Buddha - Drop Your Pride, Overcome Anger

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    In this video, I talk about the Buddha, Buddhism, flourishing, justice, anger, and how to overcome it.
    In The Dhammapada, Buddha says that a wise man is beyond anger and that anger leads to sorrow, and I explored this idea more deeply through a dialogue. I was interested in the complete elimination of anger from the mind, and here’s where I’ve arrived.
    The root of anger is pride. Pride is the belief that the world “should” be a certain way. Pride is believing that people “should” conform to my expectations of them. So when I’m prideful, I constantly think, you shouldn’t do that. And this thought leads to anger, anger leads to alienation, and alienation leads to sorrow. But when you drop pride, you drop your expectations of the world, and when you drop your expectations of the world, you see the world as it is, and when you see the world as it is, your understanding of it improves, and it’s only through understanding that we can move towards true justice-the mutual flourishing of all things.
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Komentáře • 460

  • @gdibble
    @gdibble Před 2 lety +565

    “Fear is the path to the dark side … fear leads to _anger_ … _anger_ leads to hate … hate leads to suffering.” --Yoda 😉

    • @chasing3suns
      @chasing3suns Před 2 lety +6

      "life is suffering"
      Discuss?

    • @erikoto08
      @erikoto08 Před 2 lety +4

      Literally thinking the same thing when he was discussing the tree of anger 😂

    • @darthvader9121
      @darthvader9121 Před 2 lety +2

      Hear hear.

    • @shubha2308
      @shubha2308 Před 2 lety

      Thank you for sharing.

    • @fenrir-art4742
      @fenrir-art4742 Před 2 lety +1

      and hate leads to sucking it
      i use to watch xplay X)

  • @RGE_Music
    @RGE_Music Před 2 lety +160

    As someone who struggled heavily with
    Anger in the past its okay to get mad. Its what you do when you are mad that defines everything

    • @scowlfarm3061
      @scowlfarm3061 Před 2 lety +5

      This is what I tell all my sponsees in the twelve step program I am a part of.

    • @alysononoahu8702
      @alysononoahu8702 Před 2 lety +1

      I have been less than able to stop or rid myself of my anger.

    • @choonguanquek4180
      @choonguanquek4180 Před 2 lety +9

      I strongly agree with you. Sometimes life become so stressful that you become mad or insane. However, I will restraint my act by for example going for a walk outside and talk to someone or alternatively I will listen to soothing music in the internet to contain my anger. Hope this advice will help somebody else to be a better person. 🕊️🕷️🤤🐻

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +2

      The best way to deal with anger is to take it out in the gym and lift some heavy-ass weights! Which I'm about to do right now.
      Also, weight lifting is great for relieving stress, controlling your emotions, staying focused, and in control.
      It's the best kind of therapy for us men.

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +3

      As long as you control your anger and don't let it go overboard where you get so caught up you are focusing more on yourself rather than the individual who made you mad, it's perfectly fine.
      You shouldn't let people push you around in life, you need to stand up to them and show them that you have some damn teeth and that you won't put up with BS. Because if you do, they're just going to continue to walk all over you and take advantage of you.
      Never let that be you.

  • @thechancellor-
    @thechancellor- Před 2 lety +251

    To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

    • @theresaklunkert2572
      @theresaklunkert2572 Před 2 lety +7

      I wish you all the same

    • @DonnaSnyder
      @DonnaSnyder Před 2 lety +6

      Why should anyone live up to [my] expectations? This flaw had destroyed my equanimity, productivity, and dignity in the past several years. I am trying to release this weakness.

    • @samuelcaballero4828
      @samuelcaballero4828 Před 2 lety +3

      Thanks for this. I plan on pushing forward, but any thoughts or advice for when confusion creeps nearby?

    • @fire7261
      @fire7261 Před 2 lety

      🙏🏽💖

    • @godwindaniel5921
      @godwindaniel5921 Před 7 měsíci +1

      ​​@@DonnaSnydertrue, i just be learning to let it all go, I wish us all good luck

  • @TheDhammaHub
    @TheDhammaHub Před 2 lety +37

    Anger is surely one of the biggest hindrances to any form of success out there. First, get rid of the worst hindrances, and then the good things will almost happen automatically!

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +3

      True but you can also channel your anger and impulses in a positive manner, mainly through work and projects. We all have aggressive impulses and we all have to deal with them some way or another. Working out is one of the best ways imo. It keeps you in check/balance when things get hard and you are under a lot of stress/pressure.

    • @mohammdbie6970
      @mohammdbie6970 Před 2 lety

      @@True38 i have a question what would you if someone caus pain to you...and you start to hate anything about him including his words and the way he talks..then you will be fear to use these words or hear it..but you have to because its a general words and live with this bad sitution every minute !!

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +2

      @@mohammdbie6970 Easy, I don't take anything personally and suffer fools gladly :-) If you spend time holding a grudge and hating on someone else, that person has in fact power over you and is your Master.
      There's nothing you can do to me that hasn't already been done to me throughout life. But I'm not a victim, I'm a truthful honest soldier and strategic warrior. The only thing that can really stand in my way is myself.

    • @spajas8092
      @spajas8092 Před 2 lety

      @@True38 what about narcissistic manipulative family members trying to hold you to familial obligations because they’ve done stuff for you in the past?

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +1

      @@spajas8092 Just ignore them and move on with YOUR life and stop trying to please anybody else's life.
      In general, you should never let anybody do you a favor in such a way that you feel obligated.
      They are playing mind tricks on you, playing on your guilt, shame, and consciousness to make you feel bad.
      You must inwardly laugh at such petty matters and never be influenced by such silly tactics.
      They are just trying to use and control you. In life, you must learn to rely on your own arms, independence, and self-reliance by any means necessary.
      If you don't have any of that, you are already doomed and a victim to everybody else around you. It is much better to be hated and feared than loved if it means you rely completely on yourself.
      You can't please everyone anyway and you should never try to. Life is a game, there are winners and there are losers, and no one is inbetween.
      Do what it takes to win.

  • @THIRDeye1989
    @THIRDeye1989 Před 2 lety +179

    I literally was discussing this today with my husband about my own anger in expectations. This is super synchronized for me lol. Thanks 😊

    • @Pixy_Peach
      @Pixy_Peach Před 2 lety +7

      I feel the same way... Ive been pretty angry and this hit me right in my core situation. I can do things differently

    • @jameskpopero
      @jameskpopero Před 2 lety +4

      I'm constantly angry lol now I finally can understand it better and try to make things different too, I wanna live in peace, not taking everything so seriously and understanding the world as it is 🌎

    • @chicohel6540
      @chicohel6540 Před 2 lety +1

      That's how it starts, the next is polygamy, congratulations, that's the true freedom in marriage

    • @CaptainPhilosophical
      @CaptainPhilosophical Před 2 lety

      I want to free myself from anger in my marriage as well. As I listened to these words a thought I had was "what if my expectations are our wedding vows?"
      Thoughts?

    • @darkrezen8477
      @darkrezen8477 Před 2 lety

      @@CaptainPhilosophical if it's about being faithful to eachother well you're staying faithful hoping in return that they do the same for you, so if they don't I believe that that is not justice so like the tree if Ur watering the plant hoping in return u get the fruit from it without hurting eachother in the process u should keep watering it but if it's a plant that doesn't grow fruits n Ur hoping for it to grow a fruit it's hopeless there's no point in watering it

  • @cheyennealvis8284
    @cheyennealvis8284 Před 2 lety +2

    Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hatred. Hatred leads to wrath. And wrath leads to suffering.

  • @brendyn9901
    @brendyn9901 Před 2 lety +61

    What about social expectations? There are certain things that majority of people agree on. You can't help yourself from feeling angry, it's how you recognize and react to the anger that's important.

    • @brendanvanbiljon3861
      @brendanvanbiljon3861 Před 2 lety +17

      @Abika Ramdin Here's an example: Not following traffic regulations.
      I expect somebody to stop at the red light.
      I expect somebody to not cut me off.
      The list goes on.
      That's why you see so much anger on the roads.

    • @ag09fernandezryannedenisse2
      @ag09fernandezryannedenisse2 Před 2 lety +2

      Social expectations are created by common personal expectations (either formed from information or influence). For me, having expectations has no point at all, it is completely unnecessary compare to having motivation, inspiration, etc. As a teenager, I think I've spent the past years trying to know how to correctly respond to anger. Personally, I could say it's tough. But knowing the reason and the key to be free from anger, I believe was the best thing.

    • @joshhoobler5769
      @joshhoobler5769 Před 2 lety +6

      @@brendanvanbiljon3861 I was thinking something similar. Are we to imagine one won't be angry if someone blows through a stop sign and kills their child?

    • @deepalijoshi4631
      @deepalijoshi4631 Před 2 lety

      I also wanted to comment what you have commented. I have been tormenting myself for over a year now over a stupid fight between me and my relatives and I keep coming back to, "they JUST SHOULDN'T have behaved in the manner that they behaved in." Decency is a reasonable expectation that one can have, I believe. I have carried so much anger in me since then. I do not even know how to ease it

    • @deepalijoshi4631
      @deepalijoshi4631 Před 2 lety +2

      @Insomniacs you are so right! Diplomacy is so important when it comes to conflict resolution. And anger cuts the limbs of diplomacy and then the conflict is never settled

  • @Digidragon55
    @Digidragon55 Před 29 dny +1

    Anger isn’t overall terrible! But, anger is a double edge sword!

  • @dearmistyann3710
    @dearmistyann3710 Před 2 lety +7

    I use Anger to fuel my motivation. If you cannot turn anger into actionable change.. as one cannot overcome generational anger while children are still being murdered and abused in even the most first-world words of countries.

  • @SlothMyMango
    @SlothMyMango Před 2 lety +45

    I've been really trying to regain my mindset prior to my mom's death last year and catching up on these videos is a great help thank you

    • @jimsmith9853
      @jimsmith9853 Před 2 lety +5

      I am sorry for your loss.
      Peace be with you.

    • @God-T
      @God-T Před 2 lety

      i work in a toxic company, being angry is the only way out

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety

      To live a better life, just be indifferent. All the pain and sorrow in the world will never affect you, not even if your own mom dies, no matter how close you were. Because you see the simple truth of life is this: YOU are the only one on this planet who truly matters, not your mom, not your father, not your brother, and not anyone else. It's only you. And your goal in life should always be doing what is best for YOU. If you have a good mom, then that's what she would have wanted for you also.
      Life's a bitch but it's all about perspective and how you deal with it. Because the harsh reality is that few people in this world really care if you die. You would have to be some kind of Superstar who has influenced millions of people for people to really "care". But that's ok, most of us are not Superstars.

    • @SaturdayAir
      @SaturdayAir Před 2 lety

      im so sorry for your loss and wish you the best

  • @ajithtelugupodcast598
    @ajithtelugupodcast598 Před 2 lety +5

    Positive emotions and negative emotions both have equal importance to live life

  • @musicproductioncentral4540

    i'm fine with my anger. I enjoy being alone. I don't need anything outside of myself to be happy and content.

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety

      I'm the same way, although I strongly believe that you should always try to reach your full potential and go all out in life. It's much better than sitting around doing nothing, although that too I love at times, just being completely alone and listening to calm and beautiful music.

  • @phtrivier
    @phtrivier Před 2 lety +10

    The argument about "I need to have expectation that something I eat is safe" is not addressed at all, yet it is central - some expectations are not purely egoisitical and self-centered, but group-centered. Why is "people should not sell dangerous food" not an expectation ? It's even more than an expectation, it is written into "law", which is kinda the "expectations" that the society as a whole decides to live by. If someone breaks this expectation, maybe anger is not the right answer ; but I fail to see how "letting go of the expectation" leads to anything but apathy, despair and nihilism.

    • @lawyerreactsnotthemoon85
      @lawyerreactsnotthemoon85 Před 2 lety

      Fr.

    • @lawyerreactsnotthemoon85
      @lawyerreactsnotthemoon85 Před 2 lety

      There's a fine line between "letting all things be with no expectations, vs being a control freak, getting upset when u can't control everything, or certain things don't go ur way."
      -You have to know when it's okay to let things be as they are. BUT also when to call things out, or stick up for yourself. It's not healthy to fully have "No expectations" and let everything go, - But also not healthy to 'hold onto everything' and get angry about it.

    • @legendaryzodiac574
      @legendaryzodiac574 Před 2 lety +1

      He addressed it at about 5 min in, specifically. It's about rethinking and contextualizing the definition of "expectiation"

    • @voidspirit111
      @voidspirit111 Před 2 lety

      @@legendaryzodiac574 that is just so he can continue with his viewpoint, doesn't make it right though.
      Same as i can say anger is just the feeling not the action. You can be angry for an injustice that will que you that something is not ok.
      He presents anger in video as always being an action.
      See i also defined anger as something slightly different without changing anger as it is.
      It's all in how you present or twist something.

  • @Italian_Isaac_Clarke
    @Italian_Isaac_Clarke Před 2 lety +5

    Anger is like a fire. It can become incredibly hot and can destroy everything if it's not controlled. But anger, after a while, diminishes and goes away.
    Hatred, instead, does not. Hate is like acid, it eats through everything and does not diminish. Hatred is anger turned disease, it's very difficult to remove and can pass generation to generation.
    Both anger and hatred can be weaponized as tools for mental focus towards a desired objective, but hatred destroys much more than what it may protects or helps to achieve.
    In my views anger is to be controlled and used for everyone's best interest, while hatred must not exist in anyone's "heart".

  • @asikdesigns3812
    @asikdesigns3812 Před 2 lety +43

    Every friday morning after getting my bus to my office... My first thing to do this watching the weekly videos of your channel. It give us the way for solve every problems we facing day by day. Thank you mentor ♥️☺️💪🏾

  • @ieyeshiabates3556
    @ieyeshiabates3556 Před rokem +2

    I met so many people who had a severe issue with pride.

  • @AnishJoseph48
    @AnishJoseph48 Před 7 měsíci

    "When you let go expectations, your mind can see the world for what it is, and when you see the world for what it is, your mind gets better at predicting, and when your mind gets better at predicting, you get better at navigating the world, and when you get better at navigating the world, you can find your way to true justice."

  • @hugiism7301
    @hugiism7301 Před rokem +1

    I feel like theres a heavy difference between expectations of what you have for others and how your feel others should treat you.
    I can’t get mad because someone does something I wouldn’t do, I know we have different ways of navigating life. When it comes to who I keep around, talk to, etc, I have every damn right to have expectations especially when I put boundaries, and express how I feel calmly when they do something that hurts me or is disrespectful. I have no issue isolating from people who do no good for me as I do for them.
    There’s no anger, just protecting my peace of mind.

  • @mehtabsidhu8898
    @mehtabsidhu8898 Před 2 lety +55

    I'm usually not angry at other people. Most of the times I just don't care. I feel anger because I don't live upto my expectations. I ask myself "why are you so bad at this. You have spent so hours on the same thing and still you repeating same mistakes"( I'm a gamer and a science student). When I'm filled with rage I usually avoid people because I know I will shout at them or say something I don't mean. If I drop expectations for myself then how I'm going to get better at what I do?
    Please share your thoughts on this

    • @seeissee
      @seeissee Před 2 lety +22

      Hi there, having expectations and getting better is different thing. Having expectations meaning you set on something and you don't want to get any less than that. Getting better, just simply improve anything you want. For example, you feel this part of you lacking, then you make it better without expecting anything else. Having expectations is just standard, in which you can choose to use or not. But getting better is improving, innovating, and letting go of something unimportant and totally unrelated.
      Have a great day, and think about this wisely. I hope you'll get some answer you need.

    • @sandrawong421
      @sandrawong421 Před 2 lety +7

      This video is talking about dropping the expectation of others, something you can't control. You are setting some standards or expectations for yourself. I guess you need to understand why you are making the same mistakes without progressing. I suggest you can watch other videos like "How to Get Unstuck" or "The Myth of "Working Hard". You may need to look in different ways and find another path for you to make progress. I hope you will stop your rage when you are trying things differently.

    • @mehtabsidhu8898
      @mehtabsidhu8898 Před 2 lety +4

      @@seeissee I think expectations and getting better goes hand in hand. To expect from yourself is to have a vision, a goal which has to be achieved. And getting better is working on your goals. Think about this - you wake up in the morning. You expect from yourself to work on your project for 7 hours. That's your goal for the day. And you will get better if you work towards your goal each day. I hope this makes sense to you. Thanks for your advice ❤️🙏

    • @mehtabsidhu8898
      @mehtabsidhu8898 Před 2 lety

      @@sandrawong421 thanks 👍🏽. I will watch your suggested videos

    • @watereddown1s
      @watereddown1s Před 2 lety +1

      It is possible to do what you love and not have expectations. It is possible to learn from your mistakes and not have expectations also. So, do what you love and you'll become less concerned of the outcome and maybe this will broaden your perspective and see the mistakes that you think you are making.

  • @dubsy4U
    @dubsy4U Před 2 lety +1

    After adding self worth in this equation, this teaching could really fit in today's world. However we should not get confused between our self worth and pride. Someone without self worth and pride will be ill treated repeatedly and only a person with self worth will know when to walk away.

  • @PorsheCaina
    @PorsheCaina Před 2 lety +10

    Stumbled upon this bc I woke up angry today. And while listening to this, my anger turned into tears. Most of the time I mask sadness with anger so I, can be headstrong and motivated. However it gets tiring sometimes, so I meditate. I don't usually show feelings, so internalizing and hearing these words really helped.
    Subscribing.
    Thank you ❤️

    • @RemRise
      @RemRise Před 2 lety +4

      Can relate to this, I've always been angry at the world for not meeting my expectations calling anyone incompetent if they don't.
      I have also used anger as a coping mechanism whenever I'm sad, thinking how unjust the situation was and to stop hurting and crying I resorted to anger to stop the pain and to feel motivated.
      I guess it's really true that everybody shares the same problems you've just never met them.

    • @deshaunjackson8188
      @deshaunjackson8188 Před rokem

      ​@@RemRise you are both dumb. Sorry "unwise"

  • @uldiskevers3790
    @uldiskevers3790 Před 2 lety +3

    I have come to situation in my life where “I can water the tree but the tree will not give me fruits because it is already dead” at first it made me angry, because I invested so much effort, but received nothing… During this video I realized that I’m attached to my investment, and therefore I thought that I deserve the “fruit” by default. I know that any kind of attachment will lead to suffering. Even if not directly but thanks for reminding to me that.

  • @Yellowsnow1080
    @Yellowsnow1080 Před 2 lety +9

    It takes courage to drop expectations and pride. This empowers us and makes life more feasible. Courage is the next level of consciousness in David Hawkins Power Vs. Force. Thank you for these videos. You do great work!

  • @Brandon-os3qr
    @Brandon-os3qr Před 2 lety +2

    In the therapy world, we commonly ask, "how's that working out for you?" It is objectively NOT accurate to say that anger never has any function or positive result. It IS helpful to consider those functions and positive results, and to ask if there is a different, better way to fulfill those functions/achieve those positive results WITHOUT the negative outcomes that may also come with them. Very much in the same way that a drug might be a reliable and effective "means to some ends," and just happens to carry a mountain of harm along with it. The impulse may not be the way, is the heart of it.

  • @greenandgold2185
    @greenandgold2185 Před 2 lety +1

    Anger is a secondary emotion.
    The word "should" is irrational.

  • @m.b7542
    @m.b7542 Před 2 lety +1

    There are times when expectations are clearly laid out as part of a pre-arranged agreement or placed for the sake of collaboration/closeness. These expectations still qualify as 'should' statements, but do not seem like they are infringing on others rights or are the 'lie' that this video seems to posit. In a friendship, it is reasonable to have expectations for your friends. As an employee, it is reasonable to have expectations of your boss. Etc. etc. etc.
    The video frames expectations as if they always happen in isolation. But, in a lot of ways, expectations are the ways that we form any sort of closeness or collaboration with others. The relationship between parent and child is different than the relationship between friends in part because of those expectations. Failure to uphold those expectations in relationships of course leads to anger. Rather than dismissing anger as an ultimate 'bad', I've always preferred to look at it as a neutral source of information. If I am angry at a friend about something, that means that I need to talk to them about our miscommunication of expectations. If we cannot agree on these expectations, we might need to stop being friends. All of this is better than having no expectations, because then we would lack any definition to our friendship and any ability to understand when its toxic/when it isn't.
    Ultimately, I think this video was talking about resentment a lot more than anger. Especially in the judge examples.

  • @victortexpa7264
    @victortexpa7264 Před měsícem

    Expectation it’s the key word for me I expect people to respect me and when I feel disrespected I get angry and anger turns into hate and hate turns into isolation and bitterness that is so true I can not live with expectations that’s dangerous thank for this video it really helped me out

  • @aishaabdullahigital
    @aishaabdullahigital Před 2 lety +9

    Anger is something we need to work on because it prevents alot of things we might later regret from happening.

  • @luzhhy
    @luzhhy Před 2 lety +5

    Personally, I am not sure whether my anger is caused by expectations. I actually believe it is mainly due to the disruption of my peace. I do not expect people to act certain way, just do not want them to bother me nor interfere with my life.

    • @shae6101
      @shae6101 Před 2 lety +1

      But you’re the one allowing them to disturb your peace

    • @voidspirit111
      @voidspirit111 Před 2 lety +1

      @@shae6101 hard to ignore when the goverment is taking away your freedom or your loved one getting killed and knowing the murderer will not be punished because the law is corrupt or your child raped and the rapist being protected by the law ( diplomats) and so on..
      Anger has a purpose.. how we act on it is what defines us...

    • @shae6101
      @shae6101 Před 2 lety +2

      @@voidspirit111 Yeah it’s hard, my perception may be really warped but in my eyes the world will always have these serious frustrating things we can’t do anything about. I see it as everything happens for a reason and it’s a time to grow or to push ourselves to do best with what is in our control. Animals are dying the world is being destroyed humanity is slowly crumbling no one is opening their eyes. No one knows the secrets of the universe what will happen how these things work out but it’s all made up and none of it actually matters and dwelling on these things doesn’t change anything. All we can do is do our best to be our best. No point in feeling shitty. Nothing makes sense nothing is fair and nothing matters just so what you need to heal and feel better in the moment but inflicting pain and anger on others just throws it all back on you until it’s a built up ball of hate growing and growing being thrown around earth

    • @shae6101
      @shae6101 Před rokem

      @@voidspirit111 I know baby ❤️ I’ve just been around anger too long, I’m living in a dream world where love is more powerful and above all 🎭

  • @LionsInBoots
    @LionsInBoots Před 2 lety +1

    Do not completely get rid of anger. You can forget what it is used for and can lose the ability to use it where it needs to be, a semblance of when and where are required to make emotions useful, we were given the ability to have emotion, and all of them have a purpose, getting rid of your anger is not the key, controlling it so it is shown in the proper scenarios is as close to the key as you're able to get. Manage it, because it may be horrible the consequence if you cannot show any at all.

  • @lav7297
    @lav7297 Před 2 lety +24

    Great video! I would like to add that anger is a natural reaction of the body to irritation not expressed in time. Irritation is an indicator that something is wrong, as is pain. Therefore, it is important to delve into the cause in time and express your emotions "eco-friendly".

    • @FistOfHatred
      @FistOfHatred Před 2 lety

      That adds up to what Jim Carey told about depression. Thing is, Ive been there, and i still hold a lot of pain, even if the anger decreased.

    • @alysononoahu8702
      @alysononoahu8702 Před 2 lety

      It can be.

  • @eltonduarte776
    @eltonduarte776 Před 2 lety +2

    What about situations that we don't start and don't have control? like, walking on street, expeting nothing, but suddenly a person punch you the face and laughs 'cause you fall and are bleading, how to not have anger on this situation? the expectation of nothing is an expectation itself?

  • @deshaunjackson8188
    @deshaunjackson8188 Před rokem +1

    This video makes me feel a lot of anger.

  • @puhrints
    @puhrints Před 2 lety +1

    idk what these videos are doing to me but i’m not complaining about finding this channel

  • @bola_m_a
    @bola_m_a Před 8 měsíci

    Anger poisons the mind leading to Isolation. This is me ...This video resonates with me

  • @moxx-a-sealin
    @moxx-a-sealin Před rokem

    3:23 i get this point the most. I expect people to be descent human beings but then you realize that the majority of people are dog water and could care less about you or anyone else. Thats when i get mad, when people dont hold up their end and make ot harder for everyone else

  • @LARADEKA
    @LARADEKA Před 2 lety

    *_Anger._*
    *_I was known for that, honestly._*
    *_Those around me know for my temper outbursts, when I get angry at them. It is a natural emotion when you feel that something is wrong and you could only feel sorrow for the hurt and rage for the perpetrator._*
    *_But following up my comment about hatred... I feel like it is related. My anger that concentrates on eliminating factors that hold only insignificance pents up resentment. If I can't see the world as it is without someone yelling at me about literally the "inevitable", then no one will._*
    *_Sometimes I try to focus on me. And try not to lash out at basically the things that I said wouldn't prove anything significant._*

  • @Andrew_alxf21
    @Andrew_alxf21 Před rokem +2

    Thank you. I've been learning Stoicism and Buddhism for the last 2 years. Anger is one of the weaknesses that I often feel. I still need to learn a lot to control my anger.

  • @gracebyChrist2022
    @gracebyChrist2022 Před 2 lety +1

    i cant.. finish watching..
    i can't let go of this Anger
    rooted in UNFAIR treatment
    i need justice, i need fairness
    but.. i can't do anything about it now 😔
    i feel stepped on

  • @wiandryadiwasistio2062
    @wiandryadiwasistio2062 Před 2 lety +1

    i often think anger shouldn't be let go or suppressed; yes, it is unproductive and psychologically harmful to be angry all the time, but anger may be useful to keep our dominance so people won't take us for granted or even use or manipulate us...
    ...or at least that's what i thought. i may mistaken discipline and strictness with anger. i mean, i often see charismatic people is seeming less angry or i might overlooked something

  • @user-ud1rh6cw2g
    @user-ud1rh6cw2g Před 2 lety +8

    Bro please start uploading your work on Spotify, it will really help me. Because I want to reduce my screen time and I also want to listen to you.

  • @DarthOwenZ
    @DarthOwenZ Před 2 lety +1

    very good video-but i wish it included--expectations and anger--deeply rooted into fear... anger is fear in rage

  • @aurelie2574
    @aurelie2574 Před 2 lety +6

    In Bouddha's philosophy, he said that : imagine if someone gives you a present and you refuse to take it. Who gets back the gift at the end ? The present is gets back to the giver. So if someone insults or judges you, you can be anger against this person or as the present, you can refuse to accept that insult or judgement.

    • @voidspirit111
      @voidspirit111 Před 2 lety +1

      So.. how would.this go if someone kills a loved one or takes away your house? ( say in a countey where he dosen't get punished due to corruption)
      You must be numb or not care for any of the things i mentioned to not get angry.

  • @Animeexplainer730
    @Animeexplainer730 Před 2 lety

    Anger and pride is also a hurdle in the way of learning and exploring new things also.

  • @greenlamp9219
    @greenlamp9219 Před 10 měsíci

    respectfully i can say that anger has helped me sort out my issues from people who i believe have wronged me. however i believe forgiveness is a more powerful tool to use in the end. remember hate and love are two sides of the same coin so i believe both are necessary in the right circumstances as you cannot have one without the other

  • @gilbertguzman531
    @gilbertguzman531 Před 2 lety

    My anger gets the best of me im so tired and frustrated I dont know what to do along with a constant thinking mind im tired 😪 mentally and physically I wish I was normal

  • @22brxr
    @22brxr Před rokem

    My favt philosopher Gautam Buddha ♥️

  • @mindbuilder9507
    @mindbuilder9507 Před rokem

    This is one of the top 3 channels worth watching for personal imporvement.

  • @jer103
    @jer103 Před 2 lety +1

    Anger still comes up in certain citations. It's okay to have that emotion, because we are still human.

  • @friendlyrift4716
    @friendlyrift4716 Před 2 lety

    Think its time i started investing here. As someone who constantly struggles with themselves and finding the calm in everyday life, constantly conflicted with them self not knowing what to do and how to process alot, something meaningful to latch onto and open the world in a different perspective , i hope will be a slight cure 😴😓

  • @victorious_loozer8661
    @victorious_loozer8661 Před 2 lety

    The expectations I used to have were the expectations, people I know and society had of me. But most people live the double standard do rules for thy not for I. So I only have one expectation now. I expect for people to let me down in every way. I gotta say, people dont dissapoint.

  • @dalelemac3394
    @dalelemac3394 Před 2 lety

    Sometimes anger related issues runs deeper than you believe. (the layers of survival we have built around our parents/society. )
    For example whenever i got into a fight with my dad, no matter how many times i tried to re-forgive him, it didn’t work with me emotionally so i began hating him. Upon asking myself why I’ve figured that my ego needed a role model to keep myself safe from pain, so i took my dad and his aspects. So admitting to self hate allowed myself to acknowledge those emotions and let that grapple my dad had over me go. Now whenever me and him talk, i don’t even try to convince him anymore as its not important to either me or my survival.
    I then realised “the safer you are, the less you hate.”

  • @way4695
    @way4695 Před 2 lety +1

    I think getting angry it's ok.
    In my opinion is the only way to get them know they hurted you.
    And also a person who's never angry doesn't feel human (I can't relate) to me so I can't feel empathy to him/her.
    The issue is how you show your anger (You don't have to exaggerate).

  • @chicohel6540
    @chicohel6540 Před 2 lety +2

    Would be interesting to see a video called: "The world is how it is, but, how is the world?"

  • @nargisurmi1234
    @nargisurmi1234 Před 2 lety

    We are even taught not to get angry in the first place,,let alone letting go of anger

  • @moonclayground
    @moonclayground Před 2 lety +2

    There's such thing as righteous anger.If someone did something wrong to you on purpose,it's a natural reaction. There are circumstances where we needed to release the anger because holding it back it will make more problems.These emotions are what makes us human,what's important is considering reconciliation and forgiveness after having conflict with anyone.

    • @middlewayers
      @middlewayers Před rokem

      Anger should be external only..not internal

  • @andreasirawan1906
    @andreasirawan1906 Před měsícem

    Thank you for made this video

  • @MrTreraygibson
    @MrTreraygibson Před 2 lety

    So glad I found this channel! Always posted much needed content

  • @healthandyou4963
    @healthandyou4963 Před 2 lety +1

    His voice is soooo serene!

  • @AngelBien
    @AngelBien Před 11 měsíci

    I think anger makes sense in some cases. It’s a normal emotion that you have to go through but you can’t stay in.

  • @aimeevandijk4206
    @aimeevandijk4206 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you, these videos are always so peaceful

  • @CeeClara
    @CeeClara Před 2 lety

    Thank you. You really help me broaden my scope of thought.

  • @user-cp2pf8wn5w
    @user-cp2pf8wn5w Před 2 lety

    Thank you for this!

  • @BrandonSimmons-do6jq
    @BrandonSimmons-do6jq Před 2 lety +3

    I find myself arguing with customers and employees throughout the week. Now, I am a very kind man, buy once disrespected, I become an angry asshole. This might have opened my own mind as to how to avoid that feeling and just keep going forward.
    This is very deep. .... .

    • @True38
      @True38 Před 2 lety +1

      Learn to take nothing personally and suffer fools gladly. They will get angry at you for not getting angry. Thus, you win :-)

    • @sondre5174
      @sondre5174 Před 2 lety +1

      @@True38 "They will get angry at you for not getting angry." In my own experience, you not reacting with anger tends to calm things down. If I react angrily it usually makes things worse.

    • @voidspirit111
      @voidspirit111 Před 2 lety

      @@True38 that is not true for all the cases.. but i guess it works for the ppl you encountered.
      I have seen ppl humiliate employees and evem get physical. The employee remaining calm neither made them more angry or calm. They didn't see the employ as a human.
      What you say works for cases where the customer is generally a decent persons but just has a bad day.

  • @rajashrighosh2829
    @rajashrighosh2829 Před 2 lety

    *I also sometimes think about anger but this video takes us to a deeper level. Amazing!*

  • @mvttFPS
    @mvttFPS Před 2 lety

    this was much needed, perfectly timed video

  • @srainbow123
    @srainbow123 Před 2 lety +2

    Love it! Thank you for sharing. I am loving this Buddha series, please keep making more! :)

  • @anonymintheworld9781
    @anonymintheworld9781 Před 2 lety

    This is what I want to show my children

  • @boolesen4123
    @boolesen4123 Před rokem

    This is just beautiful, thank you 🥲

  • @Pedr0_Camil
    @Pedr0_Camil Před 2 lety

    Perfeito para o meu momento.

  • @inferno3080
    @inferno3080 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks

  • @alysononoahu8702
    @alysononoahu8702 Před 2 lety

    I feel as if you cracked open my mind. Finally I understand anger, and how I can do away with it.
    Pride, expectations. Thank you.

  • @JohnDoe-xp4iy
    @JohnDoe-xp4iy Před 2 lety

    They should play this on every channel on TV for the next year. The world, and America, where I live, needs it.

  • @estefaniaceballos1462
    @estefaniaceballos1462 Před 2 lety

    thank you for this video. very powerful

  • @cheshireket3132
    @cheshireket3132 Před 5 měsíci

    In my meditations, I came to this conclusion. It's insane how quickly I could've learned this if I'd just come here for it instead of starting from scratch on my own 😂.
    But then, some ppl need to pee on the electric fence themselves.

  • @MikkiThaiGuy13
    @MikkiThaiGuy13 Před rokem

    Anger has its purpose. One can never be free of core survival mechanisms. However you cannot give in to it in situations that do not call for it.... sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. If someone brings a stick im throwing down man!!!

  • @gabrielmiller7435
    @gabrielmiller7435 Před rokem

    Thank you for this video!!

  • @charanshani2006
    @charanshani2006 Před 2 lety

    Your videos have really given me a new perspective of life. I am forever thankful to you and your work 🙌🏾

  • @shubha2308
    @shubha2308 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing. You are doing a great work! God bless you.

  • @eomaker9819
    @eomaker9819 Před 2 lety

    Excellent video.
    Thanks so much for your work

  • @jameskpopero
    @jameskpopero Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for this video and for making effort to show us something you discovered and interpretation of it, it makes my heart feels better, I can understand it better now (the anger and pride relation), this was necessary ❤️

  • @jelanihampton2209
    @jelanihampton2209 Před 8 měsíci

    This is just what I needed.

  • @heatherrenaud9118
    @heatherrenaud9118 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you very much! Really brought clarity to a problem I’ve been trying to, but unable to solve through contemplation. Much love 💗

  • @dirksparrow
    @dirksparrow Před rokem

    Thank you so much for that video

  • @imjustamerican
    @imjustamerican Před 11 měsíci

    Your words add up to all of what I've learned about anger.

  • @tatachichi7884
    @tatachichi7884 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much! Your video is a beautiful synchronicity. Your dialogue and conclusions are exactly what I needed today ;)

  • @viridianveritas
    @viridianveritas Před 2 lety

    I really appreciated this video. Please keep exploring your dialogues. They convey ideas in such a powerful way.

  • @mrxXxkink
    @mrxXxkink Před 2 lety

    Thank you.

  • @fatimadridi4659
    @fatimadridi4659 Před 2 lety

    Thank you !!!!

  • @Puru719
    @Puru719 Před rokem

    Man I love this place

  • @lovesunshine5069
    @lovesunshine5069 Před rokem

    Thank you 🙏 💜 💕

  • @huzefah85
    @huzefah85 Před 2 lety

    I will be forever grateful to you and your channel for teaching such complex topics in such great detail and with such simplicity 😍
    Much love and power to you!!

  • @ashutoshpandey7703
    @ashutoshpandey7703 Před 2 lety +1

    How can you clear all my doubts dude?
    Thankyou so much brother,
    Keep uploading✌ keep growing

  • @Bubb9006
    @Bubb9006 Před 2 lety

    This really helped, thank you 💜

  • @justfood2076
    @justfood2076 Před 2 lety

    Man, literally you changed the way keep up the good work !

  • @j3s333
    @j3s333 Před 2 lety

    Thanks so much. You are doing amazing things fir my life.

  • @namitad2433
    @namitad2433 Před 2 lety

    beautiful....i was doing shadow work and came across this... i was unable to describe my feelings.... but this video was exactly what i was looking for..gratitude to you...love and light

  • @aryanjha8344
    @aryanjha8344 Před 2 lety

    man i love this channel

  • @hananusmn4555
    @hananusmn4555 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. 🙏

  • @israaafeef9462
    @israaafeef9462 Před 2 lety

    I’m in love with this channel 💁🏼👏