Casual sex, trauma & learning to live again
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- Welcome to the Ezii Like Sunday Morning podcast. I think that by simply being human beings, we’ve all experienced trauma in one way or the other however, it doesn’t have to become our identity - it can simply be a part of a story that God is redeeming. My guest today is Ini Leye and she will be sharing a very moving story about trauma that she faced and it doesn’t matter how many times I hear her story; it moves me every time how much she suffered and how God has been able to redeem that story to bless many lives. Please hit the subscribe and like button, and leave a comment below - it really helps this channel and conversation reach other people.
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0:00 Intro
2:32 Today’s dilemma
3:39 Ini’s story
6:43 The aftermath
12:21 God why?
17:48 Is God partial?
20:45 Why God allows pain
26:46 Healing
29:59 Lukewarm shenanigans
31:51 How to live again
35:04 PSA
So I took all the voting into consideration and reached a compromise! Video podcasts will have all the main highlights of each episode while the audio version on Spotify and Apple Podcasts will have all the awkward pauses, occasional ramblings and everything in between. Whatever your preference, you don’t have to miss out on anything - best of both worlds lol
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Yayyyyyy 🤩🤩
Aww...so we won't get the full thing in You tube?
Awww you're doing amazing Ezinne, thank you so much. 🤗🤗👏👏👏
This is a lot of work Zara. So selfless.
I will listen to/watch both, as usual❤
I really watched this and wept 😭Ezinne and Ini thank you so much , you don’t know what God has used you to pull me out of from this video , my trauma isn’t rape but it’s parent-child relationship (turned into anger to myself ) and also I have been spiritually lazy because these past few months I have felt stuck, emotional trauma , emotional abuse , anger , fell ill for over weeks , nothing is going my way , and feeling that God is just watching and not doing anything but through this video he talked to me directly, I could feel it , I have cried so much and now I feel better and I’m starting my healing process this instant ❤❤
So this Just happened now! I’m listening to this conversation and I’ve been in pain since morning (Menstrual Pain) and as soon as Ini said ‘God is Immanuel, He is always with us’. I immediately repeated and said ‘God you are Immanuel, you are here with me and I’m tired of this pain, please make it stop’. I kid you not. The pain stopped IMMEDIATELY! 😮 I couldn’t believe it! It ceased immediately! I started laughing 🤣🤣🤣 I’ve been in severe pain since morning! It’s amazing! I’m blown away 😅 Thank you God ❤️
Thank you Ini and Ezi 🥰
I was raped 19 years ago and wow listening to Ini brought back a level of trauma I did not realize I had. I was not born again nor did I deal with it in a Christian way, I just managed by the grace of God to continue having death with trauma from an abusive father and a mother who constantly rejected me, rape was just another item on the long list of trauma I already was living with. Funny enough I started street evangelism this year and as I evangelize I have spoken about my rape and it's effects on me, which surprised me but was also very therapeutic. Thank you Ezinne for this conversation. Truly God can heal and give us beauty for the ashes, the pain has become a well for others to find God.
It is well dear. God's healing on you
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Earlier this year, something happened that completely broke me, not long after I`d thought I`d gotten over it, I encountered something that had me crumbling all over again. The Holy Spirit led me to reach out to a friend, the least likely to be honest and I couldn`t even speak, tears on tears. Not too long after, she called and she said something to me at some point, she said "Jesus is right there crying with you. He loves you and He feels your pain just as strongly perhaps even more than you do" That opened me up. I`d never seen it that way, never thought of it, never really understood and the Holy Spirit ministered to me shortly afterward. God sees us, He hears us and He loves us. A God deeply acquainted with us and our nature. We really are not doing life alone, whether it looks like it or not, God is always with us and He sees us. Emmanuel, El Roi, thank you, Abba. If you got the end of this, please go listen to "Never Walk Alone" by Hillsong Worship. God bless you.
God sees 🙌 Thank you ❤. Sending you hugs 🫂
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That song was such a blessing to listen to. Praying for total healing for you ❤️🩹
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This is so beautiful!!! God is so good. He never wanted us to experience pain, but bc of the enemy here we are. But God is so merciful and good that he uses our pains to give us and our peers strength until the end. Glory to the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit! 💜
My major take home from this - "When God takes an interest in you, so does the devil." So, so profound!
Heard that loud at heart
13:00 - Trauma and hyper-vigilance 💔
14:47 -
16:00 - PTSD 💔💔💔💔
18:40 - God is partial?
23:30 - Purpose & Intention
25:35 - Answers in YEARSS
26:40 - Healing is a Journey
28:20 - Oh wow.
31:00 - Pretense
33:40 - Only learned through xP
May God visit all women who have been raped and heal them. I am a man and if my wife tells me she has been raped, and she knows who, I might visit them and not for good. Only God will keep me from doing them worse. This means we have mothers, sister and firends, stop hurting women. I hate rapists just as I hate snakes.
"What wine will come of out of this crushing?" This question is just for me.
Thank you so much Ezinne for bringing this to us and thank you so much Ini for sharing your story. I was greatly blessed and encouraged.
Good evening Ezinne I feel led to share this with you and your beautiful friend Ini leye. You guys talked about how it feels to be abused and God opened my eyes to how i was the abuser. I grew up as a bishops daughter and I knew of God but i just felt like my dad was like Jesus my intercessor to God. If my father was praying for me then i was good to go to heaven. I was i think 6 or 7 years old when i kissed a boy forcefully. And it graduated to every one of my friends both male and female. It was a secret sin and pleasure of mine i was still daddy's little angel and k didn't want him to be disappointed in me. My father loved me too much. I was more concerned about what he thought of me than wjat any other person thought. In 2016 he passed away and once he did i knew that he was going to know and he could see all i did and will be doing so i just stopped and moved on with my life completely putting it out of my memory. Watching this video brought me to tears because God just told me you need to face this and forgive yourself for it. I feel a deep sense of guilt and regret right now but i know that God will heal me. It feels really great to have God fearing role models like you to watch and learn from. Thank you ini leye for sharing your story with us, God bless you and heal you. Thank you Ezinne for allowing God to work through you. God bless you as well.
Sorry to hear your story. One thing about making peace with what you have done (sharing as someone who has one too many times messed up in very wicked ways) is by looking at what you have done and admitting that it was a sin and that it was horrible then looking at Jesus and once you have asked him for forgiveness, sincerely, believing that it is finished. We do not need to forgive ourselves, we just need to accept the forgiveness Jesus has already given us. He has more authority than us, what he has forgiven, who are we to hold on to. Nowadays when Satan brings all these things to mind, I just worship God because look at the sin he delivered me from, look at how good He is that He would turn my life around like this. Satan cannot torment you with the past if you yourself acknowledge it and worship the Lord for how He has saved you.
I am sorry you had to experience this. Last two weeks found me in same situation. I was not raped though. They kept touching me as though they were going to rape me. they just threw me out of the car and took everything away. I was and still I am grateful that I was not killed. The trauma is yet to leave especially when I see Cars like theirs that are tinted. If anyone try touching me from behind, I become aggressive before realizing it. I have gotten healing listening to this. Thank you for sharing your story.
This story really hit me, I can totally relate and the more I think of the pain, the more I thank God. He really works things together for our good
Ini thank you for sharing this powerful story. I struggle with sexual purity a lot and the funny thing is that i want to avoid it but it's a struggle for me. I also believe that God can and will heal me just like he did for you 😊
Listening to women like this just bring so much light and comfort to my own story.
God bless you! ❤
As a boy i cried so much watching this
As someone who has gone through pain and is still healing, I find this really helpful. Thank you so much Ezinne for hosting, thank you so much Ini for sharing your story 🥰.
Sincerely, see me taking in every bits of it bit by bit.
It resonates so well.
I was crying while watching this. Our trauma brings us to the deeper depth of God!!
Conversations like this make are so crucial in our Christian walk- The vulnerability and genuity. I believe that as many people tune in and listen, it spurs healing and freedom. Thank you both ❤️
I remember when she came to my church in Lagos in 2018 and she spoke on this experience. It was such a vulnerable but impactful time. I Love you!!❤️❤️
My story isn’t exactly like Ini’s but the trauma is similar. It truly is a battle of the mind to keep going. My prayers used to be, “God give me the strength to keep living. Just one more day” (each day) to now “God complete my healing”.
16 years later and I’m still surprised that I’m still on this Earth and by God’s grace, I’m thriving. Those scars become battle scars. Sometimes they sting and everything floods back in, but I unfailingly find God clasping my hands.
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"When God takes interest in you does the devil" In
Wheeeew that phrase ❤
I could totally relate when Ezinne began to talk about bandwidth and coming back from things, it has to be God that has kept me, because the discipline to come back from things is something I still trust him for... So when I hear people say the kind of things they moved on from, I have serious regard for them.
I can relate. Was raped twice and it was hell. Still healing 😭
Sorry to hear that ❤. God continue to strengthen you
Sorry my sister. The Lord is your strength
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So sorry dear
Sending you all the love in the world❤❤
You are strengthen
This is so beautiful , i could relate from a different level of trauma. I wish she tallked a bit about how she got into a stable relationship , that's always the problem like the aftermath struggle of experiencing trauma
I can totally relate 😏
Still on the process of healing though it isn't easy I must admit 🥺
I'm glad I found this video.
This really helped me so much I'm 17 years old and I got sexually assaulted by a friend 5 months ago and trying to do things again was a bit hard ,i firstly thank God for helping me find this video lots of love from my side❤
I pray God’s healing finds you every moment of the day ❤️
I didn't want this conversation to end, it resonates with me and I learnt a lot. Thank you so much ini, for sharing your story. Grateful to God for the anointing on your life.
Thank You Ezinne, for hosting, always spreading light and for your service unto God
May the Lord in his infinite wisdom continue to impact your lives and bless you 🙏
I understand you eni 🥹i've being traumatized before especially entering cabs , i always feel they gonna kidnap me again. Till date i still have this feeling of them coming for me again.
I know God will heal me , battling with acute menia stress
In all of the story shared, this scripture comes to bare 1 Corinthians 10:13 TPT
We all experience times of testing, which is normal for every human being. But God will be faithful to you. He will screen and filter the severity, nature, and timing of every test or trial you face so that you can bear it. And each test is an opportunity to trust him more, for along with every trial God has provided for you a way of escape that will bring you out of it victoriously.
May the Lord strengthen anyone going through any tough times/situations. Know that God is faithful and there will certainly be a way of escape. God bless you ma'am ❤
The Affliction shall not rise the second time. Really helped during my trying times also. My mum gave me the scripture. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your story, Ini.
Thank you Ezinne for all that you do❤
Thank God for the strength to keep going 🤍
This episode felt very intimate and healing. Thank you, Ini, for allowing us share in this part of your life and thank you Ezinne for using your channel for the advancement of His kingdom 💕💐
I am half way through but this reminded me of an incident that happened today, I spoke to a man who had an accident and lost everything, to him, this was some sort of punishment for his disobedience, sometimes when things happen to us, we feel like this is some sort of payback but God is not petite and He is not like us, He doesn't respond to things like us. He is love and our actions or inactions cannot change that
Thank you so much Ini for sharing and thank you Zara.
What you said about "Jesus wept" Have never have been more real than it was right now, in my deepest pain He is there. This scripture "When you walk through the fire, I am there" Stands out more now.
Thank you so much, this really blessed me.
Here for all the Godly wisdom and very nice video edits❤❤. Thanks for sharing this Ini ❤❤
Thank you Ezinne for all you do
God bless you ❤
Thank you Ezinne🫶🏾
This felt like a warm hug, couldn't stop crying. Thank you for sharing your story Ini
My God ezinne, hmmmm the way this spoke to me, the depth it reached. My goodness i feel so understood, God directed me to click the lick, come here and listen to this and now i know why. If it's not too much is there a way we can join your community online, because it would be lovely to be close to you. Ini, Ezinne God bless you immensely.
This was so therapeutic and a healing process…Thank you Ezinne and Ini for sharing your light 💡
Ini Leye x Ezi! Our AMAZING storytellers in one video. Can't wait to watch ❤
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"Trauma would want you to be alone but one thing is for sure; God is Emmanuel." Thank youu for this. God bless you.❤️👏🏽
I’m honestly just in tears. Just realizing that I never really healed from past trauma. Trauma led me to addiction and held me down for a long time. Each time o had the greatest feeling of unworthiness. I felt like I was alone, like I would never get out of that hole of addiction. I was recently led to start writing a book about my experience. My trauma. It feels too real, facing the past pain that I never really healed from but I see now that sharing is part of my healing journey. God is healing each aspect I revisit. I am so grateful that the Holy Spirit led me to this video tonight. I l have been scared to share my story because I was scared that I would testify then I would fall again, but affliction shall not rise again a second time!
I am delivered and I will share my story. Just as Ini said, it would have helped a lot if I had someone like me who had gone through what I was going through and could assure me that it was not the end of me.
God richly bless you Ezinne and Ini. The Lord has used you to reach a soul tonight 🤍
This was everything and more. Thank you for sharing your story.
I didn't want it to end. So powerful!
Thank you Ezinne ❤️
Ini thank u for the humility of allowing God to use you to minister healing. I have learnt alot and choose to live again. Thank you love
This was such a blessing 🙏🏾❤️God adds more in you🤲🏾
All I can say is that God is so mindful of me!!!! He is so intentional about my growth. I can certainly say that this video is not a coincidence, not at all!!! God bless the host and the guest
Thank you so much for this episode. It was everything I didn't even know that I needed.
Thanks to the two of you for this❤
Praise God for your healing! Thank you for sharing your story Ini and Ezinne for having her.
This is such a profound episode .
So so good! Praise God! God bless you both!
I can’t put in words how much this blessed me but thank you so much Ezinne and Ini. God bless you immensely
Woww..such a powerful story!
This conversation was soooo good I just finished watching and I want to listen again 😭❤️ thank you so much Ezinne
I love the way Ini described how God is with us in our pain❤️❤️ Thank you both for sharing 🙏🏾
Thank you JESUS
Thank you so much for sharing this story. It answers so many questions. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story with us Ini and thank you so much Ezinne❤
I can’t even explain how insightful this video is,God bless you both,I know I certain didn’t come across your channel by mistake.
Amazing. God bless you my sister. I am a pastor and psychologist and I can put these pieces together in the light of the process of divine purpose for our lives. Its never going to be easy but there's God in it.
😭This was so beautiful, thank you so much Ini, for sharing your story❤. It's amazing!
This is deep!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Ini.
Thank you very much, Ezinne.
"Dear God, what is the product of my crushing?" is a very important question to ask God and GET THE ANSWER FROM HIM. I find that we can be impatient or distracted sometimes, we don't often PUSH till He answers. May God help us all 🙏🏾
I have never been more blessed. Thank you so much Ini and Ezimama
God bless you Ezinne for reaching out to us through your videos and podcasts ❤️
Just WOW😭🙌Thank you Ezinne and Ini❤
This was so needed 🥹🥹🥹 Thank you Ini for sharing your story, and thank you Ezinne for bringing this to us 🤍
🙏🏽🙏🏽❤ I really love this video.... God will answer each question with time
This is something I needed to hear. I’ve been needing to heal and haven’t quite known how to.
God bless you both for sharing. Amen
Thank you Ezinne thank you Ini
So heartfelt and deep. God wants to go through all our trauma with us. Thank you for sharing your story .
Wow this is good, am strengthen
This message has blessed me so much, thank you! 😢
Thank you for this God bless you both 🤍
This had me tearing up. Touched me in ways I cannot fully explain. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Thank you Ezinne for this conversation. She has a wealth of wisdom. God bless her for sharing her story
Listening to the podcasts and watching the video COMPLETELY ❤❤❤❤
THANK YOU EZINNE
Every time I hear Ini's story, I feel God love afresh! Thank you for sharing...thank you too Ezinne.💜
Just got notified on instagram ……I immediately ran here😂…..I can’t wait to listen to this till the end❤️
Thank you so much Ezinne and Ini. This brought about so much clarity.
Thank you Ini. Thank you Ezinne. This was so wholesome❤❤
Thank you Ezinne. Thank you Ini. God bless you both
Ini you're so strong.
Oh this blessed me in a big way🥹❤️ thank you so much. Glory to God
So blessed by your message sisters
I literally wept, listening to this.
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Thank you so much.
Thank you🥺❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this message Ezinne and Ini❤
Now I can't wait for my Saturday work because I have something to listen to 😂😂❤
This was so good 🙏🏾and timely.
Powerful conversation!! God bless you ladies!!
Watching this made me love Ini more🥺❤️Thank you for sharing this with us!
Thank you Ezinne and Ini. God bless you both❤
Wow, God bless you Ini and Ezinne for this ❤
Thank you God 🙏🏼
This blessed me so much and was very timely. Thank you.
You both are indeed blessings to the body of Christ ❤
Really loved this❤ Thank you Ezinne and Ini.
😢I can relate to this, and it's not a beautiful sight