as a Canadian 32 male it seems impossible at this time in life to even consider living alone when as a person I understand that the down payment alone is already so high so long before I even think of a house I gotta think "how much is the downpayment" then I think what's the cost to even "afford" a house and I see minimum is 700k so I mean ya times are hard
My dad got a reality check when I got a job that pays 20$/hr and we couldn’t find an affordable apartment studio for me. He literally told me “I’d rather you live at home and save up instead of sharing a small space with a random person.” Honestly it’s crazy and we’re expected to be okay with it. Like people make it work because we have to, but the overall level of housing comfort is in the pits
It's a weird time to be younger right now. While there are a lot of opportunities out there, there are a lot of factors coalescing at the same time to hamper or outright crush your economic growth potential. - global labour market means more competition than ever - stagnant wage growth - money printing devaluing your dollar - virtually 0% interest rate for decades causing an asset and speculation bubble - oldest and wealthiest generation is pulling out markets and becoming an active drain on everyone else - population collapse across the developed world due to low birth rates - at risk of losing the current global trade system due to the US navy receding ability to patrol sea trade routes Bar some major innovations in technology, we're in a "it's gonna get worse before it gets better" kind of scenario. Luckily we have to the end of this decade or the next before things will likely start to get really questionable. Just wait for boomers to check out of the economy completely, then things will start to get fun.
And honestly who the heck cares what other people say If they want to judge, that’s fine that only means that there’s something they envy about it or they got no life
I know in Pittsburgh just for a Studio apartment it can be around $550 to $750 a month & it varies on the size of the apartment to. Edit: it can be more I was guessing on how hight it is on the high end as I said it all depends on where you live in Pittsburgh. I here that some 1 bedroom are going for like almost 2k a month & again it's all where you movie to in Pittsburgh
People in the 60's and early 70's were able to move out early because of the MASSIVE post-war economic boom. Things hadnt crashed yet, and it was so common over that short time that for them it became the norm. They dont understand that it's effectively impossible to do that, when they could be a store clerk who bags groceries and afford to, but someone who is a contract welder or a highly paid mechanic can barely afford to despite the amount they make per year.
Clearly, you forgot about the gas going non existent in the 70's. Can't drive anywhere. People never moved out on 'their own' - they had roommates. Where is this with family or only on your own?
In the 70s there was still a lot of undeveloped land out there, we are near capacity at our current population, less building regulations, and less "not in my backyard" political roadblocks, also made things easier.
As someone who grew up in the 70's, you are completely wrong. Don't even get me started on the 80's. Look up government cheese lines and the rust belt job market. 😂
The ONLY people I've seen who give others sh1t for living with parents are the ones with outrageously WEALTHY parents, who pay for their lifestyle. So basically, they're actually more dependent on their parents than anyone actually living with their parents are.
I'm 29 and living with my folks and I helped them with bills and stuff cause I ain't a freeloader. Things are too expensive so I consider myself blessed.
Same here. I do all the shopping, paying all the bills, tidy up around the house and honestly.. I feel the next generations are going to have it even worse with finding houses or being able to afford one
The fact that the door is locked and safe, there we go. Learning how to cook and clean from parents, and change a tire. They may have more time now that they r done high school.
I feel like this is also not mentioned but a lot of parents need their kids to live with them as well to help pay the bills. I have a friend right now who is literally looking into buying a house with his mom because alone even his parents can't own a home.
@@TheOMGRamensame and most people I know that grew up in the hood bro. Some people are probably generations away from owning a home it’s pretty sad tbh.
Let's rephrase that. It cost that much to live in a highly populated area. It is so much cheaper to live in a rural area but people are dbags that like to pretend to have a hive mentality and are so full of themselves that they HAVE to live around a fton of people and can't stand dealing with themsrlves on their own in order to pay cheaper bills. Period.
My son lived with me til last year. I didn’t want him renting as he wouldn’t be able to save up for his own home. At 31 he’s now a homeowner, travels, and has money in the bank. People mocked me for having my son at home but their adult kids aren’t faring quite as well.
My 22-year-old daughter moved back home, and I enjoy having her here. She has a 16-year-old brother that likes having her at home too. It's a win-win for everyone.
I don't think people realize that for most of human existence, multigenerational households were the norm edit: First I had no idea this comment was going to become this popular. Few things I'd like to add, the internet has everyone believing that if someone comments "I like blue" then that means they hate every color that isn't blue. Telling me the fucking obvious thing that "not everyone" can do that isn't the gotcha you think it is because I never said that. I thought it was understood but apparently its not, never did I say people HAD to stay with their families. Obviously if you want to live alone, that's perfectly fine too. I simply stated a fact, multigenerational homes used to be norm in the US. It's not that it was neither good or bad, it was just normal. Now capitalism has us believing that it's not normal, and in fact something to be ashamed of when it's not.
I'm surprised this isn't higher. In most countries people stay with their parents unless they get married or have some other extreme circumstance going on, and housing has always been unaffordable for the non-wealthy. It's only Western countries (U.S., Canada, maybe Western Europe) where everyone's expectations have been set so high this is considered a problem.
@@Xiosoranox oh yes, you can clearly see that in Europe too. 20 years ago you could afford a flat as soon as you startet working but nowadays people stay much longer with their parents especially migrants. I moved with with my mom again after my father died bc I was the only child that isn’t married and until that I will stay with my mom.
Exactly man pretty much all of my Latino friends growing up, it wasn't uncommon to have seen them living with their parents as well as their grandparents, and possibly even some aunts, uncles, and cousins. It's basically as tight knit as a family can get, I don't see what the problem is. And that's just one regional example of the many cultures that do this worldwide.
In some places in Asia, you are a disgrace _for_ moving out without your parents because unless you have brothers, you are supposed to live with them until they die. If you have brothers, you can abandon the responsibility to them but you're still considered scum.
I’m 27 and live with my parents. They always say I can stay as long as I want💕 but honestly I love living with them they’re very supportive, wise and loving and I enjoy being able to help out and give back to them.
@@WGPhil-uw5csI used to like him until I realized he was an extremist and also found out he’s a trafficker. And no, women don’t like dating abusive men, abusive men like dating insecure women.
I was widowed early and my 2 grown sons live with me. This allows me to stay in my home and gives me company and helps them not have to pay rent. We share expenses and act more like roommates than parent / child. True be told none of us could afford to live independently.
My friend does this with her mom and brother and it works for them beautifully. I honestly would live back at home to save if I stayed in a healthier mentality when at home. I think having that opportunity, especially in times like this, very comforting and honestly lucky. It's tough out here for sure 😅
Thats wonderful..my grandma, mother, myself and my kids all live together. We have plenty of resources between all of us to live comfortably and have plenty extra to actually enjoy life. I think over the years community living will become way more normalized. It is so freeing
@@aquarius_bb6658 what’s beautiful is that they clearly respect you being a parent to your children and everyone respects each others Space! That’s truly beautiful! Happy for you! ❤
I experienced the EXACT same thing. .i was out at 17 and have never stayed at their home again in the 30 years since I left. I too knew absolutely nothing except for what I figured out on my own. The only regrets I have is that my kids don't have grandparents.
@CrackShot-3 but thats true no matter what one's circumstances are...college degree, 6 figure job, own a home and it can still all come crashing down out of nowhere....however it helps to have that cushion of the things I mentioned above...but one still isn't guaranteed to not face disaster and failure along the way.🙂
THANK YOU!!!!! You helped me explain this to my friends or others when they give me a look when I tell them that my parents are gracious enough to let me stay at home while going to college
Your "friends" forgot to mention they live with other people too. If your married or have roommates, it's the same as living with your family. Either way you need help from someone else to get by.
I mean when I borrow money from my room mates I get them back pretty quick, and when they borrow money from me they do the same. Why's it A bad thing to pick up A brother when he's down? As long as you know them and trust it'll get back to you one way or another there's no reason not to. My whole live has been pick up those around because they'll do it for you when your need it and that has been my strongest asset in life, having a village behinde even though I don't live with family anymore
Dude, rent is just damn insane. It was my parents telling me to just stay the fuck out and keep my damn money in my pocket until I can actually finance my own place.
I'm 51 and my daughter lives at home with us. She's 25. I'm glad she's home and not wondering what she's going to do for food. It's very tough right now. Anyone who tries to shame you should keep their opinions to themselves
More than just tough this is the WEF's plan for a global dependency on welfare and the inability to own things like vehicles and property. Only the top 0.5% of elites will own everything and corporations will sweep up everything and not allow the economy to balance. I'm only hoping the economy collapses so extremely hard this decade that we go into a second great depression that's destroys 90% of businesses to give a huge reset we all need.
@@meengene777wait what world do you leave in get married at the age of 18 dude ewwww how is she 25 and fading gosh your mentality is seriously biased and let me guess your and man in his late thirties or early forties single and has a hard life
Honestly this video is flawed. Because economics changes depending on where you live. So using cold hard numbers can be disproven pretty easy. Rent where i live is generally around 900$ for 1. Jordan should have used percentages. 75k a year where i live is more than enough. But in LA, you would be homeless lmfao. I live on my own with 55k a year. Granted anyone working minimum wage cant live no matter that area.
This is exactly what’s happening I help try to keep the house bills and rent partially paid as me and my dad are the only working people in the house atm with full time jobs and even then with our combined income we still fall behind a majority of the time
This is honestly kinda nice to hear. As someone about to enter adulthood and college and is gonna be living with their parents for awhile it’s reassuring to hear that that’s normal and not something to be ashamed of right now
My mother (80s) and I (50s) both sold our houses and moved in together after my stepfather died. She can't live alone, and I'm her caregiver. She buys groceries, internet/satellite and incidentals, I pay for all utilities and insurances. I have the upstairs and she has the downstairs and we share common areas. It works for us.
He’s so right 😔 I’m a teacher and I have my own place and it’s…. Impossible. I literally put money on a gas station gift card whenever I get a paycheck because I need to make sure I have gas money to get to work.
It's absolutely devastating that teaching, one of the single most important professions in our society, pays so poorly. It breaks my heart every time I think about a coworker who was teaching while homeless for 3 years before he had to give it up and find a profession that paid better.
@@gnarlytothemax 100% true. You could have a 30 year old unmarried son/daughter living in the house. So long as the person is working and helping around the house, we never shame that.
@@savvysavannah as someone with a disable uncle who lives with my grandparents(he has Down syndrome) I would say that that’s a different case. I think the general consensus in this persons comment was that if you are a capable, well-functioning person, you shouldn’t rely fully off of their hard work and hard earned money. If you ara capable of making your own income, and helping around the house, to a certain extent, you would most likely also be capable of living on your own and making it. If they’re allowing you to live in their house and you are able to help, then you should. That’s kinda what I got from it anyways
When I was in my early 20’s my older co workers gave me hell for living at home. Idk why they thought it was their business. Anyway it was just my mom and I. I’d give her money for utilities, I serviced her car myself and paid for the parts, and I’d meal prep for us/bought the groceries. We worked opposite shifts so it was ideal. I’d be at work while she was sleeping during the day and at night I was sleeping while she worked. Couldn’t have asked for better situation. Sunday night we’d grill steaks and have our mini family dinner. Did that until 25 when she wanted to move closer to work. I bought her house for fair market value and she lived there until for free till she found her house. Families are a team and her and i always have had each others back.
I don’t see why this would be seen as something to be ashamed about and yet we are brainwashed to think it is. I wish my family cared about me half as much as you two care for each other. I’m happy that it worked for you!!
been feeling like shit cause I’m 21, unemployed, living with my mom and don’t even have a full license let alone my own car yet, thank you Jordan, this makes me feel a lot better
I agree with this statement. I just hope that the child is being respectful of their parents, saving and contributing to the household in some way, shape, or form! Don't just be a mooch to your parents!
People really need to use this reason more imo. It seems people forgets that their parents are gonna be old, wrinkly, vulnerable and aren't gonna be as fit as they used to. They'll have difficulty in just going to the toilet, take a sh*t and wiped themself. And while it'll be a gross experience, i couldn't just left my parents like that.
@heh.5358 There's nothing funny about that where did you get that from they just have basic humanity and actually had a good parent so that they want to take care of now that she can't take care of herself any longer
I’m from Greece and over here it’s frowned upon to ask your adult kids to move out unless it’s their choice. Even then your parents will be inconsolable and will probably drop by with food every chance they get 😂
@@jamesdailing3198 In my country is couple toxic people that gonna kick out a 15 y.o kid. And when someone is 18 y.o then they are out of the house for good. It's pretty terrible : / Also i agree with you. America is weird asf. Why you walk in your house with boots on? And why your walls are from paper, your houses provide literally zero protection against anything.
@@anaone7923 Oh, don't worry about it. I'm talking about toxic parents. Most of them just kick their kids out when they are at least 18 ^^ Just i saw many pathologic families in my life : l Anyway most of the parents (at least in my region) doesn't care about their childrens at all even if they are 4 y.o I saw many mothers that leaves their daughters outside stores or don't care of them crying or walking 5-13 metres behind the mother who basically sprinting who knows where at this point haha... There are so much evil. Every kid deserves to have parents. But not every parent deserve to have kids.
@@anaone7923 Yeah, in many pathological families it's 15. They sold their daughter to some 50 y.o guy (the worst part is she doesn't mind droping School and earning money like this when she even doesn't finish School) or kick their son out of home many times, not opening door to him even when he knock on the door at 3 a.m. And you know what is the worst? It was my friend which who i never talked with.
I also have to stay with my parents to help with bills as well because the rent rate is rising like every 6 months for us. It’s like everyone thinks we can adjust to a higher payment within a couple months like we’re able to switch jobs.
The worst part is that sometimes not even parents can make it in this economy. My parents immigrated 10 years ago, and right now we can cover basic living expenses with two of us working (my mom can't physically work, I have a master's degree and I still don't get paid enough to support us three). My worry is that if I move out, they won't make enough.
I'm Greek, traditionally you live home with your parents until you get married. Then your parents live with you when they reach an age where they need to be taken care of.
@@aroccoification Well, first I said traditionally, it's not followed as much now, though of course some do, some may for economical reasons today not necessarily for the sake of tradition. I was married at 25, I had no problem living my life despite living home. Now for the last decade, my elderly mother (97) has been living with us. I wouldn't have it any other way. The thought of putting her in a nursing home is out of the question. She doesn't stop me from living my life. Covid stopped me for those 2-3 years of living my life, not my mom.
@@Surftouka Really you never felt restricted having other people around yourself your whole life? It was fine having other peoples opinions and patterns around you forever? Are your parents just really nice or something? Amd the hell does covid have to do with anything? We were all there we saw what happened. My entire family got covid multiple times and we were all just fine. As did the entirety of my 500 person warehouse and they were all fine. Even my infant niece got covid 3 times one of which times she was still in the womb. If it can't even kill infants or a fetus given multiple opertunities it must not have been too bad. Something to take precautions of and be aware sure but nothing to justify shutting down the world econemy for. It's awful our government took advantage of us and made us live like that to make a buck. I'm sorry it was hard on you it was hard on a lot of us.
@@Surftouka In my culture/ country that is the norm too. It is only in America where their media keep hyping about this issues. Forcing their people into so much debt just to keep a roof over their head and be debt slave.
I moved out to another state on my own in 2020, and had to move back to my dads because the rent went from$750 a month to $1300 for a 300 square ft apartment. I tried to make it work on my own but it nearly killed me everyday working two full time jobs at the time.
I moved out eagerly right at 18. Then things went to shit 20 years later, and my family was kind enough to let my husband and I live with them. Shit happens 😂 We live on our own now.
Seriously 😭😭😭😭 I moved out literally the week after graduation when I was freshly 18. Stayed gone for 2 years, came back for 2, gone for another 3 and now I’m back again 🥲 shit happens!
Yeah its always nice when fam has each others backs like that i currently live alone nearly 5 years but know the moment need help my fam has my back thru and thru
I agree 100% it's not easy. Our 34 yr old son just got married in July. He & his wife working full time live in an apartment bc they aren't able to afford a house. Our 20 yr old son lives in our home. We already told him that he can stay as long as he wants & for as long as he needs to. Family takes care of family✝️🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏
I mean it should be a given. Before I was a parent and now as a parent I’ve always said if you aren’t prepared to care for your kids unconditionally then you shouldn’t have them. The love you give comes back to you. I have lots of friends who went no contact with parents who treated them as an inconvenience and they’ll pass away the way they lived.. distanced and disgruntled
A friend of mine is a senior web developer, has a gf who is a nurse, he got a second job as a junior web developer for about 6 months, and they still haven’t gotten a house.
Yes! Amen.. EVERYTHING IS GOING UP...EXCEPT.. your pay...and if you have no savings..you'll never be able to save..it is hell out there...my 24yr old son still lives at home...what can you do?
@@rachaelmarrero8597When you speak about how they'll pass away, are you referring to your friends or their parents that didn't treat their children well?
Bro I love this guy he actually adds something funny to the video and doesn’t just say what just happened on the screen like we don’t have eyes like the OTHER react channels
Last time I mentioned moving out, my mom went around her friend circle and told everyone that I no longer love her. Moving out is not only a financial burden but also a status problem lmao
As an asian, it's a very common thing to live with your parents. You help with the bills while also taking care of your parents. It's a way to show gratitude to your parents. And i believe most parents would love to stay with their kids and their grand kids.
That's what I want to do for my dad. I just want to make money and help him with everything. And I want to see if we can maybe buy the house we sre living in maybe. Then we will fix it a lot unless the trees that I will plant won't grow.
Im from Chile, 28 and still living with my mother. she has been a widow for a few years now so im happy to support her and pay the bills, I love her so that's a plus
Im from Chile and this has been normal for decades here. People cant afford to leave young, so we live with our parents until late age. Im 40, now I could live but I prefer to make company to my mom. I pay for my stuff and help her, I save money, so its a win-win. I have a beach apartment which I rent during the summer and other seasons, so when Im older Im moving there.
I agree, I’m a senior on a fixed income, so my single son who is 35 lives with me to share expenses. I would be homeless if it wasn’t for him. He would be too.
This is one of the many reasons to plan ahead with Life insurance policies to think about the future while you still can get it reasonably cheap, by the way you always need more than what you think you need
I told my adult kids they can live with me for awhile. I know they will eventually want their own space but I want them to feel good financially before they leave.
For me as an Asian its totally normal to stay with your parents even after you got married. We help with the bills and stuff. Plus we had each other company ❤
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP If only Japan means Asia. Have you ever heard about, u know, INDIA, Largest Asian country? Here if someone leaves their parents after marriage, that is shown as a selfish behaviour, we are expected to repay our part to parents after they retire. Unlike Japan's so called 'Collective society ' which only builds up unnecessary expectations and so high self harming rate, India has much better socity.
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP that's the sad part about japan. They are ruled by boomers who don't understand how inflation works, people who don't understand how hard it is to buy a house now. And now they are plagued with abandoned houses with no chance of renovations because costs are just sky-high. Calling these young population "losers" without knowing they are the majority. And now, majority of these people are dead because of suicide from depression and peer pressure, treating them as literal yesman slaves and "you don't have the rights to voice your opinion because I am older!" Senpai kouhai culture crap. Then they wonder why the younguns are not chiosing to have a child when it was already a literal hellhole for them. But sure, just "lol" about the issue. Might as well put emojis like this because they're treated as a joke😂😂😂
I needed to hear this. There is this feeling like I am some loser shut in for living with my parents for so long but in reality doing so would financially ruin me
Don’t let them…you live your life as you see fit…if it is something that works for you and you aren’t a problem to them then you stay there…kids need their parents and parents need their kids…
These the kind of people that have 6 roommates crammed into a 3 bedroom 1 bath to cover the costing of housing without breaking each others pockets, talking ab “ew livin w parents” 😭
Here in the Philippines, its only recently that kids moving out of their homes when they turned 18 be became a norm. For decades, living alongside your parents was actually the best choice, since not only you can save a lot of money, you are also taking care of your parents and their needs. We rarely send our parents and elderlies to old people homes/facilities, because we see it as disrespectful to them, like we're discarding them. You were actually frowned upon by society if you left your parents to fend for themselves, when you are fully capable of supporting them. It is also the norm back then to just establish a family compound, where you will just a build a new home in the same area that your parents home is standing, and as mutiple generations gone by, a small community of people will develop consisting of blood relatives. Not only will it make it a better environment for kids, it also double as a protection since everyone is a family member ready to protect everybody. Theres a lot of benefits to this kind of family set-up, compared to people getting out of their families.
It also goes the other way. Not everyone has parents who are able to support them and who are respectful of boundaries and mental health. Those of us who start off with that already have a leg up, let alone into adulthood. You shouldn’t need to rely on your parents to have a place to live and the necessities, because not every one has that luxury (not because it’s a bad thing, I live with my parents and love it)
@@oliviac295 anything have it's own cost. You can't expect to live in your parents house and not helping them like when you're a little child. If you can't make a living and can't make your parents understand your boundaries, you should just accept it. Nowadays youngster can get mentally ill so easily so i don't think parents that still help you with financial can be that huge burden.
@@Mint_River11 agreed, though I don't think that's quite the point Olivia C was making. My understanding is that she agrees, and was simply adding more perspective in agreement. Because she's right, ignoring the horrible mental state of a lot of genZ (my generation) there are parents who just are not in a position to support there child, and who are genuinely bad for the child's mental health even if not one of the "stereotypical" mentally ill genZ
I was going to say the exact same thing! I’m a mother to 6 kids. There is one I will never allow to live under my roof again. She is the most disrespectful, self centered, selfish, falsely entitled human being! Raising her was a nightmare for us all. The way she played each other against each other was horrible and she would laugh with joy! Her moving out at 19 to go to college was the most peaceful day of mine and my husbands life in a very long time! She has burned that bridge many times over.
I actually needed to hear this, to be honest. I'm 27 years old and I currently live with my mother, grandmother and sister. I contribute to the household by paying bills and taking my grandmother to church, but always felt like a loser because I didn't have my own place at my age. It makes me glad to hear from someone that that's not a bad thing. EDIT: I posted this comment a week ago and I'm still getting so many encouraging messages from people who are in a similar situation and are getting by just fine. I've been feeling down for awhile now, but this has genuinely made me feel alot better about my situation by providing me a different perspective, and I sincerely hope that all you kind people continue to be happy in your lives and spread your positive outlooks to others as you have done for me.
Like as long as your helping out, there really is a problem with it. Like people really need to understand housing is gotten crazy expensive and not everyone is capable of living in their own
I'm a 34 year old lawyer. I'm living with my mom. She charges $200 for rent. It's the smartest thing to do at this point. I represent tenants, and most people don't have what we have. And landlords are shady. Count it as a blessing, not a shame.
It might be getting normalized, but it's not a good situation regardless. That said, it's not really a problem either since you seem to be carrying your load and helping out some. I think we all feel that burden becoming heavier every day we age, so we instinctively know we're not supposedly to be here anymore. However, we might be able to rid ourselves of this guilt by helping to buy the house they're currently paying for. That way, the whole family won't ever worry about working to pay rent. Thus, properly repaying our parents for everything they've done for us. That's how I see it anyway...
This came up when my mother is going on about how it's apparently people's fault for not managing money enough to live and not the endless raising of everything else and the adamant refusal to raise any wage whatsoever and how impossible it is to save even 100 because that 100 goes to 20 items of store brand groceries and even more if you want anything remotely healthy.
Yep, it's normal in my culture but my mom is difficult and I'll have to move out unfortunately. I wouldn't mind paying rent but my dad would be mad if I even suggested it 💀💀
As a single father who cares about his child and ensures they're well kept. This hits harder than a double strike out from a short stop. Edit: Praise be to God.
I've told several people this - stay with your parents as long as you can, especially if y'all have a great relationship and there is no rush for you to move. I do understand if living with your parents is emotionally and mentally draining, then have that plan and your savings goals ready so that you can move as soon as possible. If I didn't get a job out of my home state and if living with my family wasn't emotionally and physically draining, yeah, would have stayed there a little longer.
I'm proud of my 22 year old daughter she works minimum wage and lives with me along with my 15 year old twins (single dad of all 3 for 14 years)...she is working to save so by 25 she has a jump...I'm 42 and appreciate everything she does for me which is just being a beautiful smart young woman...I feel honored she lives with me and feels happy safe and loved here... don't feel bad young men and women it's ok
I’m 21 and have owned my house a little over a year now but I’m literally broke every time the mortgage comes out. If my wife and I weren’t working full time there’s no way we could get by.
this makes me feel a lot better about living with my parents still. i’m 23 and i don’t make a lot of money. no friends to room with. we need this validity so thanks
Same here. 23, no friends or partner, a few failed attempts at a few things, tones of psychological issues, making just enough money to have fun by myself when I want to & throw my part to the bills
35, single dad, still at home. I take care of mom as she wouldnt be able to physically live on her own anymore, and she helps me keep a roof over my kids heads.
23 is still very young. Some people push for young adults to take on too much responsibility. My daughter is 25 and she just got her own place recently
@@TrickyClawmy son was diagnosed with a serious mental health issue hes a teenager and most likely he will continue to live at home with me because im afraid he will go into psychosis again living on his own and wont be able to call for help himself. I see nothing wrong with taking care of each other its family thats what family is about
True. my family is awful. I ask them for help and I get no response for months. As soon as I was able to get myself together all of sudden I get inbox about a eviction and a family member in need of living somewhere to stay to save up money, i told them no cause when i needed help i was ignored. Now I'm the disappointment and the most selfish person of the family cause I won't help them out.
I live with my mom again I was out on the street for a day. I was walking around for hours just living life. When you have a family that makes fun old your mental health or when you tried to commit suicide with a gun in your mouth it just sucks. I’m at a point now where I don’t wanna be around them in any capacity
It's usually older people's saying this and the sad thing is there are numerous studies showing that the cost of living today compared to the cost of living 40 or 50 years ago is almost like day and night. So of course people of the older generation could afford to buy a home and car with just one stay-at-home wife and 2 kids because of the earnings-to-cost of living ratio. Now living off one income barely gets you an apartment in a bad neighborhood!
I'm 25 with my 4yo daughter and we have to live with my parents. I do all the laundry, dishes, and the deep cleaning because my parents can't be getting on their knees to clean the toilets. I also work and pay for daycare. After insurance, food, and daycare alone, I barely have enough money for gas to get to and from work. I'm a general manager for a well known resturant chain. It's absolutely ridiculous
Do you live on either coast or do you live in the Midwest, OP? If you live in California or Oregon, that's one of the first problems. NOBODY can afford to live there unless they're rich.
Ah, the good ol' "Bryan just turned 18 and dad bought him a new Audi." I always loved that. It's up to you to take care of your own financial future. My parents weren't financially responsible and I didn't want the same fate. Not everyone has parents who can teach you how to properly manage/invest your money. Spend the time learning, it's never too late.
He forgot to mention that you could always relocate to a place that actually is affordable. In my neighborhood the houses are over a million dollars- would be a terrible place for someone to try to stretch their wings and fly lol
Im 33, and I still live with my parents.... I run my dads business. Basically I'm the manager for his landscape/GARDENING business. I've been doing this for 5 years now & I've been saving up ever since. Now that I have enough money saved up, and I also worked for a relative of mine in hardscape / construction business for about a year, just about all of 2023, I'll be starting my own company in the new year 2024! I've been going to school to get my license and have the funds to START my own business. My PARENT'S are the only reason i was able to do this!
I do everything myself pay $1600. For rent, $1600 in vehicle payments, + insurance, power,water, pay someone to keep the yard up, 8 credit cards ,and help my daughter with my autistic grand daughter expenses
any place to live, not just stay a week, that's definitely nothing to scoff at. especially if you can relax enough bc you are able to trust that you won't be suddenly kicked out at random. it doesn't have to be great to be grateful.
I always tell younger people that if their parents are helping them by letting their kids still live in their homes then they have it really good. My parents made me move out a few months before my 18th birthday and told me I was never allowed to come back once I was gone. Which sucks because they meant it. I was nearly homeless a few years ago after a seriously bad relationship ended and they wouldn’t let me stay with them for even a few nights. If your parents help you financially in anyway you really do have it good and should respect the rules they put in place. Because they didn’t have to help you and chose to
Living with your parents as an adult is like having roommates that actually care about you and can also provide sage life advice when necessary. Or at least that's my experience.
I don't remember if it was him or someone else but to loosely quote them 'living with your parents is like living with roommates that actually love you'
Nah. I live with my parents bcuz I have to. But they are toxic. Living with them is quite punishing. You are blessed to have great parents. Most people aren't lucky like that. And few things on this world.... drain your hopes... like being dependent... on the very people you wanna escape.
I take it your parents don’t mention that by the time they were your age they already were living in their own. You kind of lucked out. Hustle culture is a cancer.
As someone who was on my own at 17, I will gladly allow my children to live with me as long as they are doing what’s right and Savin money. I will be charging them rent which I will save to give them in a lump sum for their house purchase. I’m gonna be the parent I desperately needed for them.
Damn, that's really sad man, I'm 16 and i can't even imagine imagine being on my own, i have no experience with anything. Kudos to you for staying strong and making it work
I felt this really hard. I ended up squatting in an old property at the age of 18 and didn’t have water or electricity. The only thing I had on me was an alarm clock, batteries for alarm clock, and a portable charger to charge my phone when I got home from work/school. If it says anything about my situation, I was late to work one morning because all of my batteries were stolen by my sister who found out where I was living. That being said, I have roommates and so my rent is cheaper right now- but they’re all leaving and I’ll be alone for the most part. I want to be independent but it’s so hard to be with how high rent prices are. I desperately want to be the father that I never had growing up, so here’s to both of our futures and being the best fathers we can be.
I agree it’s not easy but it’s part of growth , and it’s necessary for so many reasons that I cannot even summarise. It’s very important for an adult to go through that phase.
This is why if you have kids, make sure to have them think as a team. If they get a placed together with their significant others, they can afford a place together while saving money with sharing their stuff.
The ones that judge you the most are people that live with their partner and therefore get to share rent. I can’t afford to pay 1800 rent all by myself.
Exactly this! There are plenty of people in relationships where they couldn’t survive solo. Someone in the comments was saying how they and their husband did it…Like 2 incomes aren’t better than one.
Facts. Between me and my wife she's recently making 24 an hour, I'm at 19 an hour and we just scrape by. Only recently since her pay had gotten bumped up to that 24 we're able to even start saving a tiny bit in month we're talking like maybe 50 to 100 in a month bucks but even that's a stretch, especially when gas likes to jump back up in price. Everything's too goddamn expensive. All my single friends still live at home and I don't blame them in the fucking slightest
Now that I'm older not living home I realized only my fake Broke friends with they broke a** parents who didn't own a house were jealous😅 and worried about me living at home because they didn't have those😅 Options so pay attention people ..some people are just jealous and trying to set you up for failure because They come from generations of broke a** people
Yes. I'm out of the house now, but am so grateful for parents that didn't boot me out when I turned 18. They gave me the grace and time to get myself all the way together.
@@darrellJojo4990hopefully you have a good job or good romemates or a good partner who contributes. If it aint one of those 3, how did you do it and where do you live
@@KumarAnshs right now on my own car note one thousand dollar rent...for my apartment..plus car insurance...I save my money and I have no choice but to to food banks to help me out with food .. because everything is so expensive... I have three jobs I'm making it by but it's not easy either because I hate seeing my bank account hit below 1000.. as long as you can save money cut some loses on spending habits that's all I can do for now...till I can make more money..🤞
Considering your a child till you turn 25 (medically speaking as your brain isn’t fully formed until then), no parent should think of booting their children out just because a law created to enlist more ppl into the military ,says they’re “adults”
@@KumarAnshs l made lemonade when life gave me lemons l bought my dream house and um actually doing great started a car wash business and it's thriving
There's nothing wrong w/ living with your parents as long as you're not bumming off of them. Meaning if you can't afford to give your folks rent help more with chores.
Amen brotha!! I'm a single mom & make less than $30/hour. I live on my own & please believe the only thing that's keeping me afloat is the grace of GOD!!
The pandemic scared people. My son's roommate wouldn't let him back in their apartment without a negative covid test. That was the weekend my son moved back home.
What's crazy is that most adults I know right now that live with parents (my wife and I included) are actually helping keep the parents afloat as much as they are helping us, some of our parents can't afford for their kids to leave at this point, multi generation households are starting to be necessary for all the generations involved.
Exactly. I had a fucking argument with a neck beard over this exact thing. Like I don't live with my mom anymore, but 99% of the reason I lived the first half of my 20s with her was because I covered half of the bills. Like she supported me as much as I supported her
My parents are moving and can’t afford another 2 bedroom i only could afford rent a couple of times but im behind on my car payment i keep getting laid off and just got fired over some bs. I was keeping my mom somewhat sane with my dad😅 Edit: i didnt like that job anyway it was my fourth time working there and it was my only option left bc no other job’s actually called back or responded. I wont be doing anything for a couple weeks and my boyfriend whose older is going to let me stay with him would’ve been homeless.
I feel ya here. I'm pretty sure my parents would be homeless if I didn't pay rent. They keep telling me they're fine without :/ But I know better now that I'm old enough to understand the struggle.
im lucky that i come from a culture where generational households are a normal practice. you're able to support each other so well in many ways. when problems come up, we work on them together, instead of avoiding the situation and running away.
The saddest part of the internet is people talking to groups of people but never giving them group advice. Cost of living is not an individual problem, you want it to go down and wages to go up, you need to tackle it together. The system wants you to approach it alone, because alone you can't put a dent in it.
I agree that lack of actionable steps is the biggest issue with online activism to the point where people are just getting exhausted of hearing about all this nihilistic shit while being given no ways to improve their situation.
lmao this whole paragraph is a whole lot of nothing, what does that even mean? lets assume you overthrow the government then what? are you going to divide it equally? what about more skilled people like farmers? what will you do with the people previously in charge of food production who will be very angry about you stealing from them? you have 1 answer and its the same as the soviets and led to parents eating there children the harsh reality is we have to live in multigenerational houses again like we have been doing up until the last 100 years or so, personally though considering history its hardily that bad we live in the best and safest time in human existence, people need to remember how good they really have it
Honestly I'm super jealous of people who get to live with their parents. My mom kicked me out of her house on my 18th birthday/last day of school and at the time i only had a part time just over minimum wage job. I had to get 2 jobs shortly after just to live in a place with roommates and still ended up going homeless at 21. So if you're an adult and still live at home, be super greatful for what you have. Seriously, go thank your parents _right now_
My mom is 72, retired and has to do odd jobs to make ends meet, she started working on the books since she was 16. I'm 35 and live with my mom both for her and myself. I don't want her life to get more difficult than it has been, nor do I want to make my life more difficult than it could be. We help each other, we share all costs. Having this arrangement allows us to still enjoy life... I''m not ashamed of my situation
It is really strange how in the west this is a situation that some people are “ashamed of” yet this is what is expected in my culture. What is strange is abandoning your parents to live alone.
nope. that means youre such a good daughter. even when you finally marry someone, you can both live with your mom,ans your kids too. thats absolitely normal in other countries.
I’m an extreme introvert and I’m so unbelievably grateful that I got to live on my own from age 19 to age 34. No roommates or partners or family. Just me doing my own thing. And I worked in retail!! That just can’t happen anymore and it makes me so sad. I traveled and had a wonderful life back then. Young people today don’t get that opportunity.
Nice, how much money did you save? How much did it go into your IRA, ROTH? Do you have stocks you invested into? Do you have other assets that are worth money (Property, gold, bonds etc). As long as your parents arent toxic and you are playing them rent or supporting them just stay with them and SAVE money. People dont understand that if you play your cards when you do move out (mid to late 20s) you will be able to buy your own house and even have possible supplement income. Ofcourse if your parents are toxic etc just get out since peace of mind is above all!
It’s nice to hear sympathy from the older generation, rather than the usual “just pick yourself up by the bootstraps” lack of understanding. My hope is that we can fix it, and all generations in the future can live well within their means ❤
My 24 year old daughter has a mortgage and a baby... single mom. She bought a condo about 2 years ago. Granted, she paid $10,000 more for a 2 bedroom condo 2 years ago than I paid for a 4 bedroom house 10 years ago, but she wanted to do it on her own and made it happen.
affording, let alone FINDING housing, is literal hell right now
Agreed.
Facts.
as a Canadian 32 male it seems impossible at this time in life to even consider living alone when as a person I understand that the down payment alone is already so high so long before I even think of a house I gotta think "how much is the downpayment" then I think what's the cost to even "afford" a house and I see minimum is 700k so I mean ya times are hard
Agree with that. Almost all of the houses around me are going for 500k and up.
who moves into a house when they first move out of their parents house?!!!
My dad got a reality check when I got a job that pays 20$/hr and we couldn’t find an affordable apartment studio for me. He literally told me “I’d rather you live at home and save up instead of sharing a small space with a random person.” Honestly it’s crazy and we’re expected to be okay with it. Like people make it work because we have to, but the overall level of housing comfort is in the pits
I lived in a city and had a 350 square foot studio apartment. $2600 a month and I still had to pay extra for utilities.
It's a weird time to be younger right now. While there are a lot of opportunities out there, there are a lot of factors coalescing at the same time to hamper or outright crush your economic growth potential.
- global labour market means more competition than ever
- stagnant wage growth
- money printing devaluing your dollar
- virtually 0% interest rate for decades causing an asset and speculation bubble
- oldest and wealthiest generation is pulling out markets and becoming an active drain on everyone else
- population collapse across the developed world due to low birth rates
- at risk of losing the current global trade system due to the US navy receding ability to patrol sea trade routes
Bar some major innovations in technology, we're in a "it's gonna get worse before it gets better" kind of scenario. Luckily we have to the end of this decade or the next before things will likely start to get really questionable. Just wait for boomers to check out of the economy completely, then things will start to get fun.
Who wants to live with their parents in their 20s anyways? There’s no freedom
And honestly who the heck cares what other people say If they want to judge, that’s fine that only means that there’s something they envy about it or they got no life
I know in Pittsburgh just for a Studio apartment it can be around $550 to $750 a month & it varies on the size of the apartment to.
Edit: it can be more I was guessing on how hight it is on the high end as I said it all depends on where you live in Pittsburgh. I here that some 1 bedroom are going for like almost 2k a month & again it's all where you movie to in Pittsburgh
People in the 60's and early 70's were able to move out early because of the MASSIVE post-war economic boom. Things hadnt crashed yet, and it was so common over that short time that for them it became the norm. They dont understand that it's effectively impossible to do that, when they could be a store clerk who bags groceries and afford to, but someone who is a contract welder or a highly paid mechanic can barely afford to despite the amount they make per year.
Clearly, you forgot about the gas going non existent in the 70's. Can't drive anywhere. People never moved out on 'their own' - they had roommates. Where is this with family or only on your own?
Mortgage rates in early 7s we're 15%
@@davidtaylor4053yeah, thank Carter (peanut man) for that one.
In the 70s there was still a lot of undeveloped land out there, we are near capacity at our current population, less building regulations, and less "not in my backyard" political roadblocks, also made things easier.
As someone who grew up in the 70's, you are completely wrong. Don't even get me started on the 80's. Look up government cheese lines and the rust belt job market. 😂
The ONLY people I've seen who give others sh1t for living with parents are the ones with outrageously WEALTHY parents, who pay for their lifestyle. So basically, they're actually more dependent on their parents than anyone actually living with their parents are.
Nah,a lot of boomers talk like that
I'm 29 and living with my folks and I helped them with bills and stuff cause I ain't a freeloader. Things are too expensive so I consider myself blessed.
I cant see anything wrong with living with loved ones.
Asf !!
Same here. I do all the shopping, paying all the bills, tidy up around the house and honestly.. I feel the next generations are going to have it even worse with finding houses or being able to afford one
Theres absolutely nothing wrong with it. People who shame others for it are just mad they were duped that moving out at 18 is superior. 😂
The fact that the door is locked and safe, there we go. Learning how to cook and clean from parents, and change a tire. They may have more time now that they r done high school.
I feel like this is also not mentioned but a lot of parents need their kids to live with them as well to help pay the bills. I have a friend right now who is literally looking into buying a house with his mom because alone even his parents can't own a home.
This is literally the story of my life right now.
Exactly, you have a lot of people who need to retire but sadly can't do to all sorts of reasons.
@@TheOMGRamensame and most people I know that grew up in the hood bro. Some people are probably generations away from owning a home it’s pretty sad tbh.
I wish luck to the both of them and hope they find what they're looking for. I wish all of you the best.
Let's rephrase that. It cost that much to live in a highly populated area. It is so much cheaper to live in a rural area but people are dbags that like to pretend to have a hive mentality and are so full of themselves that they HAVE to live around a fton of people and can't stand dealing with themsrlves on their own in order to pay cheaper bills. Period.
My son lived with me til last year. I didn’t want him renting as he wouldn’t be able to save up for his own home. At 31 he’s now a homeowner, travels, and has money in the bank.
People mocked me for having my son at home but their adult kids aren’t faring quite as well.
You have a right to be proud, and I hope your son appreciates your support.
@@mamabirdjr3194 oh he does - I think lol.
Thank you for your kind words
@@Irunwithscissors63you are a fantastic parent!
@@enderguardian7443 thank you for your kind words but fantastic may be an exaggeration lol. I am so proud of him though.
You’re a good mom. My mother wanted to charge me half my paycheck as “rent”.
My 22-year-old daughter moved back home, and I enjoy having her here. She has a 16-year-old brother that likes having her at home too. It's a win-win for everyone.
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When families get along well and like spending time with each other, living together is not a second option, it's the best option 🙂
@@samu-chanNo, Bad. What you smirking for?
Wanted to say f you, but I'm just jealous of your healthy family. Wish you the best
@@Captain-J-Amadaeus Hes been watching too much pornhub
If you have a healthy relationship with your parent(s), I feel like staying with them is the smart and practical choice.
Haha..I like the qualifier because it's true
And especially if you're a woman it is a safer option.
was cute this guy looked after his mom and i realised as a teenager thats a way of living too
There comes a time when they *will* need the help, whether they like to admit it or not.
Not only that Im helping financially. Reasonable rent for me and they dont struggle with car payments. Win win
I don't think people realize that for most of human existence, multigenerational households were the norm
edit: First I had no idea this comment was going to become this popular.
Few things I'd like to add, the internet has everyone believing that if someone comments "I like blue" then that means they hate every color that isn't blue. Telling me the fucking obvious thing that "not everyone" can do that isn't the gotcha you think it is because I never said that. I thought it was understood but apparently its not, never did I say people HAD to stay with their families. Obviously if you want to live alone, that's perfectly fine too. I simply stated a fact, multigenerational homes used to be norm in the US. It's not that it was neither good or bad, it was just normal. Now capitalism has us believing that it's not normal, and in fact something to be ashamed of when it's not.
I'm surprised this isn't higher. In most countries people stay with their parents unless they get married or have some other extreme circumstance going on, and housing has always been unaffordable for the non-wealthy. It's only Western countries (U.S., Canada, maybe Western Europe) where everyone's expectations have been set so high this is considered a problem.
@@Xiosoranox yeah my uncle who is almost 50 lives with my grandma, they live in another country do. South America
@@Xiosoranox oh yes, you can clearly see that in Europe too. 20 years ago you could afford a flat as soon as you startet working but nowadays people stay much longer with their parents especially migrants. I moved with with my mom again after my father died bc I was the only child that isn’t married and until that I will stay with my mom.
Exactly man pretty much all of my Latino friends growing up, it wasn't uncommon to have seen them living with their parents as well as their grandparents, and possibly even some aunts, uncles, and cousins.
It's basically as tight knit as a family can get, I don't see what the problem is.
And that's just one regional example of the many cultures that do this worldwide.
In some places in Asia, you are a disgrace _for_ moving out without your parents because unless you have brothers, you are supposed to live with them until they die. If you have brothers, you can abandon the responsibility to them but you're still considered scum.
I’m 27 and live with my parents. They always say I can stay as long as I want💕 but honestly I love living with them they’re very supportive, wise and loving and I enjoy being able to help out and give back to them.
Do you help pay bills that you use
@@brandik1997they said they enjoy being able to help out and give back to them so it sounds like they do
Me too
I pay quite a bit (220USD a week) but also help mum with the mortgage which isn't super easy
@@Airofoil that's how it should be. You're doing a good job.
@@Airofoil you’re doing great. I know they appreciate it
It’s not gonna get better, greed and real estate killed this country
I swear this guy is one of the only consistent role models for young men on social media
There is nothing wrong with tate. Yeah, he says outrageous stuff, but that's kinda the point.
@@cloudyskiees so? Women like dating abusive men.
@@WGPhil-uw5csI used to like him until I realized he was an extremist and also found out he’s a trafficker. And no, women don’t like dating abusive men, abusive men like dating insecure women.
@@WGPhil-uw5csthere are 4 billion females in the world, just stfu thinking you know one of them well enough to come to that conclusion.
@@WGPhil-uw5cs”women like dating abusive men” source: I made it up lmao
I was widowed early and my 2 grown sons live with me.
This allows me to stay in my home and gives me company and helps them not have to pay rent.
We share expenses and act more like roommates than parent / child.
True be told none of us could afford to live independently.
My friend does this with her mom and brother and it works for them beautifully. I honestly would live back at home to save if I stayed in a healthier mentality when at home. I think having that opportunity, especially in times like this, very comforting and honestly lucky. It's tough out here for sure 😅
@@elliet1754 pathetic life basically sorry to say that but US is a pathetic country if you don't have money
Thats wonderful..my grandma, mother, myself and my kids all live together. We have plenty of resources between all of us to live comfortably and have plenty extra to actually enjoy life. I think over the years community living will become way more normalized. It is so freeing
Other cultures do this as a way of life. I think its beautiful.
@@aquarius_bb6658 what’s beautiful is that they clearly respect you being a parent to your children and everyone respects each others Space! That’s truly beautiful! Happy for you! ❤
My parents kicked me out at 17 and taught me no real life skills. I'm still learning this bs.
Isn't that illegal. Ur weren't even 18 yet
@dynamicheatwave9949 through emancipation you can become a "legal adult" at 16
I experienced the EXACT same thing. .i was out at 17 and have never stayed at their home again in the 30 years since I left. I too knew absolutely nothing except for what I figured out on my own. The only regrets I have is that my kids don't have grandparents.
Dad threw all of my stuff in the drive way and told me to leave at 17
@CrackShot-3 but thats true no matter what one's circumstances are...college degree, 6 figure job, own a home and it can still all come crashing down out of nowhere....however it helps to have that cushion of the things I mentioned above...but one still isn't guaranteed to not face disaster and failure along the way.🙂
THANK YOU!!!!! You helped me explain this to my friends or others when they give me a look when I tell them that my parents are gracious enough to let me stay at home while going to college
Yeah no those aren’t real friends if they’re judging ur life choices
Your "friends" forgot to mention they live with other people too. If your married or have roommates, it's the same as living with your family. Either way you need help from someone else to get by.
id rather live with my elderly mother than live with someone who lives like "i'll pay you back next week"
Right? And then next week becomes next month lol
I'm stuck btwn that & under the bridge too, but DAMN, she threatens to shoot me twice a wk & she 85! Ol bat, smh
I mean when I borrow money from my room mates I get them back pretty quick, and when they borrow money from me they do the same. Why's it A bad thing to pick up A brother when he's down? As long as you know them and trust it'll get back to you one way or another there's no reason not to. My whole live has been pick up those around because they'll do it for you when your need it and that has been my strongest asset in life, having a village behinde even though I don't live with family anymore
Dam that hits hard as i had roommates in my old school and they owed me like 2k😂
@@KegaB3 not everyone is like you unfortunately
The moment you said "come here" I knew everything would be fine.
Facts 😂all the time with him
Wtf!!!😅
same
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂…….. u and him stupid(FUNNY) AF
yo nathanlikeschicken fan
its like in times like these you cant afford to be alone
Dude, rent is just damn insane. It was my parents telling me to just stay the fuck out and keep my damn money in my pocket until I can actually finance my own place.
I'm 51 and my daughter lives at home with us. She's 25. I'm glad she's home and not wondering what she's going to do for food. It's very tough right now. Anyone who tries to shame you should keep their opinions to themselves
More than just tough this is the WEF's plan for a global dependency on welfare and the inability to own things like vehicles and property. Only the top 0.5% of elites will own everything and corporations will sweep up everything and not allow the economy to balance. I'm only hoping the economy collapses so extremely hard this decade that we go into a second great depression that's destroys 90% of businesses to give a huge reset we all need.
Facts on facts preach brother
You are a good person 💪😤
AMEN!!
@@meengene777wait what world do you leave in get married at the age of 18 dude ewwww how is she 25 and fading gosh your mentality is seriously biased and let me guess your and man in his late thirties or early forties single and has a hard life
I flipped right from living with my mom because I couldn't afford to move out, to living with my mom because she can't afford me to move out.
Honestly this video is flawed. Because economics changes depending on where you live. So using cold hard numbers can be disproven pretty easy. Rent where i live is generally around 900$ for 1. Jordan should have used percentages. 75k a year where i live is more than enough. But in LA, you would be homeless lmfao. I live on my own with 55k a year. Granted anyone working minimum wage cant live no matter that area.
@@matt59fire nah man I live somewhere where rent is cheap and I still can’t afford to move out
Same.
Lucky I’m 15 and live with my mum for free let’s hope cost of living goes down when I become an adult so I have an easier life
This is exactly what’s happening I help try to keep the house bills and rent partially paid as me and my dad are the only working people in the house atm with full time jobs and even then with our combined income we still fall behind a majority of the time
As long as you are a decent person that gets along with their parents i guarantee they appreciate you living with them forever.
This is honestly kinda nice to hear. As someone about to enter adulthood and college and is gonna be living with their parents for awhile it’s reassuring to hear that that’s normal and not something to be ashamed of right now
I live with my parents and I don’t know how long I have with them. Their hugs when I come home keep me sane and alive.
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This is honestly just the sweetest, melted my heart comment. 🥺 beautiful! ❤️
Rising cost of living is really making Americans realize true happiness lies in human connection, not consumption.
At least you get hugs. All I get is grief.
My mother (80s) and I (50s) both sold our houses and moved in together after my stepfather died. She can't live alone, and I'm her caregiver. She buys groceries, internet/satellite and incidentals, I pay for all utilities and insurances. I have the upstairs and she has the downstairs and we share common areas. It works for us.
But you have no sex life.
Sorry about your stepdad. I’m glad you and your mom found a situation that works for both of you
@@bubbacallingI bet you do😂
@@bubbacallingYou don't know what's going on upstairs lol
well I don't live with mummy like you guys, so..@@Penguinverse
He’s so right 😔 I’m a teacher and I have my own place and it’s…. Impossible. I literally put money on a gas station gift card whenever I get a paycheck because I need to make sure I have gas money to get to work.
It's absolutely devastating that teaching, one of the single most important professions in our society, pays so poorly. It breaks my heart every time I think about a coworker who was teaching while homeless for 3 years before he had to give it up and find a profession that paid better.
Teachers don't get paid poorly
As a Latino, where our family unit is strong, I completely agree.
Latin and Asian cultures are family oriented. Extended families living together is fairly common and not looked down upon.
@@gnarlytothemax 100% true. You could have a 30 year old unmarried son/daughter living in the house. So long as the person is working and helping around the house, we never shame that.
It's okay to live with your parents, as long as you can help them out with housework/ rent.
I was about to say the same thing.
I want to stay with my mom and dad and brothers cause I get anxiety being separated from them
Where are you supposed to live if you can't help them out? Disabled people exist.
@@savvysavannah just because your disabled doesn't mean you cant help, unless you cant move. you still should have responsibility's.
@@savvysavannah as someone with a disable uncle who lives with my grandparents(he has Down syndrome) I would say that that’s a different case. I think the general consensus in this persons comment was that if you are a capable, well-functioning person, you shouldn’t rely fully off of their hard work and hard earned money. If you ara capable of making your own income, and helping around the house, to a certain extent, you would most likely also be capable of living on your own and making it. If they’re allowing you to live in their house and you are able to help, then you should. That’s kinda what I got from it anyways
When I was in my early 20’s my older co workers gave me hell for living at home. Idk why they thought it was their business. Anyway it was just my mom and I. I’d give her money for utilities, I serviced her car myself and paid for the parts, and I’d meal prep for us/bought the groceries. We worked opposite shifts so it was ideal. I’d be at work while she was sleeping during the day and at night I was sleeping while she worked. Couldn’t have asked for better situation. Sunday night we’d grill steaks and have our mini family dinner. Did that until 25 when she wanted to move closer to work. I bought her house for fair market value and she lived there until for free till she found her house.
Families are a team and her and i always have had each others back.
I love this story so much… I honestly wish more people understood this.
I don’t see why this would be seen as something to be ashamed about and yet we are brainwashed to think it is. I wish my family cared about me half as much as you two care for each other. I’m happy that it worked for you!!
Awe, I love this
I’m really glad it worked out for you guys ❤
Aw i love this soo much!
been feeling like shit cause I’m 21, unemployed, living with my mom and don’t even have a full license let alone my own car yet, thank you Jordan, this makes me feel a lot better
I agree with this statement. I just hope that the child is being respectful of their parents, saving and contributing to the household in some way, shape, or form! Don't just be a mooch to your parents!
I live with my elderly mother and i take care of her. Idc if i get made fun of for that. I take pride in it
People really need to use this reason more imo.
It seems people forgets that their parents are gonna be old, wrinkly, vulnerable and aren't gonna be as fit as they used to. They'll have difficulty in just going to the toilet, take a sh*t and wiped themself. And while it'll be a gross experience, i couldn't just left my parents like that.
❤️ be proud 💯
Getting fun of for that is for sick people XD be safe
Uh..ok? I mean what's funny about you taking care of the person who gave birth to you and literally changed your diapers when you were a kid?
@heh.5358 There's nothing funny about that where did you get that from they just have basic humanity and actually had a good parent so that they want to take care of now that she can't take care of herself any longer
I’m from Greece and over here it’s frowned upon to ask your adult kids to move out unless it’s their choice. Even then your parents will be inconsolable and will probably drop by with food every chance they get 😂
Fr I think the USA is like the only country kicking kids out as soon as they turn 18. And if they don't they will probably decide to move out anyway
@@jamesdailing3198 In my country is couple toxic people that gonna kick out a 15 y.o kid.
And when someone is 18 y.o then they are out of the house for good.
It's pretty terrible : /
Also i agree with you.
America is weird asf.
Why you walk in your house with boots on?
And why your walls are from paper, your houses provide literally zero protection against anything.
@@alternatives9254 15? Where are you from ?
@@anaone7923 Oh, don't worry about it.
I'm talking about toxic parents.
Most of them just kick their kids out when they are at least 18 ^^
Just i saw many pathologic families in my life : l
Anyway most of the parents (at least in my region) doesn't care about their childrens at all even if they are 4 y.o
I saw many mothers that leaves their daughters outside stores or don't care of them crying or walking 5-13 metres behind the mother who basically sprinting who knows where at this point haha...
There are so much evil.
Every kid deserves to have parents.
But not every parent deserve to have kids.
@@anaone7923 Yeah, in many pathological families it's 15.
They sold their daughter to some 50 y.o guy (the worst part is she doesn't mind droping School and earning money like this when she even doesn't finish School) or kick their son out of home many times, not opening door to him even when he knock on the door at 3 a.m.
And you know what is the worst?
It was my friend which who i never talked with.
I also have to stay with my parents to help with bills as well because the rent rate is rising like every 6 months for us. It’s like everyone thinks we can adjust to a higher payment within a couple months like we’re able to switch jobs.
The worst part is that sometimes not even parents can make it in this economy. My parents immigrated 10 years ago, and right now we can cover basic living expenses with two of us working (my mom can't physically work, I have a master's degree and I still don't get paid enough to support us three). My worry is that if I move out, they won't make enough.
As someone in their early 30s, I wish more people understood this in the dating market lol
I agree! I feel people look down on me because I'm still at home with my family. But I'm happy being here!! I'm saving so much money hahaha
@@salgado0819 no offense but you are a woman. For men it's totally different
@@erickariuki6842 yes i do get that. Unfortunately it is the truth. I am the type to not care about that honestly, but a lot of woman do
I know your pain man. & in japan i believe that you take care of your parents when they get older instead of send them to a nursing home.
@@derekchubeck4428 And they have a very low birthrate.
I'm Greek, traditionally you live home with your parents until you get married. Then your parents live with you when they reach an age where they need to be taken care of.
That is how it should be everywhere. It's lovely.
That sounds horrifying... you just never get to be by yourself and do what you want to your entire life? Is that comfortable for you?
@@aroccoification Well, first I said traditionally, it's not followed as much now, though of course some do, some may for economical reasons today not necessarily for the sake of tradition. I was married at 25, I had no problem living my life despite living home. Now for the last decade, my elderly mother (97) has been living with us. I wouldn't have it any other way. The thought of putting her in a nursing home is out of the question. She doesn't stop me from living my life. Covid stopped me for those 2-3 years of living my life, not my mom.
@@Surftouka Really you never felt restricted having other people around yourself your whole life? It was fine having other peoples opinions and patterns around you forever? Are your parents just really nice or something?
Amd the hell does covid have to do with anything? We were all there we saw what happened. My entire family got covid multiple times and we were all just fine. As did the entirety of my 500 person warehouse and they were all fine. Even my infant niece got covid 3 times one of which times she was still in the womb. If it can't even kill infants or a fetus given multiple opertunities it must not have been too bad. Something to take precautions of and be aware sure but nothing to justify shutting down the world econemy for. It's awful our government took advantage of us and made us live like that to make a buck. I'm sorry it was hard on you it was hard on a lot of us.
@@Surftouka In my culture/ country that is the norm too. It is only in America where their media keep hyping about this issues. Forcing their people into so much debt just to keep a roof over their head and be debt slave.
I'm paid 48k and live on my own with a dog. All bills paid. Still buying fun stuff too.
I moved out to another state on my own in 2020, and had to move back to my dads because the rent went from$750 a month to $1300 for a 300 square ft apartment. I tried to make it work on my own but it nearly killed me everyday working two full time jobs at the time.
❤
Almost 16k a year to live in a 300 square foot studio... That's above the poverty line...just for rent.
I moved out eagerly right at 18. Then things went to shit 20 years later, and my family was kind enough to let my husband and I live with them. Shit happens 😂 We live on our own now.
Seriously 😭😭😭😭 I moved out literally the week after graduation when I was freshly 18. Stayed gone for 2 years, came back for 2, gone for another 3 and now I’m back again 🥲 shit happens!
Yeah its always nice when fam has each others backs like that i currently live alone nearly 5 years but know the moment need help my fam has my back thru and thru
No shame. Happy y'all were able to get help. It's rough out here!
@kumikor3392 to me what helps is seeing the positive in each negative to get thru the rough times
@@Theintrovertednow yes, some people think that can be delusional, but it really does help ❤️
I agree 100% it's not easy. Our 34 yr old son just got married in July. He & his wife working full time live in an apartment bc they aren't able to afford a house. Our 20 yr old son lives in our home. We already told him that he can stay as long as he wants & for as long as he needs to. Family takes care of family✝️🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏
Amen!! Wish you and your family the best! ❤
I mean it should be a given. Before I was a parent and now as a parent I’ve always said if you aren’t prepared to care for your kids unconditionally then you shouldn’t have them. The love you give comes back to you. I have lots of friends who went no contact with parents who treated them as an inconvenience and they’ll pass away the way they lived.. distanced and disgruntled
A friend of mine is a senior web developer, has a gf who is a nurse, he got a second job as a junior web developer for about 6 months, and they still haven’t gotten a house.
Yes! Amen.. EVERYTHING IS GOING UP...EXCEPT.. your pay...and if you have no savings..you'll never be able to save..it is hell out there...my 24yr old son still lives at home...what can you do?
@@rachaelmarrero8597When you speak about how they'll pass away, are you referring to your friends or their parents that didn't treat their children well?
As a person who came back to their parents house, I needed to hear that.
Bro I love this guy he actually adds something funny to the video and doesn’t just say what just happened on the screen like we don’t have eyes like the OTHER react channels
Last time I mentioned moving out, my mom went around her friend circle and told everyone that I no longer love her. Moving out is not only a financial burden but also a status problem lmao
Not to diagnose your mom, but she sounds fuckin wild.
Aww lol
😂 just cause you wanted to move out she thought you didn’t love her lol
Oof... This is a common story over on r/raisedbynarcissists I'm so sorry 🥲
Sounds like an Asian problem 😅
As an asian, it's a very common thing to live with your parents.
You help with the bills while also taking care of your parents.
It's a way to show gratitude to your parents.
And i believe most parents would love to stay with their kids and their grand kids.
That is the correct way as a social being
Thank God I'm Asian
That's what I want to do for my dad. I just want to make money and help him with everything. And I want to see if we can maybe buy the house we sre living in maybe. Then we will fix it a lot unless the trees that I will plant won't grow.
Im from Chile, 28 and still living with my mother. she has been a widow for a few years now so im happy to support her and pay the bills, I love her so that's a plus
Same thing in Latin America. You can live with your parents as long as you'd like, as long as you contribute in some way.
36 and still living at home with parents and no shame but I help them out and don't care what others think.
Im from Chile and this has been normal for decades here. People cant afford to leave young, so we live with our parents until late age.
Im 40, now I could live but I prefer to make company to my mom. I pay for my stuff and help her, I save money, so its a win-win. I have a beach apartment which I rent during the summer and other seasons, so when Im older Im moving there.
I agree, I’m a senior on a fixed income, so my single son who is 35 lives with me to share expenses. I would be homeless if it wasn’t for him. He would be too.
This is one of the many reasons to plan ahead with Life insurance policies to think about the future while you still can get it reasonably cheap, by the way you always need more than what you think you need
Awww bless your heart mama! ❤
Sounds like you need to find a man and maybe help your son move out so he can have a chance in becoming one himself
@@andrewhall9851 The fact that they support each other doesn't make the son "not a man." Everyone's circumstance is different.
@@Beautifullytragic6 yeah maybe in fairy tales
I'm 58 and wish my folks were still around to live with.
I get it! I am 24 and i would do anything to live with my folks for even a day again!!
I'm 52 and no one to fall on for help or even ask
I second that
this is the other side of the story people don't talk about as much.
I am 36 and I would do almost anything for just one day with them.
I live in Finland, I’m a (poor) student and I still can get by on around 18000$ a year. I’m so glad I left the US.
I told my adult kids they can live with me for awhile. I know they will eventually want their own space but I want them to feel good financially before they leave.
For me as an Asian its totally normal to stay with your parents even after you got married. We help with the bills and stuff. Plus we had each other company ❤
i dont know which part of asia are you from but in japan youre considered a loser if you cant get your own house.
We just dont tell you lol
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP If only Japan means Asia.
Have you ever heard about, u know, INDIA, Largest Asian country?
Here if someone leaves their parents after marriage, that is shown as a selfish behaviour, we are expected to repay our part to parents after they retire. Unlike Japan's so called 'Collective society ' which only builds up unnecessary expectations and so high self harming rate, India has much better socity.
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP that's the sad part about japan. They are ruled by boomers who don't understand how inflation works, people who don't understand how hard it is to buy a house now. And now they are plagued with abandoned houses with no chance of renovations because costs are just sky-high. Calling these young population "losers" without knowing they are the majority. And now, majority of these people are dead because of suicide from depression and peer pressure, treating them as literal yesman slaves and "you don't have the rights to voice your opinion because I am older!" Senpai kouhai culture crap. Then they wonder why the younguns are not chiosing to have a child when it was already a literal hellhole for them. But sure, just "lol" about the issue. Might as well put emojis like this because they're treated as a joke😂😂😂
@@tinahalder8416 looks like someone hit a nerve...
Damn son
I needed to hear this. There is this feeling like I am some loser shut in for living with my parents for so long but in reality doing so would financially ruin me
Don’t let them…you live your life as you see fit…if it is something that works for you and you aren’t a problem to them then you stay there…kids need their parents and parents need their kids…
You are not alone. Don't worry 😏
Nah you def not alone on this one im 25 still with my fam
If you love your folks, I see no reason whatsoever to feel like a loser. on the contrary, you're a winner.
No, you're not a loser. You're just smart.
These the kind of people that have 6 roommates crammed into a 3 bedroom 1 bath to cover the costing of housing without breaking each others pockets, talking ab “ew livin w parents” 😭
Here in the Philippines, its only recently that kids moving out of their homes when they turned 18 be became a norm. For decades, living alongside your parents was actually the best choice, since not only you can save a lot of money, you are also taking care of your parents and their needs. We rarely send our parents and elderlies to old people homes/facilities, because we see it as disrespectful to them, like we're discarding them. You were actually frowned upon by society if you left your parents to fend for themselves, when you are fully capable of supporting them. It is also the norm back then to just establish a family compound, where you will just a build a new home in the same area that your parents home is standing, and as mutiple generations gone by, a small community of people will develop consisting of blood relatives. Not only will it make it a better environment for kids, it also double as a protection since everyone is a family member ready to protect everybody.
Theres a lot of benefits to this kind of family set-up, compared to people getting out of their families.
As long as you are welcomed by your parents, are respectful, and contribute to the household you're all good.
It also goes the other way. Not everyone has parents who are able to support them and who are respectful of boundaries and mental health. Those of us who start off with that already have a leg up, let alone into adulthood. You shouldn’t need to rely on your parents to have a place to live and the necessities, because not every one has that luxury (not because it’s a bad thing, I live with my parents and love it)
@@oliviac295 anything have it's own cost. You can't expect to live in your parents house and not helping them like when you're a little child. If you can't make a living and can't make your parents understand your boundaries, you should just accept it. Nowadays youngster can get mentally ill so easily so i don't think parents that still help you with financial can be that huge burden.
@@Mint_River11 agreed, though I don't think that's quite the point Olivia C was making. My understanding is that she agrees, and was simply adding more perspective in agreement. Because she's right, ignoring the horrible mental state of a lot of genZ (my generation) there are parents who just are not in a position to support there child, and who are genuinely bad for the child's mental health even if not one of the "stereotypical" mentally ill genZ
Gotta be welcomed😂
look, we love each other, but it's a meshable and unmeshable thing.
I was going to say the exact same thing! I’m a mother to 6 kids. There is one I will never allow to live under my roof again. She is the most disrespectful, self centered, selfish, falsely entitled human being! Raising her was a nightmare for us all. The way she played each other against each other was horrible and she would laugh with joy! Her moving out at 19 to go to college was the most peaceful day of mine and my husbands life in a very long time! She has burned that bridge many times over.
I actually needed to hear this, to be honest. I'm 27 years old and I currently live with my mother, grandmother and sister. I contribute to the household by paying bills and taking my grandmother to church, but always felt like a loser because I didn't have my own place at my age. It makes me glad to hear from someone that that's not a bad thing.
EDIT: I posted this comment a week ago and I'm still getting so many encouraging messages from people who are in a similar situation and are getting by just fine. I've been feeling down for awhile now, but this has genuinely made me feel alot better about my situation by providing me a different perspective, and I sincerely hope that all you kind people continue to be happy in your lives and spread your positive outlooks to others as you have done for me.
@walter baldwin I do, yes
Like as long as your helping out, there really is a problem with it. Like people really need to understand housing is gotten crazy expensive and not everyone is capable of living in their own
I'm a 34 year old lawyer. I'm living with my mom. She charges $200 for rent. It's the smartest thing to do at this point.
I represent tenants, and most people don't have what we have. And landlords are shady. Count it as a blessing, not a shame.
You are normal. Don't feel bad about it.
It might be getting normalized, but it's not a good situation regardless. That said, it's not really a problem either since you seem to be carrying your load and helping out some. I think we all feel that burden becoming heavier every day we age, so we instinctively know we're not supposedly to be here anymore. However, we might be able to rid ourselves of this guilt by helping to buy the house they're currently paying for. That way, the whole family won't ever worry about working to pay rent. Thus, properly repaying our parents for everything they've done for us. That's how I see it anyway...
This came up when my mother is going on about how it's apparently people's fault for not managing money enough to live and not the endless raising of everything else and the adamant refusal to raise any wage whatsoever and how impossible it is to save even 100 because that 100 goes to 20 items of store brand groceries and even more if you want anything remotely healthy.
Thank you for saying this, rent is so high and it's one of the main reasons i don't have my own place yet :')
You are blessed if you have parents or relatives that you can live with.
Say that !!!!!!
My brother took me in when I filed Chap 11 back in 06.
@@mattsnyderARTIST that mfk’er loves you! Make sure to get him a nice Christmas present 🎁
Yep, it's normal in my culture but my mom is difficult and I'll have to move out unfortunately. I wouldn't mind paying rent but my dad would be mad if I even suggested it 💀💀
Out at 16 club 😑
As a single father who cares about his child and ensures they're well kept. This hits harder than a double strike out from a short stop.
Edit: Praise be to God.
Damn, that was a "Dad" metaphor if I've ever seen one.
It's gonna hit harder when the kid grows up. Unless he's already grown up
As a single mom of 2 kids, i completely agree.
Amen all the way coming from the daughter of a single mom
Good metaphor
😂😂I needed this video so bad thanks so much Jordan😂😂 Gen-Z never let u down with a laughter 😂😂
I've told several people this - stay with your parents as long as you can, especially if y'all have a great relationship and there is no rush for you to move. I do understand if living with your parents is emotionally and mentally draining, then have that plan and your savings goals ready so that you can move as soon as possible. If I didn't get a job out of my home state and if living with my family wasn't emotionally and physically draining, yeah, would have stayed there a little longer.
I'm proud of my 22 year old daughter she works minimum wage and lives with me along with my 15 year old twins (single dad of all 3 for 14 years)...she is working to save so by 25 she has a jump...I'm 42 and appreciate everything she does for me which is just being a beautiful smart young woman...I feel honored she lives with me and feels happy safe and loved here... don't feel bad young men and women it's ok
You sound like you have a great family 💕
@@ShimmerBodyCream thank you 🙂
Same here
Thank you thank you thank you
Good job🎉❤
I needed to hear this... thank you. I'm 25, working 6 days a week fulltime and can't afford to move out even though I'm wokring in a moving service...
In my country people say “being broke is not a sin”. You’re working hard, and I’ve deep respect for you, especially when you’re only 25
EXACT situation - 25, full time, moving out is a distant thought.
I’m 21 and have owned my house a little over a year now but I’m literally broke every time the mortgage comes out. If my wife and I weren’t working full time there’s no way we could get by.
I guide others to a treasure I cannot possess.
It's way cheaper down south Virginia Alabama etc ect
My heart goes out to everyone in this financial struggle. I pray God fixes this and we are able to see some sort of relief very soon.
Ain't that the truth!
I look forward to Jordan saying “come here”😂😂 Makes me feel likes he’s talking to me.
this makes me feel a lot better about living with my parents still. i’m 23 and i don’t make a lot of money. no friends to room with. we need this validity so thanks
28 make a lot of money as a nurse an still live with my dad … tf that’s one less expense I get to save
Same here. 23, no friends or partner, a few failed attempts at a few things, tones of psychological issues, making just enough money to have fun by myself when I want to & throw my part to the bills
35, single dad, still at home. I take care of mom as she wouldnt be able to physically live on her own anymore, and she helps me keep a roof over my kids heads.
23 is still very young. Some people push for young adults to take on too much responsibility. My daughter is 25 and she just got her own place recently
@@TrickyClawmy son was diagnosed with a serious mental health issue hes a teenager and most likely he will continue to live at home with me because im afraid he will go into psychosis again living on his own and wont be able to call for help himself. I see nothing wrong with taking care of each other its family thats what family is about
Unfortunately some of us have awful family and don’t really have a choice except to figure it out
True. my family is awful. I ask them for help and I get no response for months. As soon as I was able to get myself together all of sudden I get inbox about a eviction and a family member in need of living somewhere to stay to save up money, i told them no cause when i needed help i was ignored. Now I'm the disappointment and the most selfish person of the family cause I won't help them out.
@@sapphire9210-un3ho well continue to be the most selfish person to them. I don’t blame you at all.
car life 😪
I live with my mom again I was out on the street for a day. I was walking around for hours just living life. When you have a family that makes fun old your mental health or when you tried to commit suicide with a gun in your mouth it just sucks. I’m at a point now where I don’t wanna be around them in any capacity
sucks that your family is awful
Family is community, community is how you survive. Do it together.
It's usually older people's saying this and the sad thing is there are numerous studies showing that the cost of living today compared to the cost of living 40 or 50 years ago is almost like day and night.
So of course people of the older generation could afford to buy a home and car with just one stay-at-home wife and 2 kids because of the earnings-to-cost of living ratio. Now living off one income barely gets you an apartment in a bad neighborhood!
I'm 25 with my 4yo daughter and we have to live with my parents. I do all the laundry, dishes, and the deep cleaning because my parents can't be getting on their knees to clean the toilets. I also work and pay for daycare. After insurance, food, and daycare alone, I barely have enough money for gas to get to and from work. I'm a general manager for a well known resturant chain.
It's absolutely ridiculous
Mcdonalds?
💪🏾💪🏾you're doing geat
I work at McDonald's and I don't make 20 dollars an hour and I have my own place with my wife and I do just fine. I make about $30,000 a year
that's unfortunate u had intercourse at 20 years old
Do you live on either coast or do you live in the Midwest, OP?
If you live in California or Oregon, that's one of the first problems.
NOBODY can afford to live there unless they're rich.
As someone is who is surrounded by affluent American friends while not being one myself, I really needed to hear this.
Ah, the good ol' "Bryan just turned 18 and dad bought him a new Audi." I always loved that. It's up to you to take care of your own financial future. My parents weren't financially responsible and I didn't want the same fate.
Not everyone has parents who can teach you how to properly manage/invest your money. Spend the time learning, it's never too late.
Jus sorround yourself with people from other cultures. It is common and totally normal to live with your parents in most cultures around the world.
He forgot to mention that you could always relocate to a place that actually is affordable. In my neighborhood the houses are over a million dollars- would be a terrible place for someone to try to stretch their wings and fly lol
420
@@MiVidaBellisima Have any places in mind?
Im 33, and I still live with my parents.... I run my dads business. Basically I'm the manager for his landscape/GARDENING business. I've been doing this for 5 years now & I've been saving up ever since. Now that I have enough money saved up, and I also worked for a relative of mine in hardscape / construction business for about a year, just about all of 2023, I'll be starting my own company in the new year 2024! I've been going to school to get my license and have the funds to START my own business. My PARENT'S are the only reason i was able to do this!
What a hard working man 👏🏻 you're really cute btw! Idc if you live with your parents still, I'd date you. No shame!
I do everything myself pay $1600. For rent, $1600 in vehicle payments, + insurance, power,water, pay someone to keep the yard up, 8 credit cards ,and help my daughter with my autistic grand daughter expenses
If you even have parents with a stable living situation that can help consider it a blessing. Nothing to be ashamed about.
any place to live, not just stay a week, that's definitely nothing to scoff at. especially if you can relax enough bc you are able to trust that you won't be suddenly kicked out at random. it doesn't have to be great to be grateful.
That “car issues” sounded personal 😂
Car issues always are. 😂
Car issues are the most expensive inconvenience ever
I always tell younger people that if their parents are helping them by letting their kids still live in their homes then they have it really good. My parents made me move out a few months before my 18th birthday and told me I was never allowed to come back once I was gone. Which sucks because they meant it. I was nearly homeless a few years ago after a seriously bad relationship ended and they wouldn’t let me stay with them for even a few nights. If your parents help you financially in anyway you really do have it good and should respect the rules they put in place. Because they didn’t have to help you and chose to
I'm sorry that happen to you.
I don't mind people living with their parents. As long as they are helpful and respectful
U need to be the one respectful under THEIR roof.
Living with your parents as an adult is like having roommates that actually care about you and can also provide sage life advice when necessary. Or at least that's my experience.
I don't remember if it was him or someone else but to loosely quote them 'living with your parents is like living with roommates that actually love you'
This…my mama is the best.
Nah. I live with my parents bcuz I have to. But they are toxic. Living with them is quite punishing. You are blessed to have great parents. Most people aren't lucky like that. And few things on this world.... drain your hopes... like being dependent... on the very people you wanna escape.
I take it your parents don’t mention that by the time they were your age they already were living in their own. You kind of lucked out. Hustle culture is a cancer.
@@Luckyjem27 sorry to hear that man. Hope your situation improves soon.
As someone who was on my own at 17, I will gladly allow my children to live with me as long as they are doing what’s right and Savin money. I will be charging them rent which I will save to give them in a lump sum for their house purchase. I’m gonna be the parent I desperately needed for them.
Damn, that's really sad man, I'm 16 and i can't even imagine imagine being on my own, i have no experience with anything. Kudos to you for staying strong and making it work
A+ parenting!
I felt this really hard. I ended up squatting in an old property at the age of 18 and didn’t have water or electricity. The only thing I had on me was an alarm clock, batteries for alarm clock, and a portable charger to charge my phone when I got home from work/school.
If it says anything about my situation, I was late to work one morning because all of my batteries were stolen by my sister who found out where I was living.
That being said, I have roommates and so my rent is cheaper right now- but they’re all leaving and I’ll be alone for the most part. I want to be independent but it’s so hard to be with how high rent prices are.
I desperately want to be the father that I never had growing up, so here’s to both of our futures and being the best fathers we can be.
@@Reliztik82 why would you go squatting at 18?
@@classtilton871 My living situation before squatting was worse.
Trust me, I don’t regret squatting but it was the last thing I wanted to do.
I agree it’s not easy but it’s part of growth , and it’s necessary for so many reasons that I cannot even summarise. It’s very important for an adult to go through that phase.
This is why if you have kids, make sure to have them think as a team. If they get a placed together with their significant others, they can afford a place together while saving money with sharing their stuff.
The ones that judge you the most are people that live with their partner and therefore get to share rent. I can’t afford to pay 1800 rent all by myself.
Exactly this! There are plenty of people in relationships where they couldn’t survive solo. Someone in the comments was saying how they and their husband did it…Like 2 incomes aren’t better than one.
Yea, nah i say theyre just too stupid to remember they had to start without 40 yrs work exp.....
Facts. Between me and my wife she's recently making 24 an hour, I'm at 19 an hour and we just scrape by. Only recently since her pay had gotten bumped up to that 24 we're able to even start saving a tiny bit in month we're talking like maybe 50 to 100 in a month bucks but even that's a stretch, especially when gas likes to jump back up in price. Everything's too goddamn expensive. All my single friends still live at home and I don't blame them in the fucking slightest
Now that I'm older not living home I realized only my fake Broke friends with they broke a** parents who didn't own a house were jealous😅 and worried about me living at home because they didn't have those😅 Options so pay attention people ..some people are just jealous and trying to set you up for failure because They come from generations of broke a** people
@@starrfoxkid64 24 is quite a lot though
Yes. I'm out of the house now, but am so grateful for parents that didn't boot me out when I turned 18. They gave me the grace and time to get myself all the way together.
Damn.😂 The moment l turned 18 my parents where asking when um planning to move out... been out ever since
@@darrellJojo4990hopefully you have a good job or good romemates or a good partner who contributes. If it aint one of those 3, how did you do it and where do you live
@@KumarAnshs right now on my own car note one thousand dollar rent...for my apartment..plus car insurance...I save my money and I have no choice but to to food banks to help me out with food .. because everything is so expensive... I have three jobs I'm making it by but it's not easy either because I hate seeing my bank account hit below 1000.. as long as you can save money cut some loses on spending habits that's all I can do for now...till I can make more money..🤞
Considering your a child till you turn 25 (medically speaking as your brain isn’t fully formed until then), no parent should think of booting their children out just because a law created to enlist more ppl into the military ,says they’re “adults”
@@KumarAnshs l made lemonade when life gave me lemons l bought my dream house and um actually doing great started a car wash business and it's thriving
There's nothing wrong w/ living with your parents as long as you're not bumming off of them. Meaning if you can't afford to give your folks rent help more with chores.
Amen brotha!! I'm a single mom & make less than $30/hour. I live on my own & please believe the only thing that's keeping me afloat is the grace of GOD!!
Protect this man at ALL costs.
At least at a cost of 40 dollars/hour
Stfu no one needs to be protected. Please seek some originality asap.
@@tengo257 ... does this even make any sense?
@@sindri1447 😂
Pandemic humbled everyone,had parents moving in with their kids😳🍻🍺
What pandemic?
No no no.
The pandemic made the rich richer, and the poor more poor.
The pandemic scared people. My son's roommate wouldn't let him back in their apartment without a negative covid test. That was the weekend my son moved back home.
@@ItCameFromTheSkyBeLo my point 😅is why some parents moved in.
Yeah it taught the sheep not to step out of line they all went over the cliff together
Yeah! I don’t live with my parents, but I do have roommates. There’s no way I could afford my apartment on my own.
I've felt really bad about still being with my parents at 20 but this genuinely makes me feel way better
What's crazy is that most adults I know right now that live with parents (my wife and I included) are actually helping keep the parents afloat as much as they are helping us, some of our parents can't afford for their kids to leave at this point, multi generation households are starting to be necessary for all the generations involved.
Exactly. I had a fucking argument with a neck beard over this exact thing. Like I don't live with my mom anymore, but 99% of the reason I lived the first half of my 20s with her was because I covered half of the bills. Like she supported me as much as I supported her
My parents are moving and can’t afford another 2 bedroom i only could afford rent a couple of times but im behind on my car payment i keep getting laid off and just got fired over some bs. I was keeping my mom somewhat sane with my dad😅
Edit: i didnt like that job anyway it was my fourth time working there and it was my only option left bc no other job’s actually called back or responded. I wont be doing anything for a couple weeks and my boyfriend whose older is going to let me stay with him would’ve been homeless.
I feel ya here. I'm pretty sure my parents would be homeless if I didn't pay rent. They keep telling me they're fine without :/ But I know better now that I'm old enough to understand the struggle.
I agrée 💯 my youngest son and daughter-in-law live with me, we need each other, things are difficult now.
im lucky that i come from a culture where generational households are a normal practice. you're able to support each other so well in many ways. when problems come up, we work on them together, instead of avoiding the situation and running away.
The saddest part of the internet is people talking to groups of people but never giving them group advice. Cost of living is not an individual problem, you want it to go down and wages to go up, you need to tackle it together. The system wants you to approach it alone, because alone you can't put a dent in it.
I agree that lack of actionable steps is the biggest issue with online activism to the point where people are just getting exhausted of hearing about all this nihilistic shit while being given no ways to improve their situation.
lmao this whole paragraph is a whole lot of nothing, what does that even mean? lets assume you overthrow the government then what? are you going to divide it equally? what about more skilled people like farmers? what will you do with the people previously in charge of food production who will be very angry about you stealing from them? you have 1 answer and its the same as the soviets and led to parents eating there children
the harsh reality is we have to live in multigenerational houses again like we have been doing up until the last 100 years or so, personally though considering history its hardily that bad we live in the best and safest time in human existence, people need to remember how good they really have it
Yup. Telling everyone 'you don't stand a chance' doesn't help
The one tooth saw
Best comment on here.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING AND POSING THIS 😂 Finally someone said these facts.
Honestly I'm super jealous of people who get to live with their parents. My mom kicked me out of her house on my 18th birthday/last day of school and at the time i only had a part time just over minimum wage job. I had to get 2 jobs shortly after just to live in a place with roommates and still ended up going homeless at 21. So if you're an adult and still live at home, be super greatful for what you have. Seriously, go thank your parents _right now_
My mom is 72, retired and has to do odd jobs to make ends meet, she started working on the books since she was 16. I'm 35 and live with my mom both for her and myself. I don't want her life to get more difficult than it has been, nor do I want to make my life more difficult than it could be. We help each other, we share all costs. Having this arrangement allows us to still enjoy life... I''m not ashamed of my situation
It is really strange how in the west this is a situation that some people are “ashamed of” yet this is what is expected in my culture. What is strange is abandoning your parents to live alone.
Im 34 and my parent's built me a room on the side of their house.
Just looking at the rent prices in California...I just can't manage on my salary.
nope. that means youre such a good daughter. even when you finally marry someone, you can both live with your mom,ans your kids too. thats absolitely normal in other countries.
Good on you. That's a great relationship that a lot of individuals do not have.
You're a beautiful person for caring for your mother so much. ❤ God bless you
I’m an extreme introvert and I’m so unbelievably grateful that I got to live on my own from age 19 to age 34. No roommates or partners or family. Just me doing my own thing. And I worked in retail!! That just can’t happen anymore and it makes me so sad. I traveled and had a wonderful life back then. Young people today don’t get that opportunity.
Nice, how much money did you save? How much did it go into your IRA, ROTH? Do you have stocks you invested into? Do you have other assets that are worth money (Property, gold, bonds etc).
As long as your parents arent toxic and you are playing them rent or supporting them just stay with them and SAVE money. People dont understand that if you play your cards when you do move out (mid to late 20s) you will be able to buy your own house and even have possible supplement income. Ofcourse if your parents are toxic etc just get out since peace of mind is above all!
Shit I’m 42 with a 9 year old daughter who had to move back in with my mom. I make about $1,100 a week and trying to save money to get my own place.
That's crazy. Me too.
It’s nice to hear sympathy from the older generation, rather than the usual “just pick yourself up by the bootstraps” lack of understanding. My hope is that we can fix it, and all generations in the future can live well within their means ❤
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The "I live with my parents so I can eat mom's homemade dish and talk with my dad gang"
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My 24 year old daughter has a mortgage and a baby... single mom. She bought a condo about 2 years ago. Granted, she paid $10,000 more for a 2 bedroom condo 2 years ago than I paid for a 4 bedroom house 10 years ago, but she wanted to do it on her own and made it happen.