I Caught My Husband On Dating Apps | Paul Friedman
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- What will you do if you caught your husband on dating sites or dating apps? In this video, Paul explain and help you better understand what is happening, and hopefully, convince you to take a more realistic approach;
What is going on in our world?
All you have to do is look at television, watch the movies, read the magazines and people are deluged with bad behavior and it's accepted. Let's get a drink, let's smoke some pot, let's date other women, let's date other men -- it's horrible. The whole idea of marriage has been lost to this generation and I don't want to get into a deep explanation. I just want to help you with this but I also want you to understand that your husband is human and he too is susceptible to this negative immoral environment that we live in, you are too. Now, it is wrong for your husband to be on dating apps. Don't misunderstand me. It's wrong, it is.
You could say reprehensible. You could say it's disgusting. You could say it's unforgivable and if you do if you're not able to forgive your husband then really what you want is you want to find someone to help you get a divorce and that's not what I am about. I'm about helping you recognize that if you see this as a wake-up call instead of as the end you can not only save your marriage which I really want you to do but you can turn it around. You can make your marriage literally amazing from this point so I'd like you to consider something. Consider that today begins the rest of your life with your husband and you have the ability to win him back.
When I say you can win him back some women take this as if it's their job to win him back. No, it's not your job to win him back now that he's strayed. It was your job to win him every single day of your marriage. That was your job. When you got married and I'm not turning the tables here but I'm showing you a perspective that's going to help you unless you want a divorce. I want you to have a different perspective. I want you to recognize that the reason he's on dating apps isn't because of the environment that's what gave him support to do it but it's because he wasn't getting what he needed from you. You have the power.
Men are not as strong unfortunately as women are when it comes to resisting temptation
and there are all these biological reasons for this and I'm not trying to give him an excuse. I'm trying to give you a way of recognizing that he's not evil. He's not evil and you can now win him back and don't think you can win him back by competing with the temptations
of new and better which is what a dating app is all about. The dating apps and there's
many many men on these dating apps who are married -- it's shameful but it's always for the same reason.
The culture that we now have this women's lib culture has abandoned the idea of women
being the heart of the household. They've turned this equality into equal, equal, equal instead of different but we are all equal because we're all souls. Men and women are not the same. You as a woman have something that a man does not have usually and that's the connection to your heart, not to your emotions but to your heart. It's very different.
There's a Sanskrit word for heart chit and it represents a feeling that is not like emotional feeling but the feeling of the soul, of the heart that is overwhelming love as a woman
because of biology and because of the need to take care of children. This chip is opened up for you almost automatically. You need to only tap into it and not reserve it just for your
children. It should have been opened up to your husband right from the start and I could go into all the explanations of why that isn't the case and a lot of it, unfortunately, begins with promiscuity. When women are dating, generally speaking, they're having sex and they are opening up their bodies to men and so they have to close off their hearts because if you put that combination together it's very hard for the woman to reconcile her role with the man.
Okay, we're getting a little far out but the point of it is this. Once you're married, you have to line up your heart with everything that you do with your husband and this is the trick, this is
the key, this is the solution. It's not just, "Honey, check out my body," because you want to
compete with the potential that he's now realizing on these dating sites. You don't just start smiling because that's how you did it when you were dating. You should have never stopped smiling. You should have never stopped being complimentary.
Why? Why would you do that?
We get married to be happy. You did, he did but we forget to make each other happy and then we get into this death spiral. I call it over-familiarity. It's outlined in both of my books and in the courses.
Watch the video for more.
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Caught my husband on a dating site recently. I'm still extremely hurt by it, however slowly getting better. It's not fair to say that he wasn't getting what he needed in our relationship because if i did the same he would probably hate me. I'll try to stay with him but if it happens again in any way I'm DONE!! It's hard because now the trust is gone. Probably won't come back anytime soon. He's talked to women in the past (beginning of our relationship) and now tried that again.
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My husband cheated on me last February which led to us separating. He became physical with me and things got really bad. He didn’t admit it till last 2 weeks ago. I was accused as someone who is hallucinating. We decided to try it again after more than 2 months of being separated but still yesterday I discovered him in this MOMO dating app. How would you feel if you are in my shoes? Do I just let it slide?
That's not the right question. The right question is "How do I mak my marriage work?" You can save it and turn it around but you must do so on your own (as most of our members). The course for women begins with a free trial so you can get a feel for it. themarriagefoundation.org/ try it
Not only is he cheating, but he is gaslighting you. The advice from this channel. Some times the best question is not how to make it work.
What about if he was caught on a dating app as a boyfriend. Would you still advise the same for someone who wants to work through it ?
Do you want to live with a man who is not serious about you and have children with him?
Same happened with me its thrice now i cant trust him anymore even after the baby should i go for divorce?
The first step is to learn how to be more tempting than temptation, but the right way, as a unconditionally loving wife. Get the course, so you children grow up in love and harmony. themarriagefoundation.org/
@@TheMarriageFoundation why does the man get to love conditionally but women have to love unconditionally?
What about his job
Damn it
I have NEEDS TOO!
That "I have needs too" perspective will continue to erode your relationship, as you recognize to be true just by comparing it with unconditional love, which is the greatest aspect of a well-run marriage,
Caught mine red handed. He fluffed it off saying his boss must have created the profile 🙄 2-3 weeks later. I catch him again. This time. Different user name. Again. Blames boss. Unfortunately, he forgot that he created this 2nd profile New Years Day. He didn’t work Nyd. Didn’t see the boss that day. And still hasn’t deleted the app. Fml
The stories we hear are all either of fight, flight, or a combination. Undeniably, husbands who cheat have reached a point of not feeling their wife's love, for whatever reason, so rationalize thier cheating (karma is a universal law. They will pay without your assitence). If you have children you are blessed because you the wife are morally obligated to rebuild your marriage almost no matter what. Then, by using our woman's course you can and will have a great marriage. Its not too late. Some women angrily ask "what about his moral obligation?! He blew his moral obligation." That is true, but it has become a question of whather you want to be married and live with cheating, or end the marriage, which I advise against. If you take my advice you will take the course which will change the dynamics and quality of your life and marriage. themarriagefoundation.org/ If you imagine that you can do this on your own or just rust read one of my books or traditional marriage counseling will help you then from my nearly 25 years of experience I must say that TMF works and other approaches fail
This is i need it right now. I’m so broken hearted hes been doung this twice . I’m not a bad wife and I’m taking care of him and our daughter . The problem with me is im not a showy affection . But i do in other way of love i ca t change cause this is my personality
That's what "they" tell us but it is incorrect. You CAN change and I would hope turning your marriage around is enough incetive for you to begin...take the course for women...no excuses, please.
Win him back!! after 30 years of lying and gas lighting, how about they try harder in being decent, honest men!!!!! Chit broken!! Over and out!
Him gas lighting you and you gas lighting him....hmmmm
@@TheMarriageFoundation How so🤔🤔
hmmmm misogyny...................
hmmm labeling and blaming. My dear, you have the power fo be all love and joy. Why waste so much of yourself by refusing to open your own heart? Learn to love unconditionally and you will feel joy like you are meant to. No need to suffer at all. 🙏
I been married to my husband over three years but i known him for 7 years and i recntly found out he was going on these apps and one night he was on instgram and sending these women messages it hurt me so bad it still does he says he was drunk but it just so wrong i thought he would never do this to me so what advise should i do
Work on becoming an amazing woman who he is so taken with that he would never look away from you or the thought of you.
@@TheMarriageFoundation I’m sorry what?! She needs to improve herself to keep his eye from wandering?! Are you serious?
@@delmarreyna ikr? What kind of nonsense of advice is that?
You’re kidding me. She need to do what? She’s not his mother! That’s not a good advice. Get another job
What about if he was caught on a dating app as a boyfriend. Would you still advise the same for someone who wants to work through it ?
The marriage commitment brings many things into your life that are not present in a mere gf/bf relationship including the promise of unconditional love. A bf who is not sincere and loyal at that stage isn't mature enough to be a great husband. A bf who is already cheating on you should be walked away from quickly.