Where. Is. Dad?! Mad. | BilliSpeaks
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- čas přidán 6. 02. 2023
- Her MADjesty’s minions aren’t together and Billi has big feelings about it 😹
All joking aside, this really hurt me to not be able to adequately explain that dad will be back, just not for a while!
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Billi is a female domestic shorthair, she's 14 years old, her favorite word is mad.
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"Shut up, Mom! You're not Dad!"
Billi is the quintessential teenager.
Knowing to start and maintain eye contact when expressing stress so it’s not taken as a joke by the parents. Naurrr 😂😂😂
she was probably saying
"I don't want your later!"
"I just want Dad to come back"
Billie missed Dad so badly 😢
yes
Shut up, Mom. You’re not *my* Dad!🤣
Noise all done all done, mom!
It’s the eye contact when pressing “ mad “ for me 😂
It’s so you know she really means it 😹
It’s so funny, I’m sorry!
@@BilliSpeaks 🤣🤣
Billi loves eye contact pressing mad 😂
@@BilliSpeaks I don't know how you keep from laughing 😂
The fact that she looks straight up at you before actuating the mad button is frightening.
This reminds me of my cat.
I blocked the door to a hiding spot that we didn't want him going to.
When he realized it was blocked, he sat down and very slowly and deliberately looked right at me. Just like that.
The cat has no idea what these words actually mean. At best, he has a surface level of connection with certain words like 'dad' simply because of repetition of use, but there's no possible way he knows the context of words strung together, especially those involving emotional expression.
@@OnlyTwoShoes It’s good enough for communication.
@@scottbirch968 the same thing could be said about a brick wall
@@OnlyTwoShoes Wrong. There may not be a conversation in the English language here, but meaning is being conveyed.
Now I want to see what the cat does when dad walks in the door.
Don't leave me hangin.
Yes!
I know!
"Look Where Then Friend."
Translation:
"Find Dad and we'll be friends again."
Billi - the savage!
Ohhhh, I think you may be right!! T_T Even more sad!
Yup, this. Until that happens, Billi mad mad mad dad where hmm? all done
This.
That was my interpretation too!
And tell dad to bring Squirrel with him!
I don’t know what’s cuter, Billi asking for dad or you calling another human to tell them the cat is asking about them lol
Exactly.
My mom calls my phone on Facetime and just asks for the cat when I pick up! 😆
@@laras678 OMG that's great
@@laras678 That will be me when my son leaves the nest.
I frequently text my brother when his cat, Missy, is looking for him. He is usually at work, having just headed there or about an hour before he gets home. In between those 2 times, she is calm and spends a lot of time napping. They also play their own version of Marco Polo, which we call Missy Daddy. She wanders around the house looking for my brother yelling, and my brother calls her until she "finds" him.
Billi is worried about how long Dad has been gone. She wants Mom to look for him outside. In Billi's mind, the only reason why he hasn't come back by now is he's injured, lost or trapped and needs help before it's too late.
I remember when our kid stayed at grandparents for the first time, we came home without her, and our cat was going crazy, yelling at us and looking for her, like trying to explain that we lost our kid somewhere.
Yup you are right my dogs do the same thing until either we both come home or Boyfriend is gone and probably when I'm gone too I would assume that In an animal world and also previously and still in a human world when somebody Doesn't come back for a bit and you don't see them you start to worry And then you really worry when it takes longer I've started to tell my dogs it's OK it's OK To let them know that I already know the answer
You can read his mind
It did seem like he was a bit stressed or overly concerned like when a cat misses a kitten. At least he didn't start wailing, that always kills me.
Get billi a “call dad” button
What's heartbreaking is all the cats that have these emotions and thoughts but aren't able to express them like Billie can
now we know 😢
I agree with you so much. I grew up with cats and every time I watch Billi's videos, I think of all the things they tried to tell me and my family, but we never understood. I'm glad that Billi is helping in research that might make these buttons available for all pets in the future....
I wish my cat could 'talk' like Billie. I spent a lot of $$ just to find out she has arthritis. No surprise she's almost 18.
@Sharon Gagnist my cats went through the same. At their last years of life they were taking gabapentin, steroids, cbd oil and collagen for arthritis. Not to mention physical therapy and acupuncture when they developed herniated lumbar disks... we spent so much money but at least they were able to walk until their last days 😔
Silliaek - I was thinking the same thing. I remember hearing people say that cats don't think of you when you're not around. That sure turned out to be a false assumption!
I think it was Bunny the dog who asked one time where grandma was... or was that also Billi? It's clear that our animals have image memories of us that get triggered just like ours do. It will be interesting to see the consequences and insights we find as these animals continue to grow in their communication abilities.
Will having the mental tool of words foster a greater mental ability? What are the limits?
My cat when I left for Germany for 3 months was very upset. My wife said He would sit by the door and meow-scream at the door. And sleep on my clothes. When I came back he was mad at me and started crying. I've legitimately never seen a cat cry before. He cried and curled up in my lap and was quite literally sobbing. To this day no one can convince me cats are not as attached as dogs.
My cat waits in the window for me to come back from work every night. She just sits there and as soon as she spots me walking down the street she springs up and goes nut. And I know she knows at what time I usually come back, because the few times I got home early she wasn't in the window yet. They are just as lovable as dogs, they just don't show it in the same ways!
How many wife you have sir?
@@devondetroit2529 Your question makes no sense
Cat's are unable to cry emotional tears. Sorry to burst your bubble.
@ugyboogie shut up nobody cares
I had an animal communicator tell me to explain to them days in ‘dark nights’, so like “I’ll be home in 3 dark nights” and it’s always worked like a charm. Or “I’ll be home when it’s light out” - give it a try! It helped my babe a ton
this is very interesting to me. getting them to pay attention and maybe even start quantifying the passing of time in terms of light and dark. i doubt they notice time passing much on their own, i doubt they pay attention to time passing enough to think to quantify it. but then the human pushes them to in order to allow them to quantify how long they'll have to wait for something, and then they have an incentive to quantify the passing of time in their mind. lowkey mindblowing.
@@fingerlickingoooood they’re such high consciousness they’re beyond time - they know there’s really no time, so the light and dark helps ground them in the 3D we have to deal with and be able to see our timelines easier.
@@aprilsvlogz so true
@@beelzebub7221 That one really made me laugh XD
Whoa! That's genius
now I've just gotta teach my cat to count first
I love how she understands quantities, as shown by her pressing "want" multiple times when she *really* wants something.
He doesn't. And you're delusional if you think that.
@@BlameNate He does, Actually.
@@TheRlzzardOfOz No, actually, lol. he doesn't. i'm sorry you're this ignorant
@@BlameNateimagine being upset that a cat is more intelligent than you
@@BlameNate Are you a telepath? Can you read the thoughts of a cat?
Billi telling you to shut up has me absolutely screaming.
I don’t want to hear any of your mess take me to Dad. Maybe you’re not clear on my feelings about this matter. 😂
I actually thought she was referring to the audiobook. She thought it was noise.
@@LFTRnow That's what I thought too, it was getting on her nerves.
"Noise. All done."
@@LFTRnow that’s what I think as well.
I think it's time to expand Billi's vocabulary. She's trying to communicate more complicated things.
They already have an “I don’t understand” button, hopefully there will be more complex buttons like that in the future
Maybe there's a philosophical set too, pretty soon the conversations with her will be quite deep 🤔
I've said that
I will donate my life energy to this cat to see to her communicating everything she wants to stg 😂😭-
We need to give Billi a button that says “An atom is a particle that consists of a nucleus of protons and neutrons surrounded by a cloud of electrons. The atom is the basic particle of the chemical elements, and the chemical elements are distinguished from each other by the number of protons that are in their atoms. For example, any atom that contains 11 protons is sodium, and any atom that contains 29 protons is copper. The number of neutrons defines the isotope of the element. Atoms are extremely small, typically around 100 picometers across. A human hair is about a million carbon atoms wide. This is smaller than the shortest wavelength of visible light, which means humans cannot see atoms with conventional microscopes. Atoms are so small that accurately predicting their behavior using classical physics is not possible due to quantum effects. More than 99.94% of an atom's mass is in the nucleus. The protons have a positive electric charge, the electrons have a negative electric charge, and the neutrons have no electric charge. If the number of protons and electrons are equal, then the atom is electrically neutral. If an atom has more or fewer electrons than protons, then it has an overall negative or positive charge, respectively - such atoms are called ions. The electrons of an atom are attracted to the protons in an atomic nucleus by the electromagnetic force. The protons and neutrons in the nucleus are attracted to each other by the nuclear force. This force is usually stronger than the electromagnetic force that repels the positively charged protons from one another. Under certain circumstances, the repelling electromagnetic force becomes stronger than the nuclear force. In this case, the nucleus splits and leaves behind different elements. This is a form of nuclear decay. Atoms can attach to one or more other atoms by chemical bonds to form chemical compounds such as molecules or crystals. The ability of atoms to attach and detach is responsible for most of the physical changes observed in nature. Chemistry is the discipline that studies these changes.”
She's expressing the
concept of loneliness.
Yes exactly 👍
A cat's favorite button being "mad" was the easiest thing to predict.
Watching this is like "Yup, this is EXACTLY what I imagine a talking cat would say" 😂
"Look where then friend" seems to be a request to send out a search party to bring dad safely to the new home. Poor Billi.
Exactly!
"So why are you doing NOTHING?? Mad-mad-mad-mad-mad."
What I got from "then friend" was "Okay clearly you don't remember. We used to have a friend called Dad, remember? Remember Dad?"
@@MyFireElf (Soundtrack builds; slow zoom on human's face.)
Or she downgraded "Mom" to "friend" status 😅 like "Then look for him, FRIEND"
Proof cats not only can tell the difference between humans, but that they miss us!!!
Anyone who doesn't think cats can tell the difference between people hasn't spent a lot of time with them. My chickens learned my calls as well.
Cat people have always known.
I don't know why everyone else can't see that.😏
Anyone who had at least one cat for o long period of time and established a relationship with it clearly knows that....
It’s easier to know that cats clearly distinguish between people, than to prove that their interest is coming more from heart than from stomach. (common arguments about this exist)
Anyway I believe my cat really loves me ... and cares for his stomach at the same time 😂
@@petrskupa6292 These days, my husband feeds the cats more often than I do because he's in the house more, but my lap is still their favorite. They definitely love me.
This makes my heart break. My husband died last year, and one of our cats, his favorite, was like this, even though she doesn’t “talk.” I still have to comfort her.
I’m so sorry for your loss! 😢 I’m glad you have some pets for tangible company though. God loves you very much.
My dad just passed in April, and “his” cat (out of SEVEN freaking cats!) - she is an Old Lady Cat. Her name is Momma Kitty, bc she was the mother of ALL the other cats but 1… she was SO sad when he never came home from Hospice 😭…. But! Then, once I started visiting my Mom every day, MK immediately adopted ME as Her human. ♥️ I have, in the last four weeks, taught her to use the bedstairs to get into & out of bed… to come to my bed when she wants snuggles… to go meow (loudly) at the fridge when she wants food (she’s special needs & can’t eat dry food, & has to eat every 2-4 hours, around the clock)… AND- what “kisses” are… see, my Dad never kissed her, so this was foreign to her 😢 but she has since learnt to press her cheek into my face when I kiss her. Needless to say, I am thrilled & feel very special. Ok that is all, ty for reading this Comment.
Also, Person: I am sorry for your loss. * Imaginary Hugs *
My cat has not been the same since her biological mother died. They knew each other nine years. It's been a year and you can't tell how stressed she is.
She constantly asks to go to the living room, which is the last place she saw her mother go before she died.
I try to keep her comforted, but it doesn't always work.
My theory on these buttons is, the animals don’t know what the buttons saying exactly, but they have a perfect understanding on the concept that the buttons speak to people. That alone is pretty insane the cat is definitely trying to talk to her
If you think about it, isn't that all language? Like how babies learn.
They don't know 'dad' means "father' they just know it makes the hairy one happy, and it makes him show up
@@TheDapperDragon exactly, i mean shit i didnt even know what most words really meant until i was basically an adult
it seems like he can associate a word to a concept, just no understanding of the larger structures of language like grammer or word order. He can understand words like "food, mom, and dad" just fine, but even if he had all the buttons in the world he still couldn't use them in a sentence.
@@Charles-hq7ce yeah. like a toddler. of which a cat's brain is comparable.
@@Charles-hq7ceNo one has delved much into grammar from what I've seen, but a grammar does evolve naturally with most of these fluent pets. Need to be aware of various languages to understand. For example, Billi uses Japanese word order.
This video is one of the clearer examples of a coherent conversation, where you can't deny there's structure in billi's sentences. Dad must be a great dude if billi loves him so much.
He sure is 💜
@@winter9703you say that like humans come out of the womb with pre-installed dictionaries in their brains, like adults don't have to babble exaggerated mouth sounds for years to get the tiny savages to mimic the right ones at the right times
no two human languages are one to one either, so give Billi a break for not having good grammar, she's learning a new language
man if you lived with a cat you'd know they don't walk on weird things unless it's deliberate
@@winter9703 she definitely is using specific buttons, even avoiding others. That doesn’t mean she knows what they mean probably.
@@winter9703 You can clearly see the cat looking at there owner for there reaction based on certain button presses as if waiting for a reaction or reply do this enough and the cat will definately understand what certain words mean, give them the abillity to express that themselves an teach them to use it definately possible, for cats to learn simple fraises that reflect what they want they don't even have to understand the word just know it's a gateway to something that correlates with that noise or sound that they want, it's a pretty simple concept quite complex for a animal but damn if this is interesting to see
@@breezybee777 This!
Obviously the nuance is going to be lost on the cat, but they have the ability to make dozens of sounds to communicate with their own species, there is no reason it cannot learn a few specific noises for another creature.
Words are no more complicated than any other kind of sound like ticks.
"Where is Dad? You're not even looking." OH SWEET BABY
Billi’s like “WHY AREN’T YOU PANICKING DAD IS MISSING!”
Yeah that’s exactly what it seemed.
Wich honestly kinda makes sense no? I'd wager if a cat is missing from a wild pack they would go looking for it too, no? So the cat maybe doesn't understand humans have to go further away from their terretory from time to time.
What I find most interesting about this is how Billi presses the buttons about how she wants dad 5 times, the same amount of times you press “later” for, almost like she LONGS for dad.
It’s adorable ❤
What a wonderful thing that our pets can learn another language to communicate with us. I have seen dogs do this but Billi is the first cat I have seen do this. I only wish we had this ability sooner. When I had my weimaraner, Kristina ❤, used to look me in my eyes because she wanted to tell me something and I used to guess what she wanted but the buttons would have been so much better than guessing.
I think most cats would have that mad button wore completely out. Lol
It must be so confusing for her that you, the provider of all things, wouldn't give her the one thing she wanted-- Dad.
😢
Kinda breaks my heart to see her asking for Dad so much, cats definitely miss their humans!
She loves him so much 🥹
@@BilliSpeaks and you. She just wants the full-set. lol
oh ya.. they do ...all the time.. i cant even come out of bathroom once without finding one of my cats standing outside the bathroom door waiting for the me... they are so loving!! and cute!!
@@preethimohan7830 In the wild, cats are most vulnerable when they eat, sleep and "go to the toilet", so they will watch each other's back when doing one of these things. So your cats watching out for you when you are in the bathroom is a sign that they are considering you to be part of their "tribe", and I guess you can call it an act of love.
@@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight lol then m a proud kitty tribe member!! :D
I bought this for my one year old chocolate lab, I introduced him to one button as per the instructions about a month into it after. Getting an entire section down, I came home to find the entire thing ripped apart in a hundred pieces, my dog clearly was done talking. 😂
I have been day dreaming of getting one of these things and having great chats with my choc. Lab, but you just reality checked me. What on earth was I thinking?
@@rotkatzeredcat4284 haha got to love them though ! They are one of the best , I also have a golden retriever who's awesome as well .
I only recently discovered these pet button videos. I always knew dogs and cats were very smart, but this just brings in a whole perspective on their intelligence, and its absolutely fascinating
All living beings. Not just Cats and Dogs. There's amazing research that proves it in Ants, Bees, Insects in general, Arachnids and Spiders, Fish, Reptiles, Mammals, Birds and so on.
There's nothing here to prove it's not random.
@@JamesGower-ch5zj Exactly. Cats are pretty smart, it's possible Billi figured out that these buttons are a good way of getting attention and all meaning is interpretation on the owner's side. We don't see every interaction, only the ones the owners feel are interesting or funny and even in these 'conversations' we get random word strings like "Look Where Then Friend"
@@TheTykeThank you so much for your comment! You are the first person to confirm exactly what I have been experiencing. It is just so awesome and fills me with wonder. I never used to think about this, but now I see God working in ways to bring about that new creation where we are all one. Lions will lie down with lambs and eat straw. You have made my day by you comment. Thank you 🎉
@@TheTykecan you please let me know what research if you can remember?
4:23 She wants you to get your friends to go look for dad. She is trying to raise a search party for dad. That cat gets scary sometimes.
4:40 Billi really sat down and thought long and hard for that
I interpreted it as Billi saying that if mom tells her where to look for dad, then they can be friends again
look for a new friend since dad is dead.
With toddlers sometimes it helps to look all around the house to show them their parent isn't there, then reassure them their parent is coming back soon
I interpreted it as, "I won't be friends with you until you look for Dad".
I think "Look where then friend" might mean she wants you to find dad then she'll be friends with you again. Want x5 could be an attempt to describe sadness from her separation from dad. She's probably about to break through to a new level because she's been trying to express some pretty complex things lately. Really cool!
Ascension
The cat might also be saying that the dad is her friend. “Look where then for my friend.”
Actually I thought about this and wondered something different. Have you ever bern trying to explain something to someone and they keep giving you and answer you either don’t understand or don’t like so you rephrase the question hoping fir more elaboration or a different answer. I was wondering if when dad didn’t show up even much later she was trying to use different words to ask where dad was? She doesn’t have enough buttons to put it clearly another way, hence “where then friend?” Followed by lots of wants which we know she’s been using in conjunction with missing dad lots? Just a thought?
@@SquirrelThis this makes so much sense
@@SquirrelThis I thought the same, seemed more like a kid hardly trying to rephrase something after they weren't understood.
I think Billie isn't MAD but CONCERNED WORRIED ABOUT THE DAD WHO IS NOT HOME and does not understand the concept of traveling for work.
Above all else, I’m impressed by how confident she is with each button. She knows the word and button position well.
I know I was like
Does Billie remember where the buttons are or is this a step even further where she actually reads/recognizes the pictures on the buttons?
@@SupHapCak Or maybe she just presses any button, because that gets her attention?
@@Hugh.ManateeThen she would be hitting completely random buttons
@@WhiteWolf-lm7gj @WhiteWolf-lm7gj I kind of think she is hitting random buttons. And the owners interpret whatever comes out.
"Mad" "Mad" "Noise" "All done" "All done"
Is that random buttons (All of the are within reach from where she's sitting, in fact these 3 buttons are next to each other in a row)? Or is the cat really angrily telling the lady to STFU? Especially since the cat is showing non of the body language cats use when angry or annoyed.
@@Hugh.Manatee Like a lot of other people have said, she seems to use "mad" as a catch all for things she can't express. Also, she chose to walk over there before hitting those buttons, why wouldn't she just hit buttons closer to her?
I want to give Billi the benefit of doubt that she was commenting on you pausing the audiobook rather than telling you to shut up 😂
That's actually a solid point, hadn't thought of that tbh. +1
probaby had a background frequency that bothered her, my cat couldn't stand sound coming out of my phone but didn't mind loud music or anything
That’s what I thought too.
Yes! My cat hates it when I play audiobooks or podcasts over the speaker.
I think 50% of the time Billi doesn't mean "mad" as angry but is trying to convey disappointment or being sad or upset to some degree, Billy want you to "look for dad" and "then ask friend to look for dad" and "mom look for dad" because see "wants dad" she misses her human "dad" lol It made sense to me
I want you to know, that I'm not angry with you, I'm just disappointed.
-Billi, probably.
Lol, when cats are angry they have no problem showing it
@@Romns1513 Today I learned... my father might actually be a cat.
Yeah, I think she just uses it to indicate that some aspect of the current state of affairs is undesired. I definitely don't think she's using it as narrowly as we would to indicate anger.
I have a dumb theory, that what Billi means by "mad" is "I don't have a button for what I want to say."
She needs a "call" button to do video calls!
I am a caregiver to an elderly woman. When her 90 yr old husband passed, their cat waited & looked for him for over a year . When I'd pull up in his truck the cat would come running to see if he'd finally come home. 😢
One day the cat ran in the house and peed on his bed. Always believed it was her communicationing frustration over his disappearance. Sadly the cat died shortly after. She was 14 yrs old. RIP Miley
To tell him/remind him she was here, still here, waiting for him - her 'calling card', so that he would know when he returned that she was still around and could be found. Scent means so much to animals 😢
I think mad here means Billi feels powerless. It's beautiful you videocalled him so Billi could hear and see dad
I agree. I'm not sure how many different buttons there are for negative emotion but I don't think even single words can really encompass the full breadth of emotion.
I WAS THINKING THAT TOO!!!! My word with the "want x 5" and looking around was "emptiness." Poor Billi.
It reminds me of the enneagram personality test saying people will have different emotional expressions to the same underlying cause. For my type the (mad) button sends me into anxious and sad thought patterns, but for other people the same discomfort will trigger anger and hostility.
The (mad) button points not to the angry reaction per se, but to that deeper disturbance that could be "angering" or "scary" or "saddening" depending on how you react to it.
I want to know how the cat reacted when She called him
How come it took that long to call though?
And people say cats don't care about us and miss us when we're not there....the 5 "wants" and then "dad"....PRICELESS!!!
431 likes and no replies?? lemme fix that
Cats are very misunderstood
Eh I’m still a dog person
@@emmanolan1250so are most animals that aren't homo sapiens sapiens.
@@PLAGUEONLYRICS yes dog people have dog mentality, and dogs are a slang for a reason
I live alone in this world. Sometimes I think about what it might be like to be loved or wanted. Watching this cat struggle with not understanding why a loved one is absent is wrecking me.
I love how Billi hits “want” and looks up at her each time. That cat is so fixated on Dad, I feel sorry for Mom.
My husband worked in a different area for 6 months once. Our cat was a hot mess. Howled and cried incessantly for him. It was awful. It's sweet Billi can tell you what she's going thru. Hopefully she sees dad soon. My husband came home every other weekend and our cat did zoomies all night. We'd go to bed and hear him zooming all over the house. Lol
Lovely story.
When my husband died, two of his girl cats stopped interacting with me. Only saw them at meal time. This lasted a few years.
I was given mind blowing advice once & I'm very thankful for it 🙏
I know it's not always possible but it helps so much to let pets SEE deceased loved ones, whether human or animal, if AT ALL possible.
After that, I was always diligent to bring bonded pets to the vet whenever I had to put another down. Also once brought a friends cat to see her dead mom at the hospice facility.
They definitely understand death & then they mourn. It seems to help them compared to a bonded animal/human just vanishing 😳 & the animal always searching/waiting for their beloveds return 🥺
Ah what more proof do we need...Billie you are so smart and you represent all our cats with all their personalities... Dad is lucky to be so loved by Billie.
@@animeaunty This is a really good idea. I always wondered if that would help somehow, as they obviously know what death looks like. But they won't necessarily understand that just vanishing means the same thing.
Now to convince people it's definitely necessary for me to have the cat at the funeral. LOL.
I've been very emotional today, and here I am, at 3AM, laying down in bed, crying my soul out for a kitty who misses her dad 😭
I hope your day got better.
@@macklinillustration thanks. I am a bit better indeed
@@worldpeace6322how are you feeling now, rainbow smiley face pfper?
@@childeofepickness much better, thanks
I started crying too but tried not to fall apart. Sad 😢
My cat is watching this video with me. She was loafing it but sat up when I started watching it and is fascinated with Billy pressing the buttons.
I like how she carefully steps around the buttons when she's not going to say any words.
I guess this video blows the "cats are aloof and indifferent" crowd out of the water.💖
This blows Rudyard Kipling's "The Cat that Walks by Himself" out of the water.
My friend has a cat that will legit greet me at the door like a dog and won't leave me alone for at least 30 minutes into my visiting with my friend. Not that I mind since he's a big old cuddle bug. And I've had many cats that were just as friendly. I don't know where the "aloof and indifferent" thing came from, honestly!
The people who say that don't understand cat language. Cats have the same emotions, but they just express it differently.
If a cat is ignoring you, depending on context it can mean either "I'm not interested in you" or "I trust you enough that I don't feel the need to be on guard around you."
Cats lack the facial muscles that humans and dogs have that we easily recognize in the expression of emotion. I don't know why there's a painting called "Dog's Playing Poker" when it really should be cats.
I think it’s partly because some people expect cats to interact with them on demand, like dogs will, but cats often choose whether to interact or not.
I kinda understood the end sentences to mean "Why aren't you looking for dad???? :( " It's heartbreaking how much she misses him. She loves dad so much.
Yes.
Yes, that’s how I understood it. I think she think mom is not seeing how serious it is 😂
i thought that too but more as in "look for him, who knows he might be stuck under the sofa" kinda way lol
Dude I said hi to my cat over the phone and she meowed back at me. She is so sweet and smart.
4:13 I think she meant look for dad, then you’re my friend again
I just realised I actually know where the "mad" button is 😂 I didn't _know_ that I knew that, but when Billi walked over to the orange section, I was like "uh oh, here comes a 'mad'!", & a "mad" did indeed occur 😂
The sign of a true fan! 😂😂
I’m always waiting for her to press mad each time I watch lol
@@ComedorDelrico Apparently! I don't even watch every video, & I'm horribly unobservant, but my brain obviously decided this detail should be filed for future reference 🤷♀
@@jmiller3579 Same- like, I definitely don't want Billi to be mad, but it's just too hilarious 😂 The first Billi video I watched was "no words, only rage", where she went absolutely nuclear on the "mad" button- I dunno what horrible sin Kendra had committed, but Billi was NOT having it.
That and "fan toy", hahaha! Oh, and "hmm?" but that's because Kendra is constantly using it.
I love how when I watch Bunny the Dog with these buttons she frequently uses "Love you" while Billi the cat prefers "mad" 🤣
Dogs vs cats! 😂😂😂
more likely the human was only capable of simple words like 'mad', instead of a range, like 'frustrated', 'sad', 'anger' etc.
#BecauseCat 😂😂😂
I think Billi is referring to the audiobook as the “noise” and you paused it so it was “all done”. She telling you to shut up is funnier though,lol.
That cat looked at the buttons before choosing one, so intelligent.
Billi calmly tries again to help you understand her. Billi has more patience than my young adult son who exasperatingly says, "I already told you. "
Billi is a female, but yeah. Language barriers are so hard to get across, but I think Billi is nailing it.
@@sunnywhite196 silly me, I knew she was a lady. I've corrected my post. Thanks for noticing. And I agree, Billi nails it every time!
@@kathyjohnson2043 It's all good. 🙂 I don't know why it bugs me that people think Billi is a boy. Probably because I go through something similar only instead of misgendering me, they misspell my name, using the male spelling instead of the female spelling. 😅
@@sunnywhite196 LOL. Don't even get me started on Cathy, Catherine...
@@kathyjohnson2043 But have you heard of Qatherine.....
If you've ever wonder if your cat truly misses you when you're away, Billi just gave you the answer
I left for college and my cat, then 12, formerly aloof and very grumpy, slept on my bed all day every day while I was gone, got super listless and depressed, no interest in toys, or the other cats. That first summer, I returned to a cat who for the first time since he was under 16 weeks, began snuggling against me on his own. Totally wild to me, since while I was very much His Person he'd only ever occassionally slept at my feet, on top of the covers. Every summer after, then every day after graduating he slept under my covers, cuddled to my side. In his last few months, he even began sleeping on my chest/belly at night. Cats definitely miss their people.
@@Miyori999 Great story! 🥲
back when I was 7 I found a abandoned stray cat that was friendly she was already fully grown , I took her home and we quickly formed a strong bond she was absolutely my favorite thing in the world
but I sometimes wonder does she think about her previous owners , or where they so bad she forgot them , beacuse she never showed any signs of that . she just kept loving me everytime I went out
yeh we had to keep her outside since eh can't explain but the house situation is complicated and we can't keep pets indoor , anyway as a cat she obviously climbed and explored the neighborhood often , killed tons of rats and later had kittens which she fully trusted me with and wanted to introduce ne to her 6 babies, I didn't wanna build a bond with all of them tho so they became neighborhood that would come around at night to sleep but usually wouldn't be home all day. so that was fun
Look where there friend?
my cat is super clingy, n chirps really happy when the family comes home. however, whenever i am gone for more than a day she actually seems really disinterested and dejected. can’t tell if its because she’s mad at me for being gone or what lol
It’s so precious when cats are obviously looking for a specific person. I don’t stay away from home very often so when I have done, my cat would apparently lead my parents into my room, look around and then look back at them like “Where is she?”
I think 'look where then friend' is maybe Billi communicating 'Where should I look to find Dad?'
I know Billi often looks at who she's talking to in order to make sure they're paying attention, but the sheer deliberateness on that first "mad" was off the charts 😂. Place paw then look then press.
This breaks my heart for all three of you! I was remembering that "friend" was Billi's name for Dad until he got his own button.
Oh my goodness that means she was trying to really make sure Mom understood whom she was talking about. Like the one friend who used to come by more 😢
For a split second I thought I should get something like this to my cats, but changed my mind. Their screaming at me already is enough. I don't need it translated! 😂
"Mad" pressed continously for hours
omg the intentionality kills me! paw poised, looks up and back, make sure mom’s paying attention before telling her they’re mad.
I'm convinced Billy uses the MAD button to express any kind of negative emotion, for lack or options. So ''mad'' could also mean sad or frustrated.
I say definitely frustrated; and panicking because why isn't he here right now...what is happening!?
Makes sense.
When a cat that is part of a group doesn't return for afew days, something bad has usually happened to that cat, and the other cats notice the absense of it.
So basically, I'm fairly certain that Billi thinks that something horrible has happened to "Dad", like getting eaten by a predator or something like that.
She is gonna be over the moon when "Dad" comes home... At least after she has ignored him for a few hours for leaving her.
As do many humans
We have a cat that “talks”. The first 10 years I thought she wanted something. I couldn’t figure out what she wanted, and then one day I realized she just wants to talk. So I talk to her and then she goes on her way doing her cat thing.
Hahahah we have a guinea pig that want our attention the same way your cat does 😂 she comes to us and stares until we talk to her or rub her head 😅
@@kat-fm1ng aww, that’s sweet ❤️
Same!
It mostly happens at night, when he's cozy on the couch.
He likes to engage in other people's conversations too.
He used to talk to us like he would to a bird he's trying to catch, but over the years it has morphed into a more normal meowing.
I love cats
3:05 LOL
cat: m o m
her: yes im mom-
This video is hella like the communication scenes from the movie Arrival. Mind blown! 😮❤
I'm glad you tried the video call. My cat recognizes her "grandpa's" voice on phone, I think. I was thinking that she didn't tell you to shut up but just wanted the audiobook to stop. People that doubt her use of language should really see this video. It's so clear. And someone could intuitively know that a cat is moping because of the missing family member, but with the buttons, you can know exactly when she's thinking of him. Even though it's heartbreaking, you are communicating with each other so well. You can also share in missing him.
Agree the "noise" was most likely the audiobook.
My thought to. Though Mom is in a better place to judge (also her interpretation is funnier ;) )
@@jdm314 😁😁😁
I was thinking that as well, about the audiobook. Since cats' hearing is so much better than ours, and Billie has expressed distaste for music before. My cat also doesn't like it when I have an audiobook on. He'll leave the room the instant I push play every time.
Just like when she doesnt like mum playing musicals 😂😂
Just when I think Billi can't break my heart one tiny bit more...
She's really (at least from the viedos we've seen) been a trooper through this big more. Most cats her age would be miserabl;e. Billi is a good girl, and she should get lots of extra snuggles tonight. Maybe Dad can talk to Billi on the phone? It helps when my kitty misses his Grandma!
Edit: I obviously hadn't gotten to the end yet! Poor Billi! And people think that animals don't remember people or places, or miss us when we're away. I can't wait to see Dad and Billi reunite!
My family moved about a year and a half ago. Our cat (who was around Billi's age then) handled the repeated changes in housing in a shortish time (about three changes in location over the course of just over two months after spending roughly a decade in our old home) nowhere near as well as Billi. She spent all her time either hiding out somewhere or on my dad's lap with very few exceptions. These days she's settled in about as well as she ever will, but she still spends the majority of her time hiding out in one of the two boxes she claimed (and we haven't got the heart to throw out despite her literally wearing a hole through one of them) or hanging out with my mom.
My fur babies grieved the loss of my parents, so I am so happy Billi can talk to her dad.
@@clarissae4447 I know they grieve the loss of other pets profoundly as well. I'm so glad, too, that we have the technology now for Biili to at least talk to Dad a little bit. (And condolences on the loss of your parents. Our animal companions can be such a comfort in times of sorrow, and it doesn't surprise me at all that they grieve right along with us.)
@@tamaradelsohn5493 Aww, poor kitty! Mine can be so skittish, but they can be troopers, too. I got hurt a couple years ago and could no longer work. I had to move out of my expensive apartment, and didn't find a new place for 3 months. (It was right at the start of the pandemic, too, which only made things more awful!)
We stayed on various friends' or family's sofas, though most could only have us there for a few weeks. So we moved around a bunch, which I know was traumatic for them both. But they were so brave (except for the car rides, which they have always hated). After a few hours in a new place they'd come out and explore, and charm their hosts.
Now we've been settled for a couple years, and I'm so proud of them. They adapt, but they let us know they're not happy about it! And I've had some of those boxes before that are so loved and worn, and covered in toenail marks and fur, but I just don't have the heart to take them away.
My black cat has an Emotional Support Skunk. It's one of those long, "unstuffed" dog toys. It's longer than him, but when he's upset (mainly when everyone is asleep and he's lonely, or when there are no humans at home), he will carry the skunk around in his mouth and howl mournfully until someone comforts him.
If I'm out of the house, I always come home to that skunk in a new spot, laid out in a long, straight line. It's what we call a "lovey"--a toy that is not for playing, but for loving on. It gets washed by kitty, and slept with, but never chased. I have only been honored once to have the skunk left in my bed as a gift, though he brings me other gifts like a crow. (He brought me a sneaker once!)
Once, the skunk had gotten really matted and dirty, and I put it in the washing machine. I didn't want to risk the dryer, so I hung it up on a hanger from a hook in the ceiling. He. Was. Horrified!
It took me a while to figure out that all of his jumping and climbing was an attempt to get his "friend" down from where I'd hung him.
And they say cats don't have personalities or thoughts...
I wonder if a big part of it aside from her sweet personality is that she's able to express herself and her feelings
I think mad also just means "upset". But he seems to be very attached to dad. He asked so many times for dad it was heartbreaking.
Billi figured out if he asks for dad he still gets lots of attention from mom. What a clever kitty.
When she said "do you want to try calling him?" I totally lost my $hit, unexpectedly the tears spilled over. Like . . . I can't even with how much this is like a situation that happened within my own family where a kid was missing their Dad . . .right down to the same suggestion about about calling him being made. Beyond that, this is some pretty complex communication going on here. Billy obviously has strong feelings about this and it is pushing her to really use this tool to convey that. I don't care what the doubters say. This is ground breaking stuff in terms of our understanding of animal cognition and language use.
How I agree with you!
It's absolutely fascinating. Poor baby though.
Billi is a Daddy’s girl!! 🤣❤️ Awww why did you cut it off there? Would have loved to have seen Billi’s reaction to Dad on the phone!!
Lively Stones I agree!
because she cried?
@@jeanhopman5659 this and also it's kinda private.
@@jeanhopman5659 IDK I'm sure they both miss him.
Generally Dad appears only as legs or body, no face so showing us an actual video call is very unlikely. Pretty sure Billi wants to see Dad's face on the call, not his legs. 😀
I'm adopting this philosophy for project management! "With the changes you've requested, we should be able to have the new system on line by "later", "later", "later", "later", basically, lots of laters...
Really wonderful how you are communicating with her and if you tell her exactly when he’s coming home such as 2 weeks and 3 days, then two weeks and two days, everyday saying how long it will be she WILL understand you. She wants to know when and later isn’t something we would tell a spouse or friend, we would be exact. As an animal communicator I have learned they DO understand time and they DO understand our words. We need to speak with them as we speak to each other. You have done an amazing job with her. What a great cat!
We live in Australia, just before the pandemic my husband went to the US for a couple of weeks, that was fine. What wasn't fine was him isolating for two weeks in the caravan outside when he got home, the cat just couldn't understand why he wouldn't come in the house. Took ages to forgive him, our cat can really hold a grudge.
Love this story. Cats will tell you how they feel, sometimes just refuse to forgive.
I shouldn’t laugh but I did 😹🥰
Oh I laughed too. But it was heartbreaking hearing him yelling for dad to come inside.
OMG Billi had me crying. Poor thing just doesn't understand right now.
Me too! 😭
She's so hopeful! 🥲
I would have love to have seen her reaction at seeing dad. Thank you ever so much for video calling him!!! My husband does it for my cat when she really misses me and I am away for more than a night x
This baby is so smart trying so hard to communicate❤ i always have my cats like babies they are very sweet❤
"I'm here, and I love you, even if you're mad." The support and encouragement we all need!
if it makes you feel any better Noise All Done might have been about the audio book 😂
Noise all done!! Man, I feel you Billi!
Bro when the cat said “noise all done” and she kept talking he looked at her like “DID I STUTTER”😂
This proves something that people always argue about cats: they *do* love you, they miss you, and if you ever go away they will notice.
They are
Lol! Oh my goodness, she certainly did tell you to shut up! She will have none of your foul words of "later". Daddy's girls need their daddy.
Im pretty sure they just want to know the missing human is ok. When we go away for any length of time i try to explain to my Siamese rhat we will be gone for 1,2,3,4 days or however long .. and i honestly think he has learned certain timeframes. My sister usually takes care of him and he's fine for the most part as long as she calls us every couple of days. But if anyone leaves without him being told ahead of time, or we stay away longer than expected theres a full on meltdown and when we get home he wont leave us alone for at least a week. If my son goes for an unanounced sleepover he will drag each of us to his room and then the front door in panic as if we haven't noticed that he's missing.
I am at the end of a few months abroad, and I already know my cats, who were left with my mother, hate life at the moment. They went into hiding around the house and won't talk to her like they usually do.
Edit: this just came up in my feed again. I got home and within two weeks lost one of them to advanced bowel cancer. Cherish your fur babies.
I wonder if Billi thinks "look Dad later" means you're going to look for Dad later, and she's anxious because she thinks he's missing and you should look for him now.
Look for, as in search, is a completely seperate thing from look. The cat doesn't know about the word "look", so it isn't closer to "look for" than any of the other buttons.
From what we can see the button seems to be pretty directly linked to just look, or see.
Cat logic. Look now
@@Gabriel64468 I think cats do understand certain words.
@@tizzas1232 They can recognize the specific sounds you make that mean one thing yes.
But that's where it ends - your cat might recognize a "sheet" as a bedsheet, but expecting it to then understand that a sheet can also refer to paper is unrealistic.
And that is the exact kind of abstraction you are expecting of a cat here.
It is also pretty similar to how humans learn foreign languages - so many words have multiple meanings, and just because you learned that "Birne" means pear in german doesn't mean you immediately understand that a "Lichtbirne" is a lightbulb.
@@Gabriel64468 Because language is so instinctive for humans, I think we easily forget how messy, complex, and contextual it is. There were people in the 1950s who thought reliable, automated translation by computer was right around the corner. It's 2023 and it still basically sucks unless you're converting between related European languages. What this cat is doing is already incredible. We definitely don't need and shouldn't assume that she understands everything we're telling her exactly the way we meant it.
I had been working overseas for six months. Plane home was delayed hours so I ended up arriving home at midnight. Hubs was working - house was in darkness. I came in through the garage and a little face appeared. It was the big cat - he meowed hello. Before I had chance to speak, I heard my little girl cat that I hand raised galloping through the house. She turned the corner, stopped mid paw, and her eyes grew huge. It was so obvious that I could have cried. She must have thought I was gone and she would never see me again. She slept on top of my chest for the next week. Yes, they do love and miss their person. Felt so much for Billi.
Fascinating!!! You have such patience!! Wishing love and health to Billie and you!! 💚💚💚🙏🏻🌎☮️🌻
Have you ever tried FaceTime with "dad" to see if that will placate Billi? She is so cute, and I never expected a cat to tell someone to be quiet! 😂 Those buttons are amazing. If I ever get an opportunity to get a pet, I'm buying several of those.
"Our beloved retainer is absent. We have repeatedly adjured our servant to seek him out and restore him to us, but we are answered with nothing but excuses and delays. We are most displeased..." #HerMadjesty
You need to do a countdown of days. Show a calendar type visual and cross off the days. I promise you it will help. She clearly has a concept of night and day.
Yes, there was already such a suggestion once, to teach Billi the calendar. It would have to be huge though and with yellow and blue markings, as someone mentioned the cats have poorer eyesight and have partial color blindness.
How about arranging yellow or orange and blue sticky notes on the wall in the shape of the calendar and point at each note saying word "later". And remove one sticky note every day counting one "later" less every day?
@@dwsel Probably shouldn't use "later" to describe each day, since that might confuse her. But since she has a concept of morning/afternoon/night, they might be able to do the same thing using one of those words
@@mikkurzhal7390 Or just call it "day" (no pun intended) like we normally do. I.e. calendar has days, each day = 1x morning + 1x afternoon + 1x night
Love you loops. xD
Looking back at this I'm glad all three of you are together now. Billi loves her dad.
Given that *she's* using repeats to emphasize, she might have been interpreting your intention of "lots of laters (A time unit)" as "Later!!!"
At 3:25 , Bili seems to have learned/figured out that 'look' to also mean 'to see' in the sense that you used "Dad look later(x4)".
"Want" has been established to her (With the later repeated want x5 when you ask her to repeat), so she's repeats saying "See", repeat probably for emphasis ("[I want to] See!!"). And then clarification, Dad being the topic you both are already talking about (an assumed topic) "Where (do I) see [dad]!?!"
Without context, I assume the "Then friend" might be because you've used "Dad look friend" before when she's asked where he is, so she might be asking if he's at a friend's?
With the ask to repeat, the hmmx5, she's emphasizing that she's asking a question about where he is, and how does she see him.
I'm really curious if, when he got back after two weeks, she learned later pressed multiple times is a time unit as opposed to/in addition to emphasis
(In short, this is extremely interesting)
My brand new kitten, only 12 weeks old, can definitely identify people, and their presence. When partner goes to work he paces him and down her side of the bed, insists i open the en suite shower door to prove she is not in there. The other day I told him she was at work and he pulled her work tunic off the dresser (she was in plain clothes that day) as if to say “clearly not”.
He spent the entire day walking between lounge and bedroom crying out from the minute she left to when he heard car pulls up on drive. Then he ran to bed spot and layed down making out he had been patiently expecting her all day.
Omg that's incredible how much information they understand and intuit. That whole "patiently waiting" thing I've definitely witnessed. Our Russian blue will clearly be upset or wanting something then when he knows you're looking he'll lick his leg to deflect and act cool. 😆
Awwwwww, I love this anecdote. 😊
This is the most upset I've ever seen her!
It was a rough week 😹
In case nobody else has told you Kendra, esp Billi, she would be beyond upset if she were parted from you for more than a day or two. Us Mom’s always get the worst deal 😢
The stop, sit down, then look up while pressing’mad’ 😂😂😂😂
this is heart breaking. just give it a hug
I hope her dad watches these and knows he is missed. Billi mad that he isn't home.🤣🤣
I almost think that when she did wantx5 hmm?x5 she was asking what you wanted in exchange for her being able to see dad. She trades cuddles for fan toy, so what more does mom want for dad?
My heart can’t take it!
I think Billie is one of the most beautiful cats EVER! Her EYES are the biggest, most GOURGEOUS I've ever seen!! Shockingly beautiful! Even without her "words", she is one of the most expressive and "impressive" cats I've seen. That TAIL says so much and her ears say the rest! I love your relationship with her her. Every cat and owner should have that good of one! Billi is so cute and funny in your conversations!! 😂❤🤩
It's good Billie can share his feelings. So you would always be around and comfort him no matter what!😢❤