I met a Danish man online, got married and had two children then I found out the worst about him|LNN

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  • At 22, Mellisa met her Prince Charming online and in just under a year they got married and moved to Denmark permanently after she turned 24. Two beautiful children were born from that union and then she found the worst about her husband ……..
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  • @LynnNgugi
    @LynnNgugi  Před 6 měsíci +187

    Good morning team LNN
    What is your take home from today's conversation with Mellisa?
    You can reach her on Instagram at findingshiropodcast
    Enjoy her content here youtube.com/@findingshiropodcast?si=GLtAljDQDcIWtd3j and don't forget to subscribe.
    To share your story with us, send a summary to info@Lnn.digital or Lynn.ngugi@Lnn.digital for consideration.
    Thank you so much for watching🙏

    • @josephinemakanga2336
      @josephinemakanga2336 Před 6 měsíci +11

      We shouldn't rush for the whites and make quick decisions.one has to be vigilant and wise whenever we sense some funny characters.God saves His people.

    • @josephinemakanga2336
      @josephinemakanga2336 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Sorry Melissa

    • @ayanali-vq2gj
      @ayanali-vq2gj Před 6 měsíci +4

      Hi lyn I tried many times to get through you but to no avail

    • @josephinemakanga2336
      @josephinemakanga2336 Před 6 měsíci +9

      God uncovers the truth for His chosen ones.

    • @gorillarhino3891
      @gorillarhino3891 Před 6 měsíci +4

      I enjoyed the way you told the story. It was sad but also entertaining.

  • @phe-phepb7471
    @phe-phepb7471 Před 5 měsíci +200

    Please can we understand there is no such thing as child pornography. Children cannot consent to engage in sexual behaviour. The more appropriate term 'Child Sexual Exploitation'.

    • @yvonnegoodgridge6693
      @yvonnegoodgridge6693 Před měsícem +2

      Yes it is

    • @Pst.Rosemawira.
      @Pst.Rosemawira. Před měsícem +2

      There is power and freedom from confession and exposing the enemy

    • @WoundstoScars
      @WoundstoScars Před měsícem +8

      A very important distinction. There's no such thing as child pornography. Children can't consent it's exploitation and it's illegal.

  • @gailm.4324
    @gailm.4324 Před 6 měsíci +121

    Two things I think she did wrong..telling a man you are leaving…and letting him know you saw his pedophile material…those things could have gotten you hurt or killed…

    • @veronicawanjiru3223
      @veronicawanjiru3223 Před 6 měsíci +16

      Very true ,never try that

    • @mongalix8
      @mongalix8 Před 6 měsíci +30

      And 3rd one was not calling the police as soon as she found those images.

    • @gailm.4324
      @gailm.4324 Před 6 měsíci +5

      @@mongalix8I gave her a ? On the 3rd one because.. when you love someone and you are presented with certain choices.. you are very conflicted… so I had to ponder the 3rd idea…

    • @gennisparry4352
      @gennisparry4352 Před 5 měsíci +5

      I agree with you wholeheartedly!

    • @brianamichelle9024
      @brianamichelle9024 Před 3 měsíci +15

      Yessss! She’s definitely covered. But some men do and WILL kill to keep that type of secret. Plus, all of this is happening on HIS soil?! 😩 Who will the cops believe first? This is where us sisters (Black women specifically) must be smart, especially when dating a man of another origin. ESPECIALLY a white man. One must collect data and plan, plan, plan. Emotions can get you hurt, without strategic planning. She is BLESSED. 🙏🏾

  • @LK-sy3kl
    @LK-sy3kl Před 6 měsíci +192

    Yes many people hide pedophiles in Kenya I was a victim when growing up and people knew but did not say anything or did not want to confront the person. We should learn to stand up for defenceless children

    • @esthrlight11
      @esthrlight11 Před 6 měsíci

      Agreed, many paedophiles in African homes

    • @mugabedavid4845
      @mugabedavid4845 Před 6 měsíci +2

      I pray GOD heals you

    • @fthuku
      @fthuku Před 6 měsíci

      Same here

    • @marialesulie6798
      @marialesulie6798 Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@fthukuOMG
      There a plenty of them. Something need to be highlighted

    • @margaretkiarie8447
      @margaretkiarie8447 Před 3 měsíci

      I don't know how you are doing. Finding closure is difficult and also a taboo in our culture but it is the point where you start or you will never heal or move forward

  • @TheBrokenSilence
    @TheBrokenSilence Před 6 měsíci +169

    Sorry to say but Mellisa, she got played from day 1.
    No mother will instruct a son to go and buy an engagement ring as quickly as they did!!
    The family knew of his sexual sickness and thought marriage would resolve it.
    They knew

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 Před 6 měsíci +8

      I found that very strange, she had just gone to visit and next thing she was engaged 😅😅😅😅😅

    • @gennisparry4352
      @gennisparry4352 Před 5 měsíci +13

      @@bellaolum9768she was excited to get her papers if she wishes to speak the truth. So she went into it because she thought she had hit the jackpot.

    • @naburgr
      @naburgr Před 2 měsíci +32

      The mother asked "how did they find out" Ahhh she knew her son was a dirty bastard

    • @minajose6602
      @minajose6602 Před měsícem +6

      Yup I also felt the same they knew but just decided to shield there son. More grace and wisdom to Mellisa.❤

    • @yvonnegoodgridge6693
      @yvonnegoodgridge6693 Před měsícem +1

      That's exactly 💯 what I said

  • @Nginnah97
    @Nginnah97 Před 6 měsíci +796

    Can everyone admit that this girl is a great story teller? Her sense of humor is top tier. She’s a whole vibe. She’s composed and knows what she wants in life. She narrated that story without shedding a tear. I speak healing to her and her kids. May God’s Grace carry them through. She’s is intelligent and bold. Thank you for coming out and sharing this story.

    • @pamelamubuta
      @pamelamubuta Před 6 měsíci +7

    • @Deedor72
      @Deedor72 Před 6 měsíci +12

      100% so much humor in the painful experience. She nailed it👌🏾

    • @pwanja
      @pwanja Před 6 měsíci +22

      Let's add extremely beautiful & composed to that list wueh she looks like a model the melanin is really poppin 😍

    • @mwituamweene9850
      @mwituamweene9850 Před 6 měsíci +3

      No...there are parts of the story that sound made up maybe that's what you mean.

    • @happyreader5367
      @happyreader5367 Před 6 měsíci

      Black women idolizes the one way too much. Beware always

  • @kenyanvloggerinitaly
    @kenyanvloggerinitaly Před 6 měsíci +427

    I just love my Mel,I’ve known her since waaay back in Kenya when she was getting married,then we both moved to Europe her in Denmark and me in Italy,we have both gone through narcissistic abuse,i asked for divorce in 2021 and am a single mom of two too;She always encourages me to keep going,she rose and helps others rise,go girl 👏🏾

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  Před 6 měsíci +20

      More Grace and love to you❤❤

    • @kenyanvloggerinitaly
      @kenyanvloggerinitaly Před 6 měsíci +7

      ⁠@@LynnNgugiAmen 🙏🏾God has been faithful through and through 🤗

    • @ajiboladahunsi4645
      @ajiboladahunsi4645 Před 6 měsíci +8

      Melissa is a real shero! I thank God for her strength and dignity.

    • @gathonindungu3487
      @gathonindungu3487 Před 6 měsíci

      Pedophiles in europé is like Tea 🍵 in Africa. Most WHITES looking 👀 for black women WHO have KIDS its only for pedophile advatage of using her kids sexually
      Its very common here in SWEDEN. 🇸🇪 the neighbouring to Denmark 🇩🇰

    • @paulinegichuki1074
      @paulinegichuki1074 Před 6 měsíci

      Most black women getting married to white men do not do proper vetting as we do when marrying our fellow Africans

  • @learningmisso
    @learningmisso Před 5 měsíci +153

    At 74 years old, I know that a person is who they are. We change no one. The key is to not let them change you. I love this interview.

    • @FF-vz7wg
      @FF-vz7wg Před 5 měsíci +8

      Wise words

    • @missbettyboop2509
      @missbettyboop2509 Před 5 měsíci +5

      Thank you for sharing your wisdom. ❤

    • @timieperenwuko8024
      @timieperenwuko8024 Před 5 měsíci +4

      Thank you.

    • @jolicehamilton4021
      @jolicehamilton4021 Před 5 měsíci +6

      Very wise words! I’m learning that, now!!! And by not allowing anyone to try to change me, the more I find myself walking alone. Everyone values are different and I’m holding to my values, without feeling guilty or obligated.

    • @chocolatesugar4434
      @chocolatesugar4434 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you mama ❤❤❤❤

  • @KinosaBetty-pj9mb
    @KinosaBetty-pj9mb Před 6 měsíci +180

    I love Mellisa's calmness. She doesn't speak with anger or bitterness. She doesn't speak to make her husband look like a monster. Melissa you have understood God.

  • @winniemathu3168
    @winniemathu3168 Před 6 měsíci +21

    Girls marry when you are ready, preferably 30 years and above. In your twenties, do your career and be self-sufficient

  • @Powerful_Akoth
    @Powerful_Akoth Před 6 měsíci +134

    "We don’t need to mention it because it is not my story to tell and it doesn’t serve a purpose "~ intelligence + wisdom wewe. Big up Melissa 🥳🥂👏🏾❤

    • @yolandahughes2205
      @yolandahughes2205 Před 6 měsíci +9

      IT'S EVERYBODY'S BUSINESS TO PROTECT INNOCENT CHILDREN
      SPEAKING OUT CAN PROTECT OTHER CHILDREN FROM A PERVERTED PEDOPHILE
      THAT'S THE PURPOSE....
      THAT'S CONSIDERED "INTELLIGENT" THINKING

  • @christinemwangi7547
    @christinemwangi7547 Před 6 měsíci +130

    From the Story, it is quite clear that most of the instances when a Mzungu is looking for an African Wife, they are either rejects of their society or has mental illnesses.
    The mother in Law, knew his son's problem. But the family of the man thought that an African wife will shut up and tolerate his behaviour and be 'grateful' that she in Denmark

    • @sandrajordan2179
      @sandrajordan2179 Před 6 měsíci +18

      I agree with you, the mother was quick to let the son propose because obviously he's a sickness and they thought a black woman would accept him irregardless.

    • @scovyaporsha
      @scovyaporsha Před 6 měsíci +17

      Nothing but Facts❤. Watu wengi are in denial with this Reality. I Live in the UK. Come see my sisters with these Rejects. Just Pitiful 💔

    • @christinemwangi7547
      @christinemwangi7547 Před 6 měsíci +2

      @@scovyaporsha Facing the reality is good

    • @user-ob8ur7bq2z
      @user-ob8ur7bq2z Před 5 měsíci

      Absolutely

    • @AngieR82
      @AngieR82 Před měsícem

      I'll never ever understand why Black/African women( Kenyans & Nigerians especially), continue to chase after these reptilians thinking they're actually capable of sincerely loving them. Their lust for the enemy will be their ultimate demise. Thy want your energy and your land. Why not find your own kind to marry and have a family with??? We have enough problems to deal with within our race already; why complicate things further?

  • @MA-yh2ko
    @MA-yh2ko Před 5 měsíci +39

    I'm absolutely FLOORED. What a brave, resourceful STRONG woman.
    I wish her and her children continued health and strength!!

  • @tabbykaranja7745
    @tabbykaranja7745 Před 6 měsíci +61

    Hi Melisa
    I know you are a prayerful person but I would advice you to purposely pray for your children and disconnect them with that spirit from their father

    • @nellykh1900
      @nellykh1900 Před 29 dny +3

      Very very Important, because those evil spirits would want to stick.

  • @Nyakomisaro
    @Nyakomisaro Před 6 měsíci +955

    Lynn, nataka like yako juu I have 2 nieces that I named Lynn. One is Lynn, and the other one is Adelynn. Another one on the way, I'm going to name her Celynn. I want a lot of Lynns in my family to change the community. What a blessing you are, Lynn! Hugs to you and Hugs to your mother for raising you well.

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  Před 6 měsíci +440

      I really hope I live up to this name..sometimes I really get scared but I know I am only human..🙏I wish them great health, peace of mind and God’s richest blessings 🙏🙏

    • @Nyakomisaro
      @Nyakomisaro Před 6 měsíci +77

      "Be still and know that I'm God," says the Lord. He is the same God in the mountains and the Valley. He will walk you through the stormy waters. God is using you just the way he used Moses. He was a starmer, but still, he used him. Our human nature is imperfect, but he uses us in a perfect way. Hugs again.

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  Před 6 měsíci +37

      @@Nyakomisaro❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @BettyMesso-hq6il
      @BettyMesso-hq6il Před 6 měsíci +6

      Lynette n lyon if a boy

    • @mariehmuthee5056
      @mariehmuthee5056 Před 6 měsíci +1

      ​@@LynnNgugiqpa

  • @startingoverbygrace
    @startingoverbygrace Před 6 měsíci +94

    Wow! This is deep. To know that she would have lost her child to her abusive ex-husband is beyond me. This story really makes you think twice in so many ways. It's not just covering the basis of differences in culture, religion, and finances, it goes much deeper than the initial new romance phase, which turned into an engagement, and then marriage. Even if for one second you think you'd end up with a perfect fairytale love story and things take a turn, now you're faced with what laws of that land/country stand against you or what is for you. Regardless if the relationship was pursued long-term or short-term, I can tell you firsthand, that narcissistic people have a physiological way of luring you in without you realizing it until you're in the thick of things.
    She not only faced discrimination from the police by the color of her skin to warrant the fact that her then-husband battered her first, but they favored protecting him instead in spite of it.
    I could not fathom this and I know many of you would agree if you were faced with the same. Her story is literally saving lives. Learn from other's experiences and take note of her testimony.
    I can relate to this because I was a victim of domestic abuse. And the same instinct she experienced of that first reaction of someone putting hands on you, and fearing for your life in that exact moment, is exactly what I went through. Please do not stay in it the first time it happens. Get out immediately, and find help to protect yourself by all means necessary. Otherwise, you will fall victim to a repeated cycle of being battered and you will find yourself stuck in becoming submissive to the abuser.
    Peace and love to you all.

  • @Unique2023-
    @Unique2023- Před 6 měsíci +119

    I feel his mother knew a long time what her son was into, that's why she persuaded him to hurry and get married to you.Sending you love ❤️

    • @olgaanyokwu3555
      @olgaanyokwu3555 Před 6 měsíci +42

      And mum( family) tried to use a black girl to hide (fix) his evil 😮

    • @Unique2023-
      @Unique2023- Před 6 měsíci +24

      @@olgaanyokwu3555 ....Exactly, that is why they were all nice to her.

    • @leedear8379
      @leedear8379 Před 6 měsíci +20

      He was a 36-year-old bachelor 😮😮😮 no wonder they were happy to see him getting married

    • @plastichouselady
      @plastichouselady Před 6 měsíci +18

      I agree that the family was complicit

    • @user-ff3wr9qs3i
      @user-ff3wr9qs3i Před 6 měsíci

      @@olgaanyokwu3555that’s what I’m thinking 😮

  • @foreverblessed369
    @foreverblessed369 Před 6 měsíci +121

    She did the right thing reporting him
    Wrong is wrong
    Children must be protected
    Put aside family relations
    The interest of children first
    Protecting them is keeping them away from this monster in her husband

    • @lorrainemwangi3526
      @lorrainemwangi3526 Před 6 měsíci +11

      Also protecting kids out there.

    • @hunnuunny
      @hunnuunny Před 3 dny

      She waited more than 2 years! Give me a break she is a terrible person. She's only telling to monetize on her perverted husband. She is just as sick.

  • @roseleen314
    @roseleen314 Před 6 měsíci +111

    Can't imagine how her kids will react when they fully understand what kind of man their father is. So sad.

    • @lolon6605
      @lolon6605 Před 6 měsíci +3

      So sad

    • @zahrahussein7328
      @zahrahussein7328 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Omg How sad is that!

    • @JoyceNakyazze-sz7lk
      @JoyceNakyazze-sz7lk Před 6 měsíci +9

      He is possessed .pornography is satanic. This man can be delivered in the mighty name of Jesus Christ

    • @fantasankoh1616
      @fantasankoh1616 Před 6 měsíci

      ​@@JoyceNakyazze-sz7lkAmen 🙏

    • @gennisparry4352
      @gennisparry4352 Před 5 měsíci +3

      @@JoyceNakyazze-sz7lkIf he wants to be delivered, that is.

  • @ruththama2008
    @ruththama2008 Před 6 měsíci +25

    🎉First of all let's talk about how beautiful she is, was shocked when she spoke in Kikuyu I thought she is Jaluo 😊I'm glad she is in better place now.

    • @kathomi
      @kathomi Před 2 měsíci

      Also thought she was luhya or luo

    • @zakiyussuf1212
      @zakiyussuf1212 Před měsícem

      Akothee kamili !😅😅

  • @crackerjacks6789
    @crackerjacks6789 Před 5 měsíci +35

    This woman is so poised well spoken and beautiful . I love her dress hair and make up.. This is a powerful story.. 😮 it took courage for her to come forward…she did the right thing. She probably saved a lot of innocent children.

  • @kirabogloria2187
    @kirabogloria2187 Před 6 měsíci +48

    They come here to Africa to marry us using us as pets thinking we are soo grateful for marrying us...not knowing that we are strong ...healthy..wise ..still listening

  • @raceThink
    @raceThink Před 6 měsíci +41

    Why are we talking about child porn in the Phillipines where as this is happening right at our doorstep in Kenya. German high profile men (lawywers, doctors, police directors....the list is long) come to Kenya and do the exact same thing with our children, and we are not shouting loud enough...It is frustrating and annoying. There is a powerful lady in Mombasa who has been fighting this and with very minimum support from us

    • @mwituamweene9850
      @mwituamweene9850 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Thank you for saying it to our deaf ears. Our dull brains will wake?

    • @TheLocedIntrovert
      @TheLocedIntrovert Před měsícem +1

      I noticed this in Kenya and Tanzania. I'm glad people are fighting it.

    • @monikam9069
      @monikam9069 Před měsícem +2

      So stop welcoming the sex tourists in Africa. All these men have "fetish"

    • @meelahmak
      @meelahmak Před 21 dnem

      @@monikam9069oh,come on! You’re better than that. Your comments under this thread are quite distasteful. It takes the same energy to work towards a solution than perpetuating the problem. But, alas, everyone has their place in society 😑

    • @monikam9069
      @monikam9069 Před 21 dnem

      @@meelahmak In Africa not Europe. White colonizers left Africa. No need to follow them to Europe. I can only imagine what was going on in Africa when Whiteis lived there. Probably millions of Africans were already "mixed" and this was done with lust not a rape

  • @zaclankay
    @zaclankay Před 5 měsíci +15

    Melisa is indeed a product of grace! The story is quite moving. Although I would have enjoyed it more if there’s less infusion of Swahili. But all in all, there’s a great lesson for everyone, men and women alike. May God guide our children and protect them from evil relationships, in Jesus name.

  • @bukeaor2961
    @bukeaor2961 Před 6 měsíci +57

    A Brilliant interview, and the subject Mellisa is a great story teller ! Quite self aware, eloquent, in-touch with herself, a realist, and a thinker at the core. You can tell she has great critical thinking skills and analyses things and puts them into perspective. This was interesting ! bottom line, living overseas and married is not easy ! I totally applaud her and ladies take notes !

  • @saumuhamisi1603
    @saumuhamisi1603 Před 6 měsíci +91

    I’m happy she’s got custody of her kids and she’s looks amazing thanks Lynn for this beautiful story.

  • @moondust766
    @moondust766 Před 6 měsíci +134

    I am amazed by the strength, resilience and intelligence of this woman. Her eloquence, the words that she carefully chooses to express her pain and suffering, the way she laughs and uses her gestures contribute to the beautiful wholesome being that she is. She is what she says and says what she is. Bravo. And Thankyou for sharing your story

    • @Touchedhem7
      @Touchedhem7 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Yes! She’s intelligent and bold.

  • @kikiwithvee6597
    @kikiwithvee6597 Před 6 měsíci +27

    This is such a good interview. And Lynn you are such a good interviewer. The only suggestion I have is to please provide an English translation when the convo slips into your mother tongue for those of us who don't understand. I got the general meanings (I think!) but I would have loved to understand the full convo. In any case I'll be watching- new subscriber! Wish everyone watching the best 😊 love from London, UK x

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Před 3 měsíci +2

      My exact thoughts too 😅

    • @veronicawanjirushee
      @veronicawanjirushee Před měsícem

      Swahili is not mother tongue.. whenever she speaks Kikuyu she repeats in English..

  • @lauraomon
    @lauraomon Před 6 měsíci +22

    the guest is a brilliant story teller. It was not just telling a story, she was ministering to the audience!
    God Bless you for this.

    • @AraoVICKYCHRISTINE
      @AraoVICKYCHRISTINE Před 3 měsíci

      Have just watched this video, am in Uganda.I just thank God for her and the kids

  • @kunzi_ya_yesu1956
    @kunzi_ya_yesu1956 Před 6 měsíci +19

    Its the way Mellisa puts herself in other people's shoes as she speaks! Very respectfully!!!! Very eloquent! Very smart! Very articulate! Wow!!

  • @sarahmuzaki4656
    @sarahmuzaki4656 Před 6 měsíci +33

    Melisa, you remind me of a relationship I was in when so young which was so so abusive!!! I realized that I had entered this relationship out of infatuation and never love!!! The man derived a lot of satisfaction from seeing me hurt!! Like any other African who wants to satisfy society, I hanged in there for longer than normal!!! But for all that time, he never existed to me!!!! I had developed this kind of resilience that I couldn’t even hear him when abusing me!! I woke up to the fact that he was ugly, not educated enough, very unkind,had no money, and very hateful!!! By this time I had started on a life plan for myself. By the time I walked out, I had completed my studies and gotten a job!!! Up till now, I hate the memory of him!!!!! Thank you God🙏🏾🌹

    • @The_Cruise_Fam
      @The_Cruise_Fam Před 6 měsíci +1

      Nahhhh, not All African girls like to hang and suffer. You’re generalizing because some of have been thought well by our parents not to take crap.

    • @carolw.
      @carolw. Před 6 měsíci +1

      You Need soul healing

  • @esthrlight11
    @esthrlight11 Před 6 měsíci +6

    If this man was 15 yrs older when they met, that's a big sign

  • @oloriayabaajibola7577
    @oloriayabaajibola7577 Před 5 měsíci +22

    I believe I stumbled on this show by divine direction, I have received strength to deal with Goliath.Thanks for this platform.

    • @meelahmak
      @meelahmak Před 21 dnem

      I hope you’re okay!

    • @valerienelson7202
      @valerienelson7202 Před 10 dny +1

      Me too. I’ve been married to a narcissist for 21 yrs. I didn’t realize for years but now that I’m older & wiser I can clearly see the signs were there from day one. I’ve been verbally & emotionally abused for years. Please don’t judge me but thank you Melissa for your brave story: I think I’m finally finding the courage to leave.

  • @mercyanyangoonyango
    @mercyanyangoonyango Před 6 měsíci +86

    I wish one day i will heal of my childhood traumas i went through just because my mom always defended my toxic and nasist step father 😢,I LOVE THIS LADY FOR STANDING BY HER KIDS ❤❤

    • @angelinemuriuki7384
      @angelinemuriuki7384 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Sending you love & prayers. May healing be your portion 🙏

    • @sylviahkinyangi9892
      @sylviahkinyangi9892 Před 6 měsíci

      So sorry,me too never had s good childhood from my step dad

    • @ever4813
      @ever4813 Před 3 měsíci

      Sending you love and healing ❤

  • @elizabethwamwendia7602
    @elizabethwamwendia7602 Před 6 měsíci +23

    This guest is not only super intelligent but pretty, stylish and more!!

  • @maureenphungo5039
    @maureenphungo5039 Před 5 měsíci +25

    I'm South African by the end of this year I will be speaking Swahili because of Lynn's guest ... Na mtoto wangu

    • @jilokizito1705
      @jilokizito1705 Před 4 měsíci

      You guys would rather bite your tongues with that damaging Afrikaans than learn Kiswahili. I don't know whether it's the superiority of inferiority complex, or both complexes.

    • @gyamfiwaaasamoa-bonsu5577
      @gyamfiwaaasamoa-bonsu5577 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Exactly what I told myself and I'm a Ghanaian 😂

    • @nanciedell9151
      @nanciedell9151 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Karibu Kenya😍

    • @Susie.wemove
      @Susie.wemove Před 29 dny

      😂

    • @Susie.wemove
      @Susie.wemove Před 29 dny +2

      It sounds like Melissa was making too many excuses for her husband. If those were her own children in the pictures and videos would she have been so lax in getting the police involved? She keeps saying its not my place to say this...its not my place to do that blah blah blah. But she kept having interactions with him and not calling the police instead she was telling him to go for therapy!! God alone knows who s child or children that monster must have harmed in his life time- but I know if I saw something like that on my husband s computer I would be calling the police pronto! Some women turn a blind eye to child molestation/ port and instead think the man can be redeemed or worse still if I don t say anything it will go away. For someone as eloquent and articulate as Melissa who describes herself with a certain amount of arrogance as a sapiosexual, I find her attitude and behaviour in this case sadly lacking!!

  • @bakedbyyves
    @bakedbyyves Před 6 měsíci +11

    Mesmerised by this lady what a great story teller! Anything 2hrs i would have watchen 30 min but had to finish this story. God bless what a woman!

  • @tabithangoigo5489
    @tabithangoigo5489 Před 6 měsíci +31

    It’s funny how I love this woman yet I have never met her. V positive energy, Godly vibe etc…
    You are strong woman and guess what the world belongs to you.

  • @graceaglow230
    @graceaglow230 Před 6 měsíci +23

    I experienced a very similar story involving pedophilia--the perpetrator and his own minor child. He is now serving a life sentence without parole. Thank God for strong and brave women, who stand up to protect their children and other children. Melissa, you did well. I am sure you will inspire many with your beautifully narrated story. Please find it in your soul to pray for your ex-husband. This perversion is a trap of the devil to destroy lives and so many have been caught in this mess. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy, and he will do it however he can.

    • @bettywamae2000
      @bettywamae2000 Před 6 měsíci +1

      The ex husband is not willing to change🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi Před 6 měsíci +31

    I wish I could understand everything she said. Oh dear...😮. I am from Europe but I live in the USA. I can tell you that I lived in Scandinavia for some time and was in a relationship with a Scandinavian man for 16 years and we had a child. I learned a lot about the culture the hard way. There is a very high level of pedophiles under the radar, but very common in that culture. It's sick. I actually met an African born woman who was brought from Ghana when she was a little girl and she ended up as a s*x slave her entire childhood to a Scandinavian woman. The woman's brother was also a degenerate pedo who abused little boys but he preferred them to be white. I heard from people I met there such disgusting stories along the same lines. Ask yourself why a white man or woman wants someone from another country. Everyone has their agenda, but for some it might not be a good one to get involved with. I am glad this lovely lady shared her story. Edit: many times, these older European men have been scorned by their women in their country. They also think they can get away with more shenanigans with foreign women. They believe foreign women are more traditional and loyal and will be stuck on them because they will pay the bills. They see themselves as the savior/rescuer white man. They have fetishes and are bored with their women, they want variety, that's why after an African wife he went for a Filipina.

    • @debbiebarrow7557
      @debbiebarrow7557 Před 6 měsíci

      Thank you for your comment there is Paedophilia across the WORLD & it's more rampant its always been prevelant but back in the day it was HIDDEN 🙏🔥💯🤎

    • @sandramsimango9526
      @sandramsimango9526 Před 5 měsíci +4

      Thanks for the insight never put any ethnic group of people on a pedestal

    • @marthangafor6414
      @marthangafor6414 Před 5 měsíci +1

      ​@@sandramsimango9526sadly, poverty motivates many women from these places to marry these men. 'Mail order' brides were a thing in the UK, in the 90s.

    • @naburgr
      @naburgr Před 2 měsíci

      Madness

    • @Notinvisible4950
      @Notinvisible4950 Před 24 dny

      Hi Lynn and Melissa, I live in Australia. 16 years with a covert narcissist. What a powerful story! What a strong woman! What I so appreciate is how you stuck to your boundaries. When you said 2 weeks to get counsel and he didn’t- you moved out. You make me want to move to Kenya! I love your enthusiasm. Your sense of humour. I agree it’s our relationship with our creator that gets us through. Covert narcissists rarely change. I agree you are so brave. What I did also love is that it’s so easy to listen to you. I’ve listened to lots of podcasts and sometimes the story is very compelling but the teller drags it out and it’s not interesting to listen to. This was a very long story but I didn’t get bored once, in fact couldn’t stop listening even while making lunch. These men are predators, period! You are beautiful too. Would love to meet you. Xx

  • @Lulu-storytime
    @Lulu-storytime Před 6 měsíci +60

    Immediately when she mentioned he went to the Philippines!! I knew why he went there😔

    • @florencemungori274
      @florencemungori274 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Why

    • @betty541
      @betty541 Před 3 měsíci

      apparently it's well known that older white men go to Asia to access such depravity, unfortunately. I am not sure why, but I suspect they can use their money to bypass laws. I could be wrong though, so someone correct me if i am.

    • @lindimindi8281
      @lindimindi8281 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@florencemungori274because most pedophiles fly to Thailand to sleep with children

    • @ReasonablySpeaking9808
      @ReasonablySpeaking9808 Před měsícem +9

      @@florencemungori274I hope you’ve researched it and learned in those two months of waiting for an answer.

    • @monikam9069
      @monikam9069 Před měsícem +1

      @@ReasonablySpeaking9808 Both Asians and Africans are lusting white males -clearly much, much better looking than their native males.

  • @MshauriPeter
    @MshauriPeter Před 6 měsíci +124

    "You can rise up, You can start all over again..." powerful statement of fact Lynn.
    May I appeal to all your fans, Lynn, especially ladies, to take this simple line seriously. Ladies, downfalls do not amount to failure but a learning experience. No one should define a journey to your destiny but you alone.
    Melissa, looking at your previous photos, and now, just like Lynn has affirmed you already, I also validate that.
    Guys, once you have become of age and can be in a position to make informed decisions for your life, go it, and as you navigate your life journey, be intentional in making conscious decisions. Life is never smooth sail. Having said that, be ready to experience both highs and lows. God has accorded you skills and capacity to surmount each hurdle you meet. However, how to apply them remains your prerogative. Lynn's shows are about experiences of others that are meant to help you and me learn how to avoid the mistakes they made. It's not mere stories to laugh and wait for the next episode.
    I leave you this simple guideline, be you, be real, and at all times practice self-care. Peace of mind is the best tip for healthy living.
    Melissa has spit snippets of wisdom that can make any serious woman think twice before engaging. Listen, process, and decide...."What does a 22-year-old know? " Melissa has cautioned you here.
    It's all about you and your life, ladies.

    • @annescott7585
      @annescott7585 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Deep

    • @Deedor72
      @Deedor72 Před 6 měsíci +1

      100%

    • @phoebeadikinyi3441
      @phoebeadikinyi3441 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Very true,thanks for the great advice

    • @joycem47890
      @joycem47890 Před 6 měsíci +3

      100% true. I always look forward to your comments, no matter how lengthy, they are always on point

    • @miriamkahindi2910
      @miriamkahindi2910 Před 6 měsíci +6

      I am glad to read such wisdom in such a random place! ❤

  • @marynjokimirie4753
    @marynjokimirie4753 Před 6 měsíci +8

    This kind of stories are very common in Europe, she has represented many,who cant openly speak out, pole sana Melissa, i send healing your way ❤

  • @virginiamwangi356
    @virginiamwangi356 Před 6 měsíci +8

    One of your best guests, very articulate and eloquent. She had very good humor too. She needs to write a book.

  • @pjj.5649
    @pjj.5649 Před 5 měsíci +6

    This is a stunningly powerful, strong, freeing, interview and testimony. Mellissa told a story of triumph, perseverance, determination and monumental grace when many would have crumbled under the circumstances. I listened with my mind and heart and I don't know how I would have come through that crippling time. All I can say is, thank you for her story and experience. I am forever changed by what she has shared.
    I love that she called the man out on his voyer behavior staring at an 11-year-old girl. She is absolutely right, today they take a lecherous look and comment and the next time he is touching. Disgusting. You have to speak up and call the pervs on their filth and twisted minds in the moment. Not to do so, is telling the perv, no one is there for that child, so they are free to have at them. I will always call the man or woman on their lowlife crap in the moment.

  • @WanjiruMuya
    @WanjiruMuya Před 6 měsíci +24

    If your Man's family all loves you wanajua kijana yao ako na kasoro that joke corresponds Mellisah's story😮😢

  • @atoncybiker2022
    @atoncybiker2022 Před 6 měsíci +35

    She makes a serious story sound so comical.
    I love her attitude!

  • @Bornies
    @Bornies Před 6 měsíci +34

    There is something beautiful that I pick from almost every story in this rebuilding edition -God meets us at our worst point/ situation. Which friend does that? What a friend we have in Jesus! To Him alone be the glory.

  • @agnesmukami6041
    @agnesmukami6041 Před 5 měsíci +8

    The true definition of a strength of a woman Melissa wow

  • @dubilajane2134
    @dubilajane2134 Před 6 měsíci +79

    So beautiful, articulate, eloquent, sophisticated, intelligent and perfect at narrating her story.We rise,we fall,we rise again and keep on....thank you for your inspiring story.❤Thank you Lyn!

  • @Scole23786
    @Scole23786 Před 6 měsíci +68

    “Retired project developer”, love this expression because it applies to many women especially those of us that are empaths

  • @scholardave9755
    @scholardave9755 Před 6 měsíci +19

    Such a strong woman full of wisdom, mistakes made, lessons learned, I love her courage and how she embraces herself after all she's been through, her love for her kids. she is just great, not forgetting how well she narrates her story, she is indeed an author. Thanks Lynn for this story..

  • @annakamau7153
    @annakamau7153 Před 6 měsíci +23

    This interview is powerful, enlightening, validating, empowering, inspiring, uplifting due to it's honesty, delivery and timing! Thank you Shiro and Lynn for the masterpiece!

  • @mosy2049
    @mosy2049 Před 6 měsíci +22

    Melissa you are so beautiful and eloquent. I could listen to you the whole day. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @manjongflorence9544
    @manjongflorence9544 Před 6 měsíci +17

    You are a great woman Melissa. Your bravery, honesty, and sense of humour is amazing. Thank you Lynn for this splendid interview.

  • @effyafia7981
    @effyafia7981 Před 6 měsíci +7

    This lady was smarter than I was.

  • @greatnation4328
    @greatnation4328 Před 5 měsíci +19

    Thank you Melissa for opening up your experience to educate the community.
    Lessons learnt: 1.Making choices should not be emotional or out of limited information. 2 Surviving the first mistake is another series of asking questions and making more informed choices. 3. When life offers lime....make lemonade to continue.

  • @bellaolum9768
    @bellaolum9768 Před 6 měsíci +20

    I love everything about Melissa's story. It is so deep and very inspiring. She is truly a product of God's grace! And boy can she tell a story 😅😅😅😅

  • @ushindiraha
    @ushindiraha Před 6 měsíci +11

    I love this woman. She is teaching me lots. She has a mature and kind heart

  • @Kajoy128
    @Kajoy128 Před 6 měsíci +18

    There's a thing with this lady which sparks an interest to listen to her more.She is a brave woman!Her sense of humor is another whole thing😆she is a vibe.

  • @user-wp7yc1bs6f
    @user-wp7yc1bs6f Před 6 měsíci +12

    Very clear and sobering interview right there. Mellisa is a great woman indeed. She doesn't look like what she's been through. I love the fact that she handled this interview with a lot of grace, honesty and good conscience. There was so much balance in the way she told her story and that tells me she's a great woman. She can be trusted. She didn't fall into the trap of anger, bitterness and resentment in spite of all she has been through. May God grant all her heart's desires in this journey and make her a billboard of His glory. Amen!
    To Lynn, you're doing a fantastic job dear. You allowed your guest to tell her story without unnecessary interjections and side journeys. Thank you for interpreting all the Kikuyu sections of Mel's interview. Keep up the good work!

  • @rahabgathogo1842
    @rahabgathogo1842 Před 6 měsíci +13

    Powerful story Melissa. I love the way you acknowledge God all through, and following your gut feeling. My lessons tonight.

  • @chancepeace2064
    @chancepeace2064 Před 6 měsíci +112

    Wow, what a story and what a strong woman !!
    I feel that the way her ex-mother in-law pushed for engagement very quickly, she knew about her son's issue. I think she thought that a marriage will cover up his addiction!

    • @graciouslyloved10
      @graciouslyloved10 Před 6 měsíci +15

      Yeah...women protecting monsters....

    • @janekinyanjui484
      @janekinyanjui484 Před 6 měsíci +10

      Well said 🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Wow!! Makes a lot of sense

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Před 6 měsíci +4

      ​@graciouslyloved10 Mothers protecting there son's is shat it sounds like.

    • @MburawaUK
      @MburawaUK Před 6 měsíci

      Nowadays wamama wazungu are looking for wives for their useless sons and they mostly target Africans. Be aware.

  • @chinenyemmegwa6225
    @chinenyemmegwa6225 Před 6 měsíci +12

    Her voice is so soothing, such a powerful testimony, such a strong woman, so beautiful ❤️

  • @FebineAwuor
    @FebineAwuor Před 5 měsíci +9

    No one can bring you down when you are determined to achieve something. Congratulations Melissa for being super strong in all situations.

  • @JessyourBrandBuddy
    @JessyourBrandBuddy Před 6 měsíci +5

    Wow!!! What a story, what a strong woman!! Thank you for giving this a voice Melissa....and thanks Lynn for giving us the platform

  • @hildahmutugi5429
    @hildahmutugi5429 Před 6 měsíci +9

    Looking at Melissa is like experiencing my soul sister. Very refreshing...and quite eloquent I Must say.

  • @anitalumumba4525
    @anitalumumba4525 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I saw this as a notification on my phone and surprising Mellissa’s voice and words are a precognition that I have had. God works in weird ways. Mellissa your courage and zeal is what we all as ladies need. You are braze❤

  • @letriseupworld
    @letriseupworld Před 6 měsíci +6

    The short hair is the best on her.. Beautifulllllll. I am so proud of her.. God bless this Queen

  • @lydiamosiori9365
    @lydiamosiori9365 Před 6 měsíci +12

    Not me here🎉 in Danmark with my 11 year old contemplating everyday whether to give this Danish a kid. Thank you Melissa for your story..my eyes are oåen now

    • @naburgr
      @naburgr Před 2 měsíci

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 good point lol

  • @nancymewes8986
    @nancymewes8986 Před 6 měsíci +45

    Kudos Melissa for doing what was right even when you knew what the backlash and repercussions would be! Your children are blessed to have you as a role model! You go Mama bear!!!!

    • @PHlophe
      @PHlophe Před 5 měsíci

      Nanny and her storytelling technique is unmatched

  • @janexkabarangira9762
    @janexkabarangira9762 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Wowuuuuu! What a great, inspiring story! Thanks Mellisa for accepting to be vulnerable and sharing your story. I have learnt a lot from it. Bless you more.

  • @hannahngigi162
    @hannahngigi162 Před 6 měsíci +19

    From a friends invitation to chat for love, becoming the victim of love and a victim of violence in one plate. She is a strong lady and a no nonsense black beauty. The part of throwing his monitor outside the window was a clear definition of what she is made of. The wrestling part made me fear her and the boldness to call the police. This to me was a real movie but then a true story. She made my weekend!

  • @Victoria-rv1dk
    @Victoria-rv1dk Před 6 měsíci +14

    When you decide you want to go abroad, be sure you understand your motivation for leaving. That's a big take home for me. And when Mel said that she knew she would end up abroad but decided to help God along and find a way to get there herself; the othershoe dropped for me. God has used you to stop me from helping him along. Let me wait for his timing coz Wueh!!!

  • @marietabingatati5914
    @marietabingatati5914 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I haven’t even listened to her story yet; first thing I see is that BEAUTIFUL and radiant smile ❤

  • @jacklinmiller5958
    @jacklinmiller5958 Před 6 měsíci +9

    Thank you Lynn for interviewing Mellisa. Her testimony is complex yet Melissa is very discriptive in telling her story.
    May God's healing continue in her and the childrens life's.
    Melllisa, you are an amazing woman.. Thank you for sharing..

  • @fionaabalo2096
    @fionaabalo2096 Před 5 měsíci +7

    wow Mel is a great story teller, her eloquence is amazing and she is such a vibe. i listened to her word for word with a sad face and smiles at the same time.

  • @fridahkinoti18
    @fridahkinoti18 Před 6 měsíci +36

    This was an eye opener, coming out and speaking out was the wisest thing Mellisa did..Kudos

  • @jdezeeuw6540
    @jdezeeuw6540 Před 6 měsíci +31

    Great story especially for those who can relate. She protected her kids at any costs and please always follow your instincts. Thanks lynn❤❤❤❤🌸🌸🌸🌸

  • @JuniorGaddafi3978
    @JuniorGaddafi3978 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Sijashangaa kamwe, Maana dunia imejaa vimbwanga, vituko, vitushi na sarakasi chungu mbovu.
    Nothing humans do that suprises me any longer.

  • @edwinacriear2630
    @edwinacriear2630 Před 6 měsíci +17

    Absolutely beautiful interview! We all have made our missteps with love but the thing is is to forgive, forgive ourselves, grow from it, share with others so we can grow together. Thank you both so much for a dynamic interview.

  • @bangibabs
    @bangibabs Před 6 měsíci +19

    Melissa is one strong woman and knows how to draw you in when sharing her story. Thank you for sharing this with us and for raising awareness. May God bless you ladies ❤

  • @fedelisnjenga2285
    @fedelisnjenga2285 Před 6 měsíci +7

    I have enjoyed listening to Mellisa, your smile and braveness is amazing. You have narrated the experience from a healed side. Keep fighting girl

  • @Leoessence707
    @Leoessence707 Před 6 měsíci +7

    A very eye-opening interview, I will definitely ask my family to watch because when you are empowered with information, you can be better equipped to sideline potential problems. Thank you so much 💕

  • @kahindiperis1606
    @kahindiperis1606 Před 5 měsíci +7

    Thanks Lynn for your light. Your guest is very brave and very beautiful.

  • @bancymunene3436
    @bancymunene3436 Před 6 měsíci +10

    She is such a sweet soul. Indeed when God steps in, we don't look like the trouble we have gone through. May you rise higher Melissa.

  • @shirleyodongo6439
    @shirleyodongo6439 Před 6 měsíci +9

    I love Mellisa's energy and personality. Such a phenomenal woman. More grace mama.

  • @user-cn1sp5yo2j
    @user-cn1sp5yo2j Před 5 měsíci +2

    Beautiful interview Melissa, so proud of you for being so vulnerable, it takes a lot of courage to do this. You are a great story teller.

  • @olamao786
    @olamao786 Před 6 měsíci +26

    Thanks I’ve gotten her CZcams channel. She’s very inspiring for people that might be going through some sort of trauma in the abroad. Like she mentioned we got married to white men without really knowing much about their background and why they’re attracted to us. I thank God my story was different also I already schooled abroad before meeting my late husband in Africa. All the same I still had my own dose after getting married . My experience helped me sharpen myself quicker also the counselling I received also helped. His family too was very supportive and that was a great reliefs. He had alcohol issues but God gave me the strength to look after him and our child until his last breath. The outcome now that he is passed. I don’t even want any man to come near me. As far as I’m concerned I taken my own dose of something called marriage.

    • @nanoa32
      @nanoa32 Před 6 měsíci +2

      @olamao786 Your comment is the best comment on this panel. I see the obsession and praise of ⚪️ men in Black Caribbean and African community, as well as Asia and Latina communities.

  • @bygrace-254
    @bygrace-254 Před 6 měsíci +7

    Right here my favorite host ..Lynn Ngugi we love you to the moon and back ❤❤🎉

  • @naomwambui257
    @naomwambui257 Před 6 měsíci +13

    She is soo eloquent ❤. Great conversation

  • @marianamcanuff6835
    @marianamcanuff6835 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thank you for this testimony!!! it has been very inspiring and empowering. Shame can be so burdening but once you get pass it, it is so liberating and healing.

  • @elizabethmusyoki9599
    @elizabethmusyoki9599 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Truly a brave soul! Thank you for sharing your story Melissa. God bless you.

  • @carolkarira1262
    @carolkarira1262 Před 6 měsíci +8

    Pure positive energy. Bravo Mel and more grace to you❤

  • @user-yq2cu9qs9y
    @user-yq2cu9qs9y Před 6 měsíci +6

    Thank Mellisa for the story it's an eye opener many of us are going through toxic relationship and narcissiism.

  • @harrietnjuguna9917
    @harrietnjuguna9917 Před 6 měsíci +16

    Melissa is such a vibe! A strong woman full of wisdom. That's quite an experience to go through. Thanks for sharing your story that's really an eye-opener to us. Lots of lessons to learn

  • @jennifer1552
    @jennifer1552 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Thank you Lynn and Mellisa for this informative program. It takes a lot of courage to share your experience so honestly.

  • @sarakhunou9254
    @sarakhunou9254 Před 6 měsíci +36

    Thank you so much Lynn for the stories you bring to us. Eye opening , very much helping. Thank you, thank you and thank you. I just wish if possible ( I'm South African) statements/words said in African language ,if they can be written in English so that we can be able to understand everything. I love your show very much.
    Thank you

  • @rosewilliamskenya2478
    @rosewilliamskenya2478 Před 6 měsíci +4

    This is like a thriller. Such a brave girl. Thanks Lynn for the story

  • @missachieng.179
    @missachieng.179 Před 6 měsíci +5

    I love Melissa,she is so much like me,I love love her! You were a victim,you met him online,he got you a cam,he married you when you were young,it all adds up you were the victim that spoke up!
    Product of grace.