I Can't Legally Marry My Girlfriend!

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  • @philliprogers2383
    @philliprogers2383 Před 4 lety +2856

    He's 28 and his step kid is 21. Yikes!

    • @elisagarcia5534
      @elisagarcia5534 Před 4 lety +459

      Phillip Rogers he’s closer in age to the step kid than the girlfriend... insane

    • @philliprogers2383
      @philliprogers2383 Před 4 lety +187

      I wonder if this is the real reason why they aren't getting married. GF kid has a problem with the age thing but she's too afraid to tell him and uses the SSI benefits as the excuse

    • @random-nz7dy
      @random-nz7dy Před 4 lety +92

      @@philliprogers2383 I think she is totally using excuses to avoid something. And if it's just to save a mild check, that's sad that she would prioritize that over him.

    • @justshady
      @justshady Před 4 lety +115

      It’s like she’s sleeping with her son. Super awkward

    • @Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes
      @Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes Před 4 lety +18

      @@justshady Who cares, shallow people do.

  • @amandanicole7449
    @amandanicole7449 Před 4 lety +1648

    Every 7 years she gets another kid...
    21 year old son...
    14 year old daughter...
    7 Year old son...
    28 year old boyfriend...
    Err... nope, yep, that's right.

  • @massumudin
    @massumudin Před 4 lety +817

    He is 28 and his step son is 21 😂; he is not his step son but his step brother

  • @tailorforeman7082
    @tailorforeman7082 Před 4 lety +1836

    Let’s call it as it is. She doesn’t wanna marry you brother. I am the daughter of a deceased soldier and I def got my dads education benefits. And my mom was remarried for over a decade.

    • @love_reka_8877
      @love_reka_8877 Před 4 lety +95

      Sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @edb484
      @edb484 Před 4 lety +45

      I wouldn’t lose them benefits either lol,

    • @VivKittie32
      @VivKittie32 Před 4 lety +16

      Taylee Nicole
      You called it, girl.

    • @goddessmelanisia
      @goddessmelanisia Před 4 lety +122

      Widow here: SSI benefits on the Kids won't be affected by remarriage. I am remarried, my daughter will still get SSI till she turns 18.

    • @liveyourbestlife143
      @liveyourbestlife143 Před 4 lety +78

      I agree. My father was a navy man. My mother remarried and the military payed for my college.

  • @Fifth.Amendment
    @Fifth.Amendment Před 4 lety +1699

    I clicked so fast after reading this title. I thought he was trying to marry his cousin or sister.

    • @christiansalazar4604
      @christiansalazar4604 Před 4 lety +7

      FifthAmendment me too!

    • @amyadams7728
      @amyadams7728 Před 4 lety +18

      Same! I had to see what this was about!😂😂

    • @DH-uw3us
      @DH-uw3us Před 4 lety +54

      I thought one of them was still legally married but getting a divorce.

    • @comicalsun2316
      @comicalsun2316 Před 4 lety +8

      Glad I’m not the only one who’s head goes there

    • @amyadams7728
      @amyadams7728 Před 4 lety +2

      @@DH-uw3us or that scenario

  • @thefoodwench4848
    @thefoodwench4848 Před 3 lety +468

    She’s lying to him. The kids won’t lose their benefits. She doesn’t want to lose hers. And he doesn’t have step kids as they’re not married. She’s a roommate
    Run Dude

  • @MrEnergyCzar
    @MrEnergyCzar Před 4 lety +1665

    She values the military spousal benefits more than marrying you.

    • @xSalamz
      @xSalamz Před 4 lety +25

      Facts 😂

    • @knowthyself8233
      @knowthyself8233 Před 4 lety +11

      Voilà 🤣

    • @TheRibofJESUS
      @TheRibofJESUS Před 4 lety +6

      That's pretty sad..

    • @xSalamz
      @xSalamz Před 4 lety +81

      @@TheRibofJESUS She is securing the bag. I got to respect it.

    • @samuelcarrasco3829
      @samuelcarrasco3829 Před 4 lety +36

      Then how much is her husbands death worth? When would you stop collecting money from the job that killed your spouse?

  • @smithersrob
    @smithersrob Před 4 lety +1380

    She can legally remarry, shes choosing to keep receiving a check rather than marry you, when someone tells you who they are believe them.

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 Před 4 lety +29

      Robert Smithers When a person shows you who they are the first time, believe them. Just saying

    • @Dahmer_Jeff
      @Dahmer_Jeff Před 4 lety +131

      Financial security is most important first and foremost. Her need to have financial security is greater than the need to have a marriage document with new guy. Nothing wrong about that. She has children to put first

    • @senorpants5604
      @senorpants5604 Před 4 lety +46

      @@Dahmer_Jeff agree, she is putting her children's future, before her romance. I'd wait the 10 years and cross my fingers that everything works out. (assuming what she said to him is true)

    • @Dahmer_Jeff
      @Dahmer_Jeff Před 4 lety +4

      @@senorpants5604 I don't know about other places but in california after 7 years of living together and you split up afterwards, you can claim spousal support if you were the non working spouse (ie homemaker)

    • @bellmeisterful
      @bellmeisterful Před 4 lety +2

      Nice work Smithers.

  • @victorhernandez612
    @victorhernandez612 Před 4 lety +655

    “I’m not going to form my life around dodging regulations” could not have said that better.

  • @NicoleDestinee
    @NicoleDestinee Před 4 lety +870

    They’re not “step children” because they’re NOT married! 😒

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +24

      Exactly!! He sounds controlling already! No wonder the 39 year old woman is finding an out. This guy is nuts or truly desperate. He needs to move on.

    • @ethangamer3173
      @ethangamer3173 Před 4 lety +1

      UR SO RIGHT SISTER !!

    • @Musashi246
      @Musashi246 Před 4 lety +45

      @@ceecee8757 Controlling? He's trying to take responsibility for entering her family. Calling her kids "your kids" is quite important even before marriage. Especially if you ever want to make a 7-year-old accept you as new father.

    • @jennifertackett2241
      @jennifertackett2241 Před 4 lety +25

      I've been with my SO for 12 years. We're not married, for health insurance reasons. I call his 2 sons my sons. I'm partially responsible for their upbringing. You got a problem with that?

    • @ethangamer3173
      @ethangamer3173 Před 4 lety +1

      What is SO ??

  • @CFproductionsTV
    @CFproductionsTV Před 4 lety +521

    “They’re all my step children..” but they’re not... you’re not married to the lady lol

    • @nadiar.7788
      @nadiar.7788 Před rokem +9

      Exactly. People need to stop re-defining and re-categorizing things to ease their conscience. He needs some self-respect and confidence.

    • @fauxbro1983
      @fauxbro1983 Před rokem

      ​@nadiar.7788 lol what do you think these gender bender wierdos are doing. In 2023 you absolutely can. Haha

  • @stephenhoppe5163
    @stephenhoppe5163 Před 4 lety +150

    7, 14, 21, and a boyfriend at 28. This woman collected four children and kept em separated.

    • @AN-tp4rs
      @AN-tp4rs Před 4 lety +16

      Stephen Hoppe look out for the 35 side piece 👀

    • @Robert74450
      @Robert74450 Před 4 lety +6

      Stephen Hoppe one kid every seven years the boyfriend better run or she is pregnant in a wink

  • @44fastgun
    @44fastgun Před 4 lety +753

    Sounds like "I can't legally go back to work or they'll discontinue my welfare check!"

    • @joelrodriguez3280
      @joelrodriguez3280 Před 4 lety +59

      44fastgun she lost her spouse who died while in service to the nation, I don’t see that as a “welfare check”

    • @44fastgun
      @44fastgun Před 4 lety +28

      @@joelrodriguez3280 I'm fine with a deceased soldier program. I'm completely against a mooch manipulating the family structure to take benefits that aren't his. Are we to believe that Johny-come-lately's greatest concern getting money to adult children that aren't his?

    • @peekinghills2450
      @peekinghills2450 Před 4 lety +15

      This women barely seems different from any other ""welfare queens"" people like to criticize. I know her husband died and all but she seems like sure wants to live off taxpayers forever. The only thing I don't mind is her children getting college benefits.
      Even regular welfare has a end date eventually.

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +14

      @@44fastgun she's not mooching. She has her own job making $45k. How's that for being a mooch?

    • @44fastgun
      @44fastgun Před 4 lety +6

      @@ceecee8757 ....and that's why I never called her the mooch 😉

  • @love_reka_8877
    @love_reka_8877 Před 4 lety +304

    She is using those things as excuses...she DOESN'T want to marry him. Parading around with her boy toy. It's all temporary for her. Poor Mitch

    • @mikemcbeth3216
      @mikemcbeth3216 Před 4 lety +9

      I understand her it happened to someone I know if she gets married she loses her money if they break up it's gone

  • @RERK8
    @RERK8 Před 4 lety +235

    Man, this guy needs a spiritual and relationship advisor. They'd both tell him to reconsider the relationship.

  • @pamalatalley7262
    @pamalatalley7262 Před 4 lety +365

    The former spouse will lose VA benefits, not the children!

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +8

      Right. The veteran would have had to transfer the benefits while he was active duty. Look up chapter Ch.35 Va benefits.

    • @meshleesimpsoncool
      @meshleesimpsoncool Před 4 lety +42

      yep. i think she doesnt want to lose benefits. not the kids. i think she just wants a boy toy. no commitment. 28, 39. he needs to get someone on same page and level.

    • @unbiasedinsight6237
      @unbiasedinsight6237 Před 4 lety +1

      I was going to say the same thing.

    • @karin0963
      @karin0963 Před 4 lety +4

      She's a widow.

    • @st0rm4g3dd0n
      @st0rm4g3dd0n Před 4 lety +5

      @@meshleesimpsoncool or they just got bad information. The only truth is we have no idea who these people are or anything about them besides a brief conversation on the radio with minimal details. Nothing to justify such a snap polarized judgement of someone you know nothing about

  • @SilenceSlayer224
    @SilenceSlayer224 Před 4 lety +251

    She's lying to you bub. Run, something is up and it's probably worse than you can imagine.

    • @oc4515
      @oc4515 Před 4 lety +15

      SilenceSlayer224 If he was worth a dime in the first place he probably wouldn’t have gotten involved with a woman like this in the first place. Something tells me he he isnt very desirable. Either that or he has extremely low self esteem.

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +6

      Plot twist: she's running from him! He's 28, she's 39. Wth does he have to offer when he makes $35k a year and she already makes $45 by herself? He sounds controlling and she's probably just making up an excuse to get rid of this guy. Not worth it.

    • @hansonallie
      @hansonallie Před 4 lety +4

      or Mommy issues!

    • @oc4515
      @oc4515 Před 4 lety +8

      CeeCee Nunya well its obvious something is severely wrong with him. What single man in his 20s worth his salt would pick a single mother of multiple kids who is almost 40?

    • @jimziemer474
      @jimziemer474 Před 4 lety +3

      L V When I was in my 30’s I still would not have got involved with a woman with several kids. Who wants to deal with that.

  • @fsmoura
    @fsmoura Před 4 lety +509

    Of course you *_can_* legally marry. You just don't *_want_* to _let go off the dole._ Let's just call a duck a duck.

    • @robinrubendunst869
      @robinrubendunst869 Před 4 lety +9

      fsmoura those kids deserve that benefit.

    • @fsmoura
      @fsmoura Před 4 lety +3

      What about the kids of the parents whose resources are being taken from them against their will (tax payers) to provide the benefit? Do they deserve the benefit of the resources their parents earned with their work?

    • @rachelcrawford1977
      @rachelcrawford1977 Před 4 lety +5

      Robin Rubendunst the kids would not lose only the mom also when a service member dies there’s a lump sum they get I think it’s 100,000 when they die so she got that on top of the alimony she’s just not willing to lose her money

    • @rachelcrawford1977
      @rachelcrawford1977 Před 4 lety +1

      fsmoura I do not understand your question the kids lose nothing the only one that would lose is her the military also gave her a big cash settlement when he died to pay off debt and live for a while she’s only going to lose not the kids

    • @turnonesacredcat7923
      @turnonesacredcat7923 Před 3 lety +2

      @@fsmoura tell that to welfare recipients not kids whose dad died while defending our country.

  • @mrdomino1881
    @mrdomino1881 Před 4 lety +278

    So cute that he's already claiming her kids as his "stepchildren". Dude! Her son is only a few years younger than u! Is he going to call u "dad"?

    • @ajm935
      @ajm935 Před 4 lety +6

      That was crazy! I get it with the younger ones though, especially if they have been living together for a few years. They basically become your kids.

    • @ILoveRomances
      @ILoveRomances Před 4 lety +5

      He better stop. Apparently, if you are publicly recognized as married, the same rules apply as if she had remarried.

    • @TheGreatOldOak
      @TheGreatOldOak Před 4 lety +6

      @@ILoveRomances haha she'll get him to pay child support for kids that ain't his.

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 Před 3 lety

      Wonder if she knows that

    • @debrahill7911
      @debrahill7911 Před 3 lety

      🤣🤣🤣NO, HE'S NOT CALLING HIM DAD!🤣🤣🤣

  • @philanderwicks
    @philanderwicks Před 4 lety +278

    She would lose her Dependency Indemnity Compensation (DIC) and social security. The kids would be eligible for educational benefits until they are 24 years of age.

    • @user-kp6we9qw7i
      @user-kp6we9qw7i Před 5 měsíci +2

      She will also lose her health insurance

    • @bettywith2girls
      @bettywith2girls Před 3 měsíci

      @@user-kp6we9qw7i Yeah...not worth it. One can live with someone and love them and not get married...if it makes more sense to do so at that stage of life.

    • @thecure3982
      @thecure3982 Před měsícem

      How much is the first benefit? Thank you

  • @jefflauracook
    @jefflauracook Před 4 lety +390

    Kid's would not loose benefits, she would loose a check!

    • @Jenniferde2007
      @Jenniferde2007 Před 4 lety +31

      I think you mean lose benefits and lose a check?

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 Před 4 lety +1

      Jeff Laura Exactly

    • @mikeb8342
      @mikeb8342 Před 4 lety +3

      @@Jenniferde2007 you are correct in you're grammar (see what I did their....I mean they're..... er, there 😃). But Jeff Laura's point is also correct. Everyone gets a star today.

  • @VolleyballAddict521
    @VolleyballAddict521 Před 4 lety +374

    “Our daughter” made me cringe a little. I couldn’t even focus on his financial situation. 😅

    • @vjs4539
      @vjs4539 Před 4 lety +9

      Exactly.

    • @oneeyedman99
      @oneeyedman99 Před 4 lety +36

      He's probably the only father she's ever known. He's doing the right thing by referring to her that way.

    • @VolleyballAddict521
      @VolleyballAddict521 Před 4 lety +16

      Eric Blair ok, if that is your assumption.

    • @TheGreatOldOak
      @TheGreatOldOak Před 4 lety +32

      @@VolleyballAddict521 Nah you are right to cringe. That guy is a pathetic. He'll never have children of his own because he too busy looking after someone elses's children.

    • @bellmeisterful
      @bellmeisterful Před 4 lety +17

      Yeah I agree. Kinda sweet on one hand but also sounds a little deluded too.

  • @harrisonwintergreen1147
    @harrisonwintergreen1147 Před 4 lety +466

    you can legally marry her bro, she just wants to keep the taxpayer gravy train more than she wants to marry you

    • @lavendarj7318
      @lavendarj7318 Před 4 lety +35

      harrison wintergreen i don’t think the benefit for losing a spouse is a “gravy train”

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +16

      @@lavendarj7318 exactly. She's not exactly a millionaire. She's just being smart about her choices.

    • @msparkz770
      @msparkz770 Před 4 lety +6

      @@ceecee8757 exactly! Why is everyone judging her?

    • @MarcusKiner
      @MarcusKiner Před 4 lety +2

      m sparkle because she’s a pathetic dependa.

    • @hansonallie
      @hansonallie Před 4 lety +1

      It wasn’t our business; that is until Mitchell & Dave shared it with us, lol

  • @PinkIslandJewel
    @PinkIslandJewel Před 4 lety +191

    If he made a lot more money she would marry him

  • @amyadams7728
    @amyadams7728 Před 4 lety +80

    If the info that was sent to Dave is accurate, then it's clear that she doesn't want to marry him & he should move on.

  • @claudiasantana4108
    @claudiasantana4108 Před 4 lety +65

    Oh man. This is actually a sad call. She is playing him so hard. He sounds smart and like a good guy...

  • @Retiredmco
    @Retiredmco Před 4 lety +163

    You are calling the wrong show if all you wanna do is shack up!! D. R ain't putting up with it!

  • @anthonywaldrep5982
    @anthonywaldrep5982 Před 4 lety +58

    There's quite a few red flags popping up here.

  • @davet1149
    @davet1149 Před 4 lety +17

    She is 10 years older and doesn’t think you are capable of being an adequate provider.

  • @LifeSoDevine
    @LifeSoDevine Před 4 lety +291

    She doesn’t want to marry him. She can remarry and keep the benefits for the kids till 16 (the social security) and the kids will still get GI bill and chapter 35 title 33 benefits up till age 31 even if THEY get married!

    • @arleneaugustahair8393
      @arleneaugustahair8393 Před 4 lety +4

      LifeOfDee they definitely do not get it until they are 31. They will get it until they are 26.

    • @LifeSoDevine
      @LifeSoDevine Před 4 lety +7

      Arlene Augusta I’m 26 and i still get it 😂😂 go to the va website honey! Fully disabled and survives get it till 31

    • @LifeSoDevine
      @LifeSoDevine Před 4 lety +3

      djhavok101 that’s why i said SHE don’t wanna marry him lol

    • @alyssam8977
      @alyssam8977 Před 4 lety +1

      This guy should man up and take care of the two kids he calls step kids already! Two is a breeze to take care of benefits or not.

    • @prepordietryin9119
      @prepordietryin9119 Před 4 lety +10

      @@alyssam8977 lol man up and take care of another man's seed

  • @lee-annestevenson8766
    @lee-annestevenson8766 Před 4 lety +298

    Soooooo the title should be “We won’t get married so we can get more $$$$ from the government”.

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +13

      @@ChevonneStaton right! However, if the surviving spouse has moved on, this new guy needs to step up to the plate!! That would be the honorable thing to do.

    • @kingkong-ni4ho
      @kingkong-ni4ho Před 4 lety +29

      While you see it that way. I see it more as, "We want to make sure my girlfriend's late husband's sacrifice for this country keeps her and the children financially stable. Becuz my 35K a year income sure won't."

    • @nitapita8744
      @nitapita8744 Před 4 lety

      I don’t think she takes him seriously enough .... poor thing

    • @ajm935
      @ajm935 Před 4 lety +2

      @@kingkong-ni4ho Exactly. She's actually pretty smart.

    • @USpatriot741776
      @USpatriot741776 Před 4 lety

      @@ChevonneStaton serving the country?

  • @junkfoodvegan
    @junkfoodvegan Před 4 lety +67

    This guy sounds like a pushover. She's never going to marry him and risk losing her spousal benefits.

    • @sophiasmith5949
      @sophiasmith5949 Před 3 lety

      Not if he doesn't have that or more.. If that's the case I don't blame her.

    • @bettywith2girls
      @bettywith2girls Před 3 měsíci

      @@sophiasmith5949 I don't blame her either. It doesn't make any sense for her to lose all her spousal benefits in this instance. They can live together and be in love and not be married.

  • @ransom182
    @ransom182 Před 4 lety +97

    Yeah you can "legally" marry your girlfriend.

    • @sammag9182
      @sammag9182 Před 4 lety +13

      ransom182 I thought: “it’s more financially inconvenient for us to be married” is closer to reality

    • @stevenroshni1228
      @stevenroshni1228 Před 4 lety +1

      Yeah I think he feels that they are married off paper, like that's the commitment he has

    • @fionamoonsamy6795
      @fionamoonsamy6795 Před 3 lety

      Pp popo

  • @rcairforceone
    @rcairforceone Před 4 lety +324

    You didn't get bad information, the Mitch is getting played. The girlfriend does not want to lose her goverment check and get a job.

  • @DanielIles
    @DanielIles Před 4 lety +54

    This father son dynamic should be made into a movie. How wild!

  • @NA-vt6mz
    @NA-vt6mz Před 4 lety +142

    Get a life and marry someone ur own age . Men r losing their minds and spine in today’s world

    • @benjones621
      @benjones621 Před 4 lety +7

      Men always prefer women in their 20s. This story just doesn't make sense.

    • @demon66685
      @demon66685 Před 4 lety +11

      @@benjones621 Almost always. Never talk in absolutes man.

    • @carultch
      @carultch Před 4 lety +9

      @@benjones621 Women in their 40's are for poor men.

    • @samanthasmiles9112
      @samanthasmiles9112 Před 3 lety

      @@carultch are men in their 40's.

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 Před 3 lety +2

      Probably cant find one he can shack up with lol

  • @miltoncat
    @miltoncat Před 4 lety +47

    I’m guessing she is lying about that to him. Something’s up.

  • @daaronwells
    @daaronwells Před 4 lety +168

    Does your mommy know you are using the phone, young man?

  • @elijahrobinson4650
    @elijahrobinson4650 Před 4 lety +37

    Yeah, that’s 100% not true. Remarrying does not eliminate those college benefits.

  • @sweet_southern_gal
    @sweet_southern_gal Před 4 lety +36

    My friend she got remarried and her son had full benefits to attend college, its the check she gets.

  • @Jesseg-rj6xf
    @Jesseg-rj6xf Před 4 lety +36

    In other words: how do I cheat the system

  • @texuzlatina
    @texuzlatina Před 4 lety +43

    Yeah I don’t think she wants to marry. I’m sure she knows the rules to the benefits

    • @nadia4999
      @nadia4999 Před 4 lety +3

      She knows that mess in her sleep. Plus she has kids from her previous relationship. Yeah, sorry buddy, a marriage to this marriage is not happening no time soon. Enjoy getting rocked to sleep at night, and stop desiring more than she is willing to give. Or you could just go find you a woman who too wants to be married.

  • @Ces999919822
    @Ces999919822 Před 4 lety +24

    If I was this dude, I’d be embarrassed to show myself around my family.

  • @jayrmotors
    @jayrmotors Před 4 lety +21

    Wow, the eldest child is 7 years younger than the caller, what a mess. Sir you should just leave whilst you have a chance

  • @sghoughton
    @sghoughton Před 4 lety +70

    DON'T GET MARRIED. just solved all your problems for the next 40 years.

  • @TeKnoVKNG23
    @TeKnoVKNG23 Před 4 lety +43

    Not sure I understand, is it that he "can't" marry her because he's worried about the kids losing benefits, or she "won't" marry him because she'll lose the benefits? Honestly she has no reason to get married with those type of benefits, so it's possible she's just stringing him along as her younger "arm candy."

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety +7

      Or she's trying to let him down easy.

  • @Dahmer_Jeff
    @Dahmer_Jeff Před 4 lety +12

    They are NOT your step kids...you're not married to her 🤣🤣

    • @juliamarlin5612
      @juliamarlin5612 Před 4 lety

      I mean if they have been living together and he has been raising the youngest child he's a step father in all the ways that matter.

  • @dr.bradshaw
    @dr.bradshaw Před 4 lety +71

    Hahaha dude I’ve been In this similar situation. Run for the hills bro. Run for the hills

    • @love_reka_8877
      @love_reka_8877 Před 4 lety +5

      😂😭

    • @NA-vt6mz
      @NA-vt6mz Před 4 lety +4

      Rikki Granger what’s ur story

    • @ceecee8757
      @ceecee8757 Před 4 lety

      Ever occur to you that it may be her (his GF) who's running for the hills? She's letting him down easy.

  • @brianaloves1242
    @brianaloves1242 Před 4 lety +10

    Under 38 CFR 3.50, in order to qualify as a surviving spouse for Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) purposes, a person must be unmarried. Therefore, a surviving spouse who remarries is no longer eligible to receive VA benefits.

  • @HereIsWisdom1318
    @HereIsWisdom1318 Před 4 lety +15

    The sad reality is the widow earned what she's getting. Her husband died while in service, or even if he was retired, she (and he) still gave up a lot to serve the Country even as a spouse. I dont fault her for wanting to maintain her EARNED benefits.

    • @ErrorPagenotFound-ig1cy
      @ErrorPagenotFound-ig1cy Před 4 lety +1

      HereIsWisdom 1318 did you serve?

    • @sammag9182
      @sammag9182 Před 4 lety +2

      But it’s there to be as the aid when you can’t provide for yourself. If she is married then her new husband provides for her. She looses not the kids

    • @HereIsWisdom1318
      @HereIsWisdom1318 Před 4 lety +3

      Sir We Are About to Die -Military spouses have to put with a lot, and they have to give up a lot. Most times, they’re single mothers while they’re husbands deploy (and vice versa-a female Soldier, whose husband is the dependent).

  • @karenhardie1132
    @karenhardie1132 Před 4 lety +31

    She's not going to give up all the free money. Sit home and collect lots of free money.

  • @bargainmartin
    @bargainmartin Před 4 lety +8

    My mother in law would have lost his pension and medical benefits if she remarried. At 70, working on another income source was not option. And Tricare paid for every penny when she had cancer later on.

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 Před dnem

      That's awful. So that she ended up spending the rest of her years alone?

  • @c103110a
    @c103110a Před 4 lety +18

    He can legally marry here; he just doesn't want to give up the benefits.

    • @MrHaypro
      @MrHaypro Před 4 lety

      I took it as they can get married in something like their church but they can't get a "legal" marriage that's recognized by the government.

    • @mikekeenanphd
      @mikekeenanphd Před 4 lety +1

      She doesn't want to give up the benefits.

  • @mohammadwasilliterate8037
    @mohammadwasilliterate8037 Před 4 lety +46

    With a single mother of 3. She is 9yrs older,,, RUN dude you fool.

    • @hugojuicevalladares8713
      @hugojuicevalladares8713 Před 4 lety +15

      11 years older

    • @nadia4999
      @nadia4999 Před 4 lety +1

      She must be rocking him real good to sleep. He sound too desperate for her. She was already married once. She could care less about marriage. She might enjoy your company but not enough to get her deceased husband’s benefits taken from herself.

  • @jimroscovius
    @jimroscovius Před 4 lety +7

    He's 28, she's 39. Run away FAST!!

  • @soy.ingrid
    @soy.ingrid Před 4 lety +16

    Can we please get an update on this caller?

  • @Gheuns3251
    @Gheuns3251 Před 4 lety +24

    Run son !! 🏃

  • @ronwhiteleo3352
    @ronwhiteleo3352 Před 4 lety +17

    i DONT blame her for not wanting to lose her social security check, her spouse gave the ultimate sacrifice for her and the kids, so she should not lose those to a marriage that will probably end in divorce. ...looks like your going to be boyfriend/girlfriend for LIFE... and nothing is wrong with that..

    • @smlorrin
      @smlorrin Před 4 lety +1

      This ^

    • @littleripper312
      @littleripper312 Před 3 lety

      Ya I just wish she would let him know the truth. He's never going to be her husband, her husband died a hero and this guy is a little boy who doesn't even make 35k. He's just a boy toy.

  • @SuperDobieGirl
    @SuperDobieGirl Před 3 lety +12

    She has more baggage than Samsonite

  • @0my
    @0my Před 4 lety +16

    He doesn't know what the word legally means.

    • @julieludwig8927
      @julieludwig8927 Před 4 měsíci +1

      It’s cuz he’s still a kid too…..with 3 “step-kids” as he says.

  • @mustangthings
    @mustangthings Před 3 lety +6

    Classic Dave shifting the onus onto the man. He’s not concerned about the benefits, SHE IS. She has made the decision on what is more important.

    • @jenniferwang3489
      @jenniferwang3489 Před 2 lety +1

      Then she shouldn't string the guy along. Sounds like he wants to marry her, but she keeps saying, no I'll lose the money. Which is fine, if she is seeing that as security that's her right But she and boy toy here need to be on the same page and eh needs to see that they can get married, but she doesn't feel they are in a place FINANCIALLY where they can keep up their lifestyle without her widow's benefits. And in the 10+ years it will take before the youngest is out of school and potentially in high school, they coudl work on things. But this guy needs to look at it as a roommate situation because they are, in the eyes of the law and governments, roommates if they are living together and he should not be trying to put their monies together. That sounds like what he was actually calling about, how to combine their finances to work on debt repayment and wealth rebuilding, but it's nto a good idea when you are just living together becasue, as Judge Judy says, "we don't have courts for almost-marrieds, we have courts for married people. He needs to work on his debt and let her work on her debt, as single people. And when she feels stable enough or whatever, then they can get married.

  • @Slevin-Kelevra
    @Slevin-Kelevra Před 4 lety +11

    Is this the Jerry Springer Show?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @erichenschel3461
    @erichenschel3461 Před 3 lety +3

    dude run. dont marry single moms. Dave’s still living in the 50s. Tradition doesn’t work anymore, ESPECIALLY in this situation

  • @sitcomchristian6886
    @sitcomchristian6886 Před 4 lety +7

    Also, props to DR for admitting to not knowing, getting the proper information, then sharing it. 👍

  • @stephenr4185
    @stephenr4185 Před 4 lety +35

    Nice job with the video editing. Appreciate the follow up at the end.

  • @Colyers
    @Colyers Před 4 lety +16

    Pray for this man.

  • @conniearmstrong5866
    @conniearmstrong5866 Před 4 lety +12

    I am just going to say it....I would stay unmarried. I think she is smart.

  • @JuniFFXIVChannel
    @JuniFFXIVChannel Před 4 lety +13

    Considering he probably makes less than what she's receiving in benefits, it doesn't make sense for them to marry. She is putting her children first. He has two options: increase your income so she feels comfortable giving up what she would lose in benefits, or wait until the kids are out of the house to marry (but you gotta discuss that in great detail and clarity).

  • @brunomilei7806
    @brunomilei7806 Před 4 lety +26

    This guy *says* he makes 35 "in a good year", she makes 45, he's 30 in the hole. I'm a dude but she'd be crazy to marry him. Get a second job, find some way to bring that 35 closer to 70 or more and then maybe. Dave went too easy on him.

    • @sophiasmith5949
      @sophiasmith5949 Před 3 lety

      Sounds like a sense of security issue with her as it should be.

  • @blackonblack...9244
    @blackonblack...9244 Před 4 lety +17

    The situation sounds very cringy......

  • @computernerd8157
    @computernerd8157 Před 3 lety +3

    My advice is not to marry her. To me it makes no sense economically.

  • @kingkong-ni4ho
    @kingkong-ni4ho Před 4 lety +13

    Let me play Devil's Advocate here. What if she does marry him but it didnt work out 2 years later. She lost the benefits by then and now has to scramble to find money to pay for the younger kid's college. Not worth it. Hate me all u want, but I am looking out for the kid's future. I doubt this guy's 35K a year income will cover their college.

    • @icesk8ergal1123
      @icesk8ergal1123 Před 4 lety +1

      king kong but they don’t lose their college benefits. She just loses her social security...

    • @RMMomma4Eva
      @RMMomma4Eva Před měsícem

      This thinking is probably what the woman has engaged in except for the college money not being lost so not factoring in to her reasoning.
      Because why indeed should she give up guaranteed benefits to get married. Especially military widows' benefits after all she's been through with her family being in the military. And since she's been married before and knows that most marriages either end in divorce or don't work out and the spouses are miserable. To marry a guy who's 10 years younger, with all of her obligations, who also currently makes a lower than average salary.
      No, she just lied to dude to spare his feelings and keep him around. She might respect and enjoy him immensely. But for financial reasons has no intention of marrying him right now. Because it wouldn't make sense.
      Maybe she will reconsider if his earning capacity significantly increases. But why would he want to put his life on hold. Why would he shack up for years and also not have kids since this lady is almost too old now to have any more.
      No, if he can't quickly secure a much higher salary somehow, he's too young to get saddled with this situation and needs to move on. They're incompatible.

  • @bigd3721
    @bigd3721 Před 4 lety +48

    I’m 28 too. I’d prefer to be with someone that I could have my own kids

    • @Jeff-xy7fv
      @Jeff-xy7fv Před 4 lety +9

      Exactly! I would never be interested in a woman who already has kids with another man -- deceased or not.

    • @P4fashion
      @P4fashion Před 4 lety +1

      Right, totally agree with that but some guys don’t care I guess.

    • @TheRibofJESUS
      @TheRibofJESUS Před 4 lety

      Quick question: If you died, do you expect another man to step up and care for your kids or what??

    • @bigd3721
      @bigd3721 Před 4 lety +1

      It's Ya Girl, Jesus' Wife no i don’t expect. I’m only have kids with whomever I get married with. I’m only marrying someone that is responsible with money, comes from a good family ,and either has or working towards what she believes is created to do. So she will have her own money. I will have a house and car paid off for her when we get married.
      She will not need another man.
      If she does need help she will get if from her church or her family.

    • @TheRibofJESUS
      @TheRibofJESUS Před 4 lety +3

      @@bigd3721 To each their own...
      Children still need male leadership in their lives, not just money... And mothers need to be available to actually raise their kids, not busy working...

  • @arnphawk
    @arnphawk Před 3 lety +2

    step children? you are not married....

  • @Jeff-xy7fv
    @Jeff-xy7fv Před 4 lety +30

    A 28-year old single man wants to marry a 39-year old widow with kids?? Seriously???

  • @shawnerickstad7927
    @shawnerickstad7927 Před 4 lety +25

    She would still receive those benefits for her kids if remarried and not being honest with him and sounds like doesn't want to marry him

    • @DinnerTimeFan
      @DinnerTimeFan Před 5 měsíci

      She would not. The kids keep their college benefit. She would lose her Social Security, her IDE, and her health care. It's a losing proposition for her, as a widow, to remarry with those benefits. Tricare is a REALLY nice benefit for a widow.

  • @michelestellar153
    @michelestellar153 Před 3 lety +3

    Except if it doesn't work out and divorce follows the woman has given up security. So perhaps she does not want to marry.. She needs security for her kids and her spousal benefit provides that.

  • @purplepineapple117
    @purplepineapple117 Před 4 lety +6

    If you adopt the kids they lose. But marrying her just makes her lose her benefits

  • @adrianplayer-propertyinvest

    28 and 39 this kid needs to run in the opposite direction. Why is he even talking about having kids with this woman if she is 39 and past child bearing age. These young men dont think at all.

    • @catherinewilke5583
      @catherinewilke5583 Před dnem

      She could probably still have kids but she doesn’t want to 😅

  • @InvestingHustler
    @InvestingHustler Před 4 lety +97

    If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son, I have 99 problems but a .... ain’t one lol

    • @OptionSniped
      @OptionSniped Před 4 lety +1

      Investing Hustler facts

    • @mannythompson8800
      @mannythompson8800 Před 4 lety +1

      LOL

    • @whitness4christ
      @whitness4christ Před 4 lety +4

      Investing Hustler 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @jaya.0069
      @jaya.0069 Před 4 lety +4

      Words of wisdom Hustler!

    • @IamtheGL
      @IamtheGL Před 4 lety +2

      Bars

  • @thomasnk9489
    @thomasnk9489 Před 3 lety +5

    This is really egoistic and bad advise, to destroy the future of two children just so two boomers can have a document they belong to each other.....

    • @angryox3102
      @angryox3102 Před 3 lety

      28 isn’t a boomer.

    • @foreverblessed6443
      @foreverblessed6443 Před 3 lety +2

      Dave gave him terrible advice.. because he's Christian he's not encouraging slacking up.. this is why you don't ask everyone for advice..

  • @midlight9758
    @midlight9758 Před 4 lety +4

    Like how Dave mutes him at like 3 and a half minutes in, but keeps talking to him for like 10 minutes after🤣

  • @jslbrt
    @jslbrt Před 4 lety +8

    I think that when Homer Simpson said "lousy war widows" he was talking about this person.

  • @magicworld3242
    @magicworld3242 Před 4 lety +3

    He's 28 and has the nerve to call a 21 year old his step-kid ? No their not.

  • @dodgeplow
    @dodgeplow Před 4 lety +5

    The 21 year old does not become your "step son". he's an adult and already had a father.

  • @firerose7936
    @firerose7936 Před 3 lety +11

    I wouldn't throw away my benefits for a gamble on a younger man. And this is the 1st time I've disagreed with Dave's advice.

  • @biskit7
    @biskit7 Před 4 lety +35

    You gotta love my boy Dave.... dripping integrity!!!! If you listen to this man, you will be RICH!!!!

  • @dr.bassmab552
    @dr.bassmab552 Před 4 lety +8

    I think she doesn’t want to marry him that is why she keeps saying military benefits.
    She makes more money than him
    She is already well established ( age,kids, money, etc)
    She is not sure if she wants to marry 29yrs old man with 35k and she will lose her spousal benefits

    • @kimjong-un5562
      @kimjong-un5562 Před 4 lety +1

      Alot of people don't reach high income still middle thirties and high incomes intbe 40s

  • @lauvasquez7198
    @lauvasquez7198 Před 3 lety +4

    So basically he has no respect for himself and wants a mom instead of a wife.

  • @billybat5790
    @billybat5790 Před 4 lety +1

    only making 35k, 30k debt, 39 gf while being 28 that has a 21 year old.
    you even call them your step children
    who is this guy?

  • @bluegoka
    @bluegoka Před 3 lety +2

    Marry someone else. Closer to your age and with no kids.

  • @yiliu5909
    @yiliu5909 Před 4 lety +16

    By listening to Dave, I noticed so many Guys are having self esteems issues.

    • @love_reka_8877
      @love_reka_8877 Před 4 lety +1

      Oh yes

    • @dodgeplow
      @dodgeplow Před 3 lety

      It goes hand-in-hand with financial issues

    • @littleripper312
      @littleripper312 Před 3 lety

      Probably because they are not real men yet. This caller is still a boy.

  • @sghoughton
    @sghoughton Před 4 lety +19

    Why on earth would a 28 year old man marry a 39 year old woman? This is absolutely INSANE.

    • @ALXSSA
      @ALXSSA Před 4 lety +1

      Steve oh so i heard the age right...

    • @lqboren47
      @lqboren47 Před 4 lety +19

      Why would a 39 yr d man marry a 28 yr old woman?

    • @andrewf4623
      @andrewf4623 Před 4 lety +9

      Their ages are irrelevant

    • @waynekerr2472
      @waynekerr2472 Před 4 lety +5

      @@lqboren47 because they look better

    • @Uncleamo42
      @Uncleamo42 Před 4 lety +3

      B'cos husband didn't use it that much so still looks like new (fresh)

  • @rolendrickisidora3855
    @rolendrickisidora3855 Před 4 lety +4

    I honestly feels like a would be a stupid step for the girlfriend of this man to actually get married,her husband literally died for her to recieve those benefits and trough those benefits she has some kind of sucirety to make sure shes in a better financiel position to keep taking care of her kids, why risk all that just to marry someone who has no kids and no benefits to lose. 50 % of mariages end up in divorce anways . Is just not worth the risk for her.

  • @Jay-pf2cn
    @Jay-pf2cn Před 4 lety +46

    This man is INSANE. A red pill man needs to get to him before it's too late!!!!

  • @idontwantachannelimjustcom7745

    I was waiting for the caller to say they were cousins.

  • @aaronosborn7395
    @aaronosborn7395 Před 4 lety +41

    Dude wake up you can do better then old model with lots of baggage..

  • @Shinerdeciple
    @Shinerdeciple Před 4 lety +2

    Ok so I am military. I don't know the answer to the question, are they gonna lose the benifits but I can tell you the entire military is based around reshaping your life to the stupid rules. Thats why so many leave. They get tired of checking boxes to get little carrots but that is our life.

  • @b.bernal6151
    @b.bernal6151 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Why would a 28yr old young man want to marry a much older woman with all those kids!? You probably want kids of your own and she’s probably done with having kids, plus she doesn’t want to lose her benefits. Walk away! I’d be devastated if that was my son.

  • @mle011
    @mle011 Před 4 lety +82

    I swear most of the calls come from Florida lol.

    • @dexterm1285
      @dexterm1285 Před 4 lety +5

      Yea we have unfortunately 21 million people and growing fast.

    • @hansonallie
      @hansonallie Před 4 lety +1

      I haven't been listening long, but am I wrong in assuming the runner-up states are California & Texas? Lol, I'm from one of those & I just have a gut feeling...

    • @Mike0Powell
      @Mike0Powell Před 4 lety

      Dave has stated that sometimes they list a different city and state if a person is trying to hide their identity (like in a situation where the caller is being abused), so I guess Florida is the default, lol.

    • @tymom9313
      @tymom9313 Před 4 lety

      So are live PD episodes 🤣

    • @ingridnorton1
      @ingridnorton1 Před 5 měsíci

      Hahahaha! I just read your post and almost peed my pants. Sounds like Florida has some issues.