My Girlfriend Is $100,000 In Debt And Not Working!

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  • @diyswithangie7377
    @diyswithangie7377 Pƙed 4 lety +2070

    RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!! Bro, I'm a female and I'm telling you to RUNNNNNNNNNNNNđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïžđŸƒâ€â™‚ïž

    • @AdaEstherGJ
      @AdaEstherGJ Pƙed 4 lety +91

      I'd probably suggest the same. And I'm also a woman. Either fix it. Be willing to fix it or leave.

    • @dumbdumb5821
      @dumbdumb5821 Pƙed 4 lety +19

      I’m non binary and I say RUNNNNNNN AWAYYY, RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN.

    • @zee9709
      @zee9709 Pƙed 4 lety +48

      RUN forest RUNNN!!!!!

    • @diyswithangie7377
      @diyswithangie7377 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      @@zee9709 đŸ€ŁđŸ€ŁđŸ€Ł

    • @itspricila
      @itspricila Pƙed 4 lety +55

      im female and i agree even if the girlfriend is not using him shes being lazy by not working. She has 100k of debt she cannot afford to not work!!

  • @Sawautha
    @Sawautha Pƙed 4 lety +2002

    She saw you were making it and she thought, “I’m set.”

    • @nathan_2780
      @nathan_2780 Pƙed 4 lety +16

      😂

    • @carojames6776
      @carojames6776 Pƙed 4 lety +53

      9 months later..........

    • @mikebagwell8229
      @mikebagwell8229 Pƙed 4 lety +12

      El Classico

    • @yamamancha
      @yamamancha Pƙed 4 lety +15

      @@carojames6776 technically 10 months, but yeah

    • @fredericksharon6908
      @fredericksharon6908 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      Well it's true , when she has someone to fall back on, she would feel things are sorted out.. I guess he should let her know that her debt is her debt and vice versa 😊

  • @darylbaptie5159
    @darylbaptie5159 Pƙed 4 lety +1189

    Gets married, he pays off her 100k debt, she files for divorce and takes 50% of all he has.
    Run...just run....

  • @blakelaker322
    @blakelaker322 Pƙed 4 lety +557

    I just came for the “dump her” comments.

  • @dogan6070
    @dogan6070 Pƙed 4 lety +1266

    Tell her, UBER EAT is hiring. That's what I did and payed of my $40.000 Debt off. All I did is work, work work. 2.8 years I payed it off. I feel free now.

    • @frogsama666
      @frogsama666 Pƙed 4 lety +60

      @@AndreC1992 weekends and fridays you make the most money. Definetely worth trying it.

    • @mariposarn8038
      @mariposarn8038 Pƙed 4 lety +34

      *paid*
      But good job getting out of debt!

    • @doctorbeanis
      @doctorbeanis Pƙed 4 lety +29

      Love reading these comments! Proud moment for sure!! I can finally see light at the end of the tunnel and that snowball is picking up steam myself- it's so exciting:)

    • @nataliyak9555
      @nataliyak9555 Pƙed 4 lety +12

      Congrats! Well done!

    • @Allaiya.
      @Allaiya. Pƙed 4 lety +10

      Good job!

  • @eqsharp
    @eqsharp Pƙed 4 lety +731

    My advice father to son: “You’re 28. Not your job to fix her. Don’t try to be a hero. There’s too many women out there. Stop wasting time. Be friends and don’t even think about marriage.”

    • @dogan6070
      @dogan6070 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Lol

    • @SoulfulVeg
      @SoulfulVeg Pƙed 4 lety +39

      No friendship, cut her off. She will reel him back in.

    • @janetmcdaniel1112
      @janetmcdaniel1112 Pƙed 4 lety +12

      Great advice. I'm surprised DR wasn't a lil more tougher about his girl. She's his girlfriend not his wife and dudes 2 young for the bull lol. It's ok 2 play the nice card once or maybe twice but l get the impression dude was always being nice bc he sounds like it.

    • @GX2re
      @GX2re Pƙed 4 lety +5

      Don't even be friends, cut her clean off

    • @LaCosmetologia
      @LaCosmetologia Pƙed 4 lety +5

      and wrap it!

  • @evaclark1792
    @evaclark1792 Pƙed 4 lety +227

    "I think shes paralyzed by the debt" No shes hoping that YOU pay it off

  • @mikementzer9292
    @mikementzer9292 Pƙed 4 lety +1200

    Imagine a woman calling: "My boyfriend is 100K in debt and sits at home all day..."
    I wonder if we would be listening to the same conversation.

    • @linna3179
      @linna3179 Pƙed 4 lety +44

      Mike Mentzer right lol

    • @nitabe8653
      @nitabe8653 Pƙed 4 lety +111

      Of course not...Dave would be fuming!!

    • @renskedj
      @renskedj Pƙed 4 lety +31

      A friend from primary school got her dads business, made a load, retired w 40 and married an artist who just paints for fun. She never wanted kids. He's absolutely fine with it and she doesn't care either. He hit the jackpot.

    • @z040880
      @z040880 Pƙed 4 lety +106

      Dave is a simp

    • @BoltUpright190
      @BoltUpright190 Pƙed 4 lety +75

      LOL If the roles were reversed, "Blue Pill" Dave would be telling the guy to Man Up!

  • @omegamalerevelations7543
    @omegamalerevelations7543 Pƙed 4 lety +2211

    Once you pay it off she will leave.

    • @cadavison
      @cadavison Pƙed 4 lety +46

      Anyone who gave this comment a thumbs up is a dishonest person. You are projecting what is inside of yourself.

    • @cadavison
      @cadavison Pƙed 4 lety +22

      @@passive101 You can't claim that you are not projecting by further projecting. "Female nature"? Using bs like that says more about you than them.

    • @josephparra7655
      @josephparra7655 Pƙed 4 lety +160

      @@cadavison Then why hasn't she paid a dime toward her student loans! Exactly......Stop embarrassing yourself all over the internet anyone can see she wants someone else to pay her loans. Fact, if she wanted to pay her loans herself she would be working to pay them. Not difficult to figure out.

    • @omegamalerevelations7543
      @omegamalerevelations7543 Pƙed 4 lety +58

      @@cadavison You must have a lot of debt and feel guilty...

    • @kaiung7542
      @kaiung7542 Pƙed 4 lety +63

      cadavison
      Facts don't care about your feelings. Shut up.

  • @smittymac81
    @smittymac81 Pƙed 4 lety +1101

    Alex, when Dave said to help her, he means help her find a job, not help her pay HER loans.

    • @shortchubbyneckbeard1681
      @shortchubbyneckbeard1681 Pƙed 4 lety +21

      smithshot
      Yeah, hopefully he has enough sense to not marry this chick, at least until most or all of her debts are gone

    • @theunfadeable60
      @theunfadeable60 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      You sure? Cause Dave sounds like a white Knight to me.

    • @miket6094
      @miket6094 Pƙed 4 lety +14

      I'm surprised Dave didn't tell him to get a second and third job to help her out.

    • @mexital1159
      @mexital1159 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Not worth helping her.

    • @miket6094
      @miket6094 Pƙed 4 lety +8

      @@mexital1159 the point I was trying to make is that Dave is a simp who thinks women should be placed on a pedestal and worshipped. Don't ever be a doormat for a woman, treat them only as well as they treat you... Period!!!

  • @hollyb6885
    @hollyb6885 Pƙed 4 lety +62

    Her goal is to be a stay at home mom with a fine arts degree and a husband to pay her bills. This is infuriating.

    • @victorkreitner754
      @victorkreitner754 Pƙed 29 dny

      And the sad part is she may be a nice girlfriend and have good intentions. If you're with someone 4 years there has to be some good qualities to her. I just think she picked a degree of study that just won't cut the mustard. Debt is not only frustrating it stems from a lack of control, and can be embarrassing and shameful...male or female. Part of me feels bad for her as well as him, because it sounds like he really likes this woman, but she has to show some responsibility now to save the relationship. It's a very bad situation for him.

    • @hollyb6885
      @hollyb6885 Pƙed 29 dny

      @@victorkreitner754 And what job can she get with that degree?

  • @KB-ic3th
    @KB-ic3th Pƙed 4 lety +352

    If this was a female that called in about her non-working boyfriend with $100k in debt, who thinks Dave's answer would be different?

    • @ayo30s
      @ayo30s Pƙed 3 lety +8

      Haha!!! đŸ‘đŸŸđŸ‘ŠđŸŸâœŒđŸŸđŸ‡łđŸ‡ŹđŸ‡ș🇾

    • @mastersfan04
      @mastersfan04 Pƙed 3 lety +10

      You Bet! It would be: unto thee i pledge all my worldly goods...

    • @ironmantis25
      @ironmantis25 Pƙed 3 lety +5

      @@purepit4ever1200 Its old school thinking, guys were supposed to be the man of the house and be financially responsible. Women can always rely on the guy.

    • @mekverseedits
      @mekverseedits Pƙed 3 lety +6

      @ZayTooWoke the thing is the message is the same, but the DELIVERY is different. Regardless, if your partner is in debt and not working, help them get tf up to contribute or leave em. Same message, don't forget

    • @same.7939
      @same.7939 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Absolutely. He's pretty biased.

  • @tjbalistic
    @tjbalistic Pƙed 4 lety +2401

    He knows he needs to dump her, but is looking for reasons not to let go. She was probably a great college girlfriend, but she isn't real life wife material.

  • @wichaelmeston1492
    @wichaelmeston1492 Pƙed 4 lety +752

    Run dude...RUN

    • @rodrigofernandez9055
      @rodrigofernandez9055 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      Future 100 meters champion

    • @Arthur_StJohn
      @Arthur_StJohn Pƙed 4 lety +15

      100k debt and no job no motivation? Don't run. Fly.

    • @swoopes7777
      @swoopes7777 Pƙed 4 lety +7

      I bet she's hot as he'll though

    • @costakeith9048
      @costakeith9048 Pƙed 4 lety

      Depends on attractive hot she is, if she's good enough looking a prenup might do the trick. There's nothing wrong with a trophy wife if you can afford one and there are social advantages to having an attractive wife that might even come in useful down the line. Just make sure the paperwork is air tight and you keep what you make in the relationship without taking on the debts she has incurred.

    • @benalias5766
      @benalias5766 Pƙed 4 lety

      @@costakeith9048 The guy's young and while a prenup may well help guard the inherited wealth, they tend to be far less effective with any wealth generated during the marriage, particularly if the spouse isn't working.

  • @MrThiefHater
    @MrThiefHater Pƙed 4 lety +50

    The fact that she spent $100,000 to get a degree in art should tell you everything you need to know. Run!

    • @nadia4999
      @nadia4999 Pƙed 4 lety

      Lol. Dang that’s low. He said she went to a private school. Maybe cost on top of out of state fees, but you’re right lol.

    • @dostagirl9551
      @dostagirl9551 Pƙed 9 měsĂ­ci +1

      That wasn’t a degree in art. That was a postponement of adulting with a 100k price tag that she’s hoping to honey pot her way out of.

  • @macneoh7418
    @macneoh7418 Pƙed 4 lety +18

    His next call...."Dave my girlfriend is unemployed, has 100K of debt, and is pregnant with my child." This dude needs to run and not look back while he still can.

  • @smittymac81
    @smittymac81 Pƙed 4 lety +481

    Dont stick around.. She will have a kid or two, never work, then leave you.. you will be paying a grip in child support and alimony then you will move into your parents guest bedroom... Think long term.. DONT STICK AROUND

    • @nightfangs2910
      @nightfangs2910 Pƙed 4 lety +14

      Getting married gets him locked down by the state she knows what she is doing right now he's not in a contract with the state

  • @ricardoalvarez5585
    @ricardoalvarez5585 Pƙed 4 lety +429

    I feel sorry for this guy. He loves her but she WILL ruin him. He has everything to lose and she has everything to gain.

    • @beth.l8608
      @beth.l8608 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      So mention a preen up and if she is disgusted then bye bye

    • @DonTheConMan
      @DonTheConMan Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Exactly! He has nothing to gain being with her vs someone who actually works.

    • @itsmob4life
      @itsmob4life Pƙed 4 lety +3

      R- Man never feel sorry for a simp.

    • @sococomfort22s34
      @sococomfort22s34 Pƙed 3 lety +5

      Yea true but she could be very pretty and the dude could be thinking with his smaller head if you get what I mean. Lots of guys do stupid things for pretty women.

  • @countdown2xstacy
    @countdown2xstacy Pƙed 3 lety +20

    The more I listen to these Dave Ramsey clips, the more I realize my situation isn’t that bad at all.

  • @rcas350pilot8
    @rcas350pilot8 Pƙed 4 lety +235

    If this guy marries her then he deserves what he gets.

    • @athens31415
      @athens31415 Pƙed 4 lety +10

      Targets of emotional abuse and manipulation deserve what they get? Get out of here.

    • @mark6714
      @mark6714 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      45 Auto I was thinking the same thing.

    • @shutupandeatasmr4498
      @shutupandeatasmr4498 Pƙed 4 lety +12

      astroathena219 He is saying he knows what he’s getting into, so don’t complain about it later. All the red flags are there.

    • @alexjones28
      @alexjones28 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      đŸ€ŁđŸ€ŁđŸ€ŁđŸ˜‚đŸ˜‚

    • @cayden3470
      @cayden3470 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      astroathena219 he’s deliberately subjecting himself to the abuse and manipulation - there’s this thing called accountability I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of it.

  • @arnycazaz2126
    @arnycazaz2126 Pƙed 4 lety +424

    This fool is going to payoff her loan. Get out while u can buddy

    • @bee12355
      @bee12355 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Sad to say, he will likely pay off her debt.

    • @michiyodoll9916
      @michiyodoll9916 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      Alimony and child support. .

  • @leefamily9000
    @leefamily9000 Pƙed 4 lety +422

    100k for an art degree...someone arrest the school for robbing her and someone have an intervention for her for getting that degree. Don't people understand that there is truth behind the saying "starving artist"?

    • @sheisasurvivor8479
      @sheisasurvivor8479 Pƙed 4 lety +7

      Joel remember they probably also gave her a bunch of money to “live off” included in that money.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 Pƙed 4 lety +40

      Joel
      She wasn't robed
      She freely handed them the money and blew some or most of it as well.

    • @leefamily9000
      @leefamily9000 Pƙed 4 lety +24

      @@blackworldtraveler3711 I know she wasn't literally robbed...my point is that these institutions are out of control....tuition skyrocketing and they can care less about students and the debt they accrue since they always get their money.

    • @leefamily9000
      @leefamily9000 Pƙed 4 lety +10

      @@sheisasurvivor8479 Honestly, I didn't listen to the entire story. I'm just saying that it's amazing that kids still buy into this idea that a loan is the only way to pay for school. I always tell my students to also find out if the degree they are pursuing is actually in demand and pays well.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 Pƙed 4 lety +7

      Joel
      No different than buying a house,car,etc..
      Documents presented to you.
      Some reading,math to do.
      Common sense and thought process involved,
      No gun to head to agree and sign.

  • @debbieann4479
    @debbieann4479 Pƙed 4 lety +21

    If I was her I would be working full-time somewhere paying off that debt and showing him that I do not expect him to pay it off. She's not doing that. A definite RED FLAG !

  • @briannan.joseph2808
    @briannan.joseph2808 Pƙed 4 lety +45

    I needed this pep talk. I’m currently in this situation. Paralyzed by bills, anxiety at an all time high, however, I’ve made the decision to change my life. I’m only 40k in debt.

    • @hymnodyhands
      @hymnodyhands Pƙed 4 lety +6

      You can do it -- even in the midst of the present crisis, you can do it!

    • @josereyes1148
      @josereyes1148 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      How's it going w your debt?

    • @dessy844
      @dessy844 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      I hope you are in a much better financial situation now. And your anxiety has subsides 🙏

  • @selfmadesm2068
    @selfmadesm2068 Pƙed 4 lety +512

    "I think shes paralyzed by the debt" No shes hoping that YOU pay it off through marriage, your income and maybe divorce. Something tells me shes not the brightest light bulb if she got into debt by majoring in art. Plus not actively working she is lazy. That is a dangerous combination.

    • @deekayvixen
      @deekayvixen Pƙed 4 lety +25

      Yep, he said right away that he makes good money. All she sees is 💰.

    • @jaya.0069
      @jaya.0069 Pƙed 4 lety +9

      She's hoping he's not the brightest bulb! Run away fast....

    • @javajav3004
      @javajav3004 Pƙed 4 lety +7

      If she got a art degree you shouldnt touch her

    • @ahastar1141
      @ahastar1141 Pƙed 4 lety

      @dachicagoan Probably the easiest and most successful pick up line out there

    • @Jeff-xy7fv
      @Jeff-xy7fv Pƙed 4 lety

      @dachicagoan Another kind of woman who I avoid like the plague is one who does not like bluegrass music.

  • @WhiteBoardFinance
    @WhiteBoardFinance Pƙed 4 lety +685

    People show you who they are, it's up to you to believe them lol

    • @ladypink3473
      @ladypink3473 Pƙed 4 lety +14

      Marko - WhiteBoard Finance 💯💯💯

    • @Ethiodawg
      @Ethiodawg Pƙed 4 lety +6

      Amen!

    • @MyNameIsCorey
      @MyNameIsCorey Pƙed 4 lety +5

      Absolutely! Well said...

    • @rebeccashields9626
      @rebeccashields9626 Pƙed 4 lety +7

      Yaaahhhssss well said. They usually even straight up tell you but we aren’t listening.

    • @christinawojtowicz2698
      @christinawojtowicz2698 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      Wow !!!!! Now THAT's a good one !!! Especially when they actually do show you who they are.

  • @blackmantravel6954
    @blackmantravel6954 Pƙed 3 lety +24

    Just imagine if it was the other way around. She would leave him so fast

  • @amanhasnoname1510
    @amanhasnoname1510 Pƙed 4 lety +63

    She’ll be OK once the art factory gets up and running.

  • @clarifyingquestions
    @clarifyingquestions Pƙed 4 lety +384

    My concern is Alex is making the call and not his girlfriend. I would not want this for my son. She needs to start contributing.

    • @joeymerrell8585
      @joeymerrell8585 Pƙed 4 lety +16

      I would bet that 100k she won't. She's hoping someone else will step up to her debt.

    • @joeymerrell8585
      @joeymerrell8585 Pƙed 4 lety

      @Johnny Five I agree

    • @williams242ful
      @williams242ful Pƙed 4 lety

      đŸ€ŁđŸ˜‚

    • @clarifyingquestions
      @clarifyingquestions Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @bla blahblah I also have a daughter so I think of people as people first. I would not want Ale's situation for my daughter either and I would seriously wonder why my child ( male, female, other) would want to be supporting another adult. Everyone contributes 2yrs - 92yrs!!!! As usual Dave's advice was spot on and delivered with intelligence and kindness - sitting on the couch is not an option.

    • @NikNik0123
      @NikNik0123 Pƙed 4 lety

      Johnny Five simp = a high earning provider man.

  • @justintaylor-moneymindset4073
    @justintaylor-moneymindset4073 Pƙed 4 lety +645

    Find a new girlfriend homie!!

    • @jayjordan833
      @jayjordan833 Pƙed 4 lety +9

      I don't think he realizes that It's that easy especially since he's not married

    • @oroville12345
      @oroville12345 Pƙed 4 lety +15

      Dont find a woman at all invest that money and live off of the interest dont waste it on a woman

    • @economiclifestyleinvesting9884
      @economiclifestyleinvesting9884 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Jay Jordan his still living in dream world, he should be waking up one day......hopefully

    • @yiliu5909
      @yiliu5909 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Well, it’s easier to say . I think he knows he needs to dump her but he is also don’t have the ball, maybe the attachment or he doesn’t believe he deserve better.

    • @economiclifestyleinvesting9884
      @economiclifestyleinvesting9884 Pƙed 4 lety

      Yi Liu I never thought of that, you’re probably right it could be one of those assumptions. Hope at the end of the day it works out well for both in the long term no matter what happens

  • @celinened7256
    @celinened7256 Pƙed 4 lety +18

    Tell her to be an art teacher, and to sell her art on Etsy, and Instagram. Do not Marry her until she shows initiative.

  • @davidwirth2716
    @davidwirth2716 Pƙed 3 lety +19

    I new a guy who was in so much debt and they had no children, she would spend her days doing metal art work as a hobby and didn't earn a dime. He would struggle to make ends meet , he would allow it , fool!

  • @auntyuber5127
    @auntyuber5127 Pƙed 4 lety +694

    4 years and he doesn't know if she's lazy? Oy vey

    • @Ryan_DeWitt
      @Ryan_DeWitt Pƙed 4 lety +88

      The fact that he didn't answer right away and his sheepish answer means he knows she is. He is just in love and is trying to deny it.

    • @patty109109
      @patty109109 Pƙed 4 lety +9

      Ryan De Witt absolutely right. I guarantee she isn’t using her days working out or into some other hobby all in.

    • @Roy.story.4
      @Roy.story.4 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @@Ryan_DeWitt sheepish eh

    • @carojames6776
      @carojames6776 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      They say it takes time to REALLY get to know your other half, he obviously needed more time.

    • @Eveningbreeze721
      @Eveningbreeze721 Pƙed 4 lety +9

      He knows she is and does not want to say it.

  • @BaconMountainMan
    @BaconMountainMan Pƙed 4 lety +209

    He's known her for four years and doesn't know if she's lazy? đŸ€Šâ€â™‚ïž

    • @horacevu
      @horacevu Pƙed 4 lety +8

      a lot of people and especially women are good at hiding their flaws until you either move in with them or its too late (marriage, cheating, etc).

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@horacevu she owes that much debt, she can't hide that

    • @JoMama123451234
      @JoMama123451234 Pƙed 3 lety +7

      He knows but cant admit it

    • @Emma_madison
      @Emma_madison Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Love is blind, the poor guy can't see nothing😂

  • @mecheckraise
    @mecheckraise Pƙed 4 lety +14

    Dump her. She will bring you down. DUMP HER!!!

  • @13ikea
    @13ikea Pƙed 4 lety +24

    After 4 years, no conversation should be too hard to communicate with your partner. Sounds to me like she wants you to take care of her with your inheritance.

    • @Herrera_70
      @Herrera_70 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      exactly!! they have been together so long but still can't have serious conversations lol what a joke.

    • @JOESUBA122
      @JOESUBA122 Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci

      Of cause she wants him to pay it then marry him run up more debt and divorce him! It happens all the time 😂

  • @KH9th
    @KH9th Pƙed 4 lety +524

    "My Ex-Girlfriend is 100k in Debt", title fixed.

  • @user-lq6vp9el6l
    @user-lq6vp9el6l Pƙed 4 lety +502

    Dave Ramsey has a weak spot for Women with debt.

    • @BRBallin1
      @BRBallin1 Pƙed 4 lety +38

      All he said was find out ways that she can pay her debts off on her own or dump her if she's not working towards it.

    • @jennym007
      @jennym007 Pƙed 4 lety +25

      u a
      He’s also got a weak spot for men in debt đŸ€·đŸ»â€â™€ïž...that’s the point of his show!

    • @scottalbers2518
      @scottalbers2518 Pƙed 4 lety +28

      I've found this bias in him too. It's not realistic and not fair.

    • @Purplepenguinguy
      @Purplepenguinguy Pƙed 4 lety +67

      Gf with $100,000 in debt not working - "awww, listen babydoll, you gotta do something"
      Son living at home, working(possibly part time, but $40,000 in debt - "you have 1 MONTH to get out

    • @davem4193
      @davem4193 Pƙed 4 lety +61

      Dave is a simp.

  • @samantharoberts6471
    @samantharoberts6471 Pƙed 4 lety +16

    I have $11, 000 in debt and am panicking, looking for a second job to knock it out. Like, I want it gone so bad I can taste it!
    And these people I hear about on this show are just like, " 100k, almost a million....eh! Whatever! It'll work itself out".
    😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹

  • @JB-kx9bx
    @JB-kx9bx Pƙed 3 lety +8

    I'm an engineer (paid off my 85k student loan debt) and married an engineer with 0 student loan debt. No way I was going to marry someone with a large debt for a basket weaving degree.

    • @kencurtis2403
      @kencurtis2403 Pƙed 3 lety

      I’m an engineer who married an engineer and our son is an engineer lol.

  • @fkcavs
    @fkcavs Pƙed 4 lety +151

    Best breakup bro. That girl is well aware you're an engineer with an inheritance and it's highly likely she pushes for marriage and uses him to pay off the debt. Once he pays it off she'll find an excuse to divorce. Be very careful Alex.

    • @BeautyMommysUnite
      @BeautyMommysUnite Pƙed 4 lety +3

      Oh so you know her? She told you this? When did you talk to them to get the whole story? Your investigative skills are impressive.

    • @loganknupp9034
      @loganknupp9034 Pƙed 3 lety +8

      Mrs. Buttersworth You’re mad because you wanna do this

    • @BillyBobbby
      @BillyBobbby Pƙed 2 lety +6

      @@BeautyMommysUnite you don't need impressive investigations skill to come to this conclusion. All you need is a little common sense and be aware of common trends occurring in a lot of marriages.

    • @SSS-wo2hn
      @SSS-wo2hn Pƙed rokem

      @@BeautyMommysUnite no, she’s a female.

  • @Kaz.2719
    @Kaz.2719 Pƙed 4 lety +327

    You mean your ex girlfriend?

  • @jennym007
    @jennym007 Pƙed 4 lety +17

    I’ve been very happily married for over 20 years and imo the key to a successful marriage is mutual respect and similar work ethics.
    If you’re both lazy, that’s okay.
    If you both work hard, even better.
    But you can’t have one work hard and the other not.
    He will lose respect for her and that’s a downward slope to divorce.

  • @chriswilson1968
    @chriswilson1968 Pƙed 4 lety +18

    You'll never find no woman taking care of a dude with no job and 100k in debt...A pretty woman doesnt have to work a day in her life in this world if she doesnt want to.

  • @DanielIles
    @DanielIles Pƙed 4 lety +47

    "you don't think she is lazy"
    *Uh oh Dave got him now!*

  • @christinad4412
    @christinad4412 Pƙed 4 lety +79

    “Sitting in the Middle of the road getting ready to get run over by an 18 wheeler .... is not a good plan!” đŸ˜‚đŸ€ŁđŸ˜‚đŸ€ŁđŸ˜‚

    • @markm0000
      @markm0000 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      It’s good for him. That girl has nothing going for her and the debt is a freaking boat anchor for at least 10 years.

  • @justlivelovelaughfrugally
    @justlivelovelaughfrugally Pƙed 3 lety +18

    She’s about to get pregnant to ensure that he pays when he does leave.

  • @Essays4College
    @Essays4College Pƙed 4 lety +9

    "paralyzed by the debt" LOL Young man you'd better run while you can!

  • @abramolandvideo
    @abramolandvideo Pƙed 4 lety +107

    This is not unheard of. She is quietly expecting him to "man up" and pay off her debt. And if he should marry her, this is exactly what the rest of his life will be unless she finds a richer man. He needs to find a woman who is financially stable to avoid financial and legal problems in the foreseeable future.

  • @dgw4049
    @dgw4049 Pƙed 4 lety +73

    100k art degree... omg
    She is living with this guy obviously. So she has no bills. Just make 30k as a teacher or a waitress and pay it off in 3 years. 100k is not a lot when you have no other responsibilities.

    • @Ryan-sw4xy
      @Ryan-sw4xy Pƙed 4 lety +12

      30k gross income will not pay off 100k debt in 3 years.

    • @Ryan-sw4xy
      @Ryan-sw4xy Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @Kaven Gilbert 30k after taxes and other living expenses is not 90k, genius.

    • @TimeisUp22
      @TimeisUp22 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      . The boyfriend is paying for the living expenses. Her check will go towards her debt. Plus her income tax. She will still be able to get the majority of it down.

    • @BryanEaton
      @BryanEaton Pƙed 4 lety +5

      But she needs to buy shoes!

  • @PKent
    @PKent Pƙed 4 lety +38

    Throw away the whole girlfriend. Immediately

  • @BernadetteTeachesMusic
    @BernadetteTeachesMusic Pƙed 3 lety +106

    Now is such a good time to be an artist. You don’t need to be “discovered” to make it. You can make it by growing your online presence and selling art online.
    She could be sponsored by art supply companies, make money from her art and also teach. There is so much she can do to make an income now. She just needs to start.

    • @Storjunkare
      @Storjunkare Pƙed 3 lety +10

      And this guy who called in will be the one bankrolling it, no doubt. She needs to get a job, any job at this point. Her debt should be her primary concern right now.

    • @deepfakesforreal9487
      @deepfakesforreal9487 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      Yes it IS. Where do I sign up for a 100k degree to become an 'online' artist? Can't wait...

    • @jeffreyhavlik3562
      @jeffreyhavlik3562 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @Michael Ellingsworth obviously it is NOT bringing in Consistent money! It's bringing in zero.

    • @Jane5720
      @Jane5720 Pƙed 3 lety

      Right she can do all of that and she still wouldn't make very good money

    • @snowflakesandstars
      @snowflakesandstars Pƙed 3 lety +3

      She should try Only Fans LOL

  • @InvestingHustler
    @InvestingHustler Pƙed 4 lety +231

    Time for a new girlfriend ! Lol

  • @Magerquark
    @Magerquark Pƙed 4 lety +128

    Run as fast as you can my man
    I feel like 90% of the people calling Ramsey, already know deep inside what the right thing to do is, they just can't face the truth.
    Ramsey acts as the wise man we all need from time to time, to bring us back on our feet having lost traction for a moment

    • @joyaustin6581
      @joyaustin6581 Pƙed 3 lety

      Don’t run away. Skip, it burns less energy. Wonder what he did

  • @lennoxmutterick6434
    @lennoxmutterick6434 Pƙed 19 dny +339

    Amazing video, A friend of mine referred me to a financial adviser sometime ago and we got to talking about investment and money. I started investing with $150k and in the first 2 months, my portfolio was reading $274,800. Crazy right!, I decided to reinvest my profit and get more interesting. For over a year we have been working together making consistent profit just bought my second home 2 weeks ago and care for my family.

    • @Lourd-Bab
      @Lourd-Bab Pƙed 19 dny

      Hi. I’ve been forced to find additional sources of income as I got retrenched. I barely have time to continue trading and watch my investments since I had my second child. Do you think I should take a break for a while from the market and focus on other things or return whenever I have free time or is it a continuous process? Thanks

    • @lennoxmutterick6434
      @lennoxmutterick6434 Pƙed 19 dny

      @@Lourd-Bab However, if you do not have access to a professional like JUDITH ANN PEACE, quitting your job to focus on trading may not be the best approach. It is important to consider all options and seek guidance from reliable sources before making any major decisions. Consulting with an AI or using automated trading systems can also be helpful in managing investments while balancing other commitments

    • @Lourd-Bab
      @Lourd-Bab Pƙed 19 dny

      @@lennoxmutterick6434 Oh please I’d love that. Thanks!

    • @lennoxmutterick6434
      @lennoxmutterick6434 Pƙed 19 dny

      @@Lourd-Bab Judith Ann peace is her name

    • @lennoxmutterick6434
      @lennoxmutterick6434 Pƙed 19 dny

      Lookup with her name on the webpage.

  • @---cr8nw
    @---cr8nw Pƙed 4 lety +27

    Homie needs to learn three simple words. "Not my problem."

  • @53c3000
    @53c3000 Pƙed 4 lety +20

    The minute he dumps her is the minute she gets up and does something.

    • @DougAlesUSA
      @DougAlesUSA Pƙed 2 lety

      Something like find a different SIMP

  • @Dn1sdr
    @Dn1sdr Pƙed 4 lety +72

    I just want to point out if this were a woman calling about her boyfriend who had $100,000 in debt in a worthless career field and wasn't working Dave's advice wouldn't be lovingly help him Dave's advice would be kick him to the curb now! And truthfully that ought to be the advice he's giving this young man for this lady. There's only one correct response here that's cut your losses and move on.

    • @TheBryanmauro
      @TheBryanmauro Pƙed 4 lety +14

      Exactly...Dave is such beta for females it kills me.

    • @f.-j.j.5738
      @f.-j.j.5738 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      My thoughts are that women are his base audience that he doesn't wanna upset. I sure hope he called the caller off air and told him to run like there's no tomorrow...

    • @Shyhalu
      @Shyhalu Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @@f.-j.j.5738 That is the epitome of being a beta.....

    • @memberofthelambily1340
      @memberofthelambily1340 Pƙed 4 lety

      Floreine-Jemima Joseph it’s also a societal thing

    • @dpeagles
      @dpeagles Pƙed 4 lety

      He has a good wife, he thinks they are all like that.

  • @williamj.dovejr.8613
    @williamj.dovejr.8613 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    She saw him as a bailout and a retirement plan...end this relationship yesterday!

  • @flipphone582
    @flipphone582 Pƙed 4 lety +109

    A woman who is in debt $100K for an ART degree, and unemployed (!!!), isn't someone who had the critical thinking skills necessary to be a good wife/mother.

    • @unnamedchannel1237
      @unnamedchannel1237 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Bravo

    • @sgtcrab2569
      @sgtcrab2569 Pƙed rokem

      If they have kids she will be able to critique the fridge magnet drawings.

    • @Jakkaribik1
      @Jakkaribik1 Pƙed 5 dny

      Her ART is doing FUN things and letting the Boy work..

  •  Pƙed 4 lety +45

    hahahah buddy she targeted you like a predator ..drop her now

  • @swampcrawlerls1267
    @swampcrawlerls1267 Pƙed 4 lety +72

    I agree with nearly every comment in the comment section.
    Doesnt happen often.

  • @conormctapoutaka0-1aka0tit5
    @conormctapoutaka0-1aka0tit5 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    Tricking is at an all-time high!!!!!

  • @RepuBlicOfChaD
    @RepuBlicOfChaD Pƙed 4 lety +4

    Leave her!

  • @dreddy_g
    @dreddy_g Pƙed 4 lety +88

    Dump her, and dump her fast. You are setting yourself up for a life of misery if you stay with this woman.
    Just my opinion.

    • @markm0000
      @markm0000 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Brian Waller this is most likely her plan B.

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Mark M yikes! So true

  • @user-zm1in3gv8k
    @user-zm1in3gv8k Pƙed 4 lety +133

    Girlfriend Is $100,000 In Debt And Not Working đŸ€­!!!! 🏃💹RUN!!!

    • @janetmcdaniel1112
      @janetmcdaniel1112 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      In 2019 agree and I'm a girl lol. That debt is hers not his. If that was my son, nephew or cousin l would give them the 411 about sneaky conniving women 2. Not just the sweet ones.

    • @lavonnealexander6936
      @lavonnealexander6936 Pƙed 4 lety

      Janet McDaniel Yup 👍! Some women are horrible.

  • @ericananz
    @ericananz Pƙed 4 lety +6

    I hope Alex reads these comments! he sounds like a genuinely good guy and he can do better

  • @predator-hunter-31
    @predator-hunter-31 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    His future call....my soon to be ex wife is putting me on the street and taking me to the cleaners. This guy is naive.

  • @tanya292
    @tanya292 Pƙed 4 lety +28

    Everything he said about her shows how financially irresponsible she is. Laziness is only cute after you've spent a week working and don't want to clean or do laundry on your day off.
    And the biggest red flag is that he is the one who called Dave, not her.

    • @tanya292
      @tanya292 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      @Johnny Five love makes us do crazy things. But thankfully he's receptive to the idea that he should give her an ultimatum. Smart of Ramsey to do it one step at a time because people can behave like star crossed lovers when you try to separate them.

  • @landgsmith
    @landgsmith Pƙed 4 lety +27

    “Doing nothing is probably not a plan.”
    Quote of the day!

  • @diyanaabdullah4255
    @diyanaabdullah4255 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    "There's no sense in walking because I can't climb Mt Everest." 😭😭😭

  • @morgandawn6413
    @morgandawn6413 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    GET OUT NOW!!!

  • @campuslife11
    @campuslife11 Pƙed 4 lety +68

    She is bringing nothing to the relationship besides horrible debt and drama! Dump her!!

    • @kjjlskdjfljf
      @kjjlskdjfljf Pƙed 4 lety +7

      And lack of motivation. If she can't deal with the student debt, then how can she deal with other life issues that will always come up!

  • @ChrisInvests
    @ChrisInvests Pƙed 4 lety +47

    I'd say she'll have to work if they split up đŸ€” Does she not realize that? đŸ€·â€â™‚ïž

    • @AngieMBlanco
      @AngieMBlanco Pƙed 4 lety +7

      Crazy how it'll take some people splitting up for them to realize things.

  • @burntblonde2925
    @burntblonde2925 Pƙed 4 lety +7

    She should already be self motivated to pay off her debt. Especially, if he is paying all the
    other bills.

  • @pedrochip
    @pedrochip Pƙed 3 lety +6

    We've all been blinded by love. Love makes guys do crazy things.

  • @anthonywaldrep5982
    @anthonywaldrep5982 Pƙed 4 lety +19

    She's setting him up for financial abuse if he doesn't realize it now. She's wilfully underemployed with $100,000 in debt

  • @nealp885
    @nealp885 Pƙed 4 lety +30

    You have the opportunity to leave right now without any consequences. Really consider doing so before it is too late!

    • @nhgriff1
      @nhgriff1 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      And hold your breath for the next few months hoping she is not pregnant!

  • @olefilesedumedi2367
    @olefilesedumedi2367 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    This is exactly what Coach Greg Adams has been saying, precise man.

  • @blinkingred
    @blinkingred Pƙed 4 lety +2

    "My life looks like a country song" hahaha love it

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack5779 Pƙed 4 lety +40

    Girlfriend knows how to play the guilt trip card on this guy. You can tell by his voice he doesn't even want to talk to her about any of it. DO NOT MARRY HER!!!

  • @TheSafetyMarshalPSF
    @TheSafetyMarshalPSF Pƙed 4 lety +47

    They have been together for four years and he doesn't know if she is lazy. That says it all. At that age you need to make sensible decisions. This guy has made a lot of good choices. She has not. Private Arts degrees were for women that come from families that could afford tuition. If she won't get off the couch now she won't when they have kids lol

    • @LittleHatori
      @LittleHatori Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Agreed. I think it is possible for the gf to wake up & turn this around and get motivated tho! Tons of ppl who have paid off debt just needed a "wake up call" and feel hopeful again!
      If anything, the bf is trying to help her, and if she cant see how much he loves her from that, then the bf should đŸ‘€đŸš¶â€â™‚ïž

    • @janetmcdaniel1112
      @janetmcdaniel1112 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @@nadia4999 and u don't need a degree to sell or make art. As time went on n the relationship she prob had something up her sleeve.

    • @nadia4999
      @nadia4999 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Janet. Honestly, I am not mad at this female. She is doing nothing less than what countless women before her have done. This is a silent yet known thing deep among Caucasian women, and the men know it too. But it sounds like these men are getting tired of this old concept, lol. Frankly, after 4 years he should know if he wants to marry her or let her go, because she will not willingly let her white knight ride off without her. To a woman, 4 years is a long time, and no woman willingly lets a financially stable guy go if he isn’t hitting her up side her head every other day.

  • @f.-j.j.5738
    @f.-j.j.5738 Pƙed 4 lety +6

    Alex, please run... I'm a girl and I'm telling you to ruuuuuuuuuuuuun đŸ™đŸŸđŸ™đŸŸđŸ™đŸŸ

  • @robloxvids2233
    @robloxvids2233 Pƙed 3 lety +6

    She went to college to get her MRS degree, and you are the lucky guy - congrats!

  • @deekayvixen
    @deekayvixen Pƙed 4 lety +21

    Dave was right on the money about her being lazy.
    My career is completely unrelated to my bachelor’s degree. There is a lot she can do with an art degree. She just doesn’t want to.

  • @familybroich3073
    @familybroich3073 Pƙed 4 lety +69

    Do you think she would pay your 100k debt while your unemployed? Absolutely not đŸ˜‚đŸ€·â€â™€ïž she would call you a bum. She’s taking advantage of you. Move on. It’s going to be more emotional for you when you pay that debt and then she leaves you.

  • @chedengg
    @chedengg Pƙed 3 lety +2

    That's golden advice. Thanks Dave!

  • @anthonynosike
    @anthonynosike Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Dave is too nice. I would straight up tell him that he can get better. Run!!!

  • @JG-ve8fb
    @JG-ve8fb Pƙed 4 lety +68

    Message to Alex: Run! Her debt will become yours if you marry her!

  • @mariannestanley9173
    @mariannestanley9173 Pƙed 4 lety +42

    Oh yeah, she's just waiting for him to open his wallet...... and yes, don't get pregnant!

  • @dportal844
    @dportal844 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I feel bad for this guy man. I was in a similar situation with a girl that I dated for about 3 years. I loved her but her lack of ambition was just crushing. I ended up leaving her. Probably what this guy should do the same. It’s tough to make the decision but this kind of woman is not someone you make your wife.

  • @milkncookie
    @milkncookie Pƙed 3 lety +5

    After phone call:My girlfriend is now single and back in the dating game.

  • @rbraxton00
    @rbraxton00 Pƙed 4 lety +32

    If she was upset about it, she would figure out a plan to do something. It happens, that’s what most people do.

    • @ahastar1141
      @ahastar1141 Pƙed 4 lety +10

      She isnt really upset. She is upset that he hasnt " saved" her from it yet. She is hoping for a ring and a piece of his inheritance to solve her problems

    • @pcs.8304
      @pcs.8304 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      She does have a plan....it is called find a “sugar daddy”.

  • @wazzzzzzzup89
    @wazzzzzzzup89 Pƙed 4 lety +100

    Art degree? You don't even need a degree to make/sell art.

    • @jeffreystern5886
      @jeffreystern5886 Pƙed 4 lety +10

      That's a great answer!!!!

    • @twdjt6245
      @twdjt6245 Pƙed 4 lety +5

      As Dave once said; she got a degree in finger painting 😂

    • @Emma_madison
      @Emma_madison Pƙed 3 lety +2

      😂 it like those people with music degree.
      Am like ask any of the famous musicians whether they have a degree in music😂

  • @annabellswint5718
    @annabellswint5718 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    It's about accountability! She will not change! It's going to break your heart but not the rest of your life! This happened to me with my ex. His issue was alcohol. Prayers for you!

  • @NickPeitsch
    @NickPeitsch Pƙed 4 lety +16

    You’re going to be her best return on investment she’s ever seen man.
    Don’t do it

  • @That-Wanderer
    @That-Wanderer Pƙed 4 lety +18

    I've already decide years ago, that going to college for art is absolutely pointless and a total waste of money... I'm an artist, I learn way more just by watching youtube...
    Create art and sell it with Sotheby's or Christie's thats the best way I know how to start... It works...

  • @dr.bassmab552
    @dr.bassmab552 Pƙed 4 lety +30

    Depression destroys the depressed person, their spouses, kids and their family particularly if without treatment and interventions... his love to this girl is real beyond materials .. I think he should not move on further in this relationship until this issue is fixed.

  • @yvonnemclaughlin4324
    @yvonnemclaughlin4324 Pƙed 3 lety +8

    She feels safe knowing you are financially secure and possibly take care of her.
    Don’t let it go on much longer.

    • @isay207
      @isay207 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      Whats she brooding about shes got a degree and a great guy???

  • @bynx3959
    @bynx3959 Pƙed 3 lety +20

    Caller: my girlfriend has 100k debt
    Dave: SELL HERRRR