5 simple ways to be more attractive, according to science :)
Vložit
- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- Want to be more attractive? I got you
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
00:05 - I. Optimism
01:44 - Insta poll
02:09 - 2. Reciprocal liking
03:35 - 3. Body language
04:50 - 4. Positive affective presence
06:27 - 5. We like what we understand
Newsletter ⟶ www.lanablakely.com
My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod
🤎 Help support here (if you can) ⟶ / lanablakely
Instagram ⟶ / lanablakely
Twitter ⟶ / lanablakelys
Facebook ⟶ / lanablakelys
TikTok ⟶ www.tiktok.com/lanablakely
Take my journaling class for free here ⟶ skl.sh/3PTWRP8
What I use to make my videos:
Where I get my music ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelymusic (get a 30 day free trial)
Main camera ⟶ geni.us/W0w8
Vlog camera ⟶ geni.us/hMqRA7
Favorite lens ⟶ geni.us/FcKaF
Mic #1 ⟶ geni.us/cCdW
Mic #2 ⟶ geni.us/FPPOFx
For the full list, go here ⟶ www.lanablakely.com/filmmaking
What I use for my daily journaling:
Notebook ⟶ geni.us/HyHhy3
Pen ⟶ geni.us/W6pF3NA
Books that shaped me:
Stoner ⟶ geni.us/0ERey
Attached ⟶ geni.us/5c2izr
Little prince ⟶ geni.us/fRDWat
Quiet ⟶ geni.us/mA1IIcs
Conversations on love ⟶ geni.us/MXC7K
For my complete book recommendation list, go here - www.lanablakely.com/bookclub
Personal email ⟶ hello@lanablakely.com
Business email ⟶ lanablakely@sixteenth.co
This post contains affiliate links, which means I may earn a commission if you choose to make a purchase through my link, with no extra cost to you. - Jak na to + styl
Hi besties ❤ Do you like the side-by-side editing in the beginning? Thoughts?
It was fine, Lana 😉
You are amazing! ❤️❤️❤️
yes! even before seeing this pinned question i was gonna comment on that, i really liked it:)
Of course cause this way I can always see your adorable face which honestly makes my day :)
Yess ☺️☺️
I prefer the original. It makes it more like an audiobook and less like a CZcams video. It's just my taste
In today’s world, where people are more into giving a speech on how to be physically alluring, you are teaching us exactly how to be mentally attractive. We are grateful for having you as a mentor💞
People do both and there is nothing wrong with teaching other what they know so yeah this is a great video.
You should go outside 😡 and touch grass. Do u know what Grass is lil kiddo 😡?
@@MARIARODRIGUEZ-xb5cb there is nothing wrong in teaching other but many many female influencers focus solely on looks just looks as if it is the only thing that matters . Only what dress to wear what hairstyle . It kind of gets monotonous even and we low maintenance ppl eventually loose interest.
Doesn't She looks like fairer version of Ashna Shroff
In today's world where people try run before mastering crawling, and attempt to talk about an aspect of jogging they most likely recently tried with high sentiment yet bring up pretty much the same thing from another creator and criticize the length of it.
People put in effort in what they do (content creation and people who take interest in things or from work) and people who compare or criticize things over value their intelligence and understanding of their job, let alone reality, there's a big difference with paper and reality and fail to see that what they're thinking is through their own perspective not the person they're criticizing.
Those with limits of things that are so close yet far apart because of limits, are the worst to work with, over reliance on paperwork, over reliance on safety rules and trade standards/guidelines, and also narrow mindset. Opinions similar to yours that speak of the same thing, or others who straight criticize other peoples jobs, not them and never constructive criticism.
If you focus on you, and on what matters, attractiveness comes with progress, it's a character/personality thing that comes with personal work and life experience. Nothing good comes from making oneself attractive for other people, accept the same people.
If you find yourself through doing life, hobbies and personal development, no doubt, you'll find yourself attractive in your own way, that none of these would matter. You know you, and you'll know what you want.
Here's my second attractive list:
1. Kindness
2. Sense of humour
3. Empathy
4. Body language (eye contact, genuine smile, occassionally touchy, leaning in a bit when we're interacting)
5. Relatability (this one actually tops the charts)
I never heard of the term reciprocal liking before, until now, even though I've felt it a number of times before. So, thank you, Lana.
@latino1 if those are the kind of people you are attracted to, allow me to respectfully say you have a problem.
@@lindokuhleshandu4024 don't mind them they're trolling
@@Ariadne4 as usual.
Sense of humor is a very specific thing (it's different for different people), so when there's shared banter and laughter, IT IS IRRESISTIBLE.
Stephen Hawking (famous physicist): even though he was stuck in a wheelchair for many years and could only talk thru a machine, still had women marrying him because he had a legit sense of humor.
Back in the day when Cher and Val Kilmer first met in a group setting, the reason they became fast friends was because they laughed at the same things.
Previous CNN host Larry King would be the first to admit that he's not that attractive, but he knew his sense of humor was formidably appealing.
@@linneasimchah1621 wow. Thank you so much for that clarity. It's such a attractive thing to have.
1. Optimism
2. Reciprocal liking
3. Body language
4. Positive Effective Presence
5. We like what we understand
Hi dear samiya
Good
I hope you are successful ❤
Thank you so much you save me I am a person hate and boring with long vlogs
00:28 😊 Optimism attracts, negativity repels. Positive outlook on life is attractive.
02:13 💑 Reciprocal liking is a concept where knowing someone is attracted to you makes you more likely to like them.
03:40 👁️ Nonverbal cues like eye contact can enhance attraction and connection with others.
04:57 😄 People with a positive "affective presence" who make others feel good tend to have more friends and romantic interests.
06:53 🤝 Being understood and sharing personal experiences can strengthen connections and attraction in relationships.
"Outer beauty turns the head, but inner beauty turns the heart." I also made a video about this ❤
HI sweet heart
Can’t believe I’ve been watching you for almost 3 years! The first video I watched of yours is the one where you explained how you stopped being judgemental. In fact, I’m pretty certain your video began my self-development journey. Thank you for being around. I love you ❤
Wow that’s so cool. I’m grateful that you’ve chosen to stick around for so long ❤ love you too 🥹
czcams.com/video/jXZwttvJpcI/video.html
My advice would be: Don’t feed negative thoughts. Learn from mistakes, but don’t beat yourself up over them. Force yourself to see things you can be grateful for. Don’t focus on what you want people to do for you, focus on what you can do to help others.
Popularity and attractiveness should be a by-product of your efforts, not the end goal!
Thats such a beautiful, accurate and powerful way you've put it. "Don't -feed- negative thoughts" wow.
Wow, what a bunch of bullshit.
Para quien lea esto:
Si muere hoy, ¿Irá usted al cielo o al infierno?
Usted ha violado la Ley de Dios que Él escribió en su corazón; su propia conciencia le condena. Por lo tanto, merece “la multa” -el castigo - del infierno. Pero Dios no quiere darle esa sentencia. Dios es bueno, benigno y bondadoso. ¡Quiere darle misericordia!
Por eso, Jesucristo (Dios hecho hombre) murió en la cruz. Usted violó la Ley, pero Cristo pagó su multa. Él sufrió en su lugar, como su Sustituto, y resucitó después de tres días, ahora está sentado a la diestra del Padre.
Si quiere ser salvo de la ira de Dios en el día del juicio, tiene que hacer dos cosas…
Arrepentirse. Tiene que confesar que ha pecado contra Dios, juez justo y recto. Para “convertirse a” Cristo, tiene que “convertirse de” sus pecados.
“Pero Dios, habiendo pasado por alto los tiempos de esta ignorancia, ahora manda a todos los hombres en todo lugar, que se arrepientan; por cuanto ha establecido un día en el cual juzgará al mundo con justicia, por Aquel Varón a Quien designó, dando fe a todos con haberle levantado de los muertos”. (Hechos 17:30-31)
Poner su fe en el Señor. Tiene que poner su completa confianza para la salvación para la Persona y la obra del Señor Jesucristo. Esto quiere decir que tiene confiar en Él como confiaría en un paracaídas si tuviera que lanzarse de un avión. Él es su única esperanza.
“La justicia de Dios por medio de la fe en Jesucristo, para todos los que creen en él. Porque no hay diferencia, por cuanto todos pecaron, y están destituidos de la gloria de Dios” (Romanos 3:21-23)
“Porque por gracia sois salvos por medio de la fe; y esto no de vosotros, pues es don de Dios; no por obras, para que nadie se gloríe.” (Efesios 2:8-9)
¡¡Que Dios les bendiga!! :)
You are basically my Therapist at this point. Watching your vids make me pull myself together step by step each day.
You are an inspiration
i haven’t seen anyone with a more pure soul on youtube. you can tell she is the type of person that corrects her mistakes, gives really good hugs, and is so so sweet. you’re amazing Lana!!
This example of optimism is beautiful. Because this kind of optimism is based on accepting what you can't change. Which si one of the best skills I learned in my 20s.
This was a much needed video Lana! Thank you ❤
Great insights Lana! That expression 'inner game' is SO important.. People want to be part of your world when they instinctively know that your world is beautiful by virtue of your outlook. In other words, by being loving to yourself and others around you, you become irresistable ❤
Loving the way of telling a story and then talk about the lesson and I can totally relate to the last point. Btw loving your videos since january 2020 and still loving them. Seeing your channel grow so much in this period has given me so much inspiration that no matter what keep your patience, your time will come. Also very happy for you and never stop guiding me like an elder sister ❤❤
The one thing that captivates me towards your channel is the way you talk and what you talk about.
Thank you for the content.
you hv been a big part in building my self esteem, thank you! loved the editing style btw
Your videos are always so calm and soothing
hi i just wanted to say that you're an amazing person and so is your channel. you have been changing my life for the better since the day i saw your first video in 2022. thank you for everything
Thank you for sticking around ❤️
The side to side editing was pretty cool, Lana! BTW, my dog does that too! 😅. Love the positivity in people also. You become the 5 people you hang around with so I totally understand why you wanted to be friends with this woman. Awesome video, Lana!
Thank you so much for your videos!
I think I just realized what was missing and what I do wrong when I'm dating, because I am usually such an extroverted, uplifting and energized person, but when I'm around the people I'm interested, I get completely quiet and start being and observer only.
In addition to making it difficult to talk to them and making me less sympathetic, and I definitely wasn't being myself!
I love her entrancing smile and the ways she coaches us.
I was just trying to relax a little because my period pain was bad but i needed to study. Man this video was so calm and just gave a warm fuzzy feeling. you cured my pain omg
Loved the side-by-side at the start - felt like I was sitting in front of you as you were telling us the story and the imagery helped with that hahaha, but also helps seeing your facial expressions and hand movements etc. rather than just hearing your voice over the B roll
I’m so happy about the positive feedback because I very much enjoyed editing the side by side part 😄
I’m kinda a “new” follower of your channel (since I’ve followed for around 5 months I guess ?) but I just wanted to thank you for all your videos, they’re so inspiring and full of positivity !
You give the best advices on very different topics
Keep going, I think everyone agrees :)
You are so wholesome and focusing on what really matters in life ❤
I think being someone with deep and unique thoughts and emotions is a very attractive trait
Hi Lana, your videos are always so inspiring and delivered with a calm and confident manner. 😊
i love the way you talk it’s relaxing
Thanks, your videos tend to pop up at the perfect times.
I'm convinced you're at your most pure, unguarded, and authentic when you're out walking Fred.
I struggle with eye contact because I am autistic but I do try to push myself when I can. Positive affective presence is HUGE though, even when I feel super depressed I’m always able to make people laugh and I’ve been told that people felt “energized” or “rejuvenated” by spending time with me. So even if you struggle with part of socializing you can compensate with one of your other strengths!
Just believe that you are really the best and very confident person, hold yourself up, get that power of making eye contact, well you're beautiful ❤️
What is a math exam when my fav CZcamsr upload a video!
oh no !! go study ;P
She is my comfort person. I love how calm she is
Lana what a amazing edit style and I love your editing style so so much ❤️☺️
Such profound insights on this little video, especially about regulating emotions of others.
This video just proved to me how important someone's beauty is in a field like content creation. I read the title of this video after clicking on it. Wow you are beautiful.
Lana always know hows to make everyone happy and smile!!! Happy Sunday Lana, good to see you friend!!!!
Im excited to watch this, hope you are doing good!!
ur calming energy and advices, i LOVE them
❤❤
I find myself in those moods as well but trying to be in the moment has been so helpful to me. Like enjoy the pretty of now, the bright yet grey 🩶 colors , how quiet and empty it is outside . The small things 💕 If you're focusing on the now you can't have thoughts about anything else... I learned this in a book, A new earth by Eckhart Tolle. Really recommend it. Always so nice edits Lana , you're awesome ❤️
I like the way how she said one thing in 5 different ways and elaborated it...woah, THANKS LANA.
While watching it, i felt so relaxing. Her voice, the place, everything was so calm and warm. I luv it:3
Thank you for this video Lana! Can you make a video about unlearning not-so-nice attitude from parents? Or like managing your emotions in general?
Well Lana, According to science, your videos are a great way to feel better!
I can watch you speaking whole day!❤
I love this topic. Glad to be taking home all the positive energy 😁
My comfort channel
A person who teaches be that being myself is a real gift❤️ Before her I thought that I can’t be here on YT because I am not like usual content creators. But she proved me wrong, with her example🥰
Nice idea
You are the only person on CZcams I don’t speed up videos for (being the impatient easily distracted person I am)
Thank you for this video Lana ❤️
i love love love your videos they're so comforting and relaxing 🥰
I love they way you talk, teach me how to be as graceful as you when you talk
She is so pretty!!! I love your hair . Your so calm your voice and your attitude :)
I have to thank the algorithm for showing me your channel
At this point, I just click on the video without even looking at the title and the thumbnail! Amazing content Lana 🙌
This little video brings so much comfort. I am looking at your lovely eyes and hair all the time effortlessly. On the other hand, I struggle with eye contact while talking with people other than you. I also tend to be reserved while being next to the strangers. You help me understand why body language is so important in making me feel just as attractive as you. Even reaching out to you here is already a sign of openness. I hope you see me. Lots of love to you, Lana.
Damn you obsessed.
I loved the side by side shots in the beginning of the video with the playful music in the background, you've been experimenting lately and im enjoying the vision. Fred looks the cutest in snow :)
Thank you!! I’m glad you liked the side by side because so do I ☺️ And Fred says thank you
I don’t usually leave comments but you need to know how amazing you are and what you’re doing is. There are times, I looked at a channel and thought,”Oh cool, I’ll subscribe to this”. But then there are other times when a channel from just the first video gets to me so much I want to like the video, subscribe, and then find a like the channel button and click on that. I’ve thought of what else I could click or what other button I could hit to let CZcams know I’m in love with this!!!!
And I’m only 5 minutes in😍❤️
Idk why, but you make me see life in a different way.
Thank you for that
Thank you so much lana. I am also an infj. And you are the most relatable person I ever came across. It feels so good to listen to someone who has the same kinda thought process! 😊
These tips apply to only women
The woman's positivity is inspiring - it shows the power of optimism and how it can attract people.
I literally love your videos❤❤ they're so soothing and serene!
Hi
I LOVE so much your literary language ❤️
Dude you feel like the most mature and realistic youtuber out there
I love everything whatever you share with us, cause we love you so much and i will keep supporting you ❤️. 😊 Lana 😊
After Watching this video I feel so lively and specially praising tthe delivery of your content
i have been told countless times that i make people happier when they are around me---now i know the term positive affective prescence
I think watching yours video seems so calm and peaceful..
Your a doll and so real. This was enjoyable and realistic ❤
As a math teacher, students hate me by association. Extra efforts for them to unhate me is necessary. Your video is my lifesaver. Thanks so much! 🤓🙏
Keep doing lady in today's era it's kind of tough to be a mentor or teacher . I'm myself a tutor ik sometimes it feels but nothing is personal unless we are doing it with all our hearts .
Your voice is so calming💕
I love your videos and podcast Lana! Thank you so much.
I saw the title and automatically said: GOOD GENES !
The best notification from the most beautiful CZcamsr
Thank you for such a great video! It's my first time at your channel.. and English is not my native language... Sooo I just wanted to mention I love your voice and your speech manner so so much. It's such a pleasure to listen to you, to understand everything and your voice is so calming. Anyways I'm totally in love
When we focus on personality, we will realize how beautiful anyone can be with the traits they carry ❤️
It was a great recommendation from CZcams to come across. It definitely helped me reconsider the positive affective presence, which you've talked about. I incorporate all the points you mentioned regularly; however, it was a great reminder. Thank you, Lana!
I think Lana is incapable of having a bad hair day.
You could not be more attractive than you are already. You are a lovely person.
your voice is so calming and beautiful
She is an angel need to be apreciated over her voice and wisdom.
Everytime i watched you i am always hypnotized by your beauty plus your advice gave me courage to do things positively, and to be honest i am always waiting for your new video 😍😍
Thank you Lana! These always make me so happy and feel more confident. You are amazing and you exude beauty and confidence. ❤
Thankyou very much Lana ..I like your point of view on such topics and this will be very helpful for me❤❤
Thank you a lot!
You clear things up for me❣️
you are glowing
Perfect video again🤝🏻✨
we need a makeup or skincare routine PLEASE. I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
First of all it’s the first time seeing you pop up on my feed and I am sooo glad. Second of all you are so pretty I can’t get over it 😭🤍
I LOVE YOUR JEWELERY
I haven't watched the video yet, but i already know it's gonna be an amazing one!
Thankyou Lana! Thankyou so much for these videos, they calm me down so so much
I even write that i am grateful for your videos' in my journal:)
you are the best
No thank YOU!
@@LanaBlakely ❤️
Thank you for sharing these insights, beautiful!
Really love your work young lady✨
May God bless u💐
You feel so nice and beautiful person. I am thankful finding your channel and also, thank you of doing it, sharing your life, you.
Thank You
its been a long long time to grab back your channel and spice up my self esteeem.
I can relate the eye contact issue, like it feels bad when you can't open up yourself because of anxiety...
you are so awesome by your unique thoughts also by your spiritual and inspiring thoughts. Thank you gorgeous 🥰❤
your hair is gorgeous
I love your editing style!
I love hearing that ! :)
Much needed❤thank you
Thank you for sharing and teaching us the most important and precious aspects of behavioral psychology and healthy habits of us, and interactions with others, outside of the classrooms which should become part of young people’s education and learning process.
🌹🌹🌹🤗🙏♥️