Toxic Relationships | Signs, Red Flags and How to Let Go and Heal! - FT Muthoni Mukiri

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  • čas přidán 15. 11. 2023
  • Hello BKS lovers! Welcome to the season THREE of Best Kept Secrets.
    On this episode, our host Sharon K speaks to Muthoni Mukiri, an author and mindset coach on toxic relationships. How to identify if you're in one, how to spot red flags and how to let go, move on and heal. They also share their personal experiences with unhealthy love.
    Please let us know your thoughts in the comments and don't forget to share, like and subscribe!

Komentáře • 185

  • @muthonismission
    @muthonismission Před 7 měsíci +172

    Beautiful Sharon… Thank you for this platform and for hosting me. You have a lot of value to give. It takes alot to be vulnerable and to open up for the sake of helping other people. You are doing Gods work. Be blessed ❤️

    • @charitygachara1198
      @charitygachara1198 Před 7 měsíci +1

      We love you muthoni❤

    • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
      @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq Před 7 měsíci +1

      You are an Amazing woman, been keen on your work for some time now, and its Top Notch. Keep up @muthoni

    • @faithwangeci4972
      @faithwangeci4972 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Hey gal...I really need help, someone to talk to

    • @marynjoroge8954
      @marynjoroge8954 Před 7 měsíci

      Thank so so Much@Sharon K wangi and @Muthoni Mukiri for this Relatable topic,you have touched me .
      The topic has really helped me and thank God I'm a mom to a four year old I wouldn't want to mess up with her future I will treat her like a queen and make the right decisions for her I won't let my past define mine or my daughters future I'm currently In a Healthy relationship though the ups n downs are there had to start from episode 1 to catch up thank you
      Beautiful women.

    • @cathrinewanjiru1348
      @cathrinewanjiru1348 Před 7 měsíci

      @@faithwangeci4972 hope you got someone to talk to

  • @marywairimu8060
    @marywairimu8060 Před 7 měsíci +52

    Wow just finished watching . It was great . lesson," if you make your home in another person, you give them the power to make you homeless." Make yourself the home, know your values and write them , know what makes you happy. ❤❤❤

  • @Africangyal
    @Africangyal Před 7 měsíci +16

    If dating a narcissist is horrific, try coming from a narcissistic family 🙀

  • @rhodabyoga
    @rhodabyoga Před 7 měsíci +53

    Thank you so much for sharing...I'd also like to bring to light another indicator of a toxic trait called Stonewalling: A communication behaviour characterized by a person's refusal to engage, discuss, or respond to their partner during a conflict or disagreement. It involves deliberately shutting down communication and emotionally withdrawing from a conversation. This behavior is highly detrimental to relationships, particularly in intimate or close settings such as marriage.

  • @TheGadifele
    @TheGadifele Před 7 měsíci +8

    beautiful topic, i dated narcissist for 18 years, hoping he will growup one day maybe he was just being childish, but the minute i knew the narcissist word, i run and nver looked back

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 Před 7 měsíci +13

    I knew i was in the right relationship when being me was accepted.

  • @EstherNungari-ii3db
    @EstherNungari-ii3db Před 7 měsíci +5

    Nothing will change until you face yourself. Until you hold a mirror up and see that you are in a pattern and you are enabling the pattern you won't get unstuck.

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 Před 7 měsíci +10

    About praying for the man you want , Muthoni is absolutely right God is faithful he never disappoints those who put trust in them

  • @janewambui264
    @janewambui264 Před 7 měsíci +10

    I reckon with Sharon about praying for the guy you want.
    God hears and He will give you that ideal guy meant for you. ❤

    • @edinahkendi9871
      @edinahkendi9871 Před 7 měsíci

      We also did this in highschool..I still believe in it still

  • @bellaash2510
    @bellaash2510 Před 7 měsíci +8

    I enjoyed this. People are getting in relationship just for the sake of it. Don't be a stereo dater. Be single for a long time , Get to know who you are first before jumping into a relationship. Be whole on your own and don't expect someone to make you whole .

  • @wairimu625
    @wairimu625 Před 7 měsíci +29

    I'm loving the guests Sharon plus the diverse conversations. This is my favorite season so far.

  • @njerigakuru7519
    @njerigakuru7519 Před 7 měsíci +5

    Abuse in whatever form (Emotional, financial, physical) is enough for you to leave that relationship.

  • @mercymutie7991
    @mercymutie7991 Před 7 měsíci +2

    This is exactly what i needed to hear today because all along ive been betraying myself.

  • @Mary-cj7pv
    @Mary-cj7pv Před 7 měsíci +2

    Love the point on soul ties, life is spiritual. Thanks for sharing that point Sharon. The conversation was generally very helpful.

  • @eunicelefty9835
    @eunicelefty9835 Před 7 měsíci

    The best conversation I've had in ages I'm a staunch follower of muthoni

  • @faithmackenzie7508
    @faithmackenzie7508 Před 7 měsíci +2

    This episode was so deep, I was in my emotions all through. Love it 😍👏🏾

  • @jerushawanjiku5576
    @jerushawanjiku5576 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Watching this and resonating with so much, the confusion, wanting better for yourself, praying about it, work on yourself, elevating yourself to attract a high value partner that you deserve and that love should be easy, calm, a home. Thank you so much Sharon and Muthoni. God bless 🙏

  • @btsstreamsdata
    @btsstreamsdata Před 7 měsíci +1

    That dedication was meant for me!...i am truly moved by it

  • @dorcasmathenge3621
    @dorcasmathenge3621 Před 7 měsíci +5

    I pray for more grace for you Sharon it's clear that you went through all that for us to be helped thankyou for being such an impact to us women and our generation God bless you ❤️

  • @kachela794
    @kachela794 Před 7 měsíci

    Pure gold. I loved this episode a lot, I’m that one person you touched today

  • @maimunaaketch
    @maimunaaketch Před 7 měsíci +15

    It's illegal for today’s podcast to be this short😂😂😂😂....

  • @katemumbi3501
    @katemumbi3501 Před 6 měsíci +2

    wow there's so much to learn.....ladies you just hit it we are dying silently in toxic relationships that looks perfect

  • @kimberlymburu3057
    @kimberlymburu3057 Před 7 měsíci +2

    My favorite episode so far. Such an enlightening episode ❤

  • @mercymbula8653
    @mercymbula8653 Před 7 měsíci +3

    I needed this today, thank you Sharon.

  • @immaculatemwangi3099
    @immaculatemwangi3099 Před 6 měsíci +4

    I am currently working on leaving a relationship I feel is quite toxic. I have left so many times but I am determined for this to be the last. Thank you so much ladies for this episode. It made me feel I am not alone. My greatest desire for my next relationship is to be loved softly and peacefully.

    • @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood
      @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood Před 6 měsíci +2

      Hugs to you precious one. You are definitely not alone in this. Focus on healing before the next relationship to avoid repetitive cycles. God bless you through this tough journey ❤

  • @anndamara9427
    @anndamara9427 Před 7 měsíci +2

    God bless you Sharon you have really changed my relationship life and am proud of whom I am today ❤

  • @cherrymakena
    @cherrymakena Před 7 měsíci +5

    This was such an enriched conversation👌🏾Awesome guests, and thank you both for your openness👌🏾

  • @SoniaMbithe
    @SoniaMbithe Před 7 měsíci +3

    When you know better, you do better❤

  • @maggieshikuoh7710
    @maggieshikuoh7710 Před 7 měsíci

    i have just finished watching...it was such a nice episode...
    was happy to see and listen to muthoni and you

  • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
    @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq Před 7 měsíci +4

    I Love this Sharon, there is no time you disappoint. Loving it to bits!🙂

  • @emeldatrading6108
    @emeldatrading6108 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I was married to a narcissist who came from a narcissistic family. When I I started pointing out what he was doing to me they took his side and made me feel soooooooo small. They blamed me and said men are like that and that it's my responsibility as a wife to make my marriage work

  • @emeldatrading6108
    @emeldatrading6108 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you for the dedication 😭🙌🏽❤

  • @kinyuamwende5703
    @kinyuamwende5703 Před 7 měsíci +2

    This season has been so good

  • @sharonnyaga7983
    @sharonnyaga7983 Před 7 měsíci

    This is so enriching. Thankyou Sharon and Muthoni🤍

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 Před 7 měsíci +8

    "Ati dress more like kambua" 😂😂😂sharon yenyewe umekapitia..

  • @lnjoroge
    @lnjoroge Před 7 měsíci +1

    Wow, I love this, may we all get a healthy love ❤

  • @Mwihakigitau
    @Mwihakigitau Před 7 měsíci +1

    Yeey🎉🎉 am here to learn ❤❤ I really enjoy your podcasts ❤

  • @bethgitau4240
    @bethgitau4240 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you guys for the empowering conversation

  • @wanjiruolive
    @wanjiruolive Před 7 měsíci +3

    Wonderful episode I love muthoni mukiri I believe in her. She's a real testimony that if you put in the work your life will change for sure..

  • @RatoM.Official
    @RatoM.Official Před měsícem

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed it.

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Am very glad sharon that you invited muthoni 😊.Am a huge fan of hers n have picked something

  • @QueenCiru
    @QueenCiru Před 7 měsíci

    Quite an eye opener. Sharon is such a darling ❤

  • @user-lq2kz9mu4z
    @user-lq2kz9mu4z Před 7 měsíci +1

    definitely needed this!

  • @carolinemukundi4918
    @carolinemukundi4918 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Bring Muthoni back❤❤that was such a nice conversation.

  • @violaboiyo
    @violaboiyo Před 6 měsíci +3

    I dated a narcissist some years back but today im grateful because i left without looking back. No one will ever mess with my life again

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 Před 6 měsíci +2

      👏👏👏👏I love this for you. A resolute mind. ❤

  • @mercyjannes
    @mercyjannes Před 6 měsíci

    Based on the current issues on relationship this is a master piece everyone should be listening especially when you are trying to get in a relationship .....🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @heatherwanjuguna4629
    @heatherwanjuguna4629 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Always follow your heart. It speaks to you because it cares about you. Say 'No' from the get go no matter the investment if it doesn't sit right with you.

  • @faithmulinzi4138
    @faithmulinzi4138 Před 7 měsíci

    Thanks Sharon this conversation really helped me.

  • @lindangii3841
    @lindangii3841 Před 7 měsíci

    This was criminally good❤

  • @wacera78
    @wacera78 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Oh Sharon God bless you for bringing to us such a platform and such guests who pour positively into our lives. I have enjoyed this episode so much and have a lot of take outs. I love the "cultivate your home " as well as sending myself messages! love it!

  • @graciousgracee1
    @graciousgracee1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Am in love with the conversation and it is very clear enjoyable to listen ❤

  • @cynthiawangui2115
    @cynthiawangui2115 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I really loved the trust part , especially in kanairo and how things are

  • @elizabethawino3494
    @elizabethawino3494 Před 7 měsíci

    When Sharon said giving and expecting back...I really relate

  • @jescacherotich8358
    @jescacherotich8358 Před 6 měsíci

    This is so beautiful came across this Podcast at the Rightime.

  • @janembora4737
    @janembora4737 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thankyou for this conversation.

  • @nancygituto469
    @nancygituto469 Před 7 měsíci +16

    She helped me move from a toxic relationship ❤🎉

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Thank you for validating her calling. I’m happy for you.

    • @nancygituto469
      @nancygituto469 Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@silaton305 Thank you ❤

  • @Valwangila
    @Valwangila Před 7 měsíci +13

    I loved the episode so much, and I definitely agree with the idea of soul ties, I know that, it's usually a tricky topic to unpack but I also believe that life is spiritual and soul ties are real. So as much as we do the self work, it's important for us to pray and involve God in everything we do.

  • @abasadaphine1605
    @abasadaphine1605 Před 7 měsíci

    Such a wholesome conversation❤

  • @marciajames9434
    @marciajames9434 Před 7 měsíci

    ON POINT TODAY!!!!!! Thanks

  • @Wambui29
    @Wambui29 Před 7 měsíci

    This is so great 🙌🙌..... Even for a girl in a relationship most of what u guys have said about knowing thyself can be applied across the board. I think we should do the make version of this.... About guys who ladies are toxic.... Bottom line this was 🔥🔥🔥

  • @mima8345
    @mima8345 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Amazing conversation one day i will share my story .. i left 2years down the line am the happiest woman ever

  • @linetkerubo4356
    @linetkerubo4356 Před 6 měsíci

    This has impacted me so very much

  • @Jerutosharon
    @Jerutosharon Před 7 měsíci +5

    Discovered this podcast today 😊and I'm already loving it ❤

  • @dianakims1538
    @dianakims1538 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Oh my goodness 😢 I am here wondering how many people have and are in relationships with narcissists. Tha statics are shocking me, but thank you to this platform bcz it's an eye opener for the people who are aware of what kind of people they are dating/involved in.

  • @esthermwangi3234
    @esthermwangi3234 Před 7 měsíci +1

    We need part 2 of this😊

  • @user-bl7mw1wp4e
    @user-bl7mw1wp4e Před 3 měsíci

    thank you for this podcast❤best conversations ever.

  • @lucyndege5323
    @lucyndege5323 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you Muthoni 🙏🙏 honestly

  • @julietmacharia5825
    @julietmacharia5825 Před 6 měsíci

    This was amazing from both of you ladies

  • @lizzywambui9697
    @lizzywambui9697 Před 7 měsíci

    @Sharon, this was a really awesome episode

  • @omaoomosa8636
    @omaoomosa8636 Před 6 měsíci

    amazing.
    that was too good and self disclosure, very assertive girls. keep up

  • @nassoziprossy3351
    @nassoziprossy3351 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Thank you ladies for this episode after watching this now my minds are open and I have a believe that one day I will be out of this although it hurts 💔💔💔😢

  • @cecilciena2244
    @cecilciena2244 Před 7 měsíci +1

    A part 2 and 3 and more please that was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @lessscriptedfam111
    @lessscriptedfam111 Před 6 měsíci

    absolutely amazing convo

  • @user-ut5uu9gs4r
    @user-ut5uu9gs4r Před 7 měsíci +1

    I love Muthoni ❤️so much

  • @edahwanjiru
    @edahwanjiru Před měsícem

    We need more of this from the coach

  • @gracewambui9
    @gracewambui9 Před 7 měsíci

    I loved this sooo much❤❤❤

  • @tabbywaithera9112
    @tabbywaithera9112 Před 7 měsíci

    This is so helpful and v therapeutic 😌

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Nice & educative conversation❤.Sharon & muthoni your brilliant beautiful girls❤

  • @blessedmary3418
    @blessedmary3418 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Dear Jesus thank you for helping me to come to this video.

  • @linnet-gutsykariuki7305
    @linnet-gutsykariuki7305 Před 7 měsíci +3

    This is wonderful. You guys mentioned his name 😂. Peter.... so grateful I'm done🙌

  • @mwanjeri737
    @mwanjeri737 Před 7 měsíci +2

    we are here for wisdom n to learn

  • @maureenmaingi
    @maureenmaingi Před 6 měsíci

    This conversation was divine

  • @ITSIRENE_
    @ITSIRENE_ Před 7 měsíci

    This! So informative!

  • @charlenenjenga6361
    @charlenenjenga6361 Před 7 měsíci

    This is a very informative video. The value you are giving is 🔥🔥👌🏽

  • @hinesightmind
    @hinesightmind Před 7 měsíci +9

    I learnt about this in 3rd year of campus... let me tell you, maina I was deep into a toxic relationship.. and yes, I never left. I stayed for like a month, and then I left. Then I started working on me, and I started attracting better friendships and guys.

    • @wambuinderitu2461
      @wambuinderitu2461 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Am happy for you gal😊 am also in 4yr n there is nothing good as working on yourself

    • @wanguimbatia2456
      @wanguimbatia2456 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Heey
      Define working on yourself please 😅

    • @brendakemunto4045
      @brendakemunto4045 Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@wanguimbatia2456you missed the whole point of this podcast!

  • @edahwanjiru
    @edahwanjiru Před 6 měsíci

    Really loved the conversation....

  • @njokimuritu1242
    @njokimuritu1242 Před 7 měsíci

    Great insightful conversation 🎉

  • @pieramwende3559
    @pieramwende3559 Před 7 měsíci +10

    I wish I would have seen this last year,I was in the worst relationship but still convinced myself all will be well. I am glad I got the courage to leave. It was the best decision I ever made. This is very good. Ladies out there should watch this. You go girl❤

    • @njerikamau6590
      @njerikamau6590 Před 7 měsíci

      Tell me how you did it. Am stuck no job toxic relationship weuh

    • @puritykasandi5097
      @puritykasandi5097 Před 6 měsíci

      I went through the same thank God for the courage

  • @tabithawaithira1202
    @tabithawaithira1202 Před 7 měsíci

    Interesting discussion, i love it😊

  • @gracewanjiru3011
    @gracewanjiru3011 Před 7 měsíci

    Our girl muthoni in the house....

  • @risperkariuki1459
    @risperkariuki1459 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Wow.. thank you 💕

  • @estherchibutia3283
    @estherchibutia3283 Před 7 měsíci

    Wooow you brought muthoni ma favorite I just love her advise

  • @JoyJelimo-lo9mv
    @JoyJelimo-lo9mv Před 6 měsíci +1

    I love the conversation we have gone through a lot in the name of narcissist

  • @MukiriCarol
    @MukiriCarol Před 7 měsíci +1

    Amazing conversation

  • @njerigakuru7519
    @njerigakuru7519 Před 7 měsíci

    Insightful discussion.

  • @leonasimwe2947
    @leonasimwe2947 Před 3 měsíci

    Such a mind blowing session .... made me learn alot

  • @atoashley0
    @atoashley0 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you for this episode❤I relate alot now that I am in a healthy relationship.
    Thank you❤

    • @ruthwanjiru5260
      @ruthwanjiru5260 Před 6 měsíci

      Hello, I'm trying to know muthoni mukiri's full name, dyou know her English name?

  • @angelinegichaba7758
    @angelinegichaba7758 Před 6 měsíci +4

    I stayed with a narcissist for 13 good years! My self-esteem went down and I became ill. I am glad I finally left but I have to deal with chronic illnesses for a life time!

  • @immakim
    @immakim Před 7 měsíci

    My situation now this has helped me alot🙏

  • @priscillaangwenyi8574
    @priscillaangwenyi8574 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Best episode ever! Sharon, were we with the same man?! I was told that even Beyonce was cheated on, sembuse Mimi?!