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Komentáře • 318

  • @shanaburns2702
    @shanaburns2702 Před 2 lety +115

    I’m saying no to babysitting. As a stay at home mom, it’s assumed that I’m available to watch everyone else’s kids. But I decided to stay at home to have special one on one time with my own. ❤️

    • @SimplyBeautiful516
      @SimplyBeautiful516 Před rokem +4

      As a 58 year old grandmother, I just want to encourage you in your decision. I wish I had had the courage to say no at that time in my life.

  • @amyanderson6134
    @amyanderson6134 Před 2 lety +61

    I said no to Facebook and Instagram a few years ago and it made a world of difference in my anxiety and contentment. I still use youtube but I find it doesnt have the same mindless scrolling effect as the other two, I can choose to watch something thats helpful instead of hurtful. Thanks for your videos, I always enjoy what you have to say and find it very helpful and encouraging.

  • @Claudia_K.
    @Claudia_K. Před 2 lety +53

    I’ve just quit a high profile job to return to my first job - working as a goldsmith at a local jeweller. I say no to pointless zoom meetings, a second mobile phone, high pressure, no weekends and say yes to a mindful occupation that turns old stuff into new, serves the local economy and moreover, myself. After a breast cancer scare I re-evaluated my life and didn’t want to carry on to feel chased and stressed. I cannot wait to start this calmer way of life. I know I will be a better mum and wife soon. Xx

    • @scrubs4everr
      @scrubs4everr Před 2 lety +3

      That sounds awesome! All the best to you ✨

    • @Claudia_K.
      @Claudia_K. Před 2 lety +3

      @@scrubs4everr Thanks so much! My new job starts soon, can’t wait to slow down and work with my hands again. x

  • @niaawright
    @niaawright Před 2 lety +20

    I’m a teacher and I say no to staying hours late and forcing myself to go above and beyond everyday. I’ve learned that I deserve a break

  • @aniacool314
    @aniacool314 Před 2 lety +26

    I’m saying “no” to being burdened by stuff, and “yes” to decluttering!!

  • @sherriepiechowski4556
    @sherriepiechowski4556 Před 2 lety +70

    I just turned 68 and thanks to all you lovely young ladies who have such insight and wisdom here on CZcams, I am learning to say NO to all the stuff! And yes to the healthy habits, what I put in and on my body as well as my brain. I am loving your channel and now I’m heading over to check out your friends channel that you suggested. 🥰

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +1

      Ah, thanks Sherrie! Those words are so kind, thank you.

    • @geriv1582
      @geriv1582 Před 2 lety +3

      I couldn't agree more. I'm 50+ and learning so much from the younger generations. I feel we all bring so much to the table and love this community for allowing us to share & learn from one another.

    • @vanessamay3689
      @vanessamay3689 Před 2 lety

      @@geriv1582
      Nearing 70 but found decluttering recently. New subscriber here.
      Love to learn more about living with less but it’s without stress too. Win win 🏆

    • @jmsl_910
      @jmsl_910 Před rokem +1

      you might also like "60 and Me," im 55 and i love margaret. she's a hipster, in a good way, like us!

  • @haleychildress5755
    @haleychildress5755 Před 2 lety +35

    Im saying no to comparing my life to others. I love the saying. "Don't compare yourself to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

  • @samrigdon1825
    @samrigdon1825 Před 2 lety +76

    I’m saying no to mom guilt! as a new mama to a 4.5 month old (hitting that dreaded regression as we speak) I’m refusing to compare. God gave me this baby bc he knows I’m the best mama for her. Also, Your channel makes health/healthy living feel actually achievable! So, thank you! (Sam is my husband, I’m Sarah haha).

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +6

      oh my goodness. yes. Love this so much. Your words are so wise, I'm encouraged by them! And thank you for that encouragement too!

    • @happiest.northwest
      @happiest.northwest Před 2 lety +2

      Hi Sarah, I also have a 4.5 month old. Bye Mom Guilt! ✌️

    • @Livingthefreelife
      @Livingthefreelife Před 2 lety +1

      👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 well done Sarah, you are right! ❤️

  • @madams6891
    @madams6891 Před 2 lety +15

    I'm saying NO to feeling as if I need to defend myself to people who try and provoke negative responses from me. It's amazing how freeing it is to just smile and walk away.

  • @whitneyhafner2665
    @whitneyhafner2665 Před 2 lety +53

    Such a great video idea!! I started saying no to chick flick/romance movies about eight years ago when I got engaged. I have never watched much television to begin with but I found that those movies filled my head with unrealistic expectations of my spouse and fed me full of discontentment. Anything that makes me feel that way is not allowed in my home! So thankful I made that choice!

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +3

      ohhhh woah that's such an intentional one. Thanks for sharing!

    • @MessyTessie
      @MessyTessie Před 2 lety +1

      I love this!

    • @EliseWood
      @EliseWood Před 2 lety +2

      I’ve never been into too many chic flicks either but amen I heard that several years ago about being careful w the types of movies and books you read because it will only set you up for failure if you start comparing your spouse!

    • @kaleigh4081
      @kaleigh4081 Před 2 lety +4

      You're so right! Also all the CZcams Videos of how marriage proposals. My husband didn't do that (it wasn't even a thing 34 years ago!) but I found myself feeling like I missed out on something. So I'm also saying no to chic flics and those proposal videos. Such a great idea! Thanks!

    • @progresswithjes
      @progresswithjes Před 2 lety +1

      i did that too!!

  • @bethlong6773
    @bethlong6773 Před 2 lety +18

    I’m saying no to worry! The temptation to worry about every 👏🏻 stinking 👏🏻 thing 👏🏻 is always lurking! We are expecting our first baby and I’m experiencing a new level of needing to say no to worry and taking all of those thoughts captive and bringing them to the Lord! Thank you so much for sharing, Margaret! ❤️

  • @stephanienoble2926
    @stephanienoble2926 Před 2 lety +10

    I’m saying no to perfectionism, having 5 kids and wanting to have this picture perfect home is driving me insane, I don’t want to miss out on the little moments!

  • @leek7987
    @leek7987 Před 2 lety +13

    Good information to think on. I am saying no to worry. Each time I begin to worry about my child, the state of the world, health... anything, I remind myself that worry is a sin. I ask for forgiveness and strength to be strong in my faith.

  • @ever4313
    @ever4313 Před 2 lety +6

    I am saying No to consuming too much media. It stresses me out and gives me anxiety, with everything that's going on in this world. I really enjoy your videos. They are so calm and intentional....
    My new favorite CZcamsr!

  • @arellasat
    @arellasat Před 2 lety +5

    I proudly say “no” when people tell me to stop letting my kids sleep in my bed. They’re only little once, and I love the snuggles. In therapy, I spend a lot of time working on being okay with living without constant extreme stimulation. It all stems back to my childhood where my environment was chaotic and unstable so that’s been my “norm”. I’ve started implementing a more minimalist lifestyle after watching your videos and it helps really set up my soul to be better grounded. It’s such a new positive thing.

  • @patfume23
    @patfume23 Před 2 lety +5

    I'm saying NO to complaining and explaining myself to people 💜💓

  • @MessyTessie
    @MessyTessie Před 2 lety +19

    I'm saying no to expecting myself to get everything done! I am a new mom to a 5 month old and some days I feel really productive but most days I can only get a few things done other than caring for my son. I don't want to be a stressed out mom, but a patient, loving mom who smiles and enjoys the little moments. ♥

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +4

      Oh yes, this is so good. Such wise words. It's okay for things to not get done. Cherishing and nourishing our relationship with our children, is the greatest work.

    • @clairechloe5294
      @clairechloe5294 Před rokem +1

      Well said. 👍👍👍👍

  • @FlowersandPhrasesBooksandTea

    A long time ago I started saying no to the need to “have an opinion” on everything! Loved your tips , thanks for sharing them with us.

    • @roseorelien110
      @roseorelien110 Před 2 lety +2

      Woww that’s a really good one, and it really resonates with me. I’m learning so much from this video and comment section.

  • @africasun
    @africasun Před 2 lety +12

    This was awesome! I’m saying NO to always saying “sorry”, when it’s not my fault or I’m actually protecting my boundaries which I’m not sorry about but then say sorry to make others feel comfortable! Nope nope done! 🤗

  • @emilylakebrink7363
    @emilylakebrink7363 Před 2 lety +13

    Recently discovered your channel and have been binge watching!!! I’m saying no to letting what other people think of me define who I am. I once read that the only person that truly matters in your grandstand is the Lord….so true!

  • @barbarabradshaw845
    @barbarabradshaw845 Před 2 lety +4

    I started saying no to stuff 10 years ago when I left my home in PA to help take care of my grandsons in GA, while their parents worked.. I would go home in the summer and declutter every year. Now my 3 grandsons are all in school and my home is wonderfully decluttered. I also have stopped buying stuff thoughtlessly. Thank you for giving me so many good ideas.

  • @ashleegomez9217
    @ashleegomez9217 Před 2 lety +5

    Girrrrl!! I was literally in prayer this morning, and God told me I needed to slow down and simplify my life. To stop over committing myself. I was like, " Okay, God, what does that look like?" This is so good! 💕

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +2

      Wow, I love that. He is so good to us. So glad you enjoyed it.

  • @joofark
    @joofark Před 2 lety +3

    I'm 62 and I'm also grateful for the young, wise women out there inspiring us all and creating a community of love. This is definitely one of the things the internet is for: connection. I wish I had had this when I was young and moving constantly with the military.
    I am saying no to excess in all areas of my life, and it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this pursuit.
    Thank you, Margaret. You are lovely.

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +1

      Jo, these words are so so kind. Thanks for saying that. I love connecting to others through social media too. It's the good side of it!

  • @rebekahmalcom2500
    @rebekahmalcom2500 Před 2 lety +9

    Love this, Margaret! I’ve been saying no to too many social engagements. I’m an introvert and, as much as I absolutely love getting to know people and spending time with the people in my life, sometimes too many social engagements just drain me of energy and bring me stress. Im choosing to really be intentional about saying yes to the things that really fuel me positively, but saying no to things that just take time away from spending with my kids and my husband. I don’t have to fill up my calendar, and I know that saying no to too many play dates or parties helps me and my family function better.

  • @kelmonte2209
    @kelmonte2209 Před 2 lety +1

    I am saying no to comparison. As a mom with a special needs kiddo, I got into that trap and it sent me into a deep depression. Now I love myself, I love my kids, and I am grateful for the life God has set before us.

  • @Smartys11808
    @Smartys11808 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I’m saying no to double standards for people. I am not allowed to talk to other coworkers on slow days at work, but my other coworkers can talk to everyone else and it’s accepted. I am saying “no” to giving a shi* anymore and am allowing myself to be human and communicate with people I enjoy, whether I’m at work or not.

  • @savannahroberts8375
    @savannahroberts8375 Před 2 lety +2

    I'm saying no to feeling like I need to have everything under control. It's not realistic for me to think that I can be perfect and have every part of my life under control. I'm a mom and can't always be picture perfect. I'm saying YES to being happy with where I am in life!

  • @Mama2Gingers
    @Mama2Gingers Před 2 lety +8

    Love all these, Margaret! The thing I’m saying no to is immediately answering my dad’s phone calls if not convenient at the time. I love my dad very much. He is a retired Army drill sergeant, so he can be tough and have high standards. He always expects me to answer him immediately regardless of what is going on in my wife/mom moments. I also am a people pleaser who wants to make everyone happy, and of course I want him to be proud of me. I’m working on finding the balance every day.

    • @rachellehoogendoorn
      @rachellehoogendoorn Před 2 lety +2

      I had an emotionally draining person call me. I was so proud of myself when I paused and decided if it was something I wanted at that time or to answer later. Such a great thing to not be at the beckon of everyone else

    • @Mama2Gingers
      @Mama2Gingers Před 2 lety

      @@rachellehoogendoorn yes, definitely 🙌

  • @gracepaddison6809
    @gracepaddison6809 Před 2 lety +2

    I (try to!) say no to practicing conversations I want to have, particularly convos I want to have with my boyfriend - i.e. talking to myself as if I was talking to him, and hoping I get around to actually having that conversation. I used to do this heaps to help with the fact that I'm a verbal processor and need to talk stuff out, but I've actually found that this just indulges every little anxiety or pet peeve that really doesn't need a conversation, or airtime in my mind, and it also creates a false sense of intimacy and on-the-same-page-ness, because I FEEL like he gets where I'm at and how I feel, before I've ever actually communicated it with him - and a lot of the time *I don't even get there.* Instead, I've started journalling my thoughts - it's slower, less anxious and rambly, and I can read it back to see if it deserves a conversation. If I do feel like it deserves a conversation, I book in a time to have a phone call with him (so it's a contained conversation) and park my thoughts there to come back to during that call. I often find that things are less of a big deal than I imagine, I don't need a big speech for him to understand me, and that organic, honest conversations are so much more rewarding than rehearsed, anxious ones. :)

  • @cassidycarbonneau9099
    @cassidycarbonneau9099 Před 2 lety +2

    Saying no to taking things on just because others won’t. I work heavily in my church and have such a strong desire to see the entire body of Christ working together, not just the people pleasers and those upfront!

  • @Circa.Fabrics
    @Circa.Fabrics Před 2 lety +6

    I’m saying no to having to be right and the pressure have all the answers 🤍 such an inspiring video, thank you 🙏

  • @paulashockey6785
    @paulashockey6785 Před 2 lety +2

    I say no to people who make comments to me concerning that I go to Sunday morning Sunday School, the regular service after Sunday School, Sunday night service and Wednesday night Bible study. They say I don’t have to go to all services to be a Christian but this is between God and myself.

  • @dsero00
    @dsero00 Před 2 lety +3

    I'm saying NO to forcing myself to do things to make others happy. Ive done it so many times over the years and I felt bad at the end of the day. I didn't want to do it but I did it to make people happy. I cant make everyone happy and Im trying to focus on myself, my family and my kids (8 & 2) :)

  • @natalienorman8238
    @natalienorman8238 Před 2 lety +7

    I’m saying no to having a jam packed schedule. My husband and I recently moved across the country. Before we moved we talked about some of things we were looking forward to about our new adventure. One of the things we both agreed on immediately was being able to spend more time together. Before the move we had something going on every night/weekend. We decided to slow it down and prioritize our time with each other.

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +1

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    • @natalienorman8238
      @natalienorman8238 Před 2 lety

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  • @Kayla-yv7wc
    @Kayla-yv7wc Před 2 lety +2

    im saying no to skipping workouts! I have to start thinking of it like eating good food and drinking water - exercise is just as essential

  • @annedaniel9605
    @annedaniel9605 Před 2 lety

    I am learning not to compare my body with others or what society says we should look like. I am 43, and with that comes changes to my body. I want to be healthy. I don't need to look like a twenty-something anymore. I'm learning to love that God designed me and has blessed me with the privilege of being in my forties. A mama of an 18 and 17-year-old, a wife of almost 21 years, And an autoimmune disease thriver. Every day and year is a gift from the Lord!
    It is a work in progress! 🤍
    Thank you for your encouragement!!!
    A quote I love is, “What are you going to do with the mundane days of life?”
    Those are the days that make up our lives!!!
    Have a blessed day and week! 💙

  • @haleymeixl2500
    @haleymeixl2500 Před 2 lety +4

    I chose to say no to unsolicited parenting advice. (Specifically my MIL) I will listen to her but will make my own parenting decisions. No one knows my baby better than me!!

  • @diannamallow5195
    @diannamallow5195 Před 2 lety +1

    There are so many things I need to say no to. My husband last year had 2 strokes and open heart surgery and I need to not beat myself up for getting everything done by myself. If it doesn't get done today it will be there tomorrow.

  • @sarahkhoeini6504
    @sarahkhoeini6504 Před 25 dny

    This the first time I am putting comments for a CZcams video because I really love your words. I am an immigrant muslim mom of two girls and expecting twins (girls) in a few month. Your way of life is very much in line of my beliefs, emotions, and goals. I am just happy to see someone else is actually doing those very well. Gives me a lot of confidence and lightens up my way. God bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing!!!

  • @sara.alli.son1
    @sara.alli.son1 Před 2 lety

    I’m just simply saying no to people without feeling guilty. It is becoming so freeing. ☀️

  • @cassandraduncan2947
    @cassandraduncan2947 Před 2 lety

    I say no to toxic people. Took me a long time to realize the impact they had on my entire life. Leaking into my relationship with God, my husband, children, family and friends. It's such a freeing feeling...

  • @briannalarsen3601
    @briannalarsen3601 Před 2 lety +2

    No to unnecessary things in our schedule! I dont like to run to the store for "that one thing I need". I rack up my errands and tackle them all at once in a week if I can. I stopped feeling bad about not going somewhere every day with my 3 kids. Once I let that go, I've embraced the home life all the more! I'm also a home body and introvert, so that just speaks to my language. :)
    Also no to toxic skincare and makeup. Gave that up a couple years ago and never going back!

  • @taylorjbow
    @taylorjbow Před 2 lety +8

    I'm with you on saying no to the toxic things I used to put on my skin!! Wish I would've researched it more when I was younger, but at least I know now and have switched out so many products--even though it's more expensive, my health is important too! :)

  • @SocalHHPGal
    @SocalHHPGal Před 2 lety +3

    Wonderful points. Life is so short. I say no to making everything a priority, being hyper-vigelent about making other people happy, and taking a break from those who are energy zappers.

  • @rubyelena9305
    @rubyelena9305 Před 2 lety +3

    I love this, thank you 🙏🏽
    We say no to family. There are so many birthdays, and events. We have to say no to otherwise we would never be home. Having time at home is so valuable to us.

  • @maryssaann
    @maryssaann Před 2 lety +2

    Had to learn recently to let go/say no to surface level friends. I recently lost a lot of friends over political views with everything that’s been so supercharged. I’ve never been someone to drop someone due to their beliefs but being left behind and alone has been hard. But I’ve been trying to work through those feelings and focusing on my spouse and boys and relationship with God in this season ❤️

  • @davidandamandaboots
    @davidandamandaboots Před 2 lety +4

    I'm saying no to constant busyness! Family time, especially meals together, is very important to me. Loving your channel lately!

  • @laralabronbaldwin
    @laralabronbaldwin Před 2 lety +2

    As a stay at home mum of a toddler it’s easy to get caught up in play dates and activities and busy life everyday/week
    But I say No to back to back plans so that we can come home and relax, spend time being calm and centred. I know it benefits my daughter and it certainly benefits me.
    We will do a morning activity or play date or event then afternoons at home, or if there’s an afternoon/evening plan we spend the morning at home or next day with no plans.
    I love that and it’s really improved my adrenals and how I act because I personally am not someone who thrives off being busy.
    I love socialising and doing fun things, then I need time to also be calm and at home with some free play and home cooked food. Is anyone else like that? I find it sets us all up so much better having those mini reset days or afternoons between actions.
    Love this video! There’s a lot more I say no to, but that’s the first one I thought of that I implement. X

  • @Jessie-wk3ri
    @Jessie-wk3ri Před 2 lety +3

    I’m saying no to holding on to resentment from what others have said to me that was hurtful! I realize it says more about them and is not my fault. I’m learning to forgive more easily like the Bible says to do but sometimes I will still feel resentful towards that person. I’m also a recovering people pleaser as well.

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +1

      This really spoke to me today, Jessie. Thank you for sharing and encouraging me to do the same.

  • @foreveryoungmama05
    @foreveryoungmama05 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m saying no to doing life the way the majority of people do it-doing what everyone else is doing because that’s the way it’s always been done. Nope! Our family does what’s best for us, and we do not care what other people think. It’s a freeing way to live!

  • @user-eo9pd2ry4h
    @user-eo9pd2ry4h Před 5 měsíci

    I’ve really been enjoying your videos. I too am on a simplifying journey. My Mom always told me when I was growing up that “ there is a lot of just everyday living to be done”. She was/is so right. Living a life and making it thru all the twists and turns is exciting enough for me. 😊

  • @amandaness6
    @amandaness6 Před 2 lety

    I'm saying no obsessing about what I'm eating and how much. The moment I start obsessing, I start overindulging because I go immediately into a scarcity/fight or flight mindset and end up binging and hating and then trying to restrict. I've started to just listen to my body, ignoring structured meal times, and just letting my body tell me what it needs, how much and when. I'm healthier, fitter, and a whole lot happier.

  • @myrestfulspirit
    @myrestfulspirit Před 2 lety +2

    I got rid of Instagram in January and though it’s only been two months, they have been the most freeing and happiest months yet. I’ve never met a soul that regretted getting rid of Instagram or any social media outlet. When you come to the realization that absolutely no one has it all together, life becomes easier!

  • @mariacaravez5896
    @mariacaravez5896 Před 2 lety +1

    I am saying no to negativity. I can be hard on myself a lot of times, and if I surround myself with people who are always complaining, they suck me in and my whole mood just goes down. I've learned that surrounding myself with people who hype me up is just so good for my well-being. Not only because they inspire and motivate me, but because when they go into that hole themselves, I'm there to hype them up as well and at the same time it releases whatever negative thoughts I had about a situation myself.

  • @victoriajohnson3034
    @victoriajohnson3034 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for not jumping on the crazy train that all social media is on these days! So refreshing

  • @amberinman4789
    @amberinman4789 Před 2 lety +3

    I love your comment about saying no to having to win all the time. That is huge, and I am going to be thinking more of how to do that myself. I also say no to most social media, and that was a hard one for me. I feel like there is so much potential for using Instagram and Facebook for business, but it was taking too much time away from my family. I had to choose the most important things.

  • @HoneyMarie20
    @HoneyMarie20 Před 2 lety +1

    I am saying no to loosing my time and being lazy. I don’t want to keep doing nothing because it’s comfortable and let life keep passing by, I want to work and accomplish my goals. Thank you for this video!

  • @rose_clips
    @rose_clips Před 2 lety +1

    Couldn’t agree more on not being so affected by what other people think of you. And I also started accepting that people will do what they think is best for them.

  • @WillnAly
    @WillnAly Před 2 lety +2

    I say no to social media! My life has been much more joyful since.
    I absolutely love your channel! Thank you for sharing!

  • @abigaildriskill3736
    @abigaildriskill3736 Před rokem

    I'm saying no to birthday parties every weekend, and yes to an open, relaxed schedule for my family that gives us room for rest and quality time together.

  • @SandiB.
    @SandiB. Před 2 lety +3

    Loooove this video! ❤️ Favorite points were saying no to winning all the time, believing everybody else's life is perfect, and having an unrealistic desire to have an exciting life all the time. Found your channel just last week and you've been such a big blessing to my life already, Margaret! 🥰

  • @SimplyBeautiful516
    @SimplyBeautiful516 Před rokem

    I’m learning to saying no to continually upgrading; including for more “ intentional living “. You can just as easily get caught up in that cycle with good stuff as you can with crappy stuff.

  • @w1f2h3
    @w1f2h3 Před 2 lety +1

    Trying to say no to a busy schedule. Not over scheduling our weekends and enrolling our kids in tons of activities. Enjoying the simple things like climbing a pile of snow for days and days as the kids are beyond excited to do this ❤️

  • @emilypappis9060
    @emilypappis9060 Před 2 lety +4

    Love this! I’m saying no to constantly feeling bad and shaming my postpartum body ♥️

  • @alenalv9493
    @alenalv9493 Před 2 lety

    "Become a better loser" is the oddest yet most inspiring thing I have ever heard. LOVE IT!

  • @Livingthefreelife
    @Livingthefreelife Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you for this Margaret, I agree with all of your points. I’m working on a few myself… one being the saying no to things in stores… I’m currently on a decluttering journey and trying to be strict with myself… one day I will get there. Your channel inspires me 🥰

  • @rabssssss
    @rabssssss Před 2 lety

    I'm saying no to events/people that are not near and dear to my heart. Choosing to be intentional with where I spend my time so I can enjoy more with my family.

  • @sinapohlmann3086
    @sinapohlmann3086 Před 2 lety +2

    Love this video! Number 13 was necessary for me to hear, thank you!
    I actually find it so hard to accept a messy home. But with having a child it is indeed impossible to maintain on a consistent level. I have spend the little free time with tidying up, but see now that I have to use it for some quality me-time or time with my hubby ☺️

  • @jessicah3003
    @jessicah3003 Před 2 lety

    I am saying no to being ungrateful! It’s so easy to look at all the things we wish we could change instead of being grateful for all the blessings we have right in this very moment. God is so good and I’m choosing to focus on that!

  • @pjdubz9383
    @pjdubz9383 Před 2 lety +1

    No to impulse buys and shopping for fun and yes to appreciating the tons of beautiful and useful things I already have. Thank you for all you are and what you choose to share :)

  • @caleeola
    @caleeola Před 2 lety

    I say no to saying yes all the time to other people. This started when I was serving in ministry at my church in 2013 and I ran across Lysa Teurkurst's book "The Best Yes." I learned that saying no to things that can consume my time (working on this when I am by myself now), means I have more time/resources/energy for the things that God has called me to. I love this new knowledge that has truly changed my life and made my husband and I more harmonious in our relationship with each other.

  • @brittneydahlberg7725
    @brittneydahlberg7725 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m ready to start saying no to winning. That hit home so hard. That competitive spirit gets us nowhere and it’s time to be oh-so aware of it. I love it!! Thank you 💕

  • @allyshadennis
    @allyshadennis Před rokem

    I'm saying no to taking things personally, whether it's from my own friends or family. I choose my own struggle and I'll not make and feel like other people's problems are my own. I have to focus on what and who matters most to me ❤

  • @em_rodd
    @em_rodd Před 2 lety +1

    I’m learning to say “no!” To feeling like I need to have lots of things on the calendar to keep the kids busy or entertained.

  • @hannahkauffman7565
    @hannahkauffman7565 Před 2 lety

    I’m saying no to obsessing over the future. I can’t control it and worrying about it won’t do a single thing. But I’m choosing to replace that with intentionality, joy, and hope in the beautiful future that God has for me, no matter what!!

  • @scrubs4everr
    @scrubs4everr Před 2 lety

    The "not having to win all the time" really hit close to home. I think we've built a culture that does prioritize perfection/strength over weakness so reminding ourselves that it's good admitting your limitations is good

  • @korifitzwater6465
    @korifitzwater6465 Před 2 lety +1

    So thankful for your honesty and vulnerability. Love hearing how the Lord has been an influence in the focus of minimalism. I am going through a hard season in life and am working toward becoming more minimal, but it is quite a process. Anyway, thanks for sharing. It's refreshing seeing your videos and finally finding someone else who has the same thoughts and focus behind these things. Thank you!

  • @catherineross7776
    @catherineross7776 Před 2 lety

    I'm saying no to denying myself the time to rest and regroup every weekend. I need to recuperate and spend time with my own soul.

  • @mylifesings-mariaklingshei1786

    Love the frequency talk! It’s not talked about enough anywhere! Love this video💛

  • @chukisworld5951
    @chukisworld5951 Před 2 lety

    I agree with your mention that its pretty hard to have a perfect neat and clean home especially with family and small kids around. You cannot expect things to be in the exact location and everything to be perfect. Learning to be content with what you have at home and taking care of what you already have at home makes you more mindful and personally I feel home is where the heart is. Organizing and keeping things in one place is different than trying to make everything be perfect.

  • @christinehirst8326
    @christinehirst8326 Před 2 lety +2

    Love your videos. They are really calming and insightful. I really appreciate this video and have written down all 17 ideas in my journal. I am saying NO to multitasking. It is helping me to slow down and be present and enjoy the process.

  • @unraveledmotherhood
    @unraveledmotherhood Před 2 lety +1

    Margaret, I am new here and feel like we are on the same wavelength right now. I have been recently eating more pro-metabolic, love Jesus, am a mama of littles, & continuing to try to limit toxins. Basically every one of these things I am working on too. Love this!

  • @bilkiskhatunn
    @bilkiskhatunn Před 10 měsíci

    I'm saying no to being perfect all the time. I'm in my early 20's and I'm constantly suffering from being the perfect friend, the perfect daughter, the perfect girlfriend, the perfect student so on and so forth, it's draining my mental health. So nope I'm gonna act exactly the kind of person I'm and not worry about what others think. The right people in my life will except that and respect me for it so why add to much stress right.

  • @sherrythompson9783
    @sherrythompson9783 Před 2 lety +1

    Saying no to exciting life (over the top ... Run, run, run!) I love the mundane simple stuff!!! 😊 I need to say no to the perfect house desire... It's a mess but I feel like I need to get it together. Trying to declutter... It feels great!

  • @EliseWood
    @EliseWood Před 2 lety +1

    I’m a stay at home mom of a 2 year old and a 6 week old (both girls:) I’m saying no to going places during nap time! That’s not fair to my kids and to me, then I have a stressful day, mom guilt and blow up! I’m trying hard, still a work in progress that God’s refining🤍 Also we as a family do not watch TV, just old tv shows or movies (Little House on the Prairie anyone)?

  • @kimber2181
    @kimber2181 Před 2 lety +1

    I am saying no to letting the news and world events affect my mood! Especially when I should be enjoying quality time with my baby and husband.

  • @gailnogueras4624
    @gailnogueras4624 Před 2 lety

    I say no to worry. That's hard in these times but trusting the Lord has taught me to be incredibly at peace with more than I would ever have thought.

  • @valc5223
    @valc5223 Před 2 lety

    I love how you talk about music and were about to get into it and you caught yourself and stopped. You can tell your a person considerate of others. Not an “all about me” person. Great videos!

  • @christinestewart5951
    @christinestewart5951 Před 2 lety +1

    Im saying NO to constantly proving myself. I am enough!!

  • @brooklynskitz1124
    @brooklynskitz1124 Před 2 lety +1

    How could anyone not like you? Youre adorable! Im new to your channel and I'm a forever watcher. God bless you and your family love!

    • @margaretmatheny
      @margaretmatheny  Před 2 lety +1

      🥺These words are so incredibly kind, thank you Brooklyn!! May the Lord send his blessings to you and your family as well.

  • @themaskefamily
    @themaskefamily Před 2 lety

    Growing up we learned to say no to having the latest and newest thing, whatever it may be, phone, vehicle, clothes etc. Also, saying no to crazy expensive vacations every year and just enjoy a simple, local outing or camping trip.
    Love this video!

  • @karenavis8678
    @karenavis8678 Před 2 lety

    I'm old enough to be your mother, but I must say... I am very glad to have stumbled upon your channel!

  • @tavaesinasofa6071
    @tavaesinasofa6071 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m saying no to constantly working so I can free up time on things that matter such as quality time with my family.❤️

  • @belindajean2883
    @belindajean2883 Před 2 lety

    I say no to being busy on all my days off. I’m off on Fridays. So that’s when I schedule appointments if needed. But I intentionally schedule appointments only every other Friday. On the other Fridays I schedule a day off!

  • @divonnejackson9345
    @divonnejackson9345 Před 2 lety

    Hi Margaret, I just discovered your channel and you are a breath of fresh air. Thank you for your videos. Speaking of a breath of fresh air, I am saying NO to holding my breath. After watching a video about breathing for high blood pressure I realized how frequently I was holding my breath. Since then I have been consciously breathing more often and more deeply and believe it or not, my blood pressure is coming down. For years I had been doing all the right things to maintain healthy blood pressure but nothing was working. I have been praying for a solution besides medication and proper breathing has become an answer. I am so grateful. 😊 So say NO to holding your breath!

  • @CoolChick09090
    @CoolChick09090 Před 2 lety

    I am saying no to a busy schedule! It is ok to have a quiet schedule a quiet day… it doesn’t have to be jam packed… being a mom of a two year old almost 3 is very busy already…

  • @Roni90317
    @Roni90317 Před rokem

    We only use Redmond's Real Salt too and I'm going to even buy the tiny travel sized one for travel from now on. Table salt is garbage. My husband and I are strict keto so we use a lot of salt and I need to feel good about what we put in our bodies! Great video!

  • @savannahmorris9343
    @savannahmorris9343 Před 2 lety

    I’m saying no to thinking that I should be at a different point in life based on my age. It’s easy to think that certain milestones should have been accomplished or that we aren’t doing enough but sometimes what we had envisioned for our lives is not what God planned for us. I just keep repeating “times and seasons” in my mind and it really helps!
    By the way I had never heard of the hertz thing but it makes so much sense. Looks like I have some research to do haha. Loved this video, thanks for sharing!

  • @sarahshort2911
    @sarahshort2911 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m saying no to prepackaged snack foods for my family! We have been so lazy and gained some weight through not eating healthier and we are on a new journey starting next paycheck to hit up the local farmers markets and good quality foods. We are a military family and we rush around and have so many things going at once and I just need for myself knowing that what we put in our bodies will be heal our bodies moving forward and as a struggling PCOS momma here it is much needed to eat Whole Foods!

  • @MsK_in_CA
    @MsK_in_CA Před 2 lety

    Somebody once told me “Other peoples opinions of you is none of your business.” It was so freeing when I really let that soak in.