Female Asperger's Traits Part 1 - Appearance and Personal Habits
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- čas přidán 11. 08. 2015
- The list of female Asperger's traits can be found here: www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a...
I saw Willow Hope ( / @moocifer16 ) do something like this and thought it was neat and wanted to do it as well. As I said in the video, I am self diagnosed but I'm working on finding a place to get an evaluation.
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It's so weird I have been trying to understand what's different about me for so long and I've been watching various videos on CZcams about aspergeRs traits and I have never felt more normal......... I also rewrote this like five times because I'm trying to figure out how to word it. It's still not right but I guess it will do
I so feel on that did I say that right can I say it differently will it make more sense this oh should I add this.
A commenter said he's 'never met' a woman with Asperger's. Well, he probably has as we are everywhere. However, most of us go undiagnosed so we remain unaware that we are actually on the spectrum.
Shabba Ranks. I'm not outright saying that that's not true, but I have read a lot about Asperger Syndrome in the last 6 months and I have not once come across a 'high testosterone' theory in relation to Autism. Can you tell me more?
Asperger is quite different to Autism. Whereas Autism cover all levels of ability from retarded through to genius, Asperger is considered high performing because the IQ ranges from normal to genius. UK differentiate the two as having quite different characteristics and USA has chosen to lump them together, recently whereas it used to also differentiate.
The reason there seem to be more boys than girls on the Autistic Spectrum is that boys present differently to girls. Numerous different sources that I have read say that firstly, the questions and tests are designed with boys in mind. Fifty years ago medical science was not interested in females and mainly or only looked at boys. Boys present differently to girls so if girls are presenting with difficulties but not the same way as boys with Autism then Autism has up until recently been disregarded. Also, girls tend naturally to be more communicative and socially capable so they learn accepted norms of behaviour and mimic them as best they can. In most cases they go through a life time of struggles and never receive a diagnosis, despite struggling just as much as any male. Even today, if a female adult wants diagnosis she needs to find someone who specialises in female Asperger.
Shabba Ranks, sorry but you are shamefully un-educated as to facts and scientific findings. That is a half-baked unproven THEORY/FAKE NEWS regarding autism.
Shabba Ranks is clearly ignorant. It's sad. Hopefully she or he is not a clinician!
There is also gender bias in autism diagnosis, leaning toward males. This gender bias is being fought in Australia and the UK, but the work is just beginning here in the USA. For info on gender bias in autism diagnosis: see Tania Marshall's work to start.
Challenges with showing outward expression of excitement/happiness, etc. I received a gift for my 17th birthday that I’d be been asking about for months. I was extremely happy, very thankful and greatly excited to have received it but my mom asked me what was wrong? I said I was really happy about it and she said you don’t look like it. “I guess you just don’t feel that excited about stuff.” She also told me she felt that I didn’t even seem that thankful for it or that I even wanted it at all. But I WAS feeling excited, I WAS thankful and I DID want I!! I learned force the physical reactions that usually go along with certain emotions that I was feeling so that others could tell that even if I wasn’t jumping up and down screaming with excitement doesn’t mean that I wasn’t feeling exactly that. I think it’s kind of like the opposite of what a sociopath/psychopath experiences where they have to learn to mimic the physical expressions of emotions they don’t feel so others think they do feel them with me I felt the emotions but had trouble with expressing them. Most people don’t even think about it; their bodies and faces just automatically move into the appropriate expression of what they’re feeling.
Me: Feels.
Face: __
People: You unfeeling monster!
I had an ex jokingly call me "The Princess and the Pea" because I feel *every.little.thing*. I can't just ignore it.
Im in the exact same boat as you. I havent worked in over 3 years due to condition because I am not a people person and people discriminate here in the deep south if you are not a sweetie pie type female personality.
transforming2013 I own an I home daycare. Babies don't judge me and like me no matter what I say or do.
Thanks for posting this video. I've always felt different than others, but then I watch this and there are so many things that I also identify with and it opens up my eyes.
Thank you so much for these videos!! I’ve been struggling to get my diagnosis but I’m sure I’m an aspie, I’m 26 years old and I’ve been diagnosed with major depression, bpd, generalized anxiety but I’ve always known that there’s something more going on with me. This list helped me understand sooooo much more about myself. ❤️
I relate to you so much! It's insane. Especially about the cotton-only thing and constantly putting on chapstick. I NEED chapstick always or I'll just freak out. Lots of other things too but thank you for making this.
Yeah I relate to a lot of what you said here. I also did the imitation thing as a kid and probably to fit in but it’s also not something you think about doing on purpose it just starts to happen and when I would do it my mom would get annoyed and tell me to stop acting like whoever. One time after meeting, and becoming friends with, a girl whose family had just moved in a few houses away and spending the weekend with her, I came home and my family asked about my new friend; “Is she from California?” I remember realizing that I had been talking in her accent without even realizing it! Usually if I was imitating and not realizing it once it was pointed out to me I would realize it and stop. This happened with other people and other personalities, gestures, etc, not just accents, voice inflections, speed of talking, etc.
Nicely done and very informative video!
Daycare and babysitting is a great employment option for us aspies if anyone has a difficult time with neuorotypical adults
Hi, you definitely have ASD. You sound like me, I have Asperger's. My story is different. My mother also has ASD. I think we would have been friends, thanks for sharing.
I am a female Asperger and found you so interesting and deep. Sometimes it was like I was looking myself in a mirror. Never had the chance to meet an Asperger girl, either an Asperger boy.
I often try to act like certain characters I admire, like optimistic characters that see the opportunity in a problem, or loving characters that treat meanness with confidence and compassion -- but unlike other aspies that can do it well, I seriously cannot imitate. In that way I am "clumsy"... I can hear a tune in my head but cannot sing it. I also have no ability to keep a rhythm with guitar or drums. I feel like no matter what I do or how hard I try, I always come across as odd clumsy and pitiful. I even gave up with my 2 sisters who (for example) tease me for choosing science magazines over fashion magazines as if it strange and unacceptable. go figure. I feel that the fashion mags are kind of a waste of time considering the state of our ailing planet.
fashion magazines are mostly advertisements of usually useless products anyway why would somebody want to pay for them instead of buying science magazines which are zillion times more informative and valuable :D
Aspergers versus Neurotypicals great points! I also played different characters. I grew up in a dominantly white area so fitting in was extremely hard so I was shy for the most part but then later in life met some other people of different ethnic groups and I found myself playing the 'pro black' character, they've outcasted me because I wasn't black enough. Then I was a trying to do the whole thing with reggae......but no matter what I do I always end up back to square one ☝️ questioning about life in general
Aspergers versus Neurotypicals ,you sound an awful lot like me, my brain is like a old vintage 8 track car stereo with the selector button on it.
It's strange, I've been trying to figure out what's up with me for so long, I know I have ADHD/ADD but always felt it was more than that. Then like 6 months ago my ex-bf told me he'd been reading about autism alot and he thinks I have aspergers. So i read that list of female traits and most of them if not all align with me. I just have always felt different and isolated because of the way I was. :/
Great video.
What do your friends say about this video? I'm curious to see their reaction. Also, were you home schooled for a reason or was that a parent choice? I enjoyed this video and will look for more. I've been looking into this for my son and found I have the same traits so this process has been an eye opener and unbelievably helpful.
awesome shirt! I want one!
Some of these symptoms are also correlated with ADHD.
That t-shirt is CUTE! 🐱
My sister is always mistaken for being older than me when she's 7 years my junior!
The only thing that bothers me is that I really hate silk. It gives me goosebumps.. like nails on a chalkboard
Omg same! It feels like an old, deflated balloon which I also can't stand.
Same! I think it feels like the plastic of an old deflated balloon. Ugh.
Aloha. I really enjoyed your video and you sharing from the heart even though it is hard and scary. You are very brave. I care to be brave and risk sharing too much back on this comment to honor your bravery.
I can't wear bras at all for more than four hours or I feel I am in a cage and can't breathe. I hope you will forgive me my querks and see I am trying to share from my heart to yours. I am share too much as usual, a "trait" like a blinking red light warning. I am just a CareBear who shares and cares too much. I like to let others know when I see their light shining from their hearts. I don't want anything from you. (edit: I mean, I have no "motive or "goal" from the comment). I just want to share what I see and also my journey.
You are beautiful just as you are. May you be well and happy on your journey.
I am a 37 year old women and I am autistic.I have just received my "diagnosis" of Asperger's Syndrome, though I care for autistic or to say I am on the rainbow spectrum. That is my brain for you. I have known this about myself consciously for about 3 years but every time I tried to speak with others I felt invalidated and I hid and masked again. I don't want to ramble on and overshare, another of my traits that cause me lots of difficulty in relationships and connection. I will try to move closer to "the point." This last weekend after extreme frustration due to another complication with pharmies I am offered for my "mental illness," I found myself deep in suicidal ideation in a way I could not understand from all my years of dealing with this ideation (since 13). It was very emotional and intense and felt dark and painful to turn and face but throughout the weekend it led me on a "dig" into my soul and I came out on the otherside finally, for the first time in my entire conscious life, feeling WHOLE and FREE to BE ME! That is why I am sharing with you so much.
It started with an article about a woman with an "invisible illness" misdiagnosed as many different labels and letters. I tried to share on FB and my junior high school best friend immediately invalidate me in the exact way that I feared-- using mental health jargon and feigned interest then disinterest in me and this "just a label." I am going on again. It has been a journey of epic proportions in less than a week. I went Tuesday to my therapist of seven years with my "evidence" in hand. I used Samantha Craft's Checklist. It is really long, which I liked, because it made me feel like no one could argue with me now--168/173 doesn't lie.
What I realized in her office as I told her and so many times I have shared with others: I don't need anyone else's validation to come home to myself. Tracing my stimming, shaking my legs incessantly, following a trail to long to share here, I suddenly felt like I had the key to unlock on the doors that had been locked to me no matter how hard I tried to open them. I tried so hard. I finally realize you can't "try" your way into a different brain. I feel whole. I feel free. I am grateful that my therapist trusts me and my judgement enough to know I have spoken my truth and she need not question it. She did not, she just accepted me with open arms.
May you find all the validation you need to be YOU.
Your friend on this long walk home to ourselves,
CareBear Jenraffe
Here is the checklist if you want:
everydayaspie.wordpress.com/2016/05/02/females-with-aspergers-syndrome-checklist-by-samantha-craft/
Of course you can’t wear lace... too much complexity, too much sensory data. It would be like every tactile neuron is your body (that’s in contact with the garment) trying to tell you about it, all at once.
Btw, good on you for courageously putting this out there. I’m 51, was diagnosed about three years ago, but only coming to terms with it now. In some ways you are lucky to have been clued in when you’re younger. Right now, I’m realizing that the person who I thought I was for fifty years is a stranger. The executor that I thought I could rely on has been proven to be faulty. Pretty sure I’m going to emerge stronger, but right now it’s like an ego death, as the old persona fights to survive. But it must die.
Okay...so...yeah. I'm like 90% sure I'm right there with you on the Asperger's...I had a family member tell me almost ten years ago I might be by my grandmother. And I just now realized that when we got together, I told the man who is now my husband that the woman he knew was not the woman I was. I tried so hard to explain. I hope if I get diagnosed that that will sufficiently explain to him WHAT I MEANT. He thinks I lied to him to try and get into a relationship with him and now that we are together I've stopped trying. I'm still affectionate. I'm just not...sexual...oi...overshare...sorry...done...so done...
I'm a leggings and a tee shirt w flip flops or tennis shoes
I have to share my looks younger than her age story because it still just one of those things that make you go hmmm so I am struggling to find a job so I figure I will volunteer at a thrift because you can use it as filler. Went in to ask if I could get an application or fill out a form to volunteer and the women working the shop said I am sorry dear but we don't need anyone for after schools hours. I explained that I could during the day since I was no longer going to school. She said I'm terribly sorry but you look like you are 12. I was 19. Also I got carded to buy lottery tickets until about the age of 28 I mean alcohol & cigarettes I could see better safe than sorry but for the purchase of lottery tickets that was odd to me.
what is that buzzing sound?
I only hard the static until i read this comment. Why did I purposely listen closer. 🤦
I have aspergers and ptsd? what do I do
I'm here for you.
I can't stand lace either, or silk! ugh.
...I don't have sensory issues...?
Not everyone who is Aspie will. :). Its a huge spectrum.
apart from the belief in God and religion, I can relate to all of these in mostly the same way you do.
Can't have a child if aspergers and partner epileptic with aspergers
Yay jeans and tee shirt are sexy! I love when women/girls wear jeans and tee shirt
Silk. Or satiny feeling.... yuck.
As a male aspie, I'm feeling a bit left out the discussion... :-/