Do you intend to mean that a woman has to be permissive to a husband? Thank you.
Its better not to get marry, but will ne lonely
Good evening from Az, Rabbi I have been listening to your teachings for a while, and impress meyour teaching on relationsgips and your soul mate, my relationsgip at the moment is one , like you described!!
He is not my soul mate!!
he does not study anymore, and he is so into himself, I need a man that will love Elohim and be faitful more then anything else...
I feel he will betray me eventually, he has wondering eyes...
I'm meeting someone and I will know if I wanna get married to them after 6 months
60 yr old babies
What is Shatah or what he mentions in this conversation?
No sure spelling
Shadchan -it’s the hebrew word for Matchmaker
Hebrew (Jewish) terms need to be explained. For example shartsun (spelling?). I think it means chaperone,
Probably matchmaker
Shidduch is a matchmaker, yes
It's essential for the survival of the Greco Roman bloodlines that people start have two children by the age of sixteen too eighteen years of age and and two at twenty seven eight and another one at forty forty-five
Marriage is indeed a REUNION. I agree 100%
What if God has not written or given you a husband - what if you have no reunion and there is no one for you?
18 advertisements on purpose? 😥
The next video has an advert every 4 minutes or so, I think. I was going to comment there, then I saw your remark. When trying to talk about higher things, why be interrupted every few minutes by camp metrosexuals and others trying to sell you something? It doesn't make sense to me. Maybe the Rabbi needs to generate extra income for some reason we don't know.
I *never* knowingly click on any advert that generates money for Google, whether on YT videos or Google Ads or Doubleclick ads (hover over and make sure it's not a Google company before clicking). Google promotes its atheistic progressivism over truth and righteousness and bans videos it doesn't like, or allows them, but puts a big notice up about finding the facts on SJWpedia.
But I do other things online while listening to the Rabbi, but I've just let a few adverts slip by when I muted a previous one until the 'Skip' box appears. I believe that Google earns from ads which play to their conclusion, even if you don't click on them. You could say that writing this lengthy reply is a sort of mitzvah in case I gave a few shekels to Google. I should have been more diligent. I just stopped listening after less than 20 minutes, so I think it will be counterproductive.
I understand that these YT ads make next to nothing anyway, unless your vids are attracting millions of views and then you might make a mediocre pittance. I wish people would get sponsors instead or sell more mugs and T-shirts or some other money-raising idea which doesn't involve giving money to arguably the world's biggest liars.
I have just watched a video on one of my other favourite channels and he had six sets of adverts in a 10 minute video. I reckon that YT must now be rewarding CZcamsrs with extra money if they show umpteen ads per hour of video. Let's hope it is the death knell for YT and that people will go to individuals' own websites, even if it's to listen to humble podcasts. I would love to see, before I die, the death of the evil Google Empire.
@@stewartcowan9659on
What about people who dont get married? There was no match for them in heaven?🤔
Stay a way from Dating apps and people who dont respect God